1 00:00:00,000 --> 00:00:05,840 Hello, my name is Leslie Kane and I'm the host of the Why Not Today podcast. 2 00:00:05,840 --> 00:00:10,520 This is a podcast to celebrate people who have been courageous and said, why not today? 3 00:00:10,520 --> 00:00:15,600 I started this podcast in honor of my father, Patrick Kane, who often did say, why not today? 4 00:00:15,600 --> 00:00:19,640 I'm based in Reston, Virginia, a planned community right outside of Washington, DC, and thanks 5 00:00:19,640 --> 00:00:21,080 for joining us today. 6 00:00:21,080 --> 00:00:24,880 And so my guest today, Stacey Abella, is from Texas. 7 00:00:24,880 --> 00:00:26,680 And I always talk about where we connected. 8 00:00:26,680 --> 00:00:31,480 And through the process of the podcast, I've actually been watching social media and watching 9 00:00:31,480 --> 00:00:36,880 what people say and just stalking people and looking for people as guests. 10 00:00:36,880 --> 00:00:42,240 And although Stacey and I do have a mutual friend that you went to college with, I don't 11 00:00:42,240 --> 00:00:46,640 know, you're not in the area because so I don't know how we connected, but I saw your 12 00:00:46,640 --> 00:00:53,000 story and your book and reached out to her and she checked out the podcast and is a guest 13 00:00:53,000 --> 00:00:54,000 here today. 14 00:00:54,000 --> 00:00:55,000 We talked the other day. 15 00:00:55,000 --> 00:00:59,440 And when we were talking about it, she goes, oh, my sister-in-law lives in Reston. 16 00:00:59,440 --> 00:01:03,000 And she told me her name and I'm like, is she a dentist? 17 00:01:03,000 --> 00:01:04,000 She's like, she is. 18 00:01:04,000 --> 00:01:08,200 Well, she is not my dentist, but my sister and my mother and was my father's dentist, 19 00:01:08,200 --> 00:01:09,200 my other sister. 20 00:01:09,200 --> 00:01:12,120 Like my whole family's gone to her and love her and like almost family. 21 00:01:12,120 --> 00:01:15,320 I always talk about going to the beach and here at Stacey's sister-in-law and she's 22 00:01:15,320 --> 00:01:16,320 in Texas. 23 00:01:16,320 --> 00:01:17,880 Like that's a small world. 24 00:01:17,880 --> 00:01:22,040 That's a God wink and that is just meant to be, that we're supposed to be connected. 25 00:01:22,040 --> 00:01:23,600 So I'm excited to have you, Stacey. 26 00:01:23,600 --> 00:01:30,480 So why don't you introduce yourself and just a quick bio and a fun fact, fun fact about 27 00:01:30,480 --> 00:01:32,280 you that nobody might know. 28 00:01:32,280 --> 00:01:33,280 Yeah. 29 00:01:33,280 --> 00:01:35,120 So thank you, Leslie. 30 00:01:35,120 --> 00:01:37,320 I'm so excited for our conversation. 31 00:01:37,320 --> 00:01:41,320 I just love our connection that we have, but you just, you just never know. 32 00:01:41,320 --> 00:01:42,320 You just never know. 33 00:01:42,320 --> 00:01:44,960 You text me back when I told you about the connection. 34 00:01:44,960 --> 00:01:49,480 Something about when you know you're living your life in alignment or true values, then 35 00:01:49,480 --> 00:01:50,480 those things happen. 36 00:01:50,480 --> 00:01:51,480 All the time. 37 00:01:51,480 --> 00:01:52,480 Yep. 38 00:01:52,480 --> 00:01:55,640 All the time. 39 00:01:55,640 --> 00:02:04,320 And that's really my story, my bio is getting back to that alignment with myself because 40 00:02:04,320 --> 00:02:12,720 a fun fact about me is that I started writing and I started journaling when I was seven. 41 00:02:12,720 --> 00:02:21,240 And when I was 11, I wrote a screenplay and my dad, he borrowed this camera, you know, 42 00:02:21,240 --> 00:02:24,120 used to have the old movie camera and a video camera and things. 43 00:02:24,120 --> 00:02:26,560 And he borrowed that and we were down our basements. 44 00:02:26,560 --> 00:02:27,640 I'm from Ohio, right? 45 00:02:27,640 --> 00:02:29,840 We have basements, not in Texas, but in Ohio. 46 00:02:29,840 --> 00:02:31,280 We have basements. 47 00:02:31,280 --> 00:02:35,720 And so I invited some friends over and I had them act out my screenplay. 48 00:02:35,720 --> 00:02:36,720 Oh, wow. 49 00:02:36,720 --> 00:02:41,880 And of course, you know, it didn't really go anywhere, but still. 50 00:02:41,880 --> 00:02:47,280 And I feel like the rest of my life, you know, it just took all these twists and turns, but 51 00:02:47,280 --> 00:02:53,760 it was really about getting back to that authentic self that I knew who I was when I was seven 52 00:02:53,760 --> 00:02:55,640 and when I was 11. 53 00:02:55,640 --> 00:03:01,320 And I knew really more about who I was and what I wanted then than I ended up knowing, 54 00:03:01,320 --> 00:03:05,200 you know, that some several, you know, few decades later. 55 00:03:05,200 --> 00:03:06,200 Right. 56 00:03:06,200 --> 00:03:07,200 Yeah. 57 00:03:07,200 --> 00:03:09,360 That's really one of my my realization. 58 00:03:09,360 --> 00:03:12,920 So my right at this point in my life. 59 00:03:12,920 --> 00:03:18,360 So I've had a corporate career, I was in finance and innovation. 60 00:03:18,360 --> 00:03:22,280 And I then from the, from there now I have my own business. 61 00:03:22,280 --> 00:03:24,280 It's called Wind and Your Sales Consulting. 62 00:03:24,280 --> 00:03:25,280 Which I learned. 63 00:03:25,280 --> 00:03:28,640 And I'm an, I'm a clarity coach. 64 00:03:28,640 --> 00:03:34,200 So I help you get clarity on your life and where you're at and help you to integrate 65 00:03:34,200 --> 00:03:35,960 that into your life. 66 00:03:35,960 --> 00:03:39,080 And so I do some consulting for companies as well. 67 00:03:39,080 --> 00:03:47,920 So I've built a new life around this notion of, of gaining the clarity that you need and 68 00:03:47,920 --> 00:03:50,520 going out and doing it. 69 00:03:50,520 --> 00:03:51,520 Love that. 70 00:03:51,520 --> 00:03:54,480 And I love the name of your book, Secrets from Travel Diaries. 71 00:03:54,480 --> 00:03:57,480 I'm such a travel, I love to travel. 72 00:03:57,480 --> 00:04:00,720 And it's kind of a joke all my friends are like, where the heck is Leslie? 73 00:04:00,720 --> 00:04:03,560 And I love the name of your company. 74 00:04:03,560 --> 00:04:07,440 When Wind and Your Sales, and that's such an awesome name. 75 00:04:07,440 --> 00:04:08,440 And I love to sales. 76 00:04:08,440 --> 00:04:11,160 And so, cool, cool things. 77 00:04:11,160 --> 00:04:12,160 So all right. 78 00:04:12,160 --> 00:04:16,880 So let's start with what is your definition of courage? 79 00:04:16,880 --> 00:04:26,280 So my definition of, definition of courage is to actually go out and get the clarity 80 00:04:26,280 --> 00:04:31,000 on who you are, what you want in your life, what's most important to you. 81 00:04:31,000 --> 00:04:33,320 And then go out and live that. 82 00:04:33,320 --> 00:04:37,400 Go out and integrate that into your life and live that way. 83 00:04:37,400 --> 00:04:42,920 Because what I've found is that's really the answer to everything for you actually going 84 00:04:42,920 --> 00:04:45,480 out and doing what you really want to do. 85 00:04:45,480 --> 00:04:47,560 That's when you get the wind in your sales. 86 00:04:47,560 --> 00:04:51,480 You having the courage to show up as who you are. 87 00:04:51,480 --> 00:04:54,000 That's how you get the wind in your sales. 88 00:04:54,000 --> 00:04:58,800 And it's not about never having any wind or never having any rough seas, right? 89 00:04:58,800 --> 00:05:04,600 But it's being able to maneuver within that because you know certain core truths about 90 00:05:04,600 --> 00:05:09,000 yourself, who you are and what you want your life to be about. 91 00:05:09,000 --> 00:05:10,000 That's so true. 92 00:05:10,000 --> 00:05:13,360 And I think, you know, when you know your core and you know what you're supposed to 93 00:05:13,360 --> 00:05:16,160 be doing, then that's when the magic happens. 94 00:05:16,160 --> 00:05:19,160 And that's when you have the alignment like connecting us. 95 00:05:19,160 --> 00:05:20,160 Yes. 96 00:05:20,160 --> 00:05:21,160 Yes. 97 00:05:21,160 --> 00:05:22,600 But it requires intention. 98 00:05:22,600 --> 00:05:23,600 Absolutely. 99 00:05:23,600 --> 00:05:29,680 And the month that this podcast episode is coming out is actually January of 2024. 100 00:05:29,680 --> 00:05:33,560 And it is the theme is why not today be intentional. 101 00:05:33,560 --> 00:05:35,720 And that's why I love having you on this month. 102 00:05:35,720 --> 00:05:38,720 And you know, definitely have to be intentional about those things. 103 00:05:38,720 --> 00:05:39,720 Yeah. 104 00:05:39,720 --> 00:05:45,120 It has to be a daily, daily renewing of that intention as well, because I find it's so 105 00:05:45,120 --> 00:05:50,480 easy with all of the distractions, everything going on right now. 106 00:05:50,480 --> 00:05:51,480 And it's not going to change. 107 00:05:51,480 --> 00:05:53,680 It's only going to get more, right? 108 00:05:53,680 --> 00:05:59,240 And so I think that you got to renew it every single day and even periodically throughout 109 00:05:59,240 --> 00:06:03,320 the day to ask yourself, if there's something new coming up, you know, do I do this or 110 00:06:03,320 --> 00:06:04,320 do I do? 111 00:06:04,320 --> 00:06:05,320 Do I not? 112 00:06:05,320 --> 00:06:10,080 And it's all about knowing, okay, does this fit in with the vision that I have for my 113 00:06:10,080 --> 00:06:12,040 life and where I want to go? 114 00:06:12,040 --> 00:06:13,040 So true. 115 00:06:13,040 --> 00:06:19,680 And the last two episodes or in the last two episodes of December, we talked about with 116 00:06:19,680 --> 00:06:21,960 one person about the one word. 117 00:06:21,960 --> 00:06:26,400 And the other, we talked about your intentions. 118 00:06:26,400 --> 00:06:32,800 And Liz, you talked about, you know, what is it's a company that you can get bracelets. 119 00:06:32,800 --> 00:06:33,800 What's it called? 120 00:06:33,800 --> 00:06:34,800 My intent. 121 00:06:34,800 --> 00:06:35,800 And they actually have bracelets. 122 00:06:35,800 --> 00:06:39,040 And I had one made, it says, why not today? 123 00:06:39,040 --> 00:06:40,040 This one. 124 00:06:40,040 --> 00:06:42,680 And she said she had hers last year. 125 00:06:42,680 --> 00:06:46,520 I think it was here, like H-E-R-E. 126 00:06:46,520 --> 00:06:47,840 And so to be present. 127 00:06:47,840 --> 00:06:52,680 And so she wore it on a wrist and it reminded her, like when she was meeting with someone, 128 00:06:52,680 --> 00:06:56,480 she put her hand on a wrist to remind herself to be present. 129 00:06:56,480 --> 00:07:00,400 And so I love that daily reminder that we need to have it in front of us and keep reminding 130 00:07:00,400 --> 00:07:01,400 ourselves. 131 00:07:01,400 --> 00:07:03,160 It's kind of like that thing. 132 00:07:03,160 --> 00:07:07,520 You know, you can start a diet in the middle of a bag of potato chips, like, I'm on a diet, 133 00:07:07,520 --> 00:07:08,520 I'm eating healthy. 134 00:07:08,520 --> 00:07:12,440 And then you've, you know, noticing you're putting food in your mouth. 135 00:07:12,440 --> 00:07:14,720 So and that's my little puppy that wants attention. 136 00:07:14,720 --> 00:07:16,640 So talking about intention. 137 00:07:16,640 --> 00:07:20,280 So Stacy, tell me your courageous journey. 138 00:07:20,280 --> 00:07:22,880 I know you left corporate America, you wrote a book. 139 00:07:22,880 --> 00:07:27,120 So let's talk about the courageous things and how that tied into an intention. 140 00:07:27,120 --> 00:07:33,320 Yes, I feel like I was courageous through a lot of my twenties and the things that I 141 00:07:33,320 --> 00:07:38,120 did and like my book, Secrets for my Travel Diaries, that I wrote. 142 00:07:38,120 --> 00:07:43,840 It's based upon the diaries that I wrote at 21 when I was going off to study abroad. 143 00:07:43,840 --> 00:07:48,480 And I was going that big first step out on your own. 144 00:07:48,480 --> 00:07:56,800 And but, but I feel like there was a point in like my thirties where I began to just 145 00:07:56,800 --> 00:07:58,680 see life. 146 00:07:58,680 --> 00:08:00,480 It was like being on a treadmill, right? 147 00:08:00,480 --> 00:08:02,920 Being a part of the corporate grind. 148 00:08:02,920 --> 00:08:09,320 And I was doing all the things, checking all the boxes, but I wasn't really stepping out 149 00:08:09,320 --> 00:08:11,800 to do what I most wanted to do. 150 00:08:11,800 --> 00:08:18,520 I wasn't, I wasn't really moving forward as much as just doing in this constant cycle 151 00:08:18,520 --> 00:08:19,520 of doing. 152 00:08:19,520 --> 00:08:24,880 And aren't we all so guilty of that, of doing and I think, you know, living in the Northern 153 00:08:24,880 --> 00:08:29,040 Virginia area, we all kind of wear a badge of courage, a badge of honor that says, I'm 154 00:08:29,040 --> 00:08:32,560 busy and I'm doing all these things. 155 00:08:32,560 --> 00:08:33,560 100%. 156 00:08:33,560 --> 00:08:34,560 100%. 157 00:08:34,560 --> 00:08:39,720 So it's, it's such a common thing now that, now that I've come out and started talking 158 00:08:39,720 --> 00:08:44,600 about it, I just, it's amazing how this is just so common. 159 00:08:44,600 --> 00:08:50,920 But I think the first big step of courage that I took that was actually in a lot of ways 160 00:08:50,920 --> 00:08:57,040 more significant even at the time than even when I started my company, I left corporate 161 00:08:57,040 --> 00:09:01,440 all the things that happened after, but just based upon where I was at at the time. 162 00:09:01,440 --> 00:09:08,960 So in 2019, I decided to take myself to a weekend workshop. 163 00:09:08,960 --> 00:09:15,480 And I, why it was significant was that I had not invested in myself at all. 164 00:09:15,480 --> 00:09:18,360 In fact, I was always my lowest priority. 165 00:09:18,360 --> 00:09:24,760 It was my, it would be my work, my family oftentimes would get the leftovers of whatever 166 00:09:24,760 --> 00:09:25,920 time that I had. 167 00:09:25,920 --> 00:09:30,520 And then when you think about my own self, gosh, I would get maybe some scraps, right? 168 00:09:30,520 --> 00:09:33,280 Maybe, maybe if I had some time. 169 00:09:33,280 --> 00:09:39,400 And so I had started on a transformation journey, really starting to feel like there 170 00:09:39,400 --> 00:09:40,400 was more to life. 171 00:09:40,400 --> 00:09:41,920 I've got to find something different. 172 00:09:41,920 --> 00:09:45,520 Like I'm, my health was starting to not be so good. 173 00:09:45,520 --> 00:09:47,200 Like what is going on here? 174 00:09:47,200 --> 00:09:49,360 And that was a couple years before. 175 00:09:49,360 --> 00:09:52,440 So started around 2017 or so. 176 00:09:52,440 --> 00:09:57,120 And so I started doing some research and then this weekend workshop came up a couple of 177 00:09:57,120 --> 00:09:58,400 years later. 178 00:09:58,400 --> 00:10:00,360 And I just remember just torturing myself. 179 00:10:00,360 --> 00:10:02,160 Am I going to spend any money on myself? 180 00:10:02,160 --> 00:10:06,320 I'm going to take the time I was traveling overseas quite a bit with work. 181 00:10:06,320 --> 00:10:10,760 So am I going to be away from my family for this time and all this? 182 00:10:10,760 --> 00:10:14,880 And so finally, I just, I just, I knew this was for me. 183 00:10:14,880 --> 00:10:19,680 I knew like, I don't know why I need to go to this, but I know that this is for me. 184 00:10:19,680 --> 00:10:26,400 And so I was, remember that I was at the office and I was at a Starbucks doing like a, like 185 00:10:26,400 --> 00:10:31,520 a one-on-one meeting with, that was down, it was down the street with, with a colleague. 186 00:10:31,520 --> 00:10:36,480 And so I was walking back to the office and finally I just sat on a bench in between the 187 00:10:36,480 --> 00:10:40,240 office and the Starbucks and I just started getting, I got on my phone and I just booked 188 00:10:40,240 --> 00:10:41,240 the workshop. 189 00:10:41,240 --> 00:10:46,360 And immediately I just started feeling better once I did that because it's like, you know, 190 00:10:46,360 --> 00:10:48,720 how you just torture yourself when you finally make a decision. 191 00:10:48,720 --> 00:10:53,600 I'm like, you know, I can't believe I did this, but I'm doing it. 192 00:10:53,600 --> 00:11:01,360 And what was so beautiful that happened from that workshop was that I got some new tools. 193 00:11:01,360 --> 00:11:04,640 So it was Robin, Robin Sharma put it on. 194 00:11:04,640 --> 00:11:10,760 It was the personal mastery academy and he has a book called the 5 a.m. club. 195 00:11:10,760 --> 00:11:16,960 And so what he does is he gives tools on how you can get up early in the morning and do 196 00:11:16,960 --> 00:11:23,720 you know, exercise, reflect and, and, and read, learn. 197 00:11:23,720 --> 00:11:30,080 And so I did, I followed that, that, that regimen, that, that those rituals. 198 00:11:30,080 --> 00:11:34,520 And I began to actually slate some time to do the things I most wanted to do. 199 00:11:34,520 --> 00:11:37,680 And one of those, one major thing was writing. 200 00:11:37,680 --> 00:11:42,760 You know, I told you that when I was seven, I, I, you know, I had those experiences, right? 201 00:11:42,760 --> 00:11:45,880 So it was about reconnecting back to that writing. 202 00:11:45,880 --> 00:11:51,360 And so once I did, then it was like the passion became just resurfaced within me. 203 00:11:51,360 --> 00:11:56,600 I started looking and feeling different and starting moving through the world differently. 204 00:11:56,600 --> 00:12:01,760 And that's actually what then began to start my coaching business because people ask me, 205 00:12:01,760 --> 00:12:03,800 how did you do that? 206 00:12:03,800 --> 00:12:08,760 And so that's when I started to really ask myself that reverse engineering, you know, 207 00:12:08,760 --> 00:12:12,280 take the training and all that and then start my business. 208 00:12:12,280 --> 00:12:18,040 And so it just, things unfolded from there, but it was all about taking that first step 209 00:12:18,040 --> 00:12:23,040 through attending that workshop, being in a different environment, being having some, 210 00:12:23,040 --> 00:12:28,040 additional tools, having a new vision for my life and then going out and, and executing on it. 211 00:12:28,040 --> 00:12:31,440 Which is such a why not today message. 212 00:12:31,440 --> 00:12:36,880 Like you just like, okay, I've just got to do it, you know, and just sat down and do it. 213 00:12:36,880 --> 00:12:38,840 And those signs, we look for it. 214 00:12:38,840 --> 00:12:42,000 My sister just last week got a new puppy. 215 00:12:42,000 --> 00:12:46,840 Her dog unfortunately passed away a couple months ago and she went to a rescue, saw this dog. 216 00:12:46,840 --> 00:12:47,880 And she's like, I'm not sure. 217 00:12:47,880 --> 00:12:52,040 Actually, it is a puppy and it's deaf. 218 00:12:52,040 --> 00:12:56,200 And so she left there with her friend and she's like, you know what, I'm going to pray about it. 219 00:12:56,200 --> 00:12:58,640 I'm going to look for a sign, wait for a sign. 220 00:12:58,640 --> 00:13:02,680 And they went shopping at a craft fair and literally the first stop they went, 221 00:13:02,680 --> 00:13:06,240 there was somebody had a board that says, this is your sign. 222 00:13:06,240 --> 00:13:12,840 Oh, they went to the next place and it said, if you're looking for a sign, this is it. 223 00:13:12,840 --> 00:13:14,320 Sign God. 224 00:13:14,320 --> 00:13:17,600 And her friends like, oh, we're done. 225 00:13:17,600 --> 00:13:19,400 Yeah. 226 00:13:19,400 --> 00:13:25,040 But, you know, but it's making that decision and there's something I've been toying with the coaching program. 227 00:13:25,040 --> 00:13:29,720 And I keep seeing signs and I'm just like, oh, but I'm like, I think as soon as we're done, 228 00:13:29,720 --> 00:13:32,800 I'm going to sign up for it because yes, those signs. 229 00:13:32,800 --> 00:13:35,240 And, and, you know, it's that, should I, should I not? 230 00:13:35,240 --> 00:13:39,560 And, you know, we rarely regret the things we do. 231 00:13:39,560 --> 00:13:40,280 That's right. 232 00:13:40,280 --> 00:13:42,080 That's going to make a difference. 233 00:13:42,080 --> 00:13:44,920 So, yeah, that was definitely a why not today. 234 00:13:44,920 --> 00:13:50,760 And look where it took you to a whole new lifestyle and I assume you left corporate America. 235 00:13:50,760 --> 00:13:51,680 I did. 236 00:13:51,680 --> 00:13:53,320 I did a couple of years ago. 237 00:13:53,320 --> 00:13:55,960 Isn't that so freeing? 238 00:13:55,960 --> 00:13:56,920 Yes. 239 00:13:56,920 --> 00:13:57,600 Yeah. 240 00:13:57,600 --> 00:14:00,000 Why did I not do that? 241 00:14:00,000 --> 00:14:01,800 Well, it's a hard decision. 242 00:14:01,800 --> 00:14:06,040 It's a hard decision to do because the stability is nice. 243 00:14:06,040 --> 00:14:12,560 The steady paychecks are nice and you kind of know, OK, what you're, what you're doing from year to year, 244 00:14:12,560 --> 00:14:17,080 you know, you've got all the hotel points and the, and the airline miles and everything. 245 00:14:17,080 --> 00:14:23,400 But it ultimately, I now get to design my life the way I want to live it. 246 00:14:23,400 --> 00:14:29,880 And I get to have the time that I need for my kids and for my family, which is very important too. 247 00:14:29,880 --> 00:14:33,920 Well, and you can just see when you're talking about it, your smile and your face lights up. 248 00:14:33,920 --> 00:14:34,960 And what a difference. 249 00:14:34,960 --> 00:14:40,160 I mean, I made that leap, Leap in Corporate America 24 years ago, which is hard to believe. 250 00:14:40,160 --> 00:14:44,280 And it was a huge leap of faith that I talk about here a lot as part of the Why Not Today message. 251 00:14:44,280 --> 00:14:50,680 Like, I was like, what's the worst thing that's going to happen is I have to get another job. 252 00:14:50,680 --> 00:14:56,400 And six months after I did quit my job, my dad had a major stroke and I was able to be there and be at the hospital. 253 00:14:56,400 --> 00:14:58,840 I didn't have to ask anybody's permission. 254 00:14:58,840 --> 00:15:03,760 A lot of people I know that are close to my age are looking at retiring and they're like, you're going to retire? 255 00:15:03,760 --> 00:15:06,320 I'm like, no, like I would be so bored. 256 00:15:06,320 --> 00:15:07,760 I'm recreating. 257 00:15:07,760 --> 00:15:09,800 And I think a lot of people are doing that. 258 00:15:09,800 --> 00:15:11,880 Like, what's next? 259 00:15:11,880 --> 00:15:15,040 But the people that are working for somebody else, they're miserable. 260 00:15:15,040 --> 00:15:20,640 And they say the highest percentage of heart attacks happen on Monday morning. 261 00:15:20,640 --> 00:15:23,160 Like rarely do I set an alarm. 262 00:15:23,160 --> 00:15:26,960 Like, you know, I get up when I get up and get to go for a walk with the dog. 263 00:15:26,960 --> 00:15:30,640 And I was helping somebody do something on Saturday. 264 00:15:30,640 --> 00:15:33,160 And I said, oh, I should need to send something. 265 00:15:33,160 --> 00:15:34,280 I'm like, I got packing tape. 266 00:15:34,280 --> 00:15:34,880 I got an office. 267 00:15:34,880 --> 00:15:35,400 I can do all this. 268 00:15:35,400 --> 00:15:36,920 She goes, why don't you want you to work on Saturday? 269 00:15:36,920 --> 00:15:41,400 I'm like, I work probably a little bit every day, but I could take a three hour lunch on Tuesday. 270 00:15:41,400 --> 00:15:48,160 Like, you know, it really doesn't matter what day of the week it is, which half the time I don't know what day of the week it is. 271 00:15:48,160 --> 00:15:50,040 But it doesn't matter. 272 00:15:50,040 --> 00:15:56,040 No. So, so you do you wrote the book, you have your coaching. 273 00:15:56,040 --> 00:15:58,480 Do you do group coaching, individual coaching? 274 00:15:58,480 --> 00:16:05,240 Who would be a good coaching candidate for customer? 275 00:16:05,240 --> 00:16:24,360 Yes, yes, my, my, my market that I typically serve is mid or mid career professionals in the corporate environment who are just feeling like I was those several years ago because I can really resonate with that and really help you to in a very tangible way. 276 00:16:24,360 --> 00:16:33,840 I have a clarity method that I use that really appeals to you to, to, to you who are analytical, right? 277 00:16:33,840 --> 00:16:36,360 That like a basis for it. 278 00:16:36,360 --> 00:16:43,320 And I have a way of being able to take you through a journey that is essentially uses a sailing analogy. 279 00:16:43,320 --> 00:16:49,880 That's all about, you know, you're, you're kind of at you need to eventually you need to leave the port, right? 280 00:16:49,880 --> 00:16:54,120 And you need to be able to pack only what you need and shed what you don't need. 281 00:16:54,120 --> 00:17:03,520 And then go off and, and, and sail in a direction and figure out what that direction is as it becomes a beautiful unfolding. 282 00:17:03,520 --> 00:17:07,400 Yeah, sometimes you need to say yes to things, but also say no to other things. 283 00:17:07,400 --> 00:17:09,280 You don't want to load up your boat too much. 284 00:17:09,280 --> 00:17:19,360 Yeah. So if somebody's listening to this and thinking, that's so me, like what steps would you recommend for them to do some self discovery to see if, okay, what is the next step? 285 00:17:19,360 --> 00:17:20,520 Or what are things? 286 00:17:20,520 --> 00:17:22,760 What are other things I could do? 287 00:17:22,760 --> 00:17:31,880 Yeah, I think it's good to, as a baseline, start getting honest with yourself, you know, and start really thinking, okay, what, what, what do I really want? 288 00:17:31,880 --> 00:17:41,400 Or what, what did I want before all of the shoulds all got layered on and start to really, really, really think about that. 289 00:17:41,400 --> 00:17:46,000 And, and on the last day of my life, what do I want it to be, be about? 290 00:17:46,000 --> 00:17:50,720 What do I want people to say that I did or say about me? 291 00:17:50,720 --> 00:18:10,320 And if you don't, if you can't answer some of those, which I understand, there was a time when I couldn't answer because I was just so busy on that treadmill, then that's when you really know that it's worth the time to really to get some, some intentional clarity time to be able to, to really reflect on those questions. 292 00:18:10,320 --> 00:18:14,840 Because if you don't know where you're going, like, say, any road will take you there, right? 293 00:18:14,840 --> 00:18:16,840 But it is true. 294 00:18:16,840 --> 00:18:21,960 It is true, you're just rolling with the waves, as we say, and when, when, in your cells consulting. 295 00:18:21,960 --> 00:18:24,040 Yeah, and, you know, what is that? 296 00:18:24,040 --> 00:18:31,440 Alison Wonderland quote, like, if you don't know where you're going, you're not going to get there kind of thing. 297 00:18:31,440 --> 00:18:37,200 So I know there's a book that helps you find your career choice. 298 00:18:37,200 --> 00:18:41,240 I wonder if your book or another book helps people with what's next. 299 00:18:41,240 --> 00:18:44,000 You know, the book, have you ever heard what color is your parachute? 300 00:18:44,000 --> 00:18:45,160 Yes. 301 00:18:45,160 --> 00:18:46,120 Yes. 302 00:18:46,120 --> 00:18:49,600 I think that things like that are very, very helpful. 303 00:18:49,600 --> 00:18:53,760 What I was striving to do through my book, my book is a travel story. 304 00:18:53,760 --> 00:19:03,160 And it also contains all kinds of life lessons that I learned about two thirds of it is written in the voice of myself at 21. 305 00:19:03,160 --> 00:19:08,480 And the third is written and my current voice as a mid career professional. 306 00:19:08,480 --> 00:19:15,520 And so what I wanted to do is bring you just an entertaining travel story where you can go along and feel like you've 307 00:19:15,520 --> 00:19:18,160 been to Europe with the book. 308 00:19:18,160 --> 00:19:25,360 But you also then have this unfolding of an inner journey that it also takes you through. 309 00:19:25,360 --> 00:19:35,920 And I really want you to get a shift in your perspective because it's often just a tiny shift that makes all the difference. 310 00:19:35,920 --> 00:19:38,600 Like I mentioned, I sat on a bench with my phone. 311 00:19:38,600 --> 00:19:40,680 I booked a workshop, right? 312 00:19:40,680 --> 00:19:42,560 And it ended up changing my life. 313 00:19:42,560 --> 00:19:51,240 But because it's not just about the workshop, it's about just that one step that you take that you realize you can take another one and another one. 314 00:19:51,240 --> 00:19:58,600 And then you start to connect more dots and you start to get out there and meet more people, make more connections like you and I did. 315 00:19:58,600 --> 00:20:02,160 And so that's how it happens. 316 00:20:02,160 --> 00:20:08,480 And so I really want to inspire you to see new possibility in your life. 317 00:20:08,480 --> 00:20:09,200 That's awesome. 318 00:20:09,200 --> 00:20:12,080 And I mentioned with this podcast, it's not perfect. 319 00:20:12,080 --> 00:20:17,720 And literally the first recording, I record at three o'clock to post on the next day. 320 00:20:17,720 --> 00:20:21,880 And because I didn't know what I was doing and I was scared, I'm like, OK, I just got to do it. 321 00:20:21,880 --> 00:20:24,800 And sometimes it's just taking that one little step to do it. 322 00:20:24,800 --> 00:20:33,000 And God will unfold the rest of the steps and put you in connection with the people, just like you and I connected it. 323 00:20:33,000 --> 00:20:40,040 And what a perfect time to connect with the intention. 324 00:20:40,040 --> 00:20:48,320 And I love you sharing your story, by the way, that that first episode I just think is just so powerful as as as they all are. 325 00:20:48,320 --> 00:20:59,280 But just I just the fact that you were so vulnerable to say that you just you share your fears and share the things that you were you were feeling and how you got to this point. 326 00:20:59,280 --> 00:21:07,280 I think that helps so many people so much more than just step by step on a thing or something very analytical. 327 00:21:07,280 --> 00:21:12,000 You know, it's right and it doesn't have to be perfect. And, you know, you've just got to take that first step. 328 00:21:12,000 --> 00:21:17,440 And the Why Not Today podcast and brand is evolving to different things that I never in a match. 329 00:21:17,440 --> 00:21:21,720 Million years imagined when I was walking with that friend. 330 00:21:21,720 --> 00:21:24,800 And it's funny, you remember sitting on the bench. 331 00:21:24,800 --> 00:21:28,840 I remember walking with my friend to say, I think I want to do a podcast. 332 00:21:28,840 --> 00:21:32,080 And I remember the day we sat and I told her the Why Not Today story. 333 00:21:32,080 --> 00:21:33,800 And she's like, well, that's the name of your podcast. 334 00:21:33,800 --> 00:21:36,600 And I can remember exactly where I was. 335 00:21:36,600 --> 00:21:41,800 And yeah, those pivotal moments in our life are so powerful. 336 00:21:41,800 --> 00:21:47,600 So well, before we get to encourage how you'd encourage somebody else, we do have sponsors now for the podcast. 337 00:21:47,600 --> 00:21:50,560 And so the sponsor of this podcast is Pino's Palate. 338 00:21:50,560 --> 00:22:01,120 And why not unleash your creativity and have a little fun at Pino's Palate in Herndon, Virginia, paint and sip while socializing with loved ones and friends and discover your inner artist. 339 00:22:01,120 --> 00:22:08,200 No artistic ability required, the entertaining artist will guide you step by step from blank canvas to a masterpiece. 340 00:22:08,200 --> 00:22:10,440 Why not paint and sip today? 341 00:22:10,440 --> 00:22:14,720 And so that is our sponsor for the day or for the episode. 342 00:22:14,720 --> 00:22:17,720 So Stacey, how would you encourage somebody else? 343 00:22:17,720 --> 00:22:21,720 And we've kind of talked about this, but how would you encourage somebody else that's listening today? 344 00:22:21,720 --> 00:22:25,920 They're like, I just have this feeling in my heart and soul. 345 00:22:25,920 --> 00:22:30,280 And how would you encourage them to be courageous and do the things? 346 00:22:30,280 --> 00:22:39,400 Yes, well, I think that we fool ourselves into thinking that someday everything will be all in alignment. 347 00:22:39,400 --> 00:22:41,120 Right? We're going to have all the things. 348 00:22:41,120 --> 00:22:43,280 We're going to have the perfect situation. 349 00:22:43,280 --> 00:22:45,000 We're going to have the courage someday. 350 00:22:45,000 --> 00:22:50,840 But you actually what really happens is you build courage and you build it through action. 351 00:22:50,840 --> 00:22:56,280 So one of the things in my book, I share these little life lessons at the end of each chapter. 352 00:22:56,280 --> 00:23:03,680 And one of the life lessons that I'll just quickly read to you is it says, 353 00:23:03,680 --> 00:23:10,400 radiate confidence to put in motion those first steps and build it as you go. 354 00:23:10,400 --> 00:23:17,720 And that's really what I found because the confidence I've gained is through taking action. 355 00:23:17,720 --> 00:23:23,880 And just thinking about it doesn't really doesn't build courage and confidence because, 356 00:23:23,880 --> 00:23:27,640 you know, you don't have a tangible result that comes from it. 357 00:23:27,640 --> 00:23:34,160 You know, you know, deep down you're still not being true to yourself if you just thought about it and not take an action. 358 00:23:34,160 --> 00:23:38,160 Right. Yeah, we definitely got to take that action and make those steps. 359 00:23:38,160 --> 00:23:46,800 So true. Well, I guess I'm going to have to order that book today and read it and get my life lessons looking forward to it. 360 00:23:46,800 --> 00:23:52,680 So I always try to connect this back to my dad and people in the question when I give the question to people that are like, I didn't know your dad. 361 00:23:52,680 --> 00:23:59,120 Well, so the first connection back to my dad is obviously the dentist, like your sister in law, like how crazy is that? 362 00:23:59,120 --> 00:24:07,960 And I was sharing with Stacy before we started that actually the day my dad passed away was actually his birth was in fact his birthday. 363 00:24:07,960 --> 00:24:10,680 And that's when I started the podcast, which is March 5th. 364 00:24:10,680 --> 00:24:14,000 I was meeting with somebody yesterday and I was she said that was her birthday as well. 365 00:24:14,000 --> 00:24:17,280 She started crying like, wow, all the Godwinks. 366 00:24:17,280 --> 00:24:24,480 But so on his birthday, he actually started his day at the dentist with your sister in law. 367 00:24:24,480 --> 00:24:25,880 How crazy is that? 368 00:24:25,880 --> 00:24:30,120 Now, the dentist had nothing to do with him passing away. We really don't know what happened. 369 00:24:30,120 --> 00:24:32,000 It just it was his time. 370 00:24:32,000 --> 00:24:34,120 But, you know, that's a great connection. 371 00:24:34,120 --> 00:24:37,240 Your sale analogy, he loved sale. He loved the water. 372 00:24:37,240 --> 00:24:45,000 We he was from California, so grew up near the water, but we lived on a lake most of my life. 373 00:24:45,000 --> 00:24:48,160 And his office was the other end of the lake. 374 00:24:48,160 --> 00:24:51,040 So we always tease that he skated there. 375 00:24:51,040 --> 00:24:55,240 He windsurfed there. He swam there and he sailed there and he would be on the sale. 376 00:24:55,240 --> 00:24:57,560 But we've got lots of great pictures of him sailing. 377 00:24:57,560 --> 00:25:01,320 And then when he got out of college, he traveled around Europe just like you. 378 00:25:01,320 --> 00:25:07,720 So lots of cool coincidences or beautiful connections. 379 00:25:07,720 --> 00:25:10,360 And I just and I love the connections with all this. 380 00:25:10,360 --> 00:25:14,200 So well, I'm going to share Stacy's information in the show notes. 381 00:25:14,200 --> 00:25:17,600 Of course, I'm sure you can get your book anywhere you can get books. 382 00:25:17,600 --> 00:25:20,200 And you said there will be an audio soon. 383 00:25:20,200 --> 00:25:20,960 Yes. 384 00:25:20,960 --> 00:25:22,960 And I'll share all her contact information. 385 00:25:22,960 --> 00:25:27,000 Anything else you want to share before we go? 386 00:25:27,000 --> 00:25:28,920 I just want to thank you, Leslie. 387 00:25:28,920 --> 00:25:30,480 I love what you're doing. 388 00:25:30,480 --> 00:25:35,720 And I I'm so pleased to be able to have this conversation with you. 389 00:25:35,720 --> 00:25:43,760 And I love the why not today concept because that is very, very congruent with with with with my book. 390 00:25:43,760 --> 00:25:48,920 You know, I I have, you know, it's the full title is Secrets for my Travel Diaries, 391 00:25:48,920 --> 00:25:52,920 How One Burnt Out Executive Reignited the Adventure Within. 392 00:25:52,920 --> 00:25:55,960 And so that's really what why not today is. 393 00:25:55,960 --> 00:25:59,800 Is it it's about reigniting the adventure with absolutely. 394 00:25:59,800 --> 00:26:04,160 Yeah. So well, thank you for being my guest and sharing your story. 395 00:26:04,160 --> 00:26:11,040 The why not today podcast you can find on all over social media on every place you can listen to a podcast. 396 00:26:11,040 --> 00:26:15,080 Our website is www.whynottaypodcast.com. 397 00:26:15,080 --> 00:26:17,680 If you go to the website, you can sign up for email list, 398 00:26:17,680 --> 00:26:21,880 which I'm going to have some newsletters and some new fun things happening with that. 399 00:26:21,880 --> 00:26:23,600 We do have why not today swag. 400 00:26:23,600 --> 00:26:25,880 We have t-shirts and cups and stickers. 401 00:26:25,880 --> 00:26:31,280 So if you want to remind yourself daily to just be courageous and say why not today with attention. 402 00:26:31,280 --> 00:26:32,640 Yes, exactly. 403 00:26:32,640 --> 00:26:34,240 So thanks, everybody, for listening. 404 00:26:34,240 --> 00:26:36,240 Thanks, Stacy, for sharing your story. 405 00:26:36,240 --> 00:26:41,240 And as I always close, make sure you're saying why not today every day. 406 00:26:41,240 --> 00:26:43,000 And thanks again, Stacy. 407 00:26:43,000 --> 00:26:45,160 You're welcome. 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