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All right. Hi, this is Leslie. I am the host of the Why Not Today podcast. And this podcast

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is to celebrate people who have been courageous and said, why not today? I started this podcast

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in honor of my father, Patrick Cain, who often said, why not today? I am based in Reston,

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Virginia, Planned Community, right outside of Washington, D.C. I am also a sales director

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with Mary Kay and use this platform to share courageous stories. And I am super excited.

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My guest today is Bianca Mosquitos. I think I said it right this time. We actually did

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this last week and got a love technology. It did not record. We had four seconds. I

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am saying, hold on, let's start again. I pray it is going to be recorded now and it is going

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to be even better this time. I always like to share connections and how you get to know

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people and how that works before we hear from Bianca. I originally met Bianca because I

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worked at the YMCA as a water robot instructor. It was kind of my fun little hobby, but you

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just never know who you are going to be in front of. They did an event one day. I do

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not remember what it was, but I had a Mary Kay table there. I was combining Mary Kay

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with that. Bianca was a brand new employee to the Y. I met her. She had a cute little

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baby with her. Fiona was teeny tiny. Just the perfect little angel. I know that I know

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that I know that when I meet somebody and I remember every little detail that they are

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going to be in my life. I am so grateful that you are Bianca in my life. We are going to

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hear from Bianca today. Why do not we start Bianca? Why do not you introduce yourself?

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Tell us a little bit about you. Then a fun fact that nobody would know. I cannot wait

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to hear from you.

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Yes. Thank you for having me. First of all, my intro is I am Bianca Moschitis. I live

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right here in Breston with Leslie. I have been in this area since 2017, like Leslie

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mentioned. I am very involved in the community. I love volunteering. I love just meeting people.

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It is so fun. I graduated from Wakeville High School in Arlington and then kind of shifted

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my way around to make it to Breston with the YNCA. This is my seventh location. I also

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do a podcast with a friend of mine who is employed with the Y as well, co-turb. I also

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have my foodie platform, Nova Eats, where I have my shirt on. I learned my lesson from

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last time. I have my shirt on today. I love to adventure around the northern Virginia

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area and just tell everybody where the best places to eat and who are some of the best

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business owners and all of that jazz.

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What is a fun fact that nobody knows about you?

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I am the oldest of five kids on my mom's side and I am the oldest of my brother on my dad's

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side.

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Okay. Lots of siblings.

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I have lots of siblings. I am the oldest of all of them. Same side.

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I am learning them now because I just recently met my other siblings as adults. It has been

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very nice to get to know the side of the family I have not been able to know.

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I think my earbuds just stopped working. Can you still hear me okay?

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All right. Why I asked Bianca to be honest especially is because she was, you were very

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instrumental in me doing this podcast. Bianca has a podcast as she mentioned called Real

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to Real with Coach Herb and Bee. They interviewed me. Gosh, I think it was during COVID because

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we did it virtually.

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It was during COVID.

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I hate that we say that but we do. I remember walking around the lake with you one day and

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I am like just in my heart was like I want to do a podcast. I am not sure what it looks

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like or what I am going to do and you are like just do it.

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Then fast forward last fall, I have told the story many times about my dad's friend that

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shared a picture of himself with an eye patch and he talked about and always reminded me

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of my dad and he said and Pat came and I always said why not today? That just stuck and just

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resonated with me. One day Bianca and I got together again and I was telling you that

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story and you are like well first of all that is the name of your podcast and why don't

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you just start it.

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So starting my podcast and it is not perfect and I am still figuring stuff out every time

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and sometimes it doesn't record and it just gets challenging. But I just started. I set

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a date. I figured out the logo and the theme and then I set a date and just started. So

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you are very instrumental in me starting this and getting this rolling. So you are involved

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in a lot and what I admire about you is just all that you are involved in is new as you

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are to the rest of the community and you start a podcast.

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So originally that is probably your big courageous why not today thing and talk about how you

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got that started and what you did to get going and was it something you thought about forever

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and just woke up one day and like I am doing this.

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So funny you say that right. So I don't think that to be very honest I don't think that

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we would have started that podcast if we hadn't been told to stay home. You know we were so

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wrapped up in whatever was happening at that time of life and so when we had a moment to

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be at home we all realized wow we actually missed talking to each other.

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I thought you started this before Copa and I didn't realize you started during Copa.

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No it started in May 2020. Okay. And you know coach and Ben and I we always used to come

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together for lunch and we would talk during lunch and we just would have like great conversation

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to the point where some people would be like oh I can't wait for lunch tomorrow what are

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we talking about type of situation. So when we wanted to do the podcast because

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we were at home we would all do happy hours in calls right.

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between each other. And so I said to coach you know why don't we just do a podcast and

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he would laugh at me. And then I said so we're going to start one.

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really trying to do and then when we got to maybe like the ninth or tenth episode we were

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like look this is fabulous we actually know now we want to focus on small business owners

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and you know whomever to focus on creating that type of podcast where they come off as

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a friend right. So we're friends with them already.

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So what we were what we've been able to do over the past two years I think is wonderful

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and you know going from cold calling people in a sense and knowing a few people to interview

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us to now people are reaching out to us sometimes to say I'd love for you to interview us.

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That's awesome. And then from there you got involved in NovaEats.

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So what is NovaEats and what's it all about. So NovaEats is my foodie platform and I started

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that or more so took it over for my friend Marcus Toler last September in 2021.

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and things. It's just it's a Facebook page right.

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It is a Facebook page we also have an Instagram but I mainly use the Facebook group because

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the group is more interactive than the page would be right.

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the point where I believe I grew it almost 1500 people within the past few months and

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I plan on hopefully growing it more right. But now it's starting.

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Yeah now it's starting to gain traction a little bit people are starting to see it and

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they want to be involved and I had no idea how it would turn out right.

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I just I really like food.

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I like fun and hanging out with my friends and anytime that I can do that as well as

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promote that business.

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record your podcast in these venues that you're promoting getting involved.

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Red's table.

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Ryan Tracy is so welcoming and you know he's all about having us come over and bring that

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that type of energy there and Jimmy's over at Jimmy's hotel tavern and you know the the

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bike lane we go and do that and we have created two beers so far and we're planning our next

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alone and just so much fun.

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to see where that goes because I had no idea where that this podcast is going just really

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no idea and it's just having the courage to just take the next step.

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So I totally skipped over the question about what does courage mean to you.

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Let's go back to that and we can kind of talk about that.

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So courage to me means stepping outside of your normal realm your your normal box.

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We all are so used to doing what we are normally doing all the time like we do our regular routine

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and that's it.

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own selves from doing it.

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some of us never really take that step and then later on down in life think about wow

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What is it going to hurt.

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What's the worst thing that can happen.

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It doesn't work and you're not going to be behind and I think that's why you've been

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such an inspiration to me is it's just taking the next step and trying like I don't know

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where this podcast is going you don't know where Nova Eats and it's interesting just the

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conversations you have and the people you talk to so with the podcast I've started having

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some merchandise.

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I've got cups and I've got some t-shirts and actually a friend of mine keeps buying I gave

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her a cup and she keeps buying more because she wants she's giving them as gifts she keeps

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giving away like I said lunch today with a friend of mine that owns a jewelry store and

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I was asking her about doing a charm for a necklace that says why not today or have the

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logo so the logo of the why not today I don't even have anything sitting here is my dad had

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an eye patch and hand around my mustache so it says logo and so I know a lot of people

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are just listening audio so I was talking to Kurt about doing I wish I had my cup differently

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Well and this is most people listen audio we are going to have a video eventually but

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having the charm being the front being my dad's logo on the back inscribed why not today

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and you can do it either way so adding some high end merchandise and so yeah just taking

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that next step and you know coordinating all the pieces of the puzzle and having the courage

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as you said to step out of the box and try it.

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Was it scary did you do it did you second guess it.

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Oh it was 1000% scary and definitely second guessed it and definitely listen to myself

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and was like oh my goodness and the more I listen to myself the more of a vibe I understood

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what I was going for.

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So when I did tell people I'm sorry to talk to you they automatically looked at me was

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like who is going to listen to y'all but that also can you know kind of break you down a

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little bit you start listening to those things and it makes you kind of second guess maybe

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I shouldn't do it nobody's going to listen but realistically you never know who was going

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to pay attention right.

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It's all about who you bring on who is your guest so was I petrified absolutely am I still

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doing my podcast because I don't want to hear myself.

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you start to think about wow okay maybe I should you know cut back on this or maybe I should

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sound this way and it really starts to get you to think about how you want your podcast

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to be for the next one.

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Right that's that's what I've been doing and that sounds like you guys to just every week

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it's like okay one thing add one thing get a little better this recording is going to

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be the best because we've done it twice.

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It's not perfect but you just do the best you can.

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Were there any regrets about starting it or is there anything you've regretted not doing

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it let's go back and just say not with that but anything in your life you're like I really

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wish I would have done that.

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because you might have did it for a reason.

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I learned from the mistakes that I've done and try to not do them again.

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Like they said John Maxwell who's a leadership trainer or coach and he always said if he

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fall down before you get up grab the lesson bring it up with you.

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going to hurt.

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So what encouragement would you give to somebody to say why not today and do something courageous?

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show because you never know what that little nudge may do.

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I even do it to my children like my child just started that lesson she was nervous like

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oh my gosh I don't want to do this and then what did I do when she got there and we got

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to the door I just assured a little bit and then from there she's been asking when are

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we going back next and this is exciting I love this you know.

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and trying because you just never know.

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someone told me which is my husband why are you nervous why are you scared you do stuff

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like this all the time and you're good at it so just you'll be alright.

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at have you ever done the strength finder test?

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Have you ever done it?

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I had done the strength finder test and it was a while ago so I don't really remember

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what my thing is necessarily.

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I pulled out again recently because it kept coming up and somebody had a great analogy

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if you take your hand and write your name with your dominant hand right in there and

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then you write it with the other hand it's a hot mess with the other hand and so when

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we work on our strengths we're good we don't we can be a hot mess and it's like why are

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we trying to do things we're not good at somebody else is good at that like there's a lot of

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things I'm not good at and I surround myself with people that can be good at those things

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so I can use my strengths to do the things I need to do.

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we talked about this time and last time but get out of the box and be courageous and just

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take a nap and you just never know who that's going to be.

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One thing and I guess we did talk about this that I admire about you is not only have you

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done these things but you've gotten involved in community and I love to see all that you're

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doing so you told me the other day and I guess we can share that you've been telling me about

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the task force you're going to be on.

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Let's talk about that again.

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Yeah so yes so I'm excited you know this is something that hasn't like come out yet but

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I'm really excited about the journey that it potentially bring in it's being a part of

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the Reston Town Center North Task Force and you know kind of building our area up to see

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what could be helpful for the generation that's coming up next you know I'm really big into

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community like Leslie said and Leslie has no idea that she actually motivated me into

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doing a lot more of the volunteer work.

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Yeah because you know you have no idea how much you have motivated me over the time that

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we've spent and you know that because sometimes I've messaged you and be like you know I'm

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in a little bit of a depression and I just need a friend to hang out with or take a walk

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and things like that and you're always ready to be there right.

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So when we spoke about being a part of the community when I first met you and you were

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just stating how you were a part of a few different you know volunteer opportunities

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in the area directly I was like wow I really should try to figure out how or what is going

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to interest me volunteer wise and once I started to click with that I was like you know what

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let me just go for it right because we would have known that Walter would have said hey

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would you be interested in being a part of this.

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I would have never thought about being a part of it before let alone know how that works

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right.

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So now to be involved in the community and get asked to be a part of some of these exciting

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volunteer groups like Rotary and helping with Walter Alcorn and helping with the NAACP

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Loud and it's just exciting to just get back and then see the people's faces after you

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give them a hug or you know you help their kid at this event and it's just a nice feeling

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that makes me feel better because when I was younger people helped me and I had no idea

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how they felt but now I understand it.

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I always share there's when I taught water ropes there's a woman in my class and also

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my mother are two people that are always giving and giving and giving and have a really hard

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time accepting help and so I told them I said when you don't let somebody else help you

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you're blocking their blessing like how much food do you get from helping somebody and

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said when you don't let somebody help you you're blocking them their blessing and so

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giving back and helping and if you're having a bad day they say you know be grateful and

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do something for somebody else volunteer help somebody else when you're down it's going

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to make you feel so much better and you know I came by the volunteering and then doing

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all these things naturally.

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My father passed us on and I was talking to someone today it's like when we were kids

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not kids but like in my 20s and 30s he was like you younger generation need to get involved

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and we're like yeah right and it's fun to see now not just my generation so involved

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but the generation before getting involved earlier and when I think we talked to you

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know all the connections and you know co-turb who you do your podcast with he worked at

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the Y which I did but one of the connections I have with him and my dad is all three of

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us were best arrested honorees and that it's just giving back to me wasn't I didn't do

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it for the accolade or for the recognition but it was just to give back and that's what

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you do and get involved and it's fun and then one way or the other and again that's courageous

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being on these task force and doing things like it's not something you've done before

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but you got to learn.

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Yeah it's it's really exciting to hear about all of the people who we both share as friends

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and I love seeing that like like wow yeah right.

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So when I go around I'm like wow I've seen some of these pictures yeah right yes you

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heard me but I had definitely love sharing the friends that we have because you know

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that they know a person who you share conflict like you when I see Robin from Pinot's power

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and I'm like wow she shares the same energy as I need to breathe it's nice.

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So I always talk about or anything else you want to add about encouraging other people

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I think you're frozen so hopefully you'll come back in a second there you come can you hear

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me?

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Oh am I okay there?

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Yep you are.

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I feel like my last thing yes my one last thing would be I think you have to learn how

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to encourage yourself.

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Yes.

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So that you have to learn how to encourage yourself too and the little things that make

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you happy like for me when I wake up in the morning and I go into the bathroom I love

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to tell myself you're gonna have a great day you're gonna have an exciting day and if I

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do that then it starts me out smiling and then I kind of like go into my day with a little

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bit of encouragement right so it's just like you know start to encourage yourself you deserve

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it.

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Absolutely and you know it's in your gut like you have the intuition you have the idea

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somebody placed in your you know God placed it in your heart and or not that much like

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go for it and that's I think what I really like to focus on this with this podcast is

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so many people don't do those things because they're scared and we all do it scared we

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just got to do it.

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So I always connect back in the podcast to my dad and I know we talked before you did

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the interview we did the interview and you're like well I don't know your dad how do I connect

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back?

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I always like to look like after a conversation figure out the connections so first of all

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the why connection with working at the Y and her being there and I remember my dad had

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a major stroke in 2000 and the first event he went to was actually the grand opening

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ribbon cutting of the Y and I took him there because he couldn't navigate on his own he

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couldn't drive.

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So that was kind of cool your community involvement just getting involved and as I said he was

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a big proponent of that and one thing we talked about and I don't think you talked you brought

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up this time but just ask and I think we did kind of talk about that what's the worst thing

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can happen if you try it but just ask you know you said in the beginning you reached

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out to people and you're afraid and you didn't think they would say yes but they did and

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if they didn't who cares and I remember that was one thing my dad always taught me just

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ask the worst thing somebody's gonna say is no and I remember the sleepover so it's a

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little girl you know you have a sleepover with your friends and then my friends were

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like I'm afraid to ask my parents I'm like why are you afraid what's the worst thing

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to say?

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No in your staying at home you're not hanging out with me so just ask.

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After especially after dealing with everything that we've dealt with you know I think just

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ask people are so willing to be a part of your life now because it just may help them

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too.

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Yeah people want to help.

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And it's flattering when people ask you for help.

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So I've genuinely had more help over the past two, three years than I've probably had in

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a long time.

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It's awesome.

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And it's because of me meeting people like yourself and meeting people like her with

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me meeting people you know like all over the community that kind of help you feel comfortable.

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And you have definitely jumped into this community and I love it.

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So where do people find you?

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You can find me at my Facebook is Bianca Mosquitos my Facebook page is Bianca Mosquitos as well

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or know the eats with a Z or at real the real with coach herb and B and we are everywhere.

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You are and I love that.

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All those places and be all those places.

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That's okay we just do it.

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Yeah.

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Well thank you again for sharing your story and thank you for doing it twice and hopefully

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this report work.

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You can find the why not today podcast on Spotify and iTunes and we're working on a website.

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We have some merchandise if you want to why not today cup or a t-shirt got all kinds of

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fun stuff and maybe we'll have some fun jewelry to go with it too.

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So again thank you share this with your friends like and comment and if you know somebody that

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is courageous and done has a story that you think I should share on why not today let

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me know.

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Thanks Leslie with why not today thank you Bianca for sharing and sharing your courageous

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so thank you so much for having me thank you.

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You're welcome and we are here every other Saturday is the goal this one didn't work

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but it'll be okay.

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All right thanks again.

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Bye.