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Good morning. Good afternoon and good evening everybody. It's your girl Sonya McQueen with your mind your body your choice

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So today I want to speak to you about

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Confrontation

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You know when you don't agree with something or somebody when one group doesn't agree with another group and maybe it's a hostile

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disagreement or

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Angry words you you have to be bold sometimes when confronting things, but you also have to know

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What's worth confronting and what's worth walking away from every situation?

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Does not need to be confronted

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if you are a skilled person at

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At confrontation and you have a great variety of words and approaches you can take good for you

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But some of us

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When we confront things we always confront it angrily. We don't confront things at a

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stance of

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Alright, this is gonna be more of a I'm expressing myself. I'm letting you know what you did

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I didn't like or what you said I didn't care for I'm confronting this issue, but I'm doing it in a way I

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Can leave

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Happy knowing I did it and you can leave

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Knowing that I let you know what happened and you had the ability to apologize to make it right, right?

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That's come confrontation

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Confrontation sometimes can turn into

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Condemnation

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So condemnation is when you want to

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Banish something you want to condemn it you want to just think of a condemned building

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You get a big sticker on that building some tape from the

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Department of Health saying this building has been condemned

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You are not allowed here and what do they do they abolish it they knock it down

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They build a road and they put up a mall, right?

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my mother I grew up in a trailer park I told you guys and I

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Remember it's been over a decade now, but I was in that area

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my mother had moved and

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So where she moved to I thought you know what I'm gonna go check out where we used to live and

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as soon as I got to the street the

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The entire area was gone and when I say entire area the entire area we used to call it the hill and

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we lived at the very bottom of the hill and

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It was probably a mile a mile and a half two miles to the top of the hill

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I used to walk that hill every single day and

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At the top of the hill there was a store and one of my friends Beverly lived at the top of the hill

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And I used to do babysitting at the top of the hill, but anyway

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That entire area had been condemned. I don't know when it happened, but everybody who lived there had to move

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Thank goodness my mom had already moved, but before she moved they condemned the area she lived in so

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Condemnation or condemning something means to get rid of it to say I don't want it to exist anymore

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I want it gone, but to confront something

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should mean I

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Don't like this. You know, we've got a change course. Let's confront this situation

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It's situational and let's see what we can do to make it better or

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I'm letting you know

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How I feel about this. I'm confronting this situation and I'm gonna walk away afterwards, but I gotta tell you

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once again

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Do not confront

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Everybody with the situation there are people in power

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You know, there are a lot of things that the president does that people don't like you don't see people

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Sending him angry letter or maybe they do but that can be taken out of text sometimes and next thing you know

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You have the FBI or the CIA or somebody knocking on your door

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Some people just aren't worth the time if you know somebody who is extremely

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Confrontational that's all they do their confrontation all the time and they wrong you it might not be worth it

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To go talk to them and in confront that situation

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There is a difference know when to confront situations

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Know when to condemn situations and know when to keep your mouth shut and keep it moving keep your pimp game on keep it

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Keep it pimping

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Give you another great example. I

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Was talking to somebody today about a conversation Paula and I had one time about this young lady

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really

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acted like she was my friend and I trusted her and

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Everything I was doing with my business. She stole all my ideas all of them and

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she

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Started her own thing doing everything I was doing and we totally stopped. I mean when I say we stopped talking we stopped talking and

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so I

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Used to think men if I see her again, I'm gonna lay these paws on her

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I'm gonna slap her left right left right drag her up and down the street

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Tell people don't trust her but as I grew up I

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Thought you know if I ever see her I'm gonna ask her

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kind of person can you be to

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Speak so highly of God and act like such a Christian, but this is what you do to people

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That's the confrontation at first I wanted to condemn her I wanted everybody to know what kind of person she was so nobody screwed with her anymore

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Then I wanted to confront her

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But in the place I am now

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She's not worth either so I know to walk away from it all together

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No need to confront something. You know somebody's either gonna lie or make excuses for and

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No need to condemn somebody who did something wrong because we all make mistakes every single day

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I've wronged people and apologized and they forgave me people wrong me and I forgave them people wrong me

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And I didn't forgive them. I've wronged somebody before and I probably wasn't forgiven. I don't know

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Just know when to use the power you have

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Who's worth your time?

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Who's not worth your time?

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Situational what situations are worth confronting?

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Which ones are worth condemning which ones walk are worth walking away from I'm gonna give you one more example

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So of course, you know, I was raised military

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So I'm extremely used to diversity. I'm not used to any area of all

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One race I've never lived around it. I've never seen it. I've never been a part of it and

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With that when you have friends of different races, you don't use

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hurting words to

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What are they called vulgar words or

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Despairing words to describe somebody's race or nationality sexuality whatever it is. You don't do that

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You love people for who they are

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Well, my friends had my friends. Excuse me. My kids had a friend who used to come over all the time. It was a boy and

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They were jumping on the trampoline in the backyard and the boy

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Called

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Another boy the boy he's Caucasian is a white boy. He called this other boy African American a black boy the n-word

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And he pushed him off the trampoline

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The boy got hurt

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so of course I had to take the boy and

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Talk to his parents the black boy. Let him know what happened, you know, because I'm liable

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that's my yard my trampoline it didn't have the cover around it and

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I was liable so of course they they knew me they were like it's okay

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But the other boy the boy who pushed him and used the n-word I had to go let him know

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You can't use those kind of words at this house and wherever you learned it you keep it there

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But you're not welcome back here again until I see your mom

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Let her know that

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So I let the boy know how I felt but I talked to him because he was a kid

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I don't chastise somebody else's kid. I took care of the the other boy by taking him home and explaining to the parent

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Well a couple days later the boys back in my house. I haven't seen his mom. Nothing's going on. So I go outside and I said hey

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Bubba

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Didn't I tell you you couldn't come back over here until I seen your mom?

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Yeah, I

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Said okay get off my trampoline

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Get out of my yard

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Said it just like that. Then I walked down the street to his house

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Knocked on the door told his mother to come outside. I'm in that there, but I knew

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To confront the situation she of course swore she didn't know where he got that word. They don't use that word

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She's got black friends blah blah blah blah blah. I

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Let her know that kind of language is not welcome at my house around my house around my kids

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I don't even use that word nobody in my house uses that word and I needed her to understand the importance of

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The community and the love we all share with each other

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Me allowing her son to come over and play and and have snacks and you know

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I had pool table and all that to play

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None of the violence or the harsh words or anything were allowed there

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But I had to confront that situation

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Because if I had not I guarantee you another child would have been hurt or kids would have hated to see him coming

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but confronted it

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Opened his mother's eyes to what was going on if she didn't know and maybe the language she used around her child

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It was worth it

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That first situation I gave you was not worth my time. It was not worth me confronting

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This is not a friend of mine. This is somebody who had an agenda. They got what they wanted and they're out of my life

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The second situation because it dealt with kids

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Especially I needed to confront it you guys use common sense when

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confronting

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and use

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God sense when condemning. All right, it's your girl Sonia. I hope I made sense today

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Remember led by motivation is up and popping is

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www.ledled by motivation all one word calm

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Watch us we're gonna have a tour starting next next year. I don't want to do it this year

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We're available for other things this year, but we will be

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Yeah

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We'll be ready and if you're in the Missouri area or close by within the that tri-state area

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Get ready for a heck of a good time next year February. I'm gonna have we're gonna have singers

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We're gonna have an amazing presenter

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Hostess everything it's just gonna be amazing and I'm a feed people

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So look out for that to live by motivation calm. Have a great day on purpose