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Good morning. Good afternoon and good evening everybody. It's your girl Sonya McQueen with it your life. What are you doing with it?

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I want to talk to you about looking back

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Looking back over your life.  looking at the past and this week,  I think I have a theme going. I'm not sure though.  I was out for a

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Six mile walk. I didn't run at all. I was out for a six mile walk and these

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Ideas kept popping in my head. So I was putting them in my phone and

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I I'm thinking about the podcast. I just did recently and

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Like four or five of them. This seems to fit the theme. So I'm not mad at myself. I'm gonna keep it going

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But I want to talk to you about

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Looking forward eyes forward, right? So we all have a habit of

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Of thinking and reminiscing, you know, we all do it. I think about my youth

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I wish I remembered more of it from probably age. I don't know my husband remembers stuff from when he was three and four

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I think that's crazy, but I don't remember anything

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before

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That's a lie, I remember some friendships I remember like six friendships from

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Maybe middle school, but I don't remember middle school itself. I don't really remember high school

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But I remember

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Two friends from high school. I wasn't unpopular, but I wasn't the most popular person

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I just went to school, you know, nobody mess with me. Nobody picked on me. I didn't mess with anybody

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I didn't pick on anybody. I'm sure when I walked in the halls people spoke to me and and

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Probably walked with me to my locker and I remember people picking me up going to school

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I just don't remember who they were because I didn't have my own car. I

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Remember more than anything the house I lived in in Colorado and the trailer I lived in Missouri. I

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try to remember more of my youth and

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Sometimes when I'm writing

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I'm writing things and God will tap me a month later and say go back and delete all that and he'll download

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more of my past into my mind, but I'm saying all that to say

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Sometimes pleasantly we look in the in the past, but sometimes not so pleasantly

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we're so stuck on everything that went wrong and

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It it's ruining our our lives because we're stuck on all the wrong

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So I want to tell all you who are doing that keep your eyes forward

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Don't look back. It causes problems. It causes

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Issues when you constantly look back or remind I'm gonna give you

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I'm gonna ask a question and then I'm gonna give you an example

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so have you ever been into an argument with your mate your spouse your significant other and

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You want to remind them of what they've done before that you forgave them for let's say they cheated

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And you guys work past the cheating, but every time they do something now you're like, yeah, I

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Just like when you were with so-and-so and you're throwing it back in their face or

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you know that something went wrong in their life and

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You are bringing it up every time you get mad at them or they do something

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And maybe you don't bring it up, but it's the first thing that pops in your mind

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I shouldn't have never gave them another chance

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You're living in the past once you forgive something somebody of something you've got to let it go you cannot

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Throw it in their face. You cannot remind them of it because you've moved past that

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I'm great for that. I'm great for letting things go

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I might think of it every once in a while, but I don't throw it in somebody else's face

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Because once I tell you you're forgiven and we've moved past it. We've moved past it

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That's the question I want to ask you. Do you do that? If so stop it immediately

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Stop it immediately stop reminding people of what they've done

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That you've forgiven them for and if you didn't forgive them and you you're still with them

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You're dead wrong. Why be with them if you're not going to forgive them if

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You're not going to forgive them and it's been a year two years now

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If you haven't forgiven them and it just happened three days ago. Okay

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Okay, how are you going to move past it?

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Have a discussion about how you're going to move past it because if you're not going to you need to let them go

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No need to suffer and make them suffer in the process

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Now I want to give you guys an example totally different example

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I was probably

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Between 25 and 27 and I was on my way to visit a friend and I had this cute little sports car

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And I'm driving down the street never had an accident never a ticket nothing in my life

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and I see her walking down the sidewalk and

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I hunk and she she sees me and she's waving and I'm waving y'all should see me right now

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I'm waving and looking like I see her but she hunks and

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she's waving and

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I'm waving and I'm looking at her and when I look ahead again

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traffic has come to a complete stop and

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I hit the car in front of me I crash into the car in front of me and

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I hit the car so hard in front of me my car

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It spun out of control

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And when it spun out of control it took me across traffic going in the opposite direction

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And I ended up between a tree and

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A light pole my car ended up right in between those two things praise the Lord it didn't hit either one

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But what I'm getting to is I took my eyes off of what was in front of me

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To look at her walking so I ended up looking behind me and I crashed and that caused

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Geico to not only pay the car that I hit which had zero damage

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It was an old-school car with zero damage

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But the police officer I'm gonna tell y'all how shady things people can be the police officer asked the guy I hit

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Are you okay? And he said yeah, I'm fine. I'm fine

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He was more concerned about me and the police officer said are you sure you're fine and the guy said yeah, I'm fine

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I'm fine and the police officer said are you sure?

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For the third time your neck doesn't hurt your back doesn't hurt because you know if you're hurt it can come later and

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You know that her insurance if she has it will take care of it. So of course then the guy. Oh, yeah

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Yeah, okay, and the insurance ended up paying $10,000 because the guy had neck and back pain not even mad

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My car was totaled. I

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Took my eyes of what was in front of me to look behind me

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That's what happens you guys when you constantly live in the past

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You're taking your eyes off of what's going on right now and what's in front of you

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to live in the past and

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You're crashing and you're crashing because you're not enjoying your moment

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You're not enjoying your today. You're not enjoying your now

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Stop crashing stop looking behind you stop looking over there stop worrying about the joneses

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Stop worrying about the jacksons the jefferson's

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move on up in

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due time

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We're always worried about what's going on

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Next door what what our friends are doing?

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Why are they prospering and we're not because we're trying to live our lives through them

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Lift the life God gave you living your purpose living your now

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living your now

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If you keep living in your past, you're not gonna enjoy your present

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I did that podcast when yesterday comes

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That's for everybody who's living in their past because they can't even get the yesterday

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They're living in last week in the month before in the year before

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Trying to fix that instead of just saying okay, I made those mistakes, but today's a new day

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Today is a new day. I'm living in my now

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I'm living in my purpose so that my tomorrow can be better. I'm gonna enjoy today

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and

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Every mistake I make today. I am gonna apologize for it and then do better tomorrow

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Because once again if you're striving for perfection, I

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Hate to be the bearer bad news. You're not gonna make it

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So just living your best purpose today

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Live your life best life

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Today and then tomorrow strive for better in the next day

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But the keywords are your

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Today not there today not your

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yes, there's

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From here on it's okay to reminisce about the past

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It's okay. We all do it

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We all laugh about what we've been where we've been what we've done

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We mourn for that young girl a young boy. We were we mourn for them, right?

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but we see what

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Growing up

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maturing

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Does it does this it brings about happiness because we know those mistakes we made

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Let them go move on past them and

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And live for now. I

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Promise you guys once you let go of yes, there's

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Past last

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previouses and

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You're living in your moment and you're living the best life, you know how to live you'll be so happy

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once you

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Stop allowing other people to hold you to what you used to be

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How you used to be what you used to say and then they try to pull other people into that

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Once you tell them go ahead and live your life and live in your past

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But you're not gonna hold me to my past

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And you keep it moving

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Boy when I tell you joy will not stop coming

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Grace mercy all that you're gonna have it for yourself for others and move on

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But when we allow other people to tell us where we've been

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Constantly and constantly want to tell other people what we've done us

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We let it bother us

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We're going to keep living our lives

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For that person to forgive us for something they didn't even have a part to play

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Stop letting other people hold you to your yes, there's

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Living your today's now. I've already told you guys about the car crash and I already told you about forgiving people and

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Meaning it when you say it don't throw things in their face the last thing I want to tell you

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The last thing I want to tell you is to love you

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Love yourself with your entire heart

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If you do not love yourself

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It is impossible to love others. I know that for a fact. I used to think

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All right, it's okay for me to love my kids

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But I don't like me and I don't love me

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It's impossible to really give them love. You've got to love you first

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You tell you the order if you are a religious person you believe in God you love him more than anybody

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You got to because you got to thank him for all the people

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He's put around you got to thank him for your mom your dad

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You got to thank him for your kids your siblings. You've got to thank him for your aunties and your cousins your uncles your grandparents

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He's the reason that you have

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Then you gotta love you so that you can properly love everybody else

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Forgive yourself for all your wrongs forgive yourself

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Forgive others

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Release that

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And then I promise you there will be no stopping you my motto it's on my

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On my business cards, it's on my website. It's on my salutations. It's when I am motivated. There's no stopping me

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Can man person stop me no mama's no daddy's no brothers no no sisters no cousins

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Nobody can stop me from what God's purpose for me because I don't let anybody hold me back anymore

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Anymore nobody can hold me back anymore

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Can you say the same

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It's me it's your girl Sonya McQueen with your mind your body your choice you can find me at Sonya

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M at ledbymotivation.com or led by motivation 07 at Gmo.com

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Hit me up. I love to get emails

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I always reply if you want to be on the podcast hit me up tell me what your subject is and I will have you on the show

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If you have a comment about one of the podcast go ahead and send that to me, but it is your life

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What are you doing with it? Make sure it's positive?

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Have a good day on purpose