1 00:00:00,000 --> 00:00:07,000 Good morning, good afternoon and good evening everybody. 2 00:00:07,000 --> 00:00:12,000 It's your girl, Sonya McQueen with your mind, your body, your choice. 3 00:00:12,000 --> 00:00:16,000 And as promised, I have a great treat for you. 4 00:00:16,000 --> 00:00:18,000 It is the great De'Aris. 5 00:00:18,000 --> 00:00:21,000 He is here for the second part of his podcast. 6 00:00:21,000 --> 00:00:24,000 If you heard the first part, excellent. 7 00:00:24,000 --> 00:00:25,000 Go listen again. 8 00:00:25,000 --> 00:00:29,000 If you didn't, you have to go listen to that one before you listen to it. 9 00:00:29,000 --> 00:00:32,000 This one because this is a continuation. 10 00:00:32,000 --> 00:00:34,000 So De'Aris. 11 00:00:34,000 --> 00:00:35,000 Yes, ma'am. 12 00:00:35,000 --> 00:00:37,000 How are you? 13 00:00:37,000 --> 00:00:39,000 I'm doing just fine. 14 00:00:39,000 --> 00:00:43,000 You know, been waiting to do part two with you. 15 00:00:43,000 --> 00:00:47,000 I had such a good time with the first one. 16 00:00:47,000 --> 00:00:48,000 So thank you. 17 00:00:48,000 --> 00:00:50,000 You've been waiting. 18 00:00:50,000 --> 00:00:53,000 If you remember, I logged on a whole week early. 19 00:00:53,000 --> 00:00:58,000 I was like, I can't do nothing tonight. 20 00:00:58,000 --> 00:01:00,000 I got to do my second part. 21 00:01:00,000 --> 00:01:03,000 Told my husband to go away, get all logged on. 22 00:01:03,000 --> 00:01:08,000 And you're like, yeah, it's an excellent. 23 00:01:08,000 --> 00:01:10,000 That's real excitement right there, De'Aris. 24 00:01:10,000 --> 00:01:15,000 So do you remember where we left off with the first podcast? 25 00:01:15,000 --> 00:01:27,000 I think we were at the part of my recovery where I just got to rehab in Atlanta, Georgia. 26 00:01:27,000 --> 00:01:28,000 So go ahead. 27 00:01:28,000 --> 00:01:33,000 If you don't mind and share with me and the listeners what rehab was like for you. 28 00:01:33,000 --> 00:01:35,000 This is a very young man. 29 00:01:35,000 --> 00:01:37,000 You were 26, correct? 30 00:01:37,000 --> 00:01:38,000 Correct. 31 00:01:38,000 --> 00:01:39,000 Okay. 32 00:01:39,000 --> 00:01:40,000 Yep. 33 00:01:40,000 --> 00:01:41,000 Yep. 34 00:01:41,000 --> 00:01:43,000 I was 26 years. 35 00:01:43,000 --> 00:01:45,000 Okay. 36 00:01:45,000 --> 00:01:48,000 A very young man having to go through such a traumatic experience, 37 00:01:48,000 --> 00:01:52,000 but tell us what the rehab was like for you. 38 00:01:52,000 --> 00:01:58,000 Oh man, it was a, it was, it was life changing. 39 00:01:58,000 --> 00:02:12,000 But it was, it was something that I look back at now and, and realized, you know, was a major part in me being able to accept what happened. 40 00:02:12,000 --> 00:02:17,000 And, and really know about spider cord injuries. 41 00:02:17,000 --> 00:02:20,000 And, you know, and all. 42 00:02:20,000 --> 00:02:37,000 So, um, and, and what, it was, it was, what was so great about it was they actually taught you about, you know, the injury more than just not being able to walk. 43 00:02:37,000 --> 00:02:44,000 They went over the pressure source, how to upload the pressure. 44 00:02:44,000 --> 00:03:00,000 You know, dysreflexia, the symptoms, if you don't know what this reflex is, it's like, um, where your head will start paling in and your, your muscles will start spasming. 45 00:03:00,000 --> 00:03:03,000 And it's become something wrong. 46 00:03:03,000 --> 00:03:16,000 It could be something as simple as a, a hang nail and your toes are, it could be your catheter being pinched and not being able to drain correctly. 47 00:03:16,000 --> 00:03:27,000 And so just, just being informed of stuff like that, you know, was, it was the tools that I needed to succeed. 48 00:03:27,000 --> 00:03:48,000 And, um, wow, when, when you talk about, you know, rehab there in Atlanta, it's funny now that me and my family talk about it because, you know, you would get a certain amount of time, a lot of, you know, for, for working out and rehabbing, 49 00:03:48,000 --> 00:04:01,000 but I was so messed up, you know, I had my chest open, I had a ventilator, and then, you know, I've been in the hospital bed for going on about four or five months now. 50 00:04:01,000 --> 00:04:05,000 So my muscles are, my arm muscles were really weak. 51 00:04:05,000 --> 00:04:22,000 By the time we got uploaded and waiting for somebody to come with a bit and tap me all the way down to rehab, which I was supposed to have an hour to rehab, I only had 15 minutes left. 52 00:04:22,000 --> 00:04:42,000 It was very difficult at first, just being able to even, you know, work my muscles are even start the rehab process until, you know, those other things I handled like plastic surgery, you know, getting my chest closed up and then, you know, rebuilding those muscles back. 53 00:04:42,000 --> 00:04:54,000 But I got a shout out to the Shepherd Center, I was part of the Korean real rehabilitation center. They were absolutely key to my success steps. 54 00:04:54,000 --> 00:05:00,000 You said something, Dearies, that I could promise you. 55 00:05:00,000 --> 00:05:28,000 Almost, if not all, most of the listeners would not have said, you said, what was so great about it. When you first started talking about your rehab, you said what was so great about it and that just speaks in magnitudes about your personality and your, the ability you have to accept what is, 56 00:05:28,000 --> 00:05:42,000 because I know I probably would have said, what was so bad about it or it was just horrible or how sad I was or how, how depressed but you started off with what was so great about it. 57 00:05:42,000 --> 00:05:58,000 And it leads me to ask you, from the very moment you realized what happened and you looked over at your mother like you said last time, and she came over to you and told you what happened. 58 00:05:58,000 --> 00:06:16,000 Did you ever feel like, I don't know, because it's like you missed that whole moment of sadness that most of us probably still would be feeling today. You just have this great acceptance and continual love for life. 59 00:06:16,000 --> 00:06:20,000 So, how long was the period when you were like, 60 00:06:20,000 --> 00:06:34,000 So, so, so you got to you got to, you got to kind of put in perspective. I got shot in July, and I didn't go to rehab till about October, November. 61 00:06:34,000 --> 00:06:58,000 So, I had, you know, that three to four months, you know, to grade, but don't get me wrong. But I was in Atlanta, I still had, you know, a lot of anger and depression and sadness, just because of how great my life had been so far. 62 00:06:58,000 --> 00:07:04,000 And I just couldn't, you know, believe, you know, what had happened to me. So don't get me wrong. 63 00:07:04,000 --> 00:07:10,000 I definitely, you know, had my rough and sad days. 64 00:07:10,000 --> 00:07:26,000 Just now that I'm in a happy part of my life now, when I look back at it, you know, I just find, you know, the positive. And I do, I do want to say, I really do have an abnormal, 65 00:07:26,000 --> 00:07:30,000 you know, sunny disposition on life. 66 00:07:30,000 --> 00:07:39,000 That's, that's just always, you know, I've been really optimistic, you know, on the glass half full type of person. 67 00:07:39,000 --> 00:08:00,000 I think it's absolutely beautiful because we choose to wallow in our self pity and we remove self sometimes and then we blame everybody around us for everything we're going through when we have the ability sometimes to turn our rain into sunshine or dirt and 68 00:08:00,000 --> 00:08:21,000 to grass, you know, to make our trees beautiful, we have that ability, but we choose to be angry sometimes and upset. And sometimes some people have the right, people would say you had the right to be but you also realize being gosh child you also had the right to be happy, 69 00:08:21,000 --> 00:08:44,000 and to go the route, you know, well, I can't go down this street anymore, because of this, but now I can choose to go another route. And that's what you've done and I'm just so, I mean, I'm so in there by you, it's just amazing, the words you choose to use when you speak about yourself, 70 00:08:44,000 --> 00:08:48,000 it's just so positive and refreshing. 71 00:08:48,000 --> 00:08:56,000 I really have a great support group of my, my family. 72 00:08:56,000 --> 00:09:15,000 They've always been behind me and, and been there for me through this whole situation, and my friends from being here. I went to college in Atlanta. So I had a lot of buddies that came there to the rehab center in Atlanta. 73 00:09:15,000 --> 00:09:32,000 You know, just, I always had a really good support system. And then, you know, my kids, which really gave me the motivation, you know, to, to, you know, keep going and look at this differently. 74 00:09:32,000 --> 00:09:49,000 So I really have a lot to be happy about, you know, there's a, there's a lot of people I saw there, a lot of young people that will never get the chance, you know, to have kids. And, and so I look at them and I saw avoiding them. 75 00:09:49,000 --> 00:09:55,000 And that really, you know, made me realize how much I had to be thankful for. 76 00:09:55,000 --> 00:10:12,000 And that is just amazingly beautiful. The words you choose once again are there, there's such strong words of acceptance and strength that some of us should be ashamed of the way we think about our lives. 77 00:10:12,000 --> 00:10:30,000 I mean, I found positivity in my life, but I didn't find it as fast as you did. And I didn't go through anything close to what you did. However, you know, had I been around somebody so positive and such a forward thinker as you are, 78 00:10:30,000 --> 00:10:45,000 maybe, you know, it would have been a little different, but I think my life is going the way God intended it to. And believe it or not, I think yours is too. You're such a strong beacon for so many people. You're like a pillar. 79 00:10:45,000 --> 00:10:48,000 So, thank you for that. 80 00:10:48,000 --> 00:11:03,000 Now I want to ask, you're welcome. I want to ask you about the amount. How long were you in the hospital from from being shot until they actually let you leave and go home. 81 00:11:03,000 --> 00:11:06,000 So, the beginning of February. 82 00:11:06,000 --> 00:11:12,000 20, 20, 20, 14. So from July to February. 83 00:11:12,000 --> 00:11:24,000 So from July to February, almost the year, a few months short of the year. So you spent Christmas in the hospital. You spend Thanksgiving in the hospital. 84 00:11:24,000 --> 00:11:33,000 My 27th birthday in the hospital. So, so I'll give you a quick little story. I know we don't have a bunch of time. 85 00:11:33,000 --> 00:11:42,000 People in wheelchairs, you know, have to offset their weight. Or if not, they get pressure source. 86 00:11:42,000 --> 00:11:52,000 And right before Thanksgiving, I wasn't offset my, my weight good enough, and I got a red spot for Thanksgiving. 87 00:11:52,000 --> 00:12:07,000 And my auntie lives in Atlanta and they had already planned this big Thanksgiving dinner and the separate center and ready permission to go to their house. 88 00:12:07,000 --> 00:12:12,000 Well, two days before Thanksgiving, I got a red spot on my bottom. 89 00:12:12,000 --> 00:12:27,000 And they, they were going to allow me to go. And the last day, it had, you know, disappeared. So they granted me permission, but it was the day before Thanksgiving. 90 00:12:27,000 --> 00:12:35,000 And I think it's snowed in Atlanta. And they wise been Atlanta. Atlanta is not good with snow at all. 91 00:12:35,000 --> 00:12:45,000 They don't get it that often. And they don't have snow trucks. And so a lot of people are just like stuck at home. 92 00:12:45,000 --> 00:12:50,000 We found a lady who was off. 93 00:12:50,000 --> 00:13:05,000 And I had a wheelchair service band and she came on her day off and took me to my, my family's house. And I got given with them. I tell you, in the world of line, it really did for me. 94 00:13:05,000 --> 00:13:15,000 And, you know, that was, that was that that had made my, you know, my, my time there, meaningful. 95 00:13:15,000 --> 00:13:25,000 And so that was Thanksgiving and my birthday. It's a couple of days after Thanksgiving, my mom, my friends and family, without me up there. 96 00:13:25,000 --> 00:13:39,000 And now, you know, we got to do the cake and, and the whole, you know, thing there for my birthday. And then Chris came, you know, and that's when we were missing family back here in Kansas. 97 00:13:39,000 --> 00:13:46,000 But, you know, I was still thankful to be able to survive another year or so. 98 00:13:46,000 --> 00:13:58,000 Hey, man, you know, I do believe that there are angels among us and it sounds like you've met more than, you know, my share of them. 99 00:13:58,000 --> 00:14:06,000 So praise the lady who with the van took you to Atlanta so you could be with your family on Thanksgiving. 100 00:14:06,000 --> 00:14:09,000 And that was, that was wonderful. It really was. 101 00:14:09,000 --> 00:14:18,000 Oh, what a blessing. And then you finally, you finally got to go home in February, February. 102 00:14:18,000 --> 00:14:33,000 Yep. Yep. So, um, so, you know, when I said that, you know, I really didn't have time to rehab. Well, I think, I think in November, I got plastic surgery on my chest to close my chest up. 103 00:14:33,000 --> 00:14:42,000 So after that, you know, I really started rehabbing. But the last month or so, they put us in outpatient. 104 00:14:42,000 --> 00:14:51,000 And it was, it wasn't the nurses. It was me and my mom. So my mom was a, my sole caregiver and they, they didn't just push us out. 105 00:14:51,000 --> 00:14:55,000 They kind of taught us how, you know, to survive on our own. 106 00:14:55,000 --> 00:15:06,000 And we were really, really, uh, nervous and scared at first. Just because I was on a train, not on the bed. 107 00:15:06,000 --> 00:15:18,000 And a lot of things could have went wrong. And I got to give my mom kudos for being strong and pushing through it. 108 00:15:18,000 --> 00:15:27,000 And I know she, she was really nervous, but they, they prepared us really well, not to survive on her own. 109 00:15:27,000 --> 00:15:42,000 Yeah, you gave your mom a lot of love last time. And I, I understand. I told you that's a mom's love. The things we would give up, including ourselves for our kids is amazing, but to actually have to live through something. 110 00:15:42,000 --> 00:16:00,000 And it's, it's me being a mom because, you know, I have kids, but me being a mom, I am assuming that if my child went through something so traumatic, it would be like me going through it as well. 111 00:16:00,000 --> 00:16:02,000 Yeah. 112 00:16:02,000 --> 00:16:05,000 There's nothing like a mother's love. 113 00:16:05,000 --> 00:16:07,000 Amen. 114 00:16:07,000 --> 00:16:19,000 I believe that because I am one. I have one. So no, nothing other than a grandma's love. So I'll say that. 115 00:16:19,000 --> 00:16:32,000 Okay, so then you and your mom came back in. You said you were both really nervous, which I can imagine. Were you speaking yet? Were you able to communicate with your mom? 116 00:16:32,000 --> 00:16:34,000 No, I didn't speak. I didn't think so. 117 00:16:34,000 --> 00:16:37,000 For the next six and a half years. 118 00:16:37,000 --> 00:16:43,000 So how was she able to meet your needs? 119 00:16:43,000 --> 00:16:53,000 So, um, she, she learned how to, to livery really well. 120 00:16:53,000 --> 00:17:07,000 I did, you know, some sounds, you know, with my mouth and my tongue, you know, to get people's attention. And then, you know, I could, you know, at least tell them what I needed by outing it. 121 00:17:07,000 --> 00:17:15,000 And I did have an iPad. So if they didn't really get it sometimes, then I could just write it out on my, my touch iPad. 122 00:17:15,000 --> 00:17:34,000 But, um, yeah, so that, that was, you know, how we really communicated. I know it was really scary because, you know, when, when you're, I talked about this in part one about the secretions when you're on a bit, you can't cop them up. 123 00:17:34,000 --> 00:17:48,000 Yes. And so at nighttime was the, the most scariest time because not be in my own bedroom. And I'd have to, you know, give my mom's attention by, you know, smacking my lips together. 124 00:17:48,000 --> 00:17:56,000 And we had baby monitors. And that's how you would know that I needed help with you. Come in and suck some. 125 00:17:56,000 --> 00:18:11,000 So, I just to get the listeners imaginations, you know, their prophetic imagination. I can close my eyes when you speak and I try to picture things myself. 126 00:18:11,000 --> 00:18:17,000 I know you're a quadriplegic. How do you use your iPad? 127 00:18:17,000 --> 00:18:25,000 So there's different functions. I quadriplegia and quadriplegia. 128 00:18:25,000 --> 00:18:31,000 Yes, some people have arm functions. Some people have torso functions. 129 00:18:31,000 --> 00:18:40,000 I can move my arms, but I can't move my fingers. So the shepherd sitter hooked me up with some adaptive equipment. 130 00:18:40,000 --> 00:18:57,000 It's a stylus that wraps around my, my hand and it just has like a, you know, a stylus ball in the end of it, and my iPad's touch. And so I use it almost like you would your fingers are pinned, you know, on my iPad. 131 00:18:57,000 --> 00:19:07,000 Okay, I can picture that. I can picture that. All right, because I have the stylus for my iPad. I had to buy the pins to go with it so I could write on it. 132 00:19:07,000 --> 00:19:16,000 Funny, funny story. I always have this thing on my hand. And before, when I got the trek out, I started holding my neck. 133 00:19:16,000 --> 00:19:25,000 So in order to speak, I'd have to put my hand up to that hole, you know, to close it. So when I talk to air would get through all the way. 134 00:19:25,000 --> 00:19:34,000 And then I'd have my stylus on the end of my head. So a lot of people said, is that your microphone? 135 00:19:34,000 --> 00:19:39,000 So that's pretty funny. So I know it's for styles. 136 00:19:39,000 --> 00:19:55,000 Okay, you have such a light personality. I remember you saying, and I don't remember if it was just during our conversation or if it was on the podcast, but you were telling me about a noise you used to make and now you guys joke about it. 137 00:19:55,000 --> 00:19:57,000 Yes. 138 00:19:57,000 --> 00:20:11,000 It's just amazing. The okay, so just so I was about to say just in case it wasn't on the last podcast. Tell me, say what that is again. 139 00:20:11,000 --> 00:20:24,000 So there's there's two noises. The first one is if I really get your attention. It's almost just like, you know, kissing someone. 140 00:20:24,000 --> 00:20:36,000 So, you know, that one get their attention and then you can also do your, your tongue clicking noise with your tongue like. 141 00:20:36,000 --> 00:20:45,000 So I mean, those are those what I need to get your attention, you know, that's how I would do it. So I couldn't talk. 142 00:20:45,000 --> 00:20:51,000 Wow. Yeah, I remember you saying that you guys kind of make light of that now. 143 00:20:51,000 --> 00:21:06,000 But you imagine being sleep and hearing that noise and knowing that your son needs suction and you wake up and you go in there just by that noise, you know, that was my mom. 144 00:21:06,000 --> 00:21:27,000 And that's why you amazed me so because you say it's funny now but I don't know if as a mom, it would ever be funny to me. No, that's how you know my child needed me to get up and come and check on them but wow you're just amazing. 145 00:21:27,000 --> 00:21:44,000 I think this is going to sound like a crazy question, but it was posed to me and looking at an email somebody sent me and I'm just going to some eyes this my own way. 146 00:21:44,000 --> 00:21:59,000 I'm not going to read it but what they're basically asking is you were living such a happy great life before you were shot and now you're living this life with all these purposes and things you're trying to do. 147 00:21:59,000 --> 00:22:20,000 Do you think that part of your plan was to go this route to be able to help other people in the long run other other I think you said quadriplegia earlier or other children that might not be able to walk or or get around the same. 148 00:22:20,000 --> 00:22:24,000 Do you think this is part of your purpose having to go through this. 149 00:22:24,000 --> 00:22:41,000 Most definitely, you know, I, I look back at it and I really do think, you know, that that happened for a reason, and not to help other people to help myself. 150 00:22:41,000 --> 00:23:07,000 Just because of, you know, the life I was living in and, you know, slowing down and being able to be more part of my kids life and and that so it definitely helped me as a person, but in doing so, I have all these grand ideas, you know, how to help others because I feel, you know, 151 00:23:07,000 --> 00:23:17,000 they're paying, I know what they're going through. And I just want people to know that, you know, there is life, you know, after you know, accidents. 152 00:23:17,000 --> 00:23:20,000 So, yes, most definitely. 153 00:23:20,000 --> 00:23:33,000 There is life after I love that I, you know, I was telling you earlier before I started the podcast that I don't really promote my podcast I put them on Facebook and that's it. 154 00:23:33,000 --> 00:23:37,000 I feel like the people who need to hear them always hear them but with yours. 155 00:23:37,000 --> 00:23:48,000 I did a little bit more and I posted it a couple of times but your podcast was listened to more than 100 times in less than 48 hours. 156 00:23:48,000 --> 00:24:08,000 None of my podcasts I've done 100, almost 140. None of them have had that kind of traffic which means people really are interested in what you have to say in your story so this might not be the last podcast. 157 00:24:08,000 --> 00:24:21,000 This definitely might not be the last podcast. Now, the areas I wanted to do this. If you don't mind, if you mind, we won't talk about it, but I wanted to do this before your upcoming surgery. 158 00:24:21,000 --> 00:24:24,000 You want to tell us about the surgery you're about to have. 159 00:24:24,000 --> 00:24:39,000 So, yeah, I have a colostomy bag and I've been having some complications and so I gotta have another surgery, a gastro surgery. It's not coming Monday. 160 00:24:39,000 --> 00:24:56,000 It shouldn't be too bad. I do have more scar tissue than others so I could complicate things a little bit more but if I could get everyone's prayers and positive thoughts, I would really appreciate it. 161 00:24:56,000 --> 00:25:01,000 I'm looking forward to doing it. 162 00:25:01,000 --> 00:25:06,000 Absolutely. So everybody, if we could all get together and just 163 00:25:06,000 --> 00:25:18,000 notate now that on Monday we're all going to be sending up prayers for Diaries because I believe in the power of prayer. I believe in it. I've seen it work. 164 00:25:18,000 --> 00:25:32,000 We'll just all get together, put it on your calendars, put it in your phones, do whatever you have to do, but Monday, let's all collectively send up some love and support for our Diaries. 165 00:25:32,000 --> 00:25:54,000 Absolutely. Absolutely. So, if you could, this was a question that also came and I sent it to you in a text, but if you could get your prayers right now fulfilled and I hope this makes sense because I put it just the way it was asked. 166 00:25:54,000 --> 00:25:57,000 What do your prayers look like? 167 00:25:57,000 --> 00:26:15,000 You know, if I could get my prayers fulfilled, it would be something you already touched base on and that would be to help other people in my condition. 168 00:26:15,000 --> 00:26:40,000 But that being, that the equipment that I can make for them or if it's coaching or speaking inspirational to someone or in any way to lighten our fulfilled a load of someone, that's what I would see my prayers being. 169 00:26:40,000 --> 00:26:48,000 So, it's my mission right now is to help others that are in my position. 170 00:26:48,000 --> 00:26:52,000 And so that would be so that I would definitely want. 171 00:26:52,000 --> 00:27:08,000 So, you all heard that if everybody who's listening to this podcast, share it, share it on your page, Facebook, share it on your, what is that thing called Twitter, I don't know if you can share it on Twitter, share it on whatever avenue you have. 172 00:27:08,000 --> 00:27:23,000 Let's get the areas out there so that he can get sponsorship. I think you would be excellent at being a motivational list for others. You are so motivating to us. 173 00:27:23,000 --> 00:27:46,000 And it's just a beautiful, I promise you, you're like a breath of fresh air just just floating in. And the way you look at things so positively, let me tell you something, I was saying, maybe a month ago, that there was something that I felt somebody did to me. 174 00:27:46,000 --> 00:27:55,000 And I was angry for years and I used to say, when I catch it. It's on site when I catch it. 175 00:27:55,000 --> 00:28:08,000 When I catch it. When I catch it. And then one day, I just realized, I'm carrying all this anger. Well, first off, I spoke to her and I told her I forgave her, and she had no idea I was ever even mad. 176 00:28:08,000 --> 00:28:21,000 And we carry anger sometimes for absolutely no reason when we have the ability to make or break our own day and we like to put that off on other people. 177 00:28:21,000 --> 00:28:23,000 It's a mental prison. 178 00:28:23,000 --> 00:28:26,000 It's a mental prison. 179 00:28:26,000 --> 00:28:42,000 Absolutely. And then you feel crazy when you realize you were mad alone. Number one, number two, you're mad about something that you're blaming somebody else for when all along, you had a decision to go left or right. 180 00:28:42,000 --> 00:28:47,000 And because you chose to go right with that person, you're blaming them for your downfall. 181 00:28:47,000 --> 00:29:00,000 You had all rights to be upset. You were an innocent person and you still chose to forgive right away. You chose to find peace and joy in the situation. 182 00:29:00,000 --> 00:29:13,000 And now all you want to do is bless other people. And that takes a very strong, a very strong individual to think like that and to move like that. And I applaud you. 183 00:29:13,000 --> 00:29:16,000 Thank you. Thank you. 184 00:29:16,000 --> 00:29:21,000 Your mom did a hell of a job and I hope to meet her one day. 185 00:29:21,000 --> 00:29:30,000 I actually had somebody reach out to me wanting to do a podcast after they heard yours as a caregiver. 186 00:29:30,000 --> 00:29:34,000 Oh, I think that would be wonderful. You don't know, right? 187 00:29:34,000 --> 00:29:55,000 My mother, my mom, and my dad and my sisters, you know, they really deserve the award, not me, because I tell you what they put up with me, first of all, but you know, they've sacrificed a lot in their lives. 188 00:29:55,000 --> 00:30:06,000 And a lot of them it goes unnoticed. So I, that they'll hands down a caregiver and my eyes are the true heroes. 189 00:30:06,000 --> 00:30:18,000 Amen. They, I'll agree with that. They are the true heroes, but having a personality like yours makes it even more rewarding. 190 00:30:18,000 --> 00:30:29,000 I'm going to give you a real quick example. Like I, I have given up my salary, everything I do to help the hurting in the needy. 191 00:30:29,000 --> 00:30:39,000 So I spent a lot of money buying food and supplies and stuff for the homeless. And I go out and I give it now. There are some people. 192 00:30:39,000 --> 00:30:49,000 There's this guy I videotaped. He lives in his car and his name's Cyrus. And I asked Cyrus, what do you need? What do you want? 193 00:30:49,000 --> 00:30:54,000 He tried to tell me the cheapest things he could think of. He said some bread, some cheese and below me. 194 00:30:54,000 --> 00:30:58,000 Bring me that. I have a cooler in my car. I'll be okay. 195 00:30:58,000 --> 00:31:10,000 So I went and bought him every sandwich meat I could find a couple of loaves of bread, three different cheeses, some fruit, condiments, everything because he was so appreciative. 196 00:31:10,000 --> 00:31:24,000 It makes me want to do more and it offsets those people who I say, you know, are you hungry? I don't want your food. Give me money, you know, or, or curse me out for not giving the money. 197 00:31:24,000 --> 00:31:33,000 He offsets that and it makes what I do more rewarding. You're the offset. You're the offset. Thank you. 198 00:31:33,000 --> 00:31:45,000 You're the one who makes people say, man, I want to keep doing this. I am so just so pleased with the work I'm doing because of people like the Aries. 199 00:31:45,000 --> 00:31:49,000 I appreciate it. I appreciate it. 200 00:31:49,000 --> 00:31:59,000 Yes, the truth. Any questions? I see we're short on time. Anything you want to share anything you want to share. 201 00:31:59,000 --> 00:32:09,000 I would just like, you know, thank God. I think my friends and my family. Oh, I got to give a big shout out to my job. 202 00:32:09,000 --> 00:32:21,000 I'm really getting the things afraid. They really have gave me purpose in my life. I wake up every day. I get to go to work. I get a paycheck. 203 00:32:21,000 --> 00:32:36,000 I'm back in society. I'm a taxpayer now. So I have to say thank you to them for giving me a chance and, you know, allowing me to at least showcase the skills that I still have. 204 00:32:36,000 --> 00:32:39,000 That's that's all I really like to say. 205 00:32:39,000 --> 00:32:43,000 Once again, what's the name of the company and where are they? 206 00:32:43,000 --> 00:32:49,000 King or freight. They're located here in Wichita, Kansas. 207 00:32:49,000 --> 00:32:55,000 Ingle freight. We will definitely you guys. I don't know what they do. I guess they do freight. 208 00:32:55,000 --> 00:33:02,000 Yeah, third brokers company. They move freight for companies that they need. 209 00:33:02,000 --> 00:33:06,000 Okay, that is awesome. And what do you do for them? 210 00:33:06,000 --> 00:33:10,000 I think this bench. 211 00:33:10,000 --> 00:33:14,000 There's nothing that's holding you down. Are you still in the bed? 212 00:33:14,000 --> 00:33:20,000 I've been working for bed for the last year. Yes. 213 00:33:20,000 --> 00:33:26,000 I work overtime. I do color books. I'm creating. I'm working. 214 00:33:26,000 --> 00:33:33,000 I'm helping you with the podcast. You're helping me. I'm just all about giving back in. 215 00:33:33,000 --> 00:33:38,000 And, you know, I see that the life is giving back to me as well. 216 00:33:38,000 --> 00:33:51,000 The areas from me and my husband, my family, everybody who I even got more emails about you than every podcast I've ever done combined. 217 00:33:51,000 --> 00:33:56,000 So we applaud you. Very proud of you. Very proud of you. 218 00:33:56,000 --> 00:34:02,000 I honestly want to see you soar. I want this podcast shared abundantly. 219 00:34:02,000 --> 00:34:12,000 I want it shared so much that it goes viral and that you get the support everything you need so that you're able to help. 220 00:34:12,000 --> 00:34:23,000 If I could even get somebody to set you up so you can do your own podcast and you can bring so much joy to so many people. 221 00:34:23,000 --> 00:34:30,000 It doesn't have to be on this platform. It's just the world is yours. 222 00:34:30,000 --> 00:34:37,000 However, you see fit for it to work. I have faith that it's going to come to fruition. 223 00:34:37,000 --> 00:34:46,000 I would like to say thank you to everyone who listened, who does share, who's already shared, who's emailed you. 224 00:34:46,000 --> 00:34:50,000 Thank you from the bottom of my heart. You know, I really do. 225 00:34:50,000 --> 00:34:56,000 They're my story does inspire someone. So thank you, Sonya. 226 00:34:56,000 --> 00:35:03,000 You are welcome. And last, besides your mom, I want to thank Paula for even recommending us to talk. 227 00:35:03,000 --> 00:35:09,000 This is probably one of the best recommendations as far as communication. She's had. 228 00:35:09,000 --> 00:35:12,000 It's just the best. 229 00:35:12,000 --> 00:35:13,000 We all love you. 230 00:35:13,000 --> 00:35:32,000 We are going to end here and I am going to probably call you tomorrow just to talk to you and then we're going to go ahead and and move forward and think about when we're going to talk again and how we can get you set up. 231 00:35:32,000 --> 00:35:40,000 Thank you, Sonya. Keep keep doing what you're doing. You matter. You make everyone else matter. I love you. I appreciate it. 232 00:35:40,000 --> 00:35:45,000 I love you too. Thank you so much. Have a great night and I'll speak to you tomorrow. 233 00:35:45,000 --> 00:35:46,000 All right. 234 00:35:46,000 --> 00:35:59,000 You all who listen to this, you know how you can find me if you have any questions, anything for the areas you can send it to me at Sonya M. 235 00:35:59,000 --> 00:36:08,000 That's S O N Y A M at ledbymotivation.com or ledbymotivation07 at gmail.com. 236 00:36:08,000 --> 00:36:13,000 Let us give Deairas his flowers. He deserves this. 237 00:36:13,000 --> 00:36:27,000 Can you imagine getting shot at such a young age being put in a wheelchair becoming a quadriplegic and having that kind of attitude that man is an inspiration to us. 238 00:36:27,000 --> 00:36:39,000 And let's help him shine. Have a great day on purpose and give somebody some love. Give him a compliment. Give him a hug, a smile and do it on purpose.