Good morning, good afternoon, and good evening everybody. It's your girl Sonia
McQueen with your mind, your body, your choice. Wow, today this morning when I
awakened I was reading my Bible as always and it was talking about a God of
Second Chances and it just made me think of how many of us, and I don't mean
biblically, I don't mean spiritually, I mean in your everyday walking life with
other people have a chance at a second life, especially it's so prominent this
day and age with social media. You know if you were extremely unpopular at
school you can create a page and invite all these friends and be the coolest
person ever. You know gaming, people are gaming with people who can't see them. I
still don't understand that but you can actually play a video game with somebody
across the world who can't see you and y'all can become best buds. You can video
whatever it's called with several people who have no idea that you're a serial
killer. You know you have this opportunity to create a new persona, a new
person, be a new creature in the face of other people. Now here's the trick, either
A, you're changing to become a better person and people who already know you
just don't trust it. You know you you fooled them before or they just not
giving you an opportunity. Maybe you are genuine and you are trying to change.
Maybe you were on drugs and you stopped doing drugs and it's been five six years.
You haven't touched a drug in all this time and not a drip of alcohol, nothing
but people still want to remind you of where you used to be or they tell other
people, oh man you got to be careful letting her in your house because you
know she's a drug addict. You know they just won't let you be this new great
person and this is your second chance to become the type of person people trust.
They like, they want to be around, they can leave their wallet or purse around
you, they can trust you with their kids or the keys to their home or whatever or
whatever but other people are holding you to what you used to be. So that second
opportunity might have to come another way. Social media, you open a page you
don't invite any of those people, it's a private page, it's not public and you
meet a whole new world of people. Maybe you join a couple of the online clubs on
social media and you're getting friends through that avenue. Maybe they're in
your own town and you get to go out and you get to meet them and they become
fast friends and you have a second chance at being this new person. You know
let me talk to some of the people who haven't done things right by other
people. Maybe you were an abuser, maybe you used to be your significant other,
you used to abuse your children and maybe you found God, maybe you just found
another way to live and you see the wrongs of your ways. You were raised that
away so that's all you knew but now you know better and it's been years but
people won't let you live it down. That's harder. I wasn't abused, you know, I
wasn't, I never had a weapon, I've said that before. I wasn't abused physically
and I could actually say I'm in that boat because I've said it before, my stepmother
treated me, did think of Cinderella, take that times five and that was her
treatment towards me and now as an adult when I see her I speak but I keep it
moving. I had to forgive her but I'll never forget so I'll never let her in my
space. That's different right but you want to and she never apologized. Let me
throw that out there. Maybe if she apologized then was genuine and we talked
about it maybe it would be a different situation but you know how it is you go
to apologize to people and you're sincere you mean it from the bottom of
your heart and they really don't forgive you. They don't forgive you and they
never let you live it down and they'll tell other people you get into a new
relationship be careful. So-and-so beats people go look at the police reports go
do this go do that and they systematically on purpose ruin relationships
for you and you keep trying to have the second chance but people are pigeon
holding you to what you used to be. You know you got a maneuver maybe you got to
sit that person down and from the bottom of your heart apologize. Tell them what
you did wrong don't don't tell them what they've done wrong tell them what you
did wrong apologize for your actions and be sincere with it you never know how
that could affect people so often people apologize and in the midst of their
apology they want to tell you what you've done though or what pushed them to do
that because of your actions and your this and it becomes not an apology but
an excuse. There's such a big difference I acted this way and I'm sorry I acted
this way but if you would have never done if you would have never said if you
would have never went and it becomes an excuse and the apology is thrown out the
window when it's negated by a but.
Why don't you throw that but out there the apology is gone so apologize from
your heart apologize from your soul. Do not turn it into a but and if and when
but just I'm sorry please accept my apology I was wrong I should have never
but I did and I apologize for that. You know I spoke I hope I already posted
this podcast but I spoke about how I had a friend who her her husband used to
beat her and we tried to help her a couple of times but then we would notice
she would do things like throw stuff at him and belittle him and call him every
name in the book which would incite him and his temper would flare and he would
put his hands on her and then she would scream bloody murder and he would feel
remorseful she'd have a black eye, bust a lip whatever she would call the police
he go to jail and then after a couple of days they're back together she's in
love he's in love and then he does something she's calling him every name
in the book throwing stuff breaking stuff trying to hit him with things
jumping on him and then once again he puts his hands on her she calls the
police she got a black eye, bust a lip and it's such a vicious cycle it's a
crazy crazy insane cycle but I've heard of that I've heard I've literally had a
friend tell me she didn't feel love unless her mate put his hands on her and
then she felt like he loved her you know how crazy that sounds to me but I don't
know what she's been through in her life but you know what with the proper
treatment and the proper help from somebody outside of their relationship
they both could have a second chance either with each other or with somebody
else but being stuck in that vicious cycle is horrific if you have kids they
see it and next thing you know it's a generational curse if you don't have kids
you could end up in the hospital in prison doing longer time or even worse
and y'all know what the even worse is take the ability to have a second
chance seriously don't use those words I've said this before don't use the
words oh I'll always be like this I've been like this all my life I'm always
gonna be like this you're speaking that into your life you're speaking it into
existence it doesn't have to be like that you are speaking a high rate of
negativity into your own life and you're taking ownership of it like it's
something to be proud of like it's a badge of honor to be mean to be rude to
be a thief to be a liar to do drugs to be an alcoholic to beat your mate
because you've seen it to beat your kids it's been like this all my life ain't
nothing gonna change you're right nothing good is coming to you as long as you
hold on to that and you speak it into your own existence you know I had a
second chance and a third chance and a fourth chance and I took advantage of
each and every one of them God only knows what chance I'm on now but this
chance is a wonderful chance the word spoken to me moved to Florida or not
moved to Florida but move from here you're gonna meet your husband you're
gonna walk into your purpose all true and I'm living that life now the words
spoken to me by somebody I greatly admire and love you are unstable totally
changed the way I was thinking and moving because nobody had ever been honest
with me before everybody just talked about me behind my back but nobody had I
don't even want to say the courage because most people in my family were
strong they're strong but nobody ever said it to my face those words you are
unstable made me plant my feet on solid ground and say you know what I'm gonna
change that and I did and I had another chance and I have been working my butt
off to live this second part of my life in nothing but love and positivity y'all
hence the reason for these podcasts which was part of my healing journey I
don't listen to my talk I think I listened to one podcast and I was
impressed I'm not gonna lie to y'all I was impressed but if I go back and
listen to some of the first ones I bet you I'm screaming out for help and love
and encouragement and don't get me wrong my husband gives me all that God knew
what he was doing when he gave me this man and I have friends who breathe life
into me in this uptink chance so I give it back now tenfold I think of the
people around me now tenfold I'm a annual giver to St. Jude's and I run for
St. Jude so you know I'm gonna give you guys my my hashtag or whatever it is
pretty soon and you know I pray that some of y'all you know give a donation
to so St. Jude and and find something charitable that you believe in I love
St. Jude because all that money goes to helping those children all of it all of
it you know it's not to me there was a cancer I'm not gonna say which one I
used to give to and the higher-ups are living large they're living in mansions
and stuff and and you're still paying money and if you don't have enough money
you you can't do this and you can't do that and that it's hurting people but
they're getting billions of dollars but St. Jude families don't pay a dollar
not a nickel to help save their kids lives how could I not get behind that and
last year was my first year and I think I've said this before I'm just proud it
was my first year I was the number one and we're talking teams people do you
know they they create teams and everybody on the team you know ask for
donations I didn't have a team it was just me and for the longest I was the
number one I got the most donations but at the very end two teams came out ahead
of me so I was the third overall with donations but I was all by myself it
just shows you know people genuinely care and it was just beautiful but I
digress I got off topic a little bit no I didn't because it's my chance I used to
do this you know I used to help the homeless I used to feed the homeless I
used to give put stuff in my car when I seen a homeless person I I give them
stuff I used to give money to people on the corners I stopped that when I seen a
couple of specials about that I stopped that but if somebody is on the corner if
I see him in front of a store and they're begging hey you hungry I'll go buy you
some food if they turn that down you good you want some water you want something
to drink they turn that down to oh you're really good because that's what my money
supposed to be going towards right but if I can't feed you or and get you
something to drink and put a couple snacks on you then you don't need my
money but I used to do all those things now I am committed to doing something
full time in my aunt team chance so I said all that to say you guys you know
if you're in a rut right now don't stay stuck there you have people against you
family friends whatever and they're trying to pigeon hold you and hold you
into something you used to do or you did years ago release release get your
second chance get your third chance get your 20th chance it doesn't matter get
it run and get it quickly and if you have to block people remember my funeral
for the living I killed off so many people during that time so I could heal
and once I healed I Lazarus them if you don't know who Lazarus is pull out your
Bible and look up Lazarus but I had to start bringing some of those people back
into my life because now I know your position and you can't harm me you can't
you're trying to hold me in my pack is your issue even the ones lying you know
I think I've told you guys I people with my family still think I've been on
drugs I used to be on drugs I am on drugs whatever I've never done drugs ever
never was an alcoholic ever I have been sick from drinking maybe four to five
times my entire life I have drank hard alcohol well I can't count that but I
am a wine or beer drinker wine or beer maybe twice a month one glass one beer
I've been a beer drinker since I was 17 when I shouldn't have been drinking but
even then okay I drink a 40 ounce I would get sick and throw up but still
that's the harshest I've ever done but to this day there are people in my family
who believe otherwise and as their issue that's their issue God gave me a whole
new family a whole new family you know I I'm gonna move away from that because
this is about you and I really feel like a couple you need a second beginning so
go ahead go get it don't feel bad about it don't feel guilty go ahead and have
your funeral for the living if you want to later on have your Lazarus rising if
you need to get off of social media for a while to do so do it do it there are
people on social media who every day they post five six seven eight nine ten
eleven posts from Sun up to Sun down their posting and I used to think man
what a miserable life they must be living off of social media you know
they're trying to show their best life but they are recording it all but then
today when I heard my Bible thing I thought you know what this is probably
their second chance third four fifth chance or they really are enjoying their
life and they want to share it with everybody in the world you never know
my assumptions are silly people assuming is crazy about other people's lives we
got to stop doing that as well now sometimes I like to use my imagination
and you know if you see a couple or something I imagine their whole life
what they're going through whatever that's just me being in a writer but you
know go ahead y'all get your seconds your third your fifths your fiftieth your
hundreds it don't matter go get it and live it to the best of your ability
alright this is your girl Sonya McQueen I'm gonna get off of this you know you
can find me at Sonya M at ledbymotivation.com that's Sonya with a Y
s o n y a m at ledbymotivation.com you can also send us an email at ledby
motivation 07 at Gmail or you can check us out on the web ledbymotivation.com
and have a good day on purpose