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I'm Meg.
Oh, they're starting.
Hi, Meg.
Hi, I'm Teresa and welcome to our podcast from teens to...
From teens to presecho queens.
Oh my God.
So, I guess you can say we're back.
You know, we were hoping to do it monthly, but at this point we're getting quarterly and that's okay as well.
You know, our lives get in the way and we're talking to each other and we talk to each other very often.
But recording takes some time.
So, I'm so happy to be sitting with my girl, my lifer, one of my best friends in the whole world, and actually seeing her face.
And Megan, what are we talking about today?
Today, it's part two of our nostalgia series.
We're going to be looking back in the past, present, and looking forward to the future, being that we're almost in the new year.
2023.
Can you believe that?
No.
It's weird, right?
Because think about it.
Everybody, we've told our history before about how we've known each other since we're 15.
That was like 98.
And to think...
No.
It's to think that in 1998, we were like 2023.
That number didn't even ring true in my brain as a number that we would see.
And girl, we're going to be 40 this year.
I'm not.
No, I'm not.
You still got a little longer than me, so it's okay.
But it's weird, right?
Like, my mom will look at me and say, 40 is really young still.
And I'm like, I get that.
I get that in the grand scheme of things.
It is.
But, you know, it's...
Looking back as we talk about nostalgia, I'm not exactly in the place I wanted to be at this age by any means.
You know, like, I didn't know where I wanted to be, but probably not where I've been, especially after the past couple of years.
And it's kind of weird when you think about it like that.
So when you hear that number, it seems like such an astronomical number to me, because I don't know how I got here.
Thank God that we got here.
Some people never did.
Some people didn't.
But it's really crazy to me.
Well, I don't feel like I'm going to be that age, but...
And girl, I'm sorry.
I was in college.
I don't think that we look like we're going to be that age.
Let's just cut to the chase.
There are some people that look older at that age or they're younger.
I don't feel like...
I feel like 40 is very different now than it was back in the day.
I need to start getting Botox.
You're right here.
I do not need Botox.
Girl, please.
My lines.
Maybe some eye cream, but we all need eye cream, right?
Like, forget it.
If I got a good solid eight hours sleep at night, I wouldn't need any eye cream at all.
That's where my issue lies is I'm a night owl, unfortunately.
I need to get that mask.
The mask that's infrared.
Oh, the light mask.
They're great.
That's what I'm going to buy.
They're great.
They're definitely really good.
Anything that keeps us tight, right?
So what you guys listening may not know right now is the first time we're talking on Zoom.
We're doing this via Zoom.
So what I will post are like little pieces of it on IG as well before I actually put up the podcast.
But we're hoping, or my plan is to have this before two years because we want to be able to start the new year with a good episode.
And I know that our last episode at the very end, we talked about how we were going to talk about wellness this particular episode.
We discussed that being the fact that our last episode, we talked about so many movies and we didn't really touch a lot of like music, right?
We did Backstreet Boys because that's who we are.
Like we love our boys, our big, our big ass grown men now, right?
But I think that there's so much more music wise we could talk about as well as again, we wanted to touch on this past year in our lives.
And you know, if it was what we thought it was going to be or if it just was a regular year, as well as what we might think is what we want or what we might think for the coming year as well.
I give a little.
It's a regular year on crack.
Bro?
Crack would sound real good right now after my year.
I did find the LED light therapy mask at Shepard image for $130.
I don't even know if that's a good deal or not. So I'll just take your word for it.
I don't know either.
I've had a facial where they use it. I thought that was really cool. Yeah, that was really cool.
I need to look into this.
Yeah, but I hear those are really good. People love them.
So I think we still have some time. I think we still have some time.
So I'm wondering, Megan, thinking back over the past year, thinking back maybe the past couple years, thinking back to even back in the 80s and 90s, we were originally started with this series.
For yourself.
Did it turn out the way that you maybe maybe you didn't expect anything, right?
Maybe you were just kind of going at the, you know, the seat of your pants, right?
Or some people just saying screw it. I'm just going through it. I'm a little bit every day and that's it.
But based on if you can look back, what, what did it feel like to you?
Like what, I guess, what did, what did the time feel like to you?
It went really fast this year. I mean, I had a lot going on personally.
It's going to pan out the way I wanted it to, but it definitely learned a lot and looking forward to next year and we'll see what happens.
Well, in what way you can share, did it not pan out the way you thought or that you want to share?
Well, let's see. I did get promoted at my real jobs. That was good.
That's good. Yeah.
We'll see. We'll see if it turns out to be what I thought it was going to be or figure it out.
I think that's, I think that's true. You know, and you got a very nice little stable home life, which is nice as well to have that, to have that support.
That's always nice. Yeah.
I also don't have kids. So that's huge. That's the huge part of my sanity.
You are the reason you're able to sleep all night.
I can sleep. I can come and go as I please. It's wonderful.
Yeah. No, I agree. I agree. I agree. I agree. I think for me, I thought with the pandemic that was traumatic and awful, all of us, right?
And regardless of how we all handled it, whether it was someone was drinking more than others.
And I say some of us, I wasn't actually one of them, to be honest with you. I was still working, but I worked from home and the kids, you know, in school from home and my husband at home and everything else.
But yeah, I think I was telling you earlier this past year, if I could wake up and most of this past year was a dream, that would be ideal.
You know, maybe in a future episode, if I'm a little more comfortable going into detail, I would, but although my husband weirdly enough told me that if I wanted to share it, I could tell.
I was like, I don't know. I'm going to go there.
But not yet. But you know, you know, Megan knows I've had a very traumatic year.
And only some people very, very close to me know details of that. And, you know, it's changed me, I really believe, on a cellular level of who I am, probably down to my DNA.
And I think that's, I think when I look back now to, as I look back to it and I continue to go through it.
By the way, that's, if you hear that, that's that's Megan's hubby background.
You can hear him.
He's making me laugh.
So I think, for me, the biggest takeaway of how traumatic this year was, was one, one of the biggest takeaways, one, you can't control people.
You cannot control everything in your surroundings.
Realistically, not that I ever thought that I could, but you know, I'm very type of personality, Megan, you're a very type of personality.
You can't control other people's actions.
You can't. And you can't control other people's hearts and minds. And, you know, and it doesn't matter how much you do for people, they're going to be who they are.
You know what I mean? It's as simple as that. They're going to be who they are. And, you know, it's, that that's the first thing that I learned.
I learned that you can't control every situation. You know what I mean? Like you just can't.
I also learned it's okay to show when you're not okay.
You know, we were raised and you can attest to this too, because we talked about this in probably our first episode.
We were raised not really to show emotions. Right. We were raised with parents that didn't show emotions.
We were raised that if you cried, okay, well, you know, to keep crying, we'll make you cry more or whatever the case may be.
And I've learned that I don't want, I don't do that to my kids. You know what I mean? They see when I'm upset and I try not to do it all the time, but I don't hide it either.
Because I want them to know mommy's moving, you know, and find that things hurt mommy and things, you know, life doesn't always work out the way we expect it to work out.
And I think so there's a few different and also that people will come and go in and out of your life.
Yeah, and I think like people come in your lives or leave your life as like when you need it, when you need it.
Because that's what I've noticed where there's a lot of people that, or people that let's say you wouldn't normally be friends with.
Or you're just going through the same thing or you have the same hobbies or the same interests or like whatever that there's certain people that come into your life at the time that you need them.
Yeah. Yeah, it's really true. And it's like, and it doesn't mean that people don't come and go doesn't mean that people don't stay.
There's just so many different facets of it right with the experience and so crazy and then I think about again our relationship right like we could speak every day for like weeks,
or we can go like three months and be like, I haven't spoken to Megan. How should we do it right?
But we've been talking, we've known each other since we're 15. And it's still like we pick up like, you know, like we, like we never left off, you know, we pick up like if we, you know, you know what I mean, right?
It's really interesting how that works. So 2023 for me, I'm empowering myself, I think.
I'm finally going to take back the power of myself. I feel like so much of my power has been stripped this year. You know, and that's hard to kind of take back that you have to do it.
You have to know that, you know, as you can't control other people's behaviors, other people's reactions to your reaction. I've learned that as well.
Man, people will piss you off with a second you stand up for yourself all of a sudden you're difficult. Right. Like all of a sudden you're the problem.
And I'm like, you know what, screw you if you can't handle the fact that you're the problem. You know what I mean? Like that's the part I am like, I'm getting so closer to learning boundaries.
You know, boundaries are huge. Me and you have talked about boundaries before with our families, with our friends, with in-laws, with coworkers.
Having those boundaries is so hard, but it is essential to mental health and to moving on and healing ourselves from past traumas too.
Because for me, this year feels like it's just been a culmination of decades of trauma on top of decades of trauma.
It's all about trying to empower yourself and get that power back. And I think in general, us as women, we need to do that no matter what our trauma was in life.
You know, and that's why I know you haven't always had it easy as well by any means. And people may look at Megan because she looks like the quintessential person that would have no problems.
True. I don't show emotion.
And that's a huge part of it, right? But that's not the case. Like you have had, you know, severe stuff happen in your life and you've had traumatic events and some recently as well.
So I think that it's really important. So I'm declaring 2023, putting it out there in the universe, manifesting for both of us.
Megan doesn't really believe this, but I'm going to give it to her anyway.
I believe in karma. I just don't believe it.
Yes, I just why I'm going to take the fall for you and I'm going to say 2023. The best is yet to be.
What do you think? I think that every year. I mean, I definitely want to travel more next year.
There you go. Put it out there.
I was on travel though.
Yeah, and we can tell our listeners don't forget.
Not everybody believes it. Sure. Manifestation is real. You put out what you get back.
When you talk negatively and you have negative self-talk especially, you know, it's going to it's going to hinder your ability to bring anything positive, you know, and it's a known thing.
We are energy, right? We are energy and that doesn't mean that bad things don't happen to good people. Hello.
It doesn't mean that. It just means that, you know, understanding that the world is going to keep going regardless of how you react to it.
You just have to try to take everything and strive and go for the best, you know.
That's true. Going back to bring your own energy. I take this class on Peloton with this one instructor and that's her thing.
Bring your own energy. That's your tagline.
She's so annoying when I like her. I don't know if I would be friends with her. She's super bubbly and I'm like, alternative.
Yes, you're like Daria.
Yeah, I'm exactly like Daria. I was Daria for Halloween.
Yeah.
But um, yeah.
And I get it. I get it, yeah.
Like it's too bubbly, but I love her classes. Like they're great. But sometimes I'm just like shut the fuck up.
I could see that though. There are people that I'm like sometimes like there are some people that I sit there and go, come on, you are not like this 24 seven.
Like there's gotta be. She's cute. Like she's cute. Like she's cute. But I'm just like, give me some of your uppers.
I always say that too. I laugh because my boss, it didn't matter.
My boss every day would be like that. Like every day, even on Monday, she'd be like, Hey guys.
And I'm like, what are you on because I need it. Like whatever, whatever you're on.
I said, I said my team pictures of Garfield. So that's, that's, that's me.
That's true. I never would have thought it up. But yes, oh, that is you for sure.
Like, please don't call me. Call me again now.
I have had no coffee yet. No, nothing yet. You know, so it's, it's, it's really this, this whole, the whole thing is just great.
I don't know. It's so crazy, you know, and I don't know. I think, I think really now that I'm thinking about it.
All of the stuff, you know, we want us to talk about, okay, wellness and health, right?
And we were going to talk about nostalgia and we're talking about the new year. So much of that comes together.
Music, music ties into that because music can change your mood.
Hell yeah. And that's why to this day, and you can completely appreciate this.
Because I know you're exactly the same way. There is nothing.
Music and fitness.
That's right.
Together.
That's right. And there's nothing like our old school music.
We've talked about this the last one. We said it when we don't have to necessarily go into that again, but we talked about how her, I mean, well,
when I'm feeling any type of way, I have music I can go to to either make me feel better or let me sit in that pain or that, that feeling I need to sit in for a little bit.
And then move on, move on and keep going. You know what I'm saying? Like,
I need to like the emo feels. Oh, that's, that's the one other thing I want to do next year is get back into Zuma possibly.
I was going to ask you. That was my next question.
I don't know. After I just, I have to find somewhere to do it. I just don't, I'm not going to do it somewhere just to do it.
I have to be in the mood to dedicate to it. It's just not, I don't feel like doing it right now.
I don't know if we've mentioned to our listeners that Megan is a certified Zuma instructor for years now.
It's not hard to get certified.
It doesn't matter.
But there's some people that are certified that shouldn't have no business doing it.
That's facts.
That is facts.
And I'll tell you what though, Megan, I've taken her class for years, but even before Megan was in her shoulder, we took classes together for years.
I think I remember starting Zuma when it came out on the DHS tapes that I would do in my basement when I was like 17.
And then we would take me and Megan would take classes together in our 20s in the gym.
And I was going to with Megan probably what 10 years ago, I think so close to maybe eight.
No, no, no, maybe not take close, let us in a decade.
We were going to take the certification class together and I just couldn't afford it at the time.
And Megan was certified.
They're certified in 2015.
And then I got my own class and the pandemic happened and then I took classes like here and there, but then my gym closed.
Let me tell you guys, Megan, not just being one of my best friends, not just knowing her as I know her, she is a fantastic instructor.
Like I do wish that she can surprisingly surprise.
Let me tell you, I'm surprised. I seen her in the clubs when we were teenagers. I'm surprised she got a little she got a little groove thanks to her.
So I would love again for Megan.
I always said I wish Megan would do a live class that you know, a bunch of us could join in and maybe one day do it too.
One day, maybe.
Maybe when it gets nice out.
Yeah, but she's an amazing instructor like she really is. And I also think maybe one day, you know, maybe maybe do like a Zumba YouTube live or something.
And then you know, you can do something like that. People do that as well. They do a lot of them live.
I don't like doing that. You need a whole thing and it's just it's a pain. I've done it. It's pain in the ass.
Because it's hard. You can't you can't like really see and it's like, I don't like doing it. I've done it like twice.
Like in the early on in the pandemic.
Yeah, Zoe, it's hard to hear the music. There's a lag. It's just no.
And I don't I don't like doing it.
And honestly, it's true. There's nothing like being there experiencing.
Oh, yeah.
I don't know. Like I get it. Some people do it. It works.
But I want to do it.
And I'm going to tell everybody I am so picky about my Zumba classes.
Like I, you know, I'm very picky about like I have someone to tell me, oh, yeah, no, this instructor is good.
Or this instructor is good. Check it out. You know what I'm saying? Like for me to just walk into we have now I just I see them doing Zumba and I'm like, I don't know if I want to do it.
And then, you know, and I'll just kind of watch and I'll listen to the music. The music matters, right?
Like all of that is different in it. You know, all of them is different.
And I'll say because you have such an eclectic music taste.
Your whole style of Zumba is very different than others as well. It's not just Latin music.
Yours is an eclectic brand of all kinds of different music. And that makes it that makes it so much better as well. I think.
Yeah, I like I prefer to do like like world music versus just like class like straight out.
Exactly. Exactly.
I get bored with stuff really fast too.
So what's interesting is that on my phone, I get I have an app called motivation, right?
And during the day, it sends me quotes and all kinds of stuff, you know, positive shit or just just just shit that sometimes you know, you need to see, right?
But what's funny is that we're talking about all this transformation and we're talking about being healthy and working out everything else.
And it's a quote from Schitt's Creek from David Rose. And it says, I think one of the most.
Right. It says, I think one of the most important attributes is perseverance.
And I thought that fits in so well. Right. Like that. I think when people become complacent.
That's when that's when shit hits the fan.
I think the whole point of life is to persevere and try to do as best as you can and keep going.
So the only thing you can do is move forward regardless of what obstacles you run into or, you know, when you fall on your face, you got to stand up and move on.
Yeah. Yeah. One thing Megan and I will be discussing at the end.
Last, you know, last episode we did trivia, but this time we're going to look at our 2023 horoscopes for our signs and kind of just see if, again, we don't make it doesn't really believe in that stuff.
And I don't know that I believe in it 100%, but I do like to use it as a kind of like a roadmap to kind of have an idea because sometimes they're spot on other times.
There's ridiculous, right. But just to kind of get an idea to see what we're looking towards.
So Megan, we were talking about music, right and how it can bring us back to a time that makes us feel better.
That's how it makes us feel worse. Music might bring us back to something that happened in the past.
So what other than, you know, again, back to voice because we've talked about that.
Well, we know how we feel about them, but being a dead horse with that.
For you back in the exactly back in the day. What was some and again, I know a lot of it with you too, because we had a lot of the same.
We also have very different tastes in certain music. So like, what are some of the things that you may still listen to or that you listen to back then that really either did something for you or just made you happy or made you feel any type of way?
I would have to go with Justin Timberlake, the first album.
Oh, yeah.
Oh, I don't even know what you're putting in.
I want to say maybe 2000.
I don't know. It's a good trivia question, right?
No, it is. Let's say Justin Timberlake.
Yeah, maybe 2000, maybe 2002. No, I think 2009 or 20, 2001.
1999. No.
Oh, 2002. November, November 5th, 2002.
It's like, when I hear Senorita or just, it just brings me back to college.
Oh, my God. Or college or was it what goes around comes around on that one too?
Yes. And my other favorite album is because I think his older stuff is better.
It's Future Sex Love Sounds when he was dating Cameron Diaz.
I just cannot stand the first single off of that album, still to this day, the one where Sexy Back.
That was on that one, right? That was the main, because it just didn't sound like it to me.
It was so, it was so, it just, it just, to this day, weirdly enough, I'll sing it.
Yeah.
But that album was fire. Yes, it really was. Oh my God.
I can't believe you just used fire.
I did it again. No.
I did it last time also. No.
You know what? You know what it is? Again, it's when you type in stuff and you use fire, it comes out.
Again, I live with a kid. I live and I live with a baby boy now who's obsessed with Fortnite.
So he'll randomly be like, oh, this is fire. Oh, Fortnite.
Oh, for anybody who's listening, yeah, I don't know what Fortnite is.
It is a fantasy game for, you know, it's a video game. It's like a fantasy game.
And you go around, you land in different areas and you basically fight and kill people.
While you're doing it, you have like these different skins or characters that you put on and different kinds of weapons and you bring all kinds of things.
So, but I have a six year old who's obsessed right now and he's so damn good.
Like he's so damn good. Like I watch his little teeny tiny hands on this giant thing, this controller and I'm just like, come on, really?
But like, he's so, he's so good. We don't let him use the headphones and talk to people because I don't want to talk to him.
But it's funny because he will sit with you two in front of him on this tablet where he's watching people play and he learns glitches and he learns how to do this crazy crap.
So it's really weird. So it's like, yeah, so fire happens a lot in my house and it comes out when I least expect it.
Apparently that's what happens. Oh my gosh. That's what happens. Oh my God. Yeah. Yeah.
You don't have the same affliction inside your house.
No, no, no, no, no. You know, there is an album that I go to. There's a few of them, obviously, but there's an album I go to that I still think and people can argue with me.
I want to. That is one of my favorite. One of the best of the 90s, if not fantastically of all times is Supernatural by Santana.
Oh, that was good. With a smooth with a Rob Tom.
Oh, yeah, with smooth. I mean, with Maria Maria. We had Lauren Hill.
It had Rob Thomas. It had you go like cherry like this whole album is beyond like it is amazing.
And if no one has heard it or seen it, I am for you right now. Go get it. Get it on iTunes.
I just told my daughter the other day and there are some instrumentals on it and I will put this CD or album or play it on iTunes, whatever we do now on and just some of the instrumentals alone.
I'll just sit back and be like, damn, you know, it'll take me back to that time because it is a fantastic, fantastic album.
It is just one of those. And Santana is amazing. It always has been. But oh my God.
I love Rob Thomas. He is so good. Like that's why I like to.
Rob Thomas is great.
Yep. Matt Sparks won. He was fantastic. Yes. Yes.
We've had so many really good collaborations, like amongst different genres.
Like he's he's definitely won even still, I think now he does like a lot of TV production and that type of thing.
But he's just very talented and he's he's a very eclectic artist, I think.
He just did one I saw on the view the other day with this older. She's a she's a this older singer.
Her name is Darlene Love. And back in the 60s, she did they call her like the Queen of Christmas.
I know Mariah Carey kind of seemed to take over that with all I want for Christmas is you.
But she baby it's something I forgot something Christmas song that came out in the 60s.
She sang and is one of the biggest Christmas songs.
Baby it's cold outside. No, it's not that one. It's it's something something Christmas.
I forgot if you look at Christmas baby, please come home.
Yes. Christmas baby, please come home. Yes. And she's performing this and Rob Thomas was just on the view singing it with her.
Like they did a collab for her new Christmas album as well.
Speaking of Rob Thomas, this was last week. I was just watching him on the view and I haven't seen him for like 10 years.
Yeah. Yeah, she is. Yeah. Very nice. Very beautiful. The lady.
And so she's in the in the Ronettes. Ronettes.
Is she see you learn something every day. I had no idea. I just knew her name. So there you go.
You know, so yeah, Rob Thomas is amazing. I laugh. I think of Mark like Mark McGrath.
Remember that Mark McGrath was huge back then and those kind of in those sugar.
Yeah, sugar rain that in that whole genre. Right.
But one thing we didn't talk about a lot two things last time was the female music influences of the 90s.
Right. Yeah. And we touched on it. But I realized I we talked about Selena, right? That's great.
I forgot TLC. So yeah, saw him pepper. I mean, there was TLC saw him pepper. There was and vote and vote.
We're talking J. We're talking, I mean, I again, the list is another one.
That was bad. Bad boy records. Total. Total. Total was huge.
Faith Evans. I mean, like we can keep the amount of girl groups that was Queen Latifah.
There was MC lights. And she's freaking beautiful and phenomenal.
There's MC lights. There were people please send us again.
Little Kim. Little Kim. Foxy Brown.
I mean, I get a lot of. You know, boxy brown. I mean, and it was every genre. Right. It wasn't just like, OK, one was here.
One was there. They were bad ass in every single genre. Look at country pop. We had Shania Twain.
Right. She was in the 90s. Carrie Underwood came up. What?
Early 2000s. Black. Oh, remember that?
Bring it on. In sync. No, she's a.
From it. Exactly. Exactly. And it goes. It goes on and on.
You know, I was thinking again about three LW.
W. They were a little younger than us. Three LW.
Oh, Danny D. Kane. I like them. They were like super slutty.
Well, because you hit the nail on the head.
Destiny's Child. Yeah. Oh, OK. Thank you. Destiny's Child. Because.
Piancé. Piancé. But Destiny's Child. She didn't have a gray all or all on her own.
Exactly. But Destiny's Child. Let's do. You know, they were so phenomenal as a group.
Like phenomenal. Again, like I say with TLC. Let me tell you 1994's Red Lights Special.
Crazy Sexy Fool. I still am again. I was the gray album.
This day is one of the best probably ever created.
It is just fantastic. And it holds true still to this day.
That entire album. It is unbelievable. Unbelievable.
I mean, I feel like a lot, even though I feel like a lot of artists,
like their first album is the best album. I mean, even like switching gears,
even like usher like that, like nice and slow. Oh my God.
Let me tell you. Sure.
R&B is not what it like what it used to be.
Because I mean like babyface. I mean, he's written so many songs.
Brian McKnight is just. Drew Hill. Joe. Drew Hill, Cisco.
Oh my God. Like, Joe to see.
There are so many of them. They're just, it's, it's not voice to men.
We didn't even talk about voice to men last time. I, listen, I wasn't.
I was insulted at myself. I wasn't insulted at myself.
I was like, I got myself the, we got off last time. I said, how did we not mention voice to men?
Do you know what I heard like a week ago when I was driving to the store?
I heard Bobby Brown like humping around.
Oh, and you know what? Bobby Brown's old shit is fire.
I said it. I said it. Okay. Like his voice. I just couldn't.
I was too like, I don't know. I loved all of them.
I lived to bow only had like one good, one song. They had it. Yeah.
And Tevin Campbell was another one. Oh, yeah.
Tevin Campbell and, and, and genuine, although.
Oh yeah. You see videos now, genuine. And it's like, Poppy, please stop.
It's like, you can still see some of that other stuff. Maybe slow it down a notch, you know, it's a, it's a little much for me now.
But, you know, there's so many influences that we had growing up.
And to this day, I, like I said, I put that on a pedestal, right? Like I put that music on a pedestal just because I, you know what is I know what I need for the time that I needed.
Right. Like I had, I had.
You need, you need like, right. You need like thrice or like heavy.
And right. I had on ever will be the other day. I really shouldn't laugh because I don't like the pop stuff. But like her like slow, her slower songs are actually, they're good.
Yes. Yes. I literally had her on the other day and I was like, Oh my God, this song is like touching me right now. Like I needed this right now.
So there's, she is a, she is a good songwriter. Yeah. Yeah.
And when I think back to like, I looked some of the same and I go, she was a really good singer too. Like she had, she has going for her. We saw her. Do you remember?
Yeah. With the back. With the back.
I went to see boys to men. Me and my sister a couple weeks ago.
Oh, really?
We did. We saw them at NJ pack and it was fantastic. They really, really were the place was damn near sold out.
They put on a whole like it was an hour and a half of a show.
Yeah. It was a real, and it was like boom, boom, boom hour and a half. We've been to concerts where they bullshit for like a while. No, you can tell they were like, we get through this.
Like who else we didn't talk about? Jenna Jackson, Rosie, Monica. Thank you.
Oh, remember Sofria? Sofria, we got you.
Okay. Then there's also one.
Tony Braxton.
So, and then there's also one from Issa.
I swear. And I can love you like that. Color me bad. Ghost town DJs.
Tell me bad. I was like, you know, 10 years old talking about I want to sexy you up.
Oh my God. Now, my kids were singing. I'd be like, Oh, sing on us. But I was a kid singing this these all these songs, right?
And you're like Mary J Blige.
Oh my God. The list keeps going.
They're singing and all of them are still relevant today.
They are because you tell me, could you even name any R&B singers? No, I couldn't. I couldn't.
I'm sure they're I'm sure they're out there. I really am. However, I don't know that they have the same impact or that they have the same.
No, no, no, as the ones that we're used to and the ones that were growing up. But I definitely don't. I think that they're I'm sure they have.
I'm sure there's great ones. I'm sure there's great ones out there. But it's just very different now. I think the whole impact is very different.
You know, as a Z, as the A who is a C is a CZA. She's a few say that. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah.
You said as the A right? Yeah. That's CZA. Yeah. You know, and that's another one too. That's the thing. We have so many.
I mean, like I like Lizzo now. She's not actually R&B. I don't really know what she's considered if she's considered pop or whatever.
I would say she's pop. Yeah, but I love because you know, she plays the flute. She's a floutist and she plays the flute. She's fantastic.
You know what I mean? She's not even like a singer. She said herself. She just she plays her flute and it just became a thing.
And I think she's great. She's really good at her music is good. So there's so many. There's so much out there now that even I'm not necessarily aware of.
But I still look back and I still look back because it's easy to look back while you're looking forward. Yeah.
Because I feel like a lot of what I went through back in the day up till probably this morning will help me, you know, going forward.
And I don't think there's anything wrong with doing nostalgic and wanting and wanting that feeling of what we thought were simpler times.
Right. You know, when you when I look back at what I have what I weighed in my mind, they were simpler. They were simpler times.
I wish right. They were simpler. But also we they were. But we also didn't have all these means of communication or.
Oh, depressing. Or apps like all that.
All those types of things either. Yeah. I mean, I'm glad we didn't we didn't have any of that stuff.
Oh, I was telling Natalie. I was telling Natalie and we're all going to find this really funny.
Megan and I listen. First of all, it was normal. These were what girls did guys did it too. We have like photo shoots, you know, with our disposable cameras and everything else.
And then I was thinking about today I was telling my daughter about that. And I was like, oh my God, we're worried about things being online today.
Imagine the creepers who were developing these films.
But even now I get developing these films and looking at them and saying came through the young girls.
And the way we could tell you to think about that. Did you know? But oh, no, now I am.
But even now, though, like I'll get I mean, I don't get like dirty pictures develop.
But I mean, when I sent pictures for like from like vacation or like vacation, I think people, you know, people are looking at those.
But they're printing them out. Exactly. Exactly. Oh my God. That's crazy.
You know, they you know, they were you know, they are. I mean, even you know, even like, you know, our digital footprint, you don't know who's looking at that stuff.
Very true. Very true. Oh my God. You know, we were talking about dance hall. Dance hall was one of my favorites.
Oh, yeah.
And the players there was Lou Juvanshan, there was Sasha, there was Diana King, Sean Paul, I don't know if Shaggy's considered dance hall or if he's I'm not quite sure.
But you know, he's gone. Yes, he was a crossover. That's why. Because he was a little yeah, he had some stuff to and freestyle.
We forgot freestyle. I mean, like, I don't know what freestyle is.
Thank you. I was going to ask you because growing up in New York freestyle was huge.
I have no idea what that is.
And I was going to ask you if in Jersey they had it. I can't honestly.
I don't even know what that is.
I can't even explain it to you when we're done here looking up and listen to it. Unfortunately, because of licensing, you can't actually play any of it.
We're trying to suck. I would love to play some of it. But realistically, look it up and anybody who has grew up in that area, no freestyle, send it to Megan.
She'll know.
I can't even explain it to be honest with you. Like that was even funny about it.
So I don't even know what it is.
I don't know.
So, you know, Meg, we've talked a lot about what we went through, what we hope for, and what we've learned.
And so I think to end this podcast and to hopefully a prosperous 2023 and healthy and blessed.
I said it Megan and blessed.
New year.
So I'm going to end this podcast with our horoscopes and I'll start with mine.
So for a Pisces, I'm a Pisces. I'm March 10.
I'm not going to read the whole thing. I'll just give you all a just an idea.
2023 is not a bad year for Pisces as a whole, especially the first half of the year, no matter what you do, it will be exceptionally smooth.
But you also can make many like minded good friends.
Pisces will get a lot of new opportunities in 2023 and we continue to get promoted and raised.
Pisces will make a lot of money in 2023, but it comes with some risks.
Well wouldn't it.
Pisces will encounter some emotional problems in 2023.
That's not shocking because 2022 was a doozy.
You will eventually have a peaceful love and marriage life. That's all I asked for.
And my health horoscope.
Pisces will be in good health in 2023 and will not be hit by severe illnesses, but minor ailments will be unavoidable.
This year we should pay attention to body maintenance.
I'm going to close that off. That is something that I've been paying attention to because you know, when you are stressed and you are emotionally drained, your body goes with that.
Right. So it's about trying to get your body and your mind centered and get it right.
What about you, Megan? Anything for Gemini?
Oh, I found a really long one. There we go.
It says, although the season tends to be super social and full of the exact level of travel and doozy thrive on, it's probably been a bit sleepier this year.
I'd beg to differ. After all, you're kicking off 2023 with your ruler messenger mercury moving backward through your intimacy sector and throwing your focus on pretty heavy matters of the heart.
You've been asking yourself what makes you comfortable within your closest bond and how you can continue or even better nurture whatever that is.
Interesting.
We'll see what happens.
Yeah.
Like I said, we can just put that try as hard as we can with that positive energy out there and hope for the best, right?
Because that's really all we can do.
We can just take one foot, one step at a time and take care of ourselves.
Everybody take care of yourself. Remember that out there.
It's important. Take care of your soul, your mind, your body, your spirit, your emotions.
Don't be afraid to reach out when you need it.
If anything, we've noticed that people don't reach out when they're feeling any type of way.
And that's just, that's just, you know, headed for a disaster.
And there's so much.
Put yourself first.
Yeah. Put yourself first. Take care of yourself.
Don't let people drain the crap out of you because people are drains and it doesn't matter if they're family, friends, if it's a toxic relationship, take care of that shift.
Put yourself first and learn how to do that.
And to me, I feel like I'm preaching from the choir, but that's something that I'm working on myself, you know, and don't let people drain your energy because it just, it's just, you'll be the one to get sick off of it before somebody else does.
Well, also, if you, but if you also like take care of yourself and better yourself, it will trickle out eventually.
Oh my God. Yeah, you are so correct.
You know, what is again, it's that same idea that positive attracts positive, right?
It's the same shit when you're, when you're around someone who's just got dark negative energy and aura, you can feel that shit.
They're called energy suckers and it's a real thing.
And I think that if I'm an energy sucker, you can be.
You can be.
What? Here's the thing though. So can I.
Everybody is an energy sucker though.
This past year I told my cousin, I said, I don't think I'm very good company that times this year because what I've gone through, I feel like sometimes it becomes just this thing where I'm just viewing it because I'm just not thinking about it.
It's just because it's like when you have no one to talk to about certain things, sometimes you try to get it out and you don't realize, right?
And that becomes, then I feel afterwards, holy shit, that I just sucked a life out of somebody with this shit, right?
And you can, but if you have a really solid foundation of people that care for you, that's what they're there for.
Right? So to sit there and feel you and listen to that.
And that's what's really important.
And I, I wish that for you, Megan, because I love you and I wish that for all of our listeners, friends, family, everybody are happy and prosperous new year.
I'm down with jays.
Right.
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