1 00:00:00,000 --> 00:00:06,000 Good morning, good afternoon, and good evening everybody. It's your girl, Sonya McQueen, 2 00:00:06,000 --> 00:00:12,360 with your mind, your body, your choice. So I was reading my Bible yesterday and I was 3 00:00:12,360 --> 00:00:17,600 reading the story and I'll probably say his name wrong so forgive me if you know who he 4 00:00:17,600 --> 00:00:26,200 is. But I was reading the story about a guy named Nick Vujacek. Anyway, he was born without 5 00:00:26,200 --> 00:00:35,120 arms or legs and he used to pray to the Lord all the time to please, please, please make 6 00:00:35,120 --> 00:00:40,880 it so he had arms and legs. And in the prayer it was saying he was saying he would settle 7 00:00:40,880 --> 00:00:49,440 for even one arm or one leg but no arms and no legs was just a bit much he thought. But 8 00:00:49,440 --> 00:00:59,640 then he realized that he was being used by God to reach people just a plethora of people 9 00:00:59,640 --> 00:01:06,400 all over the world in schools and prisons and colleges and in businesses and churches 10 00:01:06,400 --> 00:01:14,040 and orphanages and hospitals. He was just reaching so many people and getting so much 11 00:01:14,040 --> 00:01:22,560 hug and so much validation for the encouragement he put in them just for being himself and 12 00:01:22,560 --> 00:01:30,400 for keeping a smile on his face and for being steadfast. He encouraged hundreds of thousands 13 00:01:30,400 --> 00:01:39,200 of people and it didn't depend on whether he had legs or not. Whether he had arms or 14 00:01:39,200 --> 00:01:47,480 not, it depended on his heart and the way he used his heart to show love and he had 15 00:01:47,480 --> 00:01:56,400 so much favor. And then he realized I guess one day that even though he didn't have arms 16 00:01:56,400 --> 00:02:04,320 nor legs, how God still took his unusual body but gave him a heart to encourage and 17 00:02:04,320 --> 00:02:15,240 uplift other people's spirits. Isn't that beautiful? All that tells me is we depend on 18 00:02:15,240 --> 00:02:23,600 the grace of God just to be good people. We don't depend on other people's attaboy's. 19 00:02:23,600 --> 00:02:30,760 We don't depend on other people's I don't want to say encouragement but some people 20 00:02:30,760 --> 00:02:38,480 take it too far like they literally live their lives for what makes other people happy. Let's 21 00:02:38,480 --> 00:02:44,040 just say this young man would have been miserable about the fact he didn't have arms and legs. 22 00:02:44,040 --> 00:02:50,720 Now I didn't stop him from praying for arms and legs just like we can be very happy with 23 00:02:50,720 --> 00:02:58,160 minimal but we'll still pray for more but we don't change our happiness if that makes 24 00:02:58,160 --> 00:03:05,400 sense. I could pray for new furniture but I'm not unhappy with what I have. I thank God 25 00:03:05,400 --> 00:03:12,720 for the furniture I have while maybe I'm like but you know God I would love to refurbish 26 00:03:12,720 --> 00:03:18,160 my house or something like that now. That wasn't a shot to my husband. I love my furniture. 27 00:03:18,160 --> 00:03:24,240 He just bought it for me for my birthday. I think my 50th birthday is absolutely gorgeous 28 00:03:24,240 --> 00:03:31,280 cost a lot of money. No shots intended but you get the point or he bought me a car for 29 00:03:31,280 --> 00:03:38,480 my birthday two years ago a brand new car and I could sit here and say Lord I love my 30 00:03:38,480 --> 00:03:45,040 car but you know what I would love the newer version of this but I'm still thankful for 31 00:03:45,040 --> 00:03:50,960 what I have is my whole point. He was praying for arms and legs and he was like God just 32 00:03:50,960 --> 00:03:55,360 blessed me with arms and legs but he did not let the fact he didn't have those arms and 33 00:03:55,360 --> 00:04:04,120 legs take away from his pouring into other people. I want to talk about two things today. 34 00:04:04,120 --> 00:04:11,760 I want to talk about pouring into others and allowing others to pour into you. Almost all 35 00:04:11,760 --> 00:04:19,160 my life I've poured into other people but I would shut like I'd pulled down a still door. 36 00:04:19,160 --> 00:04:22,840 You could not penetrate that door. You couldn't lift it. You couldn't move it. You couldn't 37 00:04:22,840 --> 00:04:29,280 go around it. You couldn't go under or over it when it came to people pouring into me. 38 00:04:29,280 --> 00:04:36,280 I actually think I picked some of my friends, some of my friends based on how messed up 39 00:04:36,280 --> 00:04:44,360 they were so that I could pour into them. I just wanted to be something to somebody besides 40 00:04:44,360 --> 00:04:49,320 my kids. I wanted to bring something to their life and of course those people didn't bring 41 00:04:49,320 --> 00:04:57,960 back anything into my life. They poured nothing into me but I was so happy to pour into them. 42 00:04:57,960 --> 00:05:02,920 But when people tried to pour into me I'll never forget. I'll never forget I had a couple 43 00:05:02,920 --> 00:05:09,480 of friends. I absolutely loved these friends which is scary for me because I had a best 44 00:05:09,480 --> 00:05:16,120 friend for years and she was murdered. She was taken from me and then I got another best 45 00:05:16,120 --> 00:05:22,360 friend later on and our house was broken into and she was hurt very badly and they blamed 46 00:05:22,360 --> 00:05:28,560 me for it so I lost that friendship. Then I was a little worried about getting friends 47 00:05:28,560 --> 00:05:34,080 but I got another really good friend and somebody called CPS on her and she thought it was me 48 00:05:34,080 --> 00:05:38,720 and I used to wonder what is it about me that people think I would be that kind of grimy 49 00:05:38,720 --> 00:05:46,360 friend. Then I had a friend that I just fell in love with and we were just as close as close 50 00:05:46,360 --> 00:05:53,160 could be until I wrote my books and then she wrote her books and I don't know. She started 51 00:05:53,160 --> 00:05:58,360 blaming me for being jealous and hating the friendship I had with my other friends. Anyway 52 00:05:58,360 --> 00:06:04,360 I got to a point I didn't want any more friends that close to me. I wanted associates and 53 00:06:04,360 --> 00:06:10,200 acquaintances. I didn't mind pouring into other people but I was very private about my life 54 00:06:10,200 --> 00:06:16,760 what was going on with me, my moves, my mistakes but people would tell me everything about 55 00:06:16,760 --> 00:06:21,880 them and I would pray for them, I would talk to them, I would encourage them but I didn't 56 00:06:21,880 --> 00:06:28,240 allow them to know anything about me to pour back. So I had these two really really good 57 00:06:28,240 --> 00:06:32,960 friends and the three of us were super close and we spent a lot of time together and I 58 00:06:32,960 --> 00:06:39,040 went through something very hard for me like it was extremely hard and I'm not going to 59 00:06:39,040 --> 00:06:47,520 get into it. If you've read my book you know what it was and I shut them both out and they 60 00:06:47,520 --> 00:06:54,480 were trying everything they could to get to me, everything they could and I just had to 61 00:06:54,480 --> 00:07:02,080 hurt them verbally to their faces to ensure they would leave me alone and they did. I 62 00:07:02,080 --> 00:07:09,600 would not allow them to comfort me and to be there for me. I don't know if I feel like 63 00:07:09,600 --> 00:07:17,720 I didn't deserve that kind of love because of the things I've done or if I was hurt by 64 00:07:17,720 --> 00:07:24,240 losing so many people I just genuinely poured love into that I decided I wouldn't allow 65 00:07:24,240 --> 00:07:30,360 people to get that close to me again. I don't know what it was but I know the best thing 66 00:07:30,360 --> 00:07:38,200 that happened for me, this portion of my life, the last decade or so, is allowing God to 67 00:07:38,200 --> 00:07:46,080 place somebody in my life who pours positivity in my life and me allow it and me stay faithful 68 00:07:46,080 --> 00:07:54,160 to that friendship and not run or try to cause an issue between her and I so that I'm not 69 00:07:54,160 --> 00:08:00,280 dealing with her or whatever I allow, not only did I allow it, it opened the door for 70 00:08:00,280 --> 00:08:08,320 me to understand it's okay for me to trust people again, it's okay for me to love people, 71 00:08:08,320 --> 00:08:15,920 it's okay for me to build friendships as long as God stays at the forefront, forefront of 72 00:08:15,920 --> 00:08:20,600 my heart because he's going to guide me to the right people, he guided me to the right 73 00:08:20,600 --> 00:08:26,040 husband, he guided me to the right person, he guided me to the right state, he gave me 74 00:08:26,040 --> 00:08:32,840 a new family, he gave me this, he gave me that, I gotta trust that he's holding my heart 75 00:08:32,840 --> 00:08:41,760 so suddenly I started allowing people to pour into me and tell me good things about myself 76 00:08:41,760 --> 00:08:47,520 and speak positivity over my life and I'm not gonna lie to y'all that was hard, still 77 00:08:47,520 --> 00:08:54,360 to this day I have a hard time when I'm struggling talking to anybody about it, I pray about 78 00:08:54,360 --> 00:09:01,680 it and sometimes you just need to release, you need to verbatly vomit what's bothering 79 00:09:01,680 --> 00:09:06,840 you or what's ailing you and you just never know who might have the exact words you need 80 00:09:06,840 --> 00:09:13,040 to hear out loud but I still struggle with that, even with my husband sometimes I tell 81 00:09:13,040 --> 00:09:21,200 him almost everything but I don't tell him everything so if there's anybody I'm gonna 82 00:09:21,200 --> 00:09:29,400 talk to with him followed by one of my really good friends, my mentor, my confidant and 83 00:09:29,400 --> 00:09:35,520 then I have a cousin or two who I might share with but that is so infrequent you guys, it 84 00:09:35,520 --> 00:09:39,680 really is infrequent, I probably and this is gonna sound horrible but I probably call 85 00:09:39,680 --> 00:09:49,120 people an average of once a month, I don't call, if somebody calls me I'm gonna answer 86 00:09:49,120 --> 00:09:54,240 but I don't pick up the phone to call people I like the text, if you're on my heart I might 87 00:09:54,240 --> 00:10:03,520 text you but anyway it's important for you to let people pour into you, now with that 88 00:10:03,520 --> 00:10:09,480 let me tell you, you hear how I said how God guides people to me, how I have to trust that 89 00:10:09,480 --> 00:10:16,160 he's going to bring the right people into my heart, my life, the devil's busy y'all, 90 00:10:16,160 --> 00:10:26,040 there are so many people that he's trying to get to circumvent and to pour more negativity, 91 00:10:26,040 --> 00:10:33,960 to put more coals on your fire, to get that lighter fluid, your flames about to go out, 92 00:10:33,960 --> 00:10:39,640 you're about to go over that mountain and here he comes with that damn lighter fluid, 93 00:10:39,640 --> 00:10:44,960 sitting everything back ablaze and you go back down, you gotta be careful about who 94 00:10:44,960 --> 00:10:52,080 you allow to pour into you, remember I told you about the church, mega church, I was at 95 00:10:52,080 --> 00:10:57,200 mega church, you're talking thousands and thousands of people go to this church and 96 00:10:57,200 --> 00:11:01,680 how the preacher was having people just come up there and throw money on the stage and 97 00:11:01,680 --> 00:11:07,600 throw money, large amounts of money and then he said at the end, those of you who gave 98 00:11:07,600 --> 00:11:13,200 more money will be more blessed than those of you who gave less will be less blessed 99 00:11:13,200 --> 00:11:17,880 than those of you who didn't give any money won't be blessed at all, that is not the type 100 00:11:17,880 --> 00:11:24,480 of person I need pouring into me and that is not the type of church I need to be affiliated 101 00:11:24,480 --> 00:11:30,200 with because with those words of course more people started running up there because he 102 00:11:30,200 --> 00:11:38,560 is somebody that they're relying on to guide them, there are so many past, there's so many 103 00:11:38,560 --> 00:11:43,200 good ones out there, I have not ran into one since I've been in Florida y'all, I'm not 104 00:11:43,200 --> 00:11:53,560 gonna lie but I know that there are some out there, I went to a spot in a landfill of churches 105 00:11:53,560 --> 00:12:00,400 here, I probably visited what, eight or nine and out of those eight or nine, eight or nine 106 00:12:00,400 --> 00:12:06,360 were bad but that doesn't mean the next one, two, three, four, five I would have visited 107 00:12:06,360 --> 00:12:14,560 wouldn't have been great, I just gave up but my whole point is those pastors have a big 108 00:12:14,560 --> 00:12:23,520 responsibility on their shoulder and it is their responsibility to teach and preach love 109 00:12:23,520 --> 00:12:30,160 and you have a preacher who's speaking about other people, I don't care if you agree with 110 00:12:30,160 --> 00:12:35,600 people's lifestyle, I don't care if you agree with somebody is heterosexual, homosexual, 111 00:12:35,600 --> 00:12:46,520 bisexual, trisexual, quadsexual, I don't care, the Bible says love, love, you don't like 112 00:12:46,520 --> 00:12:53,240 somebody because they wear their hair in a crazy way because they're wearing bonnets 113 00:12:53,240 --> 00:12:58,920 out in public because they have gold in their mouth because they got tattoos on their face 114 00:12:58,920 --> 00:13:05,720 and you're judging them by that, those kind of preachers are scary to me because they 115 00:13:05,720 --> 00:13:16,000 are not preaching love, they're actually pimping hate, be careful about who you connect yourself 116 00:13:16,000 --> 00:13:25,520 with and allow to pour into your soul, every person I communicate with and once again I 117 00:13:25,520 --> 00:13:30,120 don't communicate with anybody that often other than my husband and my kids, talk to 118 00:13:30,120 --> 00:13:40,240 them every day but everybody else I ensure you, I promise you they are positive and they 119 00:13:40,240 --> 00:13:46,200 are loving and if I slip they're going to help me back on my feet, they're going to 120 00:13:46,200 --> 00:13:52,560 straighten my shirt out and send me on my way, it holds my arm if they need to because 121 00:13:52,560 --> 00:14:01,000 they care, be careful about the ones who like to keep that negativity flowing and you might 122 00:14:01,000 --> 00:14:06,480 not even realize it, you know how it is, I have a couple of friends like this, I'm mad, 123 00:14:06,480 --> 00:14:11,960 they mad with me, you know I'm telling her oh I cannot believe this blah blah and they 124 00:14:11,960 --> 00:14:17,040 are like girl you know you want to knuckle up, I'm going with you, I got your back, I 125 00:14:17,040 --> 00:14:23,520 got your, instead of saying wait a minute is it that serious signing, you upset because 126 00:14:23,520 --> 00:14:27,600 of this, this and this and you won't even remember this next week, come on you're bigger 127 00:14:27,600 --> 00:14:33,960 than that, you're better than that, like I said they throw that lighter fluid on my fire, 128 00:14:33,960 --> 00:14:39,760 next thing you know I'm in jail, I'm in jail, I'm going to tell you guys one more story 129 00:14:39,760 --> 00:14:47,280 and I'm going to move on and end, I was in and I'm going to have to send this to this 130 00:14:47,280 --> 00:14:52,440 young lady Joanne, I was in Fort Leonard Wood and I think I've told you guys this story 131 00:14:52,440 --> 00:14:56,720 before and if you read my book you know it's in my book and I know people didn't believe 132 00:14:56,720 --> 00:15:03,920 it until they heard her tell the story too but I knew these girls were coming to fight 133 00:15:03,920 --> 00:15:10,560 me, I was on base, you know I was a military part time my husband was military full time, 134 00:15:10,560 --> 00:15:16,680 at the time the guy was married to and we lived on base, we lived on post, you know 135 00:15:16,680 --> 00:15:21,520 you're not allowed to go on post if you're not military unless a military person brings 136 00:15:21,520 --> 00:15:27,960 you, anyway there was a married man, he was messing around on his wife and I took his 137 00:15:27,960 --> 00:15:32,760 wife out, there were 17 of us who went out for my birthday and we went to this club and 138 00:15:32,760 --> 00:15:37,680 her husband was there with one of his side chicks and he got mad at me for bringing his 139 00:15:37,680 --> 00:15:45,840 wife, long story short he tells the girl he's with that I'm being messy and I'm a trouble 140 00:15:45,840 --> 00:15:51,480 maker and all this stuff, I have nothing to do with this man or his relationship, I just 141 00:15:51,480 --> 00:15:56,440 asked the lady if she wanted to go and she did, I didn't know he'd be there with a side 142 00:15:56,440 --> 00:16:04,960 chick and it wasn't my business, anyway next thing I hear the side chick and all these 143 00:16:04,960 --> 00:16:10,040 other girls decided to come up there and jump me so they call somebody they didn't know 144 00:16:10,040 --> 00:16:17,360 I was very close with her names Joanne, they called Joanne telling her to set me up and 145 00:16:17,360 --> 00:16:23,840 get me to the club so Joanne calls me and she was like what do you want to do and I tell 146 00:16:23,840 --> 00:16:30,640 Joanne, alright well set it up, don't tell them how close we are just set it up, Joanne 147 00:16:30,640 --> 00:16:35,920 has known me all my life, set it up and I'm going to the club and Joanne is like well 148 00:16:35,920 --> 00:16:45,320 I'm going too now, if you've never seen me I'm 5'3", well I'm 5'4", I'm claiming 5'4' 149 00:16:45,320 --> 00:16:51,520 and back then I probably weighed about 116 pounds, I weigh more than that now but I was 150 00:16:51,520 --> 00:17:02,120 a size 3, 116, 5'4' and I had no worries and no fear and that's scary, I had no fear 151 00:17:02,120 --> 00:17:07,400 so the day comes and Joanne, she's one of the people going out with me and there was 152 00:17:07,400 --> 00:17:12,840 another lady who I'm not going to name, she was going and as I said there were 17 of us 153 00:17:12,840 --> 00:17:19,360 so leading up to this day Joanne and the other girl who were considerably bigger than me 154 00:17:19,360 --> 00:17:25,320 and when I say bigger I just mean they're bigger, like Joanne is almost 6' the other 155 00:17:25,320 --> 00:17:32,880 girl is probably 5'9", 5'10", and Joanne is 5' she probably weighed a good 2'2'20 156 00:17:32,880 --> 00:17:37,600 and the other girl probably weighed about 2'2'2'2'30 so they were talking about yeah 157 00:17:37,600 --> 00:17:41,440 there's supposed to be 5 of them, I'm going to take 2, I'm going to take 2, signing you 158 00:17:41,440 --> 00:17:47,800 can fight that one girl, I wasn't saying anything because that's my personality, I get very 159 00:17:47,800 --> 00:17:55,240 very quiet, the matter I get the quieter I get and I don't do a lot of talking so anyway 160 00:17:55,240 --> 00:18:00,760 we get to the club, I'm having a good time, the girl who asked Joanne to set me up, she's 161 00:18:00,760 --> 00:18:05,960 on the dance floor, some guy asked me to dance, I go stand next to her and I'm dancing, dancing 162 00:18:05,960 --> 00:18:10,760 was my thing y'all so she's giving me the side eye, I don't care, I'm having a good 163 00:18:10,760 --> 00:18:16,040 time after the club closes, I went to this club so much I used to enter a lot of dance 164 00:18:16,040 --> 00:18:22,440 contests, the people know me so I was on my way out, one of the people who worked there 165 00:18:22,440 --> 00:18:27,560 was talking to me and her friend, the side chick's friend kept coming in looking to see 166 00:18:27,560 --> 00:18:31,800 if I was still there, guess they thought I was going to sneak out but once again not 167 00:18:31,800 --> 00:18:39,360 me so as I was exiting the club I had to take down a few steps and I've told this story 168 00:18:39,360 --> 00:18:47,200 before so and there was just a big crowd of people standing there, she instantly starts 169 00:18:47,200 --> 00:18:53,920 yelling and saying all this stuff and just barking, barking, barking and I'm looking 170 00:18:53,920 --> 00:18:59,600 at her and she was probably about five, six, five, seven, probably a hundred fifty, sixty 171 00:18:59,600 --> 00:19:09,640 pounds and all I said was you're lying and she is calling me names and she's all in my 172 00:19:09,640 --> 00:19:11,880 face and she must me. 173 00:19:11,880 --> 00:19:19,400 Now I'm going to tell you guys, it wasn't nice, it wasn't pretty, Joanne was exactly 174 00:19:19,400 --> 00:19:23,400 what she said she was going to be but I didn't need her to throw any hands, I had all the 175 00:19:23,400 --> 00:19:34,960 hands for everybody and afterwards we ended up back at my house sometime afterwards and 176 00:19:34,960 --> 00:19:42,160 we were laughing and talking about what happened but the other girl who was I'm going to do 177 00:19:42,160 --> 00:19:50,480 this, I'm going to do that, this, that, this and that apparently they caught her before 178 00:19:50,480 --> 00:19:56,440 I ever walked out and they heard her really bad, they pulled braids out of her head, she 179 00:19:56,440 --> 00:20:02,400 was missing parts of her scalp and they heard her really bad and she was in the ER but she 180 00:20:02,400 --> 00:20:07,240 was mad at me, she was mad at me, I didn't invite her, didn't ask her to come. 181 00:20:07,240 --> 00:20:13,440 I'm going to tell you guys why I'm telling you this story again, two things, I got in 182 00:20:13,440 --> 00:20:18,760 a lot of trouble after that and I couldn't for the life of me figure out why I was getting 183 00:20:18,760 --> 00:20:27,080 in trouble, I got called to the, I don't know the base commanders, they had a meeting, they 184 00:20:27,080 --> 00:20:33,200 were like all these high ranking people and I got in trouble and I couldn't, I said these 185 00:20:33,200 --> 00:20:39,160 women don't belong on the base, they're not military, this married man brought them and 186 00:20:39,160 --> 00:20:44,440 they were telling me to be quiet and I didn't want to be quiet and I got mad and I stood 187 00:20:44,440 --> 00:20:57,600 up quietly, now I was steaming hot and they told me it was my fault, it was my fault, 188 00:20:57,600 --> 00:21:02,560 not the married man's fault, not the women who didn't have any place, no business being 189 00:21:02,560 --> 00:21:11,720 their fault, it was my fault, I flipped over the table and I walked out. 190 00:21:11,720 --> 00:21:16,240 There were a few things that took me years to realize, number one, there was another 191 00:21:16,240 --> 00:21:19,840 young lady named Kim, I'm going to send this to her too. 192 00:21:19,840 --> 00:21:24,400 When Kim heard about the fight, Kim decided she wasn't going to go, Kim let me know right 193 00:21:24,400 --> 00:21:29,400 off, I am not a fighter, I don't want to be involved in that, I was cracking up and I 194 00:21:29,400 --> 00:21:34,960 was like Kim, I don't want anybody involved in this, this is not, but Kim was like yeah 195 00:21:34,960 --> 00:21:41,840 and I don't want to be sucked into that and she was being real and I needed that, that's 196 00:21:41,840 --> 00:21:48,400 number one, number two, took me years to realize why I got in trouble. 197 00:21:48,400 --> 00:21:57,640 See you guys, I had friends who I love to this day, or friend and she had my back, she 198 00:21:57,640 --> 00:22:07,720 was throwing that fuel on my fire and I already was a fighter when I had to be. 199 00:22:07,720 --> 00:22:12,200 You can talk about me all day, you can yell, you can call me names, you don't put your 200 00:22:12,200 --> 00:22:18,600 hands on me though and she knew this about me and she knew this about my family and 201 00:22:18,600 --> 00:22:27,400 she fueled my fire to the point where my husband got in trouble, I got in trouble, all 202 00:22:27,400 --> 00:22:35,080 because I could have stayed home, I had a choice to make when I found out those girls 203 00:22:35,080 --> 00:22:39,160 were coming, I could have stayed home. 204 00:22:39,160 --> 00:22:43,400 I didn't have to go to the club, it wasn't my birthday anymore, we all went out and 205 00:22:43,400 --> 00:22:49,880 celebrated my birthday, this was just a random night that I had Joanne going, I could have 206 00:22:49,880 --> 00:22:56,880 told Joanne, hey listen, just tell them girls that you know me or my girl and let it be 207 00:22:56,880 --> 00:23:01,880 because then they probably would have said, oh man, we didn't know and it probably would 208 00:23:01,880 --> 00:23:12,120 have just died out but instead my pride and my, you're not going to punk me, mode jumped 209 00:23:12,120 --> 00:23:19,720 in and had I had somebody talk sense to me and say Sonia, hey listen, you don't know 210 00:23:19,720 --> 00:23:26,480 them women and they don't know you, they're just doing that because of him because after 211 00:23:26,480 --> 00:23:32,600 that I got into even more trouble, I was so mad after I flipped that table and I walked 212 00:23:32,600 --> 00:23:38,080 out, I went home and got Billy, if you all don't know who Billy is, look up a previous 213 00:23:38,080 --> 00:23:42,680 podcast and I walked across the street to his house and I was beating on his door and 214 00:23:42,680 --> 00:23:49,720 I knew he was home, he wouldn't open the door so I bust out his window, just crazy but once 215 00:23:49,720 --> 00:23:56,800 again there was nobody to tell me, Sonia, what's wrong with you, it ain't even worth 216 00:23:56,800 --> 00:24:02,200 that, all it takes sometimes is one person to speak some sense into you, to pour into 217 00:24:02,200 --> 00:24:12,200 you some positivity and not fuel your fire, I should have taken Kim's route and kept my 218 00:24:12,200 --> 00:24:19,280 butt home, said I don't have nothing approved to nobody, you know, I could do this, I could 219 00:24:19,280 --> 00:24:24,080 do that, I'm not going to do any of that and this day and age, if you try that now, you 220 00:24:24,080 --> 00:24:31,320 are going to get shot, there's just no way around it, it's Wild Wild West 2023, it's 221 00:24:31,320 --> 00:24:40,680 Wild Wild West, that's my first scenario and it's probably the most important for me to 222 00:24:40,680 --> 00:24:48,520 lead into when you're already upset, don't lean on the people who are going to keep your 223 00:24:48,520 --> 00:25:00,080 fire burning, either lean on God or lean on somebody who knows how to put ice and cool 224 00:25:00,080 --> 00:25:08,560 you down, because my second story makes all the sense in the world, I used to have road 225 00:25:08,560 --> 00:25:13,920 rage bad and that's a horrible thing to have in Miami, you don't believe me, look at how 226 00:25:13,920 --> 00:25:19,920 many people die in road rage accidents, my husband told me one day, listen, you be ready 227 00:25:19,920 --> 00:25:25,920 to knuckle up these people here on fights on you, they shoot, they kill over simple 228 00:25:25,920 --> 00:25:32,320 things, you got to remember these people don't know you, when they're driving crazy, they're 229 00:25:32,320 --> 00:25:37,440 not thinking, oh they're going to Sonya, let me go drive crazy, they don't know you, they 230 00:25:37,440 --> 00:25:47,400 just drive crazy, it's a melting pot, stop getting so upset over people who don't mean 231 00:25:47,400 --> 00:25:53,560 you no harm, they just drive crazy and that was the best advice he could have gave because 232 00:25:53,560 --> 00:25:59,280 I promised you a few years ago, I was in the car with somebody and I got cut off and that 233 00:25:59,280 --> 00:26:02,960 person was cracking up, oh you're going to let that go, you're going to let that go and 234 00:26:02,960 --> 00:26:09,240 I ended up following that person, I ended up following that person and it's not the first 235 00:26:09,240 --> 00:26:15,440 time you've heard me follow somebody, I've done that a few times, that could have went 236 00:26:15,440 --> 00:26:21,080 any kind of way but she fueled my fire where my husband knew how to comment and cool it, 237 00:26:21,080 --> 00:26:27,560 right, smaller example than before but you get the jast of it, you guys feed into other 238 00:26:27,560 --> 00:26:36,080 people positivity, love, encourage them, lift them up, tell them when they look good, tell 239 00:26:36,080 --> 00:26:40,280 them they look good, when they do something great, tell them they do great, don't be jealous 240 00:26:40,280 --> 00:26:48,320 of your friends, tell them, they make money, they get a new job, they give up, double their 241 00:26:48,320 --> 00:26:54,080 income, they go out and buy that made back, they get that beautiful mansion, tell them 242 00:26:54,080 --> 00:27:04,960 that's what's up, I am so proud of you, your blessings are going to come in your way, their 243 00:27:04,960 --> 00:27:10,800 blessings come in their way, you just make sure you encourage people but when they're 244 00:27:10,800 --> 00:27:17,800 wrong, set them straight, set them straight, don't walk around with light or fluid, it's 245 00:27:17,800 --> 00:27:24,800 your girl, you know you can find me at Sonya M at LeadbyMotivation.com or LeadbyMotivation.com 246 00:27:24,800 --> 00:27:31,600 at Roll7 at Gmail.com and listen, if you listened to my podcast about a week and a half ago 247 00:27:31,600 --> 00:27:40,640 now, it was with Deairus, I am doing part two today and you will hear it early next week 248 00:27:40,640 --> 00:27:46,680 but I need everybody not only to listen to it but to share it, just send it to somebody 249 00:27:46,680 --> 00:27:53,600 because this man needs prayer and he needs love and the guy I told you about at the very 250 00:27:53,600 --> 00:28:00,200 beginning of this podcast, that's Deairus, he might have been shot, he might be a quadriplegic 251 00:28:00,200 --> 00:28:08,880 but he speaks with the love of God, with a lot of favor and a lot of positivity and y'all 252 00:28:08,880 --> 00:28:14,360 we could all take a note out of his book but the part two will be next week, I want you 253 00:28:14,360 --> 00:28:21,800 guys to lift him up, please listen and share it with at least one person, aim for five 254 00:28:21,800 --> 00:28:27,960 but at least one and I never ask you guys to share a podcast but this is for him, this 255 00:28:27,960 --> 00:28:36,680 is for him, I want him to get everything he deserves, I want somebody to back his ideas 256 00:28:36,680 --> 00:28:43,920 and support them financially, I want him to get his flowers in every way possible because 257 00:28:43,920 --> 00:28:55,920 he is breathing love and positivity into people while laying on his back unable to move. 258 00:28:55,920 --> 00:29:05,320 Think about that, think about it, have a great day on purpose and you know I'll see you next 259 00:29:05,320 --> 00:29:21,540 week.