WEBVTT 00:00:00.000 --> 00:00:02.660 Welcome back to Mib Speaks, a podcast for mums 00:00:02.660 --> 00:00:04.620 and women in business who are building something 00:00:04.620 --> 00:00:09.859 very real alongside real chaotic lives. Not perfect, 00:00:10.099 --> 00:00:12.619 not polished, but very real. I'm Leona and today 00:00:12.619 --> 00:00:14.599 we're talking about something that quietly keeps 00:00:14.599 --> 00:00:18.339 so many brilliant women stuck even though they 00:00:18.339 --> 00:00:22.539 are capable of so much more. Is that you? Overthinking. 00:00:22.859 --> 00:00:25.199 Overthinking is the most socially acceptable 00:00:25.199 --> 00:00:28.760 form of procrastination. It looks responsible. 00:00:28.960 --> 00:00:31.579 It looks sensible. It looks like you're being 00:00:31.579 --> 00:00:35.759 careful. But most of the time, it's the reason 00:00:35.759 --> 00:00:38.240 why nothing changes. Overthinking sounds like, 00:00:38.240 --> 00:00:41.560 I'll just wait until it feels right. I need to 00:00:41.560 --> 00:00:43.820 think it through a little bit more. I'll do it 00:00:43.820 --> 00:00:46.479 when I'm ready. I'm just weighing up my options. 00:00:46.619 --> 00:00:49.240 I don't want to rush into anything. Let me just 00:00:49.240 --> 00:00:53.100 be clear. Thinking isn't the problem. Staying 00:00:53.100 --> 00:00:57.200 in thinking mode instead of action is. overthinking 00:00:57.200 --> 00:01:00.219 doesn't protect you it delays you it keeps you 00:01:00.219 --> 00:01:02.920 busy in your head whilst your life stays the 00:01:02.920 --> 00:01:06.120 same and here's the part we don't talk about 00:01:06.120 --> 00:01:09.040 enough overthinking comes from fear not lack 00:01:09.040 --> 00:01:11.920 of ability it's lack of action fear of getting 00:01:11.920 --> 00:01:15.040 it wrong fear of being judged fear of making 00:01:15.040 --> 00:01:18.299 a wrong decision fear of making a mistake fear 00:01:18.299 --> 00:01:21.519 of wasting time or money but instead you are 00:01:21.519 --> 00:01:25.500 choosing To circle. Instead of acting, you analyze. 00:01:25.920 --> 00:01:29.519 Instead of moving forward, you wait. But clarity 00:01:29.519 --> 00:01:32.739 doesn't come from thinking harder. It comes from 00:01:32.739 --> 00:01:35.420 moving. You don't need to know the whole damn 00:01:35.420 --> 00:01:38.500 plan. You just need to take the next step. Every 00:01:38.500 --> 00:01:41.519 woman and mib you admire didn't think her way 00:01:41.519 --> 00:01:45.269 to success. She acted her way there. She made 00:01:45.269 --> 00:01:48.090 the decisions. They took the steps. She adjusted 00:01:48.090 --> 00:01:51.430 to what she wanted. She learned by doing and 00:01:51.430 --> 00:01:55.349 that's the part overthinkers hate. Because action 00:01:55.349 --> 00:01:58.670 feels uncomfortable. It feels risky. But staying 00:01:58.670 --> 00:02:01.609 stuck is riskier. So let's get practical because 00:02:01.609 --> 00:02:05.250 awareness without action is just more thinking. 00:02:05.790 --> 00:02:08.189 So here's the first shift I want you to make. 00:02:08.550 --> 00:02:12.310 Stop asking, what if it goes wrong? Start asking, 00:02:12.509 --> 00:02:17.270 what if I figure it out? That one question changes 00:02:17.270 --> 00:02:20.169 everything. Here's your first action, write it 00:02:20.169 --> 00:02:23.289 down. Write down the decision you've been overthinking, 00:02:23.370 --> 00:02:26.330 the one that keeps looping around in your head. 00:02:26.449 --> 00:02:28.849 Now ask yourself, what is the worst realistic 00:02:28.849 --> 00:02:32.009 outcome? And what is the best possible outcome? 00:02:32.710 --> 00:02:35.969 And what is the most likely outcome? Most of 00:02:35.969 --> 00:02:39.020 the time, the worst case is survivable. Thank 00:02:39.020 --> 00:02:41.599 goodness. And the best cases change everything. 00:02:41.800 --> 00:02:45.219 Second shift, limit your decision time. Overthinking 00:02:45.219 --> 00:02:48.939 thrives on unlimited time. So stop. Give it some 00:02:48.939 --> 00:02:52.919 deadline. 24 hours, 48 hours, a week maximum, 00:02:53.099 --> 00:02:56.599 but decide. Make a decision when it's going to 00:02:56.599 --> 00:02:58.939 get done and get it done. Here's your second 00:02:58.939 --> 00:03:01.599 action. Choose one decision and set a deadline 00:03:01.599 --> 00:03:04.020 to decide and write it down. No extending it. 00:03:04.719 --> 00:03:07.360 Third shift, move before you feel ready. You're 00:03:07.360 --> 00:03:09.939 never going to feel ready. Readiness is a myth. 00:03:10.439 --> 00:03:12.800 Confidence follows action, not the other way 00:03:12.800 --> 00:03:16.139 around. If you wait until you feel 100 % sure, 00:03:16.259 --> 00:03:20.199 you'll be waiting forever. Here's your third 00:03:20.199 --> 00:03:23.379 action. Ask yourself, what would I do if I were 00:03:23.379 --> 00:03:27.080 only allowed to take the smallest step? Not the 00:03:27.080 --> 00:03:31.060 full leap, just... One step. What would happen 00:03:31.060 --> 00:03:33.680 in your business? Send the message, post the 00:03:33.680 --> 00:03:37.560 content, book the call, say yes, say no. Moral 00:03:37.560 --> 00:03:41.379 actions break overthinking instantly. Now let's 00:03:41.379 --> 00:03:44.860 talk about identity because this is key. Overthinkers 00:03:44.860 --> 00:03:47.800 are usually high standards people. They care. 00:03:48.000 --> 00:03:50.979 They want to do things well. But high standards 00:03:50.979 --> 00:03:55.199 without action turn into self -sabotage. So here's 00:03:55.199 --> 00:03:58.909 a reframe. Progress is a standard. Done is better 00:03:58.909 --> 00:04:01.949 than perfect. Movement beats mastery. Learning 00:04:01.949 --> 00:04:05.530 comes from action. And I want to say this especially 00:04:05.530 --> 00:04:09.789 clearly for moms and women in business. You don't 00:04:09.789 --> 00:04:13.050 need to have everything figured out. You don't 00:04:13.050 --> 00:04:15.789 need to have a do it perfectly. You don't need 00:04:15.789 --> 00:04:19.029 the final outcome. You just need to choose you. 00:04:19.329 --> 00:04:21.670 You need to choose you because every time you 00:04:21.670 --> 00:04:24.649 don't choose you, you're still making a decision. 00:04:25.370 --> 00:04:28.149 You're choosing to stay exactly where you are 00:04:28.149 --> 00:04:30.709 or worst case scenario, go backwards. So let 00:04:30.709 --> 00:04:33.649 me leave you with this. Overthinking feels safe. 00:04:33.850 --> 00:04:37.350 Action is what builds confidence. Action is what 00:04:37.350 --> 00:04:40.069 creates clarity. Action is what changes your 00:04:40.069 --> 00:04:43.069 life. So ask yourself, what am I overthinking 00:04:43.069 --> 00:04:47.550 right now? What decision am I avoiding? What 00:04:47.550 --> 00:04:51.189 would happen if I just moved? Because you don't 00:04:51.189 --> 00:04:54.740 get unstuck by thinking your way out. You get 00:04:54.740 --> 00:04:58.540 unstuck by acting your way forward. So if this 00:04:58.540 --> 00:05:00.879 episode hits home, share it with someone who 00:05:00.879 --> 00:05:04.660 needs a reminder. And remember, clarity lives 00:05:04.660 --> 00:05:07.740 on the other side of action. I'll see you next 00:05:07.740 --> 00:05:09.000 time on Mib Speaks.