WEBVTT 00:00:00.010 --> 00:00:02.250 Good morning. Good afternoon and good evening 00:00:02.250 --> 00:00:04.629 everybody. It's your girl Sonia McQueen with 00:00:04.629 --> 00:00:08.650 your mind your body your choice So I want to 00:00:08.650 --> 00:00:13.669 ask you guys If you're a grown which most everybody 00:00:13.669 --> 00:00:17.690 who listens to my podcast is What improvements 00:00:17.690 --> 00:00:20.550 have you seen in your life in the way you carry 00:00:20.550 --> 00:00:23.850 yourself in the way you treat people? from the 00:00:23.850 --> 00:00:29.489 last decade I Know in my 20s. I was pretty mean 00:00:30.859 --> 00:00:35.700 In my 30s, I wasn't as mean, but I was still 00:00:35.700 --> 00:00:39.679 mean. In my 40s, I tried to learn to be a bit 00:00:39.679 --> 00:00:44.539 more understanding and a bit more vocal about 00:00:44.539 --> 00:00:47.420 how I felt, but me being vocal wasn't coming 00:00:47.420 --> 00:00:51.020 out. You know positively for the most part in 00:00:51.020 --> 00:00:54.420 my 50s. I even got that right I understood how 00:00:54.420 --> 00:00:57.659 to think before I spoke think about the person 00:00:57.659 --> 00:00:59.859 I was speaking to and how they will receive what 00:00:59.859 --> 00:01:02.719 I was going to say I still stand on everything 00:01:02.719 --> 00:01:06.099 I say and I still speak my mind, but I do it 00:01:06.099 --> 00:01:12.040 with more love and more patience What I realize 00:01:12.040 --> 00:01:15.280 about myself is I am in full -grown I don't pilot 00:01:16.129 --> 00:01:21.590 I am in full grown autopilot, sure. There's still 00:01:21.590 --> 00:01:24.129 a little turbulence here and there, but I can 00:01:24.129 --> 00:01:27.469 maneuver without taking my life off a autopilot. 00:01:27.750 --> 00:01:30.750 When I was younger, there was no autopilot. You 00:01:30.750 --> 00:01:33.609 guys need to follow me. There was no autopilot. 00:01:33.629 --> 00:01:36.549 I had my foot on the gas. I had my hand on the 00:01:36.549 --> 00:01:40.370 throttle. I was driving a six speed and I could 00:01:40.370 --> 00:01:44.829 go from one. to six and without pushing the clutch 00:01:44.829 --> 00:01:47.790 all the way through and you hear that because 00:01:47.790 --> 00:01:51.189 i'm hurting something i'm messing up my car i'm 00:01:51.189 --> 00:01:53.370 not doing the right thing going from one that 00:01:53.370 --> 00:01:56.090 you can't go from one to six you got to go from 00:01:56.090 --> 00:01:58.510 one to two and then when you speed up a little 00:01:58.510 --> 00:02:00.390 bit more from two to three and when you speed 00:02:00.390 --> 00:02:02.469 up a little bit more from three to four you guys 00:02:02.469 --> 00:02:05.489 get it but i was going straight from one to six 00:02:07.060 --> 00:02:09.979 Never taking my foot off the gas, just steadily 00:02:09.979 --> 00:02:16.139 pushing the clutch. And then I turned 30. I was 00:02:16.139 --> 00:02:18.639 still driving a stick shift. Now it's a five 00:02:18.639 --> 00:02:24.680 speed. And I'm driving fast, so I'm moving through 00:02:24.680 --> 00:02:29.400 those gears faster, but I'm not grinding my gears. 00:02:29.460 --> 00:02:32.360 I'm just moving faster. Keeping my foot on that 00:02:32.360 --> 00:02:35.199 clutch moving faster maneuvering going in and 00:02:35.199 --> 00:02:37.659 out of traffic in and out of traffic stay with 00:02:37.659 --> 00:02:45.500 me Then I turned 40 and I got an automatic But 00:02:45.500 --> 00:02:48.479 I kept thinking I had a stick shift and even 00:02:48.479 --> 00:02:51.340 though I was cruising along I would every once 00:02:51.340 --> 00:02:54.939 in a while reach to my right for that gear shift 00:02:54.939 --> 00:02:58.520 because I wanted to take control of what was 00:02:58.520 --> 00:03:03.210 going on and I'm maneuvering I'm doing much better 00:03:03.210 --> 00:03:05.650 and I would have to laugh at myself thinking 00:03:05.650 --> 00:03:11.110 oh man I got an auto now I'm not driving a stick 00:03:11.110 --> 00:03:15.729 shift which I love I love uh standards but man 00:03:15.729 --> 00:03:21.710 I got this automatic then I turned 50 and I learned 00:03:21.710 --> 00:03:25.949 how to use my cruise control and I learned how 00:03:25.949 --> 00:03:28.389 to relax and I learned that I don't always have 00:03:28.389 --> 00:03:31.930 to be in the passing lane. I can drive with the 00:03:31.930 --> 00:03:34.590 general traffic and drive the speed limit, sometimes 00:03:34.590 --> 00:03:37.770 even a little under the speed limit. You guys 00:03:37.770 --> 00:03:39.650 know I don't like driving under the speed limit, 00:03:39.669 --> 00:03:42.370 but you get the gist of what I'm saying. The 00:03:42.370 --> 00:03:46.789 older I got, the better I became to where I am 00:03:46.789 --> 00:03:51.699 now a full -grown woman in autopilot. Yes, I 00:03:51.699 --> 00:03:54.719 hit bumps sometimes in a road and I have to grab 00:03:54.719 --> 00:04:00.719 the wheel. Yes, sometimes I got a detour. I do 00:04:00.719 --> 00:04:03.539 it calmly. I do it with a smile. Yes, sometimes 00:04:03.539 --> 00:04:06.639 I'm delayed because there's an accident and I 00:04:06.639 --> 00:04:09.139 take the moment to praise the Lord, number one, 00:04:09.139 --> 00:04:12.800 that it's not me. And I pray for whoever it is 00:04:12.800 --> 00:04:16.199 was in that accident because I'm in full grown 00:04:16.199 --> 00:04:21.300 autopilot. The turbulence doesn't bother me like 00:04:21.300 --> 00:04:24.600 it did 10 years ago Definitely doesn't bother 00:04:24.600 --> 00:04:28.680 me like it did 20 years ago or 30 years ago when 00:04:28.680 --> 00:04:31.040 I was younger There was no opportunity for me 00:04:31.040 --> 00:04:34.240 to use about autopilot because every situation 00:04:34.240 --> 00:04:40.079 to me was a disaster Every situation was a disaster 00:04:40.079 --> 00:04:42.839 I didn't sleep back then because I was always 00:04:42.839 --> 00:04:45.800 wondering about who I had to tell off or what 00:04:45.800 --> 00:04:52.089 I had to do or where I had to go or or, or, or, 00:04:52.250 --> 00:04:56.910 or. Right? It was always something. Now I don't 00:04:56.910 --> 00:05:00.089 sleep because I had to get up and pee. And when 00:05:00.089 --> 00:05:03.290 I got back in bed, I just couldn't go back to 00:05:03.290 --> 00:05:05.490 sleep. So I usually put my headphones on and 00:05:05.490 --> 00:05:08.769 I turn my Bible on and just listen to God and 00:05:08.769 --> 00:05:11.709 I'm happy. I only got like four hours sleep last 00:05:11.709 --> 00:05:14.750 night, but I'm in great spirits. I'm in great 00:05:14.750 --> 00:05:18.430 spirits because I'm in autopilot. I'm full grown. 00:05:18.720 --> 00:05:23.040 I'm in full -grown autopilot. Tell you something, 00:05:24.540 --> 00:05:26.240 if you're still living your life the way you 00:05:26.240 --> 00:05:28.779 did 10 years ago, 20 years ago, 30 years ago, 00:05:28.800 --> 00:05:31.279 you need to re -evaluate. I'm constantly saying 00:05:31.279 --> 00:05:34.100 this in my podcast, re -evaluate. I've had to 00:05:34.100 --> 00:05:37.220 do it. I'm not being judgmental. I've had to 00:05:37.220 --> 00:05:39.379 re -evaluate the way I was living, the way I 00:05:39.379 --> 00:05:41.259 was treating people, the way I was speaking, 00:05:41.879 --> 00:05:45.259 the way I could so easily get rid of a friendship 00:05:45.259 --> 00:05:49.810 like it was nothing. You cross me once, there's 00:05:49.810 --> 00:05:52.170 no shame on you, but I'm gonna give you a second 00:05:52.170 --> 00:05:56.149 chance. You piss me off. You're nobody to me. 00:05:57.009 --> 00:06:00.610 I had to grow up, you guys. Some of you need 00:06:00.610 --> 00:06:02.670 to do the same thing. Just look at yourself in 00:06:02.670 --> 00:06:05.230 the mirror, and I'm not speaking to anybody specifically, 00:06:05.870 --> 00:06:08.750 but I know this message is for somebody specifically. 00:06:10.610 --> 00:06:14.350 Find your full -grown autopilot. Full -grown 00:06:14.350 --> 00:06:17.350 woman, full -grown man, find your autopilot. 00:06:19.750 --> 00:06:22.629 I found mine. All right, you guys have a great 00:06:22.629 --> 00:06:26.029 day on purpose. On purpose. If you can afford 00:06:26.029 --> 00:06:28.370 to feed a homeless person, please do. But if 00:06:28.370 --> 00:06:31.069 you can't, it's understandable. It is really 00:06:31.069 --> 00:06:34.949 hard right now for so many people. But a kind 00:06:34.949 --> 00:06:40.509 word, a smile, a hug, a compliment, those things 00:06:40.509 --> 00:06:43.350 go a long way and right now they're a necessity. 00:06:44.029 --> 00:06:48.170 They're a necessity. Be kind. Give the kindness 00:06:48.170 --> 00:06:52.800 you want to give. Give the kindness you want 00:06:52.800 --> 00:06:56.379 to get. Period. All right, you guys, you know 00:06:56.379 --> 00:06:58.980 where to find me. I'm Sonya, S -O -N -Y -A -M, 00:06:59.060 --> 00:07:02.279 is it Mike? Sonya M at ledbymotivation .com. 00:07:02.600 --> 00:07:05.819 That led is L -E -D. Talk to you next time.