WEBVTT 00:00:03.790 --> 00:00:06.669 From the time that they pronounced me that was 00:00:06.669 --> 00:00:10.250 a good 45 minutes They cut my clothes and then 00:00:10.250 --> 00:00:13.609 they paddled my heart my heart stopped and I 00:00:13.609 --> 00:00:17.129 could see people screaming and crying But I didn't 00:00:17.129 --> 00:00:19.510 realize that was actually my physical body because 00:00:19.510 --> 00:00:22.890 I was somewhere else The only thing that I could 00:00:22.890 --> 00:00:26.809 feel if you can imagine Absolute love and peace 00:00:26.809 --> 00:00:29.829 there wasn't anything else to be felt. I was 00:00:29.829 --> 00:00:33.070 greeted by people I'd known in the past I'm back 00:00:33.070 --> 00:00:36.710 home again. Incredibly safe and felt at home. 00:00:39.070 --> 00:00:41.109 Welcome, welcome to Round Trip Death everybody 00:00:41.109 --> 00:00:45.130 and a very special warm welcome today to our 00:00:45.130 --> 00:00:49.310 guest Kohila Sivas. I hope I pronounced that 00:00:49.310 --> 00:00:53.009 right. Beautiful, perfect. Thank you. Kohila, 00:00:53.009 --> 00:00:56.409 how are you doing today? I am always blessed 00:00:56.409 --> 00:01:00.289 and I always live a blissful life. Well, and 00:01:00.289 --> 00:01:02.630 we feel blessed to have you on. We've been trying 00:01:02.630 --> 00:01:05.349 to coordinate this for a while, and I'm really 00:01:05.349 --> 00:01:08.290 glad that it finally came together. There was 00:01:08.290 --> 00:01:11.890 some kind of hand in that, I believe. Before 00:01:11.890 --> 00:01:15.109 we jump in and talk about your near -death experience 00:01:15.109 --> 00:01:17.250 and the many things that you've learned from 00:01:17.250 --> 00:01:20.829 it, and how it's guided your life, would you 00:01:20.829 --> 00:01:24.310 just give our listeners a little insight? Who's 00:01:24.310 --> 00:01:29.159 Kohila? Kohila is someone who didn't stop. Creating 00:01:29.159 --> 00:01:32.019 a path that works. I never settle. I've never 00:01:32.019 --> 00:01:34.140 settled There were so many moments in my life. 00:01:34.159 --> 00:01:35.920 I could have settled and said, you know what? 00:01:36.000 --> 00:01:39.019 This is what life is Just give up just take it 00:01:39.019 --> 00:01:42.060 for what it is. But no There's always another 00:01:42.060 --> 00:01:44.500 path you can create and I've always created that 00:01:44.500 --> 00:01:47.739 and it's been hard, but I don't give up She would 00:01:47.739 --> 00:01:50.500 never give up. Kohila does not give up. You know, 00:01:50.500 --> 00:01:54.159 it's funny that term settle because It can have 00:01:54.159 --> 00:01:57.040 kind of negative connotations like oh he's settling 00:01:57.040 --> 00:02:00.849 for that But also the old term of, you know, 00:02:01.010 --> 00:02:03.969 settle down and do this and have this kind of 00:02:03.969 --> 00:02:08.169 life has sort of a positive tone to it. How is 00:02:08.169 --> 00:02:11.509 it for you? Yeah, I've settled in some areas. 00:02:11.530 --> 00:02:14.270 I've settled with the husband. I settled to have 00:02:14.270 --> 00:02:16.969 kids. I settled in many areas, but there are 00:02:16.969 --> 00:02:19.310 things that you cannot settle. For example, I 00:02:19.310 --> 00:02:23.030 was a teacher. I saw the system. I walked in 00:02:23.030 --> 00:02:25.650 and I quickly walked out because I wasn't going 00:02:25.650 --> 00:02:29.210 to settle. Right. There are things you can't 00:02:29.210 --> 00:02:31.270 settle. Yeah. So when you say that, you mean 00:02:31.270 --> 00:02:34.629 sort of settling for something lower than should 00:02:34.629 --> 00:02:37.310 be where you're at or, or what you're worthy 00:02:37.310 --> 00:02:39.449 of. That makes sense. How many children do you 00:02:39.449 --> 00:02:43.490 have? I have one, one of my own and four, four 00:02:43.490 --> 00:02:48.389 step kids. That's awesome. All right. Well, Without 00:02:48.389 --> 00:02:50.650 further ado, I want to jump into it because I 00:02:50.650 --> 00:02:53.689 have not heard your story yet. So I'm as excited 00:02:53.689 --> 00:02:56.250 as anybody, but I know it was kind of a rough 00:02:56.250 --> 00:03:00.229 one, too. So would you take us back to a younger 00:03:00.229 --> 00:03:03.689 point in life and kind of lead up to, you know, 00:03:03.689 --> 00:03:06.129 what was going on in your life that led to this? 00:03:06.729 --> 00:03:09.110 Yeah, I was born in Sri Lanka. It's a small town, 00:03:09.189 --> 00:03:11.990 small island underneath India. It's a separate 00:03:11.990 --> 00:03:15.310 country. We had a war. The year I was born, my 00:03:15.310 --> 00:03:18.770 dad lost everything. So we had a war that was 00:03:18.770 --> 00:03:21.509 threatening everything in our life. So I grew 00:03:21.509 --> 00:03:24.990 up very scared, always looking out for danger. 00:03:25.590 --> 00:03:28.530 So eventually my dad left us, and then I was 00:03:28.530 --> 00:03:32.490 growing up with my grandfather. So from my grandfather, 00:03:32.689 --> 00:03:36.069 I learned that not always people will understand 00:03:36.069 --> 00:03:39.659 you. You always have to be very graceful. and 00:03:39.659 --> 00:03:41.759 give them space to learn about you. So I've got 00:03:41.759 --> 00:03:44.259 that from him. He was always a person who did 00:03:44.259 --> 00:03:46.860 that for me. And I learned that from him. And 00:03:46.860 --> 00:03:48.979 then finally, one day my dad was able to bring 00:03:48.979 --> 00:03:52.120 us to Canada. So I said goodbye to my grandparents, 00:03:52.199 --> 00:03:54.659 but I was so young. I was six. I didn't even 00:03:54.659 --> 00:03:57.139 hug them properly when I left. I just like, I'm 00:03:57.139 --> 00:04:00.800 just going on a plane. I'll be back. So, but 00:04:00.800 --> 00:04:02.659 that was my last time I was going to see them. 00:04:02.840 --> 00:04:04.900 So I've never seen them after that. They died 00:04:04.900 --> 00:04:08.180 in the war. So I came to Canada and it was... 00:04:08.250 --> 00:04:11.810 It was a big difference from Sri Lanka. It's 00:04:11.810 --> 00:04:17.310 not an easy move. You know, when I was not too 00:04:17.310 --> 00:04:19.970 much older than that, I moved from a tropical 00:04:19.970 --> 00:04:24.829 climate place to Utah with snow and all that 00:04:24.829 --> 00:04:27.029 kind of stuff. Was that part of the adjustment? 00:04:27.870 --> 00:04:31.089 Yeah, the cold was one. Culture, weather, everything? 00:04:32.069 --> 00:04:34.529 Yes, I was just different. I was so different 00:04:34.529 --> 00:04:37.910 from everybody else. So that's where I use what 00:04:37.910 --> 00:04:39.990 my grandfather always taught me, right? Like 00:04:39.990 --> 00:04:43.029 if people don't know you, give them space to 00:04:43.029 --> 00:04:44.810 learn about you, right? So I said one day they 00:04:44.810 --> 00:04:46.910 will, you know, people will know about me and 00:04:46.910 --> 00:04:48.790 Kohila and her background, but right now they 00:04:48.790 --> 00:04:51.250 don't. I'm the one who's visiting a new place, 00:04:51.250 --> 00:04:55.850 so let's just learn to live in a new place. Unfortunately, 00:04:55.889 --> 00:04:59.000 I didn't know the language. So there was a language 00:04:59.000 --> 00:05:01.879 barrier. So at home, my parents also didn't speak 00:05:01.879 --> 00:05:04.800 much English, but my dad losing everything. He 00:05:04.800 --> 00:05:07.199 was very well off in Sri Lanka. He lost everything. 00:05:07.259 --> 00:05:10.319 So he also became alcoholic. So our household 00:05:10.319 --> 00:05:13.740 was not always a pleasant place to be. So I didn't 00:05:13.740 --> 00:05:17.379 have anywhere to be safe as a young person. That 00:05:17.379 --> 00:05:21.279 is way rough. I can't imagine that. So what did 00:05:21.279 --> 00:05:25.779 that lead to? That led to me becoming very smart. 00:05:26.490 --> 00:05:29.009 Talking to my brain and my brain and I became 00:05:29.009 --> 00:05:31.329 so friendly that it would tell me things to do 00:05:31.329 --> 00:05:33.810 and I listened to it very closely Because that's 00:05:33.810 --> 00:05:35.850 the only partner I had because I can't talk to 00:05:35.850 --> 00:05:38.370 my parents. I can't talk at school So first thing 00:05:38.370 --> 00:05:41.189 you told me that you should mute yourself Because 00:05:41.189 --> 00:05:43.209 if you mute yourself, nobody will know you don't 00:05:43.209 --> 00:05:46.250 know English. I Said yeah, that sounds like a 00:05:46.250 --> 00:05:49.050 great plan. You're absolutely right. So that's 00:05:49.050 --> 00:05:51.389 exactly what I did at school as I muted myself 00:05:51.389 --> 00:05:53.689 I don't talk to anybody. I was the shy girl who 00:05:53.689 --> 00:05:56.279 doesn't you know, the quiet one who doesn't, 00:05:56.420 --> 00:05:58.980 we don't need to bother her. She's fine. But 00:05:58.980 --> 00:06:02.199 she wasn't fine. How often at this point in your 00:06:02.199 --> 00:06:04.720 life do you look back and go, wow, I've come 00:06:04.720 --> 00:06:10.180 so far? Every single day. Yeah. That's why I 00:06:10.180 --> 00:06:12.740 said I live a blissful life. To be blissful, 00:06:12.740 --> 00:06:15.980 you have to look that and say, wow, you made 00:06:15.980 --> 00:06:18.620 it. All right. Well, keep going on this journey. 00:06:18.779 --> 00:06:22.569 It's interesting. Muting myself gave me protection, 00:06:22.629 --> 00:06:25.529 for sure, at school. Nobody bothered me. Everybody 00:06:25.529 --> 00:06:27.910 left me alone. At home, it was very rough, and 00:06:27.910 --> 00:06:31.189 my dad was very strict, and he wanted best for 00:06:31.189 --> 00:06:33.470 all of us. But he just didn't know how to parent. 00:06:33.550 --> 00:06:35.850 He just did it the way he knew. So it was always 00:06:35.850 --> 00:06:40.209 rough and scary. So I started not enjoying being 00:06:40.209 --> 00:06:42.449 at home. And my mom was always very scared of 00:06:42.449 --> 00:06:46.060 my dad and very... respectful to him, even though 00:06:46.060 --> 00:06:48.560 he didn't know how to parent us. So there was 00:06:48.560 --> 00:06:51.639 a lot of gap between our relationship, right? 00:06:51.660 --> 00:06:54.279 So it was just me growing up in a very empty, 00:06:54.579 --> 00:06:57.019 empty inside, empty outside. Everything was empty. 00:06:57.579 --> 00:07:00.060 There's nothing to be filled. So that's when 00:07:00.060 --> 00:07:04.540 I, about 12 years, when I became 12, then my 00:07:04.540 --> 00:07:06.680 brain and I were planning so many things. And 00:07:06.680 --> 00:07:09.220 one of the things I planned with my brain's help 00:07:09.220 --> 00:07:12.649 was to end my life because it was too hard. There's 00:07:12.649 --> 00:07:15.250 no answers in my life. There was nothing living 00:07:15.250 --> 00:07:18.470 for I didn't see into anything and then my household 00:07:18.470 --> 00:07:21.829 was getting more and more Hostile for me to live 00:07:21.829 --> 00:07:25.350 in so I decided that of course with the help 00:07:25.350 --> 00:07:28.550 of my brain Giving me all the facts why I should 00:07:28.550 --> 00:07:32.149 not live further. I decided to end my life at 00:07:32.149 --> 00:07:36.730 the age of 12 Probably a good point to throw 00:07:36.730 --> 00:07:39.290 out the crisis hotline if anybody is feeling 00:07:39.290 --> 00:07:42.889 this Nearly every country around the world just 00:07:42.889 --> 00:07:45.410 pick up your phone dial 9 -8 -8. There's somebody 00:07:45.410 --> 00:07:49.970 there you can talk to Absolutely. So I keep saying 00:07:49.970 --> 00:07:52.970 I was talking to my brain, right? That brain 00:07:52.970 --> 00:07:55.709 we have is a very powerful machine It can bring 00:07:55.709 --> 00:07:58.509 us so many so many information and present to 00:07:58.509 --> 00:08:01.230 us as such a fact is so fact They look at it. 00:08:01.230 --> 00:08:03.230 You should end you like because of this reason 00:08:03.230 --> 00:08:06.329 this reason so the next day I'm in the hospital 00:08:06.329 --> 00:08:11.449 I wake up Obviously, I ended my life. I survived. 00:08:11.910 --> 00:08:14.610 I wake up and my brain's talking to me again, 00:08:15.389 --> 00:08:17.649 but not in the same way it talked to me the day 00:08:17.649 --> 00:08:21.189 before. It's telling me, why did you do this? 00:08:21.329 --> 00:08:23.610 Well, how can you do this? Look at your parents. 00:08:23.750 --> 00:08:25.730 Look at this. I mean, look at your life. You 00:08:25.730 --> 00:08:27.189 could have done this and that. I'm like, excuse 00:08:27.189 --> 00:08:30.009 me, who are you? Yesterday, you were validating 00:08:30.009 --> 00:08:32.519 why I shouldn't be here. today you're telling 00:08:32.519 --> 00:08:35.500 me all these reasons why I what I did is wrong 00:08:35.500 --> 00:08:38.279 like who is this person like it betrayed me my 00:08:38.279 --> 00:08:42.480 brain betrayed me that's the worst it can ever 00:08:42.480 --> 00:08:44.580 happen to somebody right I mean only friend I 00:08:44.580 --> 00:08:47.580 had was my brain it's telling me right opposite 00:08:47.580 --> 00:08:50.519 to everything you told me the day before that 00:08:50.519 --> 00:08:53.039 was the first time I felt the power of how the 00:08:53.039 --> 00:08:56.820 brain can manipulate and manipulate us and make 00:08:56.820 --> 00:08:59.580 it believe that it controls us. I mean, at that 00:08:59.580 --> 00:09:01.480 12 years old, I didn't really have all the puzzles. 00:09:01.480 --> 00:09:05.340 Now, how I use my methodology to coach others 00:09:05.340 --> 00:09:08.799 and help others, I know our brain doesn't own 00:09:08.799 --> 00:09:14.240 us. We own it. As long as we own it, we can get 00:09:14.240 --> 00:09:16.360 it to do whatever we want. And that's what I 00:09:16.360 --> 00:09:18.519 did afterwards. I'm like, oh, hold on a second. 00:09:19.740 --> 00:09:22.299 You actually can talk whichever way you want 00:09:22.299 --> 00:09:26.289 to talk. You're really not that powerful. I am 00:09:26.289 --> 00:09:28.750 powerful. I can manipulate you just like you 00:09:28.750 --> 00:09:32.929 manipulated me right now. I like it. So I started 00:09:32.929 --> 00:09:35.169 playing games with my brain. I'm like, okay, 00:09:35.450 --> 00:09:37.289 you tell me that I'm going to ask you more questions. 00:09:37.309 --> 00:09:40.070 Tell me more, right? Tell me more. All right, 00:09:40.070 --> 00:09:41.970 we're going to circle back to this whole brain 00:09:41.970 --> 00:09:45.490 thing. First, I want to hear more about the near 00:09:45.490 --> 00:09:48.070 -death experience itself. Did you have some kind 00:09:48.070 --> 00:09:51.889 of a spiritual awakening or out -of -body experience 00:09:51.889 --> 00:09:56.250 or anything like that? At the time when I did 00:09:56.250 --> 00:09:59.190 meet somebody in my hotel hospital, somebody 00:09:59.190 --> 00:10:01.330 came and talked to me. I didn't see that person 00:10:01.330 --> 00:10:03.629 afterwards. Like, I don't know who it was. The 00:10:03.629 --> 00:10:07.149 person came to me, felt Almost looked like a 00:10:07.149 --> 00:10:09.110 doctor, but I was searching for that doctor later 00:10:09.110 --> 00:10:11.629 on I couldn't see that same doctor ever again 00:10:11.629 --> 00:10:13.929 Right. I don't say this to people because people 00:10:13.929 --> 00:10:16.629 might think I'm crazy But what I what they told 00:10:16.629 --> 00:10:20.110 me was you need to rest and you have a purpose 00:10:20.110 --> 00:10:23.190 You need to rest and you have a purpose and I 00:10:23.190 --> 00:10:25.629 was looking Afterwards for this doctor that told 00:10:25.629 --> 00:10:27.830 me this and they were dressed in the doctor outfit, 00:10:27.830 --> 00:10:30.129 but the doctor came after would never looked 00:10:30.129 --> 00:10:33.779 like that person What do you make of that? Was 00:10:33.779 --> 00:10:36.759 that a real person? Was that a vision of something? 00:10:37.159 --> 00:10:40.679 What was that? That was because I believe in 00:10:40.679 --> 00:10:43.919 God. That's the visit from God telling me you 00:10:43.919 --> 00:10:46.240 do have a purpose. And I think I execute that 00:10:46.240 --> 00:10:48.799 purpose to this day. I do believe the purpose 00:10:48.799 --> 00:10:51.279 was given to me on that day. And even though 00:10:51.279 --> 00:10:55.259 I didn't know exactly what it was, because until 00:10:55.259 --> 00:10:58.379 32, I really was struggling. continue to struggle 00:10:58.379 --> 00:11:00.860 because, you know, maybe working through my brain, 00:11:00.879 --> 00:11:03.000 I was doing things. As I said, I always create 00:11:03.000 --> 00:11:05.580 a path and move forward. I was doing it, but 00:11:05.580 --> 00:11:09.799 until I was 32, I didn't get my rebirth. I had 00:11:09.799 --> 00:11:13.500 a rebirth at 32 where I knew this is my purpose 00:11:13.500 --> 00:11:16.879 and nothing will stop me kind of. Right. But 00:11:16.879 --> 00:11:19.799 I know that day was given to me, but I didn't 00:11:19.799 --> 00:11:25.820 own it until I was 32. Okay. When we refer to 00:11:25.820 --> 00:11:28.000 near -death experiences, a lot of people that 00:11:28.000 --> 00:11:33.940 I've talked to have had one of those, you know, 00:11:34.320 --> 00:11:37.279 clinically dead, gone to the light kind of thing, 00:11:37.440 --> 00:11:40.720 saw heaven kind of thing. Did you have anything 00:11:40.720 --> 00:11:44.159 like that happen at all or was it just this experience 00:11:44.159 --> 00:11:47.779 with the doctor? But the doctor, when he came 00:11:47.779 --> 00:11:50.820 in, it was very different. The world was different, 00:11:51.000 --> 00:11:53.740 like the environment was different, right? Like 00:11:53.740 --> 00:11:55.919 I was out of it, so I can't really tell what 00:11:55.919 --> 00:11:58.440 was happening, but all I know is that that person 00:11:58.440 --> 00:12:01.179 who said all those words was never to be found. 00:12:01.259 --> 00:12:04.299 That's why I know, because I was searching for 00:12:04.299 --> 00:12:06.980 that person. I wanted them to tell me more stuff 00:12:06.980 --> 00:12:09.820 because what they said resonated so much to me 00:12:09.820 --> 00:12:11.679 at that time. I was looking with them and they 00:12:11.679 --> 00:12:14.279 never came back. And that's why I know it was 00:12:14.279 --> 00:12:16.279 different. That was the, that's how I felt. I 00:12:16.279 --> 00:12:18.570 didn't feel any lights. I just feel like where 00:12:18.570 --> 00:12:21.929 did that person go? That was my question And 00:12:21.929 --> 00:12:23.730 when you use the term environment, what do you 00:12:23.730 --> 00:12:26.370 mean by that? Did the room seem different or 00:12:26.370 --> 00:12:30.809 yeah? It shifted explain So the room may come 00:12:30.809 --> 00:12:34.389 very cloudy. It was very cloudy And uh, I couldn't 00:12:34.389 --> 00:12:36.409 see beyond the person that was talking to the 00:12:36.409 --> 00:12:39.049 doctor. I couldn't see anything beyond him It 00:12:39.049 --> 00:12:42.549 was just me and him and that's it In this in 00:12:42.549 --> 00:12:45.960 this it's almost like a smoke but not over him 00:12:45.960 --> 00:12:47.820 or anything, just behind him and everything. 00:12:47.879 --> 00:12:50.200 I couldn't see anything further than him. It 00:12:50.200 --> 00:12:54.159 was just the one image of that person and me, 00:12:54.360 --> 00:12:57.899 and that person's telling me. Was anything else 00:12:57.899 --> 00:13:00.720 said? Did you ask him anything? At that time, 00:13:00.820 --> 00:13:03.620 at 12, I never spoke to people. I was very quiet. 00:13:03.759 --> 00:13:06.860 I muted for myself most of the time, so I was 00:13:06.860 --> 00:13:10.129 just receiving it. I'm like, okay. All right, 00:13:10.129 --> 00:13:12.389 I promised we would circle back you were talking 00:13:12.389 --> 00:13:15.350 about the conversation with your brain Let's 00:13:15.350 --> 00:13:17.610 get back into that. Where did that go? Where 00:13:17.610 --> 00:13:21.070 did it take you? Oh, it took me so far ahead 00:13:21.070 --> 00:13:24.009 in life, right? So first time I started speaking 00:13:24.009 --> 00:13:26.289 back to my brain I never listened anything after 00:13:26.289 --> 00:13:28.350 that betrayal from my brain. I never listened 00:13:28.350 --> 00:13:30.169 to it anytime. It says something I'm like, okay, 00:13:30.269 --> 00:13:32.690 tell me more. Tell me the facts What else you 00:13:32.690 --> 00:13:35.009 got to say to me and I always override it. I'm 00:13:35.009 --> 00:13:36.669 like, no, I don't think I'm gonna do that I'm 00:13:36.669 --> 00:13:38.860 gonna do it this way And then it'll jump and 00:13:38.860 --> 00:13:40.519 say, oh, so many things. I'm like, yeah, shut 00:13:40.519 --> 00:13:42.899 up. I don't care. But you've got to say, I'm 00:13:42.899 --> 00:13:45.500 doing it this way. So I always started overriding 00:13:45.500 --> 00:13:47.659 it, because I was almost mad, because that was 00:13:47.659 --> 00:13:50.539 the only friendship I had. So I'm not going to 00:13:50.539 --> 00:13:52.580 do what you say. The first time I started really 00:13:52.580 --> 00:13:55.480 implementing my brain and my power and all of 00:13:55.480 --> 00:13:58.500 that was in math. I went really into math and 00:13:58.500 --> 00:14:01.419 used math as a therapy during my coming back 00:14:01.419 --> 00:14:04.049 into life. That's what I used as a therapy to 00:14:04.049 --> 00:14:06.330 really build my confidence because in life I 00:14:06.330 --> 00:14:09.149 couldn't solve any problems. But in math, I would 00:14:09.149 --> 00:14:12.009 always get answers if I spend time and if I solve 00:14:12.009 --> 00:14:14.950 something, I can solve it. So that's how I became 00:14:14.950 --> 00:14:19.149 really excited about, OK, I can actually get 00:14:19.149 --> 00:14:23.590 something done in life. I can accomplish something. 00:14:24.190 --> 00:14:27.389 So talking to my brain and with the help of math 00:14:27.389 --> 00:14:30.490 as a therapy. I became really good at that. And 00:14:30.490 --> 00:14:32.190 that's what I wanted to share with others. You 00:14:32.190 --> 00:14:34.250 know, when I left school, I'm like, let's become 00:14:34.250 --> 00:14:37.809 a teacher and share this with others. And that's 00:14:37.809 --> 00:14:39.590 why I went into teaching because I wanted to 00:14:39.590 --> 00:14:42.789 help students like me who were quiet, who go 00:14:42.789 --> 00:14:45.409 unnoticed in the classrooms, right? I can really 00:14:45.409 --> 00:14:47.429 connect with them because I have that happen 00:14:47.429 --> 00:14:49.970 to me. So I'm like, okay, I can do, and I can 00:14:49.970 --> 00:14:52.789 also share the math, which becomes the therapy. 00:14:53.250 --> 00:14:56.110 So it kind of have to edge to it. So I was excited, 00:14:56.129 --> 00:14:58.490 but in the school system, I couldn't really get 00:14:58.490 --> 00:15:01.990 to the people I wanted to get to. So where did 00:15:01.990 --> 00:15:04.669 this lead you in life? Yeah, after that I started 00:15:04.669 --> 00:15:06.850 my own business. As I said, I created my path. 00:15:06.950 --> 00:15:08.950 They said, you know what, the school's not working. 00:15:09.110 --> 00:15:11.809 Let's start a tutoring business. There I also 00:15:11.809 --> 00:15:14.470 got stuff with people coming to buy marks, like 00:15:14.470 --> 00:15:16.850 they wanted me to work for their marks. that 00:15:16.850 --> 00:15:19.669 didn't sit with me well. I wanted to create really 00:15:19.669 --> 00:15:22.190 motivated, intrinsic, hungry people to learn, 00:15:22.250 --> 00:15:24.470 right? I wanted them to be curious about math 00:15:24.470 --> 00:15:27.269 like I was and how it helped me not just come 00:15:27.269 --> 00:15:30.490 to me for marks, get my marks up. 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You don't need math help. 00:16:49.740 --> 00:16:53.179 You actually need how to learn and how the biological 00:16:53.179 --> 00:16:55.440 system work and how to unblock yourself. And 00:16:55.440 --> 00:16:57.820 that's how I created my methodology and started 00:16:57.820 --> 00:17:01.399 coaching kids. So when I coach them, They don't 00:17:01.399 --> 00:17:04.140 need math help people came to me for math help. 00:17:04.140 --> 00:17:07.099 They don't need math help They needed help on 00:17:07.099 --> 00:17:10.279 blocking themselves first like I was when I was 00:17:10.279 --> 00:17:12.180 young, right? I was blocked. Everybody said learn 00:17:12.180 --> 00:17:14.279 English learn math I couldn't learn anything 00:17:14.279 --> 00:17:17.720 until I was In flow because the state has to 00:17:17.720 --> 00:17:19.980 be in flow in order for you to learn anything, 00:17:19.980 --> 00:17:26.119 right? That sounds easy I'm being sarcastic and 00:17:26.119 --> 00:17:28.839 we're off in this direction. I'm happy to follow 00:17:28.839 --> 00:17:31.589 it How do people do that? How do people get that 00:17:31.589 --> 00:17:34.130 flow? You can't chase it. It's not something 00:17:34.130 --> 00:17:37.190 you chase. You really need to come home to yourself 00:17:37.190 --> 00:17:41.130 first. Come home in here first. Your soul, right? 00:17:41.190 --> 00:17:43.309 I call it soul print biology. We have systems 00:17:43.309 --> 00:17:45.890 working for us and working against us. We need 00:17:45.890 --> 00:17:48.069 to know what those systems are. You have to become 00:17:48.069 --> 00:17:50.769 in tune with your body. And most of us are not 00:17:50.769 --> 00:17:53.650 in tune. We're not home. We're all out here. 00:17:53.920 --> 00:17:56.680 right? Majority of us these days, we're all out 00:17:56.680 --> 00:17:58.779 there. We're always looking for external things 00:17:58.779 --> 00:18:03.059 to help us, but those don't land if you're not 00:18:03.059 --> 00:18:06.980 home yet. So how do we do it? That's understanding 00:18:06.980 --> 00:18:10.400 yourself. Talking to your brain is one way, because 00:18:10.400 --> 00:18:12.539 if your brain is telling everything is out there, 00:18:12.539 --> 00:18:14.759 you're not going to look inward. It's looking 00:18:14.759 --> 00:18:17.779 inward, talking to your brain, looking at, OK, 00:18:17.880 --> 00:18:20.339 what's happening to me? What have I done? And 00:18:20.339 --> 00:18:22.720 also sometimes a lot of us get into the trap 00:18:22.720 --> 00:18:25.000 of blaming, right? We always say this is happening. 00:18:25.140 --> 00:18:27.220 That's why I'm like this. This person did this. 00:18:27.240 --> 00:18:29.700 That's why I'm like this. Right. So that's another 00:18:29.700 --> 00:18:32.000 part to look at is where are we spending our 00:18:32.000 --> 00:18:35.519 time, diverting our attention to? And am I looking 00:18:35.519 --> 00:18:38.859 at this? Person as a biological system. I could 00:18:38.859 --> 00:18:41.619 be blocked and where am I blocked? So the understanding 00:18:41.619 --> 00:18:44.680 of yourself is so important, right? All right. 00:18:44.680 --> 00:18:48.240 I'm just letting it sink in for a minute No problem. 00:18:48.740 --> 00:18:52.940 I've always felt like any kind of You can calm 00:18:52.940 --> 00:18:55.960 spiritual experiences, whatever you want to like 00:18:55.960 --> 00:18:59.390 nd ease They have a purpose. They're here to 00:18:59.390 --> 00:19:02.769 teach us something, maybe point us in a direction, 00:19:02.930 --> 00:19:05.269 maybe give us some kind of a mission in life. 00:19:05.750 --> 00:19:08.470 They're not just here for our entertainment purposes. 00:19:09.369 --> 00:19:12.109 What do you feel like you got from that as far 00:19:12.109 --> 00:19:18.049 as direction for your life? Patience with yourself. 00:19:18.369 --> 00:19:21.230 As I said, coming home to yourself, loving yourself. 00:19:21.819 --> 00:19:24.599 We're always looking for other people or other 00:19:24.599 --> 00:19:27.059 other places to be loved but first step is to 00:19:27.059 --> 00:19:29.259 love yourself and respect yourself You know, 00:19:29.319 --> 00:19:32.579 we always say others don't respect me, but not 00:19:32.579 --> 00:19:35.559 true. Do you respect yourself? So now my conversation 00:19:35.559 --> 00:19:39.700 since then is all about What am I doing? Not 00:19:39.700 --> 00:19:42.140 what others are doing So when I have what am 00:19:42.140 --> 00:19:45.059 I doing and what could I do? The control always 00:19:45.059 --> 00:19:47.720 lies in me like right now. There's so many chaos 00:19:47.720 --> 00:19:49.980 in the world None of that bothers me because 00:19:49.980 --> 00:19:53.069 what am I going to do? In this world, right? 00:19:53.109 --> 00:19:55.490 It's always the question is what am I doing? 00:19:56.650 --> 00:19:59.569 Instead of what other people can do, right? Uh 00:19:59.569 --> 00:20:01.849 the old blame game can't be my fault must be 00:20:01.849 --> 00:20:04.990 somebody else's fault Yeah, we need to get past 00:20:04.990 --> 00:20:08.009 that So this set you down a path in life. Did 00:20:08.009 --> 00:20:10.890 you feel like it gave you some kind of a? Mission 00:20:10.890 --> 00:20:15.089 or purpose. I mean you talked about math Let's 00:20:15.089 --> 00:20:17.009 go back a little bit. This happened when you 00:20:17.009 --> 00:20:20.269 were 12. How did it change you at the age of 00:20:20.269 --> 00:20:25.130 13, 14, 15? Confidence. I had a confidence that 00:20:25.130 --> 00:20:28.069 I need to be here. After that, the question was, 00:20:28.210 --> 00:20:29.950 and I'm not going to be here. It was question 00:20:29.950 --> 00:20:32.670 of, how am I going to figure out to live in this 00:20:32.670 --> 00:20:36.150 world? Because all of the other, before the 12 00:20:36.150 --> 00:20:38.069 year old incident, I was always planning how 00:20:38.069 --> 00:20:41.390 to get out. After that, how am I going to be 00:20:41.390 --> 00:20:43.549 here? Is the planning and what am I going to 00:20:43.549 --> 00:20:46.789 do? to live here, right? That planning changed. 00:20:47.250 --> 00:20:49.650 And then the gifts that were given to me, when 00:20:49.650 --> 00:20:52.210 I call it purpose, the gift was mastering the 00:20:52.210 --> 00:20:54.809 mind, was what I learned that day, was how to 00:20:54.809 --> 00:20:58.309 master the mind. The mind doesn't own you, you 00:20:58.309 --> 00:21:02.990 own it. You can maneuver the mind any way you 00:21:02.990 --> 00:21:06.380 want. And it's all in your hands. No one else 00:21:06.380 --> 00:21:08.920 is going to come and save you. If you are able 00:21:08.920 --> 00:21:11.000 to save yourself and move yourself forward, it's 00:21:11.000 --> 00:21:13.319 in your hand. Others are there to support you, 00:21:13.319 --> 00:21:16.160 but they're not going to save you. You need to 00:21:16.160 --> 00:21:20.420 save yourself. Like that internal core confidence 00:21:20.420 --> 00:21:23.579 gave me that I need to share this with others. 00:21:23.660 --> 00:21:26.480 I have to share this with others. I have to help 00:21:26.480 --> 00:21:29.140 students who think they're stuck in math to know 00:21:29.140 --> 00:21:31.660 that you're not stuck in math. Math is a skill. 00:21:32.440 --> 00:21:34.859 It's a skill anybody can learn it anybody can 00:21:34.859 --> 00:21:37.440 teach it to you and you can learn it But why 00:21:37.440 --> 00:21:40.279 you're not good at math and why you're not learning 00:21:40.279 --> 00:21:43.059 the skills and you're being blocked That's an 00:21:43.059 --> 00:21:47.119 internal state that I can help you unblock and 00:21:47.119 --> 00:21:50.799 get you into flow that I can teach you When I 00:21:50.799 --> 00:21:53.019 do that, they became intrinsically motivated 00:21:53.019 --> 00:21:55.940 and responsible and accountable to their own 00:21:55.940 --> 00:21:58.460 learning and they loved math They would say I 00:21:58.460 --> 00:22:02.480 hate math too. I love math Right, it's it's different 00:22:02.480 --> 00:22:05.420 now if you love something you're gonna do beautiful 00:22:05.420 --> 00:22:09.400 rest of your life with it So that's how I helped 00:22:09.400 --> 00:22:11.420 my students to move and then they would always 00:22:11.420 --> 00:22:13.380 come back My students would come back to me and 00:22:13.380 --> 00:22:15.099 say, you know, whatever you helped me in math 00:22:15.099 --> 00:22:18.480 it transcended in all parts of my life I feel 00:22:18.480 --> 00:22:21.359 capable in all parts of my life is I didn't help 00:22:21.359 --> 00:22:24.359 them with math. I'll help them with their inner 00:22:24.359 --> 00:22:27.289 core to have that confidence that anything I 00:22:27.289 --> 00:22:29.730 put my mind to it and I control my mind to it, 00:22:29.730 --> 00:22:33.710 I can achieve it. And it's in my hand. I don't 00:22:33.710 --> 00:22:36.869 have to look outside and say, because of that, 00:22:36.869 --> 00:22:39.029 because of this, because of this, I'm this way. 00:22:40.130 --> 00:22:43.309 It's amazing how much one, oh, I hate to even 00:22:43.309 --> 00:22:45.869 call it a little experience, but the little experience 00:22:45.869 --> 00:22:49.910 that you had there in the hospital. Wow. Talk 00:22:49.910 --> 00:22:54.009 about changes and at such a young age. This whole 00:22:54.009 --> 00:22:57.119 thing about teaching confidence and flow and 00:22:57.119 --> 00:22:59.440 this kind of stuff and we're not going to spend 00:22:59.440 --> 00:23:02.440 too much more time on it. But do you have an 00:23:02.440 --> 00:23:04.880 example? I know you can't give us a whole crash 00:23:04.880 --> 00:23:07.200 course right now, but do you have an example 00:23:07.200 --> 00:23:09.779 of maybe one person that you've worked with? 00:23:10.089 --> 00:23:13.029 I will give you our latest, latest, greatest 00:23:13.029 --> 00:23:15.630 story. So we had a coach started working with 00:23:15.630 --> 00:23:17.890 the family. They had a son who'd been kicked 00:23:17.890 --> 00:23:20.390 out of school. He was 10 years old, on five different 00:23:20.390 --> 00:23:23.769 medications, and he is not accepted in a lot 00:23:23.769 --> 00:23:25.509 of different schools. They put him in a private 00:23:25.509 --> 00:23:29.430 school. Holes in the walls, daily, you know, 00:23:29.609 --> 00:23:31.690 different things can happen, unpredictable behaviors. 00:23:32.509 --> 00:23:34.849 Our coach enters the scene, because now I certified 00:23:34.849 --> 00:23:36.869 coaches under this methodology for the past. 00:23:37.079 --> 00:23:39.519 past five years, I have over 300 people under 00:23:39.519 --> 00:23:42.059 this methodology working with different families 00:23:42.059 --> 00:23:44.440 and adults. So when my coach entered the scene, 00:23:44.619 --> 00:23:46.779 he was telling her, like when he met with her, 00:23:46.900 --> 00:23:49.559 he couldn't even sit, he was all over the place 00:23:49.559 --> 00:23:51.619 and showing her the middle finger and all that 00:23:51.619 --> 00:23:54.400 stuff, right? Beyond that, we looked, that's 00:23:54.400 --> 00:23:57.839 one thing we look is beyond, everyone will see 00:23:57.839 --> 00:23:59.880 that as a behavior and shut down, but we don't 00:23:59.880 --> 00:24:02.640 see that as a behavior. We see as a system, a 00:24:02.640 --> 00:24:05.369 living system in distress. That's the different 00:24:05.369 --> 00:24:07.769 compassion lens that we put on as coaches, our 00:24:07.769 --> 00:24:09.710 coaches, right? My coaches, that's what we put 00:24:09.710 --> 00:24:12.529 on. So whenever he shows middle finger, it's 00:24:12.529 --> 00:24:14.950 not a big deal. He can do whatever he want. It's 00:24:14.950 --> 00:24:17.450 not going to make me want to do anything else 00:24:17.450 --> 00:24:19.829 other than know you even more. We get closer 00:24:19.829 --> 00:24:23.509 to him, right? So he is now, after her working 00:24:23.509 --> 00:24:26.470 with him for less than nine months, he is now 00:24:26.470 --> 00:24:30.569 an example for his whole class. He's off of all 00:24:30.569 --> 00:24:33.809 his medication. Not because we told him to, the 00:24:33.809 --> 00:24:37.150 doctor he saw saw a difference in him and he 00:24:37.150 --> 00:24:40.029 no longer is on any medication. There's no holes 00:24:40.029 --> 00:24:42.950 in their walls, in their house. The parents are 00:24:42.950 --> 00:24:47.109 so relaxed before they were always on guard, 00:24:47.269 --> 00:24:50.150 something. So when the coach met him, she asked 00:24:50.150 --> 00:24:53.170 him what's going on. He said, I am a cuckoo. 00:24:53.329 --> 00:24:56.589 I am a cuckoo. Right? That's what his identity 00:24:56.589 --> 00:24:58.670 was. I'm cuckoo. Everybody thinks I'm a cuckoo 00:24:58.670 --> 00:25:02.519 and I am a cuckoo. He owned it. So I behave like 00:25:02.519 --> 00:25:06.599 a cuckoo. These are his words, right? So then 00:25:06.599 --> 00:25:10.319 she later asked, who are you to this boy? He 00:25:10.319 --> 00:25:12.480 said his name and he said, you know, is there 00:25:12.480 --> 00:25:14.579 anything that you feel like, you know, you're 00:25:14.579 --> 00:25:15.960 like, you know, you're struggling or anything 00:25:15.960 --> 00:25:19.180 that you said? I think I'm struggling a little 00:25:19.180 --> 00:25:21.880 bit with math before he would say I'm cuckoo. 00:25:22.140 --> 00:25:24.059 Obviously I'm a cuckoo, right? But now he said 00:25:24.059 --> 00:25:26.559 I'm struggling with math. Now he has turned his 00:25:26.559 --> 00:25:29.700 identity into some skill that he can pick up. 00:25:30.299 --> 00:25:32.819 versus I am, rest of my life, a cuckoo person. 00:25:32.980 --> 00:25:36.559 It is a different spectrum of confidence in him. 00:25:36.700 --> 00:25:39.319 So he's now flourishing in his classroom, and 00:25:39.319 --> 00:25:41.619 every teacher loves to have him as a role model 00:25:41.619 --> 00:25:44.079 in his classroom. And we got teachers writing 00:25:44.079 --> 00:25:47.740 us some emails back saying, thank you for making 00:25:47.740 --> 00:25:50.799 him an example of our class now. And that's less 00:25:50.799 --> 00:25:52.920 than nine months into it. That just happened, 00:25:52.940 --> 00:25:55.480 so that's why I'm sharing it. And these are the 00:25:55.480 --> 00:25:57.579 changes we make we we don't make great change. 00:25:57.599 --> 00:26:00.160 We don't get the grades to change We get the 00:26:00.160 --> 00:26:03.220 person to transform and then transcend all of 00:26:03.220 --> 00:26:05.839 that into every parts of their life, right? So 00:26:05.839 --> 00:26:10.539 the grades become a byproduct of it Okay All 00:26:10.539 --> 00:26:12.900 right. And if people want to learn more about 00:26:12.900 --> 00:26:15.220 this, we'll get a website down on the show notes 00:26:15.220 --> 00:26:19.759 so they can find it This show is all about hope 00:26:19.759 --> 00:26:23.099 and leaving people with a message of hope What 00:26:23.099 --> 00:26:26.119 you've already done, and I appreciate, for people 00:26:26.119 --> 00:26:29.839 that have had a near -death experience that may 00:26:29.839 --> 00:26:33.500 not seem like this big grandiose thing like some 00:26:33.500 --> 00:26:37.380 people hear about, going off to the light and 00:26:37.380 --> 00:26:39.839 seeing heaven and all this really awesome stuff, 00:26:40.960 --> 00:26:43.920 lots of them aren't that way. And the ones that 00:26:43.920 --> 00:26:46.789 are more simple, Like what happened to you probably 00:26:46.789 --> 00:26:49.349 don't get talked about near enough, but they're 00:26:49.349 --> 00:26:52.730 obviously just as life changing because your 00:26:52.730 --> 00:26:56.029 life really changed. Can you give us a little 00:26:56.029 --> 00:27:00.289 bit more? Just dig a little bit deeper on either 00:27:00.289 --> 00:27:05.230 what happened to you or how you changed or something 00:27:05.230 --> 00:27:07.670 along those lines that's going to lead us back 00:27:07.670 --> 00:27:11.170 to this message of hope for people. Yeah. Hope 00:27:11.170 --> 00:27:14.779 was lost. Days leading up to it. I lost all hope 00:27:14.779 --> 00:27:18.740 because We do things like that because we don't 00:27:18.740 --> 00:27:21.700 see a way out right? Anyone who's kind to get 00:27:21.700 --> 00:27:25.220 to that point of level of you know exiting your 00:27:25.220 --> 00:27:28.160 own life is when we don't feel any doors opening 00:27:28.160 --> 00:27:30.299 for us anymore. It's all closed, all closed, 00:27:30.420 --> 00:27:32.079 all closed. And that's where your brain comes 00:27:32.079 --> 00:27:34.680 in to tell you, yeah, it's closed. Yeah, well, 00:27:34.680 --> 00:27:36.359 of course that's also closed. Of course, this 00:27:36.359 --> 00:27:38.599 one's also closed. Your brain just validates 00:27:38.599 --> 00:27:40.660 everything you think about at that time. And 00:27:40.660 --> 00:27:43.400 that's how crazy it is, right? One of the hope 00:27:43.400 --> 00:27:46.019 I want to leave today is how you own the brain. 00:27:46.119 --> 00:27:49.380 Don't allow your brain to tell you crap. Like 00:27:49.380 --> 00:27:51.759 all day long before I did it, it was telling 00:27:51.759 --> 00:27:55.500 me so much crap that That's what pushed me. That's 00:27:55.500 --> 00:27:58.160 what pushed me to the edge the crap that I listened 00:27:58.160 --> 00:28:02.539 to and then the next day I wake up and it has 00:28:02.539 --> 00:28:07.299 the All this thing to tell me the opposite. I'm 00:28:07.299 --> 00:28:09.920 like, would you even come up with this stuff? 00:28:11.119 --> 00:28:16.259 I was so destroyed so destroyed and then Sitting 00:28:16.259 --> 00:28:19.039 with those tears and going through that emotion 00:28:19.039 --> 00:28:21.539 of how can you lie to me like that? You're telling 00:28:21.539 --> 00:28:23.500 me all of this. Why didn't you tell me yesterday? 00:28:23.980 --> 00:28:26.420 Why didn't you tell me yesterday if you had all 00:28:26.420 --> 00:28:28.839 these ideas I could try I had all these stores 00:28:28.839 --> 00:28:30.740 extra doors that I could have opened It's telling 00:28:30.740 --> 00:28:33.440 me the next day telling me how wonderful life 00:28:33.440 --> 00:28:36.539 could be you couldn't have told me that yesterday 00:28:36.539 --> 00:28:38.900 this is what I want the anybody listening to 00:28:38.900 --> 00:28:41.680 me to understand about your brain is if you don't 00:28:41.680 --> 00:28:44.210 question it if I had the you know, knowledge 00:28:44.210 --> 00:28:46.329 to question a day before, I wouldn't have done 00:28:46.329 --> 00:28:50.650 it. I wouldn't have done it. But I didn't. I 00:28:50.650 --> 00:28:53.930 completely listened to all this crap. It's telling 00:28:53.930 --> 00:28:57.809 me how little I am, how stupid I am, how everybody 00:28:57.809 --> 00:29:00.210 thinks I'm stupid, how everything is going to 00:29:00.210 --> 00:29:03.309 go wrong. You're not capable for life. All of 00:29:03.309 --> 00:29:04.869 this. And the next day, it's telling me the right 00:29:04.869 --> 00:29:09.009 opposite. So why couldn't I have that conversation 00:29:09.009 --> 00:29:10.690 the day before? And I didn't have to go through 00:29:10.690 --> 00:29:14.000 any of this, right? Well, that's just about what 00:29:14.000 --> 00:29:17.079 I was going to ask is how do people know when 00:29:17.079 --> 00:29:21.359 we're being lied to by that self -talk? It's 00:29:21.359 --> 00:29:25.319 so on the it's a lie when it's all matching Like 00:29:25.319 --> 00:29:27.940 it's like you think and they bring some supporting 00:29:27.940 --> 00:29:31.619 you Constant support it is no there's no friction 00:29:31.619 --> 00:29:34.079 in your in your conversation with that brain. 00:29:34.099 --> 00:29:36.799 There's no friction It's always like yeah. Yeah, 00:29:36.799 --> 00:29:39.799 it's validating. Yeah, sure. It tells you other 00:29:39.799 --> 00:29:42.990 information to validate even further Do you see 00:29:42.990 --> 00:29:45.210 what I mean? Whatever I'm saying to it. It's 00:29:45.210 --> 00:29:47.769 gonna validate with more things that makes it 00:29:47.769 --> 00:29:51.549 yeah, it's building a case With me and the case 00:29:51.549 --> 00:29:54.210 is never it has any friction It's always validated 00:29:54.210 --> 00:29:56.769 that but in that building the case we can be 00:29:56.769 --> 00:29:59.329 a cross examiner and ask hold on a second Why 00:29:59.329 --> 00:30:01.670 would you say that? Hold on a second. Will you 00:30:01.670 --> 00:30:03.609 just told me that my mom hates me and I should 00:30:03.609 --> 00:30:05.910 in my life Well, how do you know my mom hates 00:30:05.910 --> 00:30:09.410 me? She doesn't love me like No, no, like never 00:30:09.410 --> 00:30:11.009 in her life she loved me. Like, why does she 00:30:11.009 --> 00:30:13.670 have me? Like I didn't ever cross -examined my 00:30:13.670 --> 00:30:16.650 brain. I just said, okay, yep, that's valid. 00:30:16.849 --> 00:30:19.430 Yep. That's also valid. That's great. Yeah. I 00:30:19.430 --> 00:30:22.349 understand that too, right? So it's that conversation 00:30:22.349 --> 00:30:24.130 if we can have with our brain. That's what I 00:30:24.130 --> 00:30:27.109 do now is I never believe my brain. If it says 00:30:27.109 --> 00:30:28.470 something, there's going to be a lot of cross 00:30:28.470 --> 00:30:32.029 -examination like a lawyer would. So it has to 00:30:32.029 --> 00:30:35.170 produce a case and we have to have an argument. 00:30:35.710 --> 00:30:38.799 And then Then I can make a decision on it. It's 00:30:38.799 --> 00:30:41.859 an argument That's cool. But doesn't your brain 00:30:41.859 --> 00:30:44.660 ever tell you positive things too that you don't 00:30:44.660 --> 00:30:48.480 need to argue with it can but not when you're 00:30:48.480 --> 00:30:51.519 In a state like I was or someone was listening 00:30:51.519 --> 00:30:54.640 if they're in a state of that right thinking 00:30:54.640 --> 00:30:56.480 about you know what my life is, you know when 00:30:56.480 --> 00:31:00.299 we're in a In a negative negative zone in our 00:31:00.299 --> 00:31:03.140 life or something negative is happening to us. 00:31:03.140 --> 00:31:05.819 Yeah, it doesn't have that effect. It's usually 00:31:06.109 --> 00:31:08.930 is negative, pretty negative. And it comes up 00:31:08.930 --> 00:31:12.250 with more negative. So at the hospital, when 00:31:12.250 --> 00:31:15.190 I woke up, you know, it was very scary, right? 00:31:15.490 --> 00:31:16.930 Because when you've done something like that, 00:31:16.930 --> 00:31:18.970 and you were supposed to go and you haven't gone, 00:31:19.109 --> 00:31:21.509 it is scary to face every single person in your 00:31:21.509 --> 00:31:26.589 life again. And to see life again, and you're 00:31:26.589 --> 00:31:29.650 going to try again, was hard. So that's why I 00:31:29.650 --> 00:31:33.430 explained to you earlier, that one doctor who 00:31:33.430 --> 00:31:37.509 came to visit me, All he needed to say to me 00:31:37.509 --> 00:31:40.849 was a few words and two words that I still remember 00:31:40.849 --> 00:31:43.890 to this day is, you need to rest. So I guess 00:31:43.890 --> 00:31:46.910 two sentences, you need to rest and you have 00:31:46.910 --> 00:31:51.829 a purpose. So these were the things given to 00:31:51.829 --> 00:31:54.170 me. I hold this hand like this. It was almost 00:31:54.170 --> 00:31:58.009 like I was given like this and I took it. I took 00:31:58.009 --> 00:32:01.109 it. And that was coming home to myself again. 00:32:01.289 --> 00:32:03.970 because I lost it previous to that, right? So 00:32:03.970 --> 00:32:06.750 that was me bringing back that life to me. And 00:32:06.750 --> 00:32:09.250 from that day on, I carried that I have a purpose, 00:32:09.269 --> 00:32:11.490 but I didn't know what it is. So sometimes when 00:32:11.490 --> 00:32:14.269 you come out of these things, it's not right 00:32:14.269 --> 00:32:16.150 away, it's going to be clear and for the path 00:32:16.150 --> 00:32:19.230 is like opened for you. You have to go through 00:32:19.230 --> 00:32:22.450 life and trials to what that purpose is for you. 00:32:22.509 --> 00:32:25.549 Right? It took me a long time to have this clarity. 00:32:25.930 --> 00:32:29.029 Now I know, now I know it's to deliver this. 00:32:29.200 --> 00:32:31.400 the message from my brain that I've learned, 00:32:31.819 --> 00:32:35.339 as well as to serve to 1 .5 billion humans by 00:32:35.339 --> 00:32:37.660 2035, ending the suffering because we don't need 00:32:37.660 --> 00:32:41.059 to suffer. We are suffering because we created 00:32:41.059 --> 00:32:44.420 education system on the assumption that we should 00:32:44.420 --> 00:32:47.640 all be coming into that building ready to learn. 00:32:48.220 --> 00:32:51.319 But we don't have a switch to turn on and go 00:32:51.319 --> 00:32:54.079 and learn. We're a biological system bombarded 00:32:54.079 --> 00:32:56.059 with so many variables. I don't just turn on 00:32:56.059 --> 00:32:58.539 and say, I'm ready. Teach me now. It doesn't 00:32:58.539 --> 00:33:01.759 work that way. So until we learn to respect the 00:33:01.759 --> 00:33:05.559 human as a human We have built an education system 00:33:05.559 --> 00:33:08.579 that has Caused all of our pain and suffering 00:33:08.579 --> 00:33:10.819 including adults who are in the world right now 00:33:10.819 --> 00:33:13.220 because they are all all product of the same 00:33:13.220 --> 00:33:17.700 system We're all we all are We're the problem 00:33:17.700 --> 00:33:21.130 children. I got you All of all of us it's not 00:33:21.130 --> 00:33:23.450 just you it's me it's everybody because we had 00:33:23.450 --> 00:33:25.869 the assumption that we should have a switch turn 00:33:25.869 --> 00:33:28.490 on and learn and that's how you should live life. 00:33:29.410 --> 00:33:32.390 Well it wasn't that easy and i remember some 00:33:32.390 --> 00:33:35.549 teachers they knew how to get through to me and 00:33:35.549 --> 00:33:38.789 some did not. Therefore the subject that that 00:33:38.789 --> 00:33:41.730 teacher was teaching i must be bad at right. 00:33:43.059 --> 00:33:45.079 History teacher doesn't know how to get through 00:33:45.079 --> 00:33:47.680 to me. It's all boring. Therefore, I don't like 00:33:47.680 --> 00:33:51.759 history. I love history now. I wish I would have 00:33:51.759 --> 00:33:54.819 back then. A teacher can make a break. Yeah. 00:33:55.980 --> 00:33:58.059 I had a very, very good teacher who actually 00:33:58.059 --> 00:34:00.759 who broke my silence at school because I told 00:34:00.759 --> 00:34:03.720 you earlier that I muted myself, right? One day 00:34:03.720 --> 00:34:06.880 this teacher looked into my eyes and said, Kohila, 00:34:06.880 --> 00:34:10.760 I know you can speak. Just speak. That's all 00:34:10.760 --> 00:34:13.159 she needed to do. And I started speaking. That 00:34:13.159 --> 00:34:16.000 was the first day I spoke at school. And then 00:34:16.000 --> 00:34:19.039 ever since then, I started speaking again. So 00:34:19.039 --> 00:34:22.579 there are teachers who are born to bring that 00:34:22.579 --> 00:34:24.480 for others, right? And there are teachers who 00:34:24.480 --> 00:34:28.079 bring things out of you and leave you empty too, 00:34:28.420 --> 00:34:31.500 so. All right. Well, I appreciate all the wisdom 00:34:31.500 --> 00:34:35.940 and advice and we have a lot to let just kind 00:34:35.940 --> 00:34:39.210 of sink in, right? from a lot of the things that 00:34:39.210 --> 00:34:41.889 you've said, so I appreciate it very much. And 00:34:41.889 --> 00:34:46.269 it all started with a simple NDE. Kohila, I appreciate 00:34:46.269 --> 00:34:49.309 it. Thank you for being with me today. Thank 00:34:49.309 --> 00:34:53.610 you. Thank you for having me. Thanks again for 00:34:53.610 --> 00:34:56.190 listening and sharing this podcast. 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