1 00:00:00,000 --> 00:00:05,680 Hello, my name is Leslie Kane and I am the host of the Why Not Today podcast. 2 00:00:05,680 --> 00:00:10,680 This podcast is to celebrate people who have been courageous and said, why not today? 3 00:00:10,680 --> 00:00:14,960 I started this podcast to honor my father, Patrick Kane, who often said, why not today? 4 00:00:14,960 --> 00:00:19,400 I'm based in Rusty, Virginia, a Planned community right outside of Washington, DC. 5 00:00:19,400 --> 00:00:20,400 Thanks for joining us today. 6 00:00:20,400 --> 00:00:26,320 So I'm excited to have my guest today, Sarah White, and she is the first repeat guest on, 7 00:00:26,320 --> 00:00:31,120 we interviewed her in the beginning and her story has completely changed. 8 00:00:31,120 --> 00:00:34,200 And we had coffee the other day and she's just sharing about some things going on in 9 00:00:34,200 --> 00:00:35,200 her life. 10 00:00:35,200 --> 00:00:36,680 And I'm like, it's a podcast episode. 11 00:00:36,680 --> 00:00:40,360 It's funny, I talked to somebody else yesterday that was on a podcast before and she's got 12 00:00:40,360 --> 00:00:41,760 some twists and turns in her life. 13 00:00:41,760 --> 00:00:44,200 It's like, oh, that's another podcast episode. 14 00:00:44,200 --> 00:00:50,160 So I'm super excited to have Sarah here, who is we met virtually, pretty much the only 15 00:00:50,160 --> 00:00:53,760 virtual networking event I went to. 16 00:00:53,760 --> 00:00:55,240 And it was one of those divine. 17 00:00:55,240 --> 00:00:58,840 I had to know Sarah, like she popped up in my Facebook feed that morning and jumped 18 00:00:58,840 --> 00:01:02,560 on a Facebook or a virtual zoom and she was there. 19 00:01:02,560 --> 00:01:05,400 And then a day or two later, my sister's like, you need to meet Sarah White. 20 00:01:05,400 --> 00:01:07,680 I'm like, okay, I need to know this Sarah White person. 21 00:01:07,680 --> 00:01:11,480 So I feel like even though it was a while before we physically got to see each other, 22 00:01:11,480 --> 00:01:16,560 I feel like I'm blessed to have you as a good friend and business partner in the world out 23 00:01:16,560 --> 00:01:18,720 there and just part of my tribe. 24 00:01:18,720 --> 00:01:23,360 So Sarah, why don't you introduce yourself and share a fun fact about you? 25 00:01:23,360 --> 00:01:26,640 I know you were on before, so share another fun fact maybe. 26 00:01:26,640 --> 00:01:28,200 And then let's talk about your courage. 27 00:01:28,200 --> 00:01:29,240 All right. 28 00:01:29,240 --> 00:01:34,440 So Sarah White, like Leslie said, and I run five restaurants getting ready to open my 29 00:01:34,440 --> 00:01:38,880 fifth restaurant and the first one that I will technically own coming up in the summer. 30 00:01:38,880 --> 00:01:40,320 I am very excited about that. 31 00:01:40,320 --> 00:01:42,760 That's a fun fact, right? 32 00:01:42,760 --> 00:01:46,160 Is it part of the same brand or? 33 00:01:46,160 --> 00:01:50,000 No, actually, it's going to be Westover Taco in Westover Arlington. 34 00:01:50,000 --> 00:01:52,120 And we're super excited to get it off the ground. 35 00:01:52,120 --> 00:01:54,560 It'll be the first of its type. 36 00:01:54,560 --> 00:02:00,000 And that along with running those five restaurants and like you said, running for office before 37 00:02:00,000 --> 00:02:05,280 having done a few things around here, I'm in 25 groups, including the Virginia Restaurant 38 00:02:05,280 --> 00:02:09,560 Logic and Travel Association and seven different about to be eight different chambers. 39 00:02:09,560 --> 00:02:14,960 I just love meeting people and use the word tribe, which is a big deal to me and surrounding 40 00:02:14,960 --> 00:02:17,320 myself with all the right people. 41 00:02:17,320 --> 00:02:19,840 And how are you going to meet them if you don't get out there? 42 00:02:19,840 --> 00:02:21,400 They don't knock on your door. 43 00:02:21,400 --> 00:02:22,400 I don't know. 44 00:02:22,400 --> 00:02:23,400 It just doesn't happen. 45 00:02:23,400 --> 00:02:27,320 So I always say I'm like waiting for somebody to knock on my door and I live in a secure 46 00:02:27,320 --> 00:02:28,320 building. 47 00:02:28,320 --> 00:02:30,360 It's like you got to get out there, which is so true. 48 00:02:30,360 --> 00:02:34,760 And just like we met, I mean, you can meet people virtually or through social media and 49 00:02:34,760 --> 00:02:37,400 never know who that person that you're supposed to meet. 50 00:02:37,400 --> 00:02:39,600 So what's a fun fact about Sarah White? 51 00:02:39,600 --> 00:02:40,600 Okay. 52 00:02:40,600 --> 00:02:45,920 So aside from opening the restaurants, which you know, this is going to be our fifth restaurant 53 00:02:45,920 --> 00:02:49,080 and the first one that I own, which I think is very exciting. 54 00:02:49,080 --> 00:02:53,600 I think a fun fact, let's just say about my restaurant is that we're looking to do something 55 00:02:53,600 --> 00:02:55,400 a different a little different. 56 00:02:55,400 --> 00:03:00,840 I'm friends with some folks at the Asian American Hotel Association and they are teaching me 57 00:03:00,840 --> 00:03:07,280 how to make chicken tikka from one of their five star chefs who is going to make my recipe 58 00:03:07,280 --> 00:03:09,320 perfect so we can put in tacos. 59 00:03:09,320 --> 00:03:10,320 Oh, fun. 60 00:03:10,320 --> 00:03:11,320 All right. 61 00:03:11,320 --> 00:03:13,080 So we need to plan a date. 62 00:03:13,080 --> 00:03:16,880 I think we had this on the calendar at one point, but something happened. 63 00:03:16,880 --> 00:03:17,960 We didn't make it happen. 64 00:03:17,960 --> 00:03:19,960 Have you been to Mama Tigres yet? 65 00:03:19,960 --> 00:03:20,960 I have not. 66 00:03:20,960 --> 00:03:22,440 I'm still waiting to do that. 67 00:03:22,440 --> 00:03:23,880 The last week in February. 68 00:03:23,880 --> 00:03:24,880 Let's schedule something. 69 00:03:24,880 --> 00:03:30,400 It is Mexican Indian fusion. 70 00:03:30,400 --> 00:03:31,400 That's awesome. 71 00:03:31,400 --> 00:03:32,400 Yeah. 72 00:03:32,400 --> 00:03:33,400 Some so fun. 73 00:03:33,400 --> 00:03:38,120 So the other cool kind of connecting fact that I think endeared me to you when I first 74 00:03:38,120 --> 00:03:44,800 met you this year, email was something OBS and you went to the outer banks on vacation 75 00:03:44,800 --> 00:03:50,000 and just stayed and I'm so connected to outer banks and lived didn't personally officially 76 00:03:50,000 --> 00:03:53,240 live there, but was there so much everybody thought I lived there knew everything that 77 00:03:53,240 --> 00:03:54,240 was going on. 78 00:03:54,240 --> 00:03:55,920 So I've been there for seven years. 79 00:03:55,920 --> 00:03:59,280 Lots of friends still go back to say hello. 80 00:03:59,280 --> 00:04:01,520 Miss it a lot, but love Northern Virginia. 81 00:04:01,520 --> 00:04:02,520 Yeah. 82 00:04:02,520 --> 00:04:06,320 Well, I was actually talking to friends last night about a trip to outer banks in a couple 83 00:04:06,320 --> 00:04:08,680 weeks because also in time. 84 00:04:08,680 --> 00:04:09,680 So all right. 85 00:04:09,680 --> 00:04:12,080 So what does courage means you as a definition change? 86 00:04:12,080 --> 00:04:14,360 Do you still have the same one share with courage? 87 00:04:14,360 --> 00:04:19,560 Which means you I have to say it and you already know this, but for everybody listening, I 88 00:04:19,560 --> 00:04:24,040 went through some health challenges and I've had them my whole life, but this past year, 89 00:04:24,040 --> 00:04:30,920 I actually had to have a surgery where they removed about 30% of my pancreas and I knew 90 00:04:30,920 --> 00:04:33,120 going into it that it wasn't a sure bet. 91 00:04:33,120 --> 00:04:37,120 I had been told for months that they wanted to wait till I was stronger, wonder wait till 92 00:04:37,120 --> 00:04:38,880 it was healthier and it just wasn't happening. 93 00:04:38,880 --> 00:04:42,680 And we knew we had to walk in anyway and do the surgery. 94 00:04:42,680 --> 00:04:47,520 And so courage was getting up that day and walking in anyway and saying, let's just get 95 00:04:47,520 --> 00:04:51,800 this done because it can't, it can't hinder my life any longer. 96 00:04:51,800 --> 00:04:55,160 I have places and people and things to do. 97 00:04:55,160 --> 00:04:56,320 Like I got to go. 98 00:04:56,320 --> 00:04:58,440 This is not working for me to live in a hospital. 99 00:04:58,440 --> 00:05:04,720 I was in the hospital for most of 15 months and just walking in anyway and high five in 100 00:05:04,720 --> 00:05:07,120 my surgeon and saying, let's do this. 101 00:05:07,120 --> 00:05:08,560 Yeah, that's awesome. 102 00:05:08,560 --> 00:05:10,560 Well, and you came back on the other side. 103 00:05:10,560 --> 00:05:14,440 So let's talk about the courageous things in your tribe and how you've just gotten so 104 00:05:14,440 --> 00:05:15,440 connected. 105 00:05:15,440 --> 00:05:19,160 So you haven't been in Northern Virginia that long compared to my world in Northern Virginia. 106 00:05:19,160 --> 00:05:20,840 How long have you been in Northern Virginia? 107 00:05:20,840 --> 00:05:22,640 So it's coming up on seven years. 108 00:05:22,640 --> 00:05:23,640 Seven years. 109 00:05:23,640 --> 00:05:24,640 Okay. 110 00:05:24,640 --> 00:05:28,000 So, you know, you and I met, we talked about through networking, became friends. 111 00:05:28,000 --> 00:05:33,480 And I remember it was probably November of 2021. 112 00:05:33,480 --> 00:05:38,840 You reached out on Facebook and you built a great tribe on Facebook and you reached out 113 00:05:38,840 --> 00:05:44,440 on Facebook and said, I'm in the hospital and you just were, you were sad. 114 00:05:44,440 --> 00:05:45,440 You were lonely. 115 00:05:45,440 --> 00:05:47,320 You needed connection. 116 00:05:47,320 --> 00:05:48,640 And I remember seeing that post. 117 00:05:48,640 --> 00:05:51,680 And although I know you knew you, I didn't know you that well. 118 00:05:51,680 --> 00:05:55,400 And I was, it was not an inconvenient time for my world, but I'm like, you know what? 119 00:05:55,400 --> 00:05:56,400 She's reaching out. 120 00:05:56,400 --> 00:05:58,480 When people reach out, you need to react to that. 121 00:05:58,480 --> 00:06:03,000 So I went, I remember meeting with you and we walked up and down the hall and not to 122 00:06:03,000 --> 00:06:05,240 focus on your pain to distract you. 123 00:06:05,240 --> 00:06:06,240 You're like, talk to me. 124 00:06:06,240 --> 00:06:07,240 And we just start talking. 125 00:06:07,240 --> 00:06:12,400 And honestly, you were one of the people that really encouraged me to go forward with this 126 00:06:12,400 --> 00:06:15,160 podcast from that conversation of you in the hospital. 127 00:06:15,160 --> 00:06:17,840 But it was such a fun conversation to have. 128 00:06:17,840 --> 00:06:21,120 And it was a distraction and, and you are part of my tribe. 129 00:06:21,120 --> 00:06:24,560 I think from day one, we knew that was just going to be a thing. 130 00:06:24,560 --> 00:06:25,560 Yeah. 131 00:06:25,560 --> 00:06:29,480 So you're showing up for me when I needed somebody, when I needed someone most. 132 00:06:29,480 --> 00:06:32,880 And I got to say, I was fortunate to have a lot of friends who came out of the woodwork 133 00:06:32,880 --> 00:06:37,160 that I didn't even like, I didn't realize that they considered me close enough. 134 00:06:37,160 --> 00:06:40,160 To show up for something like that, because you know, that's, that's kind of a personal 135 00:06:40,160 --> 00:06:43,760 thing and, and you don't know who's going to walk through the door. 136 00:06:43,760 --> 00:06:49,120 And the number of people that I didn't know that they considered me that close of a friend 137 00:06:49,120 --> 00:06:54,160 to do that for me was, I mean, there were days over in tears, my eyes, I was just like, 138 00:06:54,160 --> 00:07:00,280 so overwhelmed with the amount of love that was shown for someone that they barely knew. 139 00:07:00,280 --> 00:07:03,920 And you know, of course my close friends were all there as well, but walking up and down 140 00:07:03,920 --> 00:07:08,280 the hall and having those conversations and being able to be there for you and talk it 141 00:07:08,280 --> 00:07:12,320 through and say, you know, well, you're asking other people, why not today? 142 00:07:12,320 --> 00:07:14,320 Why are you questioning it? 143 00:07:14,320 --> 00:07:20,160 This is the point we've got to get this done and, and getting to do that for other friends 144 00:07:20,160 --> 00:07:24,480 and talk about whatever it was in their life, because I didn't want to talk about me. 145 00:07:24,480 --> 00:07:25,880 I didn't want to talk about what was going on. 146 00:07:25,880 --> 00:07:30,520 I needed any distraction and just getting to be there for other people while they were 147 00:07:30,520 --> 00:07:32,400 helping me through that was amazing. 148 00:07:32,400 --> 00:07:34,280 Yeah. 149 00:07:34,280 --> 00:07:37,280 And you, you were very smart about that. 150 00:07:37,280 --> 00:07:41,320 Like reaching out, ask, and I admire that you asked for help. 151 00:07:41,320 --> 00:07:42,680 So many people don't ask for help. 152 00:07:42,680 --> 00:07:48,440 So you've been here in seven years of which almost half of those seven years have been, 153 00:07:48,440 --> 00:07:50,040 we were in lockdown for part of it. 154 00:07:50,040 --> 00:07:57,240 And so you really built friendships, tribe community through social media and virtual 155 00:07:57,240 --> 00:07:58,240 methods. 156 00:07:58,240 --> 00:08:05,960 I found something in my life that I think a lot of people overlook is that, and it's 157 00:08:05,960 --> 00:08:12,480 all started from, you know, loan a book to a friend or to somebody who isn't your friend, 158 00:08:12,480 --> 00:08:13,480 because then they'll think you're friends. 159 00:08:13,480 --> 00:08:14,480 Right. 160 00:08:14,480 --> 00:08:17,640 And I, Thomas Jefferson, I don't know, I can't remember who's that was. 161 00:08:17,640 --> 00:08:19,240 It was a founding father. 162 00:08:19,240 --> 00:08:23,600 And I, I've taken that and I've grown on it and said, you know, tell somebody something 163 00:08:23,600 --> 00:08:30,240 you're not sure you want them to know, because showing that little bit of vulnerability often 164 00:08:30,240 --> 00:08:34,360 makes other people go, wait a minute, if they trust me with this, like we're friends, like 165 00:08:34,360 --> 00:08:37,680 that's, that's my person and I can trust them with things. 166 00:08:37,680 --> 00:08:44,920 And so you find that it opens this door and this connection between souls of like, we're, 167 00:08:44,920 --> 00:08:48,040 we're each other's person now, you know, you know, something about me and I'm trusting 168 00:08:48,040 --> 00:08:49,040 you with it. 169 00:08:49,040 --> 00:08:52,760 And, and, you know, maybe it's not the biggest secret in the world, but something that I 170 00:08:52,760 --> 00:08:56,040 wouldn't have told, you know, somebody at the grocery store while we're picking out 171 00:08:56,040 --> 00:08:57,920 meat for this week's dinner. 172 00:08:57,920 --> 00:09:02,880 So it is something personal and it is something that you might not have wanted to share or, 173 00:09:02,880 --> 00:09:05,480 or didn't think that you were going to share at that moment. 174 00:09:05,480 --> 00:09:10,000 And for whatever reason, I feel like I always know the right, right thing in the right time 175 00:09:10,000 --> 00:09:14,040 when you're having that conversation with somebody to say, you know, this is, this is 176 00:09:14,040 --> 00:09:18,840 what they need to hear from me to know that I consider them my person and I want them 177 00:09:18,840 --> 00:09:20,320 to consider me the same way. 178 00:09:20,320 --> 00:09:21,320 That's awesome. 179 00:09:21,320 --> 00:09:23,240 And I think it's a gut thing. 180 00:09:23,240 --> 00:09:24,240 It's an instinct. 181 00:09:24,240 --> 00:09:25,240 It's saying, why not today? 182 00:09:25,240 --> 00:09:28,600 Like, I'm not a hundred percent comfortable with saying this, but I'm just going to do 183 00:09:28,600 --> 00:09:29,600 it. 184 00:09:29,600 --> 00:09:33,120 And you know, I was talking to coaching a friend yesterday about something, a hard conversation 185 00:09:33,120 --> 00:09:36,200 like just envision the after how good you're going to feel. 186 00:09:36,200 --> 00:09:38,960 And I think that is where this podcast has evolved. 187 00:09:38,960 --> 00:09:44,160 I can't believe it's been almost a year, but it's, we're talking about subjects that people 188 00:09:44,160 --> 00:09:48,000 can relate to and make, make us normal and real. 189 00:09:48,000 --> 00:09:50,160 And people are saying, that's me. 190 00:09:50,160 --> 00:09:52,640 Like I can relate to that. 191 00:09:52,640 --> 00:09:55,640 Somebody I shared this podcast with somebody the other day, and this is, I'm going to share 192 00:09:55,640 --> 00:09:58,440 this coach says, why not today is such an inspiring message. 193 00:09:58,440 --> 00:10:02,200 And I love how each person shares her own personal experiences of choosing that for 194 00:10:02,200 --> 00:10:03,200 themselves. 195 00:10:03,200 --> 00:10:06,720 It gives your listeners permission and courage to do that for themselves. 196 00:10:06,720 --> 00:10:07,720 Okay. 197 00:10:07,720 --> 00:10:08,720 Isn't that powerful? 198 00:10:08,720 --> 00:10:10,800 Like, and that's, I think that's what we're doing. 199 00:10:10,800 --> 00:10:18,800 And so what you did and what you showed and witnessed and let people, oh, you opened up 200 00:10:18,800 --> 00:10:22,080 your world to them and you showed that you needed help. 201 00:10:22,080 --> 00:10:25,480 And I think we're too afraid sometimes to ask for help. 202 00:10:25,480 --> 00:10:27,120 And yours were simple health. 203 00:10:27,120 --> 00:10:31,520 I remember one day and I was out of town so I couldn't help you, but you like, I need 204 00:10:31,520 --> 00:10:33,880 Rita's frozen ice or whatever that stuff's called. 205 00:10:33,880 --> 00:10:34,880 Yeah. 206 00:10:34,880 --> 00:10:38,960 And I showed up at the hospital and the hospital was out of Italian ice and I was on clear 207 00:10:38,960 --> 00:10:39,960 Italian ice. 208 00:10:39,960 --> 00:10:42,400 I was wanting it so badly. 209 00:10:42,400 --> 00:10:46,840 And I have to say that the first day that I asked three different people showed up throughout 210 00:10:46,840 --> 00:10:47,840 the day. 211 00:10:47,840 --> 00:10:50,560 And then the next lunch, dinner, three different people brought me Italian ice. 212 00:10:50,560 --> 00:10:54,000 If I hadn't asked, I wouldn't have received, right? 213 00:10:54,000 --> 00:10:55,760 Like you have to throw it out there what you need. 214 00:10:55,760 --> 00:11:00,240 And my options really, when I was put in the hospital for, you know, and at the beginning 215 00:11:00,240 --> 00:11:03,120 I didn't know it's going to be 15 months, but I knew I was going to be missing for just 216 00:11:03,120 --> 00:11:04,120 a little while. 217 00:11:04,120 --> 00:11:10,120 And my options were to let the entire world know that something is wrong and I could use 218 00:11:10,120 --> 00:11:15,640 some support and here's what's going on with me or let everybody think I just disappeared, 219 00:11:15,640 --> 00:11:17,800 that I flaked, that I was gone. 220 00:11:17,800 --> 00:11:19,440 And I couldn't live with that. 221 00:11:19,440 --> 00:11:24,160 I knew at the end of the day, I couldn't live with all of the great people and the great 222 00:11:24,160 --> 00:11:31,280 connections I had met just thinking I was gone, that I was not part of their group anymore, 223 00:11:31,280 --> 00:11:33,080 didn't want to be friends or wasn't going to hang out. 224 00:11:33,080 --> 00:11:35,720 And then they can read their own stories about you. 225 00:11:35,720 --> 00:11:36,720 Right. 226 00:11:36,720 --> 00:11:41,360 I wanted to make sure that everybody knew exactly where I was and that I would be back, 227 00:11:41,360 --> 00:11:43,440 that I was not far away. 228 00:11:43,440 --> 00:11:45,480 And if you want to come to me in the meantime, let's do it. 229 00:11:45,480 --> 00:11:47,840 If you want to talk on Zoom, let's do it. 230 00:11:47,840 --> 00:11:53,360 But know that at some point this will end and I'll be right back to who I was. 231 00:11:53,360 --> 00:11:54,360 Right. 232 00:11:54,360 --> 00:11:56,240 And you are and I admire you for that. 233 00:11:56,240 --> 00:12:02,120 So you know, you reached out for help and my mom is a helper and loves to do things 234 00:12:02,120 --> 00:12:04,560 for people, but she doesn't want people to do things for her. 235 00:12:04,560 --> 00:12:08,240 And I always share with her like people like to help and we want to be useful. 236 00:12:08,240 --> 00:12:10,980 We don't know what that looks like sometimes. 237 00:12:10,980 --> 00:12:14,040 And so you requesting what it looked like. 238 00:12:14,040 --> 00:12:16,920 I remember one time you just said, call me. 239 00:12:16,920 --> 00:12:18,720 I need to talk to people on board. 240 00:12:18,720 --> 00:12:22,640 Like you were still in the midst of setting up networking things. 241 00:12:22,640 --> 00:12:23,640 You took care of yourself. 242 00:12:23,640 --> 00:12:27,680 I remember one day I got a phone call from you and like, I need some new Mary Kay colors. 243 00:12:27,680 --> 00:12:29,160 I need some lipsticks and some eye colors. 244 00:12:29,160 --> 00:12:31,120 I need to feel better about me. 245 00:12:31,120 --> 00:12:34,280 And all those things are just so important that we forget. 246 00:12:34,280 --> 00:12:38,040 So when you don't ask for help, you block the blessing of somebody else that wants to 247 00:12:38,040 --> 00:12:39,040 help. 248 00:12:39,040 --> 00:12:43,520 And that's how I felt about it is how would I feel if any one of these people that are 249 00:12:43,520 --> 00:12:47,680 doing this for me, I knew that they, they needed something and they just didn't tell 250 00:12:47,680 --> 00:12:50,400 me, you know, I would feel left out of their life. 251 00:12:50,400 --> 00:12:52,600 I would feel like I wasn't a part of it. 252 00:12:52,600 --> 00:12:55,680 And so I wanted people to know that they are a part of my life. 253 00:12:55,680 --> 00:12:58,080 And you know, one day it was, I need conditioner. 254 00:12:58,080 --> 00:13:05,240 Like I was just at a conditioner and my husband was working and one of my friends called me 255 00:13:05,240 --> 00:13:06,240 immediately. 256 00:13:06,240 --> 00:13:07,240 He starts texting me. 257 00:13:07,240 --> 00:13:08,280 He's like, I'm at Walmart. 258 00:13:08,280 --> 00:13:09,280 What kind do you use? 259 00:13:09,280 --> 00:13:15,360 And it was just, it's the little things that I was able to just say, Hey, I'm going to 260 00:13:15,360 --> 00:13:18,600 throw this out there and not ask somebody specifically. 261 00:13:18,600 --> 00:13:22,480 Cause you know, I don't know who's busy today and I don't want anybody to feel that, that 262 00:13:22,480 --> 00:13:28,240 kind of obligation to me, but I'll bet if I throw it out there, if there's somebody 263 00:13:28,240 --> 00:13:33,280 that will jump up and say, Hey, I've got 20 minutes, let me go get that for you. 264 00:13:33,280 --> 00:13:36,520 And I love that you used pretty much use social media to do this. 265 00:13:36,520 --> 00:13:37,520 Oh yeah. 266 00:13:37,520 --> 00:13:38,520 Facebook. 267 00:13:38,520 --> 00:13:43,040 Social media is something it's like that I have, it's like, I don't want to be distracted 268 00:13:43,040 --> 00:13:47,640 by it, but I know I need to use it and use it as a tool, which you did to meet people, 269 00:13:47,640 --> 00:13:49,640 to network, to build relationships. 270 00:13:49,640 --> 00:13:52,160 It's social media because you want to be social. 271 00:13:52,160 --> 00:13:56,600 It's commenting, it's engaging, it's getting to know people, it's learning about their 272 00:13:56,600 --> 00:14:00,240 lives and you know, we're so focused on making everything perfect. 273 00:14:00,240 --> 00:14:03,360 I feel like the right people see it at the right time too. 274 00:14:03,360 --> 00:14:07,040 Like, you know, if I put it on Facebook, I can be pretty sure that somebody that was 275 00:14:07,040 --> 00:14:09,600 busy at work probably wasn't on their Facebook. 276 00:14:09,600 --> 00:14:14,200 So they weren't feeling torn or obligated to get to me because it was somebody who was 277 00:14:14,200 --> 00:14:15,640 scrolling Facebook. 278 00:14:15,640 --> 00:14:16,640 Yeah. 279 00:14:16,640 --> 00:14:19,120 And somebody that, you know, it was a perfect time. 280 00:14:19,120 --> 00:14:23,440 Just like when I came to see you and you helped me tremendously when I was helping you and 281 00:14:23,440 --> 00:14:28,000 in that how it all works that you give and you get and, and that's really what networking 282 00:14:28,000 --> 00:14:29,000 is. 283 00:14:29,000 --> 00:14:30,680 So, and I love that you're just open to meet everybody. 284 00:14:30,680 --> 00:14:33,680 And I look at our mutual friends when we first even met. 285 00:14:33,680 --> 00:14:36,440 Now I look at them like, okay, how are you connected with that person? 286 00:14:36,440 --> 00:14:40,880 And you're just twisting and wrapping into my life and all the worlds. 287 00:14:40,880 --> 00:14:44,360 And I mean, I've been in this world a long time in the North Virginia area and you are 288 00:14:44,360 --> 00:14:48,080 just totally, that was one of the things that impressed me is you just connected. 289 00:14:48,080 --> 00:14:50,960 So talk about your jacket or your t-shirt. 290 00:14:50,960 --> 00:14:51,960 I love this. 291 00:14:51,960 --> 00:14:52,960 I know you love my t-shirt. 292 00:14:52,960 --> 00:14:59,040 I had it made up by a small company and it just says on the back, it's got a golden retriever. 293 00:14:59,040 --> 00:15:00,520 I'm the golden retriever of people. 294 00:15:00,520 --> 00:15:02,280 I'm excited to meet everybody. 295 00:15:02,280 --> 00:15:05,640 Every time I walk into your room, it's how many people can I meet? 296 00:15:05,640 --> 00:15:09,080 And so we put a golden retriever on the back and it just says, have I met you yet? 297 00:15:09,080 --> 00:15:11,360 And on the front, it has my name and big letters. 298 00:15:11,360 --> 00:15:15,080 So one, I don't have those sticky name tags that fall off at every event that you go to 299 00:15:15,080 --> 00:15:19,400 because my name's already right there, but two, it lets people know that I'm here to 300 00:15:19,400 --> 00:15:20,400 meet you. 301 00:15:20,400 --> 00:15:23,200 That's literally what I showed up today for. 302 00:15:23,200 --> 00:15:27,280 I might tell you about a business or I might tell you about a calendar that I'm running 303 00:15:27,280 --> 00:15:31,840 or whatever, but at the end of the day, I just want to meet as many people as I can. 304 00:15:31,840 --> 00:15:34,960 And I think that people have really responded to that like you did and are just like, oh 305 00:15:34,960 --> 00:15:35,960 my goodness, I love that. 306 00:15:35,960 --> 00:15:37,400 I've got to know who that is. 307 00:15:37,400 --> 00:15:38,400 Yeah. 308 00:15:38,400 --> 00:15:40,600 And you know, for me, I love collecting friends. 309 00:15:40,600 --> 00:15:41,760 I love to meet new people. 310 00:15:41,760 --> 00:15:46,640 I met somebody connected on Facebook the other day and we have a hundred and some mutual 311 00:15:46,640 --> 00:15:47,640 friends. 312 00:15:47,640 --> 00:15:48,640 I don't know how I never knew her. 313 00:15:48,640 --> 00:15:52,480 We crossed a million different circles and we had coffee and we were talking about some 314 00:15:52,480 --> 00:15:53,480 ideas. 315 00:15:53,480 --> 00:15:54,480 I'm like, well, I'm going away this weekend. 316 00:15:54,480 --> 00:15:55,480 Do you want to come to the lake? 317 00:15:55,480 --> 00:15:57,560 And afterwards I'm like, okay, is that creepy? 318 00:15:57,560 --> 00:16:01,640 Like I just found that connection with her and like, I want to be your friend. 319 00:16:01,640 --> 00:16:04,120 And that's what I love about networking. 320 00:16:04,120 --> 00:16:07,320 And it's not just networking at the grocery store, at a restaurant, you know, getting 321 00:16:07,320 --> 00:16:08,320 to know people. 322 00:16:08,320 --> 00:16:13,240 And I think people, you know, I came by networking very organically through my father. 323 00:16:13,240 --> 00:16:16,520 I didn't really realize what he had taught me. 324 00:16:16,520 --> 00:16:18,640 Many lessons on just connecting with people. 325 00:16:18,640 --> 00:16:23,240 And when you're out, just getting to know people, because you never know, like, you 326 00:16:23,240 --> 00:16:28,760 know, you, you work at restaurant, run restaurants, owning a restaurant, but that's not your single 327 00:16:28,760 --> 00:16:29,920 focus lane. 328 00:16:29,920 --> 00:16:36,360 You know, my source of income has been Mary Kay for years, but there's so many other parts 329 00:16:36,360 --> 00:16:41,160 of Leslie and of Sarah and we have vast resources. 330 00:16:41,160 --> 00:16:45,960 Like if somebody's looking for something, you know, 99% of the time you or I can connect 331 00:16:45,960 --> 00:16:48,360 them to the person that needs to have that done. 332 00:16:48,360 --> 00:16:49,360 Yes. 333 00:16:49,360 --> 00:16:54,520 Well, and here's a funny story that I've not told you before is that when I was in North 334 00:16:54,520 --> 00:17:00,400 Carolina, it's very, very common for you to be shopping for cereal and somebody goes, 335 00:17:00,400 --> 00:17:01,800 oh, hey, I have a coupon for that. 336 00:17:01,800 --> 00:17:02,800 Here you go. 337 00:17:02,800 --> 00:17:05,800 Or you're looking for bacon and they're like, oh, don't use that brand. 338 00:17:05,800 --> 00:17:06,800 Use this brand. 339 00:17:06,800 --> 00:17:10,440 And like, you cannot leave the grocery store without three people talking to you. 340 00:17:10,440 --> 00:17:12,280 You can't like it's impossible. 341 00:17:12,280 --> 00:17:16,360 And so when I first moved to Northern Virginia and people don't do that here, like, you know, 342 00:17:16,360 --> 00:17:18,680 it happens a little, but it's, it's not common. 343 00:17:18,680 --> 00:17:22,680 And like the second time I went to the grocery store, I called my mom and I was just in tears 344 00:17:22,680 --> 00:17:23,680 and she's like, what's wrong? 345 00:17:23,680 --> 00:17:25,480 Like nobody speaks to me. 346 00:17:25,480 --> 00:17:28,720 Like I don't know what is wrong, but you say hi to people in the grocery store. 347 00:17:28,720 --> 00:17:30,320 They just don't even respond. 348 00:17:30,320 --> 00:17:34,520 And I just didn't understand that that's not common everywhere. 349 00:17:34,520 --> 00:17:37,440 That's not, you know, that's not the way that it is. 350 00:17:37,440 --> 00:17:41,680 It isn't everywhere, but it is also the person, how focused some people are and how people 351 00:17:41,680 --> 00:17:43,520 live in their little bubble. 352 00:17:43,520 --> 00:17:46,920 I walk around my lake all the time and say, good morning. 353 00:17:46,920 --> 00:17:47,920 Hello to people. 354 00:17:47,920 --> 00:17:52,720 I met someone one day and she's like, I'm like, oh, I've met you before. 355 00:17:52,720 --> 00:17:53,720 She didn't remember. 356 00:17:53,720 --> 00:17:56,600 And finally she's like, oh, you're the person that always smiles and says hello. 357 00:17:56,600 --> 00:18:00,160 I'm like, okay, that's a good thing to be known for, but that's kind of scary that other 358 00:18:00,160 --> 00:18:02,000 people aren't known for that. 359 00:18:02,000 --> 00:18:04,080 Well, that's, I used to walk to work every day. 360 00:18:04,080 --> 00:18:09,560 I lived at two blocks from one of my restaurants when I first started there and I would walk 361 00:18:09,560 --> 00:18:10,560 every day. 362 00:18:10,560 --> 00:18:15,040 And so every day I would say, hi, good morning, whatever it's whoever's going by, you know, 363 00:18:15,040 --> 00:18:17,120 maybe pet a dog here and there. 364 00:18:17,120 --> 00:18:20,960 And at first they were looking at me like she's a crazy person. 365 00:18:20,960 --> 00:18:24,160 I know they look at you and they look down and they don't want to acknowledge that. 366 00:18:24,160 --> 00:18:28,280 But it was funny by the time I left, it wasn't the same way. 367 00:18:28,280 --> 00:18:33,200 They would say hi to me first, or they would, you know, let the dog run over to me because 368 00:18:33,200 --> 00:18:34,760 they knew that's what was coming. 369 00:18:34,760 --> 00:18:36,440 And it was just such a change. 370 00:18:36,440 --> 00:18:38,560 And you can be that change. 371 00:18:38,560 --> 00:18:41,680 If you, you know, that's the kind of neighborhood I want to live in. 372 00:18:41,680 --> 00:18:43,520 Me and all of my friends in my neighborhood. 373 00:18:43,520 --> 00:18:48,920 Now we have a chat thread that blows up all day because we talk to each other every day. 374 00:18:48,920 --> 00:18:53,800 And it's like, be that person that you want to meet because that like attracts like. 375 00:18:53,800 --> 00:18:54,800 Oh, absolutely. 376 00:18:54,800 --> 00:18:58,280 And I think that's one of the things that attracted me to you is just making friends 377 00:18:58,280 --> 00:19:00,040 and meeting, connecting with people. 378 00:19:00,040 --> 00:19:04,360 And you know, I spent a lot of time down at Smith Mount Lake and I've got tons of friends 379 00:19:04,360 --> 00:19:08,600 and connections here because I meet people and I'm deliberate about it. 380 00:19:08,600 --> 00:19:12,760 And I did grow up in Northern Virginia, but I think I acquired skills that can do meet 381 00:19:12,760 --> 00:19:13,760 the people and connect. 382 00:19:13,760 --> 00:19:19,200 And, you know, a funny, another connection story to Outer Banks is that when I was there 383 00:19:19,200 --> 00:19:24,440 in college, spring break, we were, me and my friends were at the grocery store buying 384 00:19:24,440 --> 00:19:29,720 beer or something for spring break and ran into these guys that they were shopping at 385 00:19:29,720 --> 00:19:30,720 the grocery store. 386 00:19:30,720 --> 00:19:34,480 And they asked us what taco shells weren't wouldn't crack. 387 00:19:34,480 --> 00:19:38,800 And so that was 30 some years ago. 388 00:19:38,800 --> 00:19:42,680 And I can't tell you how many connections I have from that conversation. 389 00:19:42,680 --> 00:19:47,440 One of the original guys that was there and are still great friends. 390 00:19:47,440 --> 00:19:52,400 And my life, I wouldn't be where I'm sitting right now if it wasn't for that conversation 391 00:19:52,400 --> 00:19:54,800 at the grocery store at the Outer Banks 30 some years ago. 392 00:19:54,800 --> 00:19:55,800 Never know where it's going. 393 00:19:55,800 --> 00:19:56,800 You just never know. 394 00:19:56,800 --> 00:19:58,920 And here's my other thing. 395 00:19:58,920 --> 00:20:06,640 I finally, you know, I'm in my forties and I'm watching my nieces who are now teenagers, 396 00:20:06,640 --> 00:20:10,480 one's preteen and one, you know, is getting ready to be 16. 397 00:20:10,480 --> 00:20:18,760 And I just keep thinking, what if we instilled in our daughters that not fear of people? 398 00:20:18,760 --> 00:20:19,880 Like I wasn't raised with that. 399 00:20:19,880 --> 00:20:21,040 I learned that all on my own. 400 00:20:21,040 --> 00:20:24,760 I learned that I'm very socially anxious to walk into a room. 401 00:20:24,760 --> 00:20:27,400 So if I know half the room, I don't have to be afraid. 402 00:20:27,400 --> 00:20:32,920 So what if we taught that to the next generation of like, it's okay to meet new people. 403 00:20:32,920 --> 00:20:36,080 You know, we were all raised with don't talk to strangers and that's great advice up to 404 00:20:36,080 --> 00:20:37,080 a certain age. 405 00:20:37,080 --> 00:20:42,160 But at a certain point, even strangers are all with our friends. 406 00:20:42,160 --> 00:20:43,160 Yeah. 407 00:20:43,160 --> 00:20:47,480 You know, and how are they ever not going to be strangers if you never speak to anybody? 408 00:20:47,480 --> 00:20:52,080 So it's just getting that, that confidence level up and showing them that, you know, 409 00:20:52,080 --> 00:20:55,280 there's a time and a place that there are certain strangers, you know, you don't talk 410 00:20:55,280 --> 00:20:58,960 to, don't walk up a dark alley in the middle of the night and say hello. 411 00:20:58,960 --> 00:21:02,880 But you know, maybe when you're walking down the sidewalk in the middle of the day, it's 412 00:21:02,880 --> 00:21:04,640 great to say hello to everybody. 413 00:21:04,640 --> 00:21:08,880 Right, and make those new friends and, and you never know too, when somebody's just having 414 00:21:08,880 --> 00:21:11,000 a really crappy day and they need a friend. 415 00:21:11,000 --> 00:21:12,000 Oh yeah, for sure. 416 00:21:12,000 --> 00:21:14,800 There's just so many things that make a difference. 417 00:21:14,800 --> 00:21:18,440 You get that call and you didn't see it coming and it's a friend out of nowhere and you didn't 418 00:21:18,440 --> 00:21:21,360 realize how much you needed to hear their voice until you... 419 00:21:21,360 --> 00:21:22,360 Exactly. 420 00:21:22,360 --> 00:21:23,360 You just never know. 421 00:21:23,360 --> 00:21:28,080 So, and we need to be those friends and I think you and I both do a good job with that. 422 00:21:28,080 --> 00:21:32,200 So anything else on the courage world you want to share? 423 00:21:32,200 --> 00:21:35,840 Do you want to share what your next step is in your political world? 424 00:21:35,840 --> 00:21:37,320 Are you ready to talk about that? 425 00:21:37,320 --> 00:21:38,320 Sure. 426 00:21:38,320 --> 00:21:39,680 Or platform for that? 427 00:21:39,680 --> 00:21:43,160 I'm bouncing out of the two party system. 428 00:21:43,160 --> 00:21:47,640 I've had enough of it's either this way or it's that way because I just don't see the 429 00:21:47,640 --> 00:21:49,360 world in black and white. 430 00:21:49,360 --> 00:21:55,920 And I don't understand how we've come this far and in these two institutions that just 431 00:21:55,920 --> 00:22:00,100 see things and either you're on our team or you're on somebody else's team period. 432 00:22:00,100 --> 00:22:03,960 So I've decided to run independent this year to show that there's another way. 433 00:22:03,960 --> 00:22:08,040 And if you give me a platform from a group, I'm going to agree with half of it. 434 00:22:08,040 --> 00:22:09,840 I'm going to disagree with half of it. 435 00:22:09,840 --> 00:22:14,440 I'm never going to be a party line or any other line follower. 436 00:22:14,440 --> 00:22:15,920 I don't belong in a box. 437 00:22:15,920 --> 00:22:16,920 I dislike boxes. 438 00:22:16,920 --> 00:22:18,920 No, you are not a box girl. 439 00:22:18,920 --> 00:22:19,920 I am not. 440 00:22:19,920 --> 00:22:27,600 So I enjoy being able to speak my mind and be the person that I am and be true to myself. 441 00:22:27,600 --> 00:22:32,800 The thing we've all been kicking around this year is putting the PO in politics. 442 00:22:32,800 --> 00:22:37,760 We're pissed off of being told we have to be one thing or another. 443 00:22:37,760 --> 00:22:43,800 And I really want that to shine through this year is that you don't have to be in a box. 444 00:22:43,800 --> 00:22:48,920 There's nothing telling you this isn't Dallas versus the commanders. 445 00:22:48,920 --> 00:22:50,400 It isn't. 446 00:22:50,400 --> 00:22:51,400 This is your life. 447 00:22:51,400 --> 00:22:55,040 These are things that affect your family, your friends, the people that you know, your 448 00:22:55,040 --> 00:22:56,040 neighbors. 449 00:22:56,040 --> 00:23:00,600 And we need to take it more seriously than to just cheer for a team. 450 00:23:00,600 --> 00:23:03,840 And so I am going to be district 13's team. 451 00:23:03,840 --> 00:23:04,840 That is it. 452 00:23:04,840 --> 00:23:08,880 Like all I care about is our you know, does my family does your family eat? 453 00:23:08,880 --> 00:23:10,400 Does my neighbor's family eat? 454 00:23:10,400 --> 00:23:12,600 Do my employees families eat? 455 00:23:12,600 --> 00:23:14,000 That is what matters at the end of the day. 456 00:23:14,000 --> 00:23:15,720 You can tell I'm a restaurant person. 457 00:23:15,720 --> 00:23:18,920 It focuses a lot around table issues. 458 00:23:18,920 --> 00:23:20,520 You know, what are you talking about at your table? 459 00:23:20,520 --> 00:23:21,520 Because guess what? 460 00:23:21,520 --> 00:23:22,800 That's probably what we're talking about at our table too. 461 00:23:22,800 --> 00:23:24,720 And how can we fix it? 462 00:23:24,720 --> 00:23:27,880 And another thing I think that politicians don't do enough and I know that's a dirty 463 00:23:27,880 --> 00:23:28,880 word. 464 00:23:28,880 --> 00:23:31,320 I don't even like being concerned that word to be honest. 465 00:23:31,320 --> 00:23:37,360 But you know, if you don't take into account what everybody else is going through and hear 466 00:23:37,360 --> 00:23:43,440 their two cents of how they see the solution working out, you know, you can't be an effective 467 00:23:43,440 --> 00:23:45,040 leader because guess what? 468 00:23:45,040 --> 00:23:46,760 I don't know everything. 469 00:23:46,760 --> 00:23:49,560 Don't I mean, don't be afraid to share that. 470 00:23:49,560 --> 00:23:51,440 You're willing to learn. 471 00:23:51,440 --> 00:23:53,320 The all knowing Sarah White. 472 00:23:53,320 --> 00:23:57,160 You're learning, willing to learn and ask those questions, which I love. 473 00:23:57,160 --> 00:23:59,560 Well, I'm hearing you on. 474 00:23:59,560 --> 00:24:03,400 I wish I could vote for you, but I will be supporting and cheering on whatever I can. 475 00:24:03,400 --> 00:24:07,000 And I love that you talked about, you know, everybody needs to be eating in around the 476 00:24:07,000 --> 00:24:08,000 table. 477 00:24:08,000 --> 00:24:11,800 And I went through the leadership Fairfax program a couple of years ago and our project 478 00:24:11,800 --> 00:24:14,080 was around food insecurity. 479 00:24:14,080 --> 00:24:17,760 And people don't realize in Virginia, that's an issue and rest and it's an issue. 480 00:24:17,760 --> 00:24:20,120 And so I'm happy to support and help you. 481 00:24:20,120 --> 00:24:22,920 And the other thing too, you mentioned is being around the table. 482 00:24:22,920 --> 00:24:26,400 And one of the things with Mary Kay, we always say, you know, we meet people around their 483 00:24:26,400 --> 00:24:28,120 kitchen table and you get to know people. 484 00:24:28,120 --> 00:24:32,960 And what a great way to get to know somebody around food and it all kind of ties in. 485 00:24:32,960 --> 00:24:34,240 So we could talk forever and ever. 486 00:24:34,240 --> 00:24:38,160 And I know you got to bounce to something else, but before we leave, I want you to share 487 00:24:38,160 --> 00:24:45,880 what would, what would you say to someone to encourage them to say, why not today? 488 00:24:45,880 --> 00:24:51,360 So I think this is a resounding theme in yours and mine's life and every conversation we've 489 00:24:51,360 --> 00:24:52,360 ever had. 490 00:24:52,360 --> 00:24:54,720 And it always comes back to you. 491 00:24:54,720 --> 00:24:59,600 If you're thinking of that one thing that you want to do and you know, you know, you 492 00:24:59,600 --> 00:25:02,880 want to make these steps and you know, you need to make these steps for yourself and 493 00:25:02,880 --> 00:25:05,880 for your mental health and your sanity. 494 00:25:05,880 --> 00:25:08,000 Thinking through it, like, how are you going to feel tomorrow? 495 00:25:08,000 --> 00:25:12,760 If you didn't do it, how are you going to feel next month when you still didn't do it? 496 00:25:12,760 --> 00:25:16,120 And do you want to be, you know, I know what it's like to be laying there on a deathbed 497 00:25:16,120 --> 00:25:17,120 at this point. 498 00:25:17,120 --> 00:25:20,200 Like, you know, we didn't know if I was going to survive in November. 499 00:25:20,200 --> 00:25:25,000 And I know what it's like to lay there and think I should have done just one more thing. 500 00:25:25,000 --> 00:25:28,320 Don't let yourself get caught up in that because how are you going to feel when you did do 501 00:25:28,320 --> 00:25:29,320 it? 502 00:25:29,320 --> 00:25:31,860 How are you going to feel when you did it and it was successful? 503 00:25:31,860 --> 00:25:35,360 What are you going to learn if you do it and it's not successful to make it better for 504 00:25:35,360 --> 00:25:36,360 the next time? 505 00:25:36,360 --> 00:25:38,520 What are you going to, what lesson are you going to pick up? 506 00:25:38,520 --> 00:25:40,360 And I often share that. 507 00:25:40,360 --> 00:25:45,040 Like when you have something you need to do and you don't feel like it, like just do it, 508 00:25:45,040 --> 00:25:46,160 you're going to feel so much better. 509 00:25:46,160 --> 00:25:50,160 And when you put your head on the pillow at the end of the day, how are you going to feel 510 00:25:50,160 --> 00:25:53,320 when you did it or you didn't, if you didn't do it, you're going to be thinking about it 511 00:25:53,320 --> 00:25:54,320 all day long. 512 00:25:54,320 --> 00:25:55,320 You did it. 513 00:25:55,320 --> 00:25:58,040 You're going to feel amazing and you can check it off your list and feel better about it. 514 00:25:58,040 --> 00:26:00,200 And if it's not perfect, that's okay. 515 00:26:00,200 --> 00:26:01,200 It's all good. 516 00:26:01,200 --> 00:26:06,940 So nobody, nobody on our deathbed thinks about all of the things that they did, that piece 517 00:26:06,940 --> 00:26:09,160 of dessert that they had that they really should have. 518 00:26:09,160 --> 00:26:10,160 They needed it that day. 519 00:26:10,160 --> 00:26:11,560 You know, that's not the things you're thinking about. 520 00:26:11,560 --> 00:26:14,920 You're thinking about the things you didn't do that you wish you had gotten to. 521 00:26:14,920 --> 00:26:16,840 So let's, let's eliminate those. 522 00:26:16,840 --> 00:26:19,880 Let's get rid of as many of those as we can so that when you're laying there, you can 523 00:26:19,880 --> 00:26:23,160 think about nothing more than that dessert you had and you deserved it. 524 00:26:23,160 --> 00:26:24,160 Exactly. 525 00:26:24,160 --> 00:26:26,120 You deserve first. 526 00:26:26,120 --> 00:26:27,120 I always say that. 527 00:26:27,120 --> 00:26:30,640 You deserve first because ice cream does not travel well in a doggy bag. 528 00:26:30,640 --> 00:26:32,400 No, not at all. 529 00:26:32,400 --> 00:26:36,720 Well, you know, the other question I always, or the thing I always finished the podcast 530 00:26:36,720 --> 00:26:38,520 was this connection to my dad. 531 00:26:38,520 --> 00:26:41,720 And I know we talked about, you were the first person I interviewed like I've never met your 532 00:26:41,720 --> 00:26:42,720 dad. 533 00:26:42,720 --> 00:26:43,720 What's the connection? 534 00:26:43,720 --> 00:26:47,520 But I always tried via conversations and it's still true. 535 00:26:47,520 --> 00:26:49,880 Like just the way you network and meet people. 536 00:26:49,880 --> 00:26:52,360 My dad was very much like there was never a stranger. 537 00:26:52,360 --> 00:26:56,400 Even when he navigated the healthcare system when he was sick, he knew everything about 538 00:26:56,400 --> 00:26:58,080 like the nurse would walk into the doctor. 539 00:26:58,080 --> 00:27:01,320 He knew where they're from, everything about them and got to know them. 540 00:27:01,320 --> 00:27:02,640 Their care, you know, his caretaker. 541 00:27:02,640 --> 00:27:04,880 He wasn't like, I read this the other day too. 542 00:27:04,880 --> 00:27:11,080 It wasn't focused on his health and the crappy situation he was in and not feeling well and 543 00:27:11,080 --> 00:27:12,120 being stuck in a hospital. 544 00:27:12,120 --> 00:27:16,560 He was like trying to help other people and being creative and trying to connect them 545 00:27:16,560 --> 00:27:17,880 and doing things. 546 00:27:17,880 --> 00:27:19,360 And that's what you lived through. 547 00:27:19,360 --> 00:27:20,360 Absolutely. 548 00:27:20,360 --> 00:27:24,440 And it's the same relationship to wherever you're at. 549 00:27:24,440 --> 00:27:29,120 And we do happen to have nurses in common is that, you know, my nurses and getting to 550 00:27:29,120 --> 00:27:31,400 know that they became my family for a little while. 551 00:27:31,400 --> 00:27:34,320 They were who was there with me day in and day out. 552 00:27:34,320 --> 00:27:37,800 And they were the first ones to say, by the way, you haven't been able to drink for years 553 00:27:37,800 --> 00:27:39,960 and you're going to be able to have a drink when you're done with this. 554 00:27:39,960 --> 00:27:42,840 So yeah, we're all taking you to happy hour. 555 00:27:42,840 --> 00:27:43,840 Like this is happening. 556 00:27:43,840 --> 00:27:47,160 So I think making that relationship. 557 00:27:47,160 --> 00:27:48,160 That's fun. 558 00:27:48,160 --> 00:27:51,880 And another kind of fun story of my dad talking about the hospital that pulls it all together 559 00:27:51,880 --> 00:27:57,680 with being in a hospital and politics is when he was in the hospital, he had had several 560 00:27:57,680 --> 00:27:59,000 strokes and he had left neglect. 561 00:27:59,000 --> 00:28:03,400 So he couldn't see from one side and he was missing an eye and his arm didn't work. 562 00:28:03,400 --> 00:28:07,800 So one time the nurses brought breakfast in and we know the health care system, they are 563 00:28:07,800 --> 00:28:11,400 short staff and they brought breakfast and he couldn't navigate his plate. 564 00:28:11,400 --> 00:28:14,680 He needed help from the nurse and he couldn't find his call button. 565 00:28:14,680 --> 00:28:18,680 And so it just happened to be a political season and a politician called on a cell phone, 566 00:28:18,680 --> 00:28:22,360 which he had and asked for him to support this politician. 567 00:28:22,360 --> 00:28:27,280 And he goes, tell you what, I will support you if you call the nurse's station on whatever 568 00:28:27,280 --> 00:28:32,440 floor of rest hospital and you send a nurse down here, which they did and they did. 569 00:28:32,440 --> 00:28:34,800 And he wrote an op ed in the paper about it. 570 00:28:34,800 --> 00:28:36,640 So exactly what you need. 571 00:28:36,640 --> 00:28:39,000 It sounds like he didn't hesitate to either. 572 00:28:39,000 --> 00:28:41,520 So you guys are very much like that. 573 00:28:41,520 --> 00:28:44,600 I'm so excited to have you as my first repeat guest. 574 00:28:44,600 --> 00:28:48,880 So thank you for sharing and being on here today and lots of great nuggets. 575 00:28:48,880 --> 00:28:56,000 And so if you like this podcast, listen to it on Spotify, we're on iTunes, we're on Google. 576 00:28:56,000 --> 00:29:01,560 We have the website now, which is why not today podcast.com share it with a friend, review 577 00:29:01,560 --> 00:29:03,760 it like it. 578 00:29:03,760 --> 00:29:05,120 Let me know what you think. 579 00:29:05,120 --> 00:29:08,840 And if you know other people that want to be correct, Kurt have done things courageous. 580 00:29:08,840 --> 00:29:11,400 I'm looking for other people to interview. 581 00:29:11,400 --> 00:29:13,400 So thank you again, Sarah. 582 00:29:13,400 --> 00:29:18,080 And let's put on the calendar date to go to lunch and soon because you're done with being 583 00:29:18,080 --> 00:29:19,080 in the hospital. 584 00:29:19,080 --> 00:29:20,080 That's right. 585 00:29:20,080 --> 00:29:21,080 I'll see you soon. 586 00:29:21,080 --> 00:29:22,080 Yes. 587 00:29:22,080 --> 00:29:23,080 Well, thanks again. 588 00:29:23,080 --> 00:29:24,080 Thank you. 589 00:29:24,080 --> 00:29:25,080 Let's bounce to our next things. 590 00:29:25,080 --> 00:29:26,080 Bye. 591 00:29:26,080 --> 00:29:27,080 Bye. 592 00:29:27,080 --> 00:29:46,200 Bye bye bye.