1 00:00:00,000 --> 00:00:07,000 Good morning. Good afternoon and good evening everybody. It's your girl Sonia McQueen with it's your life 2 00:00:07,560 --> 00:00:09,560 What are you gonna do with it? 3 00:00:09,760 --> 00:00:12,980 part of your mind your body your choice 4 00:00:13,680 --> 00:00:15,680 So today I want to talk to you about 5 00:00:16,320 --> 00:00:25,600 Blocking your own blessings closing doors that you were meant to go in but you block it on your own without anybody else's help 6 00:00:25,600 --> 00:00:31,500 You know sometimes we have these people who come into our lives for a reason and 7 00:00:32,200 --> 00:00:37,980 We shunned them we mistreat them we block them out we talk about them and 8 00:00:39,120 --> 00:00:40,960 They were meant to 9 00:00:40,960 --> 00:00:45,360 Push us up to our next level or give us information that's needed 10 00:00:45,880 --> 00:00:50,280 A necessity help us along the way. You know, we see 11 00:00:50,280 --> 00:00:56,640 Things going on and we judge and we're quick to shut doors and walk away and 12 00:00:57,360 --> 00:01:04,480 Not realize what kind of blessing we might be missing gonna give you an example and it's not exactly 13 00:01:06,840 --> 00:01:10,880 100% what I'm talking about, but you would definitely get the point 14 00:01:12,560 --> 00:01:15,400 Yesterday my husband and I went out to eat lunch 15 00:01:15,400 --> 00:01:20,080 Instead of dinner since we have the grandkids and they don't like anything 16 00:01:20,480 --> 00:01:25,160 So we went out and had a really nice lunch and the waitress we had 17 00:01:25,800 --> 00:01:32,520 She came by our table. It took her about 10 minutes after we got there to even come and see what we wanted to drink 18 00:01:33,160 --> 00:01:35,760 All right, I understood it was fairly busy 19 00:01:36,240 --> 00:01:42,280 But I didn't realize the waitress we had I had seen at this other table several times 20 00:01:42,280 --> 00:01:48,240 And I noticed because the table was directly in front of me and I was watching a 21 00:01:48,960 --> 00:01:56,080 Fight directly in front of me. So when she finally came to get our drinks, you know, she was friendly 22 00:01:56,080 --> 00:02:02,360 She was friendly and she took our drink order and my husband told her when she came we're ready to order now 23 00:02:02,600 --> 00:02:05,200 so we ordered our food and our drinks and 24 00:02:06,160 --> 00:02:09,440 She walked away somebody else brought us our food and drinks 25 00:02:09,440 --> 00:02:15,400 But I literally watched her go to that other table eight times 26 00:02:16,840 --> 00:02:24,280 Before she came back to our table and she came back to our table because one of us put our hands up, you know, like come here lady 27 00:02:25,120 --> 00:02:27,120 in the midst of that 28 00:02:27,720 --> 00:02:31,400 We noticed the the table was getting wet wet wet 29 00:02:31,400 --> 00:02:35,560 So I picked up my husband's cup and sure enough it had a crack in the bottom 30 00:02:35,560 --> 00:02:43,440 So he eventually had to go to the bar and get another cup had our waitress ever came by to check on us or anything 31 00:02:43,640 --> 00:02:45,640 We would have been able to get one from her 32 00:02:46,760 --> 00:02:48,760 Anyhow moving forward 33 00:02:49,920 --> 00:02:54,600 You know waved her down. She had never given my husband a straw. We had already been eating 34 00:02:55,840 --> 00:03:01,640 We were about done. We didn't get a straw. So she went got him a straw and she brought it back 35 00:03:01,640 --> 00:03:07,120 Still smiling, but she leaves now we finally finished with our food 36 00:03:07,120 --> 00:03:12,440 But we're just sitting waiting and waiting and waiting and waiting and I counted 37 00:03:12,440 --> 00:03:18,160 I didn't even flag her down. I counted her going to that other table again the same table six times I 38 00:03:19,240 --> 00:03:26,560 Get almost guarantee whoever's at that table is either a regular and everybody knows them because I I seen at least four 39 00:03:26,560 --> 00:03:32,280 Different waitresses go sit at that table hugging the people at the table sitting there talking 40 00:03:32,280 --> 00:03:34,280 I even heard one waitress say 41 00:03:34,560 --> 00:03:39,160 Why did you sit in this section? Why didn't you sit in my section? He said I thought you had 42 00:03:39,960 --> 00:03:46,000 Carblanche I thought that you could choose wherever you want it and she was like no next time sit in my section 43 00:03:46,120 --> 00:03:52,800 But I also noticed every time they got something they pay for it right then they were drinking a lot and 44 00:03:52,800 --> 00:03:57,720 And the waitress that was our waitress she would never give them change she would get 45 00:03:58,560 --> 00:04:02,520 The cash from them go to the register and never so I figured okay 46 00:04:03,000 --> 00:04:10,880 Whoever's section they sit in they are probably high tippers and that's what she's focused on the tip 47 00:04:12,120 --> 00:04:15,160 So much so she's forgetting about us 48 00:04:15,600 --> 00:04:22,640 The people who sat across from us who I know was in her section because I seen her get their order and the people behind us 49 00:04:22,640 --> 00:04:24,640 because I heard them say 50 00:04:25,680 --> 00:04:29,360 Dang this waitress never comes and one of them got up 51 00:04:29,920 --> 00:04:36,240 She's so focused on that one table and the tips over there. She's forgetting about all the other tables 52 00:04:36,640 --> 00:04:38,640 Now one thing about us 53 00:04:38,840 --> 00:04:45,520 I'm an excellent tipper not gonna say yes. I'm an excellent tip the minimum I give for subpar 54 00:04:46,080 --> 00:04:51,400 Treatment is 20% on any bill. It could be a 400-bit dollar bill 55 00:04:51,400 --> 00:04:55,040 We've actually had a $2,000 bill. I still gave 56 00:04:56,560 --> 00:05:00,320 They got gratuity they got gratuity, but I still left a tip 57 00:05:00,320 --> 00:05:06,400 I still left another hundred on top of the gratuity they already got so I'm a really good tipper 58 00:05:07,000 --> 00:05:08,880 but watching her 59 00:05:08,880 --> 00:05:16,200 Give so much attention to the one table and forgetting the rest of us forgetting me and Q the table 60 00:05:16,400 --> 00:05:18,400 the elderly couple that 61 00:05:18,400 --> 00:05:25,840 Was sitting across from us the people behind us and God only knows the other people and me watching her walk 62 00:05:25,960 --> 00:05:27,960 The times I counted 63 00:05:29,480 --> 00:05:34,320 14 times to that other table throwing her head back laughing rubbing arms 64 00:05:35,440 --> 00:05:41,720 Catering to their every knee and forgetting about us gave her the worst tip I've ever given in my life 65 00:05:42,400 --> 00:05:44,400 She didn't even get 10% 66 00:05:44,400 --> 00:05:47,240 She didn't deserve it 67 00:05:48,440 --> 00:05:54,480 She didn't deserve it. I know I've never been a waitress never worked in food never been a server 68 00:05:55,040 --> 00:05:58,480 None of that, but I see how hard they work. I pay attention 69 00:05:59,040 --> 00:06:05,760 I've had people work for me that worked in that bill before I listen and I watch I hear rude 70 00:06:06,480 --> 00:06:11,120 Behavior from customers, but here you have two very happy 71 00:06:11,120 --> 00:06:18,040 Kind customers that you're ignoring because you're putting all your eggs in that one basket over there 72 00:06:19,280 --> 00:06:26,120 You don't know what that elderly couple next to us would have given you or probably still did or the couple behind us 73 00:06:26,120 --> 00:06:28,120 That's now mad 74 00:06:28,240 --> 00:06:30,240 You don't know 75 00:06:30,280 --> 00:06:32,280 because you ignored us 76 00:06:32,880 --> 00:06:36,000 Missing the blessings that were right in front of you 77 00:06:36,000 --> 00:06:41,320 To cater to one open door you shut the rest 78 00:06:41,920 --> 00:06:46,320 My point is don't ever shut doors that were open for you 79 00:06:46,720 --> 00:06:53,000 Because you got stuck in one area and you thought this is the best it's gonna go and you had all these other 80 00:06:53,880 --> 00:06:55,880 opportunities that you've ignored 81 00:06:57,040 --> 00:07:02,160 Because that one opportunity could go south at any time don't block your seasons 82 00:07:02,160 --> 00:07:06,680 Don't block your reasons and definitely don't miss your lifetimes 83 00:07:07,400 --> 00:07:13,160 Because you walk through one door and a lot of times those one doors you walk through or doors you 84 00:07:13,640 --> 00:07:18,880 Wanted to walk through they're not even doors that were put there for you. You've walked through the door of 85 00:07:20,360 --> 00:07:22,360 eventual abuse 86 00:07:23,120 --> 00:07:26,080 Enclosed all the doors that would have gotten you away from that 87 00:07:26,680 --> 00:07:28,680 you walked through the door of 88 00:07:29,600 --> 00:07:31,320 lack of 89 00:07:31,320 --> 00:07:35,640 Because it looks so good. It was shining so bright on the outside 90 00:07:35,640 --> 00:07:42,320 It was nice and golden and gleaming and your whole soul got sucked in 91 00:07:43,920 --> 00:07:50,240 And you see all these other doors and it looks like silver and bronze and and you shut those doors 92 00:07:50,240 --> 00:07:57,200 You don't care. It's it's not shiny enough for you. It's not beautiful enough and you shut those doors and sadly enough 93 00:07:57,200 --> 00:08:02,720 They eventually go away and you're stuck with that gold door, but in a few months 94 00:08:04,240 --> 00:08:11,120 After being in there with the gold you realize it was plated and the plating's coming off and 95 00:08:11,840 --> 00:08:13,840 now it's tarnished and 96 00:08:14,200 --> 00:08:20,240 It's tarnishing you and your body and you can't deal with it anymore because you're allergic 97 00:08:20,240 --> 00:08:28,120 But the door with the white gold you shut it and the door with the 98 00:08:29,320 --> 00:08:30,880 Silver 99 00:08:30,880 --> 00:08:36,520 The prime beautiful silver you shut it and the door even though it had bronze. It was real bronze 100 00:08:37,160 --> 00:08:43,280 It wouldn't hurt you at all. You shut it because you were so fixated on what you thought was pure gold 101 00:08:45,800 --> 00:08:48,240 Don't block your own 102 00:08:48,240 --> 00:08:50,240 blessings 103 00:08:50,280 --> 00:08:58,680 By making your own decisions of what you think is best for you and shutting out things that you think aren't as good 104 00:09:01,240 --> 00:09:03,240 People especially 105 00:09:03,280 --> 00:09:05,640 People especially you never know 106 00:09:06,680 --> 00:09:12,560 What person walks into your life? I'm gonna tell you something. I have a brother. It's named Stacy and 107 00:09:12,560 --> 00:09:18,280 I've never known Stacy to buy a new car. I don't know what Stacy drives today 108 00:09:18,840 --> 00:09:22,240 but Stacy's always go by it like a used sob and 109 00:09:23,120 --> 00:09:27,960 The sob, you know, it would need work here would need work there Stacy would buy used BMW 110 00:09:27,960 --> 00:09:33,160 It would need work here need work there. Stacy dresses like your ordinary job 111 00:09:34,240 --> 00:09:40,640 He doesn't dress too fancy, but he always looks decent, you know nice pair of slacks nice shoes nice shirt 112 00:09:40,640 --> 00:09:42,640 Please basketball 113 00:09:43,280 --> 00:09:45,280 He's friendly to everybody 114 00:09:45,520 --> 00:09:47,120 extremely 115 00:09:47,120 --> 00:09:50,560 Lovable everybody I know who knows Stacy loves Stacy 116 00:09:51,840 --> 00:09:58,040 But I could see a whole bunch of women turning their back on Stacy even though he's a beautiful nice-looking man 117 00:09:59,400 --> 00:10:01,400 Based on what he drives 118 00:10:01,920 --> 00:10:05,440 You know, he doesn't club. He doesn't party. So 119 00:10:05,440 --> 00:10:10,240 You know, not only do you drive this but you're always at church probably praying for better 120 00:10:11,080 --> 00:10:15,000 But even when I was a young kid, nobody had as much money as my brother Stacy 121 00:10:17,440 --> 00:10:19,440 Nobody and 122 00:10:19,920 --> 00:10:23,720 You know the ones who are looking for more and more and more and better 123 00:10:24,640 --> 00:10:28,040 Sometimes they get what looks like more and more and more better on the outside 124 00:10:28,400 --> 00:10:31,320 So now you meet the guy who's driving the 125 00:10:31,320 --> 00:10:35,920 Rose Royce the Bentley the Maybach. Oh, yeah 126 00:10:36,520 --> 00:10:40,920 He's looking like a hundred bucks. He's got on all those gold chains and 127 00:10:41,920 --> 00:10:47,120 He's out there and he's scoping and you're like, yeah, that's who I want. You don't know anything about his heart 128 00:10:48,400 --> 00:10:55,000 You don't know anything about his beliefs what he cares about how he cares 129 00:10:56,040 --> 00:10:58,640 You want what you see so you get it 130 00:10:58,640 --> 00:11:07,280 And you shut all other avenues, you know, you have this guy over here. Hey the spacey's you have the guys over here 131 00:11:07,280 --> 00:11:11,120 Hey, the ones who you know, the garbage workers the 132 00:11:13,280 --> 00:11:20,040 And I'm not knocking any industry, but you know, some people would think oh you work in sanitation 133 00:11:20,840 --> 00:11:23,640 You're a janitor. You're blocking all that 134 00:11:23,640 --> 00:11:31,040 So next thing you know, you're with the gold the rose Royce 135 00:11:32,280 --> 00:11:34,280 the gold chains 136 00:11:35,360 --> 00:11:42,760 And you come to learn he lives in his grandma's basement number one he takes all his money. He has to pay for that car 137 00:11:44,640 --> 00:11:50,920 That's $3,000 a month for that car. He's got to pay for it. He can't afford to live on his own and pay for that car 138 00:11:50,920 --> 00:11:57,640 The gold chains they're not even real, but they're plated perfectly 139 00:11:59,680 --> 00:12:05,080 He has chores in his grandma's house you when you visit him you got to go down to the basement 140 00:12:05,080 --> 00:12:10,880 But hey, you still get to drop to ride in that Bentley that rose Royce. You still get to ride 141 00:12:15,360 --> 00:12:17,200 Meanwhile 142 00:12:17,200 --> 00:12:18,320 Miss 143 00:12:18,320 --> 00:12:24,640 Open-minded meets the sanitation worker who has been saving his money who makes six figures 144 00:12:26,280 --> 00:12:31,160 Who makes six figures and he saves and he has a beautiful home and 145 00:12:32,800 --> 00:12:34,800 He has a car 146 00:12:34,800 --> 00:12:40,280 That is within his budget and his means so that he can continue to save for his family 147 00:12:40,280 --> 00:12:43,880 Now he's getting married and he can give her the desires of her heart 148 00:12:43,880 --> 00:12:45,880 She don't have to work if she doesn't want to 149 00:12:45,880 --> 00:12:48,360 And he's a perfect husband 150 00:12:50,680 --> 00:12:52,520 Or better yet 151 00:12:52,520 --> 00:12:59,880 That janitor that you seen and you're like, oh, I see new mopping floors. What about he owns the business? 152 00:13:00,720 --> 00:13:02,720 He's all hands on deck. I 153 00:13:03,680 --> 00:13:09,080 Don't have a janitor so I come here at night night. I mop and I sweep and I clean up and I take out the trash 154 00:13:09,080 --> 00:13:14,680 But you've closed those doors because what you thought was glitter 155 00:13:16,240 --> 00:13:18,240 Turned out to be pieces of broken glass 156 00:13:21,440 --> 00:13:26,280 Y'all don't shut doors that were meant for you to walk through don't be so 157 00:13:28,320 --> 00:13:33,880 Laser-eyed on one thing your focus you got tunnel vision 158 00:13:33,880 --> 00:13:39,720 You don't see outside of that little bitty thing that you think is going to be your blessing 159 00:13:39,720 --> 00:13:45,880 But nobody told you it was and you're judging the other things around you as not good enough 160 00:13:48,760 --> 00:13:51,120 You'll never get 161 00:13:52,160 --> 00:13:58,840 What your purpose to get if you continue to live 162 00:13:59,400 --> 00:14:01,800 your life in a tunnel 163 00:14:01,800 --> 00:14:05,240 This is your girl Sonny, you know how to find me. I'm Sonia 164 00:14:05,960 --> 00:14:11,960 M at led by motivation calm or led by motivation 07 at gmail.com 165 00:14:11,960 --> 00:14:15,880 I also want to say if you follow my podcast on Facebook 166 00:14:17,720 --> 00:14:22,920 Oftentimes and I don't know why I'll post on Facebook and Facebook will not show my podcast 167 00:14:23,960 --> 00:14:24,960 I've had 168 00:14:24,960 --> 00:14:30,120 One person in particular tell me but lately I've had more than one person asked me 169 00:14:30,120 --> 00:14:35,720 Hey, are you gonna post on Facebook and I will have posted and they can't see the post so I 170 00:14:36,280 --> 00:14:42,280 I urge you to subscribe to the podcast on any other medium 171 00:14:42,280 --> 00:14:44,280 There's this thing called one podium 172 00:14:45,080 --> 00:14:49,240 I'm on Apple. I'm on Google. I'm on Spotify. I'm on 173 00:14:50,280 --> 00:14:53,720 I heart radio everywhere. I'm everywhere you want to be 174 00:14:55,400 --> 00:14:59,400 But don't block your blessings go ahead and subscribe to the podcast 175 00:14:59,400 --> 00:15:02,120 All right, and and I'm on YouTube now 176 00:15:02,120 --> 00:15:08,120 So have a beautiful day on purpose and keep the emails and the comments coming. I greatly 177 00:15:08,680 --> 00:15:11,800 Appreciate it. I've had two people reach out to me that want to be guests 178 00:15:11,800 --> 00:15:29,800 So look for future guests on top of two that are supposed to be monthly guests. All right. Have a beautiful day