1 00:00:00,000 --> 00:00:18,560 Hello. Hi. What are we talking about today? We're not talking about Cults are we? No. 2 00:00:18,560 --> 00:00:23,720 Oh my god. Thank goodness because I'm not prepared for that. I know. I've been stuck 3 00:00:23,720 --> 00:00:29,280 on this Carly Russell stuff like all week and I've been so excited. We're going to record 4 00:00:29,280 --> 00:00:33,520 a Polz episode. I keep putting in the Polz. People do keep voting for it, but it's not 5 00:00:33,520 --> 00:00:40,680 getting the most votes. But we do need to do major prep work for that before we can 6 00:00:40,680 --> 00:00:46,960 talk about it. So it's coming. I just don't know when, but today we're going to talk about 7 00:00:46,960 --> 00:00:52,400 things that you should know when you're 30s, but maybe you don't or things that you should 8 00:00:52,400 --> 00:00:57,120 start thinking about and doing when you're in your 30s or things that you didn't think 9 00:00:57,120 --> 00:01:00,680 about when you were in your 20s and now you have no choice but to think about now that 10 00:01:00,680 --> 00:01:06,400 we're in our 30s. Or just things that like our parents should have taught us or like 11 00:01:06,400 --> 00:01:14,480 high school should have taught us to do so that we can be good adults. Successful humans. 12 00:01:14,480 --> 00:01:19,220 Maybe we've done them or maybe we haven't, but the things that we've learned. Before 13 00:01:19,220 --> 00:01:25,900 we dig in, something funny happened right before we started to record. You tell me what 14 00:01:25,900 --> 00:01:33,000 you did and I'll tell you what my reaction was because I'll tell you why it was anyways. 15 00:01:33,000 --> 00:01:37,360 We're posting. So we were posting an episode and I looked at it and I was like, oh yeah, 16 00:01:37,360 --> 00:01:41,880 by the way, I was like, I was looking on the thing and I was like, oh yeah, by the way, 17 00:01:41,880 --> 00:01:47,480 I changed the logo to a different color. It's the same logo, but it has a different background. 18 00:01:47,480 --> 00:01:51,080 It's got a white background. And I was like, oh yeah, I changed the logo on the posting 19 00:01:51,080 --> 00:01:55,360 this week. I was testing it out to see what it looked like and I forgot to tell you about 20 00:01:55,360 --> 00:02:00,640 it because I actually, honestly forgot that I put it on there. I had it in there and then 21 00:02:00,640 --> 00:02:02,240 I forgot. But then- 22 00:02:02,240 --> 00:02:07,800 The best part about it was, is I was wondering on my way over here because I was listening 23 00:02:07,800 --> 00:02:12,640 to today's episode on my way and I was like, finally I had like closed and locked my phone 24 00:02:12,640 --> 00:02:16,800 or whatever. So it gives you that preview of whatever's playing on your phone because 25 00:02:16,800 --> 00:02:20,520 it was playing in my car. And I was like, what the fuck is this thing white for? And 26 00:02:20,520 --> 00:02:27,440 then I was like, that's weird. I swear to God, I only changed my home computer stuff 27 00:02:27,440 --> 00:02:33,560 to dark mode. And I was thinking, did everything just go into dark mode after what I did today? 28 00:02:33,560 --> 00:02:38,480 Because I changed my browser, my Outlook, my OneNote. My team was already in dark mode, 29 00:02:38,480 --> 00:02:43,400 but then I was like, how did this affect my phone? I was thinking that I was putting whatever, 30 00:02:43,400 --> 00:02:49,760 I think I was listening on Spotify, that it turned the logo white because it was in dark 31 00:02:49,760 --> 00:02:54,120 mode. That is not what happened. Emily just did it. 32 00:02:54,120 --> 00:02:56,920 I just, yeah, I did it. I kind of thought it was cute, but like- 33 00:02:56,920 --> 00:02:59,920 Oh, I don't think it's bad. No. It just threw me for a loop. 34 00:02:59,920 --> 00:03:04,960 And I forgot about it and I'm like, oh shoot. But yeah, anyway, so there's a white logo 35 00:03:04,960 --> 00:03:10,200 out there. It's just for the episode, not for like all the things. But you know, throwing 36 00:03:10,200 --> 00:03:11,720 out some different logos there. 37 00:03:11,720 --> 00:03:15,880 Yeah. We got to keep you all on your toes because Emily's keeping me on mine for sure. 38 00:03:15,880 --> 00:03:23,040 All right. Let's jump. Oh, do you have fuck, marry, kill? Because I can think of one. 39 00:03:23,040 --> 00:03:24,040 Go ahead. Okay. 40 00:03:24,040 --> 00:03:30,240 I was thinking about it on the way over here and then I was like, I just, I don't know. 41 00:03:30,240 --> 00:03:33,240 Firefighter, police officer, or an EMT? 42 00:03:33,240 --> 00:03:40,240 You are, I am so fucking dead right now. I was literally going to say the same thing 43 00:03:40,240 --> 00:03:44,240 and I was like, no, that's too close to home right now. 44 00:03:44,240 --> 00:03:46,240 That's perfect. 45 00:03:46,240 --> 00:03:52,240 I didn't have a third one, but I did have firefighter and police. And I was like, oh 46 00:03:52,240 --> 00:04:03,400 my God. Okay. This is perfect. We have ESP tonight. Okay. I am going to marry an EMT 47 00:04:03,400 --> 00:04:08,520 because oftentimes they're also firefighters and then they can, you know, hopefully save 48 00:04:08,520 --> 00:04:12,040 my life or at least give me the Heimlich maneuver. You have no idea how many times- 49 00:04:12,040 --> 00:04:16,280 You say all three can do those things. Well, I don't know. Well, anyways, but they can 50 00:04:16,280 --> 00:04:22,200 also run a line if I need some fluids or something, you know, I'm just, just saying. 51 00:04:22,200 --> 00:04:23,200 I got you. 52 00:04:23,200 --> 00:04:30,680 Yeah. A save your life kind of dude, but this is hilarious. And then I think I'm going 53 00:04:30,680 --> 00:04:40,160 to kill the police officer and I hate to say that, but like they get a bad rap across the 54 00:04:40,160 --> 00:04:45,920 board and like, I just, that's all I'm going to say is they get a bad rap. So I'm going 55 00:04:45,920 --> 00:04:50,120 to kill them and I'm going to fuck a firefighter and hopefully he's wearing them pants when 56 00:04:50,120 --> 00:04:51,120 I do it. 57 00:04:51,120 --> 00:04:56,640 Well, okay. So that's about par for the course for firefighters because they have a reputation 58 00:04:56,640 --> 00:05:06,280 for being hoes in my opinion, at least. So, and I think that police officers have a bad 59 00:05:06,280 --> 00:05:15,240 rap and I'm like kind of torn about this, but like I honestly, if, if it wasn't for, 60 00:05:15,240 --> 00:05:19,120 for them getting a bad reputation because of all the stuff that's happened with police 61 00:05:19,120 --> 00:05:23,000 officers or whatnot, I would, I'm going to marry the police officer because I'm pretty 62 00:05:23,000 --> 00:05:25,600 sure the police officers make more money. 63 00:05:25,600 --> 00:05:31,280 EMTs make like no money. And I'm like, okay, you're gonna have to have like 10 jobs to 64 00:05:31,280 --> 00:05:35,920 be able to do, you know, whatever you're doing. Also, EMTs are usually younger. I think actually 65 00:05:35,920 --> 00:05:40,600 maybe they're not, I don't know. And then I'm going to, what does that say? Marry the 66 00:05:40,600 --> 00:05:45,960 police officer, kill the firefighter. Well, no, I'm not. I'm going to fuck the firefighter 67 00:05:45,960 --> 00:05:51,200 because they like to fuck, you know what I mean? And I'm going to kill the EMT, even 68 00:05:51,200 --> 00:05:58,320 though I do really like the EMT, but you know, sorry, you don't make enough money for me. 69 00:05:58,320 --> 00:06:02,960 That's terrible. That's a terrible thing for me to judge them on. But also police officers 70 00:06:02,960 --> 00:06:09,520 can like get you out of a ticket and EMT can't and a firefighter usually knows like basic 71 00:06:09,520 --> 00:06:13,840 CPR. And I have like medical people in my family and I can like probably do all those 72 00:06:13,840 --> 00:06:20,400 things that you want it. Like I can do like all that. So I don't need it. 73 00:06:20,400 --> 00:06:27,000 Fair enough. Fair enough. All right. So I, so I can just start at it if we want. Just 74 00:06:27,000 --> 00:06:34,080 go into it. Okay. You should start saving. And I think you should start saving before 75 00:06:34,080 --> 00:06:41,000 you're in your thirties. You shouldn't start saving. Listen, it's very hard to save, especially 76 00:06:41,000 --> 00:06:45,240 when you're not making money when you're in college and you don't like maybe you first 77 00:06:45,240 --> 00:06:49,100 starting out, you don't have a good job. And it's like, I feel like I've been like catching 78 00:06:49,100 --> 00:06:54,680 up my whole life. Like I like don't have good savings. Like I need to get more savings. 79 00:06:54,680 --> 00:06:57,600 And then like as soon as I get the savings, then I'm like, okay, I'm going to buy a house 80 00:06:57,600 --> 00:07:01,720 and use all my savings from my down payment. And then it's like, grab, I got to start over. 81 00:07:01,720 --> 00:07:06,360 But like that and like saving for retirement is like a really big deal. Yeah. And nobody 82 00:07:06,360 --> 00:07:11,360 really, I mean, they, some people do tell you, but like, it's not like really stressed 83 00:07:11,360 --> 00:07:16,480 a lot. No. And I mean, whenever a company hires you, it's not their job to teach you, 84 00:07:16,480 --> 00:07:19,960 you know, how to save for retirement. They give you what, whatever their benefits and 85 00:07:19,960 --> 00:07:24,120 options are and you just pick something. We should be telling people to save for retirement 86 00:07:24,120 --> 00:07:30,640 because you, we can't have everybody working when they're retired. Have you seen the new 87 00:07:30,640 --> 00:07:35,680 things on the news where the old, the old people, oh my God, the senior citizens, like 88 00:07:35,680 --> 00:07:40,560 90 years old people are like, uh, life cards they're getting, cause they can't get hired 89 00:07:40,560 --> 00:07:44,760 anywhere else. And I saw this one lady, she was on, I don't know which channel it was, 90 00:07:44,760 --> 00:07:47,760 but she was on there and she was like, yeah, I tried to get a job at McDonald's and they 91 00:07:47,760 --> 00:07:51,760 told me and I'm like, dang, they're gonna get a lawsuit from this. They told me that 92 00:07:51,760 --> 00:07:55,800 they couldn't hire her cause she was 90 years old, but she didn't say it like in a bad way. 93 00:07:55,800 --> 00:07:59,520 She just said, yeah, they just said no. And maybe they didn't say those words. Well, that's 94 00:07:59,520 --> 00:08:03,720 something, it would definitely be something that they could bring to the EEOC if they 95 00:08:03,720 --> 00:08:09,520 had said you're too old. Right. Exactly. But so she is a lifeguard at like a splash pad 96 00:08:09,520 --> 00:08:16,480 now. I can't, I think it's cool, but like, you know, sometimes you need to have a job 97 00:08:16,480 --> 00:08:23,120 when you're old. Yeah. Absolutely. Um, especially if you don't save your health becomes considerably 98 00:08:23,120 --> 00:08:28,760 more important. Well, your health is always important. Sure. But you don't bounce back 99 00:08:28,760 --> 00:08:37,320 from things as easily when you're older. Yeah. So you should not get, not eat Cheetos and 100 00:08:37,320 --> 00:08:43,280 go to third meal. I mean, fourth meal at Taco Bell every night when you're in your twenties 101 00:08:43,280 --> 00:08:49,560 don't drink like the, don't drink like a bunch of like white Russians and like creamy drinks 102 00:08:49,560 --> 00:08:53,760 and sugary drinks when you're younger, only drink vodka soda so that you stay skinny so 103 00:08:53,760 --> 00:08:59,360 that you don't get fat. And cause you will not be able to lose it. Yes. That's the truth. 104 00:08:59,360 --> 00:09:03,640 Because it's really bad for your health. Your ass will drop. Apparently. Okay. So according 105 00:09:03,640 --> 00:09:08,400 to whatever lists Sarah got, it says that your ass will drop. And I sent her my, what 106 00:09:08,400 --> 00:09:13,600 did I say? I said, honey, for the record, our asses have not dropped and they bang on 107 00:09:13,600 --> 00:09:23,600 to, I'm pretty sure they've gotten bigger. Mine will never drop. My mom's is still up 108 00:09:23,600 --> 00:09:29,920 there. My mom doesn't have one. No offense, Donnie, but, um, you'll gain speaking of, 109 00:09:29,920 --> 00:09:35,920 you'll gain new respect for your parents. You're going to say you'll gain weight. No, 110 00:09:35,920 --> 00:09:38,920 you'll gain a new respect for your parents. Yeah. Especially after you have kids, even 111 00:09:38,920 --> 00:09:43,880 though we don't have kids, but like I see like how it is for other people with kids 112 00:09:43,880 --> 00:09:49,680 and I'm like, dang, I see. I mean, I already see my parents differently than I used to. 113 00:09:49,680 --> 00:09:55,520 And you know, I definitely respect them and their opinion and I involve them and stuff 114 00:09:55,520 --> 00:10:01,480 that, you know, I didn't as like a teenager think that I would involve them in, you know? 115 00:10:01,480 --> 00:10:06,480 Yeah. Well, I respect, there's a, I respect my parents more, but then there's also things 116 00:10:06,480 --> 00:10:11,440 that I look back and I'm like, I can't believe you did that. Like now, now that I realize 117 00:10:11,440 --> 00:10:17,520 I'm like, Oh my God. And, but I didn't think about it back then. Yeah. Um, you'll feel 118 00:10:17,520 --> 00:10:23,440 hangovers the night before. Well, that's because we day drink now because we like to go to 119 00:10:23,440 --> 00:10:28,160 bed at eight. Well, you got to pick one or the other. There, you cannot do both. You 120 00:10:28,160 --> 00:10:33,120 cannot start at 11 a.m. And finish at four in the morning. Well, we do do that still 121 00:10:33,120 --> 00:10:36,520 sometimes. I haven't done it in a very long time. Well, not four o'clock in the morning, 122 00:10:36,520 --> 00:10:41,360 but like two o'clock. The only time I do it is with you. I don't know why it's always 123 00:10:41,360 --> 00:10:47,680 with me. It's not, it shouldn't always be with me, but it's the truth I guess. It's 124 00:10:47,680 --> 00:10:52,680 because we have so much fun. I can't stop. And speaking of, you'll wish you hadn't fallen 125 00:10:52,680 --> 00:10:56,800 asleep with your makeup on. Oh my God. I do that all the time still. Girl, they say that 126 00:10:56,800 --> 00:11:02,560 it ages your face seven years every time you sleep with your makeup on. Listen, honey. 127 00:11:02,560 --> 00:11:11,320 The other day I was at the, um, what is that bar called? Uh, the Derby. Oh, I saw that. 128 00:11:11,320 --> 00:11:15,800 And this lady was standing bar. She's 37 or not at the bar. We're standing in line for 129 00:11:15,800 --> 00:11:21,200 the bathroom. She looks the same age as me. She's 37. I'm 35. She's like, well, I'm so 130 00:11:21,200 --> 00:11:24,120 much older than you. I was like, no, you're not. And she's like, yes, I am. And I was 131 00:11:24,120 --> 00:11:28,480 like arguing back and forth. I was like, I'm 35. I was like, well, how old are you? She 132 00:11:28,480 --> 00:11:31,840 was like 37. I was like, well, I'm only two years younger than you. And she's like, oh, 133 00:11:31,840 --> 00:11:35,000 and she pointed to these girls that look like they were about 18. She's like, I mean, I'm 134 00:11:35,000 --> 00:11:38,800 assuming these girls were like 25 and I just assume that's how old you are. And I was like, 135 00:11:38,800 --> 00:11:43,680 it's because I was wearing a t-shirt and leggings. I didn't get drunk. Like I feel like I look 136 00:11:43,680 --> 00:11:49,760 younger. So yes, I was like, nope. I didn't know we were going like out like that. 100%. 137 00:11:49,760 --> 00:11:54,480 That is something that I did not know was a concept in my twenties that I know now that 138 00:11:54,480 --> 00:12:00,240 it is not a fashion show. Comfort is key. I've said this so many freaking times and 139 00:12:00,240 --> 00:12:08,520 it, you can meet a man in a t-shirt and leggings at the bar if you so wish. It doesn't matter 140 00:12:08,520 --> 00:12:13,960 because nobody really fucking cares. Speaking of meeting a man at the bar in my t-shirt 141 00:12:13,960 --> 00:12:19,440 and leggings, I was wearing my, uh, pair ring. Where is it? You took it off. Well, because 142 00:12:19,440 --> 00:12:23,600 I haven't been going, I've been in the house for two days. Okay. So I don't have it on. 143 00:12:23,600 --> 00:12:26,440 I don't like, don't like wearing jewelry. Like I don't even, I have, I did have earrings 144 00:12:26,440 --> 00:12:30,040 on because I had to, well, I did have, I had a zoom call. So I had to have those earrings 145 00:12:30,040 --> 00:12:40,280 on. So, uh, I was at the bar and I got the first time in my entire life, a man slash 146 00:12:40,280 --> 00:12:47,560 boy, I think he was a boy, bought me a drink and passed it through my friends, passed it 147 00:12:47,560 --> 00:12:52,360 through Rose and Dana and like some other people pass it through them and was like, 148 00:12:52,360 --> 00:13:00,720 I want it to be for that girl right there. Yeah. No, I, well, we'll go about, we won't 149 00:13:00,720 --> 00:13:07,880 talk about that on public, but, but also then after that, the police officer who was working 150 00:13:07,880 --> 00:13:12,480 that night, we won't mention his name. I did want him to come. I asked him if we could 151 00:13:12,480 --> 00:13:16,520 enter, if I could phone interview him for the Carly Russell thing. Like not because 152 00:13:16,520 --> 00:13:20,520 he doesn't know anything about it. It's not Hoover police department, but he was, I wanted 153 00:13:20,520 --> 00:13:27,080 to like ask him about like what they, how they handle situations like that, like why 154 00:13:27,080 --> 00:13:33,840 they didn't release it for four days. Things like that. Yeah. Anyway, so he also was like, 155 00:13:33,840 --> 00:13:39,920 I like, I'm pretty sure I touched his taser accidentally and not the taser, like the real 156 00:13:39,920 --> 00:13:47,600 taser and he was like, he liked me. He's still texting me sometimes. Okay. So anyways, Popo 157 00:13:47,600 --> 00:13:53,960 liked me. I'm calling Popo and that was two, but nobody mentioned anything about the ring, 158 00:13:53,960 --> 00:13:58,120 but I was in t-shirt and leggings and I had my ring on and that never happens to me. I 159 00:13:58,120 --> 00:14:02,080 never get hit on ever. So I don't know if it was the leggings and it was the leggings 160 00:14:02,080 --> 00:14:07,080 for the cop. He was like, he said, dope personality, dude. I didn't talk to them before they talked 161 00:14:07,080 --> 00:14:12,360 to me. So they probably saw you. I know cause I'm cool. They saw you from the corner of 162 00:14:12,360 --> 00:14:18,320 the eye and they said, no, he did say, he said, I don't, he was like, not a lot of girls, 163 00:14:18,320 --> 00:14:21,960 not a lot of, I don't know if he said white girls, but I knew he meant it. Not a lot of 164 00:14:21,960 --> 00:14:28,640 white girls like you are thick, natural thick like you, you know? Yeah. And I was like, 165 00:14:28,640 --> 00:14:34,620 yeah, I know. I get it from my mama. Okay. So anyways, um, you'll find out who your friends 166 00:14:34,620 --> 00:14:42,400 are. Well, yeah, I mean like, I don't think that has anything to do necessarily. Well, 167 00:14:42,400 --> 00:14:46,640 maybe in your thirties because people start either getting married or having kids and 168 00:14:46,640 --> 00:14:52,720 stuff like that. So I think that at that point in time, you know, when your friends start 169 00:14:52,720 --> 00:14:55,600 getting married and having kids, like you do have to make more of an effort to keep 170 00:14:55,600 --> 00:14:58,680 up with that friendship. So maybe, I mean, in that context, I was going to ask, I was 171 00:14:58,680 --> 00:15:02,440 like, how do you find out who your friends are? Like, is it, it's because like the people 172 00:15:02,440 --> 00:15:07,960 that want to make an effort to like hang out with you, you know, and make you a, not necessarily 173 00:15:07,960 --> 00:15:12,800 a priority, but like make you like your relationship like happen. Sure. Like maybe they become 174 00:15:12,800 --> 00:15:18,740 a different kind of friend where it's more of like an acquaintance type situation now 175 00:15:18,740 --> 00:15:25,680 instead of like a you go grab dinner or like tech, you know, I'm sorry to say it, but you 176 00:15:25,680 --> 00:15:30,480 can spend quality time texting a friend. That's true. Like in catching up that way. You just 177 00:15:30,480 --> 00:15:43,120 do. So yeah. But anyways, you can't have everything. Yes, you can. Okay. I think we can. I don't 178 00:15:43,120 --> 00:15:48,320 know. There's always going to be sacrifices to be made. Well, there are always sacrifices 179 00:15:48,320 --> 00:15:53,160 to be made, but I think it's possible. I think everything is possible. And I stopped trying 180 00:15:53,160 --> 00:16:01,480 to kill my buzz. Okay. Your buzz from your water. Right. Okay. No, my buzz on life. Um, 181 00:16:01,480 --> 00:16:06,240 you can still take risks and make changes. Like there's no period in time where you just 182 00:16:06,240 --> 00:16:11,600 have to stop doing those things. Doing what? They risk. Oh, and make, okay. So hold on. 183 00:16:11,600 --> 00:16:17,280 You can still take, oh, I thought, okay. So it's not like you can still take risks and 184 00:16:17,280 --> 00:16:24,000 make changes at the same time. I I'm confused. I think what they were saying is like just 185 00:16:24,000 --> 00:16:28,880 because you like hit 30 doesn't mean that you have to be complacent in your life. Okay. 186 00:16:28,880 --> 00:16:33,200 So it's, it's, you can still take risks and you can also still make changes, not you can 187 00:16:33,200 --> 00:16:39,720 still be at risk. And make changes like because of the risks. I was getting confused on the 188 00:16:39,720 --> 00:16:45,160 wording in that. I don't know what's going on with my head right now. Okay. I got you. 189 00:16:45,160 --> 00:16:49,560 So like basically if you wanted to move somewhere, you could. That's making a change and a risk 190 00:16:49,560 --> 00:16:53,440 at the same time. If you wanted to change like I did, I'm in my thirties and I changed 191 00:16:53,440 --> 00:17:00,440 industries as far as my job goes. I mean my job title and what I actually do is, you know, 192 00:17:00,440 --> 00:17:05,320 relatively the same. The concept is anyways, but I mean I made a change to a completely 193 00:17:05,320 --> 00:17:11,600 different industry and I have no regrets. I'm ready to make a complete change to a different 194 00:17:11,600 --> 00:17:19,240 industry called, um, socialite, no work. Um, I'll play, have a lot of money. Please help 195 00:17:19,240 --> 00:17:27,120 me out. Go fund me. I sound so terrible. I do work really hard. You do work hard, but 196 00:17:27,120 --> 00:17:32,240 I think that's why you say the things that you say because you know that you bust your 197 00:17:32,240 --> 00:17:39,440 ass and this, the thought of that is fun time for you. Right. Exactly. Yeah. Yeah. Um, travel 198 00:17:39,440 --> 00:17:45,680 while you don't have too many ties, which like babies and yeah, I would, yeah, I would 199 00:17:45,680 --> 00:17:51,120 assume like husbands that are going to be like, eh, you can't go on a girl's trip. Yeah. 200 00:17:51,120 --> 00:17:56,220 Yeah. Oh, but you know what? Also don't marry somebody. This is another thing you should, 201 00:17:56,220 --> 00:18:00,280 you should do. Don't marry somebody that's going to turn into that person that says that 202 00:18:00,280 --> 00:18:04,040 you can't go and marry somebody that has their friend, their own friends and has you have 203 00:18:04,040 --> 00:18:08,520 friends or their friends with your friends and they allow you to not like both of you 204 00:18:08,520 --> 00:18:12,640 have, can be your own person and you don't have to be together at all. Gracefully independent 205 00:18:12,640 --> 00:18:20,240 when you're gone. Exactly. And not bitch at you about it. Right. Um, sleep becomes increasingly 206 00:18:20,240 --> 00:18:25,440 important, which we talked about. Sleep is always important. It is. And we talked about 207 00:18:25,440 --> 00:18:29,040 it last week. My biggest fear being not sleeping and guess who hasn't slept very good in the 208 00:18:29,040 --> 00:18:35,800 last two nights? This girl. And it's really annoying and super frustrating. Like I'm going 209 00:18:35,800 --> 00:18:43,160 to have some vodka drinks when I go home so I can conk out tonight. Okay. I'm on board 210 00:18:43,160 --> 00:18:49,840 with that. Maybe I should do that too. But, but then here comes this one. Start going 211 00:18:49,840 --> 00:18:54,080 to sleep and waking up at the same time every day. Was that Michelle? What's her name? And 212 00:18:54,080 --> 00:18:59,000 that face? Yes. Oh my God. You're reading my mind today. Like literally, did you see 213 00:18:59,000 --> 00:19:02,680 my face? And I was like, I had that. I was like, going to say it after you finished. 214 00:19:02,680 --> 00:19:09,080 I was like, you still look just like her. And you said it before I could say it. Oh, 215 00:19:09,080 --> 00:19:14,680 you look just like you had that all. What's her name? Michelle Dubose or something? I 216 00:19:14,680 --> 00:19:20,520 can't remember, but she is, she has some standups and she was also the assistant in always be 217 00:19:20,520 --> 00:19:25,400 my maybe. And she's in the host of the circle. Oh, she was the host of the circle. Yeah. 218 00:19:25,400 --> 00:19:29,400 Oh, that's what I already said. I really liked her. I forgot about her being the host of 219 00:19:29,400 --> 00:19:34,680 the circle, but she is, has this new show called, what did I call it? Oh, it's down 220 00:19:34,680 --> 00:19:42,160 with the thickness. And she, Sarah is like, they do so many like faces and the way that 221 00:19:42,160 --> 00:19:46,000 they talk, like, cause she has like an, an accent, like a New York accent. I don't know 222 00:19:46,000 --> 00:19:50,080 if it's New York, but she has a Northern accent or a different accent than Southern. And I 223 00:19:50,080 --> 00:19:55,260 feel like she says stuff and I am just like, that is Sarah and like their faces have kind 224 00:19:55,260 --> 00:19:59,040 of the same shape, but sort of, but not really. They're both very pretty and they both have 225 00:19:59,040 --> 00:20:04,000 curly hair. And it's just like, I mean, her hair is a lot curlier than Sarah's, but, but 226 00:20:04,000 --> 00:20:09,560 it's like, I like see her when I watch her, I'm like, I take it as a compliment because 227 00:20:09,560 --> 00:20:13,720 I also think that she's very pretty and I think she's funny. So I'll take it any day. 228 00:20:13,720 --> 00:20:18,320 She's hilarious. But my next one was going to be after I talked about having some vodka 229 00:20:18,320 --> 00:20:21,600 drinks and going to bed was start going to sleep and waking up at the same time every 230 00:20:21,600 --> 00:20:27,480 day. Yeah. I can't do that. I can't either. I did really good last night. So last night 231 00:20:27,480 --> 00:20:34,400 I was editing and I was done by like nine 30. Normally it's like two o'clock in the 232 00:20:34,400 --> 00:20:39,200 morning and I'm like, ah, there was a lot, you know, those things happen sometimes. Start 233 00:20:39,200 --> 00:20:43,840 learning to be happy with what you have. That is, that is a really good thing. So like, 234 00:20:43,840 --> 00:20:47,120 I have to wake up every day and be like, I'm, I'm very happy with that. I have, I mean, 235 00:20:47,120 --> 00:20:51,200 sometimes I'm like, Oh my God, my house is a wreck, but like, I like to go out on my, 236 00:20:51,200 --> 00:20:54,400 like, which I cannot technically allow to go on my balcony right now, but we're just 237 00:20:54,400 --> 00:20:59,600 going to say, I like to look out the window on my balcony and be like, this is amazing. 238 00:20:59,600 --> 00:21:04,120 I can't believe I have this. And look what you did. Look what you worked for and what 239 00:21:04,120 --> 00:21:09,640 you got. And I did that with Rose and DJ. I should do that in the morning. You should, 240 00:21:09,640 --> 00:21:14,600 I should wake up and just be thankful. Yeah. Thankful. I'm awake. Thankful that my dog 241 00:21:14,600 --> 00:21:18,840 is awake or whatever. And look what you've worked for. You've worked so hard for all 242 00:21:18,840 --> 00:21:25,040 these things that you have. Yeah. It's so true. Yeah. Yeah. Um, stop thinking you need 243 00:21:25,040 --> 00:21:32,040 to satisfy everyone. That's a huge problem that I have. And I feel like you do as well. 244 00:21:32,040 --> 00:21:36,440 And I think it's really important to make sure that you take care of yourself sometimes. 245 00:21:36,440 --> 00:21:42,240 I have that problem, but I also have a problem with, with me, all me thinking I shouldn't 246 00:21:42,240 --> 00:21:46,960 have to satisfy everyone, but in my body, I'm like, I need to satisfy everybody. But 247 00:21:46,960 --> 00:21:51,360 I'm like, I shouldn't have to do this. So I get pissed off and I'll be like, no, I'm 248 00:21:51,360 --> 00:21:55,520 not doing that. You know what I mean? Like, Oh, recently this has happened a lot lately. 249 00:21:55,520 --> 00:21:59,200 And I'm like, I shouldn't have to defend myself either for some things that I, like if I'm 250 00:21:59,200 --> 00:22:02,160 not going to do something, I shouldn't have to be like, well, this is why I shouldn't 251 00:22:02,160 --> 00:22:08,400 have to defend myself. I should just be able to say no. Right. Yeah. So, um, start forgiving 252 00:22:08,400 --> 00:22:14,760 yourself for your mistakes. And I think that's super important. And I think that if we learned 253 00:22:14,760 --> 00:22:20,680 that early on, that it was, you know, okay to make mistakes, even ones of like major 254 00:22:20,680 --> 00:22:28,200 magnitude that a lot of people in life would have very different attitudes because if we're 255 00:22:28,200 --> 00:22:33,000 taught that it's like the end of the world when we fail at something or maybe don't do 256 00:22:33,000 --> 00:22:37,400 something, you know, a hundred percent correct, you know, not necessarily failure, like of 257 00:22:37,400 --> 00:22:43,020 a class or whatever, like that can give a kid anxiety big time. Well, that's how I feel 258 00:22:43,020 --> 00:22:47,240 like my whole life. Like if I did something wrong and like, I felt, I felt, and maybe 259 00:22:47,240 --> 00:22:52,920 it wasn't like that with guilt. I don't think that my parents aimed it at me or did it on 260 00:22:52,920 --> 00:22:58,960 purpose, but like, I felt like it was the end of the world if something. Yeah. Absolutely. 261 00:22:58,960 --> 00:23:05,120 But maybe that's why I'm so awesome. Yeah. I don't know. It could be bad or good. Um, 262 00:23:05,120 --> 00:23:12,680 and then the last one of these is just, there's no one form of success. Um, and I agree with 263 00:23:12,680 --> 00:23:17,320 that. I mean, self comparison, we've talked about it before, especially with social media. 264 00:23:17,320 --> 00:23:21,960 It's definitely there, but I think we should all remind ourselves just like we talked about 265 00:23:21,960 --> 00:23:26,280 being thankful in the morning. Remind yourself that you are your own success and whatever 266 00:23:26,280 --> 00:23:31,560 it means to you or not what it means to somebody else. Yeah. Um, and then the last three that 267 00:23:31,560 --> 00:23:37,480 I wrote down, they were how to buy a house, how to change a tire and how to change a diaper. 268 00:23:37,480 --> 00:23:42,280 Yeah. Like, okay. If you don't know how to change a diaper yet, something wrong with 269 00:23:42,280 --> 00:23:47,480 you. I mean, I haven't had to do it in a really long time, but like, it's not like goals. 270 00:23:47,480 --> 00:23:51,520 Well, I know a lot of people that don't know how to do it. Oh yeah. And I, and people that 271 00:23:51,520 --> 00:23:56,520 haven't had, and that's the thing. So like when I, when Daniel, um, my, my brothers, 272 00:23:56,520 --> 00:23:59,800 both of my brothers started having kids, I didn't know what to do with the kid because 273 00:23:59,800 --> 00:24:05,760 like my parents never really had like friends that had younger kids around me. And I had 274 00:24:05,760 --> 00:24:10,920 a lot of other friends, a lot of my friends in high school had younger siblings. I just 275 00:24:10,920 --> 00:24:16,000 had Daniel and he's like 18 months younger than me. So we didn't have a lot of like young 276 00:24:16,000 --> 00:24:20,840 kids that we had to like take care of or like we went over to their house and their friends 277 00:24:20,840 --> 00:24:24,080 were there with their baby, you know, they, those things. So I didn't get to like do the 278 00:24:24,080 --> 00:24:30,320 babysitting thing. Um, and I didn't know what to do, like how to hold a baby. I don't know 279 00:24:30,320 --> 00:24:33,640 how to do anything. I was like, Oh, when I saw babies, like, Oh God, I'm going to hurt 280 00:24:33,640 --> 00:24:37,640 it. I mean, they're cute, whatever. But like, I didn't know what to do, but I learned and 281 00:24:37,640 --> 00:24:43,200 I was like, I can't believe I never learned how to do this. Right. Um, and I feel like 282 00:24:43,200 --> 00:24:47,960 when you first do it, you feel like you're, you know, Oh my gosh, this is, I don't know 283 00:24:47,960 --> 00:24:52,120 if I'm doing, you know, but it's really not hard and you should know how to do it. Yeah, 284 00:24:52,120 --> 00:24:55,960 for sure. And then changing a tire on your car, I learned how to do that. My dad made 285 00:24:55,960 --> 00:25:03,400 me do it multiple times before I started driving. And the other day, my neighbor, she got a 286 00:25:03,400 --> 00:25:08,880 flat tire and was like, Oh my God, I need to drive. She was going to drive her car on 287 00:25:08,880 --> 00:25:14,160 the flat tire. That's like two words. I know. I said, no, no, no. She was driving off and 288 00:25:14,160 --> 00:25:17,920 she wanted, I thought she, she wanted me to take her there. She was driving off in her 289 00:25:17,920 --> 00:25:21,880 car to the place and I was like, Whoa, whoa, whoa. Running after her, like yelling, stop, 290 00:25:21,880 --> 00:25:26,120 you're going to ruin your rim. Like you're going to ruin your tire. Like you're, you're 291 00:25:26,120 --> 00:25:30,440 going to have to get a whole wheel. And she was like, Oh, and I'm like, yeah, like you 292 00:25:30,440 --> 00:25:34,600 need to park it. And like there's wheels for a reason. I know. And I said, I'll change 293 00:25:34,600 --> 00:25:38,880 it for you and how to do it. She's like, no, I have AAA for that. And I'm like, well, okay. 294 00:25:38,880 --> 00:25:43,240 That makes, I mean, that's easier for me, but I will do it as well. Like if I were in 295 00:25:43,240 --> 00:25:49,040 an area where AAA couldn't get to me for like a really long time or just couldn't get to 296 00:25:49,040 --> 00:25:54,880 me period, then I would change the tire by myself, but I have AAA. I'm calling them first. 297 00:25:54,880 --> 00:25:59,080 Right. I don't have AAA. I have, I'm sure my insurance, like if I called them or whatever, 298 00:25:59,080 --> 00:26:03,080 I would send somebody, but yeah, I know that you should definitely know how to do that. 299 00:26:03,080 --> 00:26:07,400 Look, I know how to do so many jacked up things when a car that breaks down because I had 300 00:26:07,400 --> 00:26:13,400 to drive so many times with the car broken down. I like, I, and I'm pretty sure that 301 00:26:13,400 --> 00:26:18,400 my car, my car that I have now is going to soon become, be coming to the age of when 302 00:26:18,400 --> 00:26:22,440 it starts. Like it doesn't have a lot of miles on it, but it's like old, it looks like getting, 303 00:26:22,440 --> 00:26:27,240 it's probably like four years old, but soon, cause time goes by very fast, especially gets 304 00:26:27,240 --> 00:26:30,560 by faster when you get older. It's going to be to the point where it's going to be like 305 00:26:30,560 --> 00:26:35,280 start breaking down again. And I drive my car until it's dead. Always. I don't know 306 00:26:35,280 --> 00:26:40,080 why because I don't like want to go buy a car. I also don't want to have a car payment. 307 00:26:40,080 --> 00:26:47,640 So that, and you should learn how to like budget and like buy, like learn the things 308 00:26:47,640 --> 00:26:52,280 that you're supposed to do as an adult. Like if you want to buy a house, like those, my 309 00:26:52,280 --> 00:26:55,960 parents didn't teach me anything. And then I asked them and they blow your, your realtor 310 00:26:55,960 --> 00:27:01,000 will tell you my realtor didn't tell me anything unless I asked her, ask questions. That is 311 00:27:01,000 --> 00:27:07,040 a big thing. Ask questions. Don't just like go through life, like assuming somebody's 312 00:27:07,040 --> 00:27:11,080 going to tell you or Google it and assume that everything you read is right. Yeah. Don't 313 00:27:11,080 --> 00:27:17,440 do that. But also learn what they teach you this. And I don't know if they teach you in 314 00:27:17,440 --> 00:27:22,880 a high school or college, but they teach you this in something that there are certain references 315 00:27:22,880 --> 00:27:30,720 on the internet and places that are correct and certain places that are not. Right. And 316 00:27:30,720 --> 00:27:38,240 sometimes Buzzfeed is not most of the time, Buzzfeed all the time. Buzzfeed is not the 317 00:27:38,240 --> 00:27:42,480 right answer, but we do use that a lot for our references just because it's funny. Well, 318 00:27:42,480 --> 00:27:48,080 yeah, because we're using it in a comical way. So we're not trying to be factual. So 319 00:27:48,080 --> 00:27:53,960 yeah, but yeah, that, and then also don't, you should, you should learn how to rescue 320 00:27:53,960 --> 00:28:03,420 a dog and not have to keep it. Cause all of my friends have like 15 dogs each. Except 321 00:28:03,420 --> 00:28:08,800 for me. Well, you have one, but yours is like five dogs compared to like my, all my dogs 322 00:28:08,800 --> 00:28:13,880 together is the size of your dog. So, I don't know. We, we can cut this short today. Is 323 00:28:13,880 --> 00:28:18,000 that why you're getting up, sitting up straight? Well, I'm uncomfortable. I'm uncomfortable. 324 00:28:18,000 --> 00:28:22,000 I'm hungry and it has nothing to do with your chair or anything like that. No, I'm just 325 00:28:22,000 --> 00:28:26,920 changing positions. She's hungry. So we gonna get out of here since we gave you a bonus 326 00:28:26,920 --> 00:28:30,680 episode last week. Hey, if you haven't listened to it, check it out. It's actually really 327 00:28:30,680 --> 00:28:35,360 good about Carly Russell. So love y'all. My bird, my bird cats coming in here. He's hungry 328 00:28:35,360 --> 00:28:41,720 or something. I don't know. Oh shoot. Cricket said, yeah. Okay. All right. Thanks for joining 329 00:28:41,720 --> 00:28:46,900 us this week. Y'all. You can find us on Instagram at thick AF podcast. Send us an email with 330 00:28:46,900 --> 00:28:51,400 some topics or things that you want to discuss or, you know, tell us a dirty secret. We'll 331 00:28:51,400 --> 00:28:56,160 read it online and we'll keep you anonymous. That would be fun. Um, you can find us anywhere 332 00:28:56,160 --> 00:29:22,600 you find your podcast and we will catch you next time. 333 00:29:26,160 --> 00:29:33,600 ABCDEFG. I have to go.