1 00:00:00,000 --> 00:00:09,000 This is the Lawless and Rawless podcast with your hopes, I read. 2 00:00:09,000 --> 00:00:21,040 Outlaws, we are back here Lawless and Rawless. 3 00:00:21,040 --> 00:00:22,880 What's going on? 4 00:00:22,880 --> 00:00:26,560 Tonight I have, let's go, we doing Trigatray. 5 00:00:26,560 --> 00:00:28,060 We're doing Trigatray. 6 00:00:28,060 --> 00:00:36,720 Trigatray is the hot seat, IEG, YouTube, Spotify, Apple, Google, whatever you can name. 7 00:00:36,720 --> 00:00:43,280 But you know, we've been trying to play on a podcast, little episode for a little minute 8 00:00:43,280 --> 00:00:44,280 now. 9 00:00:44,280 --> 00:00:50,840 So now I thought the best thing to do would be to have some grown folk conversation. 10 00:00:50,840 --> 00:00:53,600 Grown, grown, grown folk. 11 00:00:53,600 --> 00:00:56,880 And I'm talking dating in 2023. 12 00:00:56,880 --> 00:01:03,080 Now we, now I know personally being a 27 year old like woman, it is extremely hard to date 13 00:01:03,080 --> 00:01:04,080 nowadays, right? 14 00:01:04,080 --> 00:01:07,160 Yeah, yeah, I would say so. 15 00:01:07,160 --> 00:01:12,560 And what would you say are like some of the most like, what is a difficulty trying to 16 00:01:12,560 --> 00:01:15,880 get a date to happen from a man's point of view? 17 00:01:15,880 --> 00:01:21,160 I think from a man's point of view, or I could just say, well, there's people not bullshitting. 18 00:01:21,160 --> 00:01:25,800 Like I'm more than willing to actually put in the initiative because I'm staying as a 19 00:01:25,800 --> 00:01:29,440 man, I should be putting in some initiative, not saying that I shouldn't go both ways, 20 00:01:29,440 --> 00:01:34,840 but you know, I feel like the expectation, especially, you know, I feel like the preconceived 21 00:01:34,840 --> 00:01:36,040 notions that we're the hunters. 22 00:01:36,040 --> 00:01:37,920 So we kind of fall into that role. 23 00:01:37,920 --> 00:01:42,960 So we kind of have to, you know, go out and hunt, you know, I'm saying hunt. 24 00:01:42,960 --> 00:01:44,960 So I'm going to hunt your bitches. 25 00:01:44,960 --> 00:01:46,840 Yeah, you gotta go hunt. 26 00:01:46,840 --> 00:01:51,040 So I think what is what's difficult is like when you're, you know, you throw it, throw 27 00:01:51,040 --> 00:01:54,320 the, you know, throw a bit out there and it's all right, here we got something and then 28 00:01:54,320 --> 00:01:55,320 just nothing. 29 00:01:55,320 --> 00:01:59,840 So it's like, yeah, so that's, that's, I feel like women deal with that too though. 30 00:01:59,840 --> 00:02:02,840 No, we deal with a lot of fall ass niggas. 31 00:02:02,840 --> 00:02:07,320 We, it'd be the ones to be the ones to be the ones to be like, Oh, give me a chance. 32 00:02:07,320 --> 00:02:08,320 Give me a chance. 33 00:02:08,320 --> 00:02:09,320 Give me a chance. 34 00:02:09,320 --> 00:02:11,680 And then you give them the chance and it's like, quiet. 35 00:02:11,680 --> 00:02:15,200 It's like all that game, they were trying to talk to you to talk to them for like that 36 00:02:15,200 --> 00:02:19,840 30 seconds of fame and a DM just goes. 37 00:02:19,840 --> 00:02:24,120 I've seen some, I've seen some homegirls and you know, I personally been the female too. 38 00:02:24,120 --> 00:02:29,240 Like I, I post a lot of bullshit on like my social media and I call it like bait stuff 39 00:02:29,240 --> 00:02:32,440 because it's like, I really just want to see what niggas like or people have to say like 40 00:02:32,440 --> 00:02:33,960 about what I post. 41 00:02:33,960 --> 00:02:37,760 So like I see niggas that like, Oh, you never, you play too much, you play too much. 42 00:02:37,760 --> 00:02:39,360 I'm like, I bet you have my time. 43 00:02:39,360 --> 00:02:41,240 I'm like, nah, nah, I don't want it. 44 00:02:41,240 --> 00:02:43,000 I'm like, see, and like, no, no, I'm kidding. 45 00:02:43,000 --> 00:02:47,560 I'm like, nah, cause I gave you literally one fucking chance and you blew that chance 46 00:02:47,560 --> 00:02:49,160 because you're trying to be goofy. 47 00:02:49,160 --> 00:02:52,840 So what do you do is find as them blowing it, like just not actually putting in like 48 00:02:52,840 --> 00:02:55,480 a, not actually planning something now. 49 00:02:55,480 --> 00:02:56,480 Like what is that? 50 00:02:56,480 --> 00:03:00,920 It's like, when I say blowing it, it means like they don't take it serious. 51 00:03:00,920 --> 00:03:03,440 Cause then it's like, it's like everybody likes to play games. 52 00:03:03,440 --> 00:03:05,200 It's like back and forth like ping pong. 53 00:03:05,200 --> 00:03:08,080 It's like, Oh, balls in your court, balls in your court, balls in your court. 54 00:03:08,080 --> 00:03:10,440 And so it just doesn't go anywhere. 55 00:03:10,440 --> 00:03:11,680 It's just off the fucking table. 56 00:03:11,680 --> 00:03:13,600 No, I think that happens on our end a lot too. 57 00:03:13,600 --> 00:03:14,720 Man, I'm not going to lie. 58 00:03:14,720 --> 00:03:18,880 Like it's a lot of times where you might get something and then you might not hear nothing 59 00:03:18,880 --> 00:03:19,880 the next day. 60 00:03:19,880 --> 00:03:24,880 And then like, I think that kind of goes both ways, but I see it with women a lot as well. 61 00:03:24,880 --> 00:03:25,880 You do? 62 00:03:25,880 --> 00:03:26,880 Yeah. 63 00:03:26,880 --> 00:03:34,840 I think what it is, I think, I think what I've noticed a lot lately is that we lack commitment. 64 00:03:34,840 --> 00:03:38,800 All of us, all of us, I'm talking all men and women lack commitment. 65 00:03:38,800 --> 00:03:43,160 I'm not speaking like, in better terms of saying like we lack commitment. 66 00:03:43,160 --> 00:03:51,360 It's like we don't want to follow through with just that one thing. 67 00:03:51,360 --> 00:03:53,240 You get what I'm saying? 68 00:03:53,240 --> 00:03:54,480 So kind of explain. 69 00:03:54,480 --> 00:03:55,480 Okay. 70 00:03:55,480 --> 00:03:59,160 Let me, let me just cross all that out to go back to my point. 71 00:03:59,160 --> 00:04:03,800 It's you give men and women give people the chances. 72 00:04:03,800 --> 00:04:10,200 We give each other the chance to attempt to go out, but nobody takes that attempt seriously. 73 00:04:10,200 --> 00:04:12,160 So nobody wants to commit. 74 00:04:12,160 --> 00:04:18,360 We females, we love when dates and plans cancel because nine times at a time we really want 75 00:04:18,360 --> 00:04:21,760 to do nothing, but it's because we're so used to doing nothing. 76 00:04:21,760 --> 00:04:25,280 So why say yes to the plans in general? 77 00:04:25,280 --> 00:04:30,280 I mean, more or less, or like even a lot of us, a lot of us will, for me speaking, I'll 78 00:04:30,280 --> 00:04:31,280 always follow through a plan. 79 00:04:31,280 --> 00:04:35,360 If I make a plan and I have a day and time and it's already set in stone, I'm not the 80 00:04:35,360 --> 00:04:40,160 person to follow through, but it's like, it sounds like such a great idea until that day 81 00:04:40,160 --> 00:04:44,280 comes up and it's like, fuck, I have to get ready. 82 00:04:44,280 --> 00:04:45,280 I have to do this. 83 00:04:45,280 --> 00:04:46,280 I do that. 84 00:04:46,280 --> 00:04:47,280 I do that. 85 00:04:47,280 --> 00:04:51,560 And it's like for hoping that it could be really great or for it to just be a waste of 86 00:04:51,560 --> 00:04:53,240 time for both parties. 87 00:04:53,240 --> 00:04:56,360 You know, but how you, I feel like you're not going to know that unless you kind of give 88 00:04:56,360 --> 00:04:57,880 it that, that shot. 89 00:04:57,880 --> 00:05:01,400 So it's like, you're going, you're already going into it on like a man, I only want 90 00:05:01,400 --> 00:05:02,400 to do this. 91 00:05:02,400 --> 00:05:04,400 No, no, no, not necessarily trickling. 92 00:05:04,400 --> 00:05:09,360 That might trickle into the energy of the, I like to always go into anything open minded. 93 00:05:09,360 --> 00:05:13,960 So I always go in with the positive attitude, but a lot of females, it's like, I feel like 94 00:05:13,960 --> 00:05:18,000 even in men, like we self sabotage a lot. 95 00:05:18,000 --> 00:05:22,800 So for when it comes down to date night, it's like, I feel like a lot of people blow chances 96 00:05:22,800 --> 00:05:25,080 because they self sabotage. 97 00:05:25,080 --> 00:05:26,800 You know what I'm saying? 98 00:05:26,800 --> 00:05:30,280 So give me an example of a self sabotage when it comes to a date night. 99 00:05:30,280 --> 00:05:31,280 Okay. 100 00:05:31,280 --> 00:05:35,960 So if I self sabotage on date night, it's like this. 101 00:05:35,960 --> 00:05:39,760 It's like, okay, me and you plan next Friday, we're going to go out to eat and we're going 102 00:05:39,760 --> 00:05:42,120 to go for drinks and then we're going to go bowling. 103 00:05:42,120 --> 00:05:43,120 Okay. 104 00:05:43,120 --> 00:05:44,960 I personally can agree to it. 105 00:05:44,960 --> 00:05:46,600 I'll plan for it. 106 00:05:46,600 --> 00:05:49,800 And let me not say person cause I'm speaking hypothetically. 107 00:05:49,800 --> 00:05:52,000 So hypothetically speaking, I plan for it. 108 00:05:52,000 --> 00:05:58,720 I agree to it, but I'm also talking to this person or I'm trying to get that a person's 109 00:05:58,720 --> 00:06:03,320 attention or even though I'm still excited to go on a date with you, I still want to 110 00:06:03,320 --> 00:06:05,360 do this or I still want to do that. 111 00:06:05,360 --> 00:06:11,000 So it's like, I'm putting up little flags and bumpers in the way up until date night 112 00:06:11,000 --> 00:06:14,280 to where either I fold or I go through with it. 113 00:06:14,280 --> 00:06:19,520 Let me ask you a question on this, in this hypothetical hypothetical, very hypothetical 114 00:06:19,520 --> 00:06:20,520 situation. 115 00:06:20,520 --> 00:06:21,520 We all hypothetical here. 116 00:06:21,520 --> 00:06:22,520 Yeah. 117 00:06:22,520 --> 00:06:23,520 Hypothetical situation. 118 00:06:23,520 --> 00:06:27,440 So when I approached you, they want to take you on a date or whatever. 119 00:06:27,440 --> 00:06:31,560 Do you kind of like, how far into the conversation do you get before you say yes? 120 00:06:31,560 --> 00:06:34,720 And what I mean by that is like, as far as like expectations, like, well, hey, what are 121 00:06:34,720 --> 00:06:36,360 you looking for out of this? 122 00:06:36,360 --> 00:06:40,360 Oh yeah, I definitely like, do you screen for that or? 123 00:06:40,360 --> 00:06:47,440 I see the thing is, I feel like naturally everybody feels like they're entitled to sex. 124 00:06:47,440 --> 00:06:54,720 Like now I feel like sex is like just something people feel like is the option, you know? 125 00:06:54,720 --> 00:06:58,680 And one thing I feel like is like a lot of women I've been like, I've been watching and 126 00:06:58,680 --> 00:07:02,800 reading and doing my little study up and hype up on my women. 127 00:07:02,800 --> 00:07:08,960 And the thing about it is like women are so independent right now because I feel like 128 00:07:08,960 --> 00:07:15,560 men who take that like, oh, if I take you out, like you have to put it out for me. 129 00:07:15,560 --> 00:07:20,080 So it's like we naturally think like before we even go on the date, we're naturally thinking, 130 00:07:20,080 --> 00:07:23,680 damn, he's, he's more than likely going to want to fuck. 131 00:07:23,680 --> 00:07:29,320 It's if I'm in the mood to have sex or if I'm not, people can take that and people 132 00:07:29,320 --> 00:07:33,600 would be like, oh, well, I don't have sex on the first night because person like me, you 133 00:07:33,600 --> 00:07:36,200 know, I want to develop a little bit more bond and connection. 134 00:07:36,200 --> 00:07:37,840 So the sex is fire. 135 00:07:37,840 --> 00:07:39,240 Like that's one thing about me. 136 00:07:39,240 --> 00:07:41,640 A hundred percent of the sex got to be fired. 137 00:07:41,640 --> 00:07:45,600 So I want like a little bit more before I get it. 138 00:07:45,600 --> 00:07:54,360 But I feel like if I fuck on the first date, like I, you're only going to get like 15% 139 00:07:54,360 --> 00:07:57,140 of my 100% of sex gain. 140 00:07:57,140 --> 00:08:00,800 Because it's more like I already know you're expecting to get sex. 141 00:08:00,800 --> 00:08:06,200 So it's like it's for those who do put out, you know, for a man taking him out, there's 142 00:08:06,200 --> 00:08:07,560 nothing wrong with it. 143 00:08:07,560 --> 00:08:10,720 But I feel like, you know, that woman's just like, okay, I got to put out tonight because 144 00:08:10,720 --> 00:08:12,960 he took me out and he did that for me. 145 00:08:12,960 --> 00:08:16,400 Instead of being like, nah, like I want to like gargle your dick right now. 146 00:08:16,400 --> 00:08:17,400 You get me? 147 00:08:17,400 --> 00:08:21,800 But earlier, your mission and like, you might be have a scenario or like even before the 148 00:08:21,800 --> 00:08:26,400 date even happens where it's like, okay, you don't know, like you might get that the day 149 00:08:26,400 --> 00:08:30,440 of comes, you have like this, I don't know if it's paranoia or whatever, like we're just 150 00:08:30,440 --> 00:08:33,320 like, man, I don't even know if I'm gonna do this because I might have like this person 151 00:08:33,320 --> 00:08:36,080 may have reached out to me and I was waiting for this person to reach out to me or whatever, 152 00:08:36,080 --> 00:08:37,080 whatever. 153 00:08:37,080 --> 00:08:40,800 So I think, yeah, like so outside of like the sex on the first date, we're going to get 154 00:08:40,800 --> 00:08:41,800 to that. 155 00:08:41,800 --> 00:08:47,640 But like, what have you ever like came to that realization and like, all right, well, let 156 00:08:47,640 --> 00:08:52,280 me just go ahead and cancel with this person so that I'm not going into this, this scenario 157 00:08:52,280 --> 00:08:54,680 already counting this person now. 158 00:08:54,680 --> 00:08:56,760 Women and men both like options. 159 00:08:56,760 --> 00:08:57,760 Okay. 160 00:08:57,760 --> 00:09:02,200 You know, women and men both like options. 161 00:09:02,200 --> 00:09:08,040 Women are going, I think to speak for a lot of women, women are going to go on dates. 162 00:09:08,040 --> 00:09:13,640 Women are going to explore now because women have just been so used to putting out like 163 00:09:13,640 --> 00:09:18,440 the whole last year or two years has just been like people like a nigga does this and 164 00:09:18,440 --> 00:09:19,440 a nigga does that. 165 00:09:19,440 --> 00:09:20,440 Oh, like I'm fucking you. 166 00:09:20,440 --> 00:09:21,440 I'm sucking you. 167 00:09:21,440 --> 00:09:26,400 I'm not sure how women have been portraying a lot of situations like everything is transactional. 168 00:09:26,400 --> 00:09:29,760 So the thought of sex is like a little wiped out and played out. 169 00:09:29,760 --> 00:09:31,400 Like how little little yachty said it. 170 00:09:31,400 --> 00:09:33,240 Like he was like, bro, sex is boring to me. 171 00:09:33,240 --> 00:09:35,080 Like I want to fuck your mind. 172 00:09:35,080 --> 00:09:37,400 Like that's like, you feel me? 173 00:09:37,400 --> 00:09:40,520 Like because you had to think about it. 174 00:09:40,520 --> 00:09:45,160 We prepare for a date and like, of course we want to go on a date because we want to 175 00:09:45,160 --> 00:09:51,800 have like a real date, not just a nigga come over with some fries and chicken and like 176 00:09:51,800 --> 00:09:53,800 fuck you on the couch. 177 00:09:53,800 --> 00:10:00,120 Yeah, I think even kind of going back to that day night, I was saying that like, I was asking 178 00:10:00,120 --> 00:10:02,800 you if you like had set the expectation under talk. 179 00:10:02,800 --> 00:10:07,000 Well, part of that also means that like, I don't think I'm going to take someone on 180 00:10:07,000 --> 00:10:11,400 to the day until I know what they're looking for out of any type of interaction. 181 00:10:11,400 --> 00:10:14,160 What I mean by that is like, all right, are you are you looking for? 182 00:10:14,160 --> 00:10:15,680 Are you looking for a relationship? 183 00:10:15,680 --> 00:10:17,600 Are you just, you know, with the vibes? 184 00:10:17,600 --> 00:10:21,840 Like, so like, do you kind of let that be known up front? 185 00:10:21,840 --> 00:10:29,560 Um, it's, I mean, or you just kind of like, all right, I'm open to what's what's happened. 186 00:10:29,560 --> 00:10:31,240 I'm open. 187 00:10:31,240 --> 00:10:32,240 So here's the thing. 188 00:10:32,240 --> 00:10:38,280 It's like, it depends on the situation because really a lot of the times I'll tell people, 189 00:10:38,280 --> 00:10:40,480 I will fuck you on the first time meeting you. 190 00:10:40,480 --> 00:10:44,040 I'll fuck you on the first date, but I guarantee you I'll probably not want to talk to you 191 00:10:44,040 --> 00:10:50,080 again because I don't feel, I don't have a, I don't have something to chase after because 192 00:10:50,080 --> 00:10:51,800 I've already had the whole like meal. 193 00:10:51,800 --> 00:10:52,800 You feel me? 194 00:10:52,800 --> 00:10:53,800 I don't want to go to that restaurant right now. 195 00:10:53,800 --> 00:10:56,520 I can go to that restaurant next week and try something else on the menu when I feel 196 00:10:56,520 --> 00:10:57,520 like it. 197 00:10:57,520 --> 00:10:58,520 So that's, that's the meal to you? 198 00:10:58,520 --> 00:10:59,600 I mean, I'm not like saying this. 199 00:10:59,600 --> 00:11:02,800 I mean, but that's, that's how people are. 200 00:11:02,800 --> 00:11:04,320 You give it all up to me up front. 201 00:11:04,320 --> 00:11:07,320 You might as well just, you know, put everything in the takeout box and let me go home with 202 00:11:07,320 --> 00:11:08,320 it. 203 00:11:08,320 --> 00:11:11,840 Oh no, I kind of feel like that's just one aspect of it. 204 00:11:11,840 --> 00:11:16,760 Like, and that's, I'm kind of getting to my point where it's like, I personally don't 205 00:11:16,760 --> 00:11:20,920 think sex on the first date is a bad thing depending on if it's a conversation. 206 00:11:20,920 --> 00:11:22,920 Sex on the first date? 207 00:11:22,920 --> 00:11:28,360 I'm providing those a conversation beforehand and like the vibes make sense. 208 00:11:28,360 --> 00:11:33,280 And there's an alignment there because like, I just kind of feel like not that it's not 209 00:11:33,280 --> 00:11:37,680 big of a deal because it is because it is a level, but it's just like, okay, so what's 210 00:11:37,680 --> 00:11:40,560 the difference between the first, second and third? 211 00:11:40,560 --> 00:11:42,920 You get to know a little bit more. 212 00:11:42,920 --> 00:11:46,720 So, so, so this is, this is what I'm trying to say. 213 00:11:46,720 --> 00:11:47,720 Okay. 214 00:11:47,720 --> 00:11:50,440 So sex on the first date is not bad. 215 00:11:50,440 --> 00:12:01,920 It's not, but, but, but if you have sex on the first date, you are not going to be up 216 00:12:01,920 --> 00:12:06,960 my ass like I want you to be. 217 00:12:06,960 --> 00:12:13,320 You know, like you were so up my ass before you got the cookie and now you got the cookie 218 00:12:13,320 --> 00:12:16,360 and now it's like, okay, well, I already taste that cookie. 219 00:12:16,360 --> 00:12:17,520 So I'll just nibble on it later. 220 00:12:17,520 --> 00:12:19,080 Like I'll just come back to it. 221 00:12:19,080 --> 00:12:21,520 You know, it's like you already got the cookie. 222 00:12:21,520 --> 00:12:23,160 So you're not going to hound me. 223 00:12:23,160 --> 00:12:24,640 You're not going to blow me up. 224 00:12:24,640 --> 00:12:28,920 You're not going to do all this stuff because nine times out of 10, you've already done 225 00:12:28,920 --> 00:12:29,920 what? 226 00:12:29,920 --> 00:12:31,640 Got the cookie from the cookie jar. 227 00:12:31,640 --> 00:12:32,640 Okay. 228 00:12:32,640 --> 00:12:33,640 You get me? 229 00:12:33,640 --> 00:12:38,880 So my question is, well, okay, so what happens if, okay, let's say you said, all right, I'm 230 00:12:38,880 --> 00:12:41,760 not going to do it on first, but you did do on the second third. 231 00:12:41,760 --> 00:12:44,640 Do you think the same result happens or? 232 00:12:44,640 --> 00:12:50,440 I think by that, I would say if you were to have sex by the third date, you're definitely 233 00:12:50,440 --> 00:12:54,720 going to be used to that person because it's not like you're taking date after date after 234 00:12:54,720 --> 00:12:55,720 date. 235 00:12:55,720 --> 00:12:58,400 It's not like you're hitting date night every fucking every other night to get to that 236 00:12:58,400 --> 00:12:59,520 third date. 237 00:12:59,520 --> 00:13:04,880 That date comes with times, people, schedules, you planning, you talking, you communicating. 238 00:13:04,880 --> 00:13:07,840 So it's like, then it builds up like that. 239 00:13:07,840 --> 00:13:08,840 Damn, okay. 240 00:13:08,840 --> 00:13:09,840 I'm ready to see you again. 241 00:13:09,840 --> 00:13:10,840 I'm excited to see you. 242 00:13:10,840 --> 00:13:14,080 And then by that third day, it's like, all right, we've been playing too much. 243 00:13:14,080 --> 00:13:15,720 Like, let me get it. 244 00:13:15,720 --> 00:13:20,000 But nobody's that nobody, nobody wants to do that. 245 00:13:20,000 --> 00:13:21,480 Everybody's just like, Oh yeah, I'm horny. 246 00:13:21,480 --> 00:13:22,720 Let me fuck right now. 247 00:13:22,720 --> 00:13:24,400 Like, nah, I want to build up. 248 00:13:24,400 --> 00:13:29,960 I like what my pussy do that little like, like that little thumping your mouth. 249 00:13:29,960 --> 00:13:35,000 That ass, like, I don't know. 250 00:13:35,000 --> 00:13:36,520 Call me old school. 251 00:13:36,520 --> 00:13:43,400 But I, it's funny because my dad says like this, my dad says, he goes, he goes, it's 252 00:13:43,400 --> 00:13:47,320 so funny because women want to fuck the whole football team. 253 00:13:47,320 --> 00:13:51,480 And then for the one person that that was like that they want to settle down with, they 254 00:13:51,480 --> 00:13:53,560 won't give up anything. 255 00:13:53,560 --> 00:14:00,440 And he goes, he goes, it's not about somebody, you know, just saying like, just, you know, 256 00:14:00,440 --> 00:14:01,840 say, okay, I have morals now. 257 00:14:01,840 --> 00:14:03,000 I have self respect. 258 00:14:03,000 --> 00:14:05,760 Like, you have to wait to fuck me. 259 00:14:05,760 --> 00:14:08,880 It's not that it's just the fact that they actually like you. 260 00:14:08,880 --> 00:14:12,880 So whatever is happening, I always thought, I'm sorry, I've always thought that was such 261 00:14:12,880 --> 00:14:17,040 a crazy concept because it's like, using your scenario, how are you going to go and fuck 262 00:14:17,040 --> 00:14:21,960 the whole football team who put in who did nothing to really get to it? 263 00:14:21,960 --> 00:14:25,000 Like relatively nothing, just, hey, you know, boom, fucking. 264 00:14:25,000 --> 00:14:30,480 But the person who sat there and actually like, making time for you, showing that they 265 00:14:30,480 --> 00:14:35,640 care for you and wanting to actually treat you like a woman to take you out. 266 00:14:35,640 --> 00:14:36,640 That's the way. 267 00:14:36,640 --> 00:14:40,640 That's not like a good deal to you. 268 00:14:40,640 --> 00:14:45,920 I'm saying, I'm saying, I'm saying, you never heard of money. 269 00:14:45,920 --> 00:14:50,880 You never heard of something like worth the weight or whatever that bullshit. 270 00:14:50,880 --> 00:14:53,040 I'm just saying, I'm just saying this. 271 00:14:53,040 --> 00:14:57,720 If I heard that this person already had fucked the football team and what they had to do to 272 00:14:57,720 --> 00:15:01,400 get to that and I'm looking around like, wait, hold on, I'm this around money. 273 00:15:01,400 --> 00:15:02,400 I'm doing this. 274 00:15:02,400 --> 00:15:06,600 I'm making time and I'm still, but she's staying around. 275 00:15:06,600 --> 00:15:07,600 Terrible deal. 276 00:15:07,600 --> 00:15:08,600 She's trying. 277 00:15:08,600 --> 00:15:12,400 I mean, the way I think about it is kind of shitty. 278 00:15:12,400 --> 00:15:19,840 But at the same time, it's like, I'm not mad at her because I mean, she should be. 279 00:15:19,840 --> 00:15:22,480 Damn, I mean, you gotta think of it like this. 280 00:15:22,480 --> 00:15:23,480 You gotta think of it like this. 281 00:15:23,480 --> 00:15:26,520 You gotta think of it like this because she likes you. 282 00:15:26,520 --> 00:15:29,080 She would prefer you to wait. 283 00:15:29,080 --> 00:15:31,600 So when you get it, you appreciate it. 284 00:15:31,600 --> 00:15:33,600 You'll enjoy it and you'll love it. 285 00:15:33,600 --> 00:15:36,320 I'm pretty sure that football team appreciated it. 286 00:15:36,320 --> 00:15:39,400 Listen, fuck the football team. 287 00:15:39,400 --> 00:15:40,400 We're talking about now. 288 00:15:40,400 --> 00:15:42,600 That's, that's the way it is. 289 00:15:42,600 --> 00:15:47,960 No, but real talk, I think it like, I do respect people for making that decision because I 290 00:15:47,960 --> 00:15:49,640 didn't, you know, we all grown here. 291 00:15:49,640 --> 00:15:52,880 You know, and you have their reasons and I don't think anyone should be forced to do 292 00:15:52,880 --> 00:15:53,880 anything. 293 00:15:53,880 --> 00:15:54,880 I think everyone's philosophies. 294 00:15:54,880 --> 00:15:58,840 They should have their philosophies and if they aligns, they don't. 295 00:15:58,840 --> 00:16:02,320 Sex is just too, it's sex is so fucking overrated. 296 00:16:02,320 --> 00:16:03,640 Sex is so overrated. 297 00:16:03,640 --> 00:16:07,440 People are fucking. 298 00:16:07,440 --> 00:16:08,880 People are just fucking to fuck. 299 00:16:08,880 --> 00:16:13,360 I do have a question for you though, because you have mentioned, you have mentioned that 300 00:16:13,360 --> 00:16:17,920 if you give it to them on the first date, right, they're only going to get 15% is 100%. 301 00:16:17,920 --> 00:16:18,920 Yes. 302 00:16:18,920 --> 00:16:23,800 Do you feel that people get it right all the time on the first time? 303 00:16:23,800 --> 00:16:34,600 No, 100% no, but, but, but, but, but, but for me personally speaking, it's like, I know 304 00:16:34,600 --> 00:16:42,440 I'm only going to give you 15% of my sex game, you know, because it's like, yes, the 305 00:16:42,440 --> 00:16:46,720 hour to two hour, three hour date, whatever the case, let's say it's a one to three hour 306 00:16:46,720 --> 00:16:47,720 date. 307 00:16:47,720 --> 00:16:48,720 It's like, I'm going to three hours is great. 308 00:16:48,720 --> 00:16:49,720 I got to laugh. 309 00:16:49,720 --> 00:16:50,720 I got to joke. 310 00:16:50,720 --> 00:16:59,120 I got to connect, but it still doesn't give me the, it still doesn't give me the, like, 311 00:16:59,120 --> 00:17:01,720 I want to let out my Kevin Gates on him. 312 00:17:01,720 --> 00:17:02,720 You feel me and Kevin Gates nasty. 313 00:17:02,720 --> 00:17:03,720 I don't know that nigga nasty. 314 00:17:03,720 --> 00:17:04,720 No, that nigga drinking piss. 315 00:17:04,720 --> 00:17:05,720 No, he's drinking. 316 00:17:05,720 --> 00:17:06,720 Drinking the piss. 317 00:17:06,720 --> 00:17:07,720 Drinking the piss. 318 00:17:07,720 --> 00:17:08,720 But you feel me like I already know. 319 00:17:08,720 --> 00:17:09,720 Yeah. 320 00:17:09,720 --> 00:17:10,720 I already know. 321 00:17:10,720 --> 00:17:11,720 Like I personally know. 322 00:17:11,720 --> 00:17:12,720 Like, I personally know. 323 00:17:12,720 --> 00:17:13,720 Like, I personally know. 324 00:17:13,720 --> 00:17:14,720 Like, I personally know. 325 00:17:14,720 --> 00:17:15,720 Like, I personally know. 326 00:17:15,720 --> 00:17:17,720 Like, I personally know. 327 00:17:17,720 --> 00:17:20,880 Like, I'm not going to fuck 100% on the first day. 328 00:17:20,880 --> 00:17:25,200 I'm not even a fuck 50% because nine times out of 10, I probably won't have to do that 329 00:17:25,200 --> 00:17:29,920 much work because the guy is more ready than I am. 330 00:17:29,920 --> 00:17:37,240 So it's like, I only have to do like a little spread, a little side and a flip and you know, 331 00:17:37,240 --> 00:17:38,740 I'm big like a pancake. 332 00:17:38,740 --> 00:17:42,960 You know, it's crazy that you say that because I think there's the Southern word like guys 333 00:17:42,960 --> 00:17:47,160 where it's like we're we're trying to we're trying to go hard on the first time because 334 00:17:47,160 --> 00:17:48,960 we're trying to repeat business. 335 00:17:48,960 --> 00:17:52,320 You know, we're trying to prove a fucking point. 336 00:17:52,320 --> 00:17:54,960 We're trying to make sure that restaurant still open. 337 00:17:54,960 --> 00:17:56,760 See, see, that's the thing. 338 00:17:56,760 --> 00:17:57,760 That's the thing tomorrow. 339 00:17:57,760 --> 00:18:06,320 Like, y'all say that y'all say that y'all say that, but it's like, it's like how you 340 00:18:06,320 --> 00:18:10,480 say you say you just made the comment like, Oh, y'all want to fuck to like pretty much 341 00:18:10,480 --> 00:18:14,320 prove a point like you could put in where you throw down the dicks, you know, you can 342 00:18:14,320 --> 00:18:16,240 always come back for more. 343 00:18:16,240 --> 00:18:23,040 You say that, but it's like, are you still going to want the cookie as bad as you wanted 344 00:18:23,040 --> 00:18:25,040 it the first time? 345 00:18:25,040 --> 00:18:27,840 Depends on the cookie. 346 00:18:27,840 --> 00:18:30,800 See, see, this law is in brawls. 347 00:18:30,800 --> 00:18:32,840 It depends on the cookie. 348 00:18:32,840 --> 00:18:34,960 You're gonna keep it a book. 349 00:18:34,960 --> 00:18:43,320 I, me personally, for somebody who has kept her cookie jar shut tight and her cookie jar 350 00:18:43,320 --> 00:18:53,280 open and like, I know no matter how much good of a cookie you got, sometimes Niggas just 351 00:18:53,280 --> 00:18:55,920 be with the bullshit. 352 00:18:55,920 --> 00:18:59,320 Niggas like other cookie flavors and chocolate chip. 353 00:18:59,320 --> 00:19:00,400 Okay. 354 00:19:00,400 --> 00:19:07,280 Sometimes they went little lemon square or they want a fucking like snicker doodle. 355 00:19:07,280 --> 00:19:13,960 Men are, they say that men are so like, like they're, they're so easy and all this shit 356 00:19:13,960 --> 00:19:16,760 and they're not men are very unpredictable. 357 00:19:16,760 --> 00:19:17,760 Men are really. 358 00:19:17,760 --> 00:19:19,160 I think we're very simple. 359 00:19:19,160 --> 00:19:25,000 You guys are simple when it comes to certain things, but your actions are very unpredictable. 360 00:19:25,000 --> 00:19:26,800 You get what I'm saying? 361 00:19:26,800 --> 00:19:29,000 When I say that it's, I can explain that. 362 00:19:29,000 --> 00:19:30,560 I can explain that. 363 00:19:30,560 --> 00:19:35,840 So it's like, you could tell me today, oh yes, I want to take you out Irene. 364 00:19:35,840 --> 00:19:37,680 I want to take you on a date. 365 00:19:37,680 --> 00:19:38,680 Let's do this. 366 00:19:38,680 --> 00:19:39,680 Let's do that. 367 00:19:39,680 --> 00:19:41,200 I want a relationship. 368 00:19:41,200 --> 00:19:42,200 Okay. 369 00:19:42,200 --> 00:19:43,200 That's great. 370 00:19:43,200 --> 00:19:44,200 Ba, ba, ba. 371 00:19:44,200 --> 00:19:45,200 Cool. 372 00:19:45,200 --> 00:19:46,200 We go out. 373 00:19:46,200 --> 00:19:47,200 Cool. 374 00:19:47,200 --> 00:19:48,200 We want to start talking. 375 00:19:48,200 --> 00:19:49,200 Cool. 376 00:19:49,200 --> 00:19:50,200 We talk about all this at dinner. 377 00:19:50,200 --> 00:19:51,200 We get home. 378 00:19:51,200 --> 00:19:52,200 We go in. 379 00:19:52,200 --> 00:19:53,200 We're hanging out at night. 380 00:19:53,200 --> 00:19:54,200 We fuck. 381 00:19:54,200 --> 00:19:56,560 And then it's the next day like, oh, you know, I have a lot going on. 382 00:19:56,560 --> 00:19:58,960 You know, relationship isn't something like I can do right now. 383 00:19:58,960 --> 00:20:00,680 But you know, you're so cool. 384 00:20:00,680 --> 00:20:01,920 You want to talk to me? 385 00:20:01,920 --> 00:20:02,920 So then you do that. 386 00:20:02,920 --> 00:20:08,280 And then it's just like, well, shit, I could have just waited to give up the cookie then. 387 00:20:08,280 --> 00:20:10,360 I think that's just a, that's right. 388 00:20:10,360 --> 00:20:11,360 That scenario right there. 389 00:20:11,360 --> 00:20:12,360 Just someone just being dishonest. 390 00:20:12,360 --> 00:20:16,840 I mean, I'm always for the honesty is the best policy and just being straight up like, 391 00:20:16,840 --> 00:20:18,440 Hey, this is what I want. 392 00:20:18,440 --> 00:20:19,440 You feel me? 393 00:20:19,440 --> 00:20:22,080 If this was good or whatever, let's continue doing it or whatever. 394 00:20:22,080 --> 00:20:26,320 So like if someone coming to you on some like relationships, then like that's a little 395 00:20:26,320 --> 00:20:29,320 bit that's I guess that is weird behavior, but someone came to you like, look, you know, 396 00:20:29,320 --> 00:20:30,320 this is what it is. 397 00:20:30,320 --> 00:20:31,320 I'm just trying to get from here for this. 398 00:20:31,320 --> 00:20:33,840 If you like it with the vibes, then you feel me? 399 00:20:33,840 --> 00:20:34,840 That's a different scenario. 400 00:20:34,840 --> 00:20:39,040 If a guy tells me straight up front that he just wants to fuck, I curve him. 401 00:20:39,040 --> 00:20:44,560 If I go into my DM right now and if I go into my hinge and if I go into my DM and the first 402 00:20:44,560 --> 00:20:49,280 nigga that talks to me about dick fuck, talk to me about my pussy, anything like that, 403 00:20:49,280 --> 00:20:51,000 I promise you, I'm like, bro, you're gone. 404 00:20:51,000 --> 00:20:52,480 I think that's a crazy approach. 405 00:20:52,480 --> 00:20:55,320 I think like this is you over here just talking about your dick and all that type of stuff. 406 00:20:55,320 --> 00:20:58,480 I'm talking about like if someone hit you with the like, all right, so this is you said 407 00:20:58,480 --> 00:20:59,480 hinge, right? 408 00:20:59,480 --> 00:21:00,480 Let's say someone hit you with it. 409 00:21:00,480 --> 00:21:04,520 Like, so what you what you looking for on the app or whatever, like what you say, like, 410 00:21:04,520 --> 00:21:06,400 well, well, first of all, we'll be your response. 411 00:21:06,400 --> 00:21:09,040 I guess I'm dating for marriage life partner. 412 00:21:09,040 --> 00:21:10,040 Yeah. 413 00:21:10,040 --> 00:21:11,040 And then okay. 414 00:21:11,040 --> 00:21:12,840 And that in that scenario, that person should be able to respect that. 415 00:21:12,840 --> 00:21:17,920 And now they go, well, well, have you ever thought about just maybe, you know, just trying 416 00:21:17,920 --> 00:21:21,760 to just talk to someone and be a friend and no bitch. 417 00:21:21,760 --> 00:21:23,280 I just told you what I was looking for. 418 00:21:23,280 --> 00:21:27,160 If I'm on the timing of like, I'm just out here trying to fuck. 419 00:21:27,160 --> 00:21:29,800 If someone tells me that I'm just going to move on to the next. 420 00:21:29,800 --> 00:21:32,720 People tell me that they're trying to fuck all the time. 421 00:21:32,720 --> 00:21:35,800 And I'm like, no, I don't want to. 422 00:21:35,800 --> 00:21:39,080 I'm like, can we talk about anything else besides sex? 423 00:21:39,080 --> 00:21:41,200 I mean, sex is great. 424 00:21:41,200 --> 00:21:42,200 Sex is exciting. 425 00:21:42,200 --> 00:21:44,000 It's exhilarating. 426 00:21:44,000 --> 00:21:45,400 It's liberating. 427 00:21:45,400 --> 00:21:47,400 But it's also exhausting. 428 00:21:47,400 --> 00:21:48,400 Okay. 429 00:21:48,400 --> 00:21:51,680 It's exhausting fucking a bunch of people. 430 00:21:51,680 --> 00:21:53,760 I'm going to speak personally. 431 00:21:53,760 --> 00:21:56,160 It's exhausting fucking a bunch of people. 432 00:21:56,160 --> 00:22:01,360 It's exhausting going through the years, fucking people and not being with anyone, not being 433 00:22:01,360 --> 00:22:04,760 in a relationship, not establishing a foundation. 434 00:22:04,760 --> 00:22:08,520 I've been in this apartment for two years. 435 00:22:08,520 --> 00:22:12,440 I've been in this apartment and I'm not saying I've had a lot of guys and not my door, but 436 00:22:12,440 --> 00:22:17,440 for the ones that I've had in my door, they aren't around. 437 00:22:17,440 --> 00:22:18,680 Sex is exhausting. 438 00:22:18,680 --> 00:22:23,160 So the whole point, if I'm not going to fuck on the first date, nine times out of 10, because 439 00:22:23,160 --> 00:22:28,400 I really want to learn someone, bond with them and fuck them and then not worry about 440 00:22:28,400 --> 00:22:30,120 fucking anybody else. 441 00:22:30,120 --> 00:22:33,680 People think that once you date, that's like a marriage, like, chill the fuck out. 442 00:22:33,680 --> 00:22:35,000 You can date for a year. 443 00:22:35,000 --> 00:22:36,400 You can date for two years. 444 00:22:36,400 --> 00:22:39,120 You can be boyfriend and girlfriend after three months. 445 00:22:39,120 --> 00:22:42,960 You can date and do all of that shit and take your time. 446 00:22:42,960 --> 00:22:45,160 But people are like, oh, I'm not ready to date now. 447 00:22:45,160 --> 00:22:46,160 What do you want to do? 448 00:22:46,160 --> 00:22:52,120 You want to date when you have 100K in the account and three businesses launch and all 449 00:22:52,120 --> 00:22:53,120 your houses paid off? 450 00:22:53,120 --> 00:22:55,800 Okay, you're ready to be fucking married, nigga. 451 00:22:55,800 --> 00:22:56,800 Like not date. 452 00:22:56,800 --> 00:22:58,880 Well, I think that goes into a whole other thing. 453 00:22:58,880 --> 00:23:04,320 Well, I think, I guess people in our age range, I would say men especially, is that 454 00:23:04,320 --> 00:23:10,000 we understand that for the dating part and dating the marriage part, getting to that 455 00:23:10,000 --> 00:23:12,360 thing, it's definitely maturity. 456 00:23:12,360 --> 00:23:17,240 And that comes with maturity in all aspects of your life, like finances, physicality, 457 00:23:17,240 --> 00:23:22,600 etc, etc, which I think doesn't peak for a man until, you know, a little bit later. 458 00:23:22,600 --> 00:23:23,600 Blah, blah, blah. 459 00:23:23,600 --> 00:23:27,800 I'm not going to talk about the men and their bullshit crybaby shit. 460 00:23:27,800 --> 00:23:29,440 I think this is real. 461 00:23:29,440 --> 00:23:33,240 We have to wait till we're 35 to establish ourselves as men. 462 00:23:33,240 --> 00:23:34,400 But that's real. 463 00:23:34,400 --> 00:23:39,560 My dad was 20, my dad was 22 taking care of my mom. 464 00:23:39,560 --> 00:23:41,000 Yeah, that was a different time. 465 00:23:41,000 --> 00:23:42,000 That was a time where. 466 00:23:42,000 --> 00:23:43,000 Why can't we go back to those times? 467 00:23:43,000 --> 00:23:46,280 Yeah, why can't we go back to what you did have sex on the first date? 468 00:23:46,280 --> 00:23:49,480 Those times are way different economic situations. 469 00:23:49,480 --> 00:23:52,120 There's so many things about different about about that time. 470 00:23:52,120 --> 00:23:55,440 I think what's different with this time is that like economic woman. 471 00:23:55,440 --> 00:23:57,560 Yeah, 100% it was economics. 472 00:23:57,560 --> 00:23:59,720 It was definitely different at the time. 473 00:23:59,720 --> 00:24:00,720 Economic. 474 00:24:00,720 --> 00:24:01,720 Yeah, definitely different. 475 00:24:01,720 --> 00:24:02,720 Let's for sure. 476 00:24:02,720 --> 00:24:03,720 You can have a trade at that time. 477 00:24:03,720 --> 00:24:05,720 Trigger trade and support a family. 478 00:24:05,720 --> 00:24:06,720 Trigger trade. 479 00:24:06,720 --> 00:24:07,720 Literally. 480 00:24:07,720 --> 00:24:08,720 Did you buy food for lunch today? 481 00:24:08,720 --> 00:24:09,720 No, I cooked. 482 00:24:09,720 --> 00:24:10,720 Did you buy food for lunch yesterday? 483 00:24:10,720 --> 00:24:11,720 No, I cooked. 484 00:24:11,720 --> 00:24:15,600 Have you bought food for yourself in the last week? 485 00:24:15,600 --> 00:24:16,760 And the last week. 486 00:24:16,760 --> 00:24:18,320 Have you gone out and purchased food? 487 00:24:18,320 --> 00:24:20,320 No, actually, I'm a bad guy. 488 00:24:20,320 --> 00:24:24,840 I'm a bad case scenario this time because I actually like I did a big grocery trip and 489 00:24:24,840 --> 00:24:25,840 I was like, no, I'm not going. 490 00:24:25,840 --> 00:24:26,840 Yeah, okay. 491 00:24:26,840 --> 00:24:27,840 Okay. 492 00:24:27,840 --> 00:24:28,840 So you're budgeted this month. 493 00:24:28,840 --> 00:24:30,840 If you ask about the week before, let's talk about two weeks. 494 00:24:30,840 --> 00:24:33,200 Let's talk about the month of January. 495 00:24:33,200 --> 00:24:39,080 Have you been out to eat over five times? 496 00:24:39,080 --> 00:24:40,080 Month of January. 497 00:24:40,080 --> 00:24:41,080 Yeah. 498 00:24:41,080 --> 00:24:46,360 Have you bought yourself anything that isn't a necessity more than five times in January? 499 00:24:46,360 --> 00:24:48,560 I'm pretty sure. 500 00:24:48,560 --> 00:24:49,560 Okay. 501 00:24:49,560 --> 00:24:55,600 Not the necessity as in not food, not toilet paper, not toiletries, not bills. 502 00:24:55,600 --> 00:24:57,320 I'm talking outside necessities. 503 00:24:57,320 --> 00:25:00,080 I'm talking anything that is not a fucking bill that hits you up every month. 504 00:25:00,080 --> 00:25:02,160 It's probably like right at five because I really. 505 00:25:02,160 --> 00:25:03,160 Right at five. 506 00:25:03,160 --> 00:25:04,160 Okay. 507 00:25:04,160 --> 00:25:05,680 In the last three weeks or last month. 508 00:25:05,680 --> 00:25:06,680 Okay. 509 00:25:06,680 --> 00:25:09,320 So last month you got out over five times to eat. 510 00:25:09,320 --> 00:25:11,440 So let's say that's $20 every time. 511 00:25:11,440 --> 00:25:12,440 That's already a hundred. 512 00:25:12,440 --> 00:25:13,440 $120. 513 00:25:13,440 --> 00:25:14,440 How much is it? 514 00:25:14,440 --> 00:25:15,440 Let's say like 12. 515 00:25:15,440 --> 00:25:16,440 Because if I'm not like. 516 00:25:16,440 --> 00:25:21,440 Who the fuck spends $12 on fast food or order or ordering for nowadays? 517 00:25:21,440 --> 00:25:26,880 If I go to Chipotle, my bowl is really like eight and some change. 518 00:25:26,880 --> 00:25:29,360 Not like, let's say call it at nine. 519 00:25:29,360 --> 00:25:33,040 He's a horribly excuse because my whole point of all of that asking. 520 00:25:33,040 --> 00:25:35,080 What is he talking about? 521 00:25:35,080 --> 00:25:42,360 It's a dynamic to like date, listen, I bought myself so much shit in the last fucking three 522 00:25:42,360 --> 00:25:46,480 months that I could have used on my man, but I used it on me. 523 00:25:46,480 --> 00:25:48,560 Let's just speak from a girl's point of view. 524 00:25:48,560 --> 00:25:49,560 You feel me? 525 00:25:49,560 --> 00:25:51,000 Dating isn't just for the guy financially. 526 00:25:51,000 --> 00:25:52,500 It's for the woman too. 527 00:25:52,500 --> 00:25:58,160 But it's like we sit there and say that we don't have the economy right now to date. 528 00:25:58,160 --> 00:25:59,160 But it's like nigga. 529 00:25:59,160 --> 00:26:01,560 Do you know what we all spend our money on? 530 00:26:01,560 --> 00:26:04,000 We all live above our means. 531 00:26:04,000 --> 00:26:08,600 People cry about they don't make no money because they live above their means. 532 00:26:08,600 --> 00:26:12,560 I think you might be a special case in which you because you had just brought up a point 533 00:26:12,560 --> 00:26:16,720 that you said that's not just for the man, but it's also for the women. 534 00:26:16,720 --> 00:26:18,560 So it sounds like you're willing to spend on a man. 535 00:26:18,560 --> 00:26:20,960 Oh, I'm definitely you're okay. 536 00:26:20,960 --> 00:26:26,160 Then you are a rare scenario because I'm telling you right now, the women are out here are 537 00:26:26,160 --> 00:26:29,160 not willing to like spend on a man when that they're trying to get to know. 538 00:26:29,160 --> 00:26:30,720 See, they're not trying to see. 539 00:26:30,720 --> 00:26:31,720 Keep it above. 540 00:26:31,720 --> 00:26:32,720 I do. 541 00:26:32,720 --> 00:26:36,640 I like when I'm dating a guy like, of course, I'm going to be like, Oh, I got us tonight. 542 00:26:36,640 --> 00:26:38,440 I'm like, Oh, what do you want to eat? 543 00:26:38,440 --> 00:26:41,240 Like I really, even if you like, I'd be like, never mind. 544 00:26:41,240 --> 00:26:42,240 I don't even say that. 545 00:26:42,240 --> 00:26:43,240 Yeah. 546 00:26:43,240 --> 00:26:44,440 I mean, I was at something some folks will do that. 547 00:26:44,440 --> 00:26:50,000 But the majority of women are looking for someone who can I want to financially listen 548 00:26:50,000 --> 00:26:51,840 them in some type of form or fashion. 549 00:26:51,840 --> 00:26:53,200 I want to provide her. 550 00:26:53,200 --> 00:26:58,520 I would love to be married to my husband who provides for me. 551 00:26:58,520 --> 00:27:00,880 That is your duty to take care of your family. 552 00:27:00,880 --> 00:27:03,800 If I birth your children, you take care of us. 553 00:27:03,800 --> 00:27:07,160 But of course I will provide as well. 554 00:27:07,160 --> 00:27:12,840 So let's just put that into like a scenario like, you know, in percentage, would like, 555 00:27:12,840 --> 00:27:15,720 would you want to be responsible for like what percentage would you want to be responsible 556 00:27:15,720 --> 00:27:17,200 for in that, in that relationship? 557 00:27:17,200 --> 00:27:18,460 There is no percentage. 558 00:27:18,460 --> 00:27:19,640 This is how it works. 559 00:27:19,640 --> 00:27:26,640 If I'm married, if it is 2026 and I have a husband, okay, my husband is going to pay 560 00:27:26,640 --> 00:27:27,840 bills. 561 00:27:27,840 --> 00:27:31,800 What I choose to give every month is what I choose to give. 562 00:27:31,800 --> 00:27:37,560 But best believe that household is up running and you come home and go to sleep and do it 563 00:27:37,560 --> 00:27:43,160 all over again every day in perfect order because there will always be food. 564 00:27:43,160 --> 00:27:44,840 There will always be clean clothes. 565 00:27:44,840 --> 00:27:46,880 You will always have lunch for the next day. 566 00:27:46,880 --> 00:27:48,680 You will always have a gift when you get home. 567 00:27:48,680 --> 00:27:51,920 There will always be something I'm doing to fulfill you as a woman. 568 00:27:51,920 --> 00:27:52,920 Right. 569 00:27:52,920 --> 00:27:53,920 Okay. 570 00:27:53,920 --> 00:27:54,920 No, that makes sense. 571 00:27:54,920 --> 00:28:02,400 I think in this scenario that a lot of men probably aren't like as serious about like 572 00:28:02,400 --> 00:28:06,280 committing because they are actually kind of focusing on like, you know, what they want 573 00:28:06,280 --> 00:28:08,240 to do with their purpose, what they want to build their finances. 574 00:28:08,240 --> 00:28:09,240 Social media. 575 00:28:09,240 --> 00:28:12,360 Yeah, because I mean, they, that's what they kind of want to focus on before. 576 00:28:12,360 --> 00:28:15,240 So they can't, they can't be that provider that you're talking about. 577 00:28:15,240 --> 00:28:21,760 But social media has put a delay in hindrance on our men because they like, I get it. 578 00:28:21,760 --> 00:28:26,040 They have to because they make you seem like you have to provide and do everything now. 579 00:28:26,040 --> 00:28:27,040 No baby. 580 00:28:27,040 --> 00:28:30,720 If you want to date me and you want to say, don't take your card out or you want to say, 581 00:28:30,720 --> 00:28:31,720 don't do this. 582 00:28:31,720 --> 00:28:33,720 You don't want to say, I would love to hear that. 583 00:28:33,720 --> 00:28:34,720 I would. 584 00:28:34,720 --> 00:28:37,720 Or I'll fight you at the card machine on who's going to fucking pay. 585 00:28:37,720 --> 00:28:39,520 We're going to tap into a fucking dings. 586 00:28:39,520 --> 00:28:40,520 One of us. 587 00:28:40,520 --> 00:28:41,520 Are you going to fight him on the bills? 588 00:28:41,520 --> 00:28:43,520 Are you going to fight him on the light bill? 589 00:28:43,520 --> 00:28:44,520 No. 590 00:28:44,520 --> 00:28:45,520 No. 591 00:28:45,520 --> 00:28:46,520 So what are we talking about? 592 00:28:46,520 --> 00:28:47,520 But that's that. 593 00:28:47,520 --> 00:28:48,520 Yeah. 594 00:28:48,520 --> 00:28:51,000 I will give my, like I will give money. 595 00:28:51,000 --> 00:28:56,000 But at the end of the day, I come from a traditional household. 596 00:28:56,000 --> 00:28:57,880 I come from a traditional family. 597 00:28:57,880 --> 00:29:00,040 My grandfather pays all the bills. 598 00:29:00,040 --> 00:29:03,440 When I go to ask my grandmother, if I go and ask my grandma for some money, she's like, 599 00:29:03,440 --> 00:29:05,000 you know, you got to go talk to your grandfather. 600 00:29:05,000 --> 00:29:10,680 She, he's my grandmother cooks, cleans, takes care of the kids, takes care of the house, 601 00:29:10,680 --> 00:29:11,840 cater to her man. 602 00:29:11,840 --> 00:29:17,720 And my grandfather to this day, 58 years of marriage, still do what he do, pay the bills, 603 00:29:17,720 --> 00:29:18,720 get things together. 604 00:29:18,720 --> 00:29:19,720 My grandma hasn't worked in years. 605 00:29:19,720 --> 00:29:20,720 Yeah. 606 00:29:20,720 --> 00:29:23,480 I'm just saying, I think a lot of men want to be, want to do that. 607 00:29:23,480 --> 00:29:24,480 I know I don't want to do that. 608 00:29:24,480 --> 00:29:26,240 I don't think people want to start off in a negative. 609 00:29:26,240 --> 00:29:29,400 They want to get married and find sign this legal contract where someone can take half 610 00:29:29,400 --> 00:29:30,840 the money and do all this stuff. 611 00:29:30,840 --> 00:29:31,840 But people are worried about the wrong things. 612 00:29:31,840 --> 00:29:34,000 I tell them to get to the point where they can do that. 613 00:29:34,000 --> 00:29:36,600 You get married for love. 614 00:29:36,600 --> 00:29:37,600 You get married. 615 00:29:37,600 --> 00:29:38,600 You get married. 616 00:29:38,600 --> 00:29:43,640 Listen, I'm a traditional ass bitch. 617 00:29:43,640 --> 00:29:44,640 Okay. 618 00:29:44,640 --> 00:29:46,360 I don't even think people were getting married for love back then. 619 00:29:46,360 --> 00:29:48,800 I think they were doing out of necessity. 620 00:29:48,800 --> 00:29:50,200 My, you know what? 621 00:29:50,200 --> 00:29:55,560 I think they were doing that out of necessity back then, to be honest. 622 00:29:55,560 --> 00:29:56,560 Necessity. 623 00:29:56,560 --> 00:29:57,840 I think it was one of those scenarios. 624 00:29:57,840 --> 00:30:04,320 And I think that made for a better society where people understood that marriage was 625 00:30:04,320 --> 00:30:06,120 a good thing and it built families. 626 00:30:06,120 --> 00:30:07,120 Yes. 627 00:30:07,120 --> 00:30:09,480 But that's why we're all 30 and 40 years old right now. 628 00:30:09,480 --> 00:30:13,760 Can't find no fucking body because nobody wants to commit and just start a family and 629 00:30:13,760 --> 00:30:14,880 live normal. 630 00:30:14,880 --> 00:30:19,440 You rather have three baby mamas with six kids than just get married. 631 00:30:19,440 --> 00:30:21,360 Be with one woman and deal with that headache. 632 00:30:21,360 --> 00:30:22,360 Oh yeah. 633 00:30:22,360 --> 00:30:23,360 I don't know about all that. 634 00:30:23,360 --> 00:30:24,360 Six kids. 635 00:30:24,360 --> 00:30:26,360 That's the person that's responsible. 636 00:30:26,360 --> 00:30:27,360 Yeah. 637 00:30:27,360 --> 00:30:31,520 But I think that there's just a misalignment on what people want and then what people 638 00:30:31,520 --> 00:30:34,120 are willing to do for the results or whatever. 639 00:30:34,120 --> 00:30:41,360 So really honestly dating in 2023 is like scratching your balls against sandpaper. 640 00:30:41,360 --> 00:30:43,880 That shit sounds painful. 641 00:30:43,880 --> 00:30:44,880 Yeah. 642 00:30:44,880 --> 00:30:47,200 That's what dating in 2023 is. 643 00:30:47,200 --> 00:30:52,520 I mean because it's like everybody wants to establish themselves and everyone wants to 644 00:30:52,520 --> 00:30:54,040 be so financially independent. 645 00:30:54,040 --> 00:30:55,040 Bitch. 646 00:30:55,040 --> 00:30:56,040 I'm comfortable. 647 00:30:56,040 --> 00:30:59,200 The money I make not bitch to you trigger. 648 00:30:59,200 --> 00:31:00,360 I'm comfortable. 649 00:31:00,360 --> 00:31:01,960 Like I live a comfortable life. 650 00:31:01,960 --> 00:31:03,560 I can live above mine. 651 00:31:03,560 --> 00:31:07,560 I yeah. 652 00:31:07,560 --> 00:31:10,760 So it's like I can honestly have a single family household. 653 00:31:10,760 --> 00:31:13,160 I can have a husband and a child and live perfectly fine. 654 00:31:13,160 --> 00:31:14,440 My husband has a job. 655 00:31:14,440 --> 00:31:19,400 I would be very sustainable because I'm damn near fucking 30. 656 00:31:19,400 --> 00:31:21,560 Do you get what I'm saying? 657 00:31:21,560 --> 00:31:24,800 I've only had time to get established. 658 00:31:24,800 --> 00:31:30,400 It's like I always tell people I have everything besides a man. 659 00:31:30,400 --> 00:31:31,880 I have a great car. 660 00:31:31,880 --> 00:31:34,120 I have a great career ahead of me. 661 00:31:34,120 --> 00:31:35,120 I have a great job. 662 00:31:35,120 --> 00:31:37,560 I fucking hate my job but I have a great job. 663 00:31:37,560 --> 00:31:38,560 Okay. 664 00:31:38,560 --> 00:31:44,000 I love my podcast whether 15,000 people listen or 15 people listen. 665 00:31:44,000 --> 00:31:45,880 I love everything I do. 666 00:31:45,880 --> 00:31:46,880 I love my body. 667 00:31:46,880 --> 00:31:47,880 I stay fit. 668 00:31:47,880 --> 00:31:48,880 I work out. 669 00:31:48,880 --> 00:31:49,880 I make great money. 670 00:31:49,880 --> 00:31:51,880 I make all different forms of money in all different ways. 671 00:31:51,880 --> 00:31:53,880 I just don't have a man. 672 00:31:53,880 --> 00:31:54,880 That's it. 673 00:31:54,880 --> 00:31:55,880 Yeah. 674 00:31:55,880 --> 00:31:56,880 I feel you. 675 00:31:56,880 --> 00:32:01,640 And every man I've met is just always saying the same thing. 676 00:32:01,640 --> 00:32:06,120 Right now you know I'm just trying to just get myself together and you know just become 677 00:32:06,120 --> 00:32:11,840 a man in life and get this apartment and then start working on my car and blah blah blah 678 00:32:11,840 --> 00:32:12,840 blah blah. 679 00:32:12,840 --> 00:32:14,320 I mean I have a question. 680 00:32:14,320 --> 00:32:18,400 If those men, I'm just to say if they were focusing on those people, sorry if they were 681 00:32:18,400 --> 00:32:23,000 focusing on those things and it seems like they might not have it together. 682 00:32:23,000 --> 00:32:24,000 Everybody actually have it together though. 683 00:32:24,000 --> 00:32:28,800 Everyone actually have it together but they're telling you they don't have it together. 684 00:32:28,800 --> 00:32:31,000 Why should they get into a relationship at this point? 685 00:32:31,000 --> 00:32:32,000 If they don't have it together. 686 00:32:32,000 --> 00:32:33,000 I feel like if they don't have it together. 687 00:32:33,000 --> 00:32:36,760 Why come and try to fuck me if you can't even fund yourself? 688 00:32:36,760 --> 00:32:37,760 What? 689 00:32:37,760 --> 00:32:39,520 That's my point. 690 00:32:39,520 --> 00:32:43,640 If you don't feel like you should be dating, if you don't feel like you could be in a relationship, 691 00:32:43,640 --> 00:32:45,640 why are you sticking your broke dick in someone? 692 00:32:45,640 --> 00:32:46,640 Hmm. 693 00:32:46,640 --> 00:32:47,640 Huh? 694 00:32:47,640 --> 00:32:49,360 Why are you sticking your jobless pee pee in someone? 695 00:32:49,360 --> 00:32:52,400 Why are you sticking your unemployed ass in someone? 696 00:32:52,400 --> 00:32:53,400 You feel me? 697 00:32:53,400 --> 00:32:54,400 No, you got a point there. 698 00:32:54,400 --> 00:32:58,240 But you, it's okay to fuck because fucking is nothing anymore. 699 00:32:58,240 --> 00:32:59,240 Fucking's fucking. 700 00:32:59,240 --> 00:33:02,080 You could be a broke ass nigga with a rich ass bitch or a rich ass nigga with a broke 701 00:33:02,080 --> 00:33:03,800 ass bitch. 702 00:33:03,800 --> 00:33:04,800 That's it. 703 00:33:04,800 --> 00:33:13,000 Yeah, I mean I always say this to, in general, if you can't afford to even date and be comfortable 704 00:33:13,000 --> 00:33:21,040 with putting up the money for dates or whatever, then you really shouldn't be even out here. 705 00:33:21,040 --> 00:33:22,760 You need to be focused on your bag. 706 00:33:22,760 --> 00:33:26,720 So I can understand, I kind of agree with you in the sense of they shouldn't be looking 707 00:33:26,720 --> 00:33:28,160 for that if they don't have their shit together. 708 00:33:28,160 --> 00:33:32,440 They should be focusing on whatever I need to do to get to this bag and then get to the 709 00:33:32,440 --> 00:33:35,560 point where okay, I could dab around a little bit and you feel me? 710 00:33:35,560 --> 00:33:38,160 But if you're not in that situation, you shouldn't be on this market. 711 00:33:38,160 --> 00:33:44,920 Yeah, I wish it was that simple, but you would be so surprised at how many men we meet that 712 00:33:44,920 --> 00:33:46,640 are like that. 713 00:33:46,640 --> 00:33:51,240 So many men that aren't put together that really just swear that fucking is like the 714 00:33:51,240 --> 00:33:53,440 best thing that they can do in this world. 715 00:33:53,440 --> 00:33:55,560 And that's what we get stuck with. 716 00:33:55,560 --> 00:33:57,960 Yeah, that's a. 717 00:33:57,960 --> 00:34:02,800 And then all the good men aren't ready for relationships because either like prime example, 718 00:34:02,800 --> 00:34:06,040 you just got out of a relationship, a long term relationship. 719 00:34:06,040 --> 00:34:07,440 So you need time. 720 00:34:07,440 --> 00:34:12,000 And then there's other people who have been really damaged from relationships and men 721 00:34:12,000 --> 00:34:15,080 get hurt easier. 722 00:34:15,080 --> 00:34:17,600 Men get hurt easier than women get hurt. 723 00:34:17,600 --> 00:34:22,000 So it's like we have to deal with a lot of coping men. 724 00:34:22,000 --> 00:34:26,600 So all the really good men are semi unavailable and then all the pieces of shits are like 725 00:34:26,600 --> 00:34:28,160 extremely available. 726 00:34:28,160 --> 00:34:31,120 You feel me? 727 00:34:31,120 --> 00:34:33,120 What do you what do you consider a good man? 728 00:34:33,120 --> 00:34:35,320 Um, like what attributes? 729 00:34:35,320 --> 00:34:41,560 A good man is somebody who has goals, ambitions, things going for themselves. 730 00:34:41,560 --> 00:34:47,520 They have a want and a drive and a need to be successful within themselves more than 731 00:34:47,520 --> 00:34:50,400 being successful for other people. 732 00:34:50,400 --> 00:34:54,640 And you know, I live in Florida, run tie. 733 00:34:54,640 --> 00:34:55,640 You can't remain. 734 00:34:55,640 --> 00:35:00,160 Fuck if you have your own space, you're doing good in life. 735 00:35:00,160 --> 00:35:07,120 If you have your own area, your own little whatever is what you call your home. 736 00:35:07,120 --> 00:35:09,440 If you have that you, you're a good man. 737 00:35:09,440 --> 00:35:13,840 You have niggas who are sleeping on their homeboys couches or driving their friends 738 00:35:13,840 --> 00:35:19,440 cars or lying about where they're staying because they're with their baby moms or their 739 00:35:19,440 --> 00:35:21,000 ex girlfriends or whatever. 740 00:35:21,000 --> 00:35:22,320 And those are just ancient niggas. 741 00:35:22,320 --> 00:35:25,840 Let me ask you a question because you had just brought up a good point like, you know, 742 00:35:25,840 --> 00:35:28,280 you have in a place of your own or whatever, you know, space. 743 00:35:28,280 --> 00:35:32,000 Yeah, or with roommates and things like that in life because y'all know, we don't hate 744 00:35:32,000 --> 00:35:33,000 around roommates. 745 00:35:33,000 --> 00:35:34,000 Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. 746 00:35:34,000 --> 00:35:35,000 I have roommates. 747 00:35:35,000 --> 00:35:36,640 So I understand that scenario. 748 00:35:36,640 --> 00:35:37,640 But I'm gonna ask you a question. 749 00:35:37,640 --> 00:35:42,680 So if someone was, um, they're just getting by in the sense of like their expenses and 750 00:35:42,680 --> 00:35:44,720 what they make is just like, is this breaking even? 751 00:35:44,720 --> 00:35:45,720 Mm hmm. 752 00:35:45,720 --> 00:35:48,280 Would that be someone that you would be considering? 753 00:35:48,280 --> 00:35:52,160 Um, like so they don't really have a whole lot to spend on. 754 00:35:52,160 --> 00:35:55,240 Like days, but like they're they're taking care of their shit. 755 00:35:55,240 --> 00:35:57,200 But like they're what scenario? 756 00:35:57,200 --> 00:35:58,200 Like that happened. 757 00:35:58,200 --> 00:36:02,600 Well, I mean, am I paying for everything when we're going out? 758 00:36:02,600 --> 00:36:03,600 That's a good question. 759 00:36:03,600 --> 00:36:04,600 I don't want to pay for everything. 760 00:36:04,600 --> 00:36:05,600 Yeah. 761 00:36:05,600 --> 00:36:07,280 So that's my I'm not a man. 762 00:36:07,280 --> 00:36:09,520 That person should be that person should be on the market. 763 00:36:09,520 --> 00:36:10,800 They should be focusing on. 764 00:36:10,800 --> 00:36:14,600 Yeah, they should, but they don't cut it either cut in their expenses, making that bag so that 765 00:36:14,600 --> 00:36:18,480 they can't get to that point because that's what women are all here looking for providers. 766 00:36:18,480 --> 00:36:24,040 Well, I feel like any woman wants a provider because we know what men are capable of. 767 00:36:24,040 --> 00:36:25,200 Yeah, exactly. 768 00:36:25,200 --> 00:36:26,520 But we've also tainted. 769 00:36:26,520 --> 00:36:33,320 But I know this is definitely on topic, but I saw something today on Instagram and it 770 00:36:33,320 --> 00:36:37,120 said that men made women whores. 771 00:36:37,120 --> 00:36:39,200 Men make women whores. 772 00:36:39,200 --> 00:36:41,400 What would that even mean? 773 00:36:41,400 --> 00:36:43,600 I would love to talk about on the next episode. 774 00:36:43,600 --> 00:36:44,600 Okay. 775 00:36:44,600 --> 00:36:46,360 All right, let's go ahead and sign off. 776 00:36:46,360 --> 00:36:47,360 Okay. 777 00:36:47,360 --> 00:36:48,360 All right. 778 00:36:48,360 --> 00:36:51,560 All right, you already know how it goes. 779 00:36:51,560 --> 00:36:54,640 We cut y'all short and we really don't give you a ton of listen, but we will in the next 780 00:36:54,640 --> 00:36:59,440 episode when I bring trigger trade to talk about what how did men make women. 781 00:36:59,440 --> 00:37:20,040 I hope this is the lawless and brawless pockets with your hopes. 782 00:37:20,040 --> 00:37:23,840 Go ahead and sign off for us tonight trigger so we can get the audience ready for next 783 00:37:23,840 --> 00:37:24,840 week's episode. 784 00:37:24,840 --> 00:37:25,960 All right. 785 00:37:25,960 --> 00:37:31,720 This is the lawless and brawless car. 786 00:37:31,720 --> 00:37:32,720 It's okay. 787 00:37:32,720 --> 00:37:33,720 It's like a drop. 788 00:37:33,720 --> 00:37:34,720 Now. 789 00:37:34,720 --> 00:37:35,720 All right, guys. 790 00:37:35,720 --> 00:37:36,720 This is the lawless and brawless. 791 00:37:36,720 --> 00:37:37,720 I swear. 792 00:37:37,720 --> 00:37:38,720 I swear. 793 00:37:38,720 --> 00:37:39,720 I swear. 794 00:37:39,720 --> 00:37:40,720 I swear. 795 00:37:40,720 --> 00:37:41,720 I got it. 796 00:37:41,720 --> 00:37:42,720 I got it. 797 00:37:42,720 --> 00:37:45,720 Because now I'm just so like the song. 798 00:37:45,720 --> 00:37:47,720 Okay, go ahead. 799 00:37:47,720 --> 00:37:48,720 I got you. 800 00:37:48,720 --> 00:37:49,720 Take three. 801 00:37:49,720 --> 00:37:50,720 All right, y'all. 802 00:37:50,720 --> 00:37:52,720 This is the lawless and brawless podcast. 803 00:37:52,720 --> 00:37:54,720 This is trigger trade and we're signing out. 804 00:37:54,720 --> 00:37:55,720 All right. 805 00:37:55,720 --> 00:37:57,960 May my itsate a gorgeous spectacular zijn y'all. 806 00:37:57,960 --> 00:37:58,960 Okay. 807 00:37:58,960 --> 00:38:00,520 Congratulations. 808 00:38:00,520 --> 00:38:02,580 you