Good morning. Good afternoon and good evening everybody. It's your girl Sonya McQueen with it your life. What are you doing with it?
I want to talk to you about looking back
Looking back over your life. looking at the past and this week, I think I have a theme going. I'm not sure though. I was out for a
Six mile walk. I didn't run at all. I was out for a six mile walk and these
Ideas kept popping in my head. So I was putting them in my phone and
I I'm thinking about the podcast. I just did recently and
Like four or five of them. This seems to fit the theme. So I'm not mad at myself. I'm gonna keep it going
But I want to talk to you about
Looking forward eyes forward, right? So we all have a habit of
Of thinking and reminiscing, you know, we all do it. I think about my youth
I wish I remembered more of it from probably age. I don't know my husband remembers stuff from when he was three and four
I think that's crazy, but I don't remember anything
before
That's a lie, I remember some friendships I remember like six friendships from
Maybe middle school, but I don't remember middle school itself. I don't really remember high school
But I remember
Two friends from high school. I wasn't unpopular, but I wasn't the most popular person
I just went to school, you know, nobody mess with me. Nobody picked on me. I didn't mess with anybody
I didn't pick on anybody. I'm sure when I walked in the halls people spoke to me and and
Probably walked with me to my locker and I remember people picking me up going to school
I just don't remember who they were because I didn't have my own car. I
Remember more than anything the house I lived in in Colorado and the trailer I lived in Missouri. I
try to remember more of my youth and
Sometimes when I'm writing
I'm writing things and God will tap me a month later and say go back and delete all that and he'll download
more of my past into my mind, but I'm saying all that to say
Sometimes pleasantly we look in the in the past, but sometimes not so pleasantly
we're so stuck on everything that went wrong and
It it's ruining our our lives because we're stuck on all the wrong
So I want to tell all you who are doing that keep your eyes forward
Don't look back. It causes problems. It causes
Issues when you constantly look back or remind I'm gonna give you
I'm gonna ask a question and then I'm gonna give you an example
so have you ever been into an argument with your mate your spouse your significant other and
You want to remind them of what they've done before that you forgave them for let's say they cheated
And you guys work past the cheating, but every time they do something now you're like, yeah, I
Just like when you were with so-and-so and you're throwing it back in their face or
you know that something went wrong in their life and
You are bringing it up every time you get mad at them or they do something
And maybe you don't bring it up, but it's the first thing that pops in your mind
I shouldn't have never gave them another chance
You're living in the past once you forgive something somebody of something you've got to let it go you cannot
Throw it in their face. You cannot remind them of it because you've moved past that
I'm great for that. I'm great for letting things go
I might think of it every once in a while, but I don't throw it in somebody else's face
Because once I tell you you're forgiven and we've moved past it. We've moved past it
That's the question I want to ask you. Do you do that? If so stop it immediately
Stop it immediately stop reminding people of what they've done
That you've forgiven them for and if you didn't forgive them and you you're still with them
You're dead wrong. Why be with them if you're not going to forgive them if
You're not going to forgive them and it's been a year two years now
If you haven't forgiven them and it just happened three days ago. Okay
Okay, how are you going to move past it?
Have a discussion about how you're going to move past it because if you're not going to you need to let them go
No need to suffer and make them suffer in the process
Now I want to give you guys an example totally different example
I was probably
25
Between 25 and 27 and I was on my way to visit a friend and I had this cute little sports car
And I'm driving down the street never had an accident never a ticket nothing in my life
and I see her walking down the sidewalk and
I hunk and she she sees me and she's waving and I'm waving y'all should see me right now
I'm waving and looking like I see her but she hunks and
she's waving and
I'm waving and I'm looking at her and when I look ahead again
traffic has come to a complete stop and
I hit the car in front of me I crash into the car in front of me and
I hit the car so hard in front of me my car
It spun out of control
And when it spun out of control it took me across traffic going in the opposite direction
And I ended up between a tree and
A light pole my car ended up right in between those two things praise the Lord it didn't hit either one
But what I'm getting to is I took my eyes off of what was in front of me
To look at her walking so I ended up looking behind me and I crashed and that caused
Geico to not only pay the car that I hit which had zero damage
It was an old-school car with zero damage
But the police officer I'm gonna tell y'all how shady things people can be the police officer asked the guy I hit
Are you okay? And he said yeah, I'm fine. I'm fine
He was more concerned about me and the police officer said are you sure you're fine and the guy said yeah, I'm fine
I'm fine and the police officer said are you sure?
For the third time your neck doesn't hurt your back doesn't hurt because you know if you're hurt it can come later and
You know that her insurance if she has it will take care of it. So of course then the guy. Oh, yeah
Yeah, okay, and the insurance ended up paying $10,000 because the guy had neck and back pain not even mad
My car was totaled. I
Took my eyes of what was in front of me to look behind me
That's what happens you guys when you constantly live in the past
You're taking your eyes off of what's going on right now and what's in front of you
to live in the past and
You're crashing and you're crashing because you're not enjoying your moment
You're not enjoying your today. You're not enjoying your now
Stop crashing stop looking behind you stop looking over there stop worrying about the joneses
Stop worrying about the jacksons the jefferson's
move on up in
due time
We're always worried about what's going on
Next door what what our friends are doing?
Why are they prospering and we're not because we're trying to live our lives through them
Lift the life God gave you living your purpose living your now
living your now
If you keep living in your past, you're not gonna enjoy your present
I did that podcast when yesterday comes
That's for everybody who's living in their past because they can't even get the yesterday
They're living in last week in the month before in the year before
Trying to fix that instead of just saying okay, I made those mistakes, but today's a new day
Today is a new day. I'm living in my now
I'm living in my purpose so that my tomorrow can be better. I'm gonna enjoy today
and
Every mistake I make today. I am gonna apologize for it and then do better tomorrow
Because once again if you're striving for perfection, I
Hate to be the bearer bad news. You're not gonna make it
So just living your best purpose today
Live your life best life
Today and then tomorrow strive for better in the next day
But the keywords are your
Today not there today not your
yes, there's
last
previous
From here on it's okay to reminisce about the past
It's okay. We all do it
We all laugh about what we've been where we've been what we've done
We mourn for that young girl a young boy. We were we mourn for them, right?
but we see what
Growing up
maturing
Does it does this it brings about happiness because we know those mistakes we made
Let them go move on past them and
And live for now. I
Promise you guys once you let go of yes, there's
Past last
previouses and
You're living in your moment and you're living the best life, you know how to live you'll be so happy
once you
Stop allowing other people to hold you to what you used to be
How you used to be what you used to say and then they try to pull other people into that
Once you tell them go ahead and live your life and live in your past
But you're not gonna hold me to my past
And you keep it moving
Boy when I tell you joy will not stop coming
Grace mercy all that you're gonna have it for yourself for others and move on
But when we allow other people to tell us where we've been
Constantly and constantly want to tell other people what we've done us
and
We let it bother us
We're going to keep living our lives
For that person to forgive us for something they didn't even have a part to play
Stop letting other people hold you to your yes, there's
Living your today's now. I've already told you guys about the car crash and I already told you about forgiving people and
Meaning it when you say it don't throw things in their face the last thing I want to tell you
The last thing I want to tell you is to love you
Love yourself with your entire heart
If you do not love yourself
It is impossible to love others. I know that for a fact. I used to think
All right, it's okay for me to love my kids
But I don't like me and I don't love me
It's impossible to really give them love. You've got to love you first
You tell you the order if you are a religious person you believe in God you love him more than anybody
You got to because you got to thank him for all the people
He's put around you got to thank him for your mom your dad
You got to thank him for your kids your siblings. You've got to thank him for your aunties and your cousins your uncles your grandparents
He's the reason that you have
And
Then you gotta love you so that you can properly love everybody else
Forgive yourself for all your wrongs forgive yourself
Forgive others
Release that
And then I promise you there will be no stopping you my motto it's on my
On my business cards, it's on my website. It's on my salutations. It's when I am motivated. There's no stopping me
Can man person stop me no mama's no daddy's no brothers no no sisters no cousins
Nobody can stop me from what God's purpose for me because I don't let anybody hold me back anymore
Anymore nobody can hold me back anymore
Can you say the same
It's me it's your girl Sonya McQueen with your mind your body your choice you can find me at Sonya
M at ledbymotivation.com or led by motivation 07 at Gmo.com
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What are you doing with it? Make sure it's positive?
Have a good day on purpose