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Welcome back to Mib Speaks, the podcast for mums

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and women in business who are building something

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real alongside real life. We know it's busy and

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we know it's crazy. This is where we talk openly

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and honestly about growth, money, confidence,

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visibility and actually what it takes to grow

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a business around real life. I'm Leona Burton

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and today I want to talk to you about something

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I get asked all of the time. If I had to start

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again, what would I do differently? Not with

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more money, not with more time, not with more

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knowledge, not with fewer responsibilities. But

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if I had to start again knowing what I know now,

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and I want you to listen to this episode, not

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as inspiration, but as a shortcut. Because if

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you're earlier in your journey, or even if you

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feel stuck, it might just save you years. If

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I had to start again, the first thing I would

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do is stop waiting to feel confident. I wasted

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so much thinking time waiting to feel confident

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before I earned it, before I showed up. I told

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myself I'd speak when I felt ready. I post when

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I felt polished. I lead when I felt I knew enough.

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But confidence doesn't come first. It never has.

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Confidence is built by keeping promises to yourself.

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It's built through action. It's built by doing

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the thing even when your voice shakes. If I had

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to start again, I'd start sooner. imperfectly

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and trust that clarity would meet me on my way

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and here's this first pause and think moment

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what are you doing right now because you're waiting

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to feel confident you're waiting to feel like

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now is the right time what would change if you

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acted anyway If I had to start again, I'd focus

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on relationships before reach. I spent much too

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much time thinking that I needed followers and

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that I needed more people in my community. I

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needed more visibility and what I really needed

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was more connection. I needed more real conversations.

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People who trusted me, not just liked my posts.

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Your businesses don't grow because people see

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you. It grows because the right people see you,

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the right people know you, the right people trust

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you and the right people talk about you. If I

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had to start again, I'd waste less time chasing

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numbers and more time building community. So

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ask yourself, who am I actually building relationships

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with? Who knows what I do and who could I serve

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better right now? If I had to start again, I

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would charge properly much sooner. This one's

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big. I undercharged because I desperately wanted

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to be liked. I wanted everybody to love me. I

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didn't want to feel salesy because I told myself

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exposure was valuable. Now, listen, there are

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times when that is appropriate, but there are

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lots of times when that isn't. Being affordable

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doesn't always make you impactful. When you undercharge

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for your time, it doesn't just affect your income,

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it affects your energy, your boundaries and belief

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in your own value. If I had to start again, price

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would be based on value versus fear. So here's

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an action moment. Where are you under charge?

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With your money, with your time, with your energy.

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And what would change if you respected your business

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more? If you respected the opportunity that people

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have to work from you? If you stopped hiding

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behind busy? Busy is a sneaky one. Busy feels

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productive. Busy feels responsible. But busy

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can also be very cleverly hiding you. I'd tell

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myself I'd post when things calm down. I'd speak

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up more. When I had time. I'd be more visible

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when everything felt more under control. I have

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six kids. It's never under control. But things

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do not calm down. Life does not get quieter.

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And visibility isn't something you earn after

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success. It's what creates it. And if I had to

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start again, I'd show up sooner. I'd show up

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messier. I'd show up more consistently. So ask

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yourself honestly, what am I hiding behind? Where

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am I hiding? And what would visibility look like

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if I simplified it? to start again I stopped

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trying to do everything alone. I wore independence

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like a badge of honour. I thought asking for

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help meant that I wasn't capable. I thought struggling

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quietly was strength and it's not. Support doesn't

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mean weakness. Community doesn't mean dependence

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and collaboration doesn't dilute your power.

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It multiplies it. If I had to start again I would

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ask soon. I'd lean in faster and I'd build alongside

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others. So here's your reflection. Where are

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you making things harder than they need to be?

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And who could support you if you let them in?

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If I had to start again, I would take responsibility

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faster, not blame, not guilt, responsibility.

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The moment I stopped waiting for circumstances

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to change and started asking what's in my control,

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everything shifted, everything. Responsibility

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is empowering, it gives you options, it gives

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you momentum. If I had to start again, I'd adopt

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this belief from day one. Success is my responsibility,

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not someday, not when it gets easier, not when

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somebody else validates me, not when the internet

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tells me I'm doing a great job. So let's bring

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this home. If you're listening to this thinking,

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I wish I'd known this sooner. Let me reframe

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that for you. You know it now and now is good

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enough. It's early, earlier than next year, earlier

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than still feeling stuck, earlier than wishing

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you'd started today. So here's what I want you

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to do. One clear action before this episode ends.

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Write the sentence down. If I was starting again

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today, I would. And finish it honestly. And then

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do one thing that aligns with the answer within

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the next 24 hours. Because you don't need to

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start over again. You just need to start differently.

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I'll leave you with this. The most powerful thing

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about experience isn't what it's taught you.

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It's what you choose to do with it next. And

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if this episode resonated, please share it with

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another woman who's building something. Share

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it with another MIB who is on their knees, desperate

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for success to build something in their life.

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And I will see you next time on MIB Speak.