Good morning. Good afternoon and good evening everybody. It's your girl Sonia McQueen with it's your life
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part of your mind your body your choice
So today I want to talk to you about
Blocking your own blessings closing doors that you were meant to go in but you block it on your own without anybody else's help
You know sometimes we have these people who come into our lives for a reason and
We shunned them we mistreat them we block them out we talk about them and
They were meant to
Push us up to our next level or give us information that's needed
A necessity help us along the way. You know, we see
Things going on and we judge and we're quick to shut doors and walk away and
Not realize what kind of blessing we might be missing gonna give you an example and it's not exactly
100% what I'm talking about, but you would definitely get the point
Yesterday my husband and I went out to eat lunch
Instead of dinner since we have the grandkids and they don't like anything
So we went out and had a really nice lunch and the waitress we had
She came by our table. It took her about 10 minutes after we got there to even come and see what we wanted to drink
All right, I understood it was fairly busy
But I didn't realize the waitress we had I had seen at this other table several times
And I noticed because the table was directly in front of me and I was watching a
Fight directly in front of me. So when she finally came to get our drinks, you know, she was friendly
She was friendly and she took our drink order and my husband told her when she came we're ready to order now
so we ordered our food and our drinks and
She walked away somebody else brought us our food and drinks
But I literally watched her go to that other table eight times
Before she came back to our table and she came back to our table because one of us put our hands up, you know, like come here lady
in the midst of that
We noticed the the table was getting wet wet wet
So I picked up my husband's cup and sure enough it had a crack in the bottom
So he eventually had to go to the bar and get another cup had our waitress ever came by to check on us or anything
We would have been able to get one from her
Anyhow moving forward
You know waved her down. She had never given my husband a straw. We had already been eating
We were about done. We didn't get a straw. So she went got him a straw and she brought it back
Still smiling, but she leaves now we finally finished with our food
But we're just sitting waiting and waiting and waiting and waiting and I counted
I didn't even flag her down. I counted her going to that other table again the same table six times I
Get almost guarantee whoever's at that table is either a regular and everybody knows them because I I seen at least four
Different waitresses go sit at that table hugging the people at the table sitting there talking
I even heard one waitress say
Why did you sit in this section? Why didn't you sit in my section? He said I thought you had
Carblanche I thought that you could choose wherever you want it and she was like no next time sit in my section
But I also noticed every time they got something they pay for it right then they were drinking a lot and
And the waitress that was our waitress she would never give them change she would get
The cash from them go to the register and never so I figured okay
Whoever's section they sit in they are probably high tippers and that's what she's focused on the tip
So much so she's forgetting about us
The people who sat across from us who I know was in her section because I seen her get their order and the people behind us
because I heard them say
Dang this waitress never comes and one of them got up
She's so focused on that one table and the tips over there. She's forgetting about all the other tables
Now one thing about us
I'm an excellent tipper not gonna say yes. I'm an excellent tip the minimum I give for subpar
Treatment is 20% on any bill. It could be a 400-bit dollar bill
We've actually had a $2,000 bill. I still gave
They got gratuity they got gratuity, but I still left a tip
I still left another hundred on top of the gratuity they already got so I'm a really good tipper
but watching her
Give so much attention to the one table and forgetting the rest of us forgetting me and Q the table
the elderly couple that
Was sitting across from us the people behind us and God only knows the other people and me watching her walk
The times I counted
14 times to that other table throwing her head back laughing rubbing arms
Catering to their every knee and forgetting about us gave her the worst tip I've ever given in my life
She didn't even get 10%
She didn't deserve it
She didn't deserve it. I know I've never been a waitress never worked in food never been a server
None of that, but I see how hard they work. I pay attention
I've had people work for me that worked in that bill before I listen and I watch I hear rude
Behavior from customers, but here you have two very happy
Kind customers that you're ignoring because you're putting all your eggs in that one basket over there
You don't know what that elderly couple next to us would have given you or probably still did or the couple behind us
That's now mad
You don't know
because you ignored us
Missing the blessings that were right in front of you
To cater to one open door you shut the rest
My point is don't ever shut doors that were open for you
Because you got stuck in one area and you thought this is the best it's gonna go and you had all these other
opportunities that you've ignored
Because that one opportunity could go south at any time don't block your seasons
Don't block your reasons and definitely don't miss your lifetimes
Because you walk through one door and a lot of times those one doors you walk through or doors you
Wanted to walk through they're not even doors that were put there for you. You've walked through the door of
eventual abuse
Enclosed all the doors that would have gotten you away from that
you walked through the door of
lack of
Because it looks so good. It was shining so bright on the outside
It was nice and golden and gleaming and your whole soul got sucked in
And you see all these other doors and it looks like silver and bronze and and you shut those doors
You don't care. It's it's not shiny enough for you. It's not beautiful enough and you shut those doors and sadly enough
They eventually go away and you're stuck with that gold door, but in a few months
After being in there with the gold you realize it was plated and the plating's coming off and
now it's tarnished and
It's tarnishing you and your body and you can't deal with it anymore because you're allergic
But the door with the white gold you shut it and the door with the
Silver
The prime beautiful silver you shut it and the door even though it had bronze. It was real bronze
It wouldn't hurt you at all. You shut it because you were so fixated on what you thought was pure gold
Don't block your own
blessings
By making your own decisions of what you think is best for you and shutting out things that you think aren't as good
People especially
People especially you never know
What person walks into your life? I'm gonna tell you something. I have a brother. It's named Stacy and
I've never known Stacy to buy a new car. I don't know what Stacy drives today
but Stacy's always go by it like a used sob and
The sob, you know, it would need work here would need work there Stacy would buy used BMW
It would need work here need work there. Stacy dresses like your ordinary job
He doesn't dress too fancy, but he always looks decent, you know nice pair of slacks nice shoes nice shirt
Please basketball
He's friendly to everybody
extremely
Lovable everybody I know who knows Stacy loves Stacy
But I could see a whole bunch of women turning their back on Stacy even though he's a beautiful nice-looking man
Based on what he drives
You know, he doesn't club. He doesn't party. So
You know, not only do you drive this but you're always at church probably praying for better
But even when I was a young kid, nobody had as much money as my brother Stacy
Nobody and
You know the ones who are looking for more and more and more and better
Sometimes they get what looks like more and more and more better on the outside
So now you meet the guy who's driving the
Rose Royce the Bentley the Maybach. Oh, yeah
He's looking like a hundred bucks. He's got on all those gold chains and
He's out there and he's scoping and you're like, yeah, that's who I want. You don't know anything about his heart
You don't know anything about his beliefs what he cares about how he cares
You want what you see so you get it
And you shut all other avenues, you know, you have this guy over here. Hey the spacey's you have the guys over here
Hey, the ones who you know, the garbage workers the
And I'm not knocking any industry, but you know, some people would think oh you work in sanitation
You're a janitor. You're blocking all that
So next thing you know, you're with the gold the rose Royce
the gold chains
And you come to learn he lives in his grandma's basement number one he takes all his money. He has to pay for that car
That's $3,000 a month for that car. He's got to pay for it. He can't afford to live on his own and pay for that car
The gold chains they're not even real, but they're plated perfectly
He has chores in his grandma's house you when you visit him you got to go down to the basement
But hey, you still get to drop to ride in that Bentley that rose Royce. You still get to ride
Meanwhile
Miss
Open-minded meets the sanitation worker who has been saving his money who makes six figures
Who makes six figures and he saves and he has a beautiful home and
He has a car
That is within his budget and his means so that he can continue to save for his family
Now he's getting married and he can give her the desires of her heart
She don't have to work if she doesn't want to
And he's a perfect husband
Or better yet
That janitor that you seen and you're like, oh, I see new mopping floors. What about he owns the business?
He's all hands on deck. I
Don't have a janitor so I come here at night night. I mop and I sweep and I clean up and I take out the trash
But you've closed those doors because what you thought was glitter
Turned out to be pieces of broken glass
Y'all don't shut doors that were meant for you to walk through don't be so
Laser-eyed on one thing your focus you got tunnel vision
You don't see outside of that little bitty thing that you think is going to be your blessing
But nobody told you it was and you're judging the other things around you as not good enough
You'll never get
What your purpose to get if you continue to live
your life in a tunnel
This is your girl Sonny, you know how to find me. I'm Sonia
M at led by motivation calm or led by motivation 07 at gmail.com
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