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Welcome to the Why Not Today podcast where we celebrate courage, determination, and the

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power of saying, Why Not Today?

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I'm your host, Leslie Kane, and in each episode we dive into inspiring stories of individuals

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who have taken bold steps, face their fears, and embrace the possibility of today.

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From entrepreneurs to artists, dreamers to doers, we explore the moments when you say,

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enough waiting, why not today?

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Let me as we uncover the heartwarming, the audacious, and the transformative, whether

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it's pursuing a lifelong passion, overcoming obstacles, or simply choosing joy.

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Our guests share their journeys and inspire us all.

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I started this podcast in honor of my father, Patrick Kane, who often said, Why Not Today?

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And remember, you're just one decision away from changing your life.

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And today we're doing something kind of different.

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So my guest is Belinda Jackson-Farrier, and she has been a guest on the podcast before,

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and she is the host of the Leadership Tea podcast.

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And I met Belinda at a networking million cups event and immediately connected, and

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we have gotten together several times and seen you at different things, and so admire

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you and what you're doing with your podcast.

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And so with the third anniversary, I was trying to think outside the box, and somebody had

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recommended this, and I was like, Belinda is a perfect person, to have somebody interview

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me.

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So the episode, if you listened to the prior episode, I talked about the journey of the

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podcast, where we started, the story behind it, where we're going, and not only the podcast,

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but the Why Not Today movement and everything else I'm doing.

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And so Belinda, I have given her free reign to ask me questions and interview me, and

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probably going to make me uncomfortable because she's also a coach, so she's going to coach

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me through this.

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So who knows what's going to happen, and as you know, we do not edit the Why Not Today

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podcast, so you're going to get this raw and real time.

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And so Belinda, I'm so grateful for you doing this, and I know your world is rocking right

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now with everything.

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I know you've been in the government space, and so lots going on, so I appreciate your

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time and taking the time and helping me with this.

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And let's start with what courage means to you, and then, or maybe just a little bit

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of who you are, because I always like to do that, and what courage means to you.

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Yeah, I'm happy to reintroduce myself to your audience.

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Like I said, my name is Belinda, and I am a former US diplomat.

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I'm a former executive in the tech space, and now I'm an entrepreneur who is really

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committed to helping people find clarity on their career and leadership journey.

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You know, I'm also a resident of Northern Virginia.

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I'm a mom, I'm a wife, and I'm a person who's really committed to helping my community.

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In response to your question about empathy, or rather courage, I would offer that, for

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me courage right now is empathy.

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It is this idea that it takes a lot of bravery to be kind and to put yourself in someone

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else's place.

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There's a lot out there in social media, or just in the culture in general, that really

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makes it seem exciting and interesting and different to be tough on people, and to be

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judgmental and mean.

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And so I think that it takes courage to stand up and see yourself in someone else's shoes.

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Yeah, and you know, often say that, you know, people are doing the best they can, and who

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knows where their beliefs came from and where they came from, and that's what they believe.

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And so who is it for us to judge and not be kind?

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Because there's a lot of unkindness going on.

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Well, look, why don't we dive right in?

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I'm ready.

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I'm really excited to learn more about the Why Not Today movement and where you hope

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to see the movement go.

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So I think my first question is, when you think about where, you know, it's December

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Where do you see the Why Not Today movement at that moment?

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Good question.

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So ultimately, you know, my thoughts and my intention with the movement is to be able to

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give people courage to one, live your life.

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Like we are not promised tomorrow, and I'm forever hearing stories of losing people and

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life happening, and we don't know what's going to happen, to be courageous and to pursue

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those dreams.

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And so if I'm going to bed New Year's Eve on 2025, I really hope that I've impacted

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lots of people and made a difference in people's lives and that people are telling me stories

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of, oh, when we talked and you gave me that push to do this or help me grow, that I've

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impacted people's lives and their stories.

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And this has nothing to do about pursuing a dream.

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That one of my guests at one of my luncheons wanted to get a tattoo, and she's wanted to

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get one for a long time.

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And she is Jewish and with everything going on in the world, it's very upsetting to her.

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And so her tattoo wanted to be something to symbolize that.

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So after the luncheon, there was a tattoo parlor right walking distance, and she walked over

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to make an appointment.

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And he's like, well, I could do it now.

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And she's like, you know, why not today?

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So you know, so giving people, I really hope that I make a difference.

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And it's the ripple effect that I'm making difference in people's lives to, to do the

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courageous things and to start the business.

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So the nonprofits are, you know, some people, why not today often say is getting out of bed.

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Somebody else that I know bought some why not today merchandise to give to her daughter

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who's in college and really struggling with depression and anxiety, just to give her the

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encouragement, you know, to have a t-shirt and a cup to encourage her every morning to

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keep going.

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Wow.

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It's really powerful.

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As you think about where the movement takes people and how you get them there, what's something

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that you feel like you need to change to kind of continue to have this momentum and, and

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get people where they need to be through the why not today movement?

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Yeah, I think really what I need to change is my, my why not today courage, you know,

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to go back, you know, the shoemaker son doesn't have shoes.

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I'm really good about encouraging other people, but for me, if I'm going to be vulnerable and

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honest here, it's sharing what I can offer to help people that I do have strengths and

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skills and superpowers in helping, not even helping.

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I don't like that word supporting people to make the next step to give them some tactics

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and tools.

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Also, I have helped with some courses last year on helping people with systems and so

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many things that I have learned in a 30 year Mary Kay career that I can then pass on, you

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know, to put some systems in to get rid of some chaos in their life.

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So, and to connect with the people that they need to, I think those are some of my superpowers

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of being able to help people connect and teach people how to do that and the systems.

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Um, because it just takes one person that can change everything.

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And we're so worried about what other people are going to think that, but what if you could

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make a difference?

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No, that's, that's really passionate.

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Like, so you have all of these superpowers, right?

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And you are such a force in the community.

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But I think it's hard for many of us to see that you too struggle to, you know, live the

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very ethos of the movement.

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I'm curious, what are you afraid of?

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It's interesting.

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You say that I had a discussion with somebody else and I brought this up.

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She's like, you're not 100% confident.

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I'm like, no, I think my fear is, it's just new and sharing.

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And I think selling me as opposed to I have a career in selling tangible items, you know,

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here's a lipstick that's $20.

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So how do you put a value on what your strengths are?

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And so being able to get the word out, it's so much easier to sell a t-shirt, sell, get

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somebody to come to event, to gather people, to help other people that way.

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And like helping other people's businesses is something I'm passionate about.

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So my friend's restaurant, you know, help support her and to take a step back and like,

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okay, what am I doing on a daily basis to really share the message?

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And you know, people following me, they know I do an event, maybe they know I do a podcast,

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hopefully, that I've been a Mary cake and something, but do they know all the other

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things?

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And it's interesting, there was one person I did coach last year and came to my course

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and the reason what she came to my luncheon and I've known her and she knows my mom and

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my family and she says she'd watch my career and listen to my mother brag about me and

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knew my success.

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She's like, if you can have success in this, you can help me.

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Yes.

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So yeah, I think it's the putting those things first instead of I say the low hanging fruit.

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You know, it's easy to do all the little things and make it perfect, which is so against the

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why not today message to instead of making the phone call, calling the person, reaching

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out, sharing more content about what I can provide and help.

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What are building on that?

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What are two or three things that you hope your listeners get out of the why not today

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movement as they kind of build towards taking action on their truth and their that thing

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that they're afraid of?

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What's what are two or three takeaways that they should get from why not?

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Well, I would say when people listen to podcasts, if they get hope and permission and maybe

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a me too, you know, that they listen to somebody else's story and, you know, from everything

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from starting businesses to I've had a couple of people that I have addiction issues, you

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know, like listening to somebody and say, you know what, if they can do it, I can do

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it.

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And so giving people that hope and permission that they can do it too, that it's one, you

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know, and, you know, I've got a successful business, you know, three years of podcasts

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and I'm still doing things scared.

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And I don't know about you.

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You left a whole different career and you're probably doing things daily scared every day,

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every day.

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And so, you know, we're all doing it scared.

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We don't all come perfectly figuring this out.

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And, you know, it took me a long time to figure out how to do this podcast.

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It was one, one week at a time.

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And originally it was every other week.

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So I'm like, okay, if I can master one little thing every couple of weeks.

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I didn't even get a microphone till almost two years in.

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You know, exactly, right?

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You have to take that first step.

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You have to learn.

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You have to, I was just telling someone today that it's the importance of being a C student

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versus an A student, right?

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A student wants to please people, knows the rules and never really fails and doesn't really

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develop that resilience.

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To see student learn so they can take risks and sometimes they get an A and sometimes

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they get an F.

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But they're still loved by their community.

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They can still move forward and it will all be all right at the end.

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So I'm trying to have that kind of mentality.

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So I told them.

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And I think two were more attracted to the story of the adversity.

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The person that starts here and ends there and has nothing go wrong.

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Can't relate.

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And I was actually listening to another podcast of some of this very successful and she interviews

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really high powered top people and she does, I don't know how often, maybe once a month,

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a coaching call with somebody just starting, which I can relate to her.

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And I often say, you know, back to the Mary Kay world, you know, I've been doing this

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30 years and had great success, but a lot of people starting, they can't see from starting

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to me, but they can see, okay, if one, you know, if somebody, they hear a story of somebody

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that's been in for a year and had success or a month.

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and don't quit.

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Like somebody the other day said something about, you know, how many people in a small

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business quit.

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And that is not even a thought in my head that I would ever quit.

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I may quit doing one part of it, you know, pivot a little better, adjust it, but, you

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know, not, no, we're not going to quit.

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We're going to keep trying and learning.

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I like that C student analogy that's, yeah, and they're not failures, right?

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They're opportunities.

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So learning.

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So in, within the movement, I know that you're doing a lot in terms of you are coaching people

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individually, you're offering courses.

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Like, what do you see as a future of helping people to create their new reality through

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the why not today movement?

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What will the future of this movement look like?

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I think it's more group synergies and group work than the individual one to one coaching

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because that's just a dialogue between two people.

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And yes, I can bring things out and how, you know, we can help support the coaching, but

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really I see the magic in a group, people supporting each other and helping.

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I've started doing events called why not stay connect and sip and it is at a tea shop.

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So you definitely need to come with your leadership tea.

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And it's a small group and it's been six to eight people and we have tea and everybody

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introduces themselves and what they could use support in and we just have a conversation

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and it's so interesting.

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The synergies like last month, everybody was around either having a business or having

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a kid that as a friend of mine calls it complex kiddos that have either autism or, you know,

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some learning disability.

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I don't know what all the correct words are, but everybody kind of swam in that world last

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month this month, which we just held today.

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It was the healthcare.

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You know, there was a functional nurse practitioner, somebody that is doing holistic financial planning,

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somebody else is an exercise specialist.

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You know, so it's just, it was just powerful just to see the conversations, the connections,

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the support of each other.

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So if I can do that and be able to touch many lives and see how the magic unfolds.

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And I think that's one of the things the luncheon has done.

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You know, watching the relationships grow out of that.

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And like one month we had somebody who was an artist that had a local art show going

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on in right near there and they all left a bunch of women left together and they went

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and bought chocolate at the chocolate shop and then they went to watch the artist or went

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to see her paintings.

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Last month everybody left the luncheon and they all went and bought teas.

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So to just see these relationships growing, I think is so powerful.

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It's really interesting what I hear you saying is you're really harnessing the power of community.

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That is one of my...

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And that's so necessary right now.

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And I just keep hearing things about how people are so lonely.

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And that's why I started the luncheon and that's why I do a lot of what I do, although I keep

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saying I don't want to be an event planner, but I love gathering people.

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I even did, had some friends come over for dinner last night.

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We did it last year.

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We were going to do it monthly and it ended up being annual.

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We did it once last year.

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But we just got together and everybody brought something and they got ready to leave and

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it was 10 o'clock and I'm like, how did that happen?

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And when we talked about, you know, everything and just filling each other's cups.

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And I think that is something that I'm just passionate about is the community, the connections.

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So figuring out how to support people with that and, you know, have a business that can

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support me because it's really easy to give away all these services, which you're probably

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figuring out as well.

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No, but I think that's something that can be scaled and should be scaled.

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Right?

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And building these micro communities where people really are there to help each other

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with their resilience and their learning and their growth.

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I mean, that's, like you said, something that we're all looking for right now.

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So and it's something that really makes why not today really special.

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So we've had a few minutes to chat and connect.

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But before I lose you in this conversation, I want to make sure that I've covered everything.

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Is there anything that you wish we had talked about today, something you wish I'd asked

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you?

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Good question.

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Maybe a question for you.

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How do I, how do I reach more people outside my circle?

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I think that's, I do have a big circle of influence and my luncheon probably for the

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first six months, there was not one person that walked in that I did not know.

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And we had over 200 people come to the luncheon last year.

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And so that's, I think, one of my new, my new opportunity is figuring out how to get

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rid, how to get out of go beyond my circle.

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That makes sense.

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I think that that's something that I'm also still learning.

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I have found that, like you said, building these micro communities through organizations

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and things has been helpful.

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I've also found that speaking, it's slow and steady wins the race in terms of building

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this community, right?

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Like that.

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It's about quality and that quantity.

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People who are really committed will, will join and they will bring others.

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When you are earnestly providing quality, providing what people want, they're going

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to bring in their friends, like they're going to bring in their associates.

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But another kind of tactical piece I have found to be useful is to find, to think about

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where my ideal client, so to speak, right, or listener is likely kind of hanging out.

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And so in one case for me, that's, that's LinkedIn is, is a space where my ideal listener

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is, is at.

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And so putting out my relevant, honest truth, especially as we kind of move through turbulent

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times and things moving quickly to say, like, here are my views on how to lead your team

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during, you know, change and turbulence or here's how to manage through layoffs or whatever,

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because these things are happening now.

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It's organically growing community.

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So I think it's, it's really sitting back and it's taken me a while to find out where

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my ideal client is hanging out, but it's finding that space and then meeting people where they

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as well.

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I've kind of played in the Facebook world just because that's what I've known.

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But I think LinkedIn is probably a good place.

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The other thing that's kind of my background's finance.

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So in my back and my head, I'm like, I am not a writer.

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I, you know, when I see people put all these blogs and articles and stuff, I'm like, I

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could never do that.

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And I've been playing with AI more and I've got the thoughts and ideas and somebody said

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the other day, it helps them get started.

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And so somebody asked me to do a blog post and I was like, I don't want to do a blog.

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She's like, put your course because I've got the outline of the course, which by the way,

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when I put together the courses I have and put together materials and the handouts and

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the, all the videos to go with it, it was so much fun and so easy for me.

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And so I need to take the content of my courses and then put them into an AI to help generate

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some ideas and then be able to, I think, find some kind of consistent with some things,

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easy stuff like I do an inspirational post today, which I've done for years.

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And I've got that figured out.

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So it's figuring out the cadence of content.

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Yeah, I agree.

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There's a lot of noise out there.

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There is and it's like shiny objects and it's like, okay, how can I most easily be able

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to take this content and figure out a cadence and a schedule?

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And I think for me to get out my message, my show my superpowers, because people are watching

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and constantly have people say things like you're doing so much good, good things and

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I see what you're doing and people are like, you got to know Leslie and people referring

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to me all the referring people to me all the time, which I can't keep up with honestly.

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But then it's taking it, I think.

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So maybe it's building a team.

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Say more.

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What do you mean?

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Maybe you need someone who can do the analytics on where your audience is and develop a strategy

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or even outline some of the content, 30 days worth of content for you at a time.

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Using something like Fiverr or a site like that, you can probably find someone at a relatively

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reasonable rate to kind of help you with that.

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And or it's as your people are being referred to you, it's maybe partnering with other people

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within your movement, maybe doing kind of a train the trainer, training some other folks

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in the why not today methodology and bringing them on board as I don't know, contractors,

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employees, something so that it's not just you, right?

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And others can carry the message as well.

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Interesting thought.

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I have talked to a couple of people and I had a call with two women that are not in this

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area that love the idea of my luncheon.

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They're like, can you teach us how to do it?

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Because I've had other people ask about doing it.

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But again, I don't want to be an event planner and I don't want to be running around the

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world doing events.

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So if I can teach people fractional event planner.

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Yeah, kind of like social collectives.

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Interesting.

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Lots of ideas.

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So I'm I'm going to have to have to listen to this podcast again with paper and pen and

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take notes and and that's one of my superpowers and kryptonite is all my ideas.

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No, it's good.

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It's you know, but it's having all the ideas and I listened to a good podcast the other

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day and talked about income streams and I need to listen to that again and pen and paper

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and just get everything on in paper and like, OK, where are all the places?

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Because ultimately the why not today movement, my big, harry audacious goal in I just feel

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in the every ounce of my being that it's there is that why not today is a message similar

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to life is good.

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People are wearing the shirts and they're encouraging each other.

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I mean, people are always quoting it back to me.

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You know, why not today or I'm getting texts or people comment on social media stuff is

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that we've got a movement that literally a movement that we're encouraging people to

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try the scary thing like when they say, you know, it takes five seconds of courage to

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do something.

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Yeah, I would offer, you know, don't don't suppress the ideas, right?

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Like, even if you're just carrying a small notebook around with you, that's just called

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ideas, let them out and review them once a while and see if they can be integrated and

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your overall strategic plan or like, you know, when and where it's so necessary because I

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think if I were to reflect on where I am now versus where I thought I would be different,

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right?

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I've stayed agile, I've stayed adaptable, right?

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I've absorbed some new ideas, but in a way that's very, I think intentional so that it's

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not overwhelming.

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I have, I also have a tendency to just be like shiny things, let's do it.

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Yeah, I can have a leadership style that, you know, I kind of put my foot on the gas.

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So I have to be very intentional about, okay, let me slow down.

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Let me think.

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Let me set this aside.

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Let me stay rooted in the end vision of what I want.

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Is this going to get me to that end vision?

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Am I still reverse engineering?

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Am I still rooted and what am I trying to solve for?

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Right, that's a question we keep asking ourselves and everything.

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All the time.

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So look, it's really been an honor connecting with you today and celebrating, you know, the

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anniversary of this podcast and its impact that it's had on so many people.

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Yeah.

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And who would have ever thought when I started is this crazy idea.

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So the one question I usually ask people before we wrap this up is how would you encourage

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somebody else to do something?

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So I'm going to flip this on you.

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How would you encourage me with my next steps or to reach my December 31st vision or goal?

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I think your magic line to put on me.

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Yes.

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I think that there is power in writing down a vision.

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There's a study I would have to go look it up that I learned about many years ago that

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I think it was a Harvard Business School study where they had graduates write down their

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goal for themselves 10 years in the future and then some didn't.

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And everyone who wrote it down, almost all of them achieved it.

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When I was working in Peru, there was someone I worked with who carried her goals in her

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wallet.

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And I would sometimes see her like standing in line for coffee at like a cafeteria, you

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know, and she would, while she's standing in line, literally be looking in her wallet,

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looking at her goals for the year.

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Love that.

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And so that's what I would offer to you is write down that vision of what December 31st

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looks like and put in your wallet.

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And when you're like...

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Have you heard the Jim Carrey story?

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Yeah.

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With the check?

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Do you know the Jim Carrey?

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I think it's Jim Carrey.

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Oh.

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Yeah.

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Pretty sure it's Jim Carrey.

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But he wrote himself a check for $100,000 million, I don't know what it was, and kept

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in his wallet with the date and like almost to the date of it, he got a contract for a

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movie for that amount.

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Look at that.

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I'm going to do that tonight.

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Yeah.

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I used to do that with checks for Mary Kaye, top people's checks.

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Just we'd write out their name and put our name in there.

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I think those are things, you know, and what it keeps coming back to is all the things,

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and when I presented it at Million Cups, a suggestion, all the things that I know and

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I've taught people to do for 30 years, I just need to do myself with this business.

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Do it.

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Why not today?

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Why not today?

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So, well, thank you, Belinda, for doing this.

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This was fun.

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And as I said, I'm going to go back and take notes and yeah, put some things in place.

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And thank you, everybody, for joining us today.

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And thank you for joining us for three years.

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It's crazy.

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Over 100 episodes in three years, and we're starting this is episode one of season four.

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So I'm excited for that.

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So check out everything on Why Not Today on our new website, whynottodaymovement.com.

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Feel free or please like, share, review the podcast, get some merch.

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Let's share this message.

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And remember, say why not today?

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Just never know how your life is going to change.

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So thanks, Belinda.

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Thank you.

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Congratulations.

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Thank you.

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Thank you.

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Thank you.