1 00:00:00,000 --> 00:00:05,200 Hi, this is Leslie and I am the host of the Why Not Today podcast. 2 00:00:05,200 --> 00:00:10,160 This is a podcast to celebrate people who have been courageous and said, Why Not Today? 3 00:00:10,160 --> 00:00:15,040 I started this podcast in honor of my father, Patrick Cain, who often did say, Why Not Today? 4 00:00:15,040 --> 00:00:19,120 I am based in Reston, Virginia, a planned community right outside of Washington, D.C. 5 00:00:19,120 --> 00:00:20,880 Thanks for joining us today. 6 00:00:20,880 --> 00:00:25,840 So I'm excited about my guest today, Yolanda Gray, and we're going to talk about courage 7 00:00:25,840 --> 00:00:29,480 like we usually do in some of her courage stories, but she is going to share with us 8 00:00:29,480 --> 00:00:33,920 some training on the one word, which I talked about last year, but I figured I'd get another 9 00:00:33,920 --> 00:00:35,520 expert on it. 10 00:00:35,520 --> 00:00:40,360 And I always like to talk about where I met people and the connections. 11 00:00:40,360 --> 00:00:44,120 And one of my guests that I had on, gosh, over a year ago, Mary Foley, who's a good friend 12 00:00:44,120 --> 00:00:48,920 of mine, one day we were talking about our podcast and I said, I just feel like I need 13 00:00:48,920 --> 00:00:52,560 some help and I'm looking for, maybe I need a podcast coach. 14 00:00:52,560 --> 00:00:53,960 She's like, Are you asking me? 15 00:00:53,960 --> 00:00:55,440 I'm like, I don't know what I want. 16 00:00:55,440 --> 00:00:56,600 She goes, I have an idea. 17 00:00:56,600 --> 00:01:01,240 I've got some other friends who are starting businesses or doing shifts in their career 18 00:01:01,240 --> 00:01:03,120 and what about if we did a mastermind? 19 00:01:03,120 --> 00:01:04,440 So that's where I met Yolanda. 20 00:01:04,440 --> 00:01:11,840 She's in North Carolina and we actually met up in Asheville for a mastermind retreat and 21 00:01:11,840 --> 00:01:14,480 I guess the end of the summer. 22 00:01:14,480 --> 00:01:15,920 So that's how I know Yolanda. 23 00:01:15,920 --> 00:01:19,000 So you just never know who that person is that's going to connect you. 24 00:01:19,000 --> 00:01:23,080 And I saw the other day you posted that you're doing a one word workshop and so I'm like, 25 00:01:23,080 --> 00:01:24,960 we need to hear from you. 26 00:01:24,960 --> 00:01:29,520 So why don't you do a quick introduction, let everybody know who you are, a little bit 27 00:01:29,520 --> 00:01:32,800 about you and a quick fact and then we'll kind of get into the courage part and the 28 00:01:32,800 --> 00:01:34,800 one word obviously. 29 00:01:34,800 --> 00:01:35,800 Okay. 30 00:01:35,800 --> 00:01:41,040 Well, thank you so much for having me and yes, I am Yolanda Gray. 31 00:01:41,040 --> 00:01:45,600 I'm a certified life coach and I'm on a mission right now. 32 00:01:45,600 --> 00:01:51,640 I consider the work that I do missionary work for the Christian woman who's in midlife and 33 00:01:51,640 --> 00:01:57,480 beyond who is wondering like, what's next for me, you know, and overcome any obstacles 34 00:01:57,480 --> 00:02:03,840 that have held her back from designing a plan that is in alignment with her heart, God's 35 00:02:03,840 --> 00:02:06,200 heart and his plan. 36 00:02:06,200 --> 00:02:07,400 And we work together. 37 00:02:07,400 --> 00:02:10,440 I work together in different ways. 38 00:02:10,440 --> 00:02:13,520 But mostly I love to, I love communities. 39 00:02:13,520 --> 00:02:16,440 So I work a lot in groups and host retreats. 40 00:02:16,440 --> 00:02:25,720 But I know what keeps women from realizing their full potential in God because I live 41 00:02:25,720 --> 00:02:30,200 for so long, not realizing mine and it's never ending. 42 00:02:30,200 --> 00:02:37,080 I'm not done by any stretch of the imagination and it's a lifelong journey, but I've lived 43 00:02:37,080 --> 00:02:41,680 long enough to be able to, you know, work with women in midlife. 44 00:02:41,680 --> 00:02:43,800 Most of my clients are midlife and beyond. 45 00:02:43,800 --> 00:02:47,960 They're going in transition, you know, a lot of women right now in midlife are getting 46 00:02:47,960 --> 00:02:51,720 divorced and finding themselves alone. 47 00:02:51,720 --> 00:02:56,720 And not that it's so sad for them, but like, how do we, how do, then what's my purpose 48 00:02:56,720 --> 00:02:57,720 now? 49 00:02:57,720 --> 00:02:58,720 How do I go on? 50 00:02:58,720 --> 00:02:59,920 They're retiring from work. 51 00:02:59,920 --> 00:03:02,240 They're, they're caregiving. 52 00:03:02,240 --> 00:03:08,480 They're, you know, completely different places in life than maybe a 30 or a 40 year old. 53 00:03:08,480 --> 00:03:09,480 So that, that's usually. 54 00:03:09,480 --> 00:03:15,520 And that is kind of the niche audience that for this podcast I've found a lot of women 55 00:03:15,520 --> 00:03:17,240 are like, what's next? 56 00:03:17,240 --> 00:03:18,240 Yes. 57 00:03:18,240 --> 00:03:24,440 Really what I am trying to be able to supply and help women with is coaching on what's 58 00:03:24,440 --> 00:03:30,560 next and you know, between retirement and empty nesting and kids and parents needing 59 00:03:30,560 --> 00:03:36,160 help and just like, okay, like I think, I don't know if it's a combination of COVID or age 60 00:03:36,160 --> 00:03:41,040 that we're just kind of women or just looking at life and it's like, what's next? 61 00:03:41,040 --> 00:03:43,840 Kind of a stir in our soul. 62 00:03:43,840 --> 00:03:45,520 Like something's different. 63 00:03:45,520 --> 00:03:49,320 So give us a quick fun fact about you, Yolanda. 64 00:03:49,320 --> 00:03:50,880 Here's a fun fact. 65 00:03:50,880 --> 00:03:53,400 Okay. 66 00:03:53,400 --> 00:04:00,360 I received or I earned, I say my first degree at age 54. 67 00:04:00,360 --> 00:04:02,080 So I'm a late bloomer. 68 00:04:02,080 --> 00:04:05,360 I actually at 50, I'm sorry. 69 00:04:05,360 --> 00:04:14,000 My second degree, my grad degree was at age 60 and it is in the field of human development 70 00:04:14,000 --> 00:04:15,520 and human relations. 71 00:04:15,520 --> 00:04:23,280 However, the fun fact is that I worked in a men's prison in a uniform as a prison guard. 72 00:04:23,280 --> 00:04:32,600 And I like to say that I learned more about human behavior in that environment than, and 73 00:04:32,600 --> 00:04:34,600 then all the education I ever got. 74 00:04:34,600 --> 00:04:36,360 I bet. 75 00:04:36,360 --> 00:04:38,160 And I feel like it was training. 76 00:04:38,160 --> 00:04:41,600 It was training for the work I'm doing now. 77 00:04:41,600 --> 00:04:42,600 It's interesting. 78 00:04:42,600 --> 00:04:43,600 Yeah. 79 00:04:43,600 --> 00:04:48,480 There's nothing that we do in life good and bad that doesn't help us other places. 80 00:04:48,480 --> 00:04:49,480 Amen. 81 00:04:49,480 --> 00:04:54,200 John Maxwell, who's a coach and trainer, he says, you know, if you fall down, get back 82 00:04:54,200 --> 00:04:56,120 up and pick the lesson up with you. 83 00:04:56,120 --> 00:04:57,120 Yeah. 84 00:04:57,120 --> 00:04:58,120 That's good. 85 00:04:58,120 --> 00:04:59,120 Nothing is for granted. 86 00:04:59,120 --> 00:05:03,080 Like all the things and especially the things that we go through that think are really bad. 87 00:05:03,080 --> 00:05:04,440 Like what good can come out of it? 88 00:05:04,440 --> 00:05:05,440 It's always something good. 89 00:05:05,440 --> 00:05:06,440 Absolutely. 90 00:05:06,440 --> 00:05:08,280 You have to get through it to see where it is. 91 00:05:08,280 --> 00:05:12,160 So what does courage mean to you? 92 00:05:12,160 --> 00:05:18,680 So I thought this was a very good question, compelling, because we read a lot about courage. 93 00:05:18,680 --> 00:05:21,040 And in the Bible talks a lot about courage. 94 00:05:21,040 --> 00:05:26,840 I found so many scriptures that spoke on courage where God was telling somebody to have courage 95 00:05:26,840 --> 00:05:29,280 or be courageous. 96 00:05:29,280 --> 00:05:38,640 And it came to me that courage was that essential, it's the essential element to overcoming fear. 97 00:05:38,640 --> 00:05:43,280 A lot of times you hear, feel the fear and do it anyway. 98 00:05:43,280 --> 00:05:46,520 But as Christians, we're not to feel the fear. 99 00:05:46,520 --> 00:05:51,480 We're to reject the fear and take the gift is a gift of courage. 100 00:05:51,480 --> 00:05:56,280 And I can point to a second Timothy 1, 7. 101 00:05:56,280 --> 00:06:00,760 Yeah, 1, 7 that says, I've not given you a spirit of fear. 102 00:06:00,760 --> 00:06:05,440 You know, but have a signed mind and power and we have that power. 103 00:06:05,440 --> 00:06:10,200 And when we're afraid and have no courage, we stay in yesterday. 104 00:06:10,200 --> 00:06:14,480 We stay in our past and we can't move forward. 105 00:06:14,480 --> 00:06:18,960 And when we hear, as your question always asks, I love your question. 106 00:06:18,960 --> 00:06:20,360 Why not today? 107 00:06:20,360 --> 00:06:25,000 We come up with a million questions, a million reasons why not today. 108 00:06:25,000 --> 00:06:26,000 Right? 109 00:06:26,000 --> 00:06:27,000 Wow. 110 00:06:27,000 --> 00:06:29,800 So that's, and that's what I thought of. 111 00:06:29,800 --> 00:06:34,520 When I thought of, you know, when God says, take courage, it was interesting that word 112 00:06:34,520 --> 00:06:37,120 take it's like it's a gift. 113 00:06:37,120 --> 00:06:44,760 And in Psalm 2714 it says, this is my gift to you, my divine gift of strength to overcome 114 00:06:44,760 --> 00:06:50,880 fear and then to overcome fear, you take an action. 115 00:06:50,880 --> 00:06:55,280 And that ties beautifully into why not today? 116 00:06:55,280 --> 00:06:56,280 Let's get up. 117 00:06:56,280 --> 00:06:57,280 Let's move. 118 00:06:57,280 --> 00:06:58,280 Yep. 119 00:06:58,280 --> 00:06:59,280 Yep. 120 00:06:59,280 --> 00:07:02,920 And, you know, we talk on this podcast about big things people have done and starting businesses, 121 00:07:02,920 --> 00:07:07,720 quitting jobs, all the different things, but sometimes why not today is getting out 122 00:07:07,720 --> 00:07:08,720 of bed. 123 00:07:08,720 --> 00:07:09,720 Yeah, absolutely. 124 00:07:09,720 --> 00:07:11,160 We're recording this in December. 125 00:07:11,160 --> 00:07:16,960 It's a holiday season and it's a hard season for some people because of loss or life or 126 00:07:16,960 --> 00:07:18,600 just things that have happened. 127 00:07:18,600 --> 00:07:20,920 It's not always cheerful and joyful. 128 00:07:20,920 --> 00:07:25,760 And so some days it is literally getting out of bed and, you know, one step in front of 129 00:07:25,760 --> 00:07:26,760 the other. 130 00:07:26,760 --> 00:07:30,760 So you just never know, you know, what that courage is for somebody. 131 00:07:30,760 --> 00:07:36,040 So that's why I really try to encourage people with to be courageous and it doesn't have 132 00:07:36,040 --> 00:07:37,040 to be big. 133 00:07:37,040 --> 00:07:38,040 It can be little. 134 00:07:38,040 --> 00:07:39,040 Yeah. 135 00:07:39,040 --> 00:07:45,800 And interesting, there are, I found about 14 or 15 scriptures that said take courage. 136 00:07:45,800 --> 00:07:51,240 And then about 14 or 15 scriptures that said be courageous. 137 00:07:51,240 --> 00:07:58,360 So it is a state of being as we overcome the fear, you know, and yeah, I mean, when I, 138 00:07:58,360 --> 00:08:04,320 when I looked at that, it was like, oh, just like we can be fearful, we can be courageous. 139 00:08:04,320 --> 00:08:05,320 Exactly. 140 00:08:05,320 --> 00:08:06,320 It's interesting. 141 00:08:06,320 --> 00:08:10,280 I interviewed my brother on our first anniversary episode and he's the only one that said he 142 00:08:10,280 --> 00:08:12,280 pulled out a dictionary. 143 00:08:12,280 --> 00:08:17,640 Yeah, no, I, yeah. 144 00:08:17,640 --> 00:08:20,960 So I know you've done lots of courageous things in your life and we definitely want to talk 145 00:08:20,960 --> 00:08:22,480 about the one word. 146 00:08:22,480 --> 00:08:29,280 So but are there things that you've done that have taken courage that you want to share? 147 00:08:29,280 --> 00:08:30,280 Courageous things. 148 00:08:30,280 --> 00:08:36,200 I mean, going back to school at 50 something definitely was courageous. 149 00:08:36,200 --> 00:08:42,480 I think the most courageous thing I believe, and I thought about this for a long time. 150 00:08:42,480 --> 00:08:49,520 And like you, we have done many courageous things that we can look back on. 151 00:08:49,520 --> 00:08:52,320 If you look back on and go, yeah, that took courage. 152 00:08:52,320 --> 00:08:53,320 It took courage. 153 00:08:53,320 --> 00:08:58,680 I needed to call, I call on God and say, give me the courage, make me brave in this thing. 154 00:08:58,680 --> 00:09:02,600 So many things. 155 00:09:02,600 --> 00:09:06,440 But the biggest one was reaching out for help. 156 00:09:06,440 --> 00:09:10,480 And it sounds so nondescript. 157 00:09:10,480 --> 00:09:17,440 It sounds so like, okay, well, because it took courage for me, first I had to admit 158 00:09:17,440 --> 00:09:21,960 to myself I was, I had, I was in alcoholism. 159 00:09:21,960 --> 00:09:25,480 That's one of the biggest ones, but there've been a lot of, a lot of other things that I've 160 00:09:25,480 --> 00:09:26,480 not let go of. 161 00:09:26,480 --> 00:09:34,240 So it's holding onto the shame and the pain of addiction, and I could get it to God and 162 00:09:34,240 --> 00:09:35,400 ask him to help me. 163 00:09:35,400 --> 00:09:42,000 But I didn't realize that what God was doing was pushing me out to ask for help. 164 00:09:42,000 --> 00:09:44,400 Have you ever heard the story of the person? 165 00:09:44,400 --> 00:09:48,360 I think they're in a storm and they're praying, God help me. 166 00:09:48,360 --> 00:09:52,280 And they send somebody in a boat and then they rejected them. 167 00:09:52,280 --> 00:09:56,920 I'm waiting for God and prayed again and they sent somebody else and kept sending somebody. 168 00:09:56,920 --> 00:10:01,000 And finally God's like, I've sent all these people to you. 169 00:10:01,000 --> 00:10:04,360 Yes, yes, yes, exactly. 170 00:10:04,360 --> 00:10:11,040 But when we, and this is for most women, when we are hiding, when we're in shame, we, we 171 00:10:11,040 --> 00:10:14,440 don't want, you know, why not today? 172 00:10:14,440 --> 00:10:17,040 Because today I'm feeling better. 173 00:10:17,040 --> 00:10:21,240 So I'm not, maybe tomorrow, maybe, you know, when I, because now I'm feeling good. 174 00:10:21,240 --> 00:10:25,560 And you know, those are the lies of the enemy that want to keep you stuck in whatever your 175 00:10:25,560 --> 00:10:26,960 stuckness is. 176 00:10:26,960 --> 00:10:32,240 And so I think that reaching out for help, for allowing somebody else to know me and 177 00:10:32,240 --> 00:10:38,320 to become transparent is probably the most courageous work any of us could do. 178 00:10:38,320 --> 00:10:39,320 Yeah. 179 00:10:39,320 --> 00:10:44,000 And I, my mom is a giver and she loves to do everything for everybody, but doesn't want 180 00:10:44,000 --> 00:10:45,400 to ask for help for herself. 181 00:10:45,400 --> 00:10:50,360 I often shared with people that do that and, you know, we're all guilty of it. 182 00:10:50,360 --> 00:10:55,160 But when you don't ask for help and let somebody else help you, then you're blocking their 183 00:10:55,160 --> 00:10:57,800 blessings to be able to give back to you. 184 00:10:57,800 --> 00:10:58,800 That's good. 185 00:10:58,800 --> 00:10:59,800 That's good. 186 00:10:59,800 --> 00:11:00,800 We want to help. 187 00:11:00,800 --> 00:11:02,520 And, you know, we want to be able to support. 188 00:11:02,520 --> 00:11:06,600 And you just never know when there's something you ask for help that somebody else needs 189 00:11:06,600 --> 00:11:10,640 help with or you actually helps them. 190 00:11:10,640 --> 00:11:15,480 And I think that's one thing I've heard repeatedly from people listening to the podcast that they're 191 00:11:15,480 --> 00:11:20,960 hearing other people's stories and it gives them permission and gives them hope and to 192 00:11:20,960 --> 00:11:22,760 say, why not? 193 00:11:22,760 --> 00:11:25,320 But yeah, asking for help is really hard. 194 00:11:25,320 --> 00:11:29,240 And especially when you're down, you know, those are the times you don't need to have 195 00:11:29,240 --> 00:11:35,120 that tribe of friends that you literally can call at two in the morning if you need somebody. 196 00:11:35,120 --> 00:11:36,120 Right. 197 00:11:36,120 --> 00:11:37,120 Exactly. 198 00:11:37,120 --> 00:11:40,560 And being there for your friends and the people, a good friend of mine this summer, we were 199 00:11:40,560 --> 00:11:48,320 talking about getting together and she had a lot going on and she was thinking, you know, 200 00:11:48,320 --> 00:11:51,720 maybe it's too hard to get together and these are college friends, which we hadn't all seen 201 00:11:51,720 --> 00:11:54,400 each other together in years and years. 202 00:11:54,400 --> 00:11:56,720 And she said something profound that really stuck with me. 203 00:11:56,720 --> 00:12:01,840 She said, another friend years ago was having a big birthday and it took a lot of, took 204 00:12:01,840 --> 00:12:06,480 money and time and effort to go see her for a birthday, but she asked herself the question, 205 00:12:06,480 --> 00:12:11,360 would I spend the money and time and effort to go to her funeral? 206 00:12:11,360 --> 00:12:15,480 And I would and I spend the money and effort and time to go see her alive. 207 00:12:15,480 --> 00:12:16,960 That is so. 208 00:12:16,960 --> 00:12:19,240 That's profound. 209 00:12:19,240 --> 00:12:20,240 Yeah. 210 00:12:20,240 --> 00:12:24,280 So, yeah, asking for help definitely is a big thing. 211 00:12:24,280 --> 00:12:30,040 So the one word, I've done it for many years and we're going to have somebody actually 212 00:12:30,040 --> 00:12:38,200 on next week that's going to talk about she does some training on beacon and your intent 213 00:12:38,200 --> 00:12:40,320 and had never heard the one word. 214 00:12:40,320 --> 00:12:42,920 And I guess you can see behind me, joy is behind me. 215 00:12:42,920 --> 00:12:49,320 And that was my word before it has been years, several years ago and I often do my word, 216 00:12:49,320 --> 00:12:55,760 we paint it for an event and then I actually print out little pictures and put it all over 217 00:12:55,760 --> 00:12:58,480 my house to remember my, remember my word. 218 00:12:58,480 --> 00:13:01,120 So I know you've done training and things around this. 219 00:13:01,120 --> 00:13:07,280 So I'd love for you to share a little bit on how you come up with your word. 220 00:13:07,280 --> 00:13:10,560 Anything you want to share on the one word? 221 00:13:10,560 --> 00:13:21,600 Well, yes, I've been, I've been hosting workshops around the word of the year, probably for 222 00:13:21,600 --> 00:13:24,760 three or maybe four or five years. 223 00:13:24,760 --> 00:13:32,240 I went to a retreat in Asheville, actually a conference that was given by a well-known 224 00:13:32,240 --> 00:13:35,600 coach and she talked about the word of the year. 225 00:13:35,600 --> 00:13:40,120 And then I found out that other people were doing it, this word of the year. 226 00:13:40,120 --> 00:13:46,040 And now I mean, we've seen it in the Christian community that, you know, everyone is, you 227 00:13:46,040 --> 00:13:49,440 know, a lot of people are writing the bandwagon for what we're doing here. 228 00:13:49,440 --> 00:13:51,640 Do you know about the book, the one word? 229 00:13:51,640 --> 00:13:52,640 No. 230 00:13:52,640 --> 00:13:57,440 Okay, so there's a gentleman named John Gordon who wrote a book about the one word years 231 00:13:57,440 --> 00:13:58,440 ago. 232 00:13:58,440 --> 00:14:02,920 He's been on the Today's Show, published all over the place and that's how I heard about 233 00:14:02,920 --> 00:14:03,920 it. 234 00:14:03,920 --> 00:14:04,920 So it's a good one for you. 235 00:14:04,920 --> 00:14:05,920 Oh, interesting. 236 00:14:05,920 --> 00:14:06,920 Yeah. 237 00:14:06,920 --> 00:14:07,920 That's interesting. 238 00:14:07,920 --> 00:14:13,320 So I see the word of the year as an expression of, well, number one, I see it as a setup 239 00:14:13,320 --> 00:14:15,400 for the theme of the year. 240 00:14:15,400 --> 00:14:20,400 Even if you don't know it's going to be the theme of the year, God downloads that word. 241 00:14:20,400 --> 00:14:24,040 You know, he downloads a word or a thought. 242 00:14:24,040 --> 00:14:28,120 I was working with a client who is coming along. 243 00:14:28,120 --> 00:14:34,360 I mean, she is like awakening, right? 244 00:14:34,360 --> 00:14:37,560 And she said, my word is discipline. 245 00:14:37,560 --> 00:14:42,080 And when I thought, when I heard the word I said, well, that's just like to beat you 246 00:14:42,080 --> 00:14:45,360 up, beat yourself up with discipline, right? 247 00:14:45,360 --> 00:14:46,960 What do you want from that word? 248 00:14:46,960 --> 00:14:47,960 You know, what do you want? 249 00:14:47,960 --> 00:14:49,520 What do you think it's going to bring you? 250 00:14:49,520 --> 00:14:51,040 And I already had the word for it. 251 00:14:51,040 --> 00:14:55,280 It was like, oh, she's blossoming, blossoming, blossoming. 252 00:14:55,280 --> 00:14:57,680 Every time you see a flower, you think of blossoming. 253 00:14:57,680 --> 00:14:58,840 I'm blossoming. 254 00:14:58,840 --> 00:15:01,680 And so we sort of worked that around it. 255 00:15:01,680 --> 00:15:03,000 That became her word of the year. 256 00:15:03,000 --> 00:15:04,160 But it is intentional. 257 00:15:04,160 --> 00:15:05,520 It's an intention. 258 00:15:05,520 --> 00:15:11,280 You make the word either, I like to say, you make it an adjective or a verb, something 259 00:15:11,280 --> 00:15:13,640 that has action to it. 260 00:15:13,640 --> 00:15:18,080 Like, you know, and it's only one word. 261 00:15:18,080 --> 00:15:21,920 A verb or an adjective and a descriptor. 262 00:15:21,920 --> 00:15:28,520 And it's the word, the one word that's going to begin to bring clarity into the theme. 263 00:15:28,520 --> 00:15:32,400 So you're thinking of the word. 264 00:15:32,400 --> 00:15:38,400 And like I just took my client through it was like, what is that word mean to me? 265 00:15:38,400 --> 00:15:42,680 If she chose discipline, it was going to be another thing that she was going to beat herself 266 00:15:42,680 --> 00:15:43,680 up with, right? 267 00:15:43,680 --> 00:15:47,560 Because we aren't, we aren't all disciplined every single day. 268 00:15:47,560 --> 00:15:53,560 But if I'm blossoming, if I'm becoming, if God is pouring into me and, you know, making 269 00:15:53,560 --> 00:16:01,160 me to bloom, then how about that word, which was going to take some structure and discipline. 270 00:16:01,160 --> 00:16:03,120 But it's a better descriptor. 271 00:16:03,120 --> 00:16:10,440 It's something, you know, you can attain, you know, something that you can achieve. 272 00:16:10,440 --> 00:16:13,760 So yeah, now, so I've been doing this for five years. 273 00:16:13,760 --> 00:16:20,120 And at the end of the year, I can always reflect and see how it's manifested in my life. 274 00:16:20,120 --> 00:16:24,000 And like you said, you know, you have it all over your house, you have it is in your heart 275 00:16:24,000 --> 00:16:25,000 and your thoughts. 276 00:16:25,000 --> 00:16:28,480 It's, you know, and it's what I'm doing right now. 277 00:16:28,480 --> 00:16:36,760 This is my question is always, is what I'm doing right now, bringing me closer to that 278 00:16:36,760 --> 00:16:40,240 theme for this year. 279 00:16:40,240 --> 00:16:42,920 That word, is that word being manifested? 280 00:16:42,920 --> 00:16:48,160 Is it, is it, you know, is it growing in me? 281 00:16:48,160 --> 00:16:52,920 Because you know, we can all have intentions, but we have to take the action, but we have 282 00:16:52,920 --> 00:16:54,520 to be aware. 283 00:16:54,520 --> 00:17:01,000 We have to be awake and aware to what, you know, when you see a little sign and I'll 284 00:17:01,000 --> 00:17:02,000 give you a hint. 285 00:17:02,000 --> 00:17:06,160 No, I'll give you, I'll just tell you, my word last year was rebuild. 286 00:17:06,160 --> 00:17:07,160 Rebuild. 287 00:17:07,160 --> 00:17:08,160 Okay. 288 00:17:08,160 --> 00:17:09,800 So I thought it meant my business. 289 00:17:09,800 --> 00:17:14,120 So I'm, you know, that sounds good to me because what I was doing wasn't working. 290 00:17:14,120 --> 00:17:20,160 So I'm going to be rebuilding halfway through the year. 291 00:17:20,160 --> 00:17:28,920 And this was through prayer, through meditation, through community, a lot of what we did at 292 00:17:28,920 --> 00:17:37,120 our retreat that you hosted for us so graciously turned something on in my mind. 293 00:17:37,120 --> 00:17:41,840 It wasn't rebuilding my career or my life. 294 00:17:41,840 --> 00:17:44,600 It was rebuilding myself. 295 00:17:44,600 --> 00:17:50,760 It was, it was, it was things that were still in my way that were blocking me to the full 296 00:17:50,760 --> 00:17:51,760 potential. 297 00:17:51,760 --> 00:17:56,480 See my, my mission is to help women achieve their full potential. 298 00:17:56,480 --> 00:18:02,960 We're always on, we're always on the journey, you know, it's never ended, but I was lacking 299 00:18:02,960 --> 00:18:11,680 this step that I needed to take to become rebuilt, to rebuild. 300 00:18:11,680 --> 00:18:17,520 And boy, it was powerful and it went on from, it started in April. 301 00:18:17,520 --> 00:18:23,760 It, we still talked about it in August at the retreat, but it was probably September, 302 00:18:23,760 --> 00:18:28,600 October, when it finally became very clear. 303 00:18:28,600 --> 00:18:31,320 And I began to live intentionally, more intentionally. 304 00:18:31,320 --> 00:18:37,480 And that's one of the things I love about the word and your theme is you have the intention 305 00:18:37,480 --> 00:18:40,720 when you start going one way. 306 00:18:40,720 --> 00:18:47,600 And God, you know, and what I was, the book that I've read talks about look, or look in 307 00:18:47,600 --> 00:18:52,000 to kind of think of your word, pray about it, look up and then look out, see where you see 308 00:18:52,000 --> 00:18:53,000 it. 309 00:18:53,000 --> 00:18:58,760 And so, so often I think it's one word and then I start doing that and it's totally different. 310 00:18:58,760 --> 00:19:01,920 And then the word can kind of take a whole different meaning in 2020. 311 00:19:01,920 --> 00:19:05,680 I think my word was connect and a good friend of mine was gather. 312 00:19:05,680 --> 00:19:08,680 And we know what happened in April of 2020. 313 00:19:08,680 --> 00:19:13,040 Like we had to learn how to connect and gather in a whole new way. 314 00:19:13,040 --> 00:19:14,040 Right. 315 00:19:14,040 --> 00:19:17,920 My word last year was going to be intention, which is silly because this what it's all 316 00:19:17,920 --> 00:19:18,920 about is intention. 317 00:19:18,920 --> 00:19:23,280 And I keep in my, one of my devotionals, I keep all, list all my words and I looked, 318 00:19:23,280 --> 00:19:26,000 I'm like, okay, I've used that a couple of times, something different. 319 00:19:26,000 --> 00:19:32,480 And the word space came to me, which, so that was my word for this year, which was interesting. 320 00:19:32,480 --> 00:19:35,560 One of the things is I cleared out some clutter and space. 321 00:19:35,560 --> 00:19:40,240 The wall behind me used to be pink and I totally cleaned out my office and redid things in my 322 00:19:40,240 --> 00:19:42,000 house. 323 00:19:42,000 --> 00:19:43,640 And so that was one part of the space. 324 00:19:43,640 --> 00:19:48,480 The other part was I really want to be more present with people and be in people's space 325 00:19:48,480 --> 00:19:53,560 intentionally and spend time and not just hurry through. 326 00:19:53,560 --> 00:20:00,520 And then this was not in my plan, but I guess God's plan was adding space in my life. 327 00:20:00,520 --> 00:20:05,080 And you know, I'm really talked a lot about on the podcast, but I lost a very close friend. 328 00:20:05,080 --> 00:20:08,600 And so that opened up a whole new space in my life. 329 00:20:08,600 --> 00:20:10,560 And I inherited his dog. 330 00:20:10,560 --> 00:20:12,060 So that put space. 331 00:20:12,060 --> 00:20:17,400 So you just never know where it's going to come from or how it's going to morph throughout 332 00:20:17,400 --> 00:20:18,400 the year. 333 00:20:18,400 --> 00:20:23,120 And like mine was in July, I had a major pivot and you said yours was like April through 334 00:20:23,120 --> 00:20:27,080 really October, you know, almost the whole year of living it. 335 00:20:27,080 --> 00:20:30,160 Another friend of mine that did the one word last year, she's like, I don't remember my 336 00:20:30,160 --> 00:20:31,160 word. 337 00:20:31,160 --> 00:20:33,160 I'm like, obviously you didn't live it then. 338 00:20:33,160 --> 00:20:37,640 So that's one of the reasons, you know, I try to keep it in front, but you know, I am 339 00:20:37,640 --> 00:20:44,960 so committed to the one word and I've done it probably seven or eight years now that 340 00:20:44,960 --> 00:20:46,120 I remember my word. 341 00:20:46,120 --> 00:20:47,120 Yes. 342 00:20:47,120 --> 00:20:48,200 Really try to live it. 343 00:20:48,200 --> 00:20:53,920 So any other tips and my suggestions on coming up with a one word? 344 00:20:53,920 --> 00:20:54,920 Well, yes. 345 00:20:54,920 --> 00:20:58,480 I, you know, we all do it in different ways. 346 00:20:58,480 --> 00:21:03,800 I don't know how you lead into the word, but some of the things that you already said, 347 00:21:03,800 --> 00:21:15,520 it was like, yeah, you look in, you look up, you, you, you know, pray, you can meditate. 348 00:21:15,520 --> 00:21:21,880 And one of the things that I do in my workshop is I lead a, a, a short meditation in the 349 00:21:21,880 --> 00:21:23,520 work, within the workshop. 350 00:21:23,520 --> 00:21:29,120 And it's like, you know, just getting very quiet and thinking about the past. 351 00:21:29,120 --> 00:21:30,720 We usually do it this time of year. 352 00:21:30,720 --> 00:21:36,000 So it's like the past nine, eight, nine months, nine, 10 months, you know, what was it that 353 00:21:36,000 --> 00:21:44,120 you were hoping for that either manifested didn't, you know, didn't happen? 354 00:21:44,120 --> 00:21:52,880 And what do you want more of less of and think of some words that are around those desires 355 00:21:52,880 --> 00:21:55,320 now and then pray. 356 00:21:55,320 --> 00:22:04,040 And what happens is, you know, usually it will come in this stillness, but for some, 357 00:22:04,040 --> 00:22:09,840 for a lot of us, it's like, well, one thing, some of us try to overthink it. 358 00:22:09,840 --> 00:22:12,760 And we've got to let that, we've got to let it go. 359 00:22:12,760 --> 00:22:13,760 We got to. 360 00:22:13,760 --> 00:22:17,720 And we just ask a few questions like, you know, what do I need? 361 00:22:17,720 --> 00:22:20,560 What do I need this coming year? 362 00:22:20,560 --> 00:22:21,960 What do I need? 363 00:22:21,960 --> 00:22:25,200 And then why is this important? 364 00:22:25,200 --> 00:22:29,680 If we reflect on the past year, we'll find out why is this important? 365 00:22:29,680 --> 00:22:31,920 Reflect on how we live the past year. 366 00:22:31,920 --> 00:22:33,680 Think about your word. 367 00:22:33,680 --> 00:22:36,680 And then what's it going to take? 368 00:22:36,680 --> 00:22:39,440 Not the perfect circumstances. 369 00:22:39,440 --> 00:22:42,720 Not, you know, why not today that revert sprite back to that? 370 00:22:42,720 --> 00:22:45,480 Not it's not ever going to be perfect timing. 371 00:22:45,480 --> 00:22:46,480 Wow. 372 00:22:46,480 --> 00:22:52,160 So it's not the perfect circumstances of when this happens or that happens. 373 00:22:52,160 --> 00:22:59,600 But inside of us, as the Holy Spirit leads us, what will it take to accomplish that word 374 00:22:59,600 --> 00:23:02,040 in my life? 375 00:23:02,040 --> 00:23:06,560 And then always, what do I need to let go of to get it? 376 00:23:06,560 --> 00:23:08,520 And then the word comes. 377 00:23:08,520 --> 00:23:11,320 It was interesting one year. 378 00:23:11,320 --> 00:23:15,680 I don't know where the word can somebody set up your tenacious, you know, a lot of people 379 00:23:15,680 --> 00:23:20,280 can take that mean Stummer and don't like all of or, you know, a dog with bone. 380 00:23:20,280 --> 00:23:23,000 But I got that word tenacity. 381 00:23:23,000 --> 00:23:26,040 Yes, I do have a tenacity. 382 00:23:26,040 --> 00:23:32,240 By the way, you need to be courageous and have release fear to be tenacious, right? 383 00:23:32,240 --> 00:23:35,960 No, you know what you were called to Leslie. 384 00:23:35,960 --> 00:23:37,040 So you need to stay. 385 00:23:37,040 --> 00:23:38,240 You know, we need to be. 386 00:23:38,240 --> 00:23:45,840 You need I mean, need to be tenacious in in staying, standing on what God's given us to 387 00:23:45,840 --> 00:23:47,040 do. 388 00:23:47,040 --> 00:23:50,520 So I'm driving on a trip road trip. 389 00:23:50,520 --> 00:23:52,640 I'm thinking of tenacious. 390 00:23:52,640 --> 00:23:56,160 And all of a sudden, this big NASCAR truck goes by. 391 00:23:56,160 --> 00:24:02,840 I mean, you know, those big trailers that hold NASCAR, big truck semis, right? 392 00:24:02,840 --> 00:24:03,840 Painted purple. 393 00:24:03,840 --> 00:24:05,920 And it took a picture of it. 394 00:24:05,920 --> 00:24:08,480 Painted purple. 395 00:24:08,480 --> 00:24:13,920 And a big, bold, yellow lettering, it said tenacity. 396 00:24:13,920 --> 00:24:17,400 I go, mm hmm. 397 00:24:17,400 --> 00:24:18,880 That's my word right there. 398 00:24:18,880 --> 00:24:23,240 And that's, you know, that's what happens when you know the word, like intention was 399 00:24:23,240 --> 00:24:24,840 there and then I changed it to space. 400 00:24:24,840 --> 00:24:26,880 And I just saw it all over the place. 401 00:24:26,880 --> 00:24:29,040 I'm like, OK, I hear you. 402 00:24:29,040 --> 00:24:34,480 You know, you know, that's where you got to kind of sit with it and live with it. 403 00:24:34,480 --> 00:24:35,480 Yes. 404 00:24:35,480 --> 00:24:37,360 Because you will get confirmation. 405 00:24:37,360 --> 00:24:45,760 Yeah, it will be confirmed because I had a couple of things going, you know, going as 406 00:24:45,760 --> 00:24:53,320 I was leading these women in word of the year, my own word, because it hadn't really gelled 407 00:24:53,320 --> 00:24:54,320 yet. 408 00:24:54,320 --> 00:24:56,120 I was trying to close up some things from this year. 409 00:24:56,120 --> 00:25:05,280 So I had just been thinking about it as I'm getting ready to guide to lead this group. 410 00:25:05,280 --> 00:25:09,880 And so I started reflecting on last year and last year I told you it was rebuilt. 411 00:25:09,880 --> 00:25:13,160 OK, so now I'm in a space of rebuilding. 412 00:25:13,160 --> 00:25:18,160 I have this mission that God's given me and I've never in 30-something years ever been 413 00:25:18,160 --> 00:25:19,160 off the mission. 414 00:25:19,160 --> 00:25:23,560 I've only I'm doing it in a different way the last 10 years. 415 00:25:23,560 --> 00:25:28,080 I've been coaching and I say coaching. 416 00:25:28,080 --> 00:25:32,040 It can be mentoring, but I say coaching because I'm not a counselor. 417 00:25:32,040 --> 00:25:38,160 It's actually what I went to my grad school to become was a therapist. 418 00:25:38,160 --> 00:25:42,640 And I realized that a lot of us therapies good. 419 00:25:42,640 --> 00:25:49,280 But once you get dealt with a deal with your past, and she's so important, so important 420 00:25:49,280 --> 00:25:53,200 because we lose our identity if we don't deal with our past. 421 00:25:53,200 --> 00:25:57,080 We don't because we're living our past identity. 422 00:25:57,080 --> 00:25:58,160 Yeah. 423 00:25:58,160 --> 00:26:03,280 I decided to become a coach and really I'm more of a mentor, a spiritual mentor. 424 00:26:03,280 --> 00:26:05,360 I get women on the journey. 425 00:26:05,360 --> 00:26:07,080 They don't stay with me forever. 426 00:26:07,080 --> 00:26:11,200 However, they come to my retreats and they come to my workshops and things that as far 427 00:26:11,200 --> 00:26:15,600 as like really digging in and like looking at that. 428 00:26:15,600 --> 00:26:25,200 Seem, well, you know, that seam of your life comes came a lot from this word of the year. 429 00:26:25,200 --> 00:26:30,440 I'd like to share like a couple of things I found out about what it does for you when 430 00:26:30,440 --> 00:26:31,440 you get it. 431 00:26:31,440 --> 00:26:32,440 Right. 432 00:26:32,440 --> 00:26:33,440 Okay. 433 00:26:33,440 --> 00:26:35,000 So I started thinking about this. 434 00:26:35,000 --> 00:26:37,240 Somebody asked me, well, what is word of the year? 435 00:26:37,240 --> 00:26:38,400 I mean, how does it work? 436 00:26:38,400 --> 00:26:39,400 How does it work in your life? 437 00:26:39,400 --> 00:26:41,400 And I'm like, oh, that's a legitimate question. 438 00:26:41,400 --> 00:26:43,520 I didn't really have the answer to. 439 00:26:43,520 --> 00:26:46,640 So I started thinking about it and you've been doing this for longer than me. 440 00:26:46,640 --> 00:26:51,680 So like I found this one of some things I found. 441 00:26:51,680 --> 00:26:57,080 One that it guides you to create the habits and routines that you need. 442 00:26:57,080 --> 00:26:59,600 I agree. 443 00:26:59,600 --> 00:27:05,160 For that intention, for the momentum, for the motivation, for the movement. 444 00:27:05,160 --> 00:27:07,600 And it, how, how, how does that work? 445 00:27:07,600 --> 00:27:10,640 Well, when you think of your word rebuild, and I was thinking, of course, the beginning 446 00:27:10,640 --> 00:27:16,160 of the year, my business, it gave me like these feelings of success. 447 00:27:16,160 --> 00:27:20,920 Just triggered these little feelings of like, yeah, okay, this is really important, but 448 00:27:20,920 --> 00:27:21,920 what do I have to change? 449 00:27:21,920 --> 00:27:26,360 You know, what am I going to have to do to manifest that word? 450 00:27:26,360 --> 00:27:27,360 Right. 451 00:27:27,360 --> 00:27:28,360 Rebuild. 452 00:27:28,360 --> 00:27:31,320 And so you start setting routines, right? 453 00:27:31,320 --> 00:27:34,960 I start setting routines, start creating habits. 454 00:27:34,960 --> 00:27:39,720 And you start moving in the direction of that word. 455 00:27:39,720 --> 00:27:42,400 That in itself is a life changer. 456 00:27:42,400 --> 00:27:44,800 The second thing is it builds your faith. 457 00:27:44,800 --> 00:27:50,280 And as you said, and I shared that we, we know we're in alignment because we start seeing 458 00:27:50,280 --> 00:27:51,280 the word. 459 00:27:51,280 --> 00:27:58,200 It starts, you know, starts becoming real as we're marinating in like, what is this word? 460 00:27:58,200 --> 00:28:03,040 You become very aware that you are in definite alignment. 461 00:28:03,040 --> 00:28:04,800 And so it's, well, how do you know that? 462 00:28:04,800 --> 00:28:06,720 And we'll stay with it, see what happens. 463 00:28:06,720 --> 00:28:08,640 You know, I don't know. 464 00:28:08,640 --> 00:28:10,120 But this is your word. 465 00:28:10,120 --> 00:28:12,520 And if you stay with it, just see what happens. 466 00:28:12,520 --> 00:28:13,520 Oh my gosh. 467 00:28:13,520 --> 00:28:17,480 Is it not every time we just stay with that word and something happens? 468 00:28:17,480 --> 00:28:18,480 Right. 469 00:28:18,480 --> 00:28:23,840 So the third one was that because, and a lot of what you said about, like, you know, you 470 00:28:23,840 --> 00:28:27,640 have your word all over the, as it becomes part of our everyday living, it's like, you 471 00:28:27,640 --> 00:28:31,680 know, it's every day, I'm rebuilding every day, I'm walking in joy every day. 472 00:28:31,680 --> 00:28:35,480 I'm, you know, doing what I need to do to get closer. 473 00:28:35,480 --> 00:28:39,520 It becomes a really deep spiritual connection to the word to God. 474 00:28:39,520 --> 00:28:40,880 He gave you that word. 475 00:28:40,880 --> 00:28:43,960 So you get very, very connected. 476 00:28:43,960 --> 00:28:47,480 And it also works to connect you in relationships. 477 00:28:47,480 --> 00:28:49,320 It's very interesting. 478 00:28:49,320 --> 00:28:55,200 Their whole rebuilding was, you know, a, a, something that had to change inside of me. 479 00:28:55,200 --> 00:29:03,120 I let go of so much that it changed the way I even looked at relationships. 480 00:29:03,120 --> 00:29:08,480 And I realized that there were some that I was holding onto that needed to go. 481 00:29:08,480 --> 00:29:09,480 Yeah. 482 00:29:09,480 --> 00:29:13,440 And that was really powerful. 483 00:29:13,440 --> 00:29:17,640 And then the fourth thing, the number four was it becomes a part of you. 484 00:29:17,640 --> 00:29:19,000 It's like second nature. 485 00:29:19,000 --> 00:29:20,000 Yes. 486 00:29:20,000 --> 00:29:21,000 Tenacious. 487 00:29:21,000 --> 00:29:22,000 Yes. 488 00:29:22,000 --> 00:29:23,000 Tenacity. 489 00:29:23,000 --> 00:29:24,000 Joy. 490 00:29:24,000 --> 00:29:25,000 Yes, I am joy. 491 00:29:25,000 --> 00:29:27,680 I'm exhibiting, you know, I'm inhabiting joy and I'm, you know, for you, you know, I'm exhibiting 492 00:29:27,680 --> 00:29:30,080 it because I'm inhabiting it. 493 00:29:30,080 --> 00:29:31,080 It's in me. 494 00:29:31,080 --> 00:29:32,400 It's in my spirit. 495 00:29:32,400 --> 00:29:37,080 And then the fifth one that I think is really important, it helps you to design your year. 496 00:29:37,080 --> 00:29:41,800 It helps you, you know, how I'm going to revolve my year around this word. 497 00:29:41,800 --> 00:29:43,920 It's different than goal setting. 498 00:29:43,920 --> 00:29:49,440 It's around, it's more around the vision of what that word invokes in your spirit. 499 00:29:49,440 --> 00:29:50,440 Right. 500 00:29:50,440 --> 00:29:51,440 Yeah. 501 00:29:51,440 --> 00:29:52,440 Love that. 502 00:29:52,440 --> 00:29:53,440 So, yes. 503 00:29:53,440 --> 00:29:55,200 So, so many things. 504 00:29:55,200 --> 00:29:56,200 Yeah. 505 00:29:56,200 --> 00:30:02,600 So, well, before we kind of wrap things up here, we actually have our first sponsor for 506 00:30:02,600 --> 00:30:08,680 the podcast, 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local and you want to maybe zoom in, we might be able to figure that out. 517 00:30:46,720 --> 00:30:48,760 But we are going to paint our word. 518 00:30:48,760 --> 00:30:53,960 So hopefully people will listen to this podcast prior to painting our word, but and do some 519 00:30:53,960 --> 00:30:57,640 sips while we're doing it and have a masterpiece to take home with you. 520 00:30:57,640 --> 00:31:02,640 So Pino's Palette, thank you for being our, why not today, sponsor today? 521 00:31:02,640 --> 00:31:03,880 That sounds fun today today. 522 00:31:03,880 --> 00:31:04,880 So, yes. 523 00:31:04,880 --> 00:31:09,520 So Yolanda, I know I always ask, how would you encourage somebody else with their word? 524 00:31:09,520 --> 00:31:14,440 But I think the five points you just shared really was encouraging. 525 00:31:14,440 --> 00:31:19,520 Is there anything else you'd like to share, encourage, talk about around the One Word 526 00:31:19,520 --> 00:31:21,800 to encourage for people? 527 00:31:21,800 --> 00:31:28,240 I would really like to share scripture around word because while I was, you know, getting 528 00:31:28,240 --> 00:31:35,120 these workshops together, I was looking for scripture because, you know, our words are 529 00:31:35,120 --> 00:31:39,440 so powerful, the words we speak, the words we read, the words we take in, the words we 530 00:31:39,440 --> 00:31:40,440 give out. 531 00:31:40,440 --> 00:31:48,040 But I found the scripture in Proverbs 2511. 532 00:31:48,040 --> 00:31:54,400 And this is from the message Bible, but it said, the right word at the right time is 533 00:31:54,400 --> 00:31:58,440 like a custom made piece of jewelry. 534 00:31:58,440 --> 00:32:00,600 Ooh, love that. 535 00:32:00,600 --> 00:32:07,160 And so it had me to think, I think I'm going to get a piece of jewelry that has that my 536 00:32:07,160 --> 00:32:08,160 word on it. 537 00:32:08,160 --> 00:32:10,040 Well, there is a company called My Intent. 538 00:32:10,040 --> 00:32:11,040 Do you know about them? 539 00:32:11,040 --> 00:32:12,040 Yes, I saw that. 540 00:32:12,040 --> 00:32:16,600 I meant to wear my bracelet because I have one that I have why not today on, but not 541 00:32:16,600 --> 00:32:17,600 my word. 542 00:32:17,600 --> 00:32:19,840 And it's interesting, just the words and power. 543 00:32:19,840 --> 00:32:21,240 I always wear bracelets. 544 00:32:21,240 --> 00:32:23,040 There's a story behind that. 545 00:32:23,040 --> 00:32:26,680 I don't go into that now, but I was sitting on a meeting the other day, a little board, 546 00:32:26,680 --> 00:32:28,760 I hate to say it, and I was looking at my bracelets. 547 00:32:28,760 --> 00:32:30,680 And one is, they're usually beach themes. 548 00:32:30,680 --> 00:32:32,800 And this one is an anchor. 549 00:32:32,800 --> 00:32:41,080 And it says, and I've hadn't even really paid attention to it, but it says, and I'm not 550 00:32:41,080 --> 00:32:42,080 going to be able to read it. 551 00:32:42,080 --> 00:32:46,160 It's too small, but it's about anchoring in the truth. 552 00:32:46,160 --> 00:32:50,480 Oh, I can't read it now. 553 00:32:50,480 --> 00:32:54,760 Words of life anchored to your truth is what it's like. 554 00:32:54,760 --> 00:32:56,840 And I'm like, I had never noticed that. 555 00:32:56,840 --> 00:32:58,720 So words are powerful. 556 00:32:58,720 --> 00:32:59,720 They are. 557 00:32:59,720 --> 00:33:01,800 I wear it every day and haven't looked at it. 558 00:33:01,800 --> 00:33:09,560 But yeah, words are powerful and anchor yourself to those words and just watch it unfold. 559 00:33:09,560 --> 00:33:10,560 Exactly. 560 00:33:10,560 --> 00:33:11,560 It will. 561 00:33:11,560 --> 00:33:12,560 It will. 562 00:33:12,560 --> 00:33:13,560 Absolutely will. 563 00:33:13,560 --> 00:33:14,560 Yep. 564 00:33:14,560 --> 00:33:16,440 You just never know where it's going to show up. 565 00:33:16,440 --> 00:33:17,880 So this has been so much fun. 566 00:33:17,880 --> 00:33:20,400 And thank you for being our guest today. 567 00:33:20,400 --> 00:33:23,680 And as I did mention, Pinot's Palette is our sponsor. 568 00:33:23,680 --> 00:33:25,920 We're going to do an event in January. 569 00:33:25,920 --> 00:33:28,320 And if people want to find you, Yolanda, where do they find you? 570 00:33:28,320 --> 00:33:31,760 Of course, I'll share all your contact information in the show notes, but is there anywhere, 571 00:33:31,760 --> 00:33:35,520 particularly your favorite place to connect with people? 572 00:33:35,520 --> 00:33:37,480 On Facebook, I'm Yolanda Gray. 573 00:33:37,480 --> 00:33:43,200 I have a Facebook group for women called hashtag take back your life. 574 00:33:43,200 --> 00:33:47,040 All one hashtag, take back your life. 575 00:33:47,040 --> 00:33:52,400 And I do, I do screening around that's not a public one because we share a lot of good 576 00:33:52,400 --> 00:33:54,480 things in there. 577 00:33:54,480 --> 00:33:58,600 And I would love to have more women within the group. 578 00:33:58,600 --> 00:34:00,360 They're lovely, lovely women. 579 00:34:00,360 --> 00:34:01,480 They're on a mission. 580 00:34:01,480 --> 00:34:05,600 They're on a mission too to, you know, achieve their full potential. 581 00:34:05,600 --> 00:34:10,440 And then I'm at Yolanda at Yolanda Gray.com is my email. 582 00:34:10,440 --> 00:34:16,680 And then Yolanda Gray.com is my website, which is currently. 583 00:34:16,680 --> 00:34:18,880 It's up, but it's going to be. 584 00:34:18,880 --> 00:34:19,880 Rebuilding. 585 00:34:19,880 --> 00:34:20,880 It's rebuilding. 586 00:34:20,880 --> 00:34:24,120 That definitely needs to be rebuilt. 587 00:34:24,120 --> 00:34:25,960 That definitely needs a rebuild. 588 00:34:25,960 --> 00:34:26,960 Yeah. 589 00:34:26,960 --> 00:34:29,240 So you can catch me in any of those places. 590 00:34:29,240 --> 00:34:33,760 And of course I'm a messenger, so you can message me, but I'll share all your contact 591 00:34:33,760 --> 00:34:35,360 information with the show notes for this. 592 00:34:35,360 --> 00:34:36,360 Okay. 593 00:34:36,360 --> 00:34:37,360 Thank you. 594 00:34:37,360 --> 00:34:38,360 Thank you for being our guests. 595 00:34:38,360 --> 00:34:39,360 And why not today? 596 00:34:39,360 --> 00:34:42,160 You can find us at whynottodaypodcast.com. 597 00:34:42,160 --> 00:34:44,800 We have Facebook page. 598 00:34:44,800 --> 00:34:45,880 You can on the site. 599 00:34:45,880 --> 00:34:46,880 You've got swag. 600 00:34:46,880 --> 00:34:49,040 So we have why not today cups? 601 00:34:49,040 --> 00:34:51,080 We have why not today T-shirts? 602 00:34:51,080 --> 00:34:53,880 I've got some Christmas ornaments and coffee cups. 603 00:34:53,880 --> 00:34:57,520 So really want people to remember to say why not today. 604 00:34:57,520 --> 00:34:59,040 And it doesn't have to be the big things. 605 00:34:59,040 --> 00:35:00,760 It can just be the little things. 606 00:35:00,760 --> 00:35:02,600 So thank you for Yolanda. 607 00:35:02,600 --> 00:35:06,640 Thank you everybody else for listening and watching and feel free to review us, share 608 00:35:06,640 --> 00:35:07,640 us. 609 00:35:07,640 --> 00:35:10,640 And if you know somebody else that has done something courageous, you think would be a 610 00:35:10,640 --> 00:35:12,560 good guest, always let me know. 611 00:35:12,560 --> 00:35:14,880 There's a form on the website. 612 00:35:14,880 --> 00:35:16,480 So thanks again. 613 00:35:16,480 --> 00:35:22,000 And I can't wait to hear everybody's one word, share it with, as a comment on the podcast. 614 00:35:22,000 --> 00:35:23,000 Thank you Leslie. 615 00:35:23,000 --> 00:35:24,000 Merry Christmas. 616 00:35:24,000 --> 00:35:49,800 And see you next time too.