Good morning. Good afternoon and good evening everybody. It's your girl Sonya McQueen with it your life. What are you doing with it?
So today I want to come to you and talk about butterflies and grasshoppers and frogs. I
Want to talk to you about
complete metamorphosis, you know, that's when
Something goes through a life cycle of four stages. She's usually the egg
Larva the pulpa and and then it becomes an adult, right?
So we know a caterpillar starts off as an egg and it goes into this
Caterpillar which now they're saying stay away from so many caterpillars because they're poisonous
But eventually it turns into a beautiful butterfly or we see that a frog starts off as an egg
Then it turns into a tadpole and then a frog and you get the point
So those life cycles that four stages they go through is called metamorphosis
Yesterday I was listening to a song
By one of my favorite singers. I wish she'd come out with something else
But Kelly Price and at the beginning of her song she starts off talking about a butterfly
and
How it started off as a caterpillar
And while I was listening to this song I got lost in my own thoughts
You know how that is somebody is talking to you and they say something or you're listening to something and
Suddenly it makes you think of something else and you kind of tune out what you're hearing and go with your own thoughts
That's what I did
And although humans don't go through a metamorphosis. I want you to
Just walk with me and use your imagination as I say
We go through our own metamorphosis, right?
We start off in our mother's womb
No, we start off as an embryo and turn into a fetus or it might be the opposite way. I don't know we come out
We're a baby and we're crying and we're moving in we grow
our bodies
physically change from being that cute little baby to
a little toddler to
Preschool to
elementary middle school high school
Into our adulthood, right?
Let's forget about our bodies for a second
The metamorphosis I'm talking about is of our minds
so
We start off we're naive we're green and
and we we watch our parents and we emulate
some if not a lot or all of the things our parents do because some people have these parents they want to be exactly like
But then some of us don't want to be anything like our parents
And so we mentally have to challenge our own thoughts
We have to look to better things and we have to grow
We have to change from the environment we're in to
Grow into something better something bigger, you know, I had a board meeting and my husband was telling the board a story
About how he grew up and how his brothers were they were in the streets, you know, they were robbing people. They were bad
From little kids on they were bad in and out of the system in and out of the system
But how both of them
just
Changed into these better creatures. They started off. They they're from the as they call it hood
I call it ghetto, but they are from the projects and
They were a result of the environment around them
But my husband went another way
He wasn't a result of the environment. He was in he grew out of it
He didn't grow with it or into it. I hope that makes sense to you guys
He went one way his brothers went another but they all remain close
They remain
Family and loving and caring about one another with no judgment
But they went different ways his brothers in my opinion
They had not grown out of that first stage that second stage actually of
You know what this environment isn't good, let me reshape my mind to go another direction as my husband did
So you go through that stage and you have to figure out which way you want to go
Do you want to go to college? Do you want to just get a job at a school?
Do you even want to finish high school? All these are thoughts a young person has that
They they have control over because once you get a certain age
Your parents can't continue to tell you how to live your life of what to do you have to
Think for yourself
Right, so your mind has been growing over these years and and it is evolving and it is changing
Into the person you're going to become now. Here's the great thing that person you're becoming
Might not be a great person
They might be lost they might be making bad decisions the blessing and that is
Once again, you can change
Your mind can be worked into another way you can see things in a more positive light and say aha
Aha, that wasn't the route to take let me go down this other street. It's like a fork in a road
You have one two three prongs in this long road pick one
Pick one and if it's the wrong one, it's okay to reroute yourself
Turn around get on another listen
You're still a caterpillar. You're still a caterpillar
So, you know those valleys I talk about so much and you're already familiar with them or those mountains
You're trying to climb. I don't care where either it's a peak
You're trying to get to the top of or valley you're trying to climb out of to get on solid ground either way it goes
You are going through these stages and you're wondering why me?
Why do I keep falling in these valleys?
Why do I keep getting stuck on the side of this mountain? Why are things not going right for me?
It's your opportunity to open your mind
It's your opportunity to make some
Drastic changes, maybe you keep ending up in a valley because you're horrible with money and you keep wondering why you can't make your rent
But you're not paying attention to the fact that you ate out five times
the last two weeks and
You you went and bought maybe you have a habit you wouldn't buy some weed or you went by some liquor or
You know your friends wanted to go hang out and have
Go to a concert so you want to go your family's planning a trip and you can't afford it
But you want to go because you don't want to be left out. You're not putting in
Account all the money you spent that you could have said I can't do it this time y'all
And you end up in this valley and you're wondering whoa is me
You're singing those words, but you're not realizing
These are learning
Experiences quit calling everybody asking for money when you've got to learn to manage your money
That's all you have to do and once you figure that once that light bulb goes off. Aha
You're changing you're changing
You
No matter what to think about it put yourself in any situation you're bad with money you you have an anger problem
You lie a lot. You're a thief
Whatever it is one day you stop falling in that valley. Oh man. I got caught again
I got caught. Why am I in jail again? Why am I this one day you change?
You guys that can happen over and over you can stay a caterpillar for a long time
You can stay a caterpillar for decades
Or you can stay a caterpillar killer killer for years
Nobody stays a caterpillar
For months, you know why because you constantly grow
You constantly grow right when you think you're finna turn into a butterfly you fall into another valley and your caterpillar all over again
You just remain
You're remaining because you have to go through these valleys to get to that
beautiful butterfly stage
You have to it's a must. It's a must that you figure out your direction
Nobody comes out of the womb
Turns into an infant and they're on this perfect path if they were
It wouldn't even be here
None of us are perfect we're all imperfect and we all hit our head
We all put up with something we shouldn't have been putting up with we all do things we shouldn't be doing
And then one day you have that aha moment and you realize
Those valleys that used to be so deep and they used to just knock the breath out of you
And you're just tired of trying to climb out of valleys all the time or those mountains
You're trying to climb and you're just hanging dangling from a rope on the side because your arms are so tired of
Pulling yourself up to get on top of that peak
They have become little bitty bumps in the road
You can just step over
It doesn't matter where you are on top of the bumper on the side of the bomb you're pretty much focused
It doesn't take the breath out of you anymore. You see the light even when you're on that
Platform
You see the light. There's no woe is me anymore. There's all man and messed up, but let me go ahead
I know how to fix this and guess what you are now
You're a beautiful butterfly. You've learned
You've went through the mental process
The emotional process the spiritual process the physical process whatever the financial process
prospect
process
You've been through it all
You're that beautiful butterfly now and here's the really great thing
Maybe you're only 30 years old and you finally get it
And you have nowhere to go but up
And there are no more valleys you see what you used to call valleys as learning experiences
You don't sit and cry about them anymore. You don't call people to complain about it anymore
You've learned to handle your money. You've learned to stop lying
You don't do it anymore. You're not a thief anymore. You got tired of going to jail
You know how to speak to people properly. You don't have to yell you don't have to curse
You don't have to speak to people in a demeaning way. You're more secure in yourself. So you treat people better
You're a beautiful butterfly and if you get
the concept early enough in your life you get to fly high and
And soar and just be beautiful and people can admire you and want what you have
I don't mean financially. I mean that's spirit
Because you're walking around
Intrude grace
You're walking around in true favor because you got it
You're not 80 years old still trying to figure it out still wondering
Why am I on the side of this mountain dangling? Why am I stuck in this valley? Nope?
Nope, you're 30 you're 40 you're 50 with lots of life in you
And you're finally like ah
The only way I was in those valleys is because I was putting myself there
Nobody else was putting me in a valley. Nobody else has that kind of stronghold
firm grip in my life
The Lord wasn't put me in those valleys. I was doing it to myself
But I figured out
How to push myself through how to pray myself through how to believe in myself through this and look at me sore
Y'all don't stay a tadpole until you're 80 years old
Go ahead and figure this stuff out now figure it out
Figure out why your valleys are so deep while your mountains are so high
So that you can be just on that little bump in the road I
Don't have any valleys. I don't I don't have any valleys something goes wrong
I'm like, uh-huh. Let me think about this. Let me figure out. Let me talk to my husband
Let me make this one phone call to a friend or just let me pray
Because I'll be damned if I am going to allow myself to wallow and self pity and then say whoa is me
I'm living for my today's and so I cannot tomorrow be worried about what happened today
I need to figure it out right now and think of what other direction to go in or how to fix what I'm in now
So that tomorrow can be just a much better day and learn from what I did today
There's no more living in all my yesterdays. That's been done for me. How about you?
Are you still wallowing? Are you still in valleys? Are you still dangling on the side of a mountain?
Are you still a caterpillar?
Are you still a tadpole?
Are you still larva?
Get it together you guys, you know tomorrow honestly is not promised so you don't want an
Unpromised tomorrow
To be held back from an unfinished today
Finish whatever you're going through today to the best of your ability think of it in a positive way how to change your situation
Change your actions change your words change your outlook change your outcome
You say it's easier said than done
It's easier done than said once you train your mind right
Believe me. I used to be a person who thought that's easier said than done
But then I grew up and I became a
Butterfly I'm not gonna become a frog. Yeah, I'm not
And I'm not a grasshopper or fly
You know flies are disgusting anyway, I'm not a maggot that turned into a fly. I am a beautiful butterfly
And I'm soaring and
I just want everybody around me to soar as well. It's your girl Sonia McQueen with it's your life
What are you doing with it? You can hit me up at Sonia M at
ledbymotivation.com or led by motivation 07 at
Gmail.com have a beautiful day on purpose butterflies