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Welcome to the Why Not Today podcast where we celebrate courage, determination, and the

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power of saying, Why Not Today.

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I'm your host, Leslie Cain.

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In each episode, we dive into the inspiring stories of individuals who have taken bold

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steps, faced their fears, and embraced the possibility of today.

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From entrepreneurs to artists to dreamers or doers, we explore the moments when they

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said, Enough waiting, Why Not Today.

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Guide me as we uncover the heartwarming, the audacious, and transformative, whether it's

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pursuing a lifelong passion, overcoming obstacles, or simply choosing joy, or get fair their

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journey and inspire us all.

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I started this podcast in honor of my father, Patrick Cain, who often said, Why Not Today.

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And I always say, remember, you're just one decision away from changing your life.

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And my guest today is Stacey Lauren, and she has a fun in Facebook group movement called

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Do the Thing.

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And that's so aligned with Why Not Today.

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And I first discovered Stacey because Laura Carney, who has been on the podcast when I

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talked about Alvin, who's actually our guest at a luncheon, she was on a bucket list challenge

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with Stacey.

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And I started watching following Stacey, and then Stacey actually introduced me to Leslie

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Cooster, who will be on the podcast as well.

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And we've connected, and it's just so fun.

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And I think through you, I met Wendy Taylor.

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So it's fun just to see the connections and just how deep they're going.

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And so I'm excited to have you on the podcast to hear about Do the Thing.

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So Stacey, why don't you introduce yourself a little bit about you and a fun fact, and

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we'll get into the courage discussion.

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Yeah, hi, I'm so glad to be here.

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My name is Stacey Lauren.

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And yeah, I have the podcast called Do the Thing, where I help people take action on

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the things they want.

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I've dissected a formula and then embedded it to my community, which is the Do the Thing

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community.

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And my fun fact is that I was a clown a very long time ago.

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Oh, really?

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That's fun.

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I guess my dad was a clown.

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Yeah, I think so.

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And now Steve's doing this whole thing about being like fairy and going to kids' birthday

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parties.

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It was kind of fun how that's evolved.

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That's fun.

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That's actually what I, yeah, that's what I did back in the day.

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I was in high school and then I was, I'd go to kids' birthday parties and did the whole

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tinkerbell and then the clown and all that stuff.

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And if you're watching live, you can see Stacey has beautiful red hair, which I guess

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because of Ronald McDonald, you think of clown, you think of red hair.

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Is that your natural hair?

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It's beautiful.

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No, it was actually my gateway to like coming out of my old life was, you know, adding the

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red, you know, where I was like very traditional and really ordinary and then I just wanted

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to kind of mix it up a little.

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I bet there's a story behind that story.

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It's a story behind that story, yeah.

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Yeah, it's a fine everybody has those.

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So, yeah, you do the thing.

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So, so in line with why not today.

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So let's start with how would you define courage?

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What is your courage definition?

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Yeah, it's the, it comes back to when I was in college and I went door to door sales.

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And I think it was just this, this one like line that I learned back then, which was action

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cure sphere.

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And I just, that's courage, right?

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Just being able to take action, even though you're scared and I think at every phase you

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go in life, you're scared again, you know, like every level, it's like, I'm scared again

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and you don't want to do it.

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And then you just take a little bit of action and see how you feel.

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And then if it feels good, you could take another step.

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So that's probably how I define courage is with action cure sphere.

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And love that.

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And it's, it's not always, people think of courage and we talk about this a lot, obviously

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in podcasts, it's big, big thing, but everybody I talk to it's just a little step of courage

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that we do and take the next one.

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Mel Robbins talks about five second rules that you just go five, four, three, two, one and

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then do it or somebody else shared on the podcast.

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So you just need 10 or seven seconds of courage just to do the same as you say.

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So I was just going to say, I think a lot of people think they have to do this like big

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helps you at least get started and gets a momentum, which is how you can actually get

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And where you start and where you finish are just so far away sometimes.

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And you think you're taking that step towards a and you end up at X, you know, in the past,

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it's just, it's so fun to watch everybody's past and journeys with courage.

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So let's talk about do the thing.

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Where did that come from and how did that evolve?

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And I know you've grown it pretty darn fast and you had a different path and let's talk

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about your courage and all the things.

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So I had, I had gotten divorced and then I had owned my business with my ex-husband.

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And then after a few years, I just exited the business and pretty much was told by a

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coach that I was working with at the time.

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Do not open another business at least for a year, which is hard, right?

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For being an entrepreneur because you're used to all this noise and all this stuff.

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And so I decided I was, I would write a book.

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It was originally going to be about sales because I love sales and I love what it, what

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it can do for people.

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And then at the same time I started dating and I realized that a lot of my skills, sales

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skills applied to dating and I don't mean like, you know, how you look or any of that

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I was just following rejection and positive thinking goal setting.

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And so I was in my mastermind and all of a sudden I just kept saying, like, I just want

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to help people do the thing.

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And so that's how do the thing was born.

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And I had a book strategist I was working with at the time and she said, in order for

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it to be a good book, I had to have my hero's journey.

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Like what was my struggle, the story of when I didn't do the thing.

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And, you know, when I ended up being able to do it, at the time I had no struggle story,

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like in my mind, because I've always done the thing.

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So she said, well, I had to interview 10 people get their struggle story of how they couldn't

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do the thing and then they were able to do it.

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And so that's how my podcast pretty much started.

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What to give the end story to that the funny part is, so do the thing isn't really about

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just doing the thing.

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What my struggle story really is, is that I did the thing for everyone else and like

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whatever one else what I thought people needed or wanted and didn't really tap into like

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what I wanted.

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And so that's really what do the thing is it's finding your own voice and then being

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able to like kind of capitalize on that being able to get it out into the world in that

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And that's so true.

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And that's one of the kind of the sweet spots I've been finding is, you know, especially

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women, we do so much for so many other people.

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We don't do the things for us.

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We're so ready to jump on and help somebody else but not take care of ourselves.

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We're still working on it.

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It was totally unconscious.

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And so now I notice, okay, you know, I've got to do something for me or I'm going to

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I was just going to say, and the cool thing is I didn't even know it until I like was

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in the middle of the podcast.

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I was like my 11th or 12th interview and I was like, wait a minute, this isn't just

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about doing the thing.

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Like doing the thing, you know, it's about really tapping into who you are, what you

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want and doing the thing for you.

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Yeah, that's so true.

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Somebody I was reading a book recently and they talked about the golden goose philosophy.

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Have you heard of that?

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So if you have a golden goose and that is your family's income, this golden goose produces

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these golden eggs, like how would you take care of that golden goose?

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Like if it was sick, you take it to the doctor immediately, you'd make sure it got sleep.

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It's eating the right thing and all those, you know, you'd treat this golden goose like

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gold, you know, but we're the golden goose, especially as an entrepreneur.

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And yet we don't always go to the doctor.

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We put ourselves last.

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We don't take care of our health.

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to take care of me?

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And I'm going to start with a question for what I want.

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So, all right, so you start a podcast and it's called do the thing.

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And is it you just talking or do you interview people?

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Yeah, it's just, it started with me wanting to dissect a formula for how people do the

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So I was interviewing successful people or people that I met that looked like they had

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done, you know, extraordinary things.

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There was a lot of people from my life, kind of like you said in the beginning, it's like

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once you kind of like start the spider web of talking to people, it sort of just takes

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on life of its own.

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And so, so I was dissecting these patterns from people on what led them to success.

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And by the 80th episode, I identified the patterns.

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And so now that I've dissected the patterns, now it's more of just, I just honestly bring

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on anyone that I want that I feel like has a really great story of either them doing

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the thing or even sometimes like I'll bring on people who have put their jobs right after

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20 years because I that's really tapping into being able to overcome that fear.

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So it's sort of evolved over, over time.

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Yeah, I think my this podcast as well, it's kind of growing and changing.

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And again, the kind of sweet spot I'm finding just what she said, people that have worked

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for a job for years owned a business for years, been a mom, people are I think unsettled and

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looking for some what's next, like create ourselves and figure out what that natural

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genius and be able to make money doing 100%.

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year, last year, I turned 50.

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I'm finally doing what I want to do.

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You know, I mean, I'm not like, I don't care what people think, I don't care what they

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I'm just like so tapped into who I am.

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And it's really the first time in my life that I've like felt this way.

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I think maybe once you hit 45, 47, and so I'm finding people, I mean, many are much older,

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but I'm finding people in like that over age range where it's like, we're done, you know,

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we're like ready, it's our time, you know,

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I totally agree.

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I'm finding the same thing.

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It's kind of like my age range 45 to 65.

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And you know, it's that magical zero birthday.

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So I hit the zero birthday one, 10 more than yours.

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I hit 60 last month.

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And they even did a podcast episode of lessons of celebrating 60.

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And you know, we've accomplished a lot.

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I know when I turned 30, I got my master's in third American business.

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So it's like that zero birthday.

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Think people often look at life and like, what's next?

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Am I doing what I really want to do?

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And I think as we get older, we don't care what people think we want to do what we want

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to do and take care of us.

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And I think like, so I had my business, it was 20 years I owned that business and I gave

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up, I sacrificed everything for that, you know, but it wasn't for the money.

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It was because I had 60 employees, 600 extra employees.

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And I just felt like I was responsible, you know, for everyone and their needs and wants.

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And I lost myself in the process.

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And then when I exited, you know, I set up systems and all that.

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So it was like some people had left after I exited.

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It was just this realization that like, it wasn't my job, you know, to keep people working.

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They could have easily gotten other jobs, you know, like many of them did after I left.

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Some of them have opened up their own business and they're doing great.

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But I just like took this responsibility that didn't have to be mine.

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And so it just, yeah, it's been a, it's been a really interesting kind of re-identification

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of who I am since I was able to let that go.

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I've been reading the book, Profit First, have you read that before?

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Oh, highly recommend it.

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It's funny, somebody recommended years ago and I kind of ignored it.

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were making more and more money than the owners because the owners felt responsibility.

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not feel like we have to take care of everybody.

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Yes, great that you've grown, that you have employees and you can afford a place, but

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not sacrificing you in the process.

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So let's talk about your patterns.

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What did you find out?

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Do the same pattern?

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So it's an acronym.

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to do this once, right?

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Like identify why you want to have your, you know, do something, but it's really for everything.

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I do dares and that's really fun.

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as I've identified the patterns, I do keep exploring the patterns through my community

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want to do, sometimes people will think something's wrong with them, right?

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it and say, Okay, am I, how am I doing with accountability?

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because I don't have a group that I'm with, they're like, I'm not involved with an accountability

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same goal. So it's different than just being around supportive and encouraging people. This is

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like specific to whatever that thing is you want to do. And then the E in game is educate. And that's

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two parts. So educate is like learning from others and podcasts and videos. And it's great

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that you guys are listening to this podcast because of how much you're able to learn from the

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different people Leslie brings on. But the second part is doing what I'm doing today,

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where you get to educate others, right? And coming on your podcast and being able to

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contribute by education. And so that's where the fulfillment comes from. And that's when you

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really feel good about what you're doing because you're then you're then feeling like you're making

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a difference too. Right. Love it. And I can see how all those things apply to, you know, doing the

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thing and having the courage and saying why not today. Yeah. And so many areas of life. And it's

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just interesting how all these things, Chris Cross that I listened to and read and people I

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talked to, the same messages and I, and you know, I call them Godwings coincidences, like there's no

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accident and the people are put in your path for a reason. Definitely. You know, I say I look at

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Laura Carney and she's been the connector for a lot of connections and it was a random car on TV

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and just reached out and you know, you just never know. Isn't that great? I say that too with her

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because she changed a lot for me. I didn't even listen. The guy that owns my podcast platform,

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he told me he heard about her on NPR and then I was like, oh man, I have, I'd love to interview her.

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She's doing the thing. And at the same time, as I reached out to her at the same time, I had an

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expert panel it was putting together for people that had started books or had books. And so I

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brought her on that. And that's when the idea for the bucket list challenge had been infused.

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And she changed a lot in my community because I think, well, you know, right, having a,

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having something be for someone else in the way that she did with her dad's bucket list, right?

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Like, I think it brought this level of meaning that just hadn't, you know, that opened up all

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these portals for the people in the group. And so it's been really cool to see the effects of that.

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Yeah, I love the things she's done and how it just keeps evolving. I was talking to somebody yesterday,

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I do a monthly luncheon now, and she came down from, she was on her way from Nashville back to

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New York and stopped in Virginia. We only get speaker last month, which was so fun to have her.

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And if you ever come to Virginia, let me know. We'd love to have you. But she was talking at,

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we were obviously talking about bucket lists and had everybody introduce themselves with their

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money is no object. What is the biggest bucket list thing? And there was one guest there that

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at first she couldn't think of anything, which just kind of broke my heart. But once we all started

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talking, she came up with something. But I saw somebody yesterday that was there. And she said,

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after we started talking about things she wanted, and she has a family trip she always

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want to do with she to accomplish. She's like, I'm good. You know, she had a couple of things.

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But after between the last three weeks, a friend reached out and invited her and is paying for her

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to go on a cruise to Italy. Oh my God. I'm like, so, you know, and I know that I know that I know

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you just got to throw it out there and have those intentions, whether you write it down,

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tell somebody or just in your heart have those intentions of the bucket list, the things.

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And the universe just moves and puts those people in your path and connects you to people and the

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right person at the right time or the right message. But I think, and I talked about this on my

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episode on my lessons I learned on my 30th birthday is we have to be open to it, you know,

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be looking for somebody said one time things don't fall in your lap unless your lap is out there.

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Oh yeah, I love that. And so yeah, looking for those things. Yeah, I love that money question

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to you because I do that in one of my challenges find your voice but because I think a lot of

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people can be blocked by that and they can't dream big enough because that that like I can't do it

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because of this comes up, you know, and so yeah, I love I love that question. I love that you're

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doing that. I think that's a really good way to expand people's minds. Well, we were talking I

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was interviewing Laura or Leslie, I'll be Laura and Leslie and Leslie Lauren and all. So I was

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interviewing Leslie, which is so funny Leslie another Leslie case felt the same way Leslie

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Cooster. And we were talking about you know her pivotal moment when she's like, All right, I'm

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done making what I'm making I want to make more and I deserve to make more. And we're talking about

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how you know where she started and where she is are so far apart. And when we start the thing

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we can't possibly see where we're going. And I think I mentioned this on her podcast too,

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but I read something or heard something the other day about when you do a vision board

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to leave space, don't fill it up. Because don't know what could be what God has planned to put

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in those spots. And so leave it open because we don't know what we're capable of. But we're just

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we're capable of saying why not today or do the thing or just start and then see where it goes.

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So let's talk about some of your challenges or Derek what are you doing with those those are fun.

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just comes intuitively from the community it's sort of birthed by what people are needing and then

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I get to see what's activating in me so it's kind of fun in that way but I've done like a dating

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dare challenge I have a singles group that I do those with. I've done I do find your voice that's

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a kind of a what is that called like a constant you know every couple times a year I'll run that

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find their own voice kind of what I was saying earlier where like we've raised our kids we've

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done everything for everyone else now it's time to like figure out who we are. But the accidental

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part of that challenge is that it also gets you really good on video and and like so a lot of

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coaches and entrepreneurs like to do that challenge because it helps you show who you are

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with where you're not nervous anymore. Right and yeah so there's that one and then I have

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done a start a book challenge the bucket list challenge a go live challenge and then right

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now I'm in the middle of launching or doing I'm running it right now I have 23 people in the

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audience accelerator program and that is like yay my most I would talk about uh why not today and

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courage that's it's been a lot you know because once you're it's now I'm helping people really

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kind of like create their own online platform build their own audience and uh and kind of yeah

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just like being leading that group and the people that are in there because now I'm working I mean

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I think everyone is kind of like your peer right in a way but like they're like literally my peers

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now you know and so we're getting value from each other so it's been interesting to see what

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that's been doing to me as I'm like growing as you're growing people. I love that. Leading a

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group and I noticed this the other day I keep saying oh does that make sense like I feel like

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I'm getting an imposter syndrome as of because like why are they all listening to me like you

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know what I mean because they're all so freaking good and I'm like oh my gosh they're like really

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all listening like they want to know what I have to say it just feels weird I don't know it's just a

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new new thing. Oh I think sometimes as coaching people we're guiding people we're coming alongside

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of them. Yeah it's exactly what it is. And to just give them confirmation and they always say

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too when the student's ready the teacher comes and you know you're a learned just like you said

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in your formula like you're teaching and learning. Yeah and I think what it is like I'm actually

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learning I go through something on my podcast if you guys want to listen it's life assets it's a

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specific kind of exercise that you could do I interviewed one of my old coaches and I give

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that dare in the program and what I realized that I'm running this program is it like pulled out

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like why I'm good at helping people build a warm audience and why I'm good at creating community

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and it pulled out all my past you know experiences and so it's coming out so I do know like I've got

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you know skills or whatever but it still just feels weird to be in that space you know so it's

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just new that's all it's just different. Right well and when you're natural genius is building

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community or collecting people which is one of mine it just comes so naturally that's when people

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I was talking to some of the other day and they're like I started lunching and got up one morning and

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had it planned in 48 hours and by the people they start signing up she's like how do you do that?

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I'm like you just ask and you surround yourself and have a community of like-minded people and

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and I think community is the key like we need to help people grow community connect be around

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like-minded people so important. And doing what like you did I did you know with Laura even like

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reaching out a lot of people are not able to do that without you know help or guidance and I think

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that's especially in the algorithm age where people think their algorithm's gonna take them on you

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know but you do have to it's nice to be able to reach out to people and connect with people.

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Just that my dad always said you know what's the worst thing somebody could say yeah you know or

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they don't answer but let's do it's like oh wow that's pretty cool. You're gonna be life changing

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so what are your challenges? Did you say bugaboo? Oh no I think that was the bucket list probably.

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Yeah I have like a million more but I'm like sort of on hold just because I'm so invested in this

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audience accelerator program and I'm building it with the people and so it's a lot so I sort of am

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not pausing I'm eventually I guess pausing I'm eventually gonna start up again but I have to

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take a break while I'm building this program out. Yeah there's so many things that we can do and

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all the ideas and it sounds like you're a creative person, an idea person, which I

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know and I think that's why we connect it's like oh let's do this and let's do this and let's do

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this and I'm like all right sometimes I just gotta sit still and land the plane. Yeah exactly

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but it's kind of cool though when you have that when you're able to do that let's do this let's

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do that because then all the dots eventually connect and you see that it comes into one thing

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which is actually really cool too. Yeah absolutely and and you have that curiosity and it just

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things just keep popping which is fun. So Stacy how would you encourage somebody else to be courageous

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to do the thing? I so number one thing is you've got to surround yourself with people that are

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wanting to do it too whatever it is that you're wanting to do that will actually just give you

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courage by default because you're getting to see yourself in the other people that are doing it

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and so like oh I didn't mention my start a podcast challenge that was another big one I got to see

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this a lot in that because so many people were stuck with like oh my gosh am I going to be able

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to figure out the tech and am I am an imposter and what am I even going to say but because the

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podcast challenge they all saw each other doing it and you know some were further some were behind

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but they were all doing it it like it created all these amazing podcasts because they got to

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be a part of a group so I would just say that would be my number one piece of advice to get courage

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is to put yourself in the environment with the other people that are being courageous like doing

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whatever it is your goal is that you want to do. Yeah love that so while we're talking about it how

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do you tie back and connect to my dad and I would say the one big thing is that you're just doing

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the thing and you're an entrepreneur which he always was and just asking because you just never

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know what people are doing so how can people find you Stacey? Yeah thank you so much go to my community

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on Facebook and you could get to it by dothethingcommunity.com and that'll give you access

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to everything YouTube and all that stuff's kind of listed in the group. All right perfect and

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I'll of course share all your contact and everything in the show notes of how people can find you and

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all your social things so well thanks for being our guests and sharing and so many cool ideas and

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I'm ready to go do the things even though I do too many things probably I need to have the

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outfit how can I cut down the things? I know right do the thing for you. So well thanks again

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everybody for joining us on this inspiring journey remember every day is an opportunity to take

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action chase your dreams and make a difference so why not today? Subscribe, stare, keep pushing forward

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and stay motivated to keep saying why not today you can find everything about the why not today

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podcast on whynottodaypodcast.com or on all the social places we've got why not today swag

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a why not today community Facebook group so we're Stacey says we're doing all the things

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and so if you have if this inspired you gives you hope and permission share with a friend

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encourage somebody else listening to say why not today so thanks again Stacey and remember

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everybody say why not today