Good morning, good afternoon, and good evening, everybody.
It's your girl, Sonya McQueen with It's Your Life.
What are you doing with it?
Now I say that all the time,
but I honestly don't remember the name of this season,
but y'all know this is your mind, your body, your choice.
And today I come to you.
I wanna speak to you about the world's troubles, right?
We're all born to die.
And what we do in between the time we are of able-minded
or we have the ability to make decisions for ourselves
or live in a way where our thoughts are forming our future
and our actions are before us.
So, you know, we are responsible for our words,
our actions, our movements from that time until we die.
What do you do with that time?
Because if you didn't know this, I have news for y'all.
No matter how much you work to make all the money
in the world and get all the riches
and drive the nicest cars that's nice while you're here,
none of that's going in the casket with you
or none of it's gonna be burned up with you
unless you, you know, you get cremating,
you say, burn my cars and burn this and burn,
then it might be, but then the value is nothing.
What's most important while you're here
is the quality time you're spending
with your friends and your family and other loved ones,
just the loved ones and the work you do
to stay behind when you're gone.
You know, I did a podcast not too long ago
and it stemmed off of this movie I watched
and I think it was called Generation Well
and it was just about all the things people do
to become wealthy and it followed some of these people
through a span of 25 years and how they thought then
and how they reached the climax of what they thought
they wanted financially turned out to be nothing
but a burden in the end.
And I can honestly say, without missing a beat,
I've never prayed for money.
I've always prayed for enough just to, just enough.
You know, I want to be able, if I feel like going to the store
and spending $300 on worthless items at Sam's,
I wanna be able to do it without panicking
or without the bank sending me a notice.
And that same day, if I wanna go to Target
and spend another 200 and I wanna go to Coles and spend
and I wanna go buy, I wanna be able to do it,
but I'm sensible, I'm sensible.
So most everything I buy is for our household.
You know, I have enough clothes
to wear something different every day of the year.
I don't have any business going clothes shopping.
I haven't gained or lost any weight.
I have enough shoes to go with all those clothes.
So I have no business buying shoes, none are dry rod.
You get the point, you get the point.
So my biggest thing is while I'm here,
I need to help others who struggle
because I don't struggle.
That is why what I'm doing with this business,
the Lead By Motivation Outreach,
to help able-minded homeless people get back on their feet
and get back in their own places with a job
is so imperative to me.
It's not about me.
This is a 501, I'm not gonna get rich off of this,
but this is my life's purpose.
You know, if you look for riches to make you happy,
you'll never find it.
You'll find the riches
and you might even find your happiness,
but you're gonna find more people with their hands out,
more people wondering why you're not doing this for them
and that for them and this for them.
It's just like that.
That's the way this world goes.
When you thrive and you try to learn from money, you fail.
When you're making money, you're God.
It's what you're worshiping and what you're going after.
You've already lost.
You know, what is most delightful to me
is what I do in my works.
This isn't gonna be a long podcast
and I'm sure a lot of you probably have lost you,
but I promise you, I promise you,
your needs will be met.
Your needs will be met
if you're not so selfish with your actions.
Don't be selfish with your thoughts.
Me, me, I, I, me, I, me.
You know, be loving and caring, us, we, they, them.
And I'm not talking what you, your pronouns,
I'm talking life.
I'm speaking life.
This is so profound.
Let me tell you guys how profound this podcast is.
I wrote down in my notes
because sometimes I'm out for a run or a walk
or I'm exercising and a thought hits me and it's so strong.
I put it in my notes in my phone
so that I could speak on it later.
And that's what I did with this podcast.
It hit me and then yesterday,
I received a text message
from somebody who I swear were related,
but the text message sent me to a link
which was basically about this same thing,
about you being born
and you really having to make choices
to be this type of person in life or that type of person,
but no matter what the struggle is,
you know, no matter what,
this is a true statement.
When you're born, you're born into a struggle.
You're gonna struggle.
You're gonna have valleys.
It is written.
I don't care how well off your parents are
and how well off you are,
you're still gonna have struggles in this life,
but you've gotta take it.
That is one of the reasons you're born in this life
because there's no perfection here.
There's no perfection.
I don't care who's listening to me.
If you tell people you're perfect,
you're a liar, which makes you imperfect
because you're a liar and perfect people don't lie.
There's no perfection in this world.
There's none.
So you're born to have some struggles
and then you die.
And based on what you believe in,
I believe in God.
I believe that we're either gonna go to heaven or hell.
That's my belief.
I won't know if I'm right until I'm dead
and if I'm wrong, I won't know
because I'll just be dead.
So I'd rather live my life believing in something
than live my life believing in nothing
and then die and find out I was wrong.
What's the harm?
What's the harm in believing in an afterlife,
living and being with God in that afterlife
and living an eternity in happiness?
Then to say, you know what?
I don't believe in God.
I don't believe in that.
And then you die and then you're like, oh shit.
I didn't say the word of God.
Oh shit, I was wrong.
Cause now you can't back battle.
It's too late.
It's too late and now you're in hell.
But I also know that when I was stressed in my life
for decades, stressed and angry and not sleeping
and doing whatever I could to try to get sleep
and that's ambi and y'all.
And then I probably smoked weed
probably 10 to 12 times in my life.
Anything I could to get some sleep, not sleeping.
It's showing on my body, it's showing in my face,
it's showing in my attitude, my personality.
Stress, stress, stress.
When I realized this is just part of your life,
now how are you gonna deal with it?
Are you gonna keep dealing with stress this away?
And affecting your quality of life and not enjoying today?
Or are you going to learn how to live with this
and maneuver and pray and let go?
It took me to being 40, but I learned to do the latter.
I learned to do the latter.
I learned to pray and release.
Smile and keep moving because I know
that valley I'm gonna come out of
and one day I'm gonna be in another valley.
And if I stress every time I'm in a valley,
I'm never gonna come out
because I'm constantly gonna be stressing
and upset and worried and thinking
about what happened yesterday and every yesterday
instead of living in my today and waiting on my tomorrow.
I've learned to live in the present and not in the past.
Not to worry about who's mad at me yesterday,
but no, I'm okay today.
And if they're still mad, that's their issue.
And if they're mad for a good reason to apologize
and for me to let it go,
I'm not gonna let somebody hold me hostage
to something I didn't apologize for.
If they didn't accept it, that's their right
and their prerogative.
But I'm not gonna keep holding on to it
and beating myself up for something that I've apologized for
because you guys know what?
I'm 53 today, I might not make it to 54.
We're about in Virgo season, that's my season.
I might not see the 54th birthday.
You think I wanna worry about who's mad at me?
Who's spreading rumors about me?
Who's lying on me?
Who's talking about me?
No, sir.
No, sir, God has put too many good people in my life.
Good people, great people, people who love me.
For me to keep worrying about who doesn't.
You think I'm gonna pray and worry
about how much money I have in the bank?
No, sir, because God has made it a point
ever since I prayed for having enough
for me to always have enough in the bank.
If you guys didn't know,
I have not received a paycheck since September.
I stopped working in December.
And I'll say that again.
I haven't received a paycheck since September
and I stopped working in December.
And there has not been a complaint in this household.
And I'm spending more money now
than I was spending when I was working,
bringing in six figures a year.
There's more money and less stress now because,
and I'm spending more, let me say that.
I'm spending more because I'm working on my own.
On my own businesses.
I'm tired of working for other people.
You guys, sometimes we complain about working
and we complain about working
and we keep going to the same thing.
And sometimes it's just us.
It's just us.
And sometimes it is the place.
But if you can't fix something,
stop complaining about it.
And I've said this before,
if you're gonna complain about something,
fix it and shut up.
If you can't fix it, let it go and shut up.
But the more you complain,
the more it weighs on you.
And the more it weighs on you,
the less happy you are.
The less happy you are, the more stress and anxiety.
And once again, you're gonna die.
That sounds so harsh, but it's true.
It's true.
I might be here in 50 years.
That's right, I said it.
I might be here to 103,
but I won't be here in 60 years.
I could almost guarantee you.
I won't be here in 70.
I'm damn sure of that.
It is what it is, you guys.
So don't spend your life chasing after money.
Chase your dreams.
And a lot of times your dreams will bring you that money.
But if you are putting all your eggs in a basket
to live for money, you're dying slowly.
And you're asking for more stress than you can imagine.
You guys might think that sounds horrible, but it's not.
It's not.
If your whole basis of living is for money and power,
you can't take those things in a grave with you.
Look to your left and right.
If you're around people right now, that's who you live for.
If your wife, your husband, your kids, your grandma,
your auntie, your cousins, your friends are around you,
that's who you pray for.
That's who you lift up.
That's your purpose.
To bring better tomorrow's to the people around you,
not just yourself.
The world is full of people.
If the only person you're concerned about in life is you,
there's so many words I can call you selfish.
Is probably the best.
There's another word I was thinking of, narcissist.
You are an alpha living in a world of one.
Don't be like that, y'all.
While you're here, try to leave a legacy.
Try to leave positivity.
I say it all the time.
Everybody should write a book.
And if you don't want to write a book for purchasing,
write it for your family.
Get it, copy written and print it just for your family
so you're leaving a legacy or something for your family.
You're leaving a legacy or something for your family.
I said it, I wrote a book of recipes.
And I could say this,
because I don't think any of my kids listen to my dang on podcast.
But I wrote recipes that says recipes for mom would love
about 10 to 15 years ago.
And my kids live on that book.
But since then, I've made up so many more recipes.
I could really make an entire cookbook.
I have chicken recipes, beef recipes, pork recipes.
I don't have any lamb.
Sorry. I have recipes for gluten free.
My daughter is whatever a pest,
I was about to say pest, a religion.
I can't think of what she is, but she does eat shrimp and fish.
But she doesn't eat any chicken, any poultry, any beef, any pork.
I wrote a whole section for her.
I have a whole section on vegetables, baking and dessert.
I'm going to put that in a hardcover book with my kids pictures on it.
And they're going to get that for Christmas this year.
That's what they're getting.
And I'm so excited for this because I know they'll use it.
And I know something they'll keep forever and they'll give it to their kids.
And their kids can keep it forever.
And they can add to it.
That's even the, they can add to it.
And make another book.
So that is something I want to leave in addition to the books.
I've already written that anybody can buy.
And I'm still writing in these podcasts.
But what I really am excited about is what I'm doing for the homeless.
And I really do hope it spreads from state to state.
And after I'm gone, they're still led by motivation outreach.
That other people are running and doing great things and that the homeless population just
dwindles down.
Dwindles down.
I'm not pacifying the homeless or just feeding them and putting them back out.
But I'm actually changing their lives forever.
That's what I want to leave.
What do you want to leave?
What do you want to do?
And if you're still stuck on rimming your own house, you're still stuck on your own
pockets.
Hey, I ain't even mad at you.
You do you.
But remember while you're doing you and you're only thinking of you and you're only praying
for you and your pockets are only lying for you, other people are praying for you and
they're hoping for better for you.
They're hoping for better because there's no way you're happy just thinking about yourself
all the time.
That's my belief.
I could be dead or wrong.
I could be dead.
This isn't for everybody but it's for somebody.
Pray for other people.
Do the best you can in this life.
Live for today.
Let yesterday go.
People who are mad at you.
If you've done wrong, apologize and then you let it go.
You don't let people pigeon hold you in their feelings.
You don't do that.
You don't let people hold you in a chokehold because they feel some kind of way.
Don't do that to yourself.
Find your happiness.
Find your peace and you live in it and pray for others.
This is your girl, Sonia McQueen.
You know you can find me at Sonia M at LeadbyMotivation.com or LeadbyMotivation07 at Gmail.com.
You could go to our website.
We have one up.
The organization one isn't up yet but we have LeadbyMotivation.com and always hit me
up if you have a question, an idea or thought about a podcast.
I love to hear from you.
Have a great day on purpose.