1 00:00:00,000 --> 00:00:06,160 All right. Hello. My name is Leslie Cain. I'm the host of the Why Not Today podcast. 2 00:00:06,160 --> 00:00:10,680 This is a podcast to celebrate people who have been courageous and said, why not today? 3 00:00:10,680 --> 00:00:15,120 I started this podcast in honor of my father, Patrick Cain, who often did say, why not today? 4 00:00:15,120 --> 00:00:20,200 I'm based in Reston, Virginia, a planned community right outside of Washington, D.C. And I'm 5 00:00:20,200 --> 00:00:24,840 excited about my guests today. And thank you everybody for listening and joining and watching. 6 00:00:24,840 --> 00:00:30,280 My guest today is Willie Jolly. And I met Willie Jolly. I always talk about connections and how 7 00:00:30,280 --> 00:00:36,440 I met people. And years ago, one of my team members, I don't know, well, I guess she was a Mary Kay, 8 00:00:36,440 --> 00:00:41,560 worked for the Reston Chamber. And they were looking for a speaker and reached out to Willie. 9 00:00:41,560 --> 00:00:47,680 And he graciously came and spoke. And I heard him speak. And then you did several Mary Kay events 10 00:00:47,680 --> 00:00:53,880 and just kind of connected with you. I remember we went to a Zig Ziglar event years ago, right after 11 00:00:53,880 --> 00:01:00,280 September 11. And just have watched you, admired you, been inspired by you. And the other day, 12 00:01:00,280 --> 00:01:04,760 I'm just like, I'm going to have Willie Jolly on the podcast. So I'm super excited to have you. 13 00:01:04,760 --> 00:01:10,040 So for those people that don't know who you are, share a little bit about yourself and a fun 14 00:01:10,040 --> 00:01:14,920 fact, and then we'll get into the courage stuff. Well, I thank you for having me. And for those who 15 00:01:14,920 --> 00:01:21,320 know me, know I always start the same way. I have only just a minute, only 60 seconds in it. 16 00:01:21,320 --> 00:01:26,840 It's forced upon me, I can't refuse it. I did not seek it. I did not choose it. But it's up to me 17 00:01:26,840 --> 00:01:32,440 to use it. I must suffer if I lose it, give account. If I abuse it just a tiny little minute, 18 00:01:32,440 --> 00:01:36,360 but I will turn it to you to wrap it up. And it's I'm grateful for this minute, this moment, 19 00:01:36,360 --> 00:01:42,440 this opportunity to be on with you, Leslie, and to share some ideas with your listeners. 20 00:01:43,480 --> 00:01:47,160 Buddy, I used to be able to recite that with you, but I guess you're facing a while. 21 00:01:47,160 --> 00:01:52,440 I'll do that again. So that's taken from my book, It Only Takes a Minute to Change Your Life. It's 22 00:01:52,440 --> 00:01:56,840 called God's Minute written by Dr. Benjamin Mays, who was Martin Luther King Jr.'s mentor. 23 00:01:57,480 --> 00:02:04,520 And so I'm very grateful that I have become known for that one minute. I am a speaker who started 24 00:02:04,520 --> 00:02:10,440 as a singer. I was a nightclub singer who was doing really well in the nightclub business and the 25 00:02:10,440 --> 00:02:19,000 jingle business. And then I had a setback during the karaoke craze of the 1980s. I got caught up 26 00:02:19,000 --> 00:02:24,680 in a club I'd been performing at. They told me, we love you and your guys and your band, and we all 27 00:02:24,680 --> 00:02:28,840 won all the awards, but we still want to get something cheaper. That's what gives us a better 28 00:02:28,840 --> 00:02:34,200 return on investment. So we we're going to go with the karaoke concept. And I was devastated 29 00:02:34,200 --> 00:02:38,920 because I worked so hard to build their business, to build their clientele, but I still got fired, 30 00:02:38,920 --> 00:02:43,640 replaced, downsized, re-engineered, whatever you want to call it. It's still really the same thing. 31 00:02:43,640 --> 00:02:49,000 Fired. And so I didn't know what I was going to do. I took a job with the Washington DC 32 00:02:49,000 --> 00:02:53,320 public school system as a drug prevention coordinator talking to little kids about staying 33 00:02:53,320 --> 00:02:59,160 away from drugs. And it was during that year, I discovered an ability I did not know I had to 34 00:02:59,160 --> 00:03:04,360 use words to communicate. So the little kids, the teachers would say, can you kind of my teachers group? 35 00:03:04,360 --> 00:03:07,160 And someone there would say, can you kind of my church? And someone there would say, can you 36 00:03:07,160 --> 00:03:13,240 kind of my company? And they started growing. And Les Brown, who you just mentioned, heard me 37 00:03:13,880 --> 00:03:19,800 speak and sing and invited me to be on a tour he was creating called the Music and Motivation Dream 38 00:03:19,800 --> 00:03:25,960 Team, which featured Les Brown, Billy Preston, and S-Nite. And I was the opening act. They 39 00:03:26,840 --> 00:03:31,480 allowed me to meet some media people. I got a little radio show that got popular, 40 00:03:31,480 --> 00:03:36,440 got syndicated. You can now hear me across America every morning on Get Up Mornings with Erica Campbell 41 00:03:36,440 --> 00:03:41,480 and Praise Network. That led to SiriusXM, where I now have the number one self-help 42 00:03:41,480 --> 00:03:47,800 down in the country on SiriusXM, channel 141. And that led to a book publisher hearing me on the 43 00:03:47,800 --> 00:03:53,240 radio and saying, I like your ideas. I like you to consider writing a book. And I wrote a book 44 00:03:53,240 --> 00:03:58,040 called It Only Takes a Minute, Change Life, Came a National Best Seller. Then a setback as a setup 45 00:03:58,040 --> 00:04:03,320 for comeback became a global best seller, then turned setbacks into greenbacks and matted to 46 00:04:03,320 --> 00:04:09,080 the backslut. And the newest book is Make Love, Make Money, Make It Last, a book I wrote with my wife 47 00:04:09,080 --> 00:04:14,760 of almost 40 years. And we talk about 10 steps to create a great marriage. We haven't had an 48 00:04:14,760 --> 00:04:20,280 argument in over 35 years. And people wonder how. We give them the tips on how we have had this 49 00:04:21,080 --> 00:04:26,600 great marriage and how it was started off rocky, but we learned some valuable lessons from some 50 00:04:26,600 --> 00:04:32,120 wise mentors that we embraced and they worked and we put them in the book. And then in 1999, 51 00:04:32,120 --> 00:04:37,480 I was named one of the outstanding five speakers in the world by Toastmasters. Next year, I was 52 00:04:37,480 --> 00:04:41,160 named the motivational inspirational speaker of the year by Toastmasters International. 53 00:04:41,160 --> 00:04:47,480 Then in 2005, inducted in the Speaker Hall of Fame, 2013, named one of the outstanding five 54 00:04:47,480 --> 00:04:53,880 leadership speakers in the world. Then in 2016, and named the legend of the speaking industry. 55 00:04:53,880 --> 00:04:59,400 And this year, earlier this year, I was given the Joseph R. Biden Lifetime Achievement Award, 56 00:04:59,400 --> 00:05:05,400 the Presidential Lifetime Achievement Award. And earlier this summer, I was honored to be the 57 00:05:05,400 --> 00:05:11,480 recipient of the Kavett Award, which is the Oscar of the speaking industry, the highest award in 58 00:05:11,480 --> 00:05:17,960 the speaking industry. And so I'm very grateful that I get to do what I do and go around the world 59 00:05:17,960 --> 00:05:23,800 and share with companies and organizations how to win more. I want people to win more in their 60 00:05:23,800 --> 00:05:27,960 personal life and professional life and their finances and their families. I want them to win 61 00:05:27,960 --> 00:05:33,640 more. And that's what I help people to do to win more when they are tired of losing, tired of maybe 62 00:05:33,640 --> 00:05:38,200 not reaching, achieving the goals that they've set. I want them to win more. So that's what we do. 63 00:05:39,560 --> 00:05:41,080 You've got amazing accolades. 64 00:05:43,080 --> 00:05:47,320 Yeah, well, tell us a fun fact. And kind of that was your acolyte, your history. 65 00:05:47,320 --> 00:05:55,240 Tell us who Willie Jolly is. You mentioned Zigg Ziggler. And us meeting and going to his 66 00:05:55,240 --> 00:06:02,040 Zigg Ziggler event, it was at the it was the Get Motivated tour. And it was at the Verizon Center 67 00:06:02,680 --> 00:06:06,600 in Washington. There was another name at that point, but there was the Verizon Center. 68 00:06:07,160 --> 00:06:13,960 And we sat in there, we took notes. Well, here's a fun fact that that was prior to 69 00:06:15,160 --> 00:06:24,680 2010, I believe, in 2012, Zigg died. And in 2013, and I was honored to get the call from the Get 70 00:06:24,680 --> 00:06:30,920 Motivated tour replaced the Ziggler. So, before then, I was sitting there taking notes from Zigg Ziggler. 71 00:06:30,920 --> 00:06:37,800 And a few years later, I'm standing in his spot. That's pretty cool. That's a fun fact. 72 00:06:37,800 --> 00:06:44,680 Did the COVID, COVID disrupted everything. And I went virtual and I've been doing a lot of work 73 00:06:44,680 --> 00:06:49,320 virtually as well as now starting to get back on the road speaking. Yeah, we're going to talk about 74 00:06:49,320 --> 00:06:55,240 that in a minute. So, and I love the full circle. Zigg Ziggler. And cool fact too is, you know, 75 00:06:56,280 --> 00:07:01,320 my career for the last 29 years is a sales director with Mary Kay and Zigg Ziggler, Mary Kay, 76 00:07:01,320 --> 00:07:06,040 we're very good friends. Absolutely. Kind of good friends. They're both out of Dallas. That's 77 00:07:06,040 --> 00:07:13,960 right. Yep. Exactly. So, share with us. What does courage mean to you? Courage to me is a great word 78 00:07:13,960 --> 00:07:24,440 that I use often. Courage is first, be willing to go full without worrying about fear. Not the 79 00:07:24,440 --> 00:07:30,760 absence of fear, because you're going to have fear. But courage is going full in spite of the fear. 80 00:07:31,320 --> 00:07:36,520 Being willing to face the fear is still move forward. That's courage. And it takes courage 81 00:07:36,520 --> 00:07:44,200 to be kind. Maya Angelou said, courage to be kind, courage to be loving, courage to be fair, 82 00:07:44,200 --> 00:07:52,360 to be courage to be just. It takes courage to do right. And so, I think courage is the 83 00:07:54,040 --> 00:08:03,960 ability to do what is right, to move forward on your goals and dreams in spite of your fears 84 00:08:03,960 --> 00:08:12,440 and your anxieties and your questions and doubts. Totally agree. Yeah. So, you've done lots of things 85 00:08:12,440 --> 00:08:19,240 in your life. And I love all your stories and all your history going from like a nightclub singer to 86 00:08:20,200 --> 00:08:25,480 being on stage, replacing Zigg Ziggler. So, talk about some of the things that you've done that 87 00:08:25,480 --> 00:08:33,720 took courage and what you had to do to, you know, the podcast is Why Not Today? And some of those 88 00:08:33,720 --> 00:08:39,640 things we just have to like say, I'm going to do it right now. And I'm, you know, so share some of 89 00:08:39,640 --> 00:08:46,440 your Why Not Today stories of your career and history. That's a great question. One of the 90 00:08:46,440 --> 00:08:55,320 things to courage to do is quit my job. So, I can live my dreams. I was working for the DC 91 00:08:55,320 --> 00:09:00,200 Public School System. As I said, when I got fired from my job at the nightclub, I took a job at the 92 00:09:00,200 --> 00:09:10,760 school system. That's where I started speaking. And at that point, I didn't know there was such 93 00:09:10,760 --> 00:09:21,320 thing as a professional speaking business for a long time. And I made a decision one day, 94 00:09:22,280 --> 00:09:28,200 but this is not where I'm supposed to be. I need to, I really need to live my dream. And I 95 00:09:28,200 --> 00:09:35,400 set my goals and wrote some dreams down. But still to be willing to quit that job because 96 00:09:35,400 --> 00:09:39,960 all the income sales I had at that point, with the wife and two children at home, 97 00:09:41,720 --> 00:09:52,520 it was frightening. It was scary. But I did it. I quit my job and I went forward. And 98 00:09:52,520 --> 00:09:58,280 I never looked back. So, is there something that happened in that job that you're like, 99 00:09:58,280 --> 00:10:08,920 all right, today is or? Actually, it was. And I think back to that day. So, 100 00:10:10,680 --> 00:10:18,520 I had a boss when I got hired by the job, who was just a great guy. Great guy. He was very 101 00:10:18,520 --> 00:10:28,360 supportive, very encouraging. And he kept saying, I'm going to give you a raise and help you get 102 00:10:28,360 --> 00:10:37,720 more money. I know you got a family. One day, I went away on a Wednesday to a men's conference at my 103 00:10:37,720 --> 00:10:46,040 church. And I left on Tuesday evening. I was gone Wednesday, Thursday, Friday, and Monday. And I 104 00:10:46,040 --> 00:10:53,960 came back Tuesday to find out that my boss had been killed in a motorcycle accident. Wow. And was 105 00:10:53,960 --> 00:11:03,880 already buried. It was over. So, what? Wow. So, the new boss who came was a woman who was the 106 00:11:03,880 --> 00:11:11,560 complete opposite of this guy. She was not supportive. She was not encouraging. And when I 107 00:11:11,560 --> 00:11:17,560 told her that he had said he was going to position me for a raise, he said, I didn't say that. 108 00:11:18,280 --> 00:11:29,800 Well, I couldn't care what he said. And so, every March, May, every year, my wife and I, 109 00:11:29,800 --> 00:11:38,520 years ago, had bought a time share in St. Martin. And we would take a week to go on vacation. 110 00:11:38,520 --> 00:11:47,000 And so, this time comes up, it's time for me to prepare for the vacation. I went in and said, 111 00:11:47,000 --> 00:11:52,680 I need to take some leave, but I'm going on my vacation. And she said, no, you're not. 112 00:11:54,040 --> 00:11:59,480 Because you don't have, in your position, your position doesn't come with annual leave. 113 00:11:59,480 --> 00:12:04,200 You got sick leave, but you don't have annual leave. You're not going anywhere. 114 00:12:04,200 --> 00:12:14,600 And so, I was like, she shut it down. And so, we had a lady who was taking, who was like a nanny 115 00:12:14,600 --> 00:12:21,080 for our kids. And she was my wife's best friend. She needed a place to live while she had gone 116 00:12:21,080 --> 00:12:25,720 through a divorce. So, she helped us. We helped her. So, we didn't have much money. She needed a 117 00:12:25,720 --> 00:12:32,840 place, I don't know. So, I had to have her every day call, every morning, say, Willie's too sick 118 00:12:32,840 --> 00:12:42,760 to get through the cold. So, that week. And so, when I got back, here's what happened. 119 00:12:44,360 --> 00:12:49,640 When I got back, a couple of weeks into getting back, the Washington Post came out and did an 120 00:12:49,640 --> 00:12:58,120 article about me speaking to kids and how I was so entertaining and engaging. And kids were really, 121 00:12:58,120 --> 00:13:04,280 there was a lot of buzz about me. And it was the front page on the Washington Post. When this 122 00:13:04,280 --> 00:13:11,960 boss, who did not like me, saw it, she said, oh, so you're famous now, huh? Well, we're going to 123 00:13:11,960 --> 00:13:15,880 shut you down. How are you like that? You're not speaking anymore to kids. You're going to do a 124 00:13:15,880 --> 00:13:22,440 job. Wow. You're going to do a desk job. How are you like that? That was the day I said, nah, 125 00:13:22,440 --> 00:13:31,800 I'm not supposed to be here. So, sometimes your courage is amped up by an experience, 126 00:13:31,800 --> 00:13:39,960 a life changing experience that gives you the impetus to say, I'm going to do what I know I 127 00:13:39,960 --> 00:13:45,560 should do. And I'm telling you, it was that day I said, I'm out. I walked in and I said, I'm out. 128 00:13:46,200 --> 00:13:52,280 Goodbye. Good for you. And aren't you glad you did because look at the lifestyle you've 129 00:13:52,280 --> 00:13:58,280 created because of that. Oh my God. Oh my God. I'm so grateful. Yeah. I mean, I had a similar 130 00:13:58,280 --> 00:14:02,200 thing leaving my job. I mean, I found Mary Kay and I thought, okay, this is better and 131 00:14:02,920 --> 00:14:08,280 much more positive environment, but I had not replaced an income. And it was one of those, 132 00:14:08,280 --> 00:14:14,360 like, you know what, the games that were played in the corporate arena were awful. And it was 133 00:14:15,400 --> 00:14:20,280 dispute about a commission check. They were changing their rules every time. And I worked 134 00:14:20,280 --> 00:14:25,160 with a coach and kind of resolved that. And as soon as I did, I just slid my resignation in front 135 00:14:25,160 --> 00:14:31,880 of my boss and like, done, I cannot work for you. And the same, and that would be gone for 25 years 136 00:14:31,880 --> 00:14:38,520 and the same stuff is going on. So I really use this platform and this podcast to encourage people 137 00:14:39,160 --> 00:14:43,640 to do those things, to stand up for themselves. And because you just never know what's on the other 138 00:14:43,640 --> 00:14:51,960 side when you say yes to yourself. Absolutely. Absolutely. Yeah. So any other courageous things 139 00:14:51,960 --> 00:14:56,440 that I mean, I know you've had plenty years. I've had courageous things. I didn't know what 140 00:14:56,440 --> 00:15:02,760 courageous at that point. Right. They turned out to be courageous. Talking about wife and to marrying 141 00:15:02,760 --> 00:15:10,200 me was courageous. She's amazing. I love your wife. Tell her I said hello. She is amazing. 142 00:15:10,200 --> 00:15:17,880 And talking to her into to marry me on a lunch date and going off and eloping right there where 143 00:15:17,880 --> 00:15:23,880 she wasn't even planning to marry. In fact, she told me no or no. Oh, wow. That was courageous. 144 00:15:25,000 --> 00:15:35,320 Being willing to to change from the youth market to the corporate market, because I was very popular 145 00:15:35,320 --> 00:15:40,360 in the youth market and I could have stayed there forever, but I wanted bigger. I wanted more. So 146 00:15:41,000 --> 00:15:50,600 that was courageous. Being willing to start my own publishing company, being willing to start our own 147 00:15:50,600 --> 00:15:57,080 media business. All of those took some level of courage and you wonder what happens if it doesn't 148 00:15:57,080 --> 00:16:04,280 work. Well, I want to give you four questions you must ask yourself to help you with your courage 149 00:16:04,280 --> 00:16:11,720 when you have to take a risk. Number one, what's the best that could happen if you do this? 150 00:16:14,040 --> 00:16:17,800 Number two, what's the worst that could happen if you do this? 151 00:16:19,880 --> 00:16:27,480 Number three, what's the most likely thing to happen if you do this? Number four, 152 00:16:27,480 --> 00:16:34,920 are you willing to live with the worst to get to the best? What's the best that could happen if I 153 00:16:34,920 --> 00:16:40,520 quit my job? I can live my dreams. What's the worst that could happen if I quit my job? I can 154 00:16:40,520 --> 00:16:47,480 lose my house. What's the most likely thing to happen if I work hard enough? I could somehow 155 00:16:47,480 --> 00:16:55,720 keep my head above one. Are you willing to live with the worst? Lose your house. Get to the best. 156 00:16:55,720 --> 00:17:03,720 Live your dreams. And mom's death was not one of the options, I can get another house. 157 00:17:06,280 --> 00:17:11,960 And so the answer was, yeah, I'm willing to take that chance. I'm willing to be courageous on it 158 00:17:12,520 --> 00:17:18,520 because I've calculated the risk. So sometimes you ask yourself those four questions, 159 00:17:18,520 --> 00:17:25,400 it will help you calculate the risk. So true. And the same thing I kind of did with when I 160 00:17:25,400 --> 00:17:30,920 quit my job was like the worst thing that happened is I'm eating, going to my mom's 161 00:17:30,920 --> 00:17:36,280 to eat dinner, I'm not eating Starbucks and I'll get another job. And six months after I did put 162 00:17:36,280 --> 00:17:41,080 my job, my dad had a major stroke, you know, I was able to be there and I'm so grateful and so many 163 00:17:41,080 --> 00:17:47,400 things in life I've been able to do because I made that courageous decision. And I always thought, 164 00:17:47,400 --> 00:17:50,760 you know, if it doesn't work out, I'll get another job or I was going to bartend at night, 165 00:17:50,760 --> 00:17:58,200 but 25 years later, I have not done yet. Wow, that's good. That's good. Yep. So I've listened to you 166 00:17:58,200 --> 00:18:02,440 speak and you've taught me so many things and motivated and inspired me. So always ask in the 167 00:18:02,440 --> 00:18:07,160 podcast, you know, what would you say to encourage somebody else? And I love the questions you just 168 00:18:07,160 --> 00:18:14,760 ask, but other things. And I love your, it just takes a minute book, your setup is a set of 169 00:18:14,760 --> 00:18:22,200 a clip coming up. And I see that book behind you. I have it on my shelf. Yes. So share some of your 170 00:18:22,200 --> 00:18:26,680 Willy Jolly wisdom. And I love you do your minute one minute thing on the radio and every once 171 00:18:26,680 --> 00:18:32,040 while I hear you, I'm like, I know him and I'll text you. I'm like, just heard you. So I encourage, 172 00:18:32,040 --> 00:18:41,240 first of all, everybody to go to winwithwilly.com, win with Willy, W-I-L-L-L-I-E.com. On there are a 173 00:18:41,240 --> 00:18:46,760 suite of sites. I got my motivational site for business, motivation site for personal. I got a 174 00:18:46,760 --> 00:18:53,480 faith based site, motivation for young people, our marriage site, our music site, our speaking, 175 00:18:53,480 --> 00:18:57,720 if you want to become a speaker site, we got a bunch of sites on that one place where you can 176 00:18:57,720 --> 00:19:04,040 kind of have access to all my world, the world of Willy, right? They winwithwilly.com. The second 177 00:19:04,040 --> 00:19:10,120 thing I would encourage everybody to do when you go to winwithwilly.com. Sign up for my newsletters. 178 00:19:10,120 --> 00:19:13,960 Every day, Monday through Friday, I send out a one minute video. So if you can hear it on the 179 00:19:13,960 --> 00:19:21,960 radio, great. But if you don't, it'll be in your email box and you can listen to or see a video 180 00:19:21,960 --> 00:19:26,920 of the same message that's on the radio every day, Monday through Friday. Okay, next thing I would 181 00:19:26,920 --> 00:19:34,200 encourage people to do is I would encourage people to, if you can get a copy of my book, 182 00:19:34,200 --> 00:19:40,040 a setback, and a set up for comeback, do so. Because I believe that book, as I told you, 183 00:19:40,040 --> 00:19:47,400 grouped this today. It didn't come from me, it came from me. And I believe that book really had 184 00:19:47,400 --> 00:19:54,120 an anointing on it because so many people had news that turned their setbacks into these great 185 00:19:54,120 --> 00:19:59,800 comeback stories, like the stories I've shared in the book and outside the people who turned their 186 00:19:59,800 --> 00:20:09,240 setbacks into great, amazing comeback. What I want to say to everybody is this, that life is a fight 187 00:20:09,240 --> 00:20:15,880 for terracot. It's a fight for terracot. And when you stop fighting for what you want, 188 00:20:16,600 --> 00:20:21,800 what you don't want automatically takes over. It creeps up on you. So what is it you want? You're 189 00:20:21,800 --> 00:20:25,960 gonna have to fight for what you want. You're gonna have to fight for your health. I encourage 190 00:20:25,960 --> 00:20:32,440 everybody to work hard. Number one goal, you can have goals. And I hope everybody has goals. And if 191 00:20:32,440 --> 00:20:37,720 you don't have goals, go to winwithwilly.com. There's a goal setting class. Because we encourage 192 00:20:37,720 --> 00:20:41,400 people to set goals. But that's what turned my life around from a both-plus and nightclub 193 00:20:41,400 --> 00:20:50,520 signature to becoming a world-class and your own new-round speaker. But when you write your goals, 194 00:20:50,520 --> 00:20:58,600 you gotta make a decision that this goal is important. And so if you're gonna live your dream 195 00:20:58,600 --> 00:21:04,680 and make you, you gotta set big, bold goals. And then you gotta be willing to fight for those goals. 196 00:21:04,680 --> 00:21:12,600 Life is a fight for territory. So write your goals. Then after you write your goals, I give you four 197 00:21:12,600 --> 00:21:18,280 steps. First, you work on your vision. Your goal. What is it you want to do? What did you want to 198 00:21:18,280 --> 00:21:22,040 achieve? What did you want to accomplish? What is it that you want? You ask most people what they 199 00:21:22,040 --> 00:21:25,320 want. They'll tell you what they don't want, but they can't tell you what they do or what do you 200 00:21:25,320 --> 00:21:34,200 want. That number one. Number two, what are you presently doing to get what you want? Okay, 201 00:21:34,200 --> 00:21:42,840 so you want to get, make more money. Okay, what are you doing to get what you want? And make a note 202 00:21:42,840 --> 00:21:49,960 of that. You want to lose weight. Okay, well, what are you doing? I'm exercising two days a week. 203 00:21:49,960 --> 00:21:56,600 Okay. Number three, after you've just, you've determined what you want and what are you doing 204 00:21:56,600 --> 00:22:03,720 to get what you want. Number three is what more courage you be doing to get what you want. What 205 00:22:03,720 --> 00:22:09,880 you say you want. I want to lose weight. I'm working out today. Maybe I can work out for 206 00:22:09,880 --> 00:22:16,120 a year. Maybe I could change my diet. So what do you want? What are you presently doing to get 207 00:22:16,120 --> 00:22:20,520 what you want to answer that before you answer number three? What more could you be doing to 208 00:22:20,520 --> 00:22:28,200 get what you want? And here's the outs question. What must you stop doing in order to get what 209 00:22:28,200 --> 00:22:34,120 you want? So you say you want to lose weight. You were presently working out two days a week. 210 00:22:34,120 --> 00:22:39,320 Could you work out more? Yes. So you didn't modify your diet yet. What else, what must you stop doing? 211 00:22:39,320 --> 00:22:47,160 I got to stop eating ice cream every night before I go to bed. So I said, these are questions I've 212 00:22:47,160 --> 00:22:52,600 had to have my, I've had to deal with myself, but I want to lose weight. And so what, what 213 00:22:52,600 --> 00:22:58,360 would I do? I was working out. But what more could I have been doing? I could have been modifying my 214 00:22:58,360 --> 00:23:04,440 diet. What more could I have done? I could have eaten more vegetables and fruits and vegetables, 215 00:23:04,440 --> 00:23:13,320 nuts, grains, fruits and vegetables. What must I stop doing? I loved, I loved pretzels and cranberry 216 00:23:13,320 --> 00:23:24,040 every night before I got those, those, those, those, those, those nibblets. I love those nibblets with cranberries. But I had to stop. I had to stop 217 00:23:24,040 --> 00:23:30,760 riding them. I had to stop eating them because that, that dough was just making me gain weight. 218 00:23:31,400 --> 00:23:39,640 And much of my life, well, I had to say no, I can't do that. I had to stop eating desserts. There are all these fancy places I go to speak. You always have a dessert. 219 00:23:39,640 --> 00:23:53,640 When you're sitting up on the, on the rostrum and, and there's all the dignitary they bring you your meal, then they bring you dessert. I have to say no dessert. I only eat desserts on Sunday. That's my only dessert thing. 220 00:23:53,640 --> 00:24:07,640 And that's, that's it. I had to, I had to say no to things. So I think those important things that will help you to achieve your goals and dreams, help you have greater success. 221 00:24:07,640 --> 00:24:23,640 Yeah, I love that. And wrote those questions down. I'm going to have to revaluate some things in my world. So thank you for that. So what, since the life is world has changed the last three years, what are you doing now? I know you told us how to find you, but 222 00:24:23,640 --> 00:24:29,640 Yeah, first of all, yeah, what are you doing different? How can we support you? 223 00:24:29,640 --> 00:24:39,640 A lot of new stuff. One is we're focusing on helping people win. 224 00:24:39,640 --> 00:24:55,640 That's our number one goal now that we pandemic help people to have greater anxiety. You know, the surgeon general recently said that there was a new crisis in America of loneliness, depression, anxiety as a result of pandemic. 225 00:24:55,640 --> 00:25:06,640 So we want to help you wherever you are in your life to win more personal, publicly, professionally, relationship wise, financially, family. That's number one. 226 00:25:06,640 --> 00:25:19,640 Number two, I started a one man show that I launched in June and did it through mid July. And then I had a bunch of speaking events. So I couldn't get to the month of August. 227 00:25:19,640 --> 00:25:31,640 But we're going to relaunch it on the September 1st week in October. And it is got a terrific write up for the Washington Post. I think that you can see it if you go to the comeback show.com. 228 00:25:31,640 --> 00:25:34,640 Are you going to make places locally in North Virginia? 229 00:25:34,640 --> 00:25:50,640 One place is going to be one place is a residency. It's a church called Emory, beautiful sanctuary like a theater in Washington. And we'll do it every Saturday night. 230 00:25:50,640 --> 00:26:04,640 Fantastic. It's got great reviews. You'll see some of the testimonials on that. The comeback show.com site. So we're going to do that sort of one thing we're launching some television programming. 231 00:26:04,640 --> 00:26:15,640 You can also see us now every Monday night, my wife and I do a marriage relationship show. Monday nights and not a clock on Facebook live Instagram live Twitter live LinkedIn live. 232 00:26:15,640 --> 00:26:32,640 If you follow us on age jolly marriage.com age jolly marriage.com, you can sign up. You can age jolly marriage or Facebook age jolly marriage Twitter age jolly marriage in Instagram and will a jolly LinkedIn live and tune in every Monday night for our marriage show. 233 00:26:32,640 --> 00:26:47,640 So when we talk about the letters and the issues that are breaking up relationships and how to fix them. And so we got the TV, we got radio expanding to more radio station I just signed with Walmart to do Walmart radio in their stores. 234 00:26:47,640 --> 00:26:57,640 We've got the one man show. We've got new music that's being released to get the music power book.com. All of this is at when with Willie. 235 00:26:57,640 --> 00:27:12,640 I will book that calm. And so we got a lot of things going on in the marketplace that the pandemic gave me the time to focus on, on not just traveling so much, but more importantly, using that time to create more. 236 00:27:12,640 --> 00:27:23,640 And so we've got more, more exciting music and television radio. I got two new books coming out this year. One book is called riches good wealthy is better. 237 00:27:23,640 --> 00:27:36,640 And it's a fantastic book. And it's a book that every house is going to me. The other book is the new theology of achievement. That's a, I guess I got three books and the last one is the ABCs of a team. 238 00:27:36,640 --> 00:27:47,640 So that'll be out show. So we got a lot of stuff that you like I used to, I can get more stuff now. So we got a lot of new stuff. So I'm excited about all of it. 239 00:27:47,640 --> 00:27:58,640 I'm going to plug back into all this stuff. It's, and as I said, somebody mentioned less brown, like, really jolly. Not any pop in and I see some of your stuff here and there, but you know, we get so busy. 240 00:27:58,640 --> 00:28:00,640 You need to start following you. 241 00:28:00,640 --> 00:28:07,640 I was able to share with your listeners and hopefully they will take advantage of all the things we have. 242 00:28:07,640 --> 00:28:21,640 There's some free things there on the website on the marriage site and get a free chapter from the marriage book, other free chapters from other books, music motivation inspiration all just to help you grow and go to the next one. 243 00:28:21,640 --> 00:28:38,640 I will share all your contact information, the show notes. I always kind of go try to go back since this is honor my dad and his like to see I was trying to go. Okay, people are like, hadn't been to know your dad, but I always try to go back and like the connection and the connection of how I met you as my dad. 244 00:28:38,640 --> 00:28:40,640 I don't know if you know this actually started the rest in chamber. 245 00:28:40,640 --> 00:28:46,640 And probably when you spoke he may have been there. I mean passed away 10 years ago, but that was a long time ago that you spoke. 246 00:28:46,640 --> 00:28:52,640 And, you know, you think about the whole courage piece and Shanie who got you to speak. 247 00:28:52,640 --> 00:29:01,640 I'm pretty sure if I remember correctly, she had to do a pretty courageous selling job on you because I don't think they paid you what you normally got paid. 248 00:29:01,640 --> 00:29:02,640 That's correct. 249 00:29:02,640 --> 00:29:18,640 And but you came and I'm so grateful because I was able to meet you and then you, you know, would. So went back to my dad through the chamber but then, you know, you graciously did several Mary Kay events for us and I'm so grateful for all those and definitely want to get you plugged in. 250 00:29:18,640 --> 00:29:33,640 So back to your father, the car was a person who understood the power of courage. 251 00:29:33,640 --> 00:29:54,640 He understood the power of legacy. And so what are flawed him for courage action and pouring into his daughter, the seeds of greatness and to see them flower and bloom and blossom. 252 00:29:54,640 --> 00:30:12,640 And she continues to do great things with her life. I'm sure he's very proud of you and very excited for what he pulled into you. And so I want to applaud him for his vision that he was seeing great things years ago. 253 00:30:12,640 --> 00:30:15,640 You know, they say the great ones. 254 00:30:15,640 --> 00:30:26,640 They plant trees and that a piece that take 80 years to grow. And that's what your father did with you, he plant in you the seeds for greatness. 255 00:30:26,640 --> 00:30:34,640 He might not have been able to see he knew he might not be able to see the fullness of the reality of what they've become but he knew he had those seeds. 256 00:30:34,640 --> 00:30:36,640 And he gave you courage. 257 00:30:36,640 --> 00:30:44,640 And he gave you vision. And he gave you leadership skills, and he encouraged you that you would be very fun because you would do. 258 00:30:44,640 --> 00:30:54,640 Thank you. And hopefully I'm honoring his legacy and passing this on and helping and supporting people supporting people to be courageous and do those things and say yes. 259 00:30:54,640 --> 00:30:55,640 Fantastic. 260 00:30:55,640 --> 00:31:00,640 So, I will share all your contact information and show notes thank you again for being my guest. 261 00:31:00,640 --> 00:31:04,640 Your your listeners were a little something that's out of my first book. 262 00:31:04,640 --> 00:31:06,640 Okay. 263 00:31:06,640 --> 00:31:17,640 So, tell your dreams. Whatever it needs. Don't be distracted by less worthy needs. 264 00:31:17,640 --> 00:31:25,640 Tell to it nourishing help it to grow. Oh, your dream deep down deep with dreams well. 265 00:31:25,640 --> 00:31:29,640 Follow your dream. Pursuit with haste. 266 00:31:29,640 --> 00:31:43,640 It's too precious to fleeting to waste. Be faithful to loyal and all the day through the dream that you follow will keep coming true. 267 00:31:43,640 --> 00:31:59,640 And a privilege and a pleasure and freedom and treasure your beyond maybe for me to be on with you as we came on your listeners and your viewers lessons to you all remember for sure folks, your best is yet to come. 268 00:31:59,640 --> 00:32:14,640 And I say why not today. Why, Mr. Jolly.