WEBVTT 00:00:03.460 --> 00:00:07.179 Hello and welcome to Foley's End podcast. A podcast 00:00:07.179 --> 00:00:09.759 created to plant the word of God into your heart, 00:00:10.080 --> 00:00:12.220 giving you the tools you need to lead a life 00:00:12.220 --> 00:00:14.779 full of the abundance Jesus said he came to give 00:00:14.779 --> 00:00:19.219 us all. That's John 10 verse 10. Hello, I'm Gareth 00:00:19.219 --> 00:00:22.120 Cox. And I'm Jessie Cox. I was so pleased you're 00:00:22.120 --> 00:00:23.920 listening to our podcast and thank you so much 00:00:23.920 --> 00:00:26.539 for joining us. We are continuing with our series 00:00:26.539 --> 00:00:29.480 on raising a family. We've covered so much and 00:00:29.480 --> 00:00:31.620 I've really enjoyed it and it is jam -packed 00:00:31.620 --> 00:00:34.859 with good info. This however is the final episode 00:00:34.859 --> 00:00:37.079 and if you haven't heard the previous ones please 00:00:37.079 --> 00:00:39.960 do go back and have a listen. So Jessie today 00:00:39.960 --> 00:00:43.280 we're talking about the Sabbath rest. Can you 00:00:43.280 --> 00:00:48.039 tell me what the Sabbath rest is? Yes, if you 00:00:48.039 --> 00:00:50.460 have been a Christian for a little bit you might 00:00:50.460 --> 00:00:52.640 have heard people talking about the Sabbath. 00:00:53.079 --> 00:00:55.920 And the Sabbath is a tradition that was established 00:00:55.920 --> 00:00:59.659 within Jewish culture when Moses led Israel out 00:00:59.659 --> 00:01:03.250 of Egypt. So the Sabbath is also mentioned in 00:01:03.250 --> 00:01:06.650 the Ten Commandments, and it's a bit complicated 00:01:06.650 --> 00:01:09.569 to explain with the time that we've got, so we're 00:01:09.569 --> 00:01:11.390 just going to have a look at it from when he 00:01:11.390 --> 00:01:13.870 says it in the Ten Commandments, because the 00:01:13.870 --> 00:01:17.569 Sabbath is number four. Gareth, can you read 00:01:17.569 --> 00:01:21.290 that in Exodus? Yeah, Exodus 20 verse 8, it says, 00:01:24.289 --> 00:01:26.750 So it's super simple, it's just saying remember 00:01:26.750 --> 00:01:29.969 it and keep it holy. And later on in the book 00:01:29.969 --> 00:01:32.090 of Exodus, which is like the second book in the 00:01:32.090 --> 00:01:33.650 Bible, if you're trying to have a look for it, 00:01:33.969 --> 00:01:37.290 God gives a little bit more instruction. Exodus 00:01:37.290 --> 00:01:42.010 31 verses 12 to 17. Instructions for the Sabbath, 00:01:42.230 --> 00:01:45.790 this is titled. The Lord then gave these instructions 00:01:45.790 --> 00:01:48.489 to Moses. Tell the people of Israel, be careful 00:01:48.489 --> 00:01:51.439 to keep my Sabbath day. For the Sabbath is the 00:01:51.439 --> 00:01:54.340 sign of the covenant between me and you from 00:01:54.340 --> 00:01:57.959 generation to generation. It is given so you 00:01:57.959 --> 00:02:00.379 may know that I am Lord, who makes you holy. 00:02:01.280 --> 00:02:04.060 You must keep the Sabbath day, for it is a holy 00:02:04.060 --> 00:02:07.140 day for you. Anyone who desecrates it must be 00:02:07.140 --> 00:02:09.759 put to death. Anyone who works on that day will 00:02:09.759 --> 00:02:12.620 be cut off from the community. You have six days 00:02:12.620 --> 00:02:15.479 each week for your ordinary work, but the seventh 00:02:15.479 --> 00:02:18.879 day must be a Sabbath day. of complete rest, 00:02:19.240 --> 00:02:22.159 a holy day dedicated to the Lord. Anyone who 00:02:22.159 --> 00:02:24.800 works on the Sabbath must be put to death. The 00:02:24.800 --> 00:02:27.060 people of Israel must keep the Sabbath day by 00:02:27.060 --> 00:02:29.960 observing it from generation to generation. This 00:02:29.960 --> 00:02:33.659 is a covenant obligation for all time. It is 00:02:33.659 --> 00:02:35.800 a permanent sign for my covenant with the people 00:02:35.800 --> 00:02:38.520 of Israel. For in six days the Lord made heaven 00:02:38.520 --> 00:02:41.039 and earth, but on the seventh day he stopped 00:02:41.039 --> 00:02:44.539 working and was refreshed. So basically what 00:02:44.539 --> 00:02:47.960 God's saying here is just like He rested, you 00:02:47.960 --> 00:02:50.639 know, when He created the world that's mentioned 00:02:50.639 --> 00:02:54.500 in Genesis, that He's saying this is how people 00:02:54.500 --> 00:02:56.780 will know that you belong to Me, that there's 00:02:56.780 --> 00:02:59.379 a covenant between us, because you're going to 00:02:59.379 --> 00:03:02.219 work for six days, but on the seventh day I want 00:03:02.219 --> 00:03:07.240 you to rest. And this concept was completely 00:03:07.240 --> 00:03:10.000 unheard of at the time of the world. You know, 00:03:10.159 --> 00:03:13.620 there was no such thing as a weekend like we 00:03:13.620 --> 00:03:19.300 have now. Most countries, most groups of people 00:03:19.300 --> 00:03:23.360 worked seven days a week. So I'd like us just 00:03:23.360 --> 00:03:25.939 to have a think about that for a minute because 00:03:25.939 --> 00:03:29.960 you can imagine from their perspective. you'd 00:03:29.960 --> 00:03:32.560 be thinking, well hang on a minute, if we just 00:03:32.560 --> 00:03:36.400 downed halls one day out of a week whilst everybody 00:03:36.400 --> 00:03:39.219 else is working, we're going to fall behind. 00:03:39.919 --> 00:03:41.740 Maybe we won't be as prosperous as everybody 00:03:41.740 --> 00:03:46.280 else will be. And it was revolutionary for them 00:03:46.280 --> 00:03:51.659 to have a day where they didn't work. Isn't the 00:03:51.659 --> 00:03:54.099 truth behind this that you work for six days 00:03:54.099 --> 00:03:57.400 and then you turn your focus to God on that seventh 00:03:57.400 --> 00:04:00.199 day? Yeah, I mean, that's what it's become now. 00:04:00.659 --> 00:04:02.900 But, you know, when God gave this commandment, 00:04:03.000 --> 00:04:05.699 He was literally saying, you can't pick up sticks, 00:04:06.259 --> 00:04:09.780 you can't make food, you can't do anything. Well, 00:04:09.819 --> 00:04:12.919 there are, in certain religions, there is no, 00:04:13.000 --> 00:04:14.379 you're not allowed to turn the light switch on, 00:04:14.819 --> 00:04:17.720 you're not allowed to operate a cooker. It's 00:04:17.720 --> 00:04:19.839 quite impressive, isn't it? The dedication that 00:04:19.839 --> 00:04:23.519 people go to. I worked in a Jewish company for 00:04:23.519 --> 00:04:25.519 a while, and there was somebody who really did 00:04:25.519 --> 00:04:27.860 follow it absolutely to the letter. And they'd 00:04:27.860 --> 00:04:31.060 have to rush home from work on a Friday to turn 00:04:31.060 --> 00:04:34.660 all the lights on. Because if it was the winter 00:04:34.660 --> 00:04:38.040 and it gets dark at four o 'clock, you can't 00:04:38.040 --> 00:04:42.709 do anything. So actually, when God gave this 00:04:42.709 --> 00:04:45.870 commandment, it was a complete non -activity. 00:04:46.009 --> 00:04:48.610 It wasn't just focusing on God. It was you can't 00:04:48.610 --> 00:04:52.430 do anything. And I think it's so interesting 00:04:52.430 --> 00:04:57.269 because this is really a stance of reliance on 00:04:57.269 --> 00:05:00.170 God. This is saying that you're putting your 00:05:00.170 --> 00:05:04.209 trust in God to make you successful because you're 00:05:04.209 --> 00:05:06.670 not working as much as everybody else is working. 00:05:07.019 --> 00:05:08.600 You know, if the rest of the world is working 00:05:08.600 --> 00:05:11.300 seven days and you're working six, but it's 52 00:05:11.300 --> 00:05:14.339 weeks in a year, that's one day a week that everyone 00:05:14.339 --> 00:05:17.019 else has got an advantage over you. I mean, that 00:05:17.019 --> 00:05:20.480 adds up, you know, over the course of a year 00:05:20.480 --> 00:05:23.540 or 10 years, it's a lot, a lot of work that you've 00:05:23.540 --> 00:05:26.420 missed out on. But yet what this was doing is 00:05:26.420 --> 00:05:29.860 it was saying you should put your reliance on 00:05:29.860 --> 00:05:34.819 God to look after you, and it's not a self -reliance 00:05:34.819 --> 00:05:38.839 thing. And I think this is where religion has 00:05:38.839 --> 00:05:41.639 so got it wrapped around their neck because, 00:05:41.639 --> 00:05:44.420 you know, religion says, you've got to work really 00:05:44.420 --> 00:05:47.540 hard. You have to put, you know, I'm a self -made 00:05:47.540 --> 00:05:51.579 man. Look what I've done. You know, I've got 00:05:51.579 --> 00:05:53.680 to keep the scripture. I've got to work at it. 00:05:53.680 --> 00:05:57.220 I've got to do it. And, you know, even the imagery 00:05:57.220 --> 00:06:01.800 of the Sabbath is that you are putting your reliance 00:06:01.800 --> 00:06:06.019 on God. to help you, on God to move you forward 00:06:06.019 --> 00:06:09.819 rather than your own ability to work. It's pretty 00:06:09.819 --> 00:06:12.319 powerful stuff, isn't it? Yeah, hugely. And I 00:06:12.319 --> 00:06:15.339 think, you know, that concept just of itself, 00:06:15.920 --> 00:06:18.420 there's a lot of us that don't really understand 00:06:18.420 --> 00:06:21.459 that, that think, you know, I've got to work 00:06:21.459 --> 00:06:24.000 really hard and there's a balance because it's 00:06:24.000 --> 00:06:26.639 not all just, you know, you can't lay on the 00:06:26.639 --> 00:06:30.620 sofa. You know, God still needs you to do something, 00:06:30.680 --> 00:06:34.000 but there is that rest where you rely on Him 00:06:34.000 --> 00:06:39.600 and that He can be the reason why you're so successful. 00:06:39.720 --> 00:06:44.620 It's not all on your shoulders. Is this a theory 00:06:44.620 --> 00:06:48.399 then? Because I'm struggling to understand this, 00:06:49.060 --> 00:06:50.819 so everyone listening is going to probably struggle 00:06:50.819 --> 00:06:53.680 too. Are we supposed to take that seventh day 00:06:53.680 --> 00:06:57.329 off or...? Are we supposed to focus on God? Are 00:06:57.329 --> 00:06:59.350 we supposed to go to church? Is it a Saturday? 00:06:59.790 --> 00:07:02.990 Is it a Sunday? I'm aware that the Sabbath for 00:07:02.990 --> 00:07:05.730 a lot of the Jewish religion is a Saturday. We 00:07:05.730 --> 00:07:07.970 take the seventh day off, which is the Sunday. 00:07:09.850 --> 00:07:13.069 What's the right rule? Look, first of all, let's 00:07:13.069 --> 00:07:17.290 remember that what we take from the Old Scriptures, 00:07:17.550 --> 00:07:21.480 from the Old Covenant, the Old Promise, now, 00:07:21.860 --> 00:07:24.160 it's not, you don't throw it all out because 00:07:24.160 --> 00:07:26.920 like we've looked at before, Jesus came to fulfill 00:07:26.920 --> 00:07:29.100 the law. So it's not like, oh, it doesn't matter. 00:07:29.920 --> 00:07:32.720 But we take it in the light of the new covenant. 00:07:33.319 --> 00:07:35.540 So when we're looking at the old covenant, when 00:07:35.540 --> 00:07:37.379 we're looking at the rules and the regulations, 00:07:38.060 --> 00:07:42.860 we're looking at through Jesus. Because this 00:07:42.860 --> 00:07:47.269 was before Jesus. One of my favourite scriptures 00:07:47.269 --> 00:08:11.120 this year, Galatians 3 verse 13 says, that we 00:08:11.120 --> 00:08:14.740 might receive the promise of the Spirit through 00:08:14.740 --> 00:08:18.040 faith. So this says really clearly here that 00:08:18.040 --> 00:08:20.620 the curse of the law, that you've got to do this, 00:08:20.620 --> 00:08:22.459 you've got to do that, you know, if you do this, 00:08:22.459 --> 00:08:25.600 then you'll get that. That's done. It's over. 00:08:26.459 --> 00:08:30.620 Right? But what the Old Testament was doing is 00:08:30.620 --> 00:08:33.840 it was showing, they call it like a shadow. So 00:08:33.840 --> 00:08:36.179 they're going, look, this is something that God's 00:08:36.179 --> 00:08:40.440 trying to show you. in the new covenant of some 00:08:40.440 --> 00:08:45.259 principles that's helpful for you, okay? And 00:08:45.259 --> 00:08:49.200 when Jesus was on the earth, he says, John 15 00:08:49.200 --> 00:08:52.779 verse 5, he says, yes, I am the vine and you 00:08:52.779 --> 00:08:57.159 are the branches. Those who remain in me and 00:08:57.159 --> 00:09:01.820 I in them will produce much fruit. For apart 00:09:01.820 --> 00:09:07.009 from me, you can do nothing. And you know, what 00:09:07.009 --> 00:09:11.090 the Sabbath is showing is that there is an element 00:09:11.090 --> 00:09:15.730 of inactivity. There is an element where we put 00:09:15.730 --> 00:09:19.470 our trust and our faith in God. Because without 00:09:19.470 --> 00:09:23.929 Him, we can't do anything. We have to be connected 00:09:23.929 --> 00:09:28.169 to the vine, to the branch, so that we can have 00:09:28.169 --> 00:09:31.230 much fruit. And much fruit is just, you know, 00:09:31.649 --> 00:09:35.580 tangible evidence of God in our lives. I think 00:09:35.580 --> 00:09:38.019 that's a really lovely explanation and I now 00:09:38.019 --> 00:09:42.159 understand it. Great. However, we are told this 00:09:42.159 --> 00:09:44.299 subject is raising a family. So how does that 00:09:44.299 --> 00:09:49.240 fit into raising a family? So I think it's a 00:09:49.240 --> 00:09:53.039 really good question and one of the things that 00:09:53.039 --> 00:09:54.779 I think is so important for us to understand 00:09:54.779 --> 00:09:59.639 is that we need to allow God's rest into our 00:09:59.639 --> 00:10:04.860 homes. It is so important that we teach our children 00:10:04.860 --> 00:10:09.820 that rest is necessary, important, and has a 00:10:09.820 --> 00:10:13.559 place in our home, in our family. But you did 00:10:13.559 --> 00:10:16.200 say rest, so we're talking about the day of rest, 00:10:16.299 --> 00:10:18.259 but we're also saying trust in God at the same 00:10:18.259 --> 00:10:20.860 time. So we obviously want to teach that to our 00:10:20.860 --> 00:10:24.559 children. Yeah, yeah, absolutely. And, you know, 00:10:24.980 --> 00:10:28.220 in society now, like the mark of bearing much 00:10:28.220 --> 00:10:29.740 fruit, you know, if you want to put like kind 00:10:29.740 --> 00:10:33.379 of religious phrases on it. You know, society 00:10:33.379 --> 00:10:35.500 now says you bear much fruit by being super, 00:10:35.539 --> 00:10:38.240 super busy. So, you know, when you say to people, 00:10:38.360 --> 00:10:40.399 how are you? Most people go, I'm sorry, brother. 00:10:40.659 --> 00:10:43.720 I'm sorry, brother. Like that's the mark of success. 00:10:44.480 --> 00:10:47.159 But, you know, our little children, this is their 00:10:47.159 --> 00:10:50.679 childhood. This is a time for them to be kids. 00:10:51.840 --> 00:10:54.500 And they have an element of rest with us anyway 00:10:54.500 --> 00:10:56.200 because they're not worried about whether food's 00:10:56.200 --> 00:10:57.559 going to be on the table or not if we're a good 00:10:57.559 --> 00:10:59.940 parent. They're not worried about whether their 00:10:59.940 --> 00:11:01.879 school uniform's going to be washed on a Monday 00:11:01.879 --> 00:11:04.139 because they've got that rest and that trust 00:11:04.139 --> 00:11:08.240 in us. But what we're teaching them is A, the 00:11:08.240 --> 00:11:14.139 reliance on God, and B, a physical rest and relaxation 00:11:14.139 --> 00:11:19.460 that is important for children. Is the word rest, 00:11:19.700 --> 00:11:21.700 does it have multiple meanings at this point? 00:11:22.279 --> 00:11:26.019 For example, rest in the Lord. Yeah, it absolutely 00:11:26.019 --> 00:11:28.460 does because, you know, there's two types of 00:11:28.460 --> 00:11:30.559 rest that I'm talking about here and I'm kind 00:11:30.559 --> 00:11:33.460 of talking about them interchangeably. But one 00:11:33.460 --> 00:11:37.179 type of rest is a physical rest, you know, where 00:11:37.179 --> 00:11:42.620 we put our reliance in God to help us to be successful, 00:11:42.759 --> 00:11:45.259 to grow us, to move us forward. We put our rest 00:11:45.259 --> 00:11:48.879 and our trust in Him. And the other kind of rest 00:11:48.879 --> 00:11:54.899 is a physical rest where we can allow ourselves 00:11:54.899 --> 00:11:58.600 to have downtime and to have holidays and to 00:11:58.600 --> 00:12:00.820 have days where we're not rushing around because 00:12:00.820 --> 00:12:04.419 we're physically reminding ourselves of the rest 00:12:04.419 --> 00:12:08.480 that's inside us. It's a reminder and it's what 00:12:08.480 --> 00:12:12.220 our bodies need. You know, God's made us to need 00:12:12.220 --> 00:12:16.370 sleep, to need rest, to need relaxation. And 00:12:16.370 --> 00:12:19.629 it's that remembrance of we're doing this because 00:12:19.629 --> 00:12:22.210 A, our body needs it, and B, because it's a reminder 00:12:22.210 --> 00:12:24.490 of what's happening on the inside of us that 00:12:24.490 --> 00:12:26.830 we're putting our trust in God. Do you think, 00:12:27.090 --> 00:12:29.450 here in the UK, do you think the children are 00:12:29.450 --> 00:12:31.409 getting enough rest? Are there any stats that 00:12:31.409 --> 00:12:33.649 you can pull up that will give us a bit more 00:12:33.649 --> 00:12:37.330 information on that? So in a UK study by the 00:12:37.330 --> 00:12:41.450 University of Leeds, it says 36 % of primary 00:12:41.450 --> 00:12:43.710 school children age between the ages of 6 and 00:12:43.710 --> 00:12:47.139 11. are getting eight hours of sleep or less 00:12:47.139 --> 00:12:50.340 on a weekday. And they're really supposed to 00:12:50.340 --> 00:12:54.940 be having 10 hours of sleep. So 36 % of primary 00:12:54.940 --> 00:13:04.600 school children are tired. And that's huge. That's 00:13:04.600 --> 00:13:07.100 a lot of kids in that classroom. 10 in a class 00:13:07.100 --> 00:13:10.360 of 30 are knackered. Yeah. The University of 00:13:10.360 --> 00:13:13.539 Leeds says that these figures illustrate that 00:13:13.519 --> 00:13:16.679 the inadequate or poor quality of sleep is very 00:13:16.679 --> 00:13:19.820 common among UK children. And it is associated 00:13:19.820 --> 00:13:23.840 with attention, concentration, learning and mental 00:13:23.840 --> 00:13:28.139 health difficulties. And that's a lack of attention 00:13:28.139 --> 00:13:31.340 and concentration in those areas. Yeah. And you 00:13:31.340 --> 00:13:33.340 know, this is one of the things that my sister 00:13:33.340 --> 00:13:35.200 who runs a nursery, you know, she always says 00:13:35.200 --> 00:13:37.220 that when she's dealing with children who are 00:13:37.220 --> 00:13:40.000 having tantrums or having paddies, you need to 00:13:40.000 --> 00:13:43.039 look at their physical needs first, you know. 00:13:43.080 --> 00:13:47.740 Are they tired? Have they eaten? Deal with the 00:13:47.740 --> 00:13:50.820 physical needs of a child before you start going 00:13:50.820 --> 00:13:53.059 in to correct their behaviour. Because you and 00:13:53.059 --> 00:13:55.980 I know when you've had a few hours sleep, you 00:13:55.980 --> 00:13:58.679 are not firing on all cylinders and you are not 00:13:58.679 --> 00:14:04.379 the best version of yourself. Even adults. you 00:14:04.379 --> 00:14:07.120 know, a professional study in Wales, which was 00:14:07.120 --> 00:14:09.940 of primary school children, found that in 2022, 00:14:10.139 --> 00:14:12.720 the proportion of children who reported getting 00:14:12.720 --> 00:14:17.740 nine or plus hours of sleep had dropped to 68 00:14:17.740 --> 00:14:22.960 % and it was 92 % in 2015. Right, so that statistic 00:14:22.960 --> 00:14:26.240 is saying more children are more tired, is what 00:14:26.240 --> 00:14:30.480 you're saying. Yeah, yeah. You know, society 00:14:30.480 --> 00:14:35.629 is just getting so busy. And we're not really 00:14:35.629 --> 00:14:40.490 prioritizing rest and sleep and relaxation and 00:14:40.490 --> 00:14:43.669 play. You know, our schedules are absolutely 00:14:43.669 --> 00:14:48.190 packed to the rafters. A study that Save the 00:14:48.190 --> 00:14:51.750 Children did in the UK in 2022 said that only 00:14:51.750 --> 00:14:54.929 27 % of children say that they play regularly 00:14:54.929 --> 00:14:59.539 outside. and that's compared with 80 % of adults 00:14:59.539 --> 00:15:02.659 said that they played outside aged between now, 00:15:02.960 --> 00:15:06.419 aged 55 and 64. Yeah, to summarise that basically, 00:15:06.879 --> 00:15:09.179 the parents said they would have played outside 00:15:09.179 --> 00:15:12.940 more than the children play outside now. And 00:15:12.940 --> 00:15:16.840 they're stuck inside on devices probably. Yeah, 00:15:16.980 --> 00:15:19.480 I mean, you never tell if what I've just seen 00:15:19.480 --> 00:15:21.200 on the internet is actually true or not, but 00:15:21.200 --> 00:15:23.399 they were talking about releasing Toy Story. 00:15:24.269 --> 00:15:28.090 Very exciting. And it's all about the toys competition 00:15:28.090 --> 00:15:34.210 with the device. The plot is fighting against 00:15:34.210 --> 00:15:40.429 a tablet. And for us as a society, we are so 00:15:40.429 --> 00:15:45.070 busy. And I was talking to a mum at the school 00:15:45.070 --> 00:15:48.110 drop -off and we were talking about the homework 00:15:48.110 --> 00:15:49.649 that we've been given and we're complaining a 00:15:49.649 --> 00:15:52.190 bit about, oh my gosh. Like, so much, you know, 00:15:52.190 --> 00:15:55.370 you step up a year and homework's huge. And she 00:15:55.370 --> 00:15:58.149 was telling me that she's getting home from her 00:15:58.149 --> 00:16:01.990 kids' activities at nine o 'clock at night. You 00:16:01.990 --> 00:16:04.830 know, and that child's six or seven. You're getting 00:16:04.830 --> 00:16:08.370 home at nine, and then you've got to eat dinner 00:16:08.370 --> 00:16:11.009 and do homework. Like, that kid's not going to 00:16:11.009 --> 00:16:13.370 be going to bed till half past ten. Well, they're 00:16:13.370 --> 00:16:17.549 probably doing too much. Yeah, exactly. And I 00:16:17.549 --> 00:16:20.409 just want to kind of... solidify this concept 00:16:20.409 --> 00:16:25.409 that rest is biblical. So everybody knows this, 00:16:25.549 --> 00:16:28.690 Psalm 23, but let's just think about this for 00:16:28.690 --> 00:16:30.289 a minute. Do you want to read it Gareth? Sure. 00:16:30.970 --> 00:16:34.509 Psalm 23. The Lord is my shepherd. I shall not 00:16:34.509 --> 00:16:37.350 want. He makes me lie down in green pastures. 00:16:37.870 --> 00:16:40.929 He leads me beside still waters. He restores 00:16:40.929 --> 00:16:44.070 my soul. He leads me in paths of righteousness 00:16:44.070 --> 00:16:48.389 for His name's sake. Here we've got a very real 00:16:48.389 --> 00:16:52.409 picture of how Jesus, how God deals with us, 00:16:52.669 --> 00:16:56.750 and He makes us lay down in green pastures. He 00:16:56.750 --> 00:17:01.389 leads us beside still waters. There's that element 00:17:01.389 --> 00:17:08.599 of rest and trusting in God. Psalm 4 verse 8 00:17:08.599 --> 00:17:12.700 says, in peace I will both lay down and sleep 00:17:12.700 --> 00:17:18.220 for you oh Lord make me dwell in safety. Matthew 00:17:18.220 --> 00:17:24.420 11 verses 28 to 30 says, come to me all who labor 00:17:24.420 --> 00:17:28.839 and are heavy laden and I will give you rest. 00:17:29.319 --> 00:17:33.789 Take my yoke upon you and learn from me. For 00:17:33.789 --> 00:17:37.890 I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will 00:17:37.890 --> 00:17:42.269 find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy 00:17:42.269 --> 00:17:47.890 and my burden is light." And as parents, we have 00:17:47.890 --> 00:17:52.430 got responsibility to maintain our family's time, 00:17:53.730 --> 00:17:59.809 to teach our children that sleep, rest, relaxation, 00:18:00.529 --> 00:18:06.890 play, family time is important. And to create 00:18:06.890 --> 00:18:09.210 a culture within our family, because I don't 00:18:09.210 --> 00:18:12.250 know if you will realize this, but we're forever 00:18:12.250 --> 00:18:17.089 creating culture wherever we are. To create a 00:18:17.089 --> 00:18:20.309 culture of it's okay to relax, and it's good 00:18:20.309 --> 00:18:25.049 to rest, and it's important. And just like we 00:18:25.049 --> 00:18:26.930 were talking about how the Jewish people stood 00:18:26.930 --> 00:18:29.549 out from the crowd, because they didn't work 00:18:29.549 --> 00:18:34.430 seven days, they only worked and still prospered. 00:18:34.569 --> 00:18:36.710 So should we as Christians be different from 00:18:36.710 --> 00:18:39.289 the rest of the world, that we're not stressed 00:18:39.289 --> 00:18:42.549 out and we can teach our children to rest like 00:18:42.549 --> 00:18:46.049 that, because that's what shows God's covenant 00:18:46.049 --> 00:18:49.170 with us, that shows that we are His children 00:18:49.170 --> 00:18:52.170 and that we have a good shepherd who looks after 00:18:52.170 --> 00:18:57.019 us and restores our souls. Most of these, this 00:18:57.019 --> 00:19:00.680 discussion has been about rest. Rest being trust, 00:19:00.900 --> 00:19:03.700 but also rest not doing anything. Is there a 00:19:03.700 --> 00:19:07.799 risk that people might take that to the widest 00:19:07.799 --> 00:19:10.339 extreme and just say, well, not going to do anything. 00:19:10.539 --> 00:19:12.500 It's going to lay down all day. I mean, there's 00:19:12.500 --> 00:19:14.339 got to be some scripture in there that says that 00:19:14.339 --> 00:19:17.140 we probably should go to work. Yeah, you know, 00:19:17.140 --> 00:19:19.799 it's so interesting because I think... It's like 00:19:19.799 --> 00:19:22.140 a pendulum, when the pendulum's swinging from 00:19:22.140 --> 00:19:24.359 one side to the other. You've got some people 00:19:24.359 --> 00:19:28.200 way over on the left of the pendulum that really 00:19:28.200 --> 00:19:32.720 don't do much and think that 10 hours, 20 hours 00:19:32.720 --> 00:19:35.380 a week is enough to work. Then you've got other 00:19:35.380 --> 00:19:37.960 people on the opposite side of the pendulum that 00:19:37.960 --> 00:19:42.440 never stop. It's a balance. You want to be in 00:19:42.440 --> 00:19:46.400 the middle of that swing. I heard this great 00:19:46.400 --> 00:19:48.480 thing this week which said, you know, when we're 00:19:48.480 --> 00:19:50.940 talking about this, if this is kind of like soothing 00:19:50.940 --> 00:19:53.140 your soul, like, oh yes, I should be relaxing 00:19:53.140 --> 00:19:55.140 more, it's probably not for you, you're probably 00:19:55.140 --> 00:19:57.279 on the wrong side of the pendulum. If you're 00:19:57.279 --> 00:19:59.119 listening to me and you're thinking, oh gosh, 00:19:59.279 --> 00:20:01.960 yeah, wow, okay, I really do need to rest and 00:20:01.960 --> 00:20:04.420 relax, it's probably, this is the person it's 00:20:04.420 --> 00:20:06.859 for, you're the person I'm talking to. Because 00:20:06.859 --> 00:20:09.359 when we're listening to something, if it's not 00:20:09.359 --> 00:20:12.380 challenging us, we've probably quite established 00:20:12.380 --> 00:20:16.160 in that area. So, Yeah, there's a lot of people 00:20:16.160 --> 00:20:20.380 out there that have this kind of concept of I 00:20:20.380 --> 00:20:22.900 just want to be, you know, almost living a retired 00:20:22.900 --> 00:20:26.799 life and then wondering why they haven't got 00:20:26.799 --> 00:20:29.599 any money. They haven't got any money because 00:20:29.599 --> 00:20:35.960 you haven't worked. 2 Thessalonians 3 verse 10 00:20:35.960 --> 00:20:39.579 says, for even when we were with you, we would 00:20:39.579 --> 00:20:43.000 give you this command, if anyone is not willing 00:20:43.000 --> 00:20:49.240 to work, let him not eat. That's a hard one, 00:20:49.299 --> 00:20:50.920 but it's in the New Testament, it's in the New 00:20:50.920 --> 00:20:53.599 Covenant, and it's saying if you don't work, 00:20:53.779 --> 00:20:57.579 you don't eat. And if you're only working two 00:20:57.579 --> 00:21:01.779 hours a week, two hours a day, then you're not 00:21:01.779 --> 00:21:05.839 going to be eaten very much. So we need to remember 00:21:05.839 --> 00:21:09.359 that, you know, resting in God and allowing time 00:21:09.359 --> 00:21:12.240 of rest, there's got to be a balance in it. Can 00:21:12.240 --> 00:21:14.200 I read my favourite verse? You may read your 00:21:14.200 --> 00:21:25.650 favourite verse. Proverbs 6, verse 6 to 8. She 00:21:25.650 --> 00:21:28.789 prepares her bread in summer and gathers her 00:21:28.789 --> 00:21:31.730 food in harvest. You love that one, don't you? 00:21:33.769 --> 00:21:35.269 You know, and that's the thing, isn't it, that 00:21:35.269 --> 00:21:39.119 God, you know, gave us. the ability to work. 00:21:39.299 --> 00:21:43.339 And even when Adam and Eve were made, God told 00:21:43.339 --> 00:21:45.000 them to look after the garden. You know, they 00:21:45.000 --> 00:21:47.460 had a job to do. They had to look after the animals 00:21:47.460 --> 00:21:49.720 and they had to look after the garden. And all 00:21:49.720 --> 00:21:53.640 of us have been created for a work, for something 00:21:53.640 --> 00:21:57.720 that God wants us to do. And it's about having 00:21:57.720 --> 00:22:01.500 that balance. Can you give us any practical steps 00:22:01.500 --> 00:22:04.559 to make this work in our lives with our families 00:22:04.559 --> 00:22:07.980 whilst we're raising a family? Yeah. First of 00:22:07.980 --> 00:22:10.740 all, I think one of the biggest pieces of advice 00:22:10.740 --> 00:22:14.140 I can give to anybody listening to this is that 00:22:14.140 --> 00:22:19.119 as parents and as adults, we are the ones who 00:22:19.119 --> 00:22:21.940 set our schedules. Yeah, so we need structure, 00:22:22.000 --> 00:22:25.059 don't we? Yeah. In our week. But this sounds 00:22:25.059 --> 00:22:28.359 really silly, right? And I'm saying it slowly 00:22:28.359 --> 00:22:32.319 because so many times when I speak with people, 00:22:32.960 --> 00:22:35.980 it's like they haven't understood that they're 00:22:35.980 --> 00:22:39.890 the problem. It's like that Taylor Swift song, 00:22:39.990 --> 00:22:43.250 it's me, hi, I'm the problem, it's me. So many 00:22:43.250 --> 00:22:44.450 people are like, I have to do this and I have 00:22:44.450 --> 00:22:45.549 to do that and I've got to go here and I've got 00:22:45.549 --> 00:22:49.750 to go there. Who's making you do that? The majority 00:22:49.750 --> 00:22:54.150 of it is you. You've signed up for it. We were 00:22:54.150 --> 00:22:56.089 talking about this week. I've signed up for a 00:22:56.089 --> 00:22:58.990 Bible college course. I'm in my second year. 00:22:59.490 --> 00:23:02.250 I'm working full time. I've got the children. 00:23:04.039 --> 00:23:06.380 I'm going to study that I have to do. Well, who 00:23:06.380 --> 00:23:09.799 signed me up for that? Me. I'm like, I signed 00:23:09.799 --> 00:23:12.359 myself up for it. Yeah, halfway through a marathon, 00:23:12.420 --> 00:23:15.059 you can't give up, can you? You signed up for 00:23:15.059 --> 00:23:18.180 it. You signed up for it, kiddo. So I think it's 00:23:18.180 --> 00:23:21.559 important for us to realise that we have the 00:23:21.559 --> 00:23:25.119 power, right? If we are feeling like our family 00:23:25.119 --> 00:23:29.059 is worn out, if we are seeing those warning signs 00:23:29.059 --> 00:23:32.000 in our children, and warning signs in our children 00:23:32.000 --> 00:23:36.609 look like... being difficult, not doing as they're 00:23:36.609 --> 00:23:40.049 told, not paying attention, zoning out at the 00:23:40.049 --> 00:23:43.009 telly because they're tired, you know, big bags 00:23:43.009 --> 00:23:45.289 around their eyes, you know, flipping out over 00:23:45.289 --> 00:23:46.990 something ridiculous they wouldn't normally flip 00:23:46.990 --> 00:23:49.609 out over. That's a sign of them being tired. 00:23:50.289 --> 00:23:53.589 And we need to look for those warning signs and 00:23:53.589 --> 00:23:56.529 we need to address them as the family and know 00:23:56.529 --> 00:23:59.309 that we are the ones in control of what our week 00:23:59.309 --> 00:24:04.000 is looking like. We fill the diary. We're the 00:24:04.000 --> 00:24:07.140 ones that have said yes, and we're the ones that 00:24:07.140 --> 00:24:10.059 fill our days. We do struggle though with trying 00:24:10.059 --> 00:24:13.420 to please everyone, and we often say yes to things 00:24:13.420 --> 00:24:15.460 that we think, oh yeah, well I just need to say 00:24:15.460 --> 00:24:18.940 yes, but really I meant no. So is there anything 00:24:18.940 --> 00:24:21.859 you can tell me about that? Yeah, so Jesus says 00:24:21.859 --> 00:24:25.859 in Matthew 5 verse 37, he says, but let your 00:24:25.859 --> 00:24:30.339 yes be yes. and your no be no, for whatever is 00:24:30.339 --> 00:24:34.299 more than these is from the evil one." So by 00:24:34.299 --> 00:24:35.900 pleasing people and going, yeah, yeah, yeah, 00:24:35.900 --> 00:24:37.539 I'll be there, it's fine, you end up letting 00:24:37.539 --> 00:24:40.000 people down. And that's just worse, isn't it? 00:24:40.039 --> 00:24:42.319 Yeah. There's a Bible verse that says, be you 00:24:42.319 --> 00:24:45.079 pleasers of God and not men. You know, and so 00:24:45.079 --> 00:24:49.640 many times we can want to be pleasers of men, 00:24:49.640 --> 00:24:52.640 but if we're doing stuff that God hasn't called 00:24:52.640 --> 00:24:54.799 us to do, we don't have the grace to fulfill 00:24:54.799 --> 00:24:59.640 that. So let me just explain that a bit. I have 00:24:59.640 --> 00:25:03.160 two children and a full -time job. That is something 00:25:03.160 --> 00:25:06.779 that God has given me. And I know that my children 00:25:06.779 --> 00:25:08.839 are gifts from Him and I know that my job is 00:25:08.839 --> 00:25:12.839 absolutely a gift from Him. So if I take on a 00:25:12.839 --> 00:25:15.619 second year Bible college course that I've got 00:25:15.619 --> 00:25:18.720 to do multiple assessments for and assignments, 00:25:19.259 --> 00:25:22.279 I have got the grace to do that because it's 00:25:22.279 --> 00:25:24.640 something that God has called me and asked me 00:25:24.640 --> 00:25:28.029 to do. So he gives me the grace to fulfill the 00:25:28.029 --> 00:25:31.230 things he's put on my agenda Well, in fact you 00:25:31.230 --> 00:25:33.769 need to create space something's got to give 00:25:33.769 --> 00:25:37.470 often hasn't it? To make space for something 00:25:37.470 --> 00:25:39.430 new moving in something else has to move out 00:25:39.430 --> 00:25:42.490 Yeah, but if I then say yes to things that God 00:25:42.490 --> 00:25:45.289 hasn't asked me to do I don't have the same amount 00:25:45.289 --> 00:25:49.069 of grace because I'm stepping out of This is 00:25:49.069 --> 00:25:51.289 what he asked me to do and I'm trying to do it 00:25:51.289 --> 00:25:54.099 in my own strength So it's really important that 00:25:54.099 --> 00:25:56.259 when we're looking at our schedules, like you 00:25:56.259 --> 00:25:58.799 said, one in, one out, you say that a lot when 00:25:58.799 --> 00:26:00.380 we buy clothes, you bought clothes, something's 00:26:00.380 --> 00:26:03.339 got to go, you know, when we take on something 00:26:03.339 --> 00:26:06.119 new, or we're planning our family schedules, 00:26:06.180 --> 00:26:07.920 we need to look at the whole week, the whole 00:26:07.920 --> 00:26:11.940 month, and not just say yes to everything, but 00:26:11.940 --> 00:26:15.619 to let our no be no. You know, your no is just 00:26:15.619 --> 00:26:20.519 as valid and good as your yes. Yes and no need 00:26:20.519 --> 00:26:24.400 to be used in equal measures. And this is something 00:26:24.400 --> 00:26:28.079 that I think... I'm going to be a bit controversial 00:26:28.079 --> 00:26:30.440 here, Gareth. And you're welcome to disagree 00:26:30.440 --> 00:26:33.200 with me. But I think a lot of women and a lot 00:26:33.200 --> 00:26:35.980 of mums are predominantly the diary keeper for 00:26:35.980 --> 00:26:39.119 the family. Would you agree or disagree? Yeah, 00:26:40.099 --> 00:26:42.079 we all have diaries. We have to have a shared 00:26:42.079 --> 00:26:44.680 diary, otherwise it's chaos, isn't it? Yeah, 00:26:44.680 --> 00:26:47.839 but in terms of what the kids are doing... It's 00:26:47.839 --> 00:26:51.140 predominantly like most women are the ones that... 00:26:51.140 --> 00:26:53.099 I think it depends on the family. In our scenario, 00:26:53.279 --> 00:26:55.539 yes, it is, but it depends on the family. So, 00:26:55.960 --> 00:26:59.480 and Proverbs 14 verse 1 says, the wise woman 00:26:59.480 --> 00:27:01.940 builds her house, but the foolish one pulls it 00:27:01.940 --> 00:27:05.160 down with her own hands. And I think sometimes 00:27:05.160 --> 00:27:07.940 as moms we can be like... Well, they have to 00:27:07.940 --> 00:27:10.019 do ballet and they have to do football and they 00:27:10.019 --> 00:27:12.720 have to go and do their tuition and they have 00:27:12.720 --> 00:27:14.579 to go swimming. And then before you know it, 00:27:14.680 --> 00:27:16.859 the poor child hasn't got a minute to itself. 00:27:17.759 --> 00:27:21.759 And, you know, that's not wise. It's like pulling 00:27:21.759 --> 00:27:24.660 our own home down by our own hands. You know, 00:27:24.660 --> 00:27:27.539 we need to step back and think, you know, what 00:27:27.539 --> 00:27:29.880 does their week look like? Have they got time 00:27:29.880 --> 00:27:32.799 to rest? I think all of these things are important 00:27:32.799 --> 00:27:35.700 to children. To do something, to do some education, 00:27:35.920 --> 00:27:39.460 some recreational activities, some play, seeing, 00:27:39.519 --> 00:27:42.859 doing social activities, that's great. But ramming 00:27:42.859 --> 00:27:45.460 their diary full, I mean kids having diaries, 00:27:45.579 --> 00:27:48.039 that's one thing, but ramming their diary full 00:27:48.039 --> 00:27:50.920 of activities is just maybe too much. Yeah. And 00:27:50.920 --> 00:27:53.119 we have to be sensitive to that so that we can 00:27:53.119 --> 00:27:55.599 have what we're talking about is rest. Yeah. 00:27:56.119 --> 00:27:58.000 And, you know, time is a family where you can 00:27:58.000 --> 00:28:00.700 rest together. You know, and yes, mum and dad 00:28:00.700 --> 00:28:02.519 might fall asleep on the sofa when we're watching 00:28:02.519 --> 00:28:04.880 a movie that we're not interested in, but it's 00:28:04.880 --> 00:28:07.420 about being together and being close to each 00:28:07.420 --> 00:28:09.900 other. And, you know, I love it when the kids 00:28:09.900 --> 00:28:12.039 come and get in our bed on a Saturday morning 00:28:12.039 --> 00:28:14.339 and they all snuggle down with us. You know, 00:28:14.339 --> 00:28:17.039 it's just that time to be close and to be together 00:28:17.039 --> 00:28:19.339 where we're not get your shoes on, brush your 00:28:19.339 --> 00:28:21.099 teeth, get your hair, where's your bag? Where's 00:28:21.099 --> 00:28:22.279 your shoes? Where's your coat? You know, it's 00:28:22.279 --> 00:28:25.279 not any of that. It's just time for us to relax. 00:28:25.940 --> 00:28:29.710 So my kind of like top tips for helping kids 00:28:29.710 --> 00:28:34.109 rest. So, you know, these are just some ideas 00:28:34.109 --> 00:28:37.289 but having a play day, you know, a day where 00:28:37.289 --> 00:28:40.549 we just play with the toys in the house. Without 00:28:40.549 --> 00:28:45.069 screens. Without screens. But this will mean 00:28:45.069 --> 00:28:48.019 that your house is trashed. because if you do 00:28:48.019 --> 00:28:49.779 it... If you set yourself up for that expectation, 00:28:50.039 --> 00:28:51.960 then it's not a burden to you, is it? No, you've 00:28:51.960 --> 00:28:53.519 just got to know that if you're having a play 00:28:53.519 --> 00:28:56.240 day, all the toys are going to be out and it's 00:28:56.240 --> 00:28:58.079 going to take everybody some time to tidy up 00:28:58.079 --> 00:29:01.660 before bed. But, you know, I find that a real 00:29:01.660 --> 00:29:03.940 challenge because I don't like things being a 00:29:03.940 --> 00:29:06.299 mess. It annoys me, it winds me up. But, you 00:29:06.299 --> 00:29:08.380 know, you've got to let it go because they need 00:29:08.380 --> 00:29:12.420 time to play with their toys. You know, watch 00:29:12.420 --> 00:29:14.839 your appointments in the week and your schedule, 00:29:14.839 --> 00:29:18.680 you know. get yourself a month calendar and look 00:29:18.680 --> 00:29:22.400 at the month as a whole. You go, wow, we're actually 00:29:22.400 --> 00:29:25.880 overly busy. And yeah, we're going to have to 00:29:25.880 --> 00:29:28.480 say no to something. And it's not going to be 00:29:28.480 --> 00:29:30.680 comfortable. But we're the grownups. We're the 00:29:30.680 --> 00:29:33.900 ones who make those decisions, who have the difficult 00:29:33.900 --> 00:29:37.839 conversations. We say to your friend, I know 00:29:37.839 --> 00:29:39.700 that we said we'd do a play date. We're maxed 00:29:39.700 --> 00:29:41.980 out. We're so sorry. I've planned this badly. 00:29:42.200 --> 00:29:45.440 Please forgive me. I need to move it. You know, 00:29:45.480 --> 00:29:49.339 we need to be the grown -ups in it. You know, 00:29:49.519 --> 00:29:52.380 create weekends with nothing booked in. That's 00:29:52.380 --> 00:29:54.359 really hard. That's really hard. Because they're 00:29:54.359 --> 00:29:56.420 the only days that they have available to do 00:29:56.420 --> 00:29:58.579 all of those activities. But you know, I love 00:29:58.579 --> 00:30:00.079 it. When I look at a weekend, I've got nothing 00:30:00.079 --> 00:30:03.599 in the diary. I'm like, oh, this is amazing. 00:30:03.759 --> 00:30:05.039 Apart from going to church on a Sunday morning, 00:30:05.039 --> 00:30:05.980 obviously. Apart from going to church on a Sunday 00:30:05.980 --> 00:30:08.900 morning. But you know, having time where it's 00:30:08.900 --> 00:30:12.380 just, there's not a plan. You know, you just 00:30:12.380 --> 00:30:16.539 take it easy. Let them have a slow morning. and 00:30:16.539 --> 00:30:20.740 allow rest to be part of your language and for 00:30:20.740 --> 00:30:24.299 it to be okay. You know, one of the things that 00:30:24.299 --> 00:30:28.480 I didn't even know about myself, but I struggle 00:30:28.480 --> 00:30:33.039 so much to relax. You know, I think we've been 00:30:33.039 --> 00:30:35.660 doing some jigsaw puzzles, because that's what 00:30:35.660 --> 00:30:39.240 you do, and quite enjoyed them. I never did them 00:30:39.240 --> 00:30:41.500 as a kid, but you and I have been doing them 00:30:41.500 --> 00:30:44.420 together. Oh my goodness, I have had to fight 00:30:44.420 --> 00:30:47.420 so hard not to feel guilty about sitting doing 00:30:47.420 --> 00:30:50.400 a jigsaw puzzle. Because in my head, I have this 00:30:50.400 --> 00:30:52.720 narrative that goes, there's so many other things 00:30:52.720 --> 00:30:54.559 you should be doing right now. Why are you just 00:30:54.559 --> 00:30:56.160 sitting there and doing that? Don't you know 00:30:56.160 --> 00:30:58.799 that there's a pile of washing to be done? And 00:30:58.799 --> 00:31:00.819 one of the things that my family used to say 00:31:00.819 --> 00:31:04.180 to me, if you sat down, we're a very busy house 00:31:04.180 --> 00:31:06.960 when I grew up. But if you sat down and you were 00:31:06.960 --> 00:31:09.140 just kind of reading a book or resting or something, 00:31:09.779 --> 00:31:10.799 you know, people would say to you, you know, 00:31:10.839 --> 00:31:12.579 who do you think you are, Dutch as a thick twist, 00:31:12.720 --> 00:31:15.019 just sitting there doing nothing? You know, you'd 00:31:15.019 --> 00:31:16.799 have that, oh gosh, I'm not allowed to sit down. 00:31:17.180 --> 00:31:19.599 Oh gosh, I can't have a nap in the day. Like, 00:31:19.740 --> 00:31:20.859 nap? What are you talking about, nap? That'd 00:31:20.859 --> 00:31:26.200 be ridiculous. And that's... That's really sad 00:31:26.200 --> 00:31:29.660 because what that does is that teaches that individual 00:31:29.660 --> 00:31:31.119 you're not allowed to rest, you're not allowed 00:31:31.119 --> 00:31:32.839 to sit down, you're not allowed to have social 00:31:32.839 --> 00:31:34.359 time, you're not allowed to enjoy yourself and 00:31:34.359 --> 00:31:38.420 you mustn't sleep. And nobody can live like that 00:31:38.420 --> 00:31:43.380 and have life in abundance. We need to allow 00:31:43.380 --> 00:31:47.700 not only us but our children to relax and to 00:31:47.700 --> 00:31:49.660 rest. Can you give me some examples of how we 00:31:49.660 --> 00:31:53.109 can rest? What things can we do? instead of this 00:31:53.109 --> 00:31:56.430 busy life, can we, you said reading a book is 00:31:56.430 --> 00:31:58.609 really good, maybe doing a jigsaw puzzle, doing 00:31:58.609 --> 00:32:00.690 something quietly, sitting quietly. Could it 00:32:00.690 --> 00:32:03.549 also be a time of reflection? Could it be time 00:32:03.549 --> 00:32:07.450 of meditation perhaps? Could it be taking the 00:32:07.450 --> 00:32:12.650 dog for a walk? Yeah, all of those things. Psalm 00:32:12.650 --> 00:32:17.769 46 verse 10 says, be still and know that I am 00:32:17.769 --> 00:32:23.480 God. And very often we are not still. And I believe 00:32:23.480 --> 00:32:26.660 that it is a real strategy from the enemy to 00:32:26.660 --> 00:32:29.859 keep us go, go, go, go, go, go, go. Well, I imagine 00:32:29.859 --> 00:32:32.900 if you're so distracted with something, with 00:32:32.900 --> 00:32:35.380 noise in your brain, then you don't hear from 00:32:35.380 --> 00:32:38.500 God. Yes, that's a really good point. So part 00:32:38.500 --> 00:32:42.799 of that resting time is actually could be intercession? 00:32:43.259 --> 00:32:47.720 Prayer. Yeah. Chanting to God, yeah. And I think 00:32:47.720 --> 00:32:49.900 one of the things that we have to be so careful 00:32:49.900 --> 00:32:51.640 of is that we've got the telly playing all the 00:32:51.640 --> 00:32:53.200 time, we've got the radio playing all the time, 00:32:53.220 --> 00:32:55.680 we've got the music playing all the time. We're 00:32:55.680 --> 00:33:00.240 not having moments of still, of choir. And I 00:33:00.240 --> 00:33:04.960 think a lot of the time, when we've got something 00:33:04.960 --> 00:33:09.259 inside us that isn't healed, when we've got a 00:33:09.259 --> 00:33:12.599 part of us that is in pain, speaking of someone 00:33:12.599 --> 00:33:15.240 who's walked through grief, You don't want quiet 00:33:15.240 --> 00:33:18.740 because the quiet makes the inner turmoil louder. 00:33:19.779 --> 00:33:23.660 But it's in those times of quiet and peace that 00:33:23.660 --> 00:33:27.640 you look to Jesus to be your Sabbath rest, where 00:33:27.640 --> 00:33:30.980 you look to him and you let him heal your heart. 00:33:32.420 --> 00:33:35.819 And a lot of society doesn't want to live in 00:33:35.819 --> 00:33:38.700 a place of peace because of the craziness that's 00:33:38.700 --> 00:33:40.680 going on in their mind. You know, when they turn 00:33:40.680 --> 00:33:43.470 down the music, they turn down the telly. They 00:33:43.470 --> 00:33:45.769 can hear their own thoughts, and they're not 00:33:45.769 --> 00:33:47.710 helpful, and they hurt, and they're painful. 00:33:48.549 --> 00:33:51.329 But, you know, when we put our trust in God, 00:33:51.630 --> 00:33:54.369 who bore our griefs, who healed our diseases, 00:33:54.670 --> 00:33:57.730 who comforts those that mourn, healed the brokenhearted, 00:33:58.089 --> 00:34:01.950 when we have that, it is that quiet place that 00:34:01.950 --> 00:34:05.690 He comes, He speaks to us, and He heals us. And, 00:34:05.690 --> 00:34:07.710 you know, children, in the light of raising a 00:34:07.710 --> 00:34:10.809 family, you know, children don't really pay much 00:34:10.809 --> 00:34:13.829 attention to things you say. they pay a lot of 00:34:13.829 --> 00:34:17.650 attention to things you do. And if we want to 00:34:17.650 --> 00:34:21.989 demonstrate a life of resting in God, we have 00:34:21.989 --> 00:34:26.309 to demonstrate it, not just talk it. Wow, what 00:34:26.309 --> 00:34:29.030 an incredible chat, in fact. And it's good, and 00:34:29.030 --> 00:34:30.730 I'm pleased that it's ended on a really nice 00:34:30.730 --> 00:34:34.829 note about resting in the Lord. So until we speak 00:34:34.829 --> 00:34:37.829 again... Be kind to yourself. And each other. 00:34:41.480 --> 00:34:44.280 You have been listening to the Follies End podcast. 00:34:45.579 --> 00:34:47.360 If you'd like to know more information, get in 00:34:47.360 --> 00:34:51.000 touch via folliesendtrust .co .uk. Thanks for 00:34:51.000 --> 00:34:52.559 listening. See you next time.