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Good morning, good afternoon, and good evening everybody.

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It's your girl, Sonia McQueen, with your mind, your body, your choice.

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Or it is your life.

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What are you going to do with it?

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So there's the show I watch.

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Some of you may have heard of it.

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Maybe not.

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It's called Dark Mirrors.

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And Dark Mirrors is like, I'm a Twilight Zone buff.

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Like I watch Twilight Zone every day.

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I don't even have to look at it to know exactly what's going to happen.

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As soon as it comes on and I hear a voice, I know what episode it is.

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I can't help it.

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I've been watching Twilight Zone since I was a kid.

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And I watch it annually.

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I have the entire series.

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My daughter bought it for me several years ago because it's on CD.

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It's crazy, but I love Twilight Zone.

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I don't care for the newer ones.

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But I like my favorite are the ones from the 50s and 60s.

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And then I like the ones from the 80s.

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It's been redone several times.

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But anyway, I used to also like Tales from the Crip if you've never watched.

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I love Tales from the Crip.

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And then I watched a few other things like Creepshow.

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I like stuff like that, but I don't like scary movies.

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I will not watch a scary movie, but I like things that make me think like psychological

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thrillers or things that have a plot twist.

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That's why my favorite movies were 1408 and the usual suspects.

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But anyway, let me get back on my point.

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So Black Mirror is kind of like that, but it's technology.

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They are like Twilight Zones, but they have the added layer of technology.

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So I like them.

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And my kids like them.

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As a matter of fact, one of my kids introduced me to the show.

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And yesterday I watched one.

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They have a new season out.

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It's the first time, I think since 2018 or so, but they have a new season out.

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And I watched the first and second episode yesterday and it prompted this.

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And my question to you is what if your biggest victory comes from your deepest valley at

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the time of your greatest sorrow, your greatest grief, your greatest hurt and turmoil came

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the biggest victory of your life.

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Of course, I'm going to give you guys some examples.

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But how deep and beautiful is that to literally turn your deepest.

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I don't mean just to tell other people and to give them promise and hope.

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I don't mean turning your valley into a testimony.

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I mean that valley becoming so grand, grandiose in your life that it's a head shaker.

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It's like amazing.

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It's like God purposed and driven.

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Right.

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I kind of feel that a way about myself sometimes.

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You know, I take my biggest valley, my saddest point in my life, the point in my life I wish

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I didn't exist anymore.

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And it was when I gave my son up.

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And out of that, a book came and then another book and now a third and fourth book and television

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and radios, but I wasn't happy and I wasn't content because I wasn't trying to take such

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a sad situation and promote myself from it.

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You know, I wasn't trying to prosper from that kind of pain.

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Some people go through things and all they want to do is prosper.

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They just want to figure out how can I make a lot of money off of this?

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And that wasn't my point.

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So I walked away and I had to let by motivation.

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My first book, Vanessa's Choice, was doing so well.

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Oh my God.

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I know it was on its way because even the movie guy that's now deceased, John Singleton,

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he talked to my manager about making a movie of it before his, you know, untimely demise,

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but it was on that level.

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Vanessa's Choice was really on that kind of level and I didn't care.

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I didn't care.

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My company led by motivation being sought after all over and I didn't care.

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I closed it all motivational monthly.

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The free newsletter I put out, I closed all those chapters and walked away.

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But look at this, y'all.

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Not only did I pull my books off the shelves, which I told you before, and I stopped motivational

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monthly and I packed up my bags and moved to somewhere where I knew people didn't know

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me.

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But what happens?

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Somebody's like, hey, I have your book.

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Can you please come and speak at my group?

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And hey, can you do this?

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Can you do that?

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And then somebody else.

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And then somebody else.

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The next thing you know, I'm having monthly meetings in my house called motivational monthly

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in my house, but it was just for women.

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And then I'm speaking here every blue moon and I'm writing again and look at me today.

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We are talking 30 years from my deepest valley, 30 years.

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Not only do I have led by motivation again, I have led by motivation outreach that will

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reach back and help anybody that is homeless, hurting, disenfranchised, get back on their

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feet.

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Do more than just feed them.

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Do more than just throw some clothes on them.

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Do the extra to ensure that they go from homeless to their own homes, to a job, to their own

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way of living again, giving them a second chance.

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Not only did I have the first and second book, I'm working on the third and fourth

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and fifth.

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Not only did I do X, Y, and Z, but now I'm doing K, Y, L, M, N, O, P, Q, R, S, T, N, U,

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and V, W, X, Y, and then Z.

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Because I have decided not to let that one chapter of my life pigeonhole me, not let the

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negativity that came from so many people who were supposed to love and support me, pigeonhole

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me, not let them hold me and put their feet on my neck and keep me down and make me feel

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bad about a decision I made 30 years ago for a young man who is awesome.

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When I tell you, you would never know I gave my son up.

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You would never know he was raised by.

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He has so much of my personality and my brother Stacey's personality and my brother Greg's

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personality and him and his sisters act like they've always been.

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14 years in my life is more like 30 years in my life, like we didn't miss a beat.

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How am I going to let a situation I made 30 years ago that was turned around in positivity

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still keep me in a negative state of mind?

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That valley has turned out to be my biggest victor.

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That valley has turned out to be my biggest victor because of that valley.

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I met Paula because I met Paula.

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I moved to Florida because I moved to Florida.

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I met my husband because I met my husband.

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I have my own business because I have my own business.

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I am prospering and helping others.

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And it all started with a valley.

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What have you done in your life that is so bad?

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You're just so ashamed.

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You just want to turn around and pray nobody ever finds out.

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Nobody sees it.

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Nobody knows.

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Nobody ever just ever turned it around.

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Nobody can do it but you.

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Nobody can do it but you.

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I promise you your biggest valleys, your deepest valleys, your lowest points can be the best

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thing that ever happened to you.

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You might not see it.

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This is starting to sound like a sermon, huh?

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But it's okay.

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You might not see it.

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But I promise you I am a living walking witness testimony.

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You call me what you want, slap a stamp on me, send me all around the United States, send

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me all around the world.

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Because what I thought was going to kill me and take me out of here has been nothing but

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a blessing for me.

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Was it a blessing to give away my son, hell, nah.

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But the actor effects.

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I had to go through something to get somewhere, y'all.

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I had to go through something and learn from it to get somewhere, y'all.

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I had to go through something, learn from it and turn it around for the good to get somewhere,

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y'all.

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I promise you if you're missing out on any of the greatness that me and the people I

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know are spreading shame on you.

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I mean, keep listening to the podcast.

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Thank you.

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But I have a free newsletter.

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It costs you nothing but to send me your email address.

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It's called Motivational Monthly.

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It's just full of positive stories.

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Different people write for it.

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If you feel like writing for it, write for it.

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You feel like sending me a poem, send me a poem.

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You feel like sending me a quote, send it to me.

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A puzzle, a picture, send it.

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You want me to talk about your business and it better be a positive business.

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Don't send me a strip club business, y'all.

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Please send it to me.

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I'll put it in there.

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I'm not asking you for anything.

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I promise I'm not going to turn around and say, okay, I've promoted your business.

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Three newsletters now you owe me a thousand.

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Come on.

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Free is free.

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Everybody says nothing is free.

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This is free.

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This is free.

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Just send me your information.

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That's it.

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That's it.

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You just want to read it.

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Good.

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You want it to go in your community center.

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Great.

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You have a church or some kind of following, positive following.

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You want them to have it.

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Great.

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Just send me an email address.

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It's that simple.

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Send it to Sonya, S-O-N-Y-A-M, as in money.

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Send me your idea.

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The only time I will use you or your likeness is if you want me to.

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If you want to actually speak on this podcast.

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And I've even spoke to somebody on this podcast and they can use their real name.

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It's that simple.

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You want that?

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Send us a message led by Motivation07 at Gmail.com.

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It is that simple, y'all.

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It is that simple.

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Motivational monthly used to go to 12 different countries.

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I had over 500 subscribers.

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Some were churches and community centers and even jails.

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And I stopped that.

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I just want to get back there.

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I want to get back to the point where we're blessing people because out of my valley is

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nothing but greatness.

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All right, you all, you have a wonderful day on purpose.

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I'm actually going to chill out and have a beautiful day in silence for the next few

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hours.

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Take care and I will talk to you tomorrow.