Welcome back to Mib Speaks, a podcast for mums
and women in business who are building something
very real alongside real chaotic lives. Not perfect,
not polished, but very real. I'm Leona and today
we're talking about something that quietly keeps
so many brilliant women stuck even though they
are capable of so much more. Is that you? Overthinking.
Overthinking is the most socially acceptable
form of procrastination. It looks responsible.
It looks sensible. It looks like you're being
careful. But most of the time, it's the reason
why nothing changes. Overthinking sounds like,
I'll just wait until it feels right. I need to
think it through a little bit more. I'll do it
when I'm ready. I'm just weighing up my options.
I don't want to rush into anything. Let me just
be clear. Thinking isn't the problem. Staying
in thinking mode instead of action is. overthinking
doesn't protect you it delays you it keeps you
busy in your head whilst your life stays the
same and here's the part we don't talk about
enough overthinking comes from fear not lack
of ability it's lack of action fear of getting
it wrong fear of being judged fear of making
a wrong decision fear of making a mistake fear
of wasting time or money but instead you are
choosing To circle. Instead of acting, you analyze.
Instead of moving forward, you wait. But clarity
doesn't come from thinking harder. It comes from
moving. You don't need to know the whole damn
plan. You just need to take the next step. Every
woman and mib you admire didn't think her way
to success. She acted her way there. She made
the decisions. They took the steps. She adjusted
to what she wanted. She learned by doing and
that's the part overthinkers hate. Because action
feels uncomfortable. It feels risky. But staying
stuck is riskier. So let's get practical because
awareness without action is just more thinking.
So here's the first shift I want you to make.
Stop asking, what if it goes wrong? Start asking,
what if I figure it out? That one question changes
everything. Here's your first action, write it
down. Write down the decision you've been overthinking,
the one that keeps looping around in your head.
Now ask yourself, what is the worst realistic
outcome? And what is the best possible outcome?
And what is the most likely outcome? Most of
the time, the worst case is survivable. Thank
goodness. And the best cases change everything.
Second shift, limit your decision time. Overthinking
thrives on unlimited time. So stop. Give it some
deadline. 24 hours, 48 hours, a week maximum,
but decide. Make a decision when it's going to
get done and get it done. Here's your second
action. Choose one decision and set a deadline
to decide and write it down. No extending it.
Third shift, move before you feel ready. You're
never going to feel ready. Readiness is a myth.
Confidence follows action, not the other way
around. If you wait until you feel 100 % sure,
you'll be waiting forever. Here's your third
action. Ask yourself, what would I do if I were
only allowed to take the smallest step? Not the
full leap, just... One step. What would happen
in your business? Send the message, post the
content, book the call, say yes, say no. Moral
actions break overthinking instantly. Now let's
talk about identity because this is key. Overthinkers
are usually high standards people. They care.
They want to do things well. But high standards
without action turn into self -sabotage. So here's
a reframe. Progress is a standard. Done is better
than perfect. Movement beats mastery. Learning
comes from action. And I want to say this especially
clearly for moms and women in business. You don't
need to have everything figured out. You don't
need to have a do it perfectly. You don't need
the final outcome. You just need to choose you.
You need to choose you because every time you
don't choose you, you're still making a decision.
You're choosing to stay exactly where you are
or worst case scenario, go backwards. So let
me leave you with this. Overthinking feels safe.
Action is what builds confidence. Action is what
creates clarity. Action is what changes your
life. So ask yourself, what am I overthinking
right now? What decision am I avoiding? What
would happen if I just moved? Because you don't
get unstuck by thinking your way out. You get
unstuck by acting your way forward. So if this
episode hits home, share it with someone who
needs a reminder. And remember, clarity lives
on the other side of action. I'll see you next
time on Mib Speaks.