1 00:00:00,000 --> 00:00:07,880 Good morning. Good afternoon and good evening everybody. It's your girl Sonya McQueen with your mind your body your choice 2 00:00:07,880 --> 00:00:13,760 I know you're probably thinking I don't even know the name of my podcast because sometimes I say it's your life 3 00:00:13,760 --> 00:00:19,700 What are you gonna do with it? But my plan originally was to change the name of the podcast 4 00:00:20,320 --> 00:00:22,320 every season 5 00:00:22,580 --> 00:00:24,980 But have the the main name 6 00:00:24,980 --> 00:00:29,240 Your mind your body your choice because I speak about things of your mind 7 00:00:29,240 --> 00:00:34,740 I speak about what you're doing with your body and the choices we make but I keep forgetting y'all 8 00:00:35,920 --> 00:00:38,080 Anyway today, I want to come and talk to you about 9 00:00:39,840 --> 00:00:41,840 Forget what I said 10 00:00:42,080 --> 00:00:45,520 About shutting people down. Let's protect people. I 11 00:00:45,520 --> 00:00:53,740 Did not want to get up and do a podcast this morning. I did not I did not I don't even know what day you're gonna get it but 12 00:00:55,620 --> 00:01:01,140 The need to get up and speak about this wouldn't pass me and I don't know why but I 13 00:01:01,420 --> 00:01:06,900 Don't question things anymore. That's gonna make one of my listeners really proud for me to say 14 00:01:08,260 --> 00:01:10,260 You know how previously I said 15 00:01:10,740 --> 00:01:11,980 when 16 00:01:11,980 --> 00:01:19,700 I said in people who just like to talk about other people call you or come see you and want to bash 17 00:01:19,900 --> 00:01:23,060 Somebody else how you shut them down either a 18 00:01:24,500 --> 00:01:26,500 You tell them you don't want to hear it 19 00:01:26,780 --> 00:01:32,460 You tell them you don't want to hear it be you call that person up and say hey, you know, let's get this straight 20 00:01:32,460 --> 00:01:38,020 Let's let's all be on one accord which will forever shut that other person down 21 00:01:38,020 --> 00:01:45,100 Nobody likes to be embarrassed and nobody likes to be outed. I don't care who they're speaking about 22 00:01:45,700 --> 00:01:52,660 You have family members like I said a couple weeks ago who call and speak about other family members to family members and 23 00:01:53,180 --> 00:01:58,020 Listen and they'll talk junk about their own cousin their own brother their own mother 24 00:01:58,420 --> 00:02:05,700 Whomever they will talk so negatively about that person instead of bringing value love and 25 00:02:05,700 --> 00:02:09,100 And understanding back into their own family 26 00:02:09,100 --> 00:02:14,700 They'd rather be on some foolishness and I for the life of me do not understand that 27 00:02:15,300 --> 00:02:17,960 Especially because I was such a major part of that 28 00:02:18,340 --> 00:02:22,340 Not the giver but the recipient in my own family 29 00:02:22,340 --> 00:02:25,580 So it troubles me and it throws me off 30 00:02:25,820 --> 00:02:31,780 But you know friends do it people in churches do it you got a church member in the choir stand 31 00:02:32,340 --> 00:02:33,980 dogging another 32 00:02:33,980 --> 00:02:35,980 church choir member 33 00:02:36,860 --> 00:02:38,860 In church 34 00:02:39,300 --> 00:02:47,060 So, you know, God forbid we think that normal everyday people are gonna live right, but it's possible y'all I 35 00:02:48,780 --> 00:02:53,740 Said before you know shut people down, but I want to add a layer to that 36 00:02:54,300 --> 00:02:56,300 Let's protect each other. I 37 00:02:57,020 --> 00:02:59,020 Am listening to people 38 00:02:59,020 --> 00:03:08,020 call me in such a state of depression or sadness and it doesn't help when they know people that they care about or 39 00:03:08,780 --> 00:03:16,500 Deemed his friends or even people you don't know now on social media dog and out other people. I was telling my husband 40 00:03:17,740 --> 00:03:25,900 One of my Facebook friends posted three women with real profiles. These are three real women not stars 41 00:03:25,900 --> 00:03:33,340 Not people that these are three people you could actually go to their page because their page names were mentioned and 42 00:03:33,540 --> 00:03:35,540 The three women were all facing 43 00:03:36,860 --> 00:03:40,540 Their butts were facing the camera. That's the best way to describe it 44 00:03:40,540 --> 00:03:45,540 It's like somebody's taking a picture of you from the back, but they're looking over their shoulder at the camera 45 00:03:45,700 --> 00:03:50,580 So they're showing, you know, they're behind and I think it said 46 00:03:51,140 --> 00:03:53,940 the only thing I have to offer pose and 47 00:03:53,940 --> 00:03:58,540 I laughed that loud when I read it at first, but then I realized oh my god 48 00:03:59,380 --> 00:04:07,740 People can actually type these women's names into their browser or their Facebook or Instagram whatever it was on and they can 49 00:04:08,900 --> 00:04:12,740 Comment directly to those people and I just thought how cool 50 00:04:13,460 --> 00:04:20,240 To do that. Do you know the negativity those women probably receive just based on one person 51 00:04:20,820 --> 00:04:22,820 taking their screenshots and 52 00:04:22,820 --> 00:04:25,060 And putting them on their page. Oh 53 00:04:25,900 --> 00:04:29,980 my gosh, I just I felt so bad for them women and I 54 00:04:31,140 --> 00:04:34,100 Don't know them. I don't know if that's the best they have to offer 55 00:04:34,340 --> 00:04:40,620 But I do know that that was something they posted on their own pages and I've said before if you don't like what somebody posts 56 00:04:41,220 --> 00:04:43,220 Keep scrolling 57 00:04:43,220 --> 00:04:45,220 unfriend them, but don't 58 00:04:45,540 --> 00:04:47,540 Make a mockery of them 59 00:04:47,540 --> 00:04:54,620 Don't all of a sudden now you want to talk about them or or start making negative comments about them. It's their page 60 00:04:55,700 --> 00:04:58,860 I've said it a million times and somebody wants to post 61 00:05:00,060 --> 00:05:01,780 200 posts a day 62 00:05:01,780 --> 00:05:06,900 talking about just woke up like this, but you know, they've been woke for hour or how you wake up and 63 00:05:07,980 --> 00:05:11,980 Now you sitting up almost perfectly taking a picture of yourself with your eyes closed 64 00:05:11,980 --> 00:05:17,780 Come on now, but if that's what they want to do, let them do it. It's their page keep 65 00:05:18,620 --> 00:05:22,540 scrolling if you don't like it, we know the person who 66 00:05:23,940 --> 00:05:31,580 Follows other people to see what they're doing on their page so they can outdo them let them out. Do you you have a whole life ahead of you? 67 00:05:31,660 --> 00:05:39,180 So what they might have more friends so what they might get more likes who cares if you are posting for likes 68 00:05:39,180 --> 00:05:42,660 You've really got to rethink your life 69 00:05:44,060 --> 00:05:45,060 seriously 70 00:05:45,060 --> 00:05:47,060 What I do know though is 71 00:05:47,620 --> 00:05:50,300 when we see things now instead of just 72 00:05:50,980 --> 00:05:55,140 Even telling people no, we've got to protect each other 73 00:05:55,140 --> 00:05:58,500 We've got to protect people and call out 74 00:05:59,260 --> 00:06:05,980 People doing wrong things. So yeah, I inbox that friend. I was like come on you're better than that 75 00:06:05,980 --> 00:06:10,620 And of course he said it was just a reposess. It was a repos, but 76 00:06:11,940 --> 00:06:13,940 Watch what you repost 77 00:06:14,700 --> 00:06:18,500 What business does a 50 year old have of 78 00:06:19,820 --> 00:06:22,980 Trying to bring shame to somebody else 79 00:06:24,340 --> 00:06:30,940 Is it your position? Is it your job to shame others or out others? 80 00:06:30,940 --> 00:06:36,620 I was watching the news and I didn't get the full effect of it, but apparently 81 00:06:37,540 --> 00:06:38,900 a 82 00:06:38,900 --> 00:06:40,900 Guy was voguing 83 00:06:40,980 --> 00:06:45,660 He was voguing and another guy didn't like it. So he killed him 84 00:06:48,420 --> 00:06:52,300 You killed somebody because you didn't like what they represent 85 00:06:53,500 --> 00:06:59,380 Because they were supposed to represent you is that what it is? We're supposed to represent each other now 86 00:06:59,380 --> 00:07:02,700 We're supposed to be cookie-cutters. We're supposed to be 87 00:07:04,660 --> 00:07:06,260 The same 88 00:07:06,260 --> 00:07:13,420 You know, God forbid you're you're a lesbian. You're a homosexual. You're transgender 89 00:07:13,860 --> 00:07:15,860 You are 90 00:07:16,060 --> 00:07:18,060 Bisexual you are 91 00:07:18,100 --> 00:07:20,100 Who you are? 92 00:07:21,580 --> 00:07:24,300 If it doesn't fit my bill it's not acceptable 93 00:07:24,300 --> 00:07:30,060 It's not acceptable for a man to want to be with another man 94 00:07:30,060 --> 00:07:34,860 It's not acceptable for a woman to be and then everybody wants to cite the Bible 95 00:07:35,420 --> 00:07:39,260 Everybody wants to cite the Bible. Well good, but if you're not God 96 00:07:40,540 --> 00:07:47,340 Who are you to judge because you have your own issues? You have your own turmoil. You have your own 97 00:07:48,940 --> 00:07:51,020 mistakes or 98 00:07:51,020 --> 00:07:58,420 Downfalls or what other people deem as downfalls because who are you to say that the life somebody else's living is wrong? 99 00:07:59,340 --> 00:08:01,340 But let's just pretend for a second it is 100 00:08:03,020 --> 00:08:05,020 Worry about the person in the mirror 101 00:08:06,340 --> 00:08:08,340 Remember the glass house 102 00:08:10,020 --> 00:08:14,180 With the cracker roof in the cotton floors, that's where you're living 103 00:08:15,420 --> 00:08:17,420 Worry about your floors 104 00:08:17,420 --> 00:08:21,860 Getting wet and giving way worry about your roof 105 00:08:22,540 --> 00:08:28,020 Getting wet and giving away and worry about somebody throwing a stone in your home 106 00:08:28,580 --> 00:08:30,420 bouncing a ball and 107 00:08:30,420 --> 00:08:32,620 Shattering it worry about you 108 00:08:33,300 --> 00:08:38,740 And stop worrying about other people but for those of you who don't cash judgment 109 00:08:39,460 --> 00:08:42,180 Protect the people who are being judged 110 00:08:42,900 --> 00:08:44,900 Don't just turn a blind eye 111 00:08:44,900 --> 00:08:46,340 forget that 112 00:08:46,340 --> 00:08:48,340 protect them 113 00:08:48,340 --> 00:08:53,860 People are killing themselves based on the way other people are treating them kids are killing themselves 114 00:08:55,140 --> 00:08:59,740 Based on the way the kids you're raising are treating them 115 00:09:00,660 --> 00:09:03,260 We're okay and kids from bullying other kids 116 00:09:04,420 --> 00:09:10,100 We're not checking our kids social media to see what they're doing to see who they're talking about to see how they're 117 00:09:10,660 --> 00:09:12,660 representing you on 118 00:09:13,340 --> 00:09:15,340 social media 119 00:09:15,340 --> 00:09:17,940 Forget how they're representing themselves 120 00:09:18,420 --> 00:09:23,660 You got a 14 15 16 year old child living under your roof and you check their social media 121 00:09:23,660 --> 00:09:28,340 They they're half neck and tongue out acting like Meg the stallion 122 00:09:29,340 --> 00:09:31,340 Come on now 123 00:09:31,580 --> 00:09:33,580 That's a reflection of you 124 00:09:35,260 --> 00:09:41,700 You got your child holding a oozy thinking this cool is fake and you up here. Oh, it was fake 125 00:09:41,700 --> 00:09:44,820 It was fake which I'll tripping off of we're tripping off of you 126 00:09:46,500 --> 00:09:49,740 Protecting your child holding a fake oozy on social media 127 00:09:51,300 --> 00:09:55,340 You got the child bullying your college age kid 128 00:09:56,300 --> 00:10:01,140 Posting all these pictures. They drunk they have passed out. They think it's funny 129 00:10:01,460 --> 00:10:09,580 You giving them accolades ha ha ha with them and they bully in the person who isn't doing that 130 00:10:09,580 --> 00:10:16,380 And you're on that bandwagon. We're looking at you and your parenting 131 00:10:20,100 --> 00:10:22,500 And we want to step in and help that child 132 00:10:24,340 --> 00:10:26,620 We want to show that child this isn't right 133 00:10:27,300 --> 00:10:33,780 They might not listen, but that's what we want. We want to raise the next generation to be 134 00:10:33,780 --> 00:10:40,580 Level-headed kids not listening to this rap music talking about poppin mollies 135 00:10:41,860 --> 00:10:43,860 busting guns 136 00:10:43,900 --> 00:10:51,140 They think it's fun now to get high because all these rappers say it is I love rap music. Don't take that wrong 137 00:10:53,180 --> 00:10:57,100 But I ain't around here popping nothing popping nothing 138 00:10:58,660 --> 00:11:02,380 I'm not you know, I was amazed I 139 00:11:02,380 --> 00:11:10,380 Don't watch videos, you know, I haven't watched videos in years music videos, but when I was young I loved music videos 140 00:11:10,380 --> 00:11:12,380 I remember 141 00:11:12,380 --> 00:11:18,380 And it was such a plethora. It was a mix. It was a beautiful mix. I remember watching Michael Jackson 142 00:11:18,380 --> 00:11:23,900 I remember watching Prince. I remember watching you too. I remember watching Rod Stewart 143 00:11:25,220 --> 00:11:29,660 All those videos were lovely all of them 144 00:11:29,660 --> 00:11:33,420 Now the music videos I 145 00:11:34,140 --> 00:11:39,420 Was scrolling on tick-tock don't ask me why but I don't know if it was tick-tock 146 00:11:39,420 --> 00:11:41,420 It was something I might have been on anyway 147 00:11:41,420 --> 00:11:47,740 It showed a video this guy had a video and all these women were half-naked 148 00:11:48,140 --> 00:11:54,060 They had these little bitty bikinis on and they were twerking and they were twerking on each other 149 00:11:54,060 --> 00:11:58,780 And they were humping this and they were humping that they were twerking this I can twerk. I'm a bad girl 150 00:11:58,780 --> 00:12:00,140 I can twerk 151 00:12:00,140 --> 00:12:05,820 But I'll be damned if I'm gonna do it to demean myself and that's how I feel 152 00:12:06,460 --> 00:12:12,060 Apparently that's not how they feel and I'm not knocking them. I promise you I'm not but I just thought 153 00:12:12,540 --> 00:12:20,260 What a long way we've come to where we just had music that we vibe to and used to love to watch the videos to where now 154 00:12:20,900 --> 00:12:22,900 these men have women 155 00:12:24,540 --> 00:12:26,140 Doing the most 156 00:12:26,140 --> 00:12:30,780 To be in a music video and there's so many of them what makes you stand out 157 00:12:30,780 --> 00:12:33,820 Oh, I'll tell you what makes you stand out when you do the most most 158 00:12:34,460 --> 00:12:39,500 Right, that's how super head got her start for doing the most most but then 159 00:12:40,780 --> 00:12:45,620 As I was sitting here with my mouth open because you know, I'm old I'm behind a 160 00:12:46,940 --> 00:12:53,980 Female that I I have some of her music her rap video came out and she was neck it almost 161 00:12:53,980 --> 00:12:55,980 I was like, what the hell? 162 00:12:56,220 --> 00:13:00,780 You are necking in your own video and you pop it and you twerk it and you cry 163 00:13:01,500 --> 00:13:02,940 y'all 164 00:13:02,940 --> 00:13:08,540 It is a new day and we've got to protect our kids from what they deem as 165 00:13:10,140 --> 00:13:12,060 This is it 166 00:13:12,060 --> 00:13:14,060 Is this really it 167 00:13:14,060 --> 00:13:16,060 Is this what? 168 00:13:16,380 --> 00:13:21,420 We want our kids to watch and emulate or do we want them to emulate? 169 00:13:21,420 --> 00:13:23,420 things that are more 170 00:13:24,940 --> 00:13:26,940 valuable like 171 00:13:28,460 --> 00:13:34,140 The videos or the singers or whatever that actually know they can keep their clothes on because 172 00:13:34,460 --> 00:13:39,180 Their songs are that powerful. I don't remember Whitney Houston ever being naked in a video or 173 00:13:40,300 --> 00:13:43,520 video in a bikini a thong 174 00:13:44,820 --> 00:13:46,580 Popping stuff 175 00:13:46,580 --> 00:13:52,460 But she is deemed one of the best singers ever think of some of the best singers I there too 176 00:13:52,460 --> 00:13:57,780 I've spoke about more than once here Jasmine Sullivan and Selena Johnson 177 00:13:59,420 --> 00:14:05,260 Even though they are highly rated I still think they're underrated right and they neck it for nobody 178 00:14:05,500 --> 00:14:11,500 But I see them getting invitations everywhere. You know why they are being 179 00:14:11,500 --> 00:14:18,180 Poised because of their voices and what they bring to the table not because of how many people they screwed in their 180 00:14:18,620 --> 00:14:22,420 Reputations or how naked they are and I don't want to go down this rabbit hole 181 00:14:22,420 --> 00:14:26,700 Which I don't even know why I started going down it other than to say 182 00:14:27,420 --> 00:14:29,420 If you have school-aged kids 183 00:14:30,180 --> 00:14:32,180 pay attention 184 00:14:32,540 --> 00:14:37,660 Pay attention to what they're valuing what they're looking at because what happens is after a while 185 00:14:37,660 --> 00:14:41,700 They're gonna want to start to look like that. They're gonna think that's what everybody is 186 00:14:42,460 --> 00:14:47,980 In love with I gotta have that big this or that small that 187 00:14:48,980 --> 00:14:49,940 and 188 00:14:49,940 --> 00:14:55,940 Then they're gonna start body shaming themselves and then their friends are gonna body shame them too if they don't have it and 189 00:14:56,580 --> 00:14:58,580 If you're not paying attention 190 00:14:58,580 --> 00:15:06,340 That depressed child is your child that sad child is your child 191 00:15:07,980 --> 00:15:10,140 Because we're not feeding our kids anymore 192 00:15:10,780 --> 00:15:15,900 What's right and that's the love themselves in the skin they are in 193 00:15:18,300 --> 00:15:25,620 Just the way they are now there's nothing wrong with some of us wanting to improve ourselves naturally 194 00:15:25,620 --> 00:15:31,820 I went to a wedding yesterday my husband and I and I took these pictures. I thought I looked fly, you know 195 00:15:32,900 --> 00:15:35,540 I'm a very basic person. I 196 00:15:36,100 --> 00:15:39,620 I've said it million times. I don't wear weaves. I'm not into makeup 197 00:15:39,740 --> 00:15:44,780 But I love to dress nice and I love hills so I curled my hair and 198 00:15:45,340 --> 00:15:49,340 Took one minute and 14 seconds to put on a little makeup and 199 00:15:50,060 --> 00:15:54,100 I took these pictures and I was like I look so fly and 200 00:15:54,100 --> 00:16:01,780 Then I got home and looked at the pictures and all I noticed was how big my belly has gotten and I thought oh my god 201 00:16:01,780 --> 00:16:06,180 I am so big on working out and exercising now 202 00:16:07,140 --> 00:16:13,060 That bothers me enough to know I need to get my butt back out there and start doing what I 203 00:16:13,540 --> 00:16:18,540 I've been doing all my life staying fit and exercising and taking care of myself 204 00:16:18,540 --> 00:16:20,860 I still exercise don't get me wrong 205 00:16:20,860 --> 00:16:25,460 But I haven't cared about what I was eating and it's been raining so much and it's been hot 206 00:16:25,860 --> 00:16:27,860 Those are great excuses 207 00:16:28,740 --> 00:16:30,740 It's raining it's hot 208 00:16:31,140 --> 00:16:37,060 It's this it's that but I have all this workout equipment in my house and there is 209 00:16:37,660 --> 00:16:42,860 In in the subdivision I live in there's a clubhouse with a weight room 210 00:16:43,660 --> 00:16:47,940 But I have excuses and I have all my kids my grandkids are here 211 00:16:47,940 --> 00:16:52,700 You know and I I can't do this and that because they're here, but they're excuses 212 00:16:52,740 --> 00:16:59,300 So when I looked at those pictures of myself, I could have body-shamed myself which I probably will do but not in a 213 00:16:59,540 --> 00:17:01,060 Really bad way 214 00:17:01,060 --> 00:17:07,180 What I noticed is the first thing I did I sent my friend a picture and she was like 215 00:17:07,540 --> 00:17:13,260 You upstage doing your husband upstage the bride and groom and my response was 216 00:17:13,860 --> 00:17:15,860 Look at that stomach 217 00:17:15,860 --> 00:17:17,460 I 218 00:17:17,460 --> 00:17:20,560 Pointed it out to her. I pointed it out 219 00:17:22,500 --> 00:17:25,780 We got to be careful about how we treat ourselves 220 00:17:26,460 --> 00:17:30,580 We got to be careful about how we allow people to treat us and talk to us 221 00:17:31,060 --> 00:17:35,460 Even when we see something we don't need other people pointing out our own imperfections 222 00:17:35,460 --> 00:17:41,420 And it doesn't help it when we point it out to them and then we I don't know what we expect 223 00:17:41,420 --> 00:17:46,580 I just expect you to agree with me, but a lot of people expect you to say no no no 224 00:17:47,540 --> 00:17:50,300 You look great. You're fabulous 225 00:17:51,980 --> 00:17:56,020 And when they don't get that they're setting themselves up for failure 226 00:17:56,460 --> 00:17:59,820 This podcast is about a few things you guys number one 227 00:18:00,820 --> 00:18:02,820 protecting each other 228 00:18:03,620 --> 00:18:07,740 Protecting each other not just walking away, but protecting each other 229 00:18:07,740 --> 00:18:13,700 If somebody called me right now and was you know what there's a great example 230 00:18:14,540 --> 00:18:20,780 There's a family member who used to call me and all they did was bad mouth other family members 231 00:18:20,780 --> 00:18:21,780 and 232 00:18:21,780 --> 00:18:27,660 I said one day listen all you ever do is talk negatively when you call me. That's it 233 00:18:27,660 --> 00:18:30,940 I hang up with you and I feel bad for people 234 00:18:30,940 --> 00:18:38,420 And it shouldn't be that way when you call me don't call me to talk bad about other people 235 00:18:38,420 --> 00:18:40,420 I don't want to hear it. I 236 00:18:42,180 --> 00:18:47,940 Swear to you that was about three and a half years ago and that person has never called me again, and I'm okay with that 237 00:18:49,580 --> 00:18:55,460 I'm sure they call other people who love that foolishness, but I am not on that 238 00:18:55,460 --> 00:19:01,540 When you embarrass somebody or stop them in their tracks 239 00:19:02,740 --> 00:19:09,580 They will either change their ways their behaviors or they'll cut you out of the equation any way it goes good 240 00:19:09,580 --> 00:19:16,700 And then when you see them around another person and they're looking you up and down, you know, they found somebody on the same 241 00:19:17,820 --> 00:19:21,860 Same band that they're on and that's a person, you know, you need to avoid to then right? 242 00:19:21,860 --> 00:19:28,300 But what you do is you protect the people that they are trying to harm 243 00:19:29,340 --> 00:19:32,880 verbally because it leads to emotional 244 00:19:34,100 --> 00:19:36,100 mental 245 00:19:36,140 --> 00:19:39,020 Abuse or pain or discouragement 246 00:19:40,300 --> 00:19:47,060 People that cutting is real people cut themselves. They they get depressed. They start having anxiety 247 00:19:47,060 --> 00:19:50,780 They're always worried about what other people saying think 248 00:19:52,500 --> 00:19:55,140 Y'all let's get back to a place where we're just happy 249 00:19:55,860 --> 00:20:02,940 We love ourselves and we love each other and if we don't like each other we know how to gracefully just don't 250 00:20:03,460 --> 00:20:08,020 Father with each other. Why do we have to tell everybody when we don't care for somebody? 251 00:20:08,660 --> 00:20:13,540 Because we want other people to feel the same way we do even if they do feel that way 252 00:20:13,540 --> 00:20:17,060 That's their gripe to bear not yours 253 00:20:18,860 --> 00:20:24,100 You want to know why such and such doesn't like such and such too all so y'all can compare notes 254 00:20:24,940 --> 00:20:26,940 No, no 255 00:20:29,500 --> 00:20:36,340 Your name is your name that person's names their their name whatever their griper issue is it's separate from yours 256 00:20:37,140 --> 00:20:41,540 Even if it happened at the same time, we don't pick up things the same way 257 00:20:41,540 --> 00:20:45,420 We don't share the same energy. We don't share the same minds 258 00:20:47,260 --> 00:20:52,100 Let their issue be their issue and yours be your issue, but you don't have to come together 259 00:20:53,300 --> 00:20:54,580 to 260 00:20:54,580 --> 00:20:56,580 share the air and 261 00:20:58,740 --> 00:21:02,940 Verbally assault a person, you know, I have to do that 262 00:21:05,260 --> 00:21:08,100 You know, you cannot care for somebody and still greed them 263 00:21:08,100 --> 00:21:12,740 You don't have to hug them embrace them and pretend like you care about what's going on in their life 264 00:21:13,100 --> 00:21:15,780 There's nothing wrong with saying hello and keep it moving 265 00:21:18,340 --> 00:21:21,020 You don't have to oh my god, look who it is 266 00:21:22,460 --> 00:21:26,620 You don't have to do all that all it does is pull attention to you 267 00:21:28,260 --> 00:21:32,260 Like I said, you don't like what somebody's doing on Facebook keep scrolling 268 00:21:32,260 --> 00:21:40,340 You constantly don't like what they're doing unfriend them. Don't don't pretend to be their friend if all you want to do is find fault in them 269 00:21:41,540 --> 00:21:44,180 You don't like the way somebody acts 270 00:21:45,860 --> 00:21:51,500 Don't be around them, but you don't have to call other people to throw them under the bus or talk about them or share 271 00:21:52,260 --> 00:21:58,740 That dislike and watch your kids so that they don't emulate 272 00:21:58,740 --> 00:22:04,340 What you don't want them to emulate that's a lot for one podcast 273 00:22:05,420 --> 00:22:09,340 But it was all on my heart and I had to get up and say it all 274 00:22:10,500 --> 00:22:16,780 We've got to protect our kids. We've got to protect our friends. We've got to protect our family 275 00:22:16,780 --> 00:22:22,420 We've got to protect our neighbors. We've got to get back to a time where we 276 00:22:22,420 --> 00:22:32,380 We loved each other and we didn't want and we wanted to emulate our parents or our grandparents our aunties and our uncles 277 00:22:33,700 --> 00:22:35,100 not 278 00:22:35,100 --> 00:22:40,060 All these rich people whose lives we don't really know 279 00:22:40,180 --> 00:22:45,300 We just see what they're doing on TV and in music and we think that's what we want 280 00:22:45,300 --> 00:22:51,820 You don't know what you want because you don't know what they really have you just know what they're trying to show you 281 00:22:52,580 --> 00:22:54,580 So you could spend more money on them 282 00:22:56,460 --> 00:22:59,100 Like they said Beyonce is a billionaire and 283 00:23:00,260 --> 00:23:07,500 Still charges more than most anybody for her concert tickets and people will forego their rent 284 00:23:08,740 --> 00:23:10,740 To go to her concert 285 00:23:10,740 --> 00:23:19,820 And then she goes home with her millionaire billionaire excuse me husband while you go home to an eviction notice 286 00:23:20,980 --> 00:23:25,740 This is your girl Sonya McQueen. You might not have liked it, but you needed to hear it 287 00:23:25,940 --> 00:23:30,860 You know how to find me. I'm Sonya M at ledbymotivation.com or 288 00:23:30,860 --> 00:23:40,580 ledbymotivation07atgmail.com you have a great day on purpose and I will talk to you tomorrow