Good morning. Good afternoon and good evening everybody. It's your girl Sonya McQueen with your mind your body your choice
First things first today is May 23rd. I want to wish my youngest child
Tweet that's not a real name y'all, but we've been calling her tweets and she was a couple of weeks old a
Happy quarter of a century birthday. Love you
All right today. I want to talk about no matter what you've done and where you've been
There's somebody that loves you
You know so often we make mistakes and people will turn their backs on us so quickly
I've been guilty of that. I've been guilty of
somebody wronging me and
Maybe they were sincere with their apology and me telling them I do not accept your apology and moving on and not thinking twice about them
But I'm one person you know, there's
Just an abundant amount of people whose paths you will pass every day and I'm not talking about godly love
We all know God loves us, right? We all know our parents are supposed to love us
We're supposed to have this unbreakable bond with our siblings. We have cousins that double the siblings
We have aunties and uncles
Grandma's grandpa's and through all that you'd never believe how many people grow up on love
You know they grow up in these abusive
Situations or they're just ignored which to me is another form of abuse
You know not caring how your kids are doing in school giving them the proper daily tools
they need shelter and clothing and food and and
You know, you're not holding them back. You're not beating them. You're not cursing them. You're not
Mentally
abusing them or are you are you emotionally and mentally abusing a child when you show no love at the same time?
It's like I
Don't even know what to compare it to because I was about to say going in a shelter
But when I go into shelters or when I used to to feed the homeless
I still showed a lot of compassion and love but let's just pretend you're you're a 10 year old
and you wake up at home and
Your mom and or your dad is there and they say hi to you but they go on about their day
They don't really say anything else and you fix yourself some breakfast and you get dressed and you go to school
You come home from school. Nobody asked you how your day was
You know, you're your your parent is there. They don't ask you anything
They don't ask you if you have homework. They don't ask you if you're hungry
But there's food there so you eat it and then at the end of the night you get ready to go to bed
And they say good night and that's how your life is
Unrepeat every day you never hear that I love you and the hugs and the kisses and and
You grow up feeling very unloved or you think it's normal and when people show you differently, you're confused
My upbringing was not that bad, but I can compare it to that
You know, nobody asking about homework how my grades were my grades so bad
I don't know if I ever told you guys because I consider myself fairly intelligent my IQ is
146 which really honestly doesn't mean a lot, but I love saying it because that's a really high number but I
Graduated high school. I guess by the grace of God. I've always thought I did really well in school
But then I started thinking man. I don't remember ever coming home doing homework. I don't remember the test
I took I don't remember so much so I
Don't have a copy of my high school diploma and I called the high school
I went to in Colorado and I asked for a copy of it
Along with my transcripts and when I seen that I graduated with a 1.5 GPA
all I could do was burst out laughing because
Apparently I didn't care and I cannot tell you guys one time anybody ever said hey
Why is your report card so bad? Do you have homework? Go do your homework not once
I cannot remember a time when I put down, you know back then you would put your grade card on the table because it needed
To be signed and you take it back to school. I
Remember putting mine on the table going on about my day and the next morning waking it up waking up putting it back in my backpack
And nobody asking any questions
Now I'm kind of away from my subject my subject is no matter who you are
What you've done in your life
Somebody loves you
So through all that I
Still had love
Told you guys a million times my oldest brother. He loved me
He loved me. He wanted to make sure I was not out there in the world
And my oldest brother knew that my mom wasn't paying me no attention. He knew it
so
Even though he was a grown man kind of he's seven years older than me
But you know, he wasn't in the house. He made sure to check on me see what I was doing
He would take me places and he would tell me what not to do and he never said he never said it with a smile
He always said it and he meant it and I actually lived by that
You know because it was somebody giving me direction
My other brother he loved me he wasn't in the house either and he didn't come back
You know, he went away from college and that was that with him
He did not turn around and and and recycle but he did
You know when I was in school, he would send for me
He would come and visit me and all my trials and errors. He was there for me
He was there for me every time I bumped my head. He was there for me
And I might not have thought my mom loved me at the time and I might not have thought my dad loved me at the time
But I knew they loved me. I knew they loved me
But let's just say like I went the example I gave earlier
You don't have those siblings who give you that kind of love. You don't have it. I
Promise you there's still somebody who loves you
Suicide is so high the rate of suicide
Depression is prevalent this day and age and people feel so alone
And I promise you if you can hear my voice and you've ever felt like that or you feel like that now you are
not alone
I'm not saying that just
You know grasping something out of the air what I'm saying is factual
It might not be anybody in your family who's there for you
It might not be one of your friends who's there for you, but I promise you if you close your eyes and pray
With the heart of God and say Lord
Please
Bring me somebody who loves me and who cares and who matters and and who who wants to see me better
You're gonna get it
You're going to get it and you might not even recognize it's probably already there
Sometimes you get not because you ask not
But I promise you if you're in any kind of situation
You could reach out to me and I can link you up with somebody all it takes is a second
there is a young lady and
I know she feels love
But I met her through business somebody recommended my business to
Write some policies and procedures and if you haven't looked at my business do so
But she reached out to me never seen her didn't know her
We ended up on the phone that very first time two hours and during that conversation
She started crying at one point because she was reminiscing about things now I
Instantly felt something for this young lady don't know her she called me about business
To our phone call the you know we talked about business here and there but there was a lot of personal things shared
during that conversation and
it was deep and
Instantly I felt a connection towards her now. I don't know if she needed a Sonya in her life or not
Maybe I needed her in my life. I don't know and
I'm not other than these podcasts
Anybody who knows me knows I am not a big
Talker if I'm not doing a motivational moment or
Doing a train-to-trainer or something. I'm more of a listener than a talker and if you talk way too much
I'll shy away from spending too much time for you with you unless I know
I'm making a difference like you know, maybe you're highly depressed and and I'm your outlet
but other than that, I don't like a lot of talking and
I don't like to talk a lot, but anyway this young lady, you know
She would just call me and call me and text me and her texts are so beautiful and deep
And I was like, okay, Lord, I hear you loud and clear
We need each other in our lives
Because she is feeling something in my life that I am missing and hopefully I'm doing the same for her and then all of a sudden
it just
dawned on me
There is another lady. I've never met who I've had these same kind of conversations with I
Bet you it is my
Purpose to introduce these two and I did so and from what I understand they are becoming quick friends
Sometimes you are the vessel you're just driving
people to their destination
You might not be the destination you might not be that island where they get off the island and that's where they are
You might be that boat that car that plane that bus
Taking them to where they need to go. Are you fulfilling your your your duty?
Are you doing what you're supposed to or you just disregarding people?
You know because of that one situation I just told you
Not only did I
Not only was I the bridge
For one to cross over to meet the other
But they can stand on me. They can lean on me. They can call me
They can talk to me and I look forward to hearing from them. I was blessed not with one
great strong woman to add
To my life, but to
You guys there's blessings all around you. Do you see them?
Are you clothes minded to them
Be open-minded. There's people who are brought into your life for a reason
For a reason and a lot of them when you get my age. They're a lifetime. There's still some seasons
I still have people who come through and they have a purpose and when the purpose is done, they're gone
You know, I told you guys the story about the young lady who I thought was a really really good friend and
I shared so much about my business with her and then like my friend said
She came in my back door robbed me of everything and walked out my front door in my playing site
But there was a reason she was she was in my life
It was for a season and there was a reason she definitely was not a lifetime, but here we are
Eight years later. There's a fire under me and I know how to move this time
I know how to maneuver. She did her job. Her purpose was fulfilled
Just because it didn't go great doesn't mean she didn't have a purpose and
Then there are lifetimes
Those are the people who
God has placed they're like books
You know, I get a book. I don't care if I like the book or not. I don't give it away. I don't throw it away
I don't sell it. I put it on my bookshelf and I keep it for a lifetime and when I need it
There might be a reference in it
I'll pull that book out and I look at it
And then I put it back in this place then I got some books that I've went through so many times like my Bible
That they get worn out and they got stuff all in the margin great notes, you know, oh man
I missed that last time. That's a great note
Those are my friend friends
They're always there
And they give me great references and they just give me great gems and I write them down and I go back and reference them often
Not every once in a while pull them off the shelf
And I've been through some things you guys
But I still got love I have friends who love me in my lowest times
And my best times the friendship doesn't change, you know what changes how much more they'll do for me
You know this this I'm planning a conference
A book signing in Kansas City next year and I have people who cannot wait to be there
They just they cannot wait to see me. They can't wait to read the book. They are my writer dies
They're my friends and no matter what I've done in my life. They love me
Then I have some other people who reach out to me and ask me about my book
And ask me things but they really don't care
It's usually a prelude to ask me for something else
Or just to tell me what's going on in their life and they just feel like asking me about myself and you could tell us not sincere because they quickly move on to about them
They don't expound on whatever you told them and that's okay too
I know the proper place for everybody in my life. I used to not and I didn't trust people
You know I had a really really really good friend. I loved her. She was my sister and we fell out
And when we fell out I missed her and she missed me
And when we got back together my heart was even bigger for her
But then we fell out again and I had to sit back and look at our friendship and I seen that
Sometimes you love people more than they love you and you put them in the wrong position in your life
Because you feel like the feeling is mutual so you got to be careful and really look at somebody's intentions towards you in their life
And how they genuinely feel when the lights are out and when you're not around
And when they're around people who might not know you the same or might not like you the same
What do they say then? How do they react? How do they react? What do they do?
Because they might love you but they don't love you with their whole heart
They love you in circumstances. Their love is situational. It's not a God thing
And it is sometimes based on what you can do for them
So remember no matter what you're going through there's somebody who loves you
Put people in their proper place and when you do that and when you don't lean on people who really don't have a heart for you
And you open up your heart and your mind and your soul to others
You got a whole new world ahead of you
I actually mean it when I say if you feel depressed or alone reach out to me. I'm Sonia. Nice to meet you
You can reach out to me at LED, that's LED by Motivation07 all together at gmail.com
You can go on my website www.LEDbymotivation.com and there are a plethora of people that will show you nothing but love
And it's sincere. We don't ask for nothing in return except honesty and sincerity. That's it
And we'll love on you and let you know how much you matter
It's that simple. If it's hard for people to show you it's because maybe they just don't know how. Maybe they've missed it
Maybe they missed it. I'm gonna give you this last point and I'm gonna end this. Got a phone call from somebody I genuinely love
Here we go again, right? And this person was suicidal and they had left their job
They walked out because they just they they were just fit to be tied
And all they knew was they couldn't take life anymore and something told them to call me
You're talking a family member that's removed a couple of generations
But for some reason they felt fit to call me and I understood why they called me
Because I've been fit to be tired and I felt alone before and I've wanted to be gone from here
But God
And I listened and I didn't dismiss any of their feelings
I listened. I didn't tell them how selfish they were. I didn't tell them how silly they sounded
I ain't say I don't want to hear this. You you want to do what and I listened
And when they finished I asked one question
Tell me why you don't want to be here anymore
What is it exactly? And everything they told me had something to deal with somebody else
The way this person's talked to them the way this person treated them how much they love this person and the way they feel
And then I asked them what about you? How do you feel about you?
What do you think about you because you're putting all of your thoughts and feelings about your life in other people's hands
If we all did that all the time we would all be ready to leave here
Because we all encounter people who really don't care for us
Who don't like us, who don't love us, who talk bad about us, who turn their backs on us
Who say they love us to our face but stab us in our backs
We've all encountered that. A family member who talks about us, a family member who doesn't care for us
A family member jealousy, envy, strife. We've all been there
And if we took every negative thing or feeling or thought or word somebody said about us and we took it to heart
We'd all be depressed all the time
So first off I'd love you. Know who you are, know who you are
If you can do those things what other people say and do might hurt
You might cry, you might not understand
But the love for yourself is so great you won't want to take yourself out of here
Now mental health issues are real so some people might not feel that away but if you don't have any mental health issues
If you're not clinically depressed
You might not love yourself first
That way other people can hurt you but they can't take you from here
Remember that you love you, God loves you
He will place people in your life that will also love you and care for you and do it with sincerity
I am your girl Sonia McQueen
If you're mine, you're about your choice
And I didn't say it three episodes ago but welcome to season three
I appreciate all of you and I am going to try my best to start doing this daily
I might miss a day here or there, I got a lot going on in my life
But I'm going to try my best
And if you have a topic, if you want to be on the show, all you got to do is email me
Leadbymotivation07 at gmail.com
And I have a guest that you guys all love, she'll be on the show hopefully this week if not this week next
Stay tuned for Paula
I also have four other people I'm going to ask to be guest on the show
They'll call me, tell me how much they love the show but then they shy away when I say be a guest
So I think I can get them on the show though
You guys have a beautiful day