1 00:00:00,000 --> 00:00:06,160 Hello, this is Leslie and I am the host of the Why Not Today? podcast. 2 00:00:06,160 --> 00:00:10,160 And this is a podcast to celebrate people who have been courageous and said, why not 3 00:00:10,160 --> 00:00:11,160 today? 4 00:00:11,160 --> 00:00:16,000 I started this podcast to honor my father, Patrick Cain, who often did say, why not today? 5 00:00:16,000 --> 00:00:20,400 I am based in Reston, Virginia, a planned community right outside of Washington, DC. 6 00:00:20,400 --> 00:00:21,400 And thanks for joining us today. 7 00:00:21,400 --> 00:00:22,400 So I'm really excited. 8 00:00:22,400 --> 00:00:24,400 My guest today, we're in person. 9 00:00:24,400 --> 00:00:25,400 Yay! 10 00:00:25,400 --> 00:00:26,400 Thank you. 11 00:00:26,400 --> 00:00:27,400 More fun. 12 00:00:27,400 --> 00:00:28,400 Yes. 13 00:00:28,400 --> 00:00:31,400 So I would just like to introduce my guest and kind of how we met. 14 00:00:31,400 --> 00:00:32,400 So this is J-Bon Bishop. 15 00:00:32,400 --> 00:00:33,400 Hi. 16 00:00:33,400 --> 00:00:35,400 And Jessica, or J-Bon. 17 00:00:35,400 --> 00:00:36,400 Yes. 18 00:00:36,400 --> 00:00:38,400 We met, honestly, because I was stalking you. 19 00:00:38,400 --> 00:00:39,400 You were? 20 00:00:39,400 --> 00:00:40,400 Really? 21 00:00:40,400 --> 00:00:41,400 You never talked about that. 22 00:00:41,400 --> 00:00:42,400 Yeah. 23 00:00:42,400 --> 00:00:45,400 I went, so we are in, it's not like, which I'm here often. 24 00:00:45,400 --> 00:00:50,400 And I saw you on Facebook and you were just marketing like crazy. 25 00:00:50,400 --> 00:00:51,400 Yeah. 26 00:00:51,400 --> 00:00:52,400 Sharing a lot. 27 00:00:52,400 --> 00:00:53,400 And I'm like, who is this chick? 28 00:00:53,400 --> 00:00:55,400 And so you're having something at your house. 29 00:00:55,400 --> 00:00:56,400 Yep. 30 00:00:56,400 --> 00:00:58,400 And I was like, I'm just a thing. 31 00:00:58,400 --> 00:00:59,400 And so you had an ornament. 32 00:00:59,400 --> 00:01:01,400 I wanted to get a gift for somebody. 33 00:01:01,400 --> 00:01:02,400 And I went there. 34 00:01:02,400 --> 00:01:04,400 Of course, they were all sold out. 35 00:01:04,400 --> 00:01:05,400 Yep. 36 00:01:05,400 --> 00:01:06,400 They were. 37 00:01:06,400 --> 00:01:07,400 So reach out to you afterwards. 38 00:01:07,400 --> 00:01:09,400 And you ordered one for me. 39 00:01:09,400 --> 00:01:10,400 We met for Kosti. 40 00:01:10,400 --> 00:01:13,400 Fell in love with you and just have followed you and just your journey and become great 41 00:01:13,400 --> 00:01:14,400 friends. 42 00:01:14,400 --> 00:01:16,400 I'm glad you showed up at my house. 43 00:01:16,400 --> 00:01:18,400 We just never know how you're going to connect. 44 00:01:18,400 --> 00:01:20,400 And the funny thing is my friend Andy came with me. 45 00:01:20,400 --> 00:01:21,400 He was your neighbor. 46 00:01:21,400 --> 00:01:22,400 That's right. 47 00:01:22,400 --> 00:01:24,400 And he's like, I want to meet this person too. 48 00:01:24,400 --> 00:01:26,400 And he was so many people at the lake. 49 00:01:26,400 --> 00:01:28,400 And I'm so grateful for you and your friendship. 50 00:01:28,400 --> 00:01:29,400 You've connected yourself. 51 00:01:29,400 --> 00:01:30,400 Yeah. 52 00:01:30,400 --> 00:01:33,400 So I'm excited to have you as our guest and talking about your great story. 53 00:01:33,400 --> 00:01:37,400 So before we get into all your courage and everything, introduce yourself a small or 54 00:01:37,400 --> 00:01:38,400 fun fact about you. 55 00:01:38,400 --> 00:01:39,400 Nobody knows. 56 00:01:39,400 --> 00:01:40,400 Okay. 57 00:01:40,400 --> 00:01:42,400 We can get to know you and then we'll talk about courage. 58 00:01:42,400 --> 00:01:43,400 All right. 59 00:01:43,400 --> 00:01:44,400 So I'm J. Bond Bishop. 60 00:01:44,400 --> 00:01:45,400 My name is Jessica. 61 00:01:45,400 --> 00:01:46,400 I go by J. Bond. 62 00:01:46,400 --> 00:01:47,400 It's a nickname from seventh grade. 63 00:01:47,400 --> 00:01:48,400 But it's also become the brand of my store. 64 00:01:48,400 --> 00:01:50,400 This is the name of my store. 65 00:01:50,400 --> 00:01:52,400 And as you can see, the cursive just kind of looks pretty together. 66 00:01:52,400 --> 00:01:54,400 So like the J and the B and the B. 67 00:01:54,400 --> 00:01:56,400 So J. Bond Bishop, Rick and Paul. 68 00:01:56,400 --> 00:01:58,400 I am the owner here at the St. 69 00:01:58,400 --> 00:01:59,400 Lake. 70 00:01:59,400 --> 00:02:00,400 I do have a brick and mortar. 71 00:02:00,400 --> 00:02:02,400 I have another location actually across the lake. 72 00:02:02,400 --> 00:02:05,400 But it has definitely taken a lot to get to this point. 73 00:02:05,400 --> 00:02:08,400 You know, and if people always think like, oh, look, you opened a story. 74 00:02:08,400 --> 00:02:11,400 You just, I had this idea and it all happened now. 75 00:02:11,400 --> 00:02:14,400 It's up to downs and good, some bad and everything. 76 00:02:14,400 --> 00:02:17,400 So what's, so you're from, you're from this area. 77 00:02:17,400 --> 00:02:20,400 I've been here for I will be 37 in January. 78 00:02:20,400 --> 00:02:22,400 So I've literally been here that whole time. 79 00:02:22,400 --> 00:02:25,400 And that is of course when I went off to college for a couple of years. 80 00:02:25,400 --> 00:02:26,400 And it's changed a lot. 81 00:02:26,400 --> 00:02:27,400 It has. 82 00:02:27,400 --> 00:02:29,400 I've watched it grow the whole side of the lake. 83 00:02:29,400 --> 00:02:31,400 I've literally watched that grow. 84 00:02:31,400 --> 00:02:32,400 Yeah. 85 00:02:32,400 --> 00:02:33,400 Crazy. 86 00:02:33,400 --> 00:02:34,400 And you built that. 87 00:02:34,400 --> 00:02:35,400 All right. 88 00:02:35,400 --> 00:02:36,400 So what's the fun fact about J. 89 00:02:36,400 --> 00:02:37,400 Bond? 90 00:02:37,400 --> 00:02:38,400 Nobody knows. 91 00:02:38,400 --> 00:02:41,400 The fun fact that most people don't realize is that actually my, you 92 00:02:41,400 --> 00:02:44,400 know, I guess past and my experiences have nothing to do with retail, 93 00:02:44,400 --> 00:02:46,400 with any of that. 94 00:02:46,400 --> 00:02:52,400 Or I guess just the fact is that I have a master's in higher education. 95 00:02:52,400 --> 00:02:57,400 I don't want to be in the student affairs still than it actually took me 96 00:02:57,400 --> 00:03:00,400 being at admissions counselor at the university. 97 00:03:00,400 --> 00:03:04,400 I went to, to realize that I actually loved sharing things with people that I 98 00:03:04,400 --> 00:03:07,400 was passionate about, which was my school at the time. 99 00:03:07,400 --> 00:03:12,400 And yeah, so that degree was supposed to lead me to be on the other side of 100 00:03:12,400 --> 00:03:16,400 that, which was to cater to those students once they got to school. 101 00:03:16,400 --> 00:03:20,400 And that's just wasn't what I know what you learned is people skills. 102 00:03:20,400 --> 00:03:21,400 Yeah. 103 00:03:21,400 --> 00:03:22,400 Yeah. 104 00:03:22,400 --> 00:03:24,400 Somebody came in and told me that I did share that with a customer. 105 00:03:24,400 --> 00:03:26,400 They said, you're just teaching people how to shop. 106 00:03:26,400 --> 00:03:27,400 Exactly. 107 00:03:27,400 --> 00:03:28,400 I absolutely am. 108 00:03:28,400 --> 00:03:29,400 Yep. 109 00:03:29,400 --> 00:03:30,400 That's what I do. 110 00:03:30,400 --> 00:03:31,400 You people have to go there. 111 00:03:31,400 --> 00:03:32,400 Yeah. 112 00:03:32,400 --> 00:03:34,400 You know, my degree is my master's in finance. 113 00:03:34,400 --> 00:03:36,400 So like master's in finance in your American. 114 00:03:36,400 --> 00:03:37,400 But it works. 115 00:03:37,400 --> 00:03:38,400 Right. 116 00:03:38,400 --> 00:03:39,400 Yeah. 117 00:03:39,400 --> 00:03:40,400 My business woman. 118 00:03:40,400 --> 00:03:43,400 I'm a big fan of your, you know, total upper sales. 119 00:03:43,400 --> 00:03:44,400 That's like the building. 120 00:03:44,400 --> 00:03:45,400 Right. 121 00:03:45,400 --> 00:03:46,400 So, all right. 122 00:03:46,400 --> 00:03:48,400 So what does courage mean to you? 123 00:03:48,400 --> 00:03:49,400 Courage means to me. 124 00:03:49,400 --> 00:03:50,400 I thought a lot about this. 125 00:03:50,400 --> 00:03:56,400 Courage means to me doing something that obviously, you know, you're scared of. 126 00:03:56,400 --> 00:03:57,400 Everybody knows that. 127 00:03:57,400 --> 00:04:00,400 But to me, it's setting boundaries. 128 00:04:00,400 --> 00:04:06,400 It is just kind of setting aside all insecurities of yourself, of anything and 129 00:04:06,400 --> 00:04:08,400 not really worrying about what people think. 130 00:04:08,400 --> 00:04:13,400 A lot of what I know we're going to get into today and really reflects that on me because 131 00:04:13,400 --> 00:04:18,400 I spent so many years worrying about what other people thought or what's going to happen. 132 00:04:18,400 --> 00:04:24,400 And so courage is really literally just setting aside all of that and making your dreams happen. 133 00:04:24,400 --> 00:04:25,400 Yeah. 134 00:04:25,400 --> 00:04:31,400 And that's so true in that whole, what are people think and we judge, you know, and we 135 00:04:31,400 --> 00:04:32,400 take advice. 136 00:04:32,400 --> 00:04:33,400 And this is what I've seen a lot. 137 00:04:33,400 --> 00:04:35,400 We take advice from people we don't even like. 138 00:04:35,400 --> 00:04:36,400 Right. 139 00:04:36,400 --> 00:04:38,400 The girl from high school we didn't even like. 140 00:04:38,400 --> 00:04:39,400 Right. 141 00:04:39,400 --> 00:04:41,400 Or her aren't planning to do the things we don't want to do. 142 00:04:41,400 --> 00:04:42,400 Yeah. 143 00:04:42,400 --> 00:04:43,400 I'm like, they're not thinking. 144 00:04:43,400 --> 00:04:44,400 We have bigger thinkers. 145 00:04:44,400 --> 00:04:45,400 Yeah. 146 00:04:45,400 --> 00:04:46,400 Definitely big thinkers we are. 147 00:04:46,400 --> 00:04:47,400 Yeah. 148 00:04:47,400 --> 00:04:48,400 Absolutely. 149 00:04:48,400 --> 00:04:49,400 That's why we connected immediately and shared ideas. 150 00:04:49,400 --> 00:04:54,400 And this podcast interview came about that when I was down at the lake last week, came 151 00:04:54,400 --> 00:04:56,400 in and hung out with you and we're like, we need to do that. 152 00:04:56,400 --> 00:04:57,400 Literally, we need to pin it down. 153 00:04:57,400 --> 00:04:58,400 All right. 154 00:04:58,400 --> 00:04:59,400 So courage. 155 00:04:59,400 --> 00:05:00,400 You've had a lot of courage. 156 00:05:00,400 --> 00:05:01,400 You started this business. 157 00:05:01,400 --> 00:05:05,400 But let's go back to, I think, before you started this. 158 00:05:05,400 --> 00:05:09,400 I think it was around the 2020 and life was hard for you. 159 00:05:09,400 --> 00:05:13,400 Just to kind of, you know, just giving you all a brief little history about just, you 160 00:05:13,400 --> 00:05:18,400 know, had the degree to do higher education and back in 2013, you know, I decided then 161 00:05:18,400 --> 00:05:20,400 that I was made to work for myself. 162 00:05:20,400 --> 00:05:24,400 Like I just knew very early on that was just what I needed to do to be happy. 163 00:05:24,400 --> 00:05:27,400 And that took a lot of courage in itself and discipline. 164 00:05:27,400 --> 00:05:29,400 That's another thing, discipline. 165 00:05:29,400 --> 00:05:30,400 Yeah. 166 00:05:30,400 --> 00:05:31,400 Absolutely. 167 00:05:31,400 --> 00:05:36,400 And so, you know, I was able to build an online community of people over the last 10 years, 168 00:05:36,400 --> 00:05:41,400 but then going back to 2020, you know, the world shut down and I was already connected 169 00:05:41,400 --> 00:05:45,400 to the community in the way of doing social media for folks. 170 00:05:45,400 --> 00:05:50,400 So post COVID, I actually ended up starting the social media marketing company to help 171 00:05:50,400 --> 00:05:56,400 mentor and guide the local business owners and just small business owners like myself. 172 00:05:56,400 --> 00:06:00,400 And so throughout those 10 years, I've done things like Stella and Dot. 173 00:06:00,400 --> 00:06:05,400 That was of course my biggest and my longest journey with social selling. 174 00:06:05,400 --> 00:06:12,400 And so in 2020, we had gift shops around the lake, restaurants, you name it, they were 175 00:06:12,400 --> 00:06:17,400 trying to figure out how can we pretty much convert sales to online. 176 00:06:17,400 --> 00:06:22,400 And I remember setting with a couple of different business owners and just really talking over 177 00:06:22,400 --> 00:06:27,400 how do we bring this to be an online thing because 2020, like you've got all this inventory 178 00:06:27,400 --> 00:06:28,400 coming in. 179 00:06:28,400 --> 00:06:29,400 That was me. 180 00:06:29,400 --> 00:06:30,400 How are you going to sell it? 181 00:06:30,400 --> 00:06:31,400 Right. 182 00:06:31,400 --> 00:06:35,400 When you have no know how of doing online. 183 00:06:35,400 --> 00:06:40,400 And so what turned into just starting with a couple of things ended up spending the whole 184 00:06:40,400 --> 00:06:46,400 2020 mentoring and just meeting fix at the coffee shop and giving them the advice that 185 00:06:46,400 --> 00:06:51,400 I had and just what I had learned since not, you know, being in this industry. 186 00:06:51,400 --> 00:06:55,400 So yeah, I forgot your question Leslie. 187 00:06:55,400 --> 00:06:57,400 So just how you got here. 188 00:06:57,400 --> 00:06:58,400 Yeah. 189 00:06:58,400 --> 00:07:03,400 So you were such a happy upbeat, right? 190 00:07:03,400 --> 00:07:07,400 Fun personality, but it's not always that way. 191 00:07:07,400 --> 00:07:08,400 It's not. 192 00:07:08,400 --> 00:07:11,400 And so that's where we were going with that one is that in 2020. 193 00:07:11,400 --> 00:07:17,400 So after I had done all that, you know, I had really extended out a lot of help to people 194 00:07:17,400 --> 00:07:22,400 and granted, you know, after 2021 started, you know, they were paying me to do it because 195 00:07:22,400 --> 00:07:27,400 at that point I could no longer do it volunteer as much as I would have loved to. 196 00:07:27,400 --> 00:07:34,400 I kind of run ran myself into a hole because I had that knowledge of online and social 197 00:07:34,400 --> 00:07:36,400 sharing and that sort of thing. 198 00:07:36,400 --> 00:07:43,400 Come June, I had meant toward over 100 people plus for workshops, not to mention all the 199 00:07:43,400 --> 00:07:45,400 social media account that was right. 200 00:07:45,400 --> 00:07:46,400 So I was setting no boundaries. 201 00:07:46,400 --> 00:07:52,400 I wasn't taking care of myself and it takes a lot of courage to say, Hey, like we need 202 00:07:52,400 --> 00:07:57,400 to change and to actually ran myself into a hole and I became really depressed. 203 00:07:57,400 --> 00:08:00,400 I've been diagnosed with OCD. 204 00:08:00,400 --> 00:08:05,400 So had some mental health issues in 2020 started in early 2019. 205 00:08:05,400 --> 00:08:06,400 Did you know about that before? 206 00:08:06,400 --> 00:08:07,400 Nope. 207 00:08:07,400 --> 00:08:11,400 Like I said, in 2019 something just wasn't right. 208 00:08:11,400 --> 00:08:16,400 Like I went to the doctor and didn't really actually get help help until July of 2020. 209 00:08:16,400 --> 00:08:19,400 So fast for a year after that. 210 00:08:19,400 --> 00:08:24,400 I just something was inside of me just depressed. 211 00:08:24,400 --> 00:08:25,400 Didn't want to leave the house. 212 00:08:25,400 --> 00:08:28,400 You just mentioned I'm bubbly and you know, I don't want to go anywhere. 213 00:08:28,400 --> 00:08:29,400 I didn't want to get stressed. 214 00:08:29,400 --> 00:08:30,400 It wasn't. 215 00:08:30,400 --> 00:08:34,400 So I knew that I needed to make a change and one of those changes was to say no, all the 216 00:08:34,400 --> 00:08:37,400 things that I've been taken on, but something inside of me. 217 00:08:37,400 --> 00:08:42,400 So I was still doing selling dot at the time, which obviously is all in my mind. 218 00:08:42,400 --> 00:08:46,400 When you do your own pop ups and whatnot, which those of you don't know what that is. 219 00:08:46,400 --> 00:08:47,400 It's another direct selling company. 220 00:08:47,400 --> 00:08:50,400 It's a health story, health story. 221 00:08:50,400 --> 00:08:53,400 And so for me, I just had this gut feeling. 222 00:08:53,400 --> 00:08:56,400 It was one of the things I was at the darkest time of my life, Leslie. 223 00:08:56,400 --> 00:08:57,400 Like I think I told you this part. 224 00:08:57,400 --> 00:09:03,400 Like I was at the darkest part of my life, but yet all I could think about was this was 225 00:09:03,400 --> 00:09:06,400 and when I say this, I don't even mean this store. 226 00:09:06,400 --> 00:09:08,400 I mean the mission of what we do. 227 00:09:08,400 --> 00:09:12,400 It wasn't even the same product line because we ended up launching J bond Bishop Mercantile 228 00:09:12,400 --> 00:09:16,400 at the chili fest just a few months later and it kind of looks completely different than 229 00:09:16,400 --> 00:09:17,400 this. 230 00:09:17,400 --> 00:09:20,400 We might have to go through a little tour of the store and work time. 231 00:09:20,400 --> 00:09:21,400 I don't know about that. 232 00:09:21,400 --> 00:09:22,400 Okay. 233 00:09:22,400 --> 00:09:23,400 We can share. 234 00:09:23,400 --> 00:09:26,400 You can tell in the background we are in her store. 235 00:09:26,400 --> 00:09:30,400 But what we've evolved to is what the customers have wanted. 236 00:09:30,400 --> 00:09:31,400 Right. 237 00:09:31,400 --> 00:09:33,400 So we didn't start out with clothes and shoes. 238 00:09:33,400 --> 00:09:37,400 We definitely had jewelry because that's my background is mostly having jewelry and 239 00:09:37,400 --> 00:09:38,400 that sort of fashion. 240 00:09:38,400 --> 00:09:40,400 Home decor is also the thing. 241 00:09:40,400 --> 00:09:44,400 When you come into the store now, you definitely get that experience and you could kind of 242 00:09:44,400 --> 00:09:46,400 tell that I like to decorate. 243 00:09:46,400 --> 00:09:48,400 I got a lot of good one on there. 244 00:09:48,400 --> 00:09:54,400 But yeah, it was just, like I said, I'm at home and I'm like, that's all I could, that's 245 00:09:54,400 --> 00:09:59,400 all I wanted to put my time and effort towards when I was really sad and I was really down. 246 00:09:59,400 --> 00:10:03,400 I don't even know that it's sad the best way to describe it, but just not feeling like 247 00:10:03,400 --> 00:10:09,400 myself, but I knew that doing this and what this means is especially now as it's evolved 248 00:10:09,400 --> 00:10:12,400 into clothing and as you know with makeup. 249 00:10:12,400 --> 00:10:17,400 We are seriously just like helping women feel good about themselves. 250 00:10:17,400 --> 00:10:19,400 And that's what I love about this. 251 00:10:19,400 --> 00:10:21,400 When people walk through the store, how can we help you? 252 00:10:21,400 --> 00:10:26,400 You know, oh, I'm looking for an outfit for XYZ and you're in and out. 253 00:10:26,400 --> 00:10:32,400 Yeah, we try to create a really good experience and really catering to just build in those 254 00:10:32,400 --> 00:10:33,400 relationships with people. 255 00:10:33,400 --> 00:10:36,400 But that has brought me joy that I was lacking. 256 00:10:36,400 --> 00:10:37,400 Right. 257 00:10:37,400 --> 00:10:38,400 So. 258 00:10:38,400 --> 00:10:39,400 So lots of things I heard you say. 259 00:10:39,400 --> 00:10:40,400 Yeah. 260 00:10:40,400 --> 00:10:41,400 Okay. 261 00:10:41,400 --> 00:10:45,400 I heard that you realized there was a problem, which is a problem, which is a good thing 262 00:10:45,400 --> 00:10:46,400 that and you got help. 263 00:10:46,400 --> 00:10:47,400 I did. 264 00:10:47,400 --> 00:10:52,400 And so so many people around the mental health issues are afraid to get help. 265 00:10:52,400 --> 00:10:56,400 And I think COVID, I hate to say that word, but magnified and brought it out. 266 00:10:56,400 --> 00:10:57,400 It did. 267 00:10:57,400 --> 00:10:59,400 I don't think I was ever lonely in my life and hope it right. 268 00:10:59,400 --> 00:11:01,400 And that's what brought me here. 269 00:11:01,400 --> 00:11:05,400 Issues were definitely underlined before COVID, but COVID definitely brought it out. 270 00:11:05,400 --> 00:11:09,400 And you were doing lots for a lot of people because you are a giver and you are a helper. 271 00:11:09,400 --> 00:11:11,400 And so you were doing a lot of things. 272 00:11:11,400 --> 00:11:14,400 And one, what I know for sure is we got to fill our own cup. 273 00:11:14,400 --> 00:11:15,400 Yeah. 274 00:11:15,400 --> 00:11:17,400 And if we're not filling our own cup, you can't give to somebody else. 275 00:11:17,400 --> 00:11:21,400 And I heard that all the time, but I was like in one ear and out the other and I thought 276 00:11:21,400 --> 00:11:25,400 that I was feeling my cup by doing things like, Oh, let me take myself out to lunch. 277 00:11:25,400 --> 00:11:28,400 They sort of sort of things that's so temporary. 278 00:11:28,400 --> 00:11:29,400 Yeah. 279 00:11:29,400 --> 00:11:35,400 You got to fill your soul up and do the things and some of the time things that give us joy 280 00:11:35,400 --> 00:11:36,400 are the ones that are going to fill our cup. 281 00:11:36,400 --> 00:11:37,400 That's right. 282 00:11:37,400 --> 00:11:39,400 And so you're just doing stuff to check them off. 283 00:11:39,400 --> 00:11:40,400 Yeah. 284 00:11:40,400 --> 00:11:41,400 It's not doing it. 285 00:11:41,400 --> 00:11:43,400 And you're helping everybody, which is great. 286 00:11:43,400 --> 00:11:44,400 I can help them now. 287 00:11:44,400 --> 00:11:47,400 I'm still helping them, but in a totally different way that's bringing us both joy. 288 00:11:47,400 --> 00:11:48,400 Right. 289 00:11:48,400 --> 00:11:49,400 To meet your beneficial things. 290 00:11:49,400 --> 00:11:50,400 Exactly. 291 00:11:50,400 --> 00:11:54,400 And a friend once tell me, you know, you stop entering into so many agreements with people 292 00:11:54,400 --> 00:11:55,400 that aren't usually official. 293 00:11:55,400 --> 00:11:58,400 And I thought, gosh, that is a really good way to look at things. 294 00:11:58,400 --> 00:11:59,400 I like that. 295 00:11:59,400 --> 00:12:02,400 Because it's not going to, you know, don't get me wrong. 296 00:12:02,400 --> 00:12:05,400 I still like to volunteer and I do that, but it brings me joy. 297 00:12:05,400 --> 00:12:08,400 If you're going to do something that isn't bringing you the joy. 298 00:12:08,400 --> 00:12:11,400 Well, I volunteer for something where your heart's not in it. 299 00:12:11,400 --> 00:12:12,400 That's right. 300 00:12:12,400 --> 00:12:14,400 Like one of the things I help out a lot with is domestic violence. 301 00:12:14,400 --> 00:12:15,400 Yes. 302 00:12:15,400 --> 00:12:16,400 Because Mary Kay's aligned with that. 303 00:12:16,400 --> 00:12:17,400 Right. 304 00:12:17,400 --> 00:12:18,400 But also the confidence for women. 305 00:12:18,400 --> 00:12:19,400 Yeah. 306 00:12:19,400 --> 00:12:22,400 You know, they say on average a woman's self esteem is highest at age 10. 307 00:12:22,400 --> 00:12:23,400 Oh, wow. 308 00:12:23,400 --> 00:12:24,400 It just breaks my heart. 309 00:12:24,400 --> 00:12:27,400 So how can we empower women and make people feel better and feel better? 310 00:12:27,400 --> 00:12:32,400 I understand that because I was 33 when I started going through this like mental health, 311 00:12:32,400 --> 00:12:33,400 basically crisis. 312 00:12:33,400 --> 00:12:36,400 And now when people have been telling me, I'm going to be your best and I'm like, 313 00:12:36,400 --> 00:12:37,400 oh, no, about that. 314 00:12:37,400 --> 00:12:40,400 I mean, I think 30 is like, they're hard. 315 00:12:40,400 --> 00:12:43,400 A decade where you kind of reevaluate them. 316 00:12:43,400 --> 00:12:44,400 Where am I? 317 00:12:44,400 --> 00:12:45,400 What am I doing? 318 00:12:45,400 --> 00:12:47,400 And then all the things on here, you know, you and I both don't have kids. 319 00:12:47,400 --> 00:12:50,400 And so that plays a lot into it. 320 00:12:50,400 --> 00:12:53,400 You know, if you've had children at that age, they might be going great. 321 00:12:53,400 --> 00:12:57,400 But for me, it's just been kind of just like 23 was also difficult. 322 00:12:57,400 --> 00:13:01,400 And, you know, we're deciding where you want to go and what you want to do. 323 00:13:01,400 --> 00:13:02,400 Yeah, exactly. 324 00:13:02,400 --> 00:13:07,400 So you created this amazing business and it is not just a store. 325 00:13:07,400 --> 00:13:09,400 It's not definitely don't want it to be. 326 00:13:09,400 --> 00:13:10,400 It is an experience. 327 00:13:10,400 --> 00:13:11,400 And that's what you've created. 328 00:13:11,400 --> 00:13:15,400 And I love like I'm when I'm down here, I just come to see you and experience it when 329 00:13:15,400 --> 00:13:17,400 I walked in the door the other day. 330 00:13:17,400 --> 00:13:21,400 And you were getting ready to close really what I walked in. 331 00:13:21,400 --> 00:13:22,400 That's okay. 332 00:13:22,400 --> 00:13:23,400 People hear you. 333 00:13:23,400 --> 00:13:24,400 I'll never close on you. 334 00:13:24,400 --> 00:13:25,400 I always see you. 335 00:13:25,400 --> 00:13:29,400 So you introduced me to somebody that wrote a devotional, which I've had in my hands 336 00:13:29,400 --> 00:13:31,400 the other day and I'm buying it. 337 00:13:31,400 --> 00:13:37,400 So, yeah, it's just, it's just, it's just you know, getting into, getting into the 338 00:13:37,400 --> 00:13:42,400 business of it and you know, just getting into the business of it and you know, 339 00:13:42,400 --> 00:13:45,400 just actually we will talk to just the, yeah, on the podcast. 340 00:13:45,400 --> 00:13:48,400 There were a couple girls trying on clothes and we were able to say, Oh, 341 00:13:48,400 --> 00:13:49,400 that looks good. 342 00:13:49,400 --> 00:13:50,400 No, I don't know about that. 343 00:13:50,400 --> 00:13:53,400 And there was something, you know, you could have been all about the mighty 344 00:13:53,400 --> 00:13:54,400 dollar, right. 345 00:13:54,400 --> 00:13:56,400 And there was a shirt that. 346 00:13:56,400 --> 00:13:57,400 Yeah. 347 00:13:57,400 --> 00:13:58,400 Sara, her, yeah. 348 00:13:58,400 --> 00:14:00,400 Sara was looking at and you're like, yeah, no, not today. 349 00:14:00,400 --> 00:14:03,600 and be confident with it and be happy with it and love it. 350 00:14:03,600 --> 00:14:05,400 And I try to make sure that when I leave here, 351 00:14:05,400 --> 00:14:07,120 if I can see them at the register with their wills, 352 00:14:07,120 --> 00:14:08,280 then I know how I am. 353 00:14:08,280 --> 00:14:09,640 You know, I do want to buy everything, 354 00:14:09,640 --> 00:14:10,880 but you just said you can't. 355 00:14:10,880 --> 00:14:13,320 And you're not gonna wear it and it's not making me happy. 356 00:14:13,320 --> 00:14:15,800 And if it's really making you sick to think about 357 00:14:15,800 --> 00:14:17,640 buying it, do not buy it. 358 00:14:17,640 --> 00:14:19,040 Yeah, and then you're gonna, every time you put it on, 359 00:14:19,040 --> 00:14:21,000 go, ugh, had to hide this from my husband. 360 00:14:21,000 --> 00:14:23,160 That's a facility just fine if you don't make that purchase. 361 00:14:23,160 --> 00:14:24,400 Exactly, exactly. 362 00:14:24,400 --> 00:14:26,600 I want you to come back and buy things that you love. 363 00:14:26,600 --> 00:14:27,440 Yep. 364 00:14:27,440 --> 00:14:31,760 So yeah, you evolve from online selling to a store. 365 00:14:31,760 --> 00:14:33,040 I know you have one in a marina, 366 00:14:33,040 --> 00:14:35,880 you have another pop-up and you open this store, 367 00:14:35,880 --> 00:14:39,480 which has probably took some courage and investment 368 00:14:39,480 --> 00:14:41,760 and putting yourself out there. 369 00:14:41,760 --> 00:14:46,560 It was a big decision because for me, pre-COVID, 370 00:14:46,560 --> 00:14:48,080 you know, and with still and bought, you know, 371 00:14:48,080 --> 00:14:49,280 I earned a lot of those trips, 372 00:14:49,280 --> 00:14:50,920 I was always traveling. 373 00:14:50,920 --> 00:14:52,080 We still like to travel, 374 00:14:52,080 --> 00:14:54,720 but the concept of having a brick and mortar, 375 00:14:54,720 --> 00:14:56,400 and probably also at the time in my life, 376 00:14:56,400 --> 00:14:58,880 I didn't have anybody that I knew was gonna be the person 377 00:14:58,880 --> 00:15:01,120 to run this store when I'm not here. 378 00:15:01,120 --> 00:15:02,080 It's one of the biggest things, 379 00:15:02,080 --> 00:15:04,400 is having your business not need you as much, 380 00:15:04,400 --> 00:15:06,080 or need you all the time. 381 00:15:06,080 --> 00:15:08,440 So you can have time for yourself, 382 00:15:08,440 --> 00:15:11,400 but pre-COVID, those things just weren't lined up. 383 00:15:11,400 --> 00:15:13,800 And so in my head, I thought I never will have a store, 384 00:15:13,800 --> 00:15:15,240 that was not the mission. 385 00:15:15,240 --> 00:15:18,200 Again, this did not start with the same product line, 386 00:15:18,200 --> 00:15:20,360 it was a lot more manageable. 387 00:15:20,360 --> 00:15:23,160 This was hard to manage, but I loved it. 388 00:15:23,160 --> 00:15:25,200 But yeah, so I ended up doing it because I said, 389 00:15:25,200 --> 00:15:28,040 you know, now that I'm in a place where if I need to go 390 00:15:28,040 --> 00:15:30,840 on vacation, and I do, I can do it, 391 00:15:30,840 --> 00:15:34,440 we all do at hand and things still run smooth. 392 00:15:34,440 --> 00:15:37,440 And so, you know, we've kind of progressed from all of that 393 00:15:37,440 --> 00:15:39,680 to now we still have the online portion, 394 00:15:39,680 --> 00:15:41,960 which is doing very well, 395 00:15:41,960 --> 00:15:43,160 and we had to continue to grow it. 396 00:15:43,160 --> 00:15:45,480 But in order for me to continue to grow, 397 00:15:45,480 --> 00:15:47,040 I'm bringing my mom on. 398 00:15:47,040 --> 00:15:50,120 So she's gonna become the Mercantile manager. 399 00:15:50,120 --> 00:15:51,320 Now she's the Mercantile mama, 400 00:15:51,320 --> 00:15:53,080 but she's gonna be the Mercantile manager. 401 00:15:53,080 --> 00:15:57,480 She's retiring, she's not super close to retirement, 402 00:15:57,480 --> 00:15:59,840 but I am retiring her to work with me. 403 00:15:59,840 --> 00:16:01,160 Yay! 404 00:16:01,160 --> 00:16:03,000 You know, that's it, you gotta have a strong team. 405 00:16:03,000 --> 00:16:04,520 And I know we talked one day, 406 00:16:06,000 --> 00:16:07,720 but we talked about getting help, 407 00:16:07,720 --> 00:16:09,040 and being able to delegate, 408 00:16:09,040 --> 00:16:11,800 and you know, we can't work all night, every night, 409 00:16:11,800 --> 00:16:13,920 and there's nothing to give back. 410 00:16:13,920 --> 00:16:15,880 That's right, it's not good for your mental health, 411 00:16:15,880 --> 00:16:20,880 and you know, going back to seeking help for mental issues, 412 00:16:20,880 --> 00:16:23,400 there's a huge stigma, as we all know, 413 00:16:23,400 --> 00:16:26,360 and that's one of the things that I've tried to voice 414 00:16:26,360 --> 00:16:28,840 and be very transparent with on Facebook, 415 00:16:28,840 --> 00:16:30,520 especially on Instagram, 416 00:16:30,520 --> 00:16:33,680 because I do realize I've got an audience of people 417 00:16:33,680 --> 00:16:35,520 who are looking, maybe they're not common, 418 00:16:35,520 --> 00:16:37,880 but they're watching, and so when I shared, 419 00:16:37,880 --> 00:16:39,600 you know, what I was going through, 420 00:16:39,600 --> 00:16:41,480 people were coming out of the woodworks, like, 421 00:16:41,480 --> 00:16:44,360 oh my gosh, you know, 65 year old man reached out, 422 00:16:44,360 --> 00:16:46,000 like, that's huge. 423 00:16:46,000 --> 00:16:49,360 Well, and I think that's the social media responsibility 424 00:16:49,360 --> 00:16:51,800 we have, and when we do have people following us, 425 00:16:51,800 --> 00:16:53,080 and people paying attention to us, 426 00:16:53,080 --> 00:16:56,040 you never know who's watching, and it's not about the likes, 427 00:16:56,040 --> 00:16:57,240 it's not about the comments, 428 00:16:57,240 --> 00:16:58,960 there's people watching behind the scenes, 429 00:16:58,960 --> 00:17:01,760 I often wear, and I have it on today, a starfish thing, 430 00:17:01,760 --> 00:17:04,520 because I do, do you know the story of the starfish? 431 00:17:04,520 --> 00:17:05,360 I do not know that. 432 00:17:05,360 --> 00:17:06,880 So there's a guy walking on the beach, 433 00:17:06,880 --> 00:17:10,320 and there were millions of stars on the beach, 434 00:17:10,320 --> 00:17:12,520 and he's picking them up and throwing them in the water, 435 00:17:12,520 --> 00:17:14,360 and they climb up and throw them in the water, 436 00:17:14,360 --> 00:17:16,520 and this other person walks up and he goes, 437 00:17:16,520 --> 00:17:18,960 what are you doing, you're never going to make a good person, 438 00:17:18,960 --> 00:17:20,240 you're going to make a difference. 439 00:17:20,240 --> 00:17:21,600 And he picked them up, threw them in the water, 440 00:17:21,600 --> 00:17:24,000 and said, I made a difference for that one. 441 00:17:24,000 --> 00:17:27,400 And so when you work with people, and anything you do, 442 00:17:27,400 --> 00:17:30,440 you never know who's watching, who's paying attention, 443 00:17:30,440 --> 00:17:32,920 and when you are on social media, you have an audience, 444 00:17:32,920 --> 00:17:35,960 you know, there's things I do that people make comment, 445 00:17:35,960 --> 00:17:38,120 and like, I have no idea what you're watching, 446 00:17:38,120 --> 00:17:40,000 you know, people that are listening to the podcast, 447 00:17:40,000 --> 00:17:41,320 I do an inspirational post. 448 00:17:41,320 --> 00:17:43,360 Let's make courage to make, do a podcast, right? 449 00:17:43,360 --> 00:17:44,200 It does. 450 00:17:44,200 --> 00:17:47,600 Like, everything that we decide to share takes courage. 451 00:17:47,600 --> 00:17:49,200 Whether it's the... When you share it with anybody, 452 00:17:49,200 --> 00:17:52,080 you know, sitting here on camera with a friend, you know, 453 00:17:52,080 --> 00:17:53,560 it takes courage. 454 00:17:53,560 --> 00:17:54,560 And I'm not perfect. 455 00:17:54,560 --> 00:17:56,640 I haven't been nervous at all, this has been great. 456 00:17:56,640 --> 00:17:58,880 You know, it's just a conversation. 457 00:17:58,880 --> 00:18:00,520 And it really always just share. 458 00:18:00,520 --> 00:18:02,000 It is. 459 00:18:02,000 --> 00:18:04,160 So, and let's go back to the store real quick. 460 00:18:04,160 --> 00:18:05,200 Sure. 461 00:18:05,200 --> 00:18:08,440 What I love about this is it isn't an experience, 462 00:18:08,440 --> 00:18:09,920 you walk in, you're greeted. 463 00:18:09,920 --> 00:18:12,720 Her dressing rooms, you guys, are almost as big as the store. 464 00:18:12,720 --> 00:18:13,920 They are, they're pretty big. 465 00:18:13,920 --> 00:18:14,760 You have. 466 00:18:14,760 --> 00:18:16,200 We did that for a reason that you know that, right? 467 00:18:16,200 --> 00:18:17,040 You know that. 468 00:18:17,040 --> 00:18:19,280 Well, I know one is Charleston and one is Nashville. 469 00:18:19,280 --> 00:18:21,520 Charleston and Savannah is the kind of the low country. 470 00:18:21,520 --> 00:18:22,360 Yeah. 471 00:18:22,360 --> 00:18:23,200 And then Nashville. 472 00:18:23,200 --> 00:18:24,280 And the reason that we kept them so big, 473 00:18:24,280 --> 00:18:26,600 number one is we already had a knockout like four walls. 474 00:18:26,600 --> 00:18:29,840 We were like, you know, what we've experienced in the past 475 00:18:29,840 --> 00:18:32,280 is that women love to come shop together, right? 476 00:18:32,280 --> 00:18:33,960 And whether it be mom and daughter, 477 00:18:33,960 --> 00:18:36,040 mom, daughter and baby, or gosh, 478 00:18:36,040 --> 00:18:37,840 a group of four to five women, 479 00:18:37,840 --> 00:18:41,040 that those dressing rooms will fit comfortably 480 00:18:41,040 --> 00:18:42,720 if you're willing to go in with your girlfriends 481 00:18:42,720 --> 00:18:45,040 and these ladies are, they go in there together 482 00:18:45,040 --> 00:18:47,600 and they're just in their pack one and laughing away 483 00:18:47,600 --> 00:18:48,800 and having the best time. 484 00:18:48,800 --> 00:18:50,920 So we're really able to do that. 485 00:18:50,920 --> 00:18:53,360 And then of course, the flex room is the national room 486 00:18:53,360 --> 00:18:56,760 that we use to serve on our buffet like food. 487 00:18:56,760 --> 00:18:57,600 We were having a good time. 488 00:18:57,600 --> 00:18:58,440 Because you do a lot of fun. 489 00:18:58,440 --> 00:18:59,280 We do a lot of events. 490 00:18:59,280 --> 00:19:01,080 A lot of food involved here because we love to eat. 491 00:19:01,080 --> 00:19:03,200 So and even if you walk in here by yourself, 492 00:19:03,200 --> 00:19:04,360 yes. 493 00:19:04,360 --> 00:19:05,440 You create friends. 494 00:19:05,440 --> 00:19:07,040 I know one time I was shopping with a friend 495 00:19:07,040 --> 00:19:08,480 and we were looking at something. 496 00:19:08,480 --> 00:19:09,400 And by the time we were done, 497 00:19:09,400 --> 00:19:11,360 we had a whole group of women. 498 00:19:11,360 --> 00:19:12,200 Right. 499 00:19:12,200 --> 00:19:13,280 And you know, you see something like, 500 00:19:13,280 --> 00:19:14,120 I don't know about that, 501 00:19:14,120 --> 00:19:16,160 somebody else try it on and see another combination. 502 00:19:16,160 --> 00:19:17,000 Like, yeah. 503 00:19:17,000 --> 00:19:17,840 I have that. 504 00:19:17,840 --> 00:19:18,800 If the room is full here, 505 00:19:18,800 --> 00:19:21,160 I always try to make connections because, 506 00:19:21,160 --> 00:19:24,120 you know, even if I've just met that person, 507 00:19:24,120 --> 00:19:26,080 I try to like listen to what they're saying 508 00:19:26,080 --> 00:19:28,320 and connect them with the person shopping beside them. 509 00:19:28,320 --> 00:19:31,040 And I've even had friends like one would walk out 510 00:19:31,040 --> 00:19:33,240 and I'd say, did y'all know each other before today? 511 00:19:33,240 --> 00:19:34,320 And they were like, no, we just met here. 512 00:19:34,320 --> 00:19:36,200 And I was like, in the way they were just interacting 513 00:19:36,200 --> 00:19:37,360 with each other, it just made me so happy. 514 00:19:37,360 --> 00:19:38,920 Well, I made three friends when I was in here. 515 00:19:38,920 --> 00:19:40,680 I wanted to make sure you had met the author 516 00:19:40,680 --> 00:19:42,520 of the book you'd been looking at. 517 00:19:42,520 --> 00:19:44,480 And you know, I like to connect people 518 00:19:44,480 --> 00:19:45,440 and I know you do too, 519 00:19:45,440 --> 00:19:47,960 but that's the biggest thing is just making sure 520 00:19:47,960 --> 00:19:50,640 that everybody knows everybody and like feels loved 521 00:19:50,640 --> 00:19:52,680 and they feel comfortable in this room. 522 00:19:52,680 --> 00:19:53,520 And the other thing too, 523 00:19:53,520 --> 00:19:55,880 I love about the dressing room, they're big. 524 00:19:55,880 --> 00:19:57,640 So you're not standing like this to a mirror. 525 00:19:57,640 --> 00:19:58,480 Right. 526 00:19:58,480 --> 00:19:59,720 And I think I shared with you the other day, 527 00:19:59,720 --> 00:20:00,800 the clothing store, she goes, 528 00:20:00,800 --> 00:20:01,880 I don't know if they still do this. 529 00:20:01,880 --> 00:20:03,240 They didn't have mirrors in the dressing room. 530 00:20:03,240 --> 00:20:04,080 Yeah, that's right. 531 00:20:04,080 --> 00:20:05,160 So you come out and somebody's like, 532 00:20:05,160 --> 00:20:06,240 oh, let's try this and this and this. 533 00:20:06,240 --> 00:20:07,320 Let's try that. 534 00:20:07,320 --> 00:20:09,080 Because, you know, we do want to be affirmed 535 00:20:09,080 --> 00:20:11,360 and we do want, you know, I don't want to buy stuff. 536 00:20:11,360 --> 00:20:14,280 We ask every lady that goes in, if you feel comfortable, 537 00:20:14,280 --> 00:20:16,320 be sure to come out and show us, we'd love to see it. 538 00:20:16,320 --> 00:20:18,680 And then we can really talk to them and truthful, you know, 539 00:20:18,680 --> 00:20:21,040 if it doesn't fit, we got a lot of pre-tools right now 540 00:20:21,040 --> 00:20:22,320 that want to shop for clothes bigger 541 00:20:22,320 --> 00:20:23,840 than they really need to be wearing. 542 00:20:23,840 --> 00:20:26,720 So I have to tell them, you need to really size down 543 00:20:26,720 --> 00:20:28,000 and it'll show your figure. 544 00:20:28,000 --> 00:20:31,680 And they really appreciate that because, you know, 545 00:20:31,680 --> 00:20:33,240 especially if mom's not with them 546 00:20:33,240 --> 00:20:34,840 or maybe mom's not around anymore. 547 00:20:34,840 --> 00:20:35,680 And you don't know, you know, 548 00:20:35,680 --> 00:20:37,680 you need somebody else to affirm and to tell us, 549 00:20:37,680 --> 00:20:38,880 oh, that was good. 550 00:20:38,880 --> 00:20:40,440 Yeah, then no girl, that's not the color. 551 00:20:40,440 --> 00:20:42,400 I interviewed somebody on this before 552 00:20:42,400 --> 00:20:44,480 that talked about fashion and she was like, 553 00:20:44,480 --> 00:20:46,440 oh, bless that with somebody else. 554 00:20:46,440 --> 00:20:48,080 Like, if you have some of your closet, 555 00:20:48,080 --> 00:20:48,920 that's a good story, yeah. 556 00:20:48,920 --> 00:20:49,760 That's right. 557 00:20:49,760 --> 00:20:50,600 If you have a blessing to somebody else. 558 00:20:50,600 --> 00:20:51,560 That's right, yeah. 559 00:20:51,560 --> 00:20:52,720 That's right, I love it. 560 00:20:52,720 --> 00:20:57,720 So, well, so you are a book, or a store, 561 00:20:57,720 --> 00:20:59,160 but also online, if you can shop. 562 00:20:59,160 --> 00:21:00,640 I know a couple of my friends are shopping. 563 00:21:00,640 --> 00:21:01,480 Yeah. 564 00:21:01,480 --> 00:21:02,800 So I told them about you. 565 00:21:02,800 --> 00:21:03,640 Thank you, thank you, thank you. 566 00:21:03,640 --> 00:21:05,080 But so, we do ship all over the US. 567 00:21:05,080 --> 00:21:07,360 Yeah, so we'll talk about the and how people connect with you. 568 00:21:07,360 --> 00:21:08,200 Yeah. 569 00:21:08,200 --> 00:21:10,640 So, we'll talk about how would you encourage somebody else 570 00:21:10,640 --> 00:21:12,000 to be courageous? 571 00:21:12,000 --> 00:21:14,000 How would I encourage someone else to be courageous? 572 00:21:14,000 --> 00:21:16,320 Maybe get help, mental health, 573 00:21:16,320 --> 00:21:18,720 if that's an issue or to start a business 574 00:21:18,720 --> 00:21:20,560 or just to do the scary things. 575 00:21:20,560 --> 00:21:21,400 How would you encourage somebody else? 576 00:21:21,400 --> 00:21:23,000 All above, I mean, gosh, you know, 577 00:21:23,000 --> 00:21:27,120 sometimes it takes, for me, it's doing that brain dump 578 00:21:27,120 --> 00:21:30,720 of like, what's going on? 579 00:21:30,720 --> 00:21:33,400 Like, what is the number one thing that you want to focus on 580 00:21:33,400 --> 00:21:34,400 and start there? 581 00:21:34,400 --> 00:21:36,320 Because once you've done the one courageous thing, 582 00:21:36,320 --> 00:21:37,680 then it kind of keeps. 583 00:21:37,680 --> 00:21:38,520 Yeah, absolutely. 584 00:21:38,520 --> 00:21:39,360 It's all set. 585 00:21:39,360 --> 00:21:41,280 And so, like, you know, we spoke about, 586 00:21:41,280 --> 00:21:43,360 it's been in the store, it took a lot of prayer 587 00:21:43,360 --> 00:21:45,360 and talking with my husband about, 588 00:21:45,360 --> 00:21:46,800 do we have time for this? 589 00:21:46,800 --> 00:21:48,440 Do, you know. 590 00:21:48,440 --> 00:21:49,800 It's a lot of time involved. 591 00:21:49,800 --> 00:21:51,720 It's not going to affect your entire relationship. 592 00:21:51,720 --> 00:21:52,560 Your entire family. 593 00:21:52,560 --> 00:21:53,400 Exactly. 594 00:21:53,400 --> 00:21:56,520 So, yeah, just to be courageous is to, you know, 595 00:21:56,520 --> 00:21:58,160 write it all down, get it out of your head. 596 00:21:58,160 --> 00:21:59,560 That's going to make you feel better, first of all. 597 00:21:59,560 --> 00:22:00,400 Oh, absolutely. 598 00:22:00,400 --> 00:22:03,400 Then just tackle those issues one by one 599 00:22:03,400 --> 00:22:06,040 and just do the set aside all the insecurities. 600 00:22:06,040 --> 00:22:09,600 Like I said before, don't worry about what other people say. 601 00:22:09,600 --> 00:22:10,720 We're so bad at that. 602 00:22:10,720 --> 00:22:12,640 Please stop, because I worried so much. 603 00:22:12,640 --> 00:22:14,880 And then we take advice from the people we don't even like. 604 00:22:14,880 --> 00:22:15,880 Exactly. 605 00:22:15,880 --> 00:22:16,720 And we don't. 606 00:22:16,720 --> 00:22:17,560 And definitely don't do that. 607 00:22:17,560 --> 00:22:18,400 Yeah. 608 00:22:18,400 --> 00:22:20,640 Especially, like I said, if they're not on the path 609 00:22:20,640 --> 00:22:23,240 to do anything related to what you want to do, 610 00:22:23,240 --> 00:22:25,040 those are the people who are never going to grow 611 00:22:25,040 --> 00:22:27,720 because they're just trying to tell everybody else what to do 612 00:22:27,720 --> 00:22:29,120 or what's wrong and what's right. 613 00:22:29,120 --> 00:22:30,800 Oh, you've heard the story of the crab, right? 614 00:22:30,800 --> 00:22:31,640 No. 615 00:22:31,640 --> 00:22:32,480 The crab pot. 616 00:22:32,480 --> 00:22:33,320 So you put crabs in a pot. 617 00:22:33,320 --> 00:22:34,160 Yeah. 618 00:22:34,160 --> 00:22:35,880 And the one tries to escape and the other one's going down 619 00:22:35,880 --> 00:22:37,320 and one tries to escape and the other. 620 00:22:37,320 --> 00:22:38,320 So people are like that. 621 00:22:38,320 --> 00:22:38,820 Yeah. 622 00:22:38,820 --> 00:22:39,920 We don't want to see you successful. 623 00:22:39,920 --> 00:22:41,320 Because they're scared to be successful. 624 00:22:41,320 --> 00:22:42,680 I've got another similar story. 625 00:22:42,680 --> 00:22:44,640 The church group years ago when I was little, 626 00:22:44,640 --> 00:22:46,160 it was such a great lesson. 627 00:22:46,160 --> 00:22:49,600 The teacher had one person sit on top of a table, 628 00:22:49,600 --> 00:22:53,040 just sit on the table, and the other person is on the floor. 629 00:22:53,040 --> 00:22:54,560 And they're trying to pull them up. 630 00:22:54,560 --> 00:22:57,800 And how easy it was for the person that was already down 631 00:22:57,800 --> 00:23:00,560 to pull the person up as opposed to the person who pulled them 632 00:23:00,560 --> 00:23:01,060 up. 633 00:23:01,060 --> 00:23:02,240 It's a lot harder to pull people up. 634 00:23:02,240 --> 00:23:02,740 Yeah. 635 00:23:02,740 --> 00:23:04,120 And so, yeah. 636 00:23:04,120 --> 00:23:05,360 I'm here to pull people up, though. 637 00:23:05,360 --> 00:23:06,280 I don't care how hard it is. 638 00:23:06,280 --> 00:23:07,480 You do a good job of it. 639 00:23:07,480 --> 00:23:08,440 And you do a great job. 640 00:23:08,440 --> 00:23:09,440 Thank you, Judy, too. 641 00:23:09,440 --> 00:23:10,120 Oh, thank you. 642 00:23:10,120 --> 00:23:10,680 And I'm fine. 643 00:23:10,680 --> 00:23:11,840 I love hanging out with you. 644 00:23:11,840 --> 00:23:12,340 Me, too. 645 00:23:12,340 --> 00:23:12,840 Yeah. 646 00:23:12,840 --> 00:23:14,040 It's fun to have an in-person. 647 00:23:14,040 --> 00:23:14,540 Yeah. 648 00:23:14,540 --> 00:23:15,040 All right. 649 00:23:15,040 --> 00:23:16,960 So people are probably wondering, how the heck do I 650 00:23:16,960 --> 00:23:19,160 get something cute something? 651 00:23:19,160 --> 00:23:21,080 It's a lot of pink, which brings a lot to pink. 652 00:23:21,080 --> 00:23:21,600 What's that mean? 653 00:23:21,600 --> 00:23:24,720 I mean, I'm wearing black, which is a no-no in this store. 654 00:23:24,720 --> 00:23:25,480 I will say. 655 00:23:25,480 --> 00:23:26,280 Jumping cat. 656 00:23:26,280 --> 00:23:27,160 I do have a pink cat. 657 00:23:27,160 --> 00:23:28,760 We did the black to be a little bit. 658 00:23:28,760 --> 00:23:30,280 And pink lips. 659 00:23:30,280 --> 00:23:32,120 Same, same. 660 00:23:32,120 --> 00:23:33,960 But yeah, so what are we telling them? 661 00:23:33,960 --> 00:23:34,920 Where they can chop? 662 00:23:34,920 --> 00:23:35,880 Where they can saw off? 663 00:23:35,880 --> 00:23:37,640 How they can find you? 664 00:23:37,640 --> 00:23:40,680 So it is just jbonbishop.com. 665 00:23:40,680 --> 00:23:42,640 Super simple, jbonbishop.com. 666 00:23:42,640 --> 00:23:44,440 They can look on there. 667 00:23:44,440 --> 00:23:47,840 And what I love about the local folks here 668 00:23:47,840 --> 00:23:50,840 is that we do a pork pick up or an in-store pick up. 669 00:23:50,840 --> 00:23:53,760 So you can reserve something when you're in town 670 00:23:53,760 --> 00:23:55,160 and make sure you have it. 671 00:23:55,160 --> 00:23:56,600 And then you get to decide if you 672 00:23:56,600 --> 00:23:58,400 need to come in the store or not. 673 00:23:58,400 --> 00:24:02,120 And then we also, of course, ship all over the United States. 674 00:24:02,120 --> 00:24:04,480 And then on social media, we love 675 00:24:04,480 --> 00:24:09,440 to have you be a part of our group, which is Jbonbishop, 676 00:24:09,440 --> 00:24:10,280 which is so funny. 677 00:24:10,280 --> 00:24:11,160 Did I tell you that the other day? 678 00:24:11,160 --> 00:24:11,840 No. 679 00:24:11,840 --> 00:24:12,400 Think about it. 680 00:24:12,400 --> 00:24:14,840 Bishop, the last part of my name says shop. 681 00:24:14,840 --> 00:24:20,400 So I went in and capitalized my group's name to Jbonbishop. 682 00:24:20,400 --> 00:24:21,960 Jbonbishop working in town. 683 00:24:21,960 --> 00:24:23,280 That's just a group name. 684 00:24:23,280 --> 00:24:26,440 But then you also have my Facebook page and my Instagram, 685 00:24:26,440 --> 00:24:27,880 which is also the handle. 686 00:24:27,880 --> 00:24:29,920 And we'll share all those links with everybody. 687 00:24:29,920 --> 00:24:31,120 My name is a little crazy. 688 00:24:31,120 --> 00:24:32,040 A little long. 689 00:24:32,040 --> 00:24:33,520 It's like, what is it? 690 00:24:33,520 --> 00:24:34,520 It's just fun. 691 00:24:34,520 --> 00:24:35,800 And it's not an exotic name. 692 00:24:35,800 --> 00:24:37,320 It's Jessica Bondbishop. 693 00:24:37,320 --> 00:24:39,240 People have always said we thought it was Jbon. 694 00:24:39,240 --> 00:24:41,000 I'm like, it's just basic. 695 00:24:41,000 --> 00:24:42,000 Just a safe place. 696 00:24:42,000 --> 00:24:43,320 Just a girl from the country. 697 00:24:43,320 --> 00:24:44,000 That's OK. 698 00:24:44,000 --> 00:24:45,400 And that's right. 699 00:24:45,400 --> 00:24:47,400 And yeah, so if you're coming to Smithmell Lake, 700 00:24:47,400 --> 00:24:48,760 you've got to come visit her. 701 00:24:48,760 --> 00:24:49,760 Or go online. 702 00:24:49,760 --> 00:24:51,760 And then everything comes from the right. 703 00:24:51,760 --> 00:24:52,560 Yeah. 704 00:24:52,560 --> 00:24:53,440 And I'll say this. 705 00:24:53,440 --> 00:24:54,760 And Leslie mentioned it earlier. 706 00:24:54,760 --> 00:24:56,000 I've been here my whole life. 707 00:24:56,000 --> 00:24:58,840 Not only when you come in here, I mean, obviously, 708 00:24:58,840 --> 00:25:00,080 we'd love for you to look around. 709 00:25:00,080 --> 00:25:03,400 But we are here to provide all the information you want. 710 00:25:03,400 --> 00:25:04,840 So if you need somewhere good to eat, 711 00:25:04,840 --> 00:25:05,880 we will tell you. 712 00:25:05,880 --> 00:25:08,600 If you need somewhere else to go shopping, 713 00:25:08,600 --> 00:25:09,560 we'll help you with that. 714 00:25:09,560 --> 00:25:11,320 We'll tell you about Renau-Gill-Lindberg. 715 00:25:11,320 --> 00:25:13,920 Like, we're kind of like one-stop shop here. 716 00:25:13,920 --> 00:25:14,800 You are a good referral. 717 00:25:14,800 --> 00:25:16,960 One of the places when I'm coming down here going through 718 00:25:16,960 --> 00:25:18,680 Danville is stopping at the pot. 719 00:25:18,680 --> 00:25:19,160 Yes. 720 00:25:19,160 --> 00:25:19,800 Oh, gosh. 721 00:25:19,800 --> 00:25:20,560 I always stop there. 722 00:25:20,560 --> 00:25:21,720 Shout out to Peyton at the pot and come out. 723 00:25:21,720 --> 00:25:23,600 I always stop there in between. 724 00:25:23,600 --> 00:25:24,120 That's right. 725 00:25:24,120 --> 00:25:24,680 And it's the other day. 726 00:25:24,680 --> 00:25:25,640 And I always think of you. 727 00:25:25,640 --> 00:25:26,160 So yeah. 728 00:25:26,160 --> 00:25:27,120 Good place. 729 00:25:27,120 --> 00:25:29,560 I've been here long enough to do all the little back roads 730 00:25:29,560 --> 00:25:30,600 and all the in-between. 731 00:25:30,600 --> 00:25:31,720 I think I'm getting there. 732 00:25:31,720 --> 00:25:32,240 Yeah. 733 00:25:32,240 --> 00:25:33,360 You're doing very good. 734 00:25:33,360 --> 00:25:36,440 So we'll share on the show notes where to find the save on. 735 00:25:36,440 --> 00:25:36,960 Yeah. 736 00:25:36,960 --> 00:25:37,440 That's right. 737 00:25:37,440 --> 00:25:41,120 We also have, I don't know, lots of why not today's way. 738 00:25:41,120 --> 00:25:41,840 There's a few little guys. 739 00:25:41,840 --> 00:25:42,720 We've got cups. 740 00:25:42,720 --> 00:25:44,280 We have t-shirts. 741 00:25:44,280 --> 00:25:45,080 We have vinyl. 742 00:25:45,080 --> 00:25:46,120 My second favorite color. 743 00:25:46,120 --> 00:25:46,880 This is, yeah. 744 00:25:46,880 --> 00:25:47,400 Yeah. 745 00:25:47,400 --> 00:25:48,520 So we're picking this. 746 00:25:48,520 --> 00:25:49,600 We've got all different colors. 747 00:25:49,600 --> 00:25:51,920 Also, what can I do in a journal? 748 00:25:51,920 --> 00:25:52,440 OK. 749 00:25:52,440 --> 00:25:52,920 Yeah. 750 00:25:52,920 --> 00:25:53,440 Yeah. 751 00:25:53,440 --> 00:25:54,280 Yeah. 752 00:25:54,280 --> 00:25:55,280 And brain-washing. 753 00:25:55,280 --> 00:25:55,600 Yeah. 754 00:25:55,600 --> 00:25:56,440 I think they go hand in hand. 755 00:25:56,440 --> 00:25:57,200 Journals are good. 756 00:25:57,200 --> 00:25:57,520 Yeah. 757 00:25:57,520 --> 00:25:58,020 Yeah. 758 00:25:58,020 --> 00:25:58,520 For sure. 759 00:25:58,520 --> 00:25:59,760 So, all right. 760 00:25:59,760 --> 00:26:01,080 Oh, I forgot the other thing too. 761 00:26:01,080 --> 00:26:03,360 I always try to connect people back to my dad. 762 00:26:03,360 --> 00:26:04,880 Like, how do I know my dad? 763 00:26:04,880 --> 00:26:05,400 Right. 764 00:26:05,400 --> 00:26:07,280 Well, and so I always try with the conversation 765 00:26:07,280 --> 00:26:08,360 like how we connect back. 766 00:26:08,360 --> 00:26:11,640 So I think for you, you're very much a part of the community. 767 00:26:11,640 --> 00:26:13,880 My dad and the community plan are big with community. 768 00:26:13,880 --> 00:26:15,480 He actually started the chamber. 769 00:26:15,480 --> 00:26:15,960 OK. 770 00:26:15,960 --> 00:26:17,400 I remember you telling me that. 771 00:26:17,400 --> 00:26:17,880 That's amazing. 772 00:26:17,880 --> 00:26:20,200 You were the one that encouraged me to join the chamber down here. 773 00:26:20,200 --> 00:26:20,840 Yeah. 774 00:26:20,840 --> 00:26:22,080 And so you all. 775 00:26:22,080 --> 00:26:25,760 Anybody, any chamber people like in your community, join them. 776 00:26:25,760 --> 00:26:26,480 They're awesome. 777 00:26:26,480 --> 00:26:26,720 Yeah. 778 00:26:26,720 --> 00:26:28,320 And I think you're also about community. 779 00:26:28,320 --> 00:26:29,160 Just like you said. 780 00:26:29,160 --> 00:26:31,080 When you come in here, you're going to first of all, 781 00:26:31,080 --> 00:26:31,960 get to know people. 782 00:26:31,960 --> 00:26:34,960 Figure out how you connect, what you did masterfully. 783 00:26:34,960 --> 00:26:37,240 And then you're going to share where the places go, 784 00:26:37,240 --> 00:26:38,280 what it's things to do. 785 00:26:38,280 --> 00:26:38,800 Right. 786 00:26:38,800 --> 00:26:41,880 And just make people feel important that you do a great job. 787 00:26:41,880 --> 00:26:42,800 Thank you, Leslie. 788 00:26:42,800 --> 00:26:43,280 Thank you. 789 00:26:43,280 --> 00:26:43,640 You're welcome. 790 00:26:43,640 --> 00:26:44,400 Right back at you. 791 00:26:44,400 --> 00:26:45,880 Well, it's been super fun. 792 00:26:45,880 --> 00:26:46,960 I love the conversation. 793 00:26:46,960 --> 00:26:48,560 I think just sitting here, I'm thinking, 794 00:26:48,560 --> 00:26:50,520 ooh, I might have to go do a little shopping. 795 00:26:50,520 --> 00:26:52,280 A little private party. 796 00:26:52,280 --> 00:26:53,160 Private shopping. 797 00:26:53,160 --> 00:26:53,440 I love it. 798 00:26:53,440 --> 00:26:53,960 Yes. 799 00:26:53,960 --> 00:26:54,440 All right. 800 00:26:54,440 --> 00:26:55,120 We can do that. 801 00:26:55,120 --> 00:26:57,000 So thanks again for sharing your story. 802 00:26:57,000 --> 00:26:59,360 We'll share how we're making it to talk to you. 803 00:26:59,360 --> 00:27:02,560 Remember, share this podcast with your friends, 804 00:27:02,560 --> 00:27:04,640 like it, comment, review it. 805 00:27:04,640 --> 00:27:05,400 That would be great. 806 00:27:05,400 --> 00:27:07,840 And remember, say, why not today? 807 00:27:07,840 --> 00:27:08,880 Why not today? 808 00:27:08,880 --> 00:27:32,800 Go ahead.