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Good morning. Good afternoon and good evening everybody. It's your girl Sonya McQueen with it your life. What are you doing with it?

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So today I want to come to you and talk about butterflies and grasshoppers and frogs. I

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Want to talk to you about

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complete metamorphosis, you know, that's when

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Something goes through a life cycle of four stages. She's usually the egg

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Larva the pulpa and and then it becomes an adult, right?

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So we know a caterpillar starts off as an egg and it goes into this

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Caterpillar which now they're saying stay away from so many caterpillars because they're poisonous

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But eventually it turns into a beautiful butterfly or we see that a frog starts off as an egg

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Then it turns into a tadpole and then a frog and you get the point

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So those life cycles that four stages they go through is called metamorphosis

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Yesterday I was listening to a song

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By one of my favorite singers. I wish she'd come out with something else

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But Kelly Price and at the beginning of her song she starts off talking about a butterfly

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and

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How it started off as a caterpillar

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And while I was listening to this song I got lost in my own thoughts

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You know how that is somebody is talking to you and they say something or you're listening to something and

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Suddenly it makes you think of something else and you kind of tune out what you're hearing and go with your own thoughts

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That's what I did

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And although humans don't go through a metamorphosis. I want you to

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Just walk with me and use your imagination as I say

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We go through our own metamorphosis, right?

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We start off in our mother's womb

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No, we start off as an embryo and turn into a fetus or it might be the opposite way. I don't know we come out

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We're a baby and we're crying and we're moving in we grow

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our bodies

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physically change from being that cute little baby to

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a little toddler to

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Preschool to

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elementary middle school high school

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Into our adulthood, right?

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Let's forget about our bodies for a second

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The metamorphosis I'm talking about is of our minds

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We start off we're naive we're green and

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and we we watch our parents and we emulate

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some if not a lot or all of the things our parents do because some people have these parents they want to be exactly like

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But then some of us don't want to be anything like our parents

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And so we mentally have to challenge our own thoughts

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We have to look to better things and we have to grow

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We have to change from the environment we're in to

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Grow into something better something bigger, you know, I had a board meeting and my husband was telling the board a story

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About how he grew up and how his brothers were they were in the streets, you know, they were robbing people. They were bad

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From little kids on they were bad in and out of the system in and out of the system

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But how both of them

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just

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Changed into these better creatures. They started off. They they're from the as they call it hood

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I call it ghetto, but they are from the projects and

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They were a result of the environment around them

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But my husband went another way

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He wasn't a result of the environment. He was in he grew out of it

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He didn't grow with it or into it. I hope that makes sense to you guys

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He went one way his brothers went another but they all remain close

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They remain

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Family and loving and caring about one another with no judgment

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But they went different ways his brothers in my opinion

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They had not grown out of that first stage that second stage actually of

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You know what this environment isn't good, let me reshape my mind to go another direction as my husband did

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So you go through that stage and you have to figure out which way you want to go

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Do you want to go to college? Do you want to just get a job at a school?

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Do you even want to finish high school? All these are thoughts a young person has that

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They they have control over because once you get a certain age

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Your parents can't continue to tell you how to live your life of what to do you have to

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Think for yourself

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Right, so your mind has been growing over these years and and it is evolving and it is changing

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Into the person you're going to become now. Here's the great thing that person you're becoming

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Might not be a great person

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They might be lost they might be making bad decisions the blessing and that is

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Once again, you can change

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Your mind can be worked into another way you can see things in a more positive light and say aha

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Aha, that wasn't the route to take let me go down this other street. It's like a fork in a road

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You have one two three prongs in this long road pick one

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Pick one and if it's the wrong one, it's okay to reroute yourself

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Turn around get on another listen

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You're still a caterpillar. You're still a caterpillar

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So, you know those valleys I talk about so much and you're already familiar with them or those mountains

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You're trying to climb. I don't care where either it's a peak

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You're trying to get to the top of or valley you're trying to climb out of to get on solid ground either way it goes

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You are going through these stages and you're wondering why me?

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Why do I keep falling in these valleys?

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Why do I keep getting stuck on the side of this mountain? Why are things not going right for me?

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It's your opportunity to open your mind

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It's your opportunity to make some

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Drastic changes, maybe you keep ending up in a valley because you're horrible with money and you keep wondering why you can't make your rent

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But you're not paying attention to the fact that you ate out five times

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the last two weeks and

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You you went and bought maybe you have a habit you wouldn't buy some weed or you went by some liquor or

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You know your friends wanted to go hang out and have

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Go to a concert so you want to go your family's planning a trip and you can't afford it

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But you want to go because you don't want to be left out. You're not putting in

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Account all the money you spent that you could have said I can't do it this time y'all

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And you end up in this valley and you're wondering whoa is me

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You're singing those words, but you're not realizing

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These are learning

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Experiences quit calling everybody asking for money when you've got to learn to manage your money

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That's all you have to do and once you figure that once that light bulb goes off. Aha

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You're changing you're changing

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You

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No matter what to think about it put yourself in any situation you're bad with money you you have an anger problem

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You lie a lot. You're a thief

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Whatever it is one day you stop falling in that valley. Oh man. I got caught again

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I got caught. Why am I in jail again? Why am I this one day you change?

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You guys that can happen over and over you can stay a caterpillar for a long time

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You can stay a caterpillar for decades

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Or you can stay a caterpillar killer killer for years

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Nobody stays a caterpillar

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For months, you know why because you constantly grow

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You constantly grow right when you think you're finna turn into a butterfly you fall into another valley and your caterpillar all over again

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You just remain

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You're remaining because you have to go through these valleys to get to that

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beautiful butterfly stage

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You have to it's a must. It's a must that you figure out your direction

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Nobody comes out of the womb

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Turns into an infant and they're on this perfect path if they were

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It wouldn't even be here

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None of us are perfect we're all imperfect and we all hit our head

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We all put up with something we shouldn't have been putting up with we all do things we shouldn't be doing

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And then one day you have that aha moment and you realize

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Those valleys that used to be so deep and they used to just knock the breath out of you

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And you're just tired of trying to climb out of valleys all the time or those mountains

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You're trying to climb and you're just hanging dangling from a rope on the side because your arms are so tired of

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Pulling yourself up to get on top of that peak

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They have become little bitty bumps in the road

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You can just step over

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It doesn't matter where you are on top of the bumper on the side of the bomb you're pretty much focused

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It doesn't take the breath out of you anymore. You see the light even when you're on that

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You see the light. There's no woe is me anymore. There's all man and messed up, but let me go ahead

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I know how to fix this and guess what you are now

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You're a beautiful butterfly. You've learned

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You've went through the mental process

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The emotional process the spiritual process the physical process whatever the financial process

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prospect

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process

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You've been through it all

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You're that beautiful butterfly now and here's the really great thing

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Maybe you're only 30 years old and you finally get it

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And you have nowhere to go but up

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And there are no more valleys you see what you used to call valleys as learning experiences

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You don't sit and cry about them anymore. You don't call people to complain about it anymore

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You've learned to handle your money. You've learned to stop lying

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You don't do it anymore. You're not a thief anymore. You got tired of going to jail

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You know how to speak to people properly. You don't have to yell you don't have to curse

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You don't have to speak to people in a demeaning way. You're more secure in yourself. So you treat people better

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You're a beautiful butterfly and if you get

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the concept early enough in your life you get to fly high and

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And soar and just be beautiful and people can admire you and want what you have

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I don't mean financially. I mean that's spirit

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Because you're walking around

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Intrude grace

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You're walking around in true favor because you got it

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You're not 80 years old still trying to figure it out still wondering

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Why am I on the side of this mountain dangling? Why am I stuck in this valley? Nope?

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Nope, you're 30 you're 40 you're 50 with lots of life in you

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And you're finally like ah

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The only way I was in those valleys is because I was putting myself there

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Nobody else was putting me in a valley. Nobody else has that kind of stronghold

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firm grip in my life

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The Lord wasn't put me in those valleys. I was doing it to myself

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But I figured out

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How to push myself through how to pray myself through how to believe in myself through this and look at me sore

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Y'all don't stay a tadpole until you're 80 years old

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Go ahead and figure this stuff out now figure it out

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Figure out why your valleys are so deep while your mountains are so high

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So that you can be just on that little bump in the road I

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Don't have any valleys. I don't I don't have any valleys something goes wrong

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I'm like, uh-huh. Let me think about this. Let me figure out. Let me talk to my husband

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Let me make this one phone call to a friend or just let me pray

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Because I'll be damned if I am going to allow myself to wallow and self pity and then say whoa is me

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I'm living for my today's and so I cannot tomorrow be worried about what happened today

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I need to figure it out right now and think of what other direction to go in or how to fix what I'm in now

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So that tomorrow can be just a much better day and learn from what I did today

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There's no more living in all my yesterdays. That's been done for me. How about you?

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Are you still wallowing? Are you still in valleys? Are you still dangling on the side of a mountain?

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Are you still a caterpillar?

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Are you still a tadpole?

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Are you still larva?

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Get it together you guys, you know tomorrow honestly is not promised so you don't want an

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Unpromised tomorrow

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To be held back from an unfinished today

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Finish whatever you're going through today to the best of your ability think of it in a positive way how to change your situation

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Change your actions change your words change your outlook change your outcome

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You say it's easier said than done

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It's easier done than said once you train your mind right

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Believe me. I used to be a person who thought that's easier said than done

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But then I grew up and I became a

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Butterfly I'm not gonna become a frog. Yeah, I'm not

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And I'm not a grasshopper or fly

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You know flies are disgusting anyway, I'm not a maggot that turned into a fly. I am a beautiful butterfly

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And I'm soaring and

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I just want everybody around me to soar as well. It's your girl Sonia McQueen with it's your life

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What are you doing with it? You can hit me up at Sonia M at

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ledbymotivation.com or led by motivation 07 at

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Gmail.com have a beautiful day on purpose butterflies