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Outlaws, we are back here Lawless and Rawless.
What's going on?
Tonight I have, let's go, we doing Trigatray.
We're doing Trigatray.
Trigatray is the hot seat, IEG, YouTube, Spotify, Apple, Google, whatever you can name.
But you know, we've been trying to play on a podcast, little episode for a little minute
now.
So now I thought the best thing to do would be to have some grown folk conversation.
Grown, grown, grown folk.
And I'm talking dating in 2023.
Now we, now I know personally being a 27 year old like woman, it is extremely hard to date
nowadays, right?
Yeah, yeah, I would say so.
And what would you say are like some of the most like, what is a difficulty trying to
get a date to happen from a man's point of view?
I think from a man's point of view, or I could just say, well, there's people not bullshitting.
Like I'm more than willing to actually put in the initiative because I'm staying as a
man, I should be putting in some initiative, not saying that I shouldn't go both ways,
but you know, I feel like the expectation, especially, you know, I feel like the preconceived
notions that we're the hunters.
So we kind of fall into that role.
So we kind of have to, you know, go out and hunt, you know, I'm saying hunt.
So I'm going to hunt your bitches.
Yeah, you gotta go hunt.
So I think what is what's difficult is like when you're, you know, you throw it, throw
the, you know, throw a bit out there and it's all right, here we got something and then
just nothing.
So it's like, yeah, so that's, that's, I feel like women deal with that too though.
No, we deal with a lot of fall ass niggas.
We, it'd be the ones to be the ones to be the ones to be like, Oh, give me a chance.
Give me a chance.
And then you give them the chance and it's like, quiet.
It's like all that game, they were trying to talk to you to talk to them for like that
30 seconds of fame and a DM just goes.
I've seen some, I've seen some homegirls and you know, I personally been the female too.
Like I, I post a lot of bullshit on like my social media and I call it like bait stuff
because it's like, I really just want to see what niggas like or people have to say like
about what I post.
So like I see niggas that like, Oh, you never, you play too much, you play too much.
I'm like, I bet you have my time.
I'm like, nah, nah, I don't want it.
I'm like, see, and like, no, no, I'm kidding.
I'm like, nah, cause I gave you literally one fucking chance and you blew that chance
because you're trying to be goofy.
So what do you do is find as them blowing it, like just not actually putting in like
a, not actually planning something now.
Like what is that?
It's like, when I say blowing it, it means like they don't take it serious.
Cause then it's like, it's like everybody likes to play games.
It's like back and forth like ping pong.
It's like, Oh, balls in your court, balls in your court, balls in your court.
And so it just doesn't go anywhere.
It's just off the fucking table.
No, I think that happens on our end a lot too.
Man, I'm not going to lie.
Like it's a lot of times where you might get something and then you might not hear nothing
the next day.
And then like, I think that kind of goes both ways, but I see it with women a lot as well.
You do?
Yeah.
I think what it is, I think, I think what I've noticed a lot lately is that we lack commitment.
All of us, all of us, I'm talking all men and women lack commitment.
I'm not speaking like, in better terms of saying like we lack commitment.
It's like we don't want to follow through with just that one thing.
You get what I'm saying?
So kind of explain.
Okay.
Let me, let me just cross all that out to go back to my point.
It's you give men and women give people the chances.
We give each other the chance to attempt to go out, but nobody takes that attempt seriously.
So nobody wants to commit.
We females, we love when dates and plans cancel because nine times at a time we really want
to do nothing, but it's because we're so used to doing nothing.
So why say yes to the plans in general?
I mean, more or less, or like even a lot of us, a lot of us will, for me speaking, I'll
always follow through a plan.
If I make a plan and I have a day and time and it's already set in stone, I'm not the
person to follow through, but it's like, it sounds like such a great idea until that day
comes up and it's like, fuck, I have to get ready.
I have to do this.
I do that.
And it's like for hoping that it could be really great or for it to just be a waste of
time for both parties.
You know, but how you, I feel like you're not going to know that unless you kind of give
it that, that shot.
So it's like, you're going, you're already going into it on like a man, I only want
to do this.
No, no, no, not necessarily trickling.
That might trickle into the energy of the, I like to always go into anything open minded.
So I always go in with the positive attitude, but a lot of females, it's like, I feel like
even in men, like we self sabotage a lot.
So for when it comes down to date night, it's like, I feel like a lot of people blow chances
because they self sabotage.
You know what I'm saying?
So give me an example of a self sabotage when it comes to a date night.
Okay.
So if I self sabotage on date night, it's like this.
It's like, okay, me and you plan next Friday, we're going to go out to eat and we're going
to go for drinks and then we're going to go bowling.
Okay.
I personally can agree to it.
I'll plan for it.
And let me not say person cause I'm speaking hypothetically.
So hypothetically speaking, I plan for it.
I agree to it, but I'm also talking to this person or I'm trying to get that a person's
attention or even though I'm still excited to go on a date with you, I still want to
do this or I still want to do that.
So it's like, I'm putting up little flags and bumpers in the way up until date night
to where either I fold or I go through with it.
Let me ask you a question on this, in this hypothetical hypothetical, very hypothetical
situation.
We all hypothetical here.
Yeah.
Hypothetical situation.
So when I approached you, they want to take you on a date or whatever.
Do you kind of like, how far into the conversation do you get before you say yes?
And what I mean by that is like, as far as like expectations, like, well, hey, what are
you looking for out of this?
Oh yeah, I definitely like, do you screen for that or?
I see the thing is, I feel like naturally everybody feels like they're entitled to sex.
Like now I feel like sex is like just something people feel like is the option, you know?
And one thing I feel like is like a lot of women I've been like, I've been watching and
reading and doing my little study up and hype up on my women.
And the thing about it is like women are so independent right now because I feel like
men who take that like, oh, if I take you out, like you have to put it out for me.
So it's like we naturally think like before we even go on the date, we're naturally thinking,
damn, he's, he's more than likely going to want to fuck.
It's if I'm in the mood to have sex or if I'm not, people can take that and people
would be like, oh, well, I don't have sex on the first night because person like me, you
know, I want to develop a little bit more bond and connection.
So the sex is fire.
Like that's one thing about me.
A hundred percent of the sex got to be fired.
So I want like a little bit more before I get it.
But I feel like if I fuck on the first date, like I, you're only going to get like 15%
of my 100% of sex gain.
Because it's more like I already know you're expecting to get sex.
So it's like it's for those who do put out, you know, for a man taking him out, there's
nothing wrong with it.
But I feel like, you know, that woman's just like, okay, I got to put out tonight because
he took me out and he did that for me.
Instead of being like, nah, like I want to like gargle your dick right now.
You get me?
But earlier, your mission and like, you might be have a scenario or like even before the
date even happens where it's like, okay, you don't know, like you might get that the day
of comes, you have like this, I don't know if it's paranoia or whatever, like we're just
like, man, I don't even know if I'm gonna do this because I might have like this person
may have reached out to me and I was waiting for this person to reach out to me or whatever,
whatever.
So I think, yeah, like so outside of like the sex on the first date, we're going to get
to that.
But like, what have you ever like came to that realization and like, all right, well, let
me just go ahead and cancel with this person so that I'm not going into this, this scenario
already counting this person now.
Women and men both like options.
Okay.
You know, women and men both like options.
Women are going, I think to speak for a lot of women, women are going to go on dates.
Women are going to explore now because women have just been so used to putting out like
the whole last year or two years has just been like people like a nigga does this and
a nigga does that.
Oh, like I'm fucking you.
I'm sucking you.
I'm not sure how women have been portraying a lot of situations like everything is transactional.
So the thought of sex is like a little wiped out and played out.
Like how little little yachty said it.
Like he was like, bro, sex is boring to me.
Like I want to fuck your mind.
Like that's like, you feel me?
Like because you had to think about it.
We prepare for a date and like, of course we want to go on a date because we want to
have like a real date, not just a nigga come over with some fries and chicken and like
fuck you on the couch.
Yeah, I think even kind of going back to that day night, I was saying that like, I was asking
you if you like had set the expectation under talk.
Well, part of that also means that like, I don't think I'm going to take someone on
to the day until I know what they're looking for out of any type of interaction.
What I mean by that is like, all right, are you are you looking for?
Are you looking for a relationship?
Are you just, you know, with the vibes?
Like, so like, do you kind of let that be known up front?
Um, it's, I mean, or you just kind of like, all right, I'm open to what's what's happened.
I'm open.
So here's the thing.
It's like, it depends on the situation because really a lot of the times I'll tell people,
I will fuck you on the first time meeting you.
I'll fuck you on the first date, but I guarantee you I'll probably not want to talk to you
again because I don't feel, I don't have a, I don't have something to chase after because
I've already had the whole like meal.
You feel me?
I don't want to go to that restaurant right now.
I can go to that restaurant next week and try something else on the menu when I feel
like it.
So that's, that's the meal to you?
I mean, I'm not like saying this.
I mean, but that's, that's how people are.
You give it all up to me up front.
You might as well just, you know, put everything in the takeout box and let me go home with
it.
Oh no, I kind of feel like that's just one aspect of it.
Like, and that's, I'm kind of getting to my point where it's like, I personally don't
think sex on the first date is a bad thing depending on if it's a conversation.
Sex on the first date?
I'm providing those a conversation beforehand and like the vibes make sense.
And there's an alignment there because like, I just kind of feel like not that it's not
big of a deal because it is because it is a level, but it's just like, okay, so what's
the difference between the first, second and third?
You get to know a little bit more.
So, so, so this is, this is what I'm trying to say.
Okay.
So sex on the first date is not bad.
It's not, but, but, but if you have sex on the first date, you are not going to be up
my ass like I want you to be.
You know, like you were so up my ass before you got the cookie and now you got the cookie
and now it's like, okay, well, I already taste that cookie.
So I'll just nibble on it later.
Like I'll just come back to it.
You know, it's like you already got the cookie.
So you're not going to hound me.
You're not going to blow me up.
You're not going to do all this stuff because nine times out of 10, you've already done
what?
Got the cookie from the cookie jar.
Okay.
You get me?
So my question is, well, okay, so what happens if, okay, let's say you said, all right, I'm
not going to do it on first, but you did do on the second third.
Do you think the same result happens or?
I think by that, I would say if you were to have sex by the third date, you're definitely
going to be used to that person because it's not like you're taking date after date after
date.
It's not like you're hitting date night every fucking every other night to get to that
third date.
That date comes with times, people, schedules, you planning, you talking, you communicating.
So it's like, then it builds up like that.
Damn, okay.
I'm ready to see you again.
I'm excited to see you.
And then by that third day, it's like, all right, we've been playing too much.
Like, let me get it.
But nobody's that nobody, nobody wants to do that.
Everybody's just like, Oh yeah, I'm horny.
Let me fuck right now.
Like, nah, I want to build up.
I like what my pussy do that little like, like that little thumping your mouth.
That ass, like, I don't know.
Call me old school.
But I, it's funny because my dad says like this, my dad says, he goes, he goes, it's
so funny because women want to fuck the whole football team.
And then for the one person that that was like that they want to settle down with, they
won't give up anything.
And he goes, he goes, it's not about somebody, you know, just saying like, just, you know,
say, okay, I have morals now.
I have self respect.
Like, you have to wait to fuck me.
It's not that it's just the fact that they actually like you.
So whatever is happening, I always thought, I'm sorry, I've always thought that was such
a crazy concept because it's like, using your scenario, how are you going to go and fuck
the whole football team who put in who did nothing to really get to it?
Like relatively nothing, just, hey, you know, boom, fucking.
But the person who sat there and actually like, making time for you, showing that they
care for you and wanting to actually treat you like a woman to take you out.
That's the way.
That's not like a good deal to you.
I'm saying, I'm saying, I'm saying, you never heard of money.
You never heard of something like worth the weight or whatever that bullshit.
I'm just saying, I'm just saying this.
If I heard that this person already had fucked the football team and what they had to do to
get to that and I'm looking around like, wait, hold on, I'm this around money.
I'm doing this.
I'm making time and I'm still, but she's staying around.
Terrible deal.
She's trying.
I mean, the way I think about it is kind of shitty.
But at the same time, it's like, I'm not mad at her because I mean, she should be.
Damn, I mean, you gotta think of it like this.
You gotta think of it like this.
You gotta think of it like this because she likes you.
She would prefer you to wait.
So when you get it, you appreciate it.
You'll enjoy it and you'll love it.
I'm pretty sure that football team appreciated it.
Listen, fuck the football team.
We're talking about now.
That's, that's the way it is.
No, but real talk, I think it like, I do respect people for making that decision because I
didn't, you know, we all grown here.
You know, and you have their reasons and I don't think anyone should be forced to do
anything.
I think everyone's philosophies.
They should have their philosophies and if they aligns, they don't.
Sex is just too, it's sex is so fucking overrated.
Sex is so overrated.
People are fucking.
People are just fucking to fuck.
I do have a question for you though, because you have mentioned, you have mentioned that
if you give it to them on the first date, right, they're only going to get 15% is 100%.
Yes.
Do you feel that people get it right all the time on the first time?
No, 100% no, but, but, but, but, but, but for me personally speaking, it's like, I know
I'm only going to give you 15% of my sex game, you know, because it's like, yes, the
hour to two hour, three hour date, whatever the case, let's say it's a one to three hour
date.
It's like, I'm going to three hours is great.
I got to laugh.
I got to joke.
I got to connect, but it still doesn't give me the, it still doesn't give me the, like,
I want to let out my Kevin Gates on him.
You feel me and Kevin Gates nasty.
I don't know that nigga nasty.
No, that nigga drinking piss.
No, he's drinking.
Drinking the piss.
But you feel me like I already know.
Yeah.
I already know.
Like I personally know.
Like, I personally know.
Like, I'm not going to fuck 100% on the first day.
I'm not even a fuck 50% because nine times out of 10, I probably won't have to do that
much work because the guy is more ready than I am.
So it's like, I only have to do like a little spread, a little side and a flip and you know,
I'm big like a pancake.
You know, it's crazy that you say that because I think there's the Southern word like guys
where it's like we're we're trying to we're trying to go hard on the first time because
we're trying to repeat business.
You know, we're trying to prove a fucking point.
We're trying to make sure that restaurant still open.
See, see, that's the thing.
That's the thing tomorrow.
Like, y'all say that y'all say that y'all say that, but it's like, it's like how you
say you say you just made the comment like, Oh, y'all want to fuck to like pretty much
prove a point like you could put in where you throw down the dicks, you know, you can
always come back for more.
You say that, but it's like, are you still going to want the cookie as bad as you wanted
it the first time?
Depends on the cookie.
See, see, this law is in brawls.
It depends on the cookie.
You're gonna keep it a book.
I, me personally, for somebody who has kept her cookie jar shut tight and her cookie jar
open and like, I know no matter how much good of a cookie you got, sometimes Niggas just
be with the bullshit.
Niggas like other cookie flavors and chocolate chip.
Okay.
Sometimes they went little lemon square or they want a fucking like snicker doodle.
Men are, they say that men are so like, like they're, they're so easy and all this shit
and they're not men are very unpredictable.
Men are really.
I think we're very simple.
You guys are simple when it comes to certain things, but your actions are very unpredictable.
You get what I'm saying?
When I say that it's, I can explain that.
I can explain that.
So it's like, you could tell me today, oh yes, I want to take you out Irene.
I want to take you on a date.
Let's do this.
Let's do that.
I want a relationship.
Okay.
That's great.
Ba, ba, ba.
Cool.
We go out.
Cool.
We want to start talking.
Cool.
We talk about all this at dinner.
We get home.
We go in.
We're hanging out at night.
We fuck.
And then it's the next day like, oh, you know, I have a lot going on.
You know, relationship isn't something like I can do right now.
But you know, you're so cool.
You want to talk to me?
So then you do that.
And then it's just like, well, shit, I could have just waited to give up the cookie then.
I think that's just a, that's right.
That scenario right there.
Just someone just being dishonest.
I mean, I'm always for the honesty is the best policy and just being straight up like,
Hey, this is what I want.
You feel me?
If this was good or whatever, let's continue doing it or whatever.
So like if someone coming to you on some like relationships, then like that's a little
bit that's I guess that is weird behavior, but someone came to you like, look, you know,
this is what it is.
I'm just trying to get from here for this.
If you like it with the vibes, then you feel me?
That's a different scenario.
If a guy tells me straight up front that he just wants to fuck, I curve him.
If I go into my DM right now and if I go into my hinge and if I go into my DM and the first
nigga that talks to me about dick fuck, talk to me about my pussy, anything like that,
I promise you, I'm like, bro, you're gone.
I think that's a crazy approach.
I think like this is you over here just talking about your dick and all that type of stuff.
I'm talking about like if someone hit you with the like, all right, so this is you said
hinge, right?
Let's say someone hit you with it.
Like, so what you what you looking for on the app or whatever, like what you say, like,
well, well, first of all, we'll be your response.
I guess I'm dating for marriage life partner.
Yeah.
And then okay.
And that in that scenario, that person should be able to respect that.
And now they go, well, well, have you ever thought about just maybe, you know, just trying
to just talk to someone and be a friend and no bitch.
I just told you what I was looking for.
If I'm on the timing of like, I'm just out here trying to fuck.
If someone tells me that I'm just going to move on to the next.
People tell me that they're trying to fuck all the time.
And I'm like, no, I don't want to.
I'm like, can we talk about anything else besides sex?
I mean, sex is great.
Sex is exciting.
It's exhilarating.
It's liberating.
But it's also exhausting.
Okay.
It's exhausting fucking a bunch of people.
I'm going to speak personally.
It's exhausting fucking a bunch of people.
It's exhausting going through the years, fucking people and not being with anyone, not being
in a relationship, not establishing a foundation.
I've been in this apartment for two years.
I've been in this apartment and I'm not saying I've had a lot of guys and not my door, but
for the ones that I've had in my door, they aren't around.
Sex is exhausting.
So the whole point, if I'm not going to fuck on the first date, nine times out of 10, because
I really want to learn someone, bond with them and fuck them and then not worry about
fucking anybody else.
People think that once you date, that's like a marriage, like, chill the fuck out.
You can date for a year.
You can date for two years.
You can be boyfriend and girlfriend after three months.
You can date and do all of that shit and take your time.
But people are like, oh, I'm not ready to date now.
What do you want to do?
You want to date when you have 100K in the account and three businesses launch and all
your houses paid off?
Okay, you're ready to be fucking married, nigga.
Like not date.
Well, I think that goes into a whole other thing.
Well, I think, I guess people in our age range, I would say men especially, is that
we understand that for the dating part and dating the marriage part, getting to that
thing, it's definitely maturity.
And that comes with maturity in all aspects of your life, like finances, physicality,
etc, etc, which I think doesn't peak for a man until, you know, a little bit later.
Blah, blah, blah.
I'm not going to talk about the men and their bullshit crybaby shit.
I think this is real.
We have to wait till we're 35 to establish ourselves as men.
But that's real.
My dad was 20, my dad was 22 taking care of my mom.
Yeah, that was a different time.
That was a time where.
Why can't we go back to those times?
Yeah, why can't we go back to what you did have sex on the first date?
Those times are way different economic situations.
There's so many things about different about about that time.
I think what's different with this time is that like economic woman.
Yeah, 100% it was economics.
It was definitely different at the time.
Economic.
Yeah, definitely different.
Let's for sure.
You can have a trade at that time.
Trigger trade and support a family.
Trigger trade.
Literally.
Did you buy food for lunch today?
No, I cooked.
Did you buy food for lunch yesterday?
No, I cooked.
Have you bought food for yourself in the last week?
And the last week.
Have you gone out and purchased food?
No, actually, I'm a bad guy.
I'm a bad case scenario this time because I actually like I did a big grocery trip and
I was like, no, I'm not going.
Yeah, okay.
Okay.
So you're budgeted this month.
If you ask about the week before, let's talk about two weeks.
Let's talk about the month of January.
Have you been out to eat over five times?
Month of January.
Yeah.
Have you bought yourself anything that isn't a necessity more than five times in January?
I'm pretty sure.
Okay.
Not the necessity as in not food, not toilet paper, not toiletries, not bills.
I'm talking outside necessities.
I'm talking anything that is not a fucking bill that hits you up every month.
It's probably like right at five because I really.
Right at five.
Okay.
In the last three weeks or last month.
Okay.
So last month you got out over five times to eat.
So let's say that's $20 every time.
That's already a hundred.
$120.
How much is it?
Let's say like 12.
Because if I'm not like.
Who the fuck spends $12 on fast food or order or ordering for nowadays?
If I go to Chipotle, my bowl is really like eight and some change.
Not like, let's say call it at nine.
He's a horribly excuse because my whole point of all of that asking.
What is he talking about?
It's a dynamic to like date, listen, I bought myself so much shit in the last fucking three
months that I could have used on my man, but I used it on me.
Let's just speak from a girl's point of view.
You feel me?
Dating isn't just for the guy financially.
It's for the woman too.
But it's like we sit there and say that we don't have the economy right now to date.
But it's like nigga.
Do you know what we all spend our money on?
We all live above our means.
People cry about they don't make no money because they live above their means.
I think you might be a special case in which you because you had just brought up a point
that you said that's not just for the man, but it's also for the women.
So it sounds like you're willing to spend on a man.
Oh, I'm definitely you're okay.
Then you are a rare scenario because I'm telling you right now, the women are out here are
not willing to like spend on a man when that they're trying to get to know.
See, they're not trying to see.
Keep it above.
I do.
I like when I'm dating a guy like, of course, I'm going to be like, Oh, I got us tonight.
I'm like, Oh, what do you want to eat?
Like I really, even if you like, I'd be like, never mind.
I don't even say that.
Yeah.
I mean, I was at something some folks will do that.
But the majority of women are looking for someone who can I want to financially listen
them in some type of form or fashion.
I want to provide her.
I would love to be married to my husband who provides for me.
That is your duty to take care of your family.
If I birth your children, you take care of us.
But of course I will provide as well.
So let's just put that into like a scenario like, you know, in percentage, would like,
would you want to be responsible for like what percentage would you want to be responsible
for in that, in that relationship?
There is no percentage.
This is how it works.
If I'm married, if it is 2026 and I have a husband, okay, my husband is going to pay
bills.
What I choose to give every month is what I choose to give.
But best believe that household is up running and you come home and go to sleep and do it
all over again every day in perfect order because there will always be food.
There will always be clean clothes.
You will always have lunch for the next day.
You will always have a gift when you get home.
There will always be something I'm doing to fulfill you as a woman.
Right.
Okay.
No, that makes sense.
I think in this scenario that a lot of men probably aren't like as serious about like
committing because they are actually kind of focusing on like, you know, what they want
to do with their purpose, what they want to build their finances.
Social media.
Yeah, because I mean, they, that's what they kind of want to focus on before.
So they can't, they can't be that provider that you're talking about.
But social media has put a delay in hindrance on our men because they like, I get it.
They have to because they make you seem like you have to provide and do everything now.
No baby.
If you want to date me and you want to say, don't take your card out or you want to say,
don't do this.
You don't want to say, I would love to hear that.
I would.
Or I'll fight you at the card machine on who's going to fucking pay.
We're going to tap into a fucking dings.
One of us.
Are you going to fight him on the bills?
Are you going to fight him on the light bill?
No.
So what are we talking about?
But that's that.
Yeah.
I will give my, like I will give money.
But at the end of the day, I come from a traditional household.
I come from a traditional family.
My grandfather pays all the bills.
When I go to ask my grandmother, if I go and ask my grandma for some money, she's like,
you know, you got to go talk to your grandfather.
She, he's my grandmother cooks, cleans, takes care of the kids, takes care of the house,
cater to her man.
And my grandfather to this day, 58 years of marriage, still do what he do, pay the bills,
get things together.
My grandma hasn't worked in years.
Yeah.
I'm just saying, I think a lot of men want to be, want to do that.
I know I don't want to do that.
I don't think people want to start off in a negative.
They want to get married and find sign this legal contract where someone can take half
the money and do all this stuff.
But people are worried about the wrong things.
I tell them to get to the point where they can do that.
You get married for love.
You get married.
Listen, I'm a traditional ass bitch.
Okay.
I don't even think people were getting married for love back then.
I think they were doing out of necessity.
My, you know what?
I think they were doing that out of necessity back then, to be honest.
Necessity.
I think it was one of those scenarios.
And I think that made for a better society where people understood that marriage was
a good thing and it built families.
Yes.
But that's why we're all 30 and 40 years old right now.
Can't find no fucking body because nobody wants to commit and just start a family and
live normal.
You rather have three baby mamas with six kids than just get married.
Be with one woman and deal with that headache.
Oh yeah.
I don't know about all that.
Six kids.
That's the person that's responsible.
Yeah.
But I think that there's just a misalignment on what people want and then what people
are willing to do for the results or whatever.
So really honestly dating in 2023 is like scratching your balls against sandpaper.
That shit sounds painful.
Yeah.
That's what dating in 2023 is.
I mean because it's like everybody wants to establish themselves and everyone wants to
be so financially independent.
Bitch.
I'm comfortable.
The money I make not bitch to you trigger.
I'm comfortable.
Like I live a comfortable life.
I can live above mine.
I yeah.
So it's like I can honestly have a single family household.
I can have a husband and a child and live perfectly fine.
My husband has a job.
I would be very sustainable because I'm damn near fucking 30.
Do you get what I'm saying?
I've only had time to get established.
It's like I always tell people I have everything besides a man.
I have a great car.
I have a great career ahead of me.
I have a great job.
I fucking hate my job but I have a great job.
Okay.
I love my podcast whether 15,000 people listen or 15 people listen.
I love everything I do.
I love my body.
I stay fit.
I work out.
I make great money.
I make all different forms of money in all different ways.
I just don't have a man.
That's it.
Yeah.
I feel you.
And every man I've met is just always saying the same thing.
Right now you know I'm just trying to just get myself together and you know just become
a man in life and get this apartment and then start working on my car and blah blah blah
blah blah.
I mean I have a question.
If those men, I'm just to say if they were focusing on those people, sorry if they were
focusing on those things and it seems like they might not have it together.
Everybody actually have it together though.
Everyone actually have it together but they're telling you they don't have it together.
Why should they get into a relationship at this point?
If they don't have it together.
I feel like if they don't have it together.
Why come and try to fuck me if you can't even fund yourself?
What?
That's my point.
If you don't feel like you should be dating, if you don't feel like you could be in a relationship,
why are you sticking your broke dick in someone?
Hmm.
Huh?
Why are you sticking your jobless pee pee in someone?
Why are you sticking your unemployed ass in someone?
You feel me?
No, you got a point there.
But you, it's okay to fuck because fucking is nothing anymore.
Fucking's fucking.
You could be a broke ass nigga with a rich ass bitch or a rich ass nigga with a broke
ass bitch.
That's it.
Yeah, I mean I always say this to, in general, if you can't afford to even date and be comfortable
with putting up the money for dates or whatever, then you really shouldn't be even out here.
You need to be focused on your bag.
So I can understand, I kind of agree with you in the sense of they shouldn't be looking
for that if they don't have their shit together.
They should be focusing on whatever I need to do to get to this bag and then get to the
point where okay, I could dab around a little bit and you feel me?
But if you're not in that situation, you shouldn't be on this market.
Yeah, I wish it was that simple, but you would be so surprised at how many men we meet that
are like that.
So many men that aren't put together that really just swear that fucking is like the
best thing that they can do in this world.
And that's what we get stuck with.
Yeah, that's a.
And then all the good men aren't ready for relationships because either like prime example,
you just got out of a relationship, a long term relationship.
So you need time.
And then there's other people who have been really damaged from relationships and men
get hurt easier.
Men get hurt easier than women get hurt.
So it's like we have to deal with a lot of coping men.
So all the really good men are semi unavailable and then all the pieces of shits are like
extremely available.
You feel me?
What do you what do you consider a good man?
Um, like what attributes?
A good man is somebody who has goals, ambitions, things going for themselves.
They have a want and a drive and a need to be successful within themselves more than
being successful for other people.
And you know, I live in Florida, run tie.
You can't remain.
Fuck if you have your own space, you're doing good in life.
If you have your own area, your own little whatever is what you call your home.
If you have that you, you're a good man.
You have niggas who are sleeping on their homeboys couches or driving their friends
cars or lying about where they're staying because they're with their baby moms or their
ex girlfriends or whatever.
And those are just ancient niggas.
Let me ask you a question because you had just brought up a good point like, you know,
you have in a place of your own or whatever, you know, space.
Yeah, or with roommates and things like that in life because y'all know, we don't hate
around roommates.
Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
I have roommates.
So I understand that scenario.
But I'm gonna ask you a question.
So if someone was, um, they're just getting by in the sense of like their expenses and
what they make is just like, is this breaking even?
Mm hmm.
Would that be someone that you would be considering?
Um, like so they don't really have a whole lot to spend on.
Like days, but like they're they're taking care of their shit.
But like they're what scenario?
Like that happened.
Well, I mean, am I paying for everything when we're going out?
That's a good question.
I don't want to pay for everything.
Yeah.
So that's my I'm not a man.
That person should be that person should be on the market.
They should be focusing on.
Yeah, they should, but they don't cut it either cut in their expenses, making that bag so that
they can't get to that point because that's what women are all here looking for providers.
Well, I feel like any woman wants a provider because we know what men are capable of.
Yeah, exactly.
But we've also tainted.
But I know this is definitely on topic, but I saw something today on Instagram and it
said that men made women whores.
Men make women whores.
What would that even mean?
I would love to talk about on the next episode.
Okay.
All right, let's go ahead and sign off.
Okay.
All right.
All right, you already know how it goes.
We cut y'all short and we really don't give you a ton of listen, but we will in the next
episode when I bring trigger trade to talk about what how did men make women.
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